I recently became engaged at the age of twenty-three, but I do not want to make any avoidable mistakes. This is my first relationship, although we have been friends for many years. Only about a year ago have we discovered we loved each other.
Does anyone have any advice? Please?
I am really terrified because I have no idea what the heck to do about this.
P.S. Also, it would be nice just talk to anyone in general. I am in rural Kansas, & there is nobody to communicate with about lgbt issues without fear of being attacked. Thank you all!
Honestly this is a really bad idea. Your first ever relationship and you've been going out for just a year? Why are you rushing into marriage? I mean, the idea of marriage is that you'll spend your whole lives together, so why not wait a few years to see how it works out - if you're planning to be together for life, what's a few years? Divorces are costly so you need to make sure you'll be good together.
Please tell me you are at least already cohabiting. Do not marry someone without living with them first.
Oh, so "kill yourself".
Thank you for telling me about that.
Anyways, I was wondering if anyone here had any advice or anything about gay marriage in an anti-gay area. It would be really helpful.
It may sound weird, but I have known them since I was 14 years old. He has lived with me on many occasions as a roommate. We have been living together for a year & a half as an actual couple, though, & are doing so currently.
Thank you for your concern. I know it sounds brash, but we have a much deeper history than just some attractive person. My parents divorced after six months when they were 20, so I know all about taking things slow, haha!
Traditionally you ask for homewares at a wedding, but everyone lives with their partner before they get married so that's kinda a non-starter
Will family be cool with this? If not, there's nothing wrong with just having a small wedding they're not invited to. You don't have to invite them if you know they're going to cause a scene or ruin your big day in some manner
Oh, it will definitely be a small wedding. My friend registered as a reverend online to officiate or something, & we are going to have pancakes instead of wedding cake.
My family already disowned me awhile ago, but my fiance's still has no idea, which is an issue.
Didn't think about wedding gifts. . . My primary goal is to just get everyone there & skip to the snacks & stuff as soon as possible. I didn't consider the whole gift thing, though. That would be awesome. Thank you!
What even am I?
I am mistaken to be so fortunate as this.
I am the sword.
I am the cup.
I am okay.
I do not know why I am here.
I am not beautiful.
I am the blood under your nails.
You may be the East,
Yet I am the West.
Your pettiness may rise to you,
But it will fall to me.
>only dating for a year
>living in rural Kansas
and you want to fucking marry?
At least wait until you're 30 or something and out of that hellhole.
Go live in a place where gay marriage is real and not something 99% of the population vehemently opposes.
You're making a big mistake getting engaged. You need to get used to being with another person before getting married. I know new love is intoxicating but marriage is a huge commitment. I recommend living together a while first before you tie the knot, at least a year. That way you'll know a bit better what your domestic dynamic is.
To be more positive, it's great that you found someone you love. Cherish them, and protect them. It's a beautiful thing. Cheers.
Thank you for your concern, but as I have said, I have known my love for almost a decade now. Thought it may have been during the idiocy of youth, & though we may be still within that same stupor, I believe we will succeed. I would like to know what sorts of inevitable trials we will face ahead & how to defeat them.
>My family already disowned me awhile ago, but my fiance's still has no idea, which is an issue.
Oh dude you really need to be able to talk about stuff like this with your fiancé! Good communication is air, sun, and water to a relationship.
I agree, but he doesn't respond when I bring up the subject.
He proposed to me, by the way. It wasn't my idea. I said 'Yes.' though, & I do not want to break his heart.
We communicate about pretty much everything else that isn't about his family.
I really don't know how to express to you that I am being completely honest. . . What would even be funny about this? I am just actually seeing if anyone else who has had any experience with this sort of thing can share stuff.
I am currently asking a few different people about this (offline & on), & the unmediated vacuum of 4chan seemed like an interesting contributor.
I am not being ironic. I am absolutely sincere about my love.