Androgyne here.
I'm not generally a very materialistic person. Each year I give away about half of my wardrobe to charity, and I'm not overly interested in the acquisition of things in general. I have about maybe five possessions that I would not be able to live without.
However, as I'm trying to get more in touch with my gender and presentation, I find myself increasingly interested in accessorizing, so I've taken to buying and making my own jewelry. being pretty tall , I also spent a lot of time looking for clothing that hides my more masculine frame, and ways to feminize my face such as wearing makeup and glasses.
I feel as though I'm becoming more materialistic since accessorizing is one of the few things I can do to actually modulate my appearance in the ways that I want to right now. I really feel at odds with this. Does anybody else have relatable experiences?
Tl;dr fashioning to escape the feelies
Bumping for insight
>>6619634
It's not wrong to want things, especially when you're working towards self-actualization. Just make sure you're wearing your clothes and that they don't wear you.
>>6620146
OP here. Yeah, it's definitely important not to conflate my appearance with my identity. But I guess it's not a bad thing if it makes me feel strong and sexy and good.