I said, "Is there anything I could do that would make you disappointed me in to the point where you wouldn't forgive me?" And my mom said, "Oh my god, you're a queer" and then cried and took a shot of whiskey.
She's cool with it now but at the time it was pretty typical southern united states coming-out fare.
She called me a demon and a dyke and threw holy water at me and also called me a slut and then said I was raped so that's why I hate men and then she started chanting in Latin but eh who gives a shit, she's a weird woman.
Introduced gf to family as a friend. They liked her than "lol what if we were gay" happened and it turned out kinda ok. Still get some shit but it's not the worst.
Gfs family is horrible about it. Don't talk much to her anymore.
Decided I needed to tell my parents I'm bisexual, and I may end up in the paper.
>a: Hi mom, i need to warn you that I may end up in the paper.
>m: Oh, why?
>a: well, you see, I'm the primary spokes person the the local bi-group.
>m: Cool, did you know I'm bi too?
We ended up having a long talk on human sexuality the likes of which only two PhDs in psych could manage to have.
>coming out to family
Should I? I'm not dating anyone and my mom and I don't have a particularly great relationship. I doubt she would be upset,but I'm not in the habit of revealing much of anything about my life to her.
I am out to friends though, and came out to most of them drunk at a party
Came out to my parents when I was thirteen. I was expecting my dad to be homophobic and take it poorly. He sort of looked like he had been run over by a truck, but then the next day he awkwardly brought me this gay support literature and asked if I needed anything, so that ended up being a pretty positive thing. He was chill about it after that.
My mom was always constantly harping on about how accepting she was of gay people, so I thought she would be chill. She was not chill. She insisted I wasn't gay, then later insisted I couldn't be gay if I was a virgin, then still later told me I "didn't need to decide this now." 13 years later, I would not be surprised if she still doesn't think I'm actually gay.
>12 and preciocious
>one night I was talking to my little sister
>me: "I like girls like you like boys"
>her: "okay" and went to sleep
>has never been an issue with her
>start going out with girls at 13
>start having sex at 13
>all my friends have always known I'm gay
>never came out to my family because homophobes and wanted for me to get married soon
>only ever had ONS
>came out to one of my cousins at 21
>he was like "whaaaa... that explains a lot of things" and now we always talk about T&A
All in all not bad.
>Be me 14
>Since I was a child I have been attracted to men and women and when I was 9 I said I see my future with a man or a woman
>I'm a female
>Mum is Jehovah's Witness
>She confused why I had so many trans friends
>Mum says 'you don't need to think that much'
>I went to mum shaking saying
>'Anon what is it' she frustrated
>'Mum... I'm.. bi and demi'
>It was the time I was questioning my sexuality a lot and nowadays I think Demisexuality is bullshit
>'What the fuck is Bi'
>'I like men and women'
>Never talked about it again
I'm bi yet I am not so interested about sex so I really don't care what's between your legs, all I care about is the personality.
>being such a newfag that you're surprised by people posting whatever they want wherever they want
All the threads on this board are constantly visited by trolls, is it really surprising to you that this isn't a safe space with strict posting rules to ensure only the people and posts you like are allowed?
Maybe go start a reddit thread if you're not mature enough to ignore the stuff you don't like on 4chan instead of shitting up the thread more with whining.
I still in the closet
Im thinking about coming out but im so afraid
My mom is supportive but i dont know about my dad
lol kinda had a reverse of that in a way
>when I came out it was a shock
>oldest brother in and out of jail
>find out he does gay shit in there
>it's not like he's a weak dude getting raped
>he generally runs prison shit so he has to want this
>say "oh hah I'm not the only gay one"
>everyone is all "no it doesn't mean he's gay it's just prison"
>lol whatever I'm still gonna shit on him over this
>cause he's an asshole
>and weirdly the most homophobic of a pretty apathetic family
I have a bro dad to drink beer with but I'll never get why anyone would want to talk about anything even remotely sexual with parents.
Hell I didn't come out until gf. Otherwise fuck that talking about sex shit with parents. I don't get why you'd even come out as bi unless you had a samesex relationship going on.
i've told this story before but whatever
>17 year old socially awkward lesbian
>start working with lots of young adults
>cool for the most part, still closeted tho
>few months in 10/10 domincan girl starts working there
>immediate attraction to her
>didn't even learn her name for 2 weeks
>stress for weeks about school, coming out, court, home, and now this girl
>confide in closested friend
>he nudges us together one day
>have great 2 hour convo
>literally just missing food to call it a date
>kinda think she's into me but too scared to be direct
>telling lame story one day
>"anon," she interrupts "are you gay?"
>shake into liquid form
>do not give affirmation
>bro pulls me to the side
>"she likes you you idiot"
>come out to my family
>they "already knew"
Parents didn't blame themselves but I've heard asshole aunts/uncles blame my dad.
If a daughter comes out gay or stripper the blame is usually daddy issues. If a son comes out gay or just autistic with women it's mom's fault for coddling him. Blame freud.
Parents can't even influence their gay kids into being straight. Idk why it'd be easier the other way around.
I'm sure a persistent mom or dad could force it to an extent somehow but after puberty shit just isn't happening. Like my sister is trying her damnedest to keep her son from going after girls but fuck if that's happening. Lil dude might be a dork and sure she put him in the hardest classes, all boy school, hell gave him dance lessons and had him in drama (not to be gay but it's some p gay shit imo for a boy). Dude is still after girls like nothing, he's just sly about it.
I still like to tease my mom and dad that they made me gay cause they had me in sports and never let me talk to boys.
I think if it were up to most parents they try to influence their kids into being asexual until adulthood. And given all those pregnant at 15 tv shows it's not working so well.
>I think if it were up to most parents they try to influence their kids into being asexual until adulthood. And given all those pregnant at 15 tv shows it's not working so well.
Definitely. That's why I don't understand when people come out as asexual or demisexual and say they're super oppressed. That's what every parents would want.
I guess cause after adulthood parents want grandbabies.
Not mine personally. My mom and dad are sick of grandbaby drama. Being a lesbian is actually a "oh thank god no more grandchildren". I even talk about adopting and mom is just like "ugh adopt one of your nephews or the other too damn many babies. too many babies in this family. don't bring in another".
My grandma mentioned she'd be sad cause I didn't want to have a baby. But then it was like "grandma, you just got another great grandbaby like a month ago and another one on the way. you have like 50+ great grandchildren and even some great great grand children" and then she just showed me pics of all those brats.
The only real pressure I have is one of my brothers. He thinks I'd have the cutest babies cause older sister has adorable babies (like seriously cherub looking little dudes with dimples and curly hair and prettiest babies awards) and we look so alike. He also loves messing with me, we're close and I like messing with his kids and he's mad I'm not having kids for him to mess with.
I tell him I'm gonna adopt someday and he just wants me to hurry up with it and not adopt an ugly kid.
But everyone else in the family is about worn out with babies. I'm the youngest cousin and all the older ones are just popping them out right now like it's their american duty.
>oldest nephew (only year younger than me) has a baby
>mom is like "great now you or oldest niece are gonna get pregnant"
>"cause babies always happen all at once, one gets pregnant than everyone does"
>lol nah I'm super gay
>niece is like "I hate kids I'm getting that semi-perma-no-babies band thing"
>years pass and nephew still only one with kid
>mom weirdly proud of us for not getting pregnant still
This lesbian shit is some great bc.
Told my mom I was gay at 15
She was really cool with it, told me I could love anyone I wanted, that I shouldn't feel bad about it, that she'll support me anyway
She had the most awesome reaction any parent could have and I love her so much
Didn't tell my dad, he's extremely homophobic, when I discovered I was gay I was living with him and I recall him saying several times that "if I was a dyke, he'd throw me out in the street right away"
And lately he's been having doubts about me lately but he probably changed his mine since that time, I feel like he'd be ok with it now
>parents actually want to turn their son/daughter gay.
Your sister is fucked. Why do people do this shit. It's almost as bad as trying to turn your gay son/daughter straight except it's the liberal equivalent. Maybe your sister just wanted a daughter.
>I think if it were up to most parents they try to influence their kids into being asexual until adulthood. And given all those pregnant at 15 tv shows it's not working so well.
Just say no sex education failed. Teen pregnancy rates are the proof. States that implemented it had their teen pregnancy rates jump. The most effective method is to teach them anything and everything they want to know when they are curious. Doing that leads to the latest first sexual encounter. Basically we are wired to fuck to perpetuate the species.
lol no I mean she wanted to have her son asexual. Or really not be asexual but just act that way. Basically she doesn't want her son to be girl crazy but you can't change that shit.
It's pretty common mothers don't want their precious baby boys to be banging sluts left and right. At least that's how I notice my mother is despite my brothers banging sluts left and right.
And on the flip side fathers like their daughters to stay pure little virgins.
I might be egging it on. I tease her all the time that her son is too handsome and secretly a trouble maker and is gonna get a dozen girls pregnant before graduating.
I'm not out to my family, because it just never seemed necessary to come out. And I know they won't mind. I mean, it's fucking 2015, and I live in Scandinavia, so it's no big deal.
But coming out just seems awkward as fuck. Like, what am I even supposed to say? I've always been bad at sharing this kind of stuff with my parents.
But I want to marry my gf, so I kind of have to just grit my teeth and do it, I guess.
I realized I was gay at around 12 or 13, but didn't come out to anyone until 14. I came out to my friends first (most of whom were lgbt already anyway) and that went fine, then I came out to my younger brother and he was cool about it. I'm 22 now and I still haven't come out to my dad yet because we have a really weird/strained relationship, even though I think he's known a while.
I've "come out" to my mom 3 times. The first time was when I was 14 and her response was basically "well the best thing I can hope for you is that this is just a phase and that you grow out of it when you meet the right man." Tried again at 16 and she gave me a list of reasons I was wrong about my sexuality. The last time I brought it up was at 19 and her literal response, word for word was "...nah... I don't think so."
Since then I sort of gave up on her and figure she'll either never accept it and we'll awkwardly shuffle around it until she dies, or I'll find the girl I want to marry and she'll be forced to accept it or estrange herself from me. It kinda sucks but I've decided I don't really care that much about it any more.
Never. Stupid stupid idea. My family will never know and it will never be their business.
The pran is to find a gay man who also needs a beard to hide from family members, become best bros with him, get beard married, then profit.
The trickiest part would be finding a LTR with a girl who's okay with this train.
>inb4 grandkids for the mom and dad
easy. Me and gay bro beard go take a 9 month vacation to a gay resort, he can get fucked by whomever, I'll get my share of the ladies and we'll come back with an adopted kid that matches one of our ethnicities (i'm asian so that's easymode)
My parents will never know.
>The pran is to find a gay man who also needs a beard to hide from family members, become best bros with him, get beard married, then profit.
Shit you not I was ridiculously close to doing this. Best bud from hs is gay, been bff for decade now, and his family is jehovah and crazy against gays.
Plus everyone already thought we dated and it helped him a lot in high school when his sister was right fucking there on his ass all the time.
But then he just said fuck it. Fuck his family. Constantly asking him for money and hitting him up for shit and they can't even handle a little gay shit?
Like damn that happened not even a year ago that he just came out to his family. His mother cried. She loved me. Like we shared recipes and me and the sister went shopping sometimes and they just thought I was adorable. Part of it was also them thinking that even if I wasn't jw at least I was christian (lel) and saved him from being gay so it was fine. I think they actually thought we had married while we were away from home.
My family was surprisingly ok. Mom hated it at first. Dad gave me a talking to about it and trying to get me to figure out how to be straight but then I kinda ended up crying a bit and he just dropped it and now it's fine.
I think what helped me is I probably am my dads favorite. Even though he's always been strict. If it weren't for him I would have had a harder time of it.
Mom was really pissed at gay bff for lying, for a bit thought he'd corrupted me to being gay. Otherwise they didn't care as much about him.
It really has gotten a lot better with them on it. Occasionally things are shitty and in any fight it's the first ammunition but could be worse.
>Had a gf that liked to brag
>Bragged about 'us'
>Small town, small class, eventually it spread.
>Dad didn't give a fuck, mom thought it meant I didn't want children, was sad.
>Told her I do, we good
Pretty simple, kinda nice I didn't have to build up the nerve on my own.
I went on a date with a nice police lady tonight.
She is older than me, like 9 years older which is kind of a lot I suppose.
Hope she liked me.
Y'all know cops have a statistically elevated risk of committing domestic violence, right?
Me, age 11.
>Mom, if you had to choose one, what would you rather I be, gay or a democrat?
>...I'd still love you if you were gay.
Me too. But mine were divorced, and blamed each other with different canards. Mom blamed absent father for being absent. Dad blamed Mom for being too nurturing.
It's become one of my most used words when parsing out the weird things my super-conservative parents believe. And until now I didn't even know it had something to do with ducks, which is awesome, thanks anon.
What is terrifying about relationships? I never understood people who think like this. I've only been in three relationships, two being long terms, and despite 2/3 of shitty exes having a girlfriend always felt great to me. Especially when you're actually in love, in which case you're constantly riding a cloud.
Yeah, have you ever fallen Off said cloud?
and then have the other party obsessed with you, then have that can do personality that you are still dating despite all the things she did to you?
ERG! I'm a girl and all, but, girls be crazy.
and not in a PTSD kind of way, the scary stalking your ass kind of way.
I'm not afraid of rejection. There are a million and one girls out there to pick from. One is not going to hurt me. Hell I can have a bunch reject me. it wouldn't bother me. I think I have enough to quench my thirst for what ever. Its the Relationship part that actually genuinely freaks me the fuck out.
>hey mom I'm a gay tranny
>"we're gonna get you a blood test, it's obviously something wrong with your hormone levels that's making you think this"
>get blood test, everything is normal
>"see mom, I'm just a perfectly healthy 16 year old tranny"
>"why do you want to change who you are on the outside now that you know who you are on the inside? there are white people who feel black but they don't change themselves."
>"That's not how it works"
>"so when you say you're a gay tranny do you mean a lesbian?"
>"but that doesn't make any sense"
pretty standard stuff
Among other things, I'm terrified of the other person loving me more than I love them. I don't know how to deal with that even in platonic relationships. I'd rather be alone forever than break people's hearts over and over.
Oh yes I have, my ex was actually insane. Took me a long time to overcome the trauma (I'll spare you the details, she was horrible to me) but I think I'm finally there today. Mostly because my current gf is an angel and has always been very patient with me.
I still have a voice in the back of my head telling me that things could turn to shit again, but at least my current girl is sane and doesn't make me feel like she'll come back home on drugs someday and tell me she murdered someone. Anyway.
I've never been rejected and I don't understand lesbians who experience that. I understand for men, because they're retarded and feel entitled, but with women? You just need to step your game up, work on your confidence and on your seduction skills. Because when you managed to seduce a girl, when a girl is attracted to you, it's pretty damn obvious. You just know, and when you do you obviously won't get rejected
LesBro, after like the third Ex that was not willing to let go with out a fight. I was done.
I cant do it. I really cant.
How is this a thing?? What, inthe Fuck.
I love people way more than they could ever love me. I don't trip about it. Please explain how this is a scary thing
I'm not afraid of that. I've had people like that in my life and it makes you feel shitty, but once you're distanced from them you can heal. The guilt from being the one with less love doesn't seem to ever go away and it keeps me up at night.
uhh, how so?
if you want people to fall in love with you they have to learn to fall in love with ALL of you first, and they need to know that if they don't love the ugly parts then they cant have the rest of you.
All of you is what makes you. and to be totally honest is the best way to weed out those who cant hang.
Why is there no nationalist lesbians? I know this sounds like quite the silly question, but I've met quite a few gay and bi nationalists, hell, even a couple of trans, but never a lesbian and I was just wondering if there's a reason for it.
Sorry if I did any mistakes, english is not my first language
>tfw shaving beard (not because I'm a tranny but macropolycistic ovary syndrome)
>tfw voice training (not because I'm a tranny but vocal nodules)
>tfw genital surgery (not because I'm a tranny but androgen insensitivity syndrome)
>tfw 6'5" (not because I'm a tranny but marfan)
>tfw balding (not because I'm a tranny but alopecia areata)
>tfw xy chromosome (not because I'm a tranny but intersex)
Lesgen has so many medical problems.
>Don't forget those who have mental issues.
That's not just lesgen. That's basically everyone in a developed country.
>tfw depressed bipolar OCD ADHD autistic narcissistic multiple-personality schizophrenic germaphobe.
I don't know. Spiro and estradiol are banned but that's mainly because of trannies wanting to compete in our category (see Fallon Fox in MMA, I despise that turd).
AFAIK it's banned for women too. Some straight female athletes might be on the pill for contraception or spiro because of PCOS, so basically that's fucking dumb. It's not like pumping ourselves with testosterone to gain mass and power.
These days men are encouraged to beat up women. Just look at their violent video games like Streets and Combat. Violence against women is being sold as entertainment and no one is saying anything about it.
I'm an A cup almost B and my biggest fear is growing more tits. I love >C cups on other girls but I wouldn't be able to stand them of myself. I wish I was AA perflat (AAA would be too much).
>filing and than painting nails
>pretty simple color, short and rounded barely longer than pic related
>ugly tumblr "queer" chick saying shit about how to tell another queer girl by her nails
>points out me as a negative
>friends laugh cause she doesn't know how gay I've been for the longest
>fuck you bitch you wish you could take this gel nude polished finger up your ass
I fucking hate when simple shit I do that's even moderately girly is seen as proof I'm straight. I don't even think I'm super femme compared to straight girls. I don't wear make up much, can't do shit in heels, and while I'm ok with a dress or skirt it's not my main thing.
I'm curious, how does someone who likes big tits feel about implants(that aren't shit)? I'm genuinely considering saving up for it..
I'm so mad members in my family are given C cups or bigger while I'm barely bigger than an A cup. I'm not even a skinny skellington.
>tfw Ill never be Olga buzova stylin'
She's not gay or anything but she's always on point
Wasn't gonna touch her fat disgusting ass.
Is it weird that I find gross fat lesbians hitting on me to be worse than straight dudes? Cause at least with most dudes I can say lesbian and that's that. Some guys are shitty about it sure but they give up easier. Fat lesbians it's like they think either I'm totally not really gay cause I don't wanna be with them or they think they can change my mind somehow.
>dancing with gaybro at club
>cause club is basically kinda dead
>and we both high af
>fat chick comes up grinding on me
>make disgusted face
>she gets bitchy saying she's sick of straight girls faghaging around gay clubs
>confused for a sec cause 'lol wut straight girl it's just me here rn' and high
>gaybro defends me saying I'm a lesbian but have standards
>awe ty gaybro
>she still argues loudly but bartender watching just tells her to chill
>now wanna fuck some qt to prove her wrong
>no fucking qts
>club stays dead
32J reporting in. I really love my boobs, but it definitely wasn't always that way. I used to wear horrifically ill fitting bras because I could only find things that sorta-fit at Lane Bryant, which gave me all sorts of complexes. I still have a weird lil bump at the base of my neck from years of stress on my shoulders, plus the hunched shoulders/looking at the ground posture I had all through high school.
I lost a ton of weight and now I'm happier, but jesus- finding anything above a G cup in a brick and mortar store is impossible. Consider your budget before breast implants, your bras are gonna be more expensive, and since they're supporting more weight they need to be properly fitted and cared for.
With great power comes great responsibility.
>Consider your budget before breast implants, your bras are gonna be more expensive, and since they're supporting more weight they need to be properly fitted and cared for.
I'm aware, I know surprisingly a lot about how it's like to have huge titties even though I don't have much myself.
If I decide on getting implants I'm definitely going to start doing back exercises to strengthen it in advance, make sure to keep my good posture, research where to get my bras and get some convenient way to get frequent back massages.
Hopefully then I can find a qt GF.
Well I don't even know how to meet girls who aren't straight, but getting implants would be for my own self image which probably would help me become more outgoing.
Though I'm considering alternative routes to get titty growth, massages have actually helped some for me, but I'm considering even going as far as taking estrogen or inducing lactation. I'd just much rather have soft natural ones over fake ones. I just hope doing something will trigger the magical titty gene my family seems to have.
How many brothers and sisters do you have?
I only have one brother. He already has a daughter and is planning on having one or two more children in the future. I don't want any kids, but my parents, especially my mom keeps pestering me to get married and have children. It's really annoying.
I have 3 brothers and one sister. But they each have 2 to 4 kids. All together I have 12 nephews and nieces and 1 grandniece or whatever you call a nephews daughter.
I'm also the youngest by about 15 years so I'm closer in age to my nephews than my siblings. Mom thought being on bc for more than a decade made her infertile but hah fuck that shit here I am.
So my parents already ran through their grandbaby craze. They're done with it.
Plus all this fuck up baby mama drama and cps got involved once cause one bro just had to fall in love and make a babie with a druggie. For a while I thought I was actually gonna get custody of a nephew and that shit terrified me since I was maybe just 21. I almost did it willingly for my niece since she was already older and didn't want her going into foster but she got around it.
>still crushing on my boss's daughter because she's fucking perfect
>know I don't have any chance but still just want to talk to her
>last weekend, at my company's Christmas party
>think that this is it, my chance to get to know her better
>get shitfaced because free, unlimited booze
>don't remember anything I've said to her during the evening
>wake up in a fucking drunk tank in the police station the next morning
I got to tell her about my morning, so that's something, right?
Try being a 24 year old forever single woman.
Relationships and sex seem fucking scary when you know pretty much anyone else your age has had some experience and you're the odd one out.
My brother and his wife have stated if anything should happen to them, I am to get custody of my niece. I wouldn't mind. The kid looks just like me, it's kind of unsettling. I've compared her to my baby pictures and the similarities are striking.
In a way, you are lucky to have so many nephews and nieces. You're family genes are beyond preserved. The pressure for you to contribute is not that great. My family's hope rest on my brother and his kids.
Provided that's a FtM, you're gay/lesbian if pre-transition, and straight post transition I guess. Basically the gender you consider yourself to be, and actively work on being is what decides whether you can say you're gay or straight, it'd be silly to look and act like a girl and say you're straight when you like girls exclusively, and it'd be silly to say you're lesbian when you look and act like a guy.
Awe I wish just one of my nephews or nieces looked like me. Not a damn one. Apparently I'm the odd one out for looking the most like my dad.
Mom says if any one dies I get custody of whatever kid before her cause fuck if she's raising kids anymore.
But yeah these genes are def living on. Also fuckton of cousins popping out babies. I'm the youngest. All I gotta do is not get a heroin habit and I'm good. Everyone else already fucked up somewhere somehow someway so the pressure is off. Even being gay isn't the worst thing compared to that pedophile cousin. Like oh is there gonna be drama if I bring home a black lesbian? Maybe but remember that time cousin whatever by that bipolor alcoholic black dominican chick that called mom a bitch? Shit was worse.
I'll never get the gene preservation pressure. Why care about putting out a bloodline? This isn't some game of thrones shit.
Can the ladies, or for that matter the gentlemen too, of lesgen please help me understand something.
Why are lesbians such good friends?
I'm a gay guy that typically does not enjoy the company of other gay men. With the exception of a handful of gay nerdy fellows I'm friends with. Most of the gay men I know are vain, and share no common interests with me beyond a mutual appreciation for dicks.
As far as my preference for friendships go it's: 1. lesbians, 2. straight men, 3. bisexuals, 4. trans people, 5. gay men, 6. straight women.
I can't quite put my finger on it, but lesbians are just so much more comfortable to be around, and I really enjoy developing platonic friendships with lesbians.
Whenever I have my choice for how to spend a casual night out I prefer to do it hanging around a laid back lesbian bar just chatting or playing pool in the calming company of lesbians.
I think my preference for lesbian friends might be a combination of: the similar life experiences queer people share, the simplicity a friendly relationship has when there's zero sexual tension, the confident demeanor common for an out lesbian, and for whatever reason lesbians just seem smarter than most people.
did you grow up JW too because lemme tell you, that shit messed me up psychologically and I'm still deprogramming myself from it 7 years later
it's hard out here for a lesbian cult survivor
>Why are lesbians such good friends?
Sounds like personal preference + confirmation bias. I've known lesbians that were cool and lesbians that were kind of annoying. My ex's friends were mostly gay men. My friends are a mix of gay and straight women. Having a friendship with zero sexual tension is really nice, though.
I'm friends with a lot of gay guys. They're pretty cool.
The thing with straight girls is that the majority of times, even if unconsciously, treat gay dudes like an accessory. If I was a man I'd feel pretty uncomfortable.
Alsi it's a myth that lesbians and gay males can't get along. I do it just fine.
It seems like you have lucked out and found some cool lesbros. Not all lesbians are bro tier.
My best friend is a straight guy. We have similar interests and hobbies, plus we are in the same profession. We like to hangout on weekends to play video games and talk about girls. I can't form that kind of friendship with other lesbians or straight women. I would end up falling for them and ruining the friendship.
Idk but I know I make friends with gay dudes easy. Best friend in high school ended up a gay dude (before I even knew he was gay or he knew I was). College same. Job same.
I don't even seek this shit out. It just happens.
Wish I could make straight girl friends as easy. Want more straight girl friends.
Also prob has to do with all my gay bro friends are the buff good looking sort.
So they prob have a hard time making gay man friends platonic and I notice they get very uncomfortable when straight girls hit on them. I know one became my friend at a gym purely cause we talked a bit and I wasn't hitting on him so he thought I was the coolest chick and I thought he seemed like a cool dude to hang with cause he didn't stare at my ass.
How are you the odd one out? Chances are that if you have sex with an experienced lesbian, then she is less likely to hurt you in bed. I think you're lucky. You still have the opportunity to know what love feels like.
trans girl here, my preferences are
1. gay or straight FtMs
4. straight men
5. gay men
6. straight women
FtMs are like the best thing on the planet, sometimes butch, sometimes fem, get where you're coming from, treat me like a little sister, they're literally perfect
Why do some people think it's cute when you say you wanna help her carry them and stuff, be her bra, etc, my really busty friend gets that shit a lot from guys and it's just cringey.
Besides I doubt you could do much to help her carry them, unless you become a master at massages to help relieve back pain or to stop it from building up. Which is nice, but that's not really being her bra. :v
Nah my mum is JW but I'm not. It's noting like she is forcing me to read bible and stuff. Even though I was raised in a family where Bible was really like close thing to me (Even after those years I still remember most of the things that happened in Bible), I am not JW. I don't go to churches or anything. Yeah I know bible pretty well but that's it.
I have no idea how to masturbate. I didn't really care until I realized that if I can't get myself off there's no way in hell I'm going to be able to get someone else off. I'm so scared to pursue girls for fear of looking like a dumbass in bed. Someone give me a basic overview of what you gotta do, I'm so clueless.
>stick hands down pants
>fiddle around a while
>flick the bean caress the bean, diddle the bean
It's not like I haven't tried, I just honestly have no clue where to start. No part of masturbation inspires me to keep going, I can't even begin to understand the allure of it.
I never dated a police officer, but I went out with a corrections officer a few times. I got arrested for DWI and she was very nice to me when I went in. Evidently she had a system going where she would be particularly nice to the femmes that were locked up (she was somewhere between tomboy and stem). We went out a few times, and went back to her place a few times too.
She was terminated eventually once the jail administration figured out she was using the jail as her personal dating service.
I don't think I could live without masturbation. Even when I'm with someone or having sex regularly, I still enjoy it.
>tfw I come home from a long day at work, get comfy and jill myself off for a while
If you're masturbating for the sake of masturbating you're missing the point.
If you're not just getting horny then why bother masturbating? Masturbation is, for me, just a way to get rid of those thoughts when I'm trying to do something else. Got a magic wand on stand by by the bed.
If you need help look into porn or some other way of getting yourself turned on.
Porn and lewd scenarios. Hot things I did in the past and hot things I wanna do in the future.
I have a gf and I still find myself thinking of her when I masturbate primarily. Just because she makes great sounds and has the prettiest pussy.
Fantasies and memories mostly.
Sometimes I watch porn but often I just have scenes in my head play out that I go to. I'd rather just have the real thing desu but no Japanese girl wants to be my love slave :(
No way these are DDs... more like Fs
When your body is kinda a mix of both sexes basically
>tfw actually shaving beard, not because I'm a tranny but drug side effects
Can't you get endometrial ablation?
Or do doctors hate doing that stuff like hysto? I wanted to suggest it to my gyn actually but I've no clue
I don't really think about anything, I just stare at porn and stuff
I sometimes masturbate to my own fantasies but they're all different, I guess I think about butts a lot though
The thing is I don't really get any pleasure from masturbation.
I don't really know what I'm missing, so it's not too bad. I know it's supposed to be great, but since I haven't personally experienced it, I'm not suffering in the absence of orgasms.
Not often, but I do.
It's nice but it doesn't make me feel anything haha
Shower heads hurt a little. I've had the most amount of success in masturbation with a bathtub faucet (though after a certain point it seems to be going nowhere), but that's not gonna help me with other ladies!
I fantasize, mostly. I feel like porn doesn't do too much for me unless I see porn unintentionally. If I'm actively looking for stuff to use it seems to lose it's charm.
I just wanna be good in bed ¯|_(ツ)_/¯
And have an orgasm too, that'd be nice. You do definitely have a point though. I could easily live my life without masturbation, but I'm really anxious about sex once it does come up.
>desu but no Japanese girl wants to be my love slave :(
I always love when I'm reminded that lesbians are as gross as straight males.
Be careful, anon. I ruined some of the sensitivity on my clit with shower heads. Still couldn't stop doing it every now and then though. The best orgasms I've ever head were with that damn shower head.
>>tfw actually shaving beard, not because I'm a tranny but drug side effects
None of us are, hon. We are all real grills here. Real grills with beards, low voices, giant hands, xy chromosomes, no female hormones and intersex conditions.
Me and my soul patch
With mom: walked into the kitchen immediately after coming home from class, said "hey mom, I read an article about a woman who realized she was a lesbian at age 30 after getting engaged to a man. That sounded like the kind of fucked up thing that could happen to me if I'm not honest with myself, and since I deserve better than that at age 30, just letting you know I'm probably gay."
With dad: talking about how I was excited for the pride parade in a few days with my friend. He asks me why I even care since my friend isn't gay. I say "because I'm part of that group. The parade is for people like me."
Why my therapist: (lots of crying) buhuhuhuuu I think I'm gay and I really, really don't want to be! WAAAAAHH
With my best friend: So I know we've talked about how I'm not in love with you back and you're okay with it and, even though I know you won't, I hope you won't take this personally, but... I don't know if I'm able to like guys at all. I think... *waiter comes over to refill our water* *akward silence while he takes his sweet sweet time, I get impatient and decide that idgaf I'll come out to the waiter too* I'm a lesbian.
All in all 7/10, felt like a stupid process.
I went shopping for plaid today bc how else am I going to get girls and a lady stopped me and said that I look like I "care about shoes" and asked me for high heel advice. Felt good that I read femme even when shopping for lesbian lumberjack apparel. Maybe it's the long hair?
Hope everyone's having a good day!
At what age does inexperience in an attractive girl go from being a turn on to a turn off?
I feel like there is a window where the whole being someone's first/corrupting them/they're hard to get/pure angel/whatever aspect of it you find appealing in a hot person becomes a red flag instead.
Friend of mine who loves Rent got me to watch it for the first time.
What a terrible musical
>is labeled as a rock musical, which is funny since the main theme of Rent isn't rock but this generic "let's hold hands and appreciate our precious time" choir song.
>Fucking cheese rock music
>Worst character is Maureen the bislut biscum attention whore. There is no point to having her in the story
>Sort of don't blame Maureen for leaving Joanne who is one boring ass, stuck up dyke
>where are the gay guys? I know Colin is bi but Angel keeps going back and forth between gay guy, drag queen, and transwoman so I'm confused
>"La Vie Bohemie" number starts, it's the 2nd most popular track probably, but holy shit these hippies are annoying as fuck and I keep rolling my eyes at them
>Roger and Mark keep going "We can't sell out to the man! Man!"
>Get offered a new lease for a rent free place by their sorta-pal Benny which Mark tells him to shove off because fuck the man
>Mark pays for their current rent with a corporate job he takes so any point he makes against "fighting the man" is moot and stupid
>cheesy cheesy ending
>all that was missing was tiny tim looking up at the audience going "god bless us everyone!"
why did this stupid musical become so popular
really doesn't matter
there are plenty of thirsty virgin lesbians who will be willing to go down with a inexperienced attractive girl (like me)
all I ask is that they be patient and keep trying to have sex even though our first time will probably be all clumsy and awkward but will hopefully evolve into something fun and hot.
Aww, I'm hoping for the same! :)
I feel like the threshold for "you're STILL a virgin/kissless?!" must be higher for lesbians since it's pretty understandable why that would be the case, and maybe there's less of that in general. Also I think it's pretty uncommon to come across girls who find the idea of wanting a strong emotional bond before having sex to be ludicrous/immature/prudish.
Corrupting a qt NEVER gets old. Why the hell would it?
It's pretty easy to go a long time without any kind of lgbt community around to draw a dating pool from if youre outside big cities and stuff.
So it's not so much a sign of 'how weird she must be'
lesbian general, i'm really sad because i don't know where to meet girls. i'm in northern va/dc area, why is it so hard to find places where i can meet girls at bars and stuff? just feels like there's not many options
Idk about you. But when this musical came out it was the most defiant Anything in the entertainment industry. To say rent is bad is to Taxi is bad.
By all means think your thoughts but those who do not observe the passed are doomed to repeat it.
I love stupid musicals but you gotta understand standards aren't especially high. Songs just gotta be catchy and fun and the plot really isn't that important.
Weird lack of lesbians in plays/musicals though. Lot of bisluts and gay dudes in them in general. Plus hella prostitutes. Few lesbians or none I can think of. Prob more trannies in musicals than lesbians.
Guess cause flammer dudes end up directing/writing while lesbos end up stage managers and tech shit.
The only genre with lesbian characters is porn.
I never thought about how there are are so many gay men but no gay women in musicals. Blehh. Someone write us tf in. I love corny songs too :(
There's Fun Home and... The Color Purple. But yeah there's a dearth of lesbian protagonists in theater
>mom is emotional because she thinks i'm brave or something
>dad wants to know if he can still call stupid people faggots around me (I said sure, he didn't know I'd been on 4chan for years)
>better than expected
I started watching the start of it with my sister
The main characters just seem unreasonable.
The first number is literally them saying they aren't gonna pay last years rent, which they have had a year to come up with. And burning their eviction notices and throwing them on the street. People literally ran for cover as these self righteous a-holes rained fire down on them threw their windows.
It would of been better and succeeded in making a point if the characters were likable and their grievances more sane.
Altho this is just what I remember from when I watched it years ago and the beginning I watched again a few weeks ago
>dad wants to know if he can still call stupid people faggots around me
My oldest brother is like that.
>talking about some gay dude saying fag
>oh-oh I'm sorry anonnette!
All the time.
I tried but they think I'm lying for attention. I think it's because I've never had a gf or slept with a girl or even kissed a girl. But I think once I find a girl with a low enough self esteem to sleep with me they will take me serious
Some of you may remember when I told about my coworker friend showing me her bra without knowing I'm lesbian. I resolved to never tell her.
Tonight we're hanging out more. And she's letting me crash at her place. WE'RE GONNA SLEEP IN THE SAME BED
LESGEN GIVE ME STRENGTH
It wasn't a very long story. I had been getting closer with this coworker, better friends. Hanging out outside of work. I didn't have a girlfriend at the time and never talked about my ex so it never came up.
Since we were getting so close I was thinking about subtly bringing it up. Just so she knows. I already knew she was super straight.
But she pulls the "Look i got a new bra!!!" Thing. She is inviting me to stare at her ample bosom. It was wonderful. I ate it up.
I vowed that she would never know.
And now I'm sleeping next to her tonight. Good Lord.
Both of my parents were really accepting and chill when I came out, but i kind of expected it. Mom's super chill and supportive and my dad is really libertine. He's the kind of person Robert California is based off of.
Various fantasies I have. They're all pretty vanilla compared to some people here. There's this sexy older redhead that goes to the same gym that I do. I'm pretty sure she's straight, but I still fantasize about being with her. Also things like sex outdoors/in public.
>Masturbation is, for me, just a way to get rid of those thoughts when I'm trying to do something else.
This idea is so weird to me, and it's not the first time I've heard it. Why would you want to get rid of those thoughts? I could sit there creaming my pants and thinking about hot girls and their adorable smiles and soft hair and sexy hips all day. If anything, the biggest downside to finally masturbating is that it makes those lovely sexy thoughts stop for a while.
I masturbate because urges, and it also feels fucking amazing. I don't get this get-rid-of-thoughts thing.
>pic so fucking related
I'm 26. In Japan, women over 25 are considered Christmas cakes - expired after Christmas Eve when they traditionally eat cake, because they're expected to marry young. Hence the "cake". It's not really used these days though.
At some point I should post pics because this stats thing has become stale but t b h I have too many recognizable marks.
Any of you grills need advice with whatever illness is plaguing your soulless bodies?
I mostly just masturbate when I'm bored, or out of habit late at night. It's not very often where I actually get urges, and when I do it's at really inconvenient times when I can't do it.
Man, that's so weird to me. Masturbating ain't even fun to me if I'm not all worked up.
Fucking ridiculously hot tbqh, especially this season with all her new character depth and shit. Absolutely primo masturbatory material.
>you will never be in a serious relationship with bobbi morse
>you will never wrap your arms around her ridiculously well-muscled shoulders and kiss her forehead before falling asleep
Lesgen, why can I only really get off when I'm in so much pain I'm crying and then some? I mean like I can get off from just masturbating, but it doesn't even feel like much and never satisfies me.
Is there something wrong with me?
I know, right? I've been losing hella weight and working out and lately I've been all
>I've gotta get strong and hot like Bobbi
I am such a fucking sperglord. But seriously look at her abs. I just want to bury my face in her stomach and never come up for air. I bet she smells fucking amazing.
Most definitely getting on it like that, yeah.
Especially since i turns out the girl Im dating rn has a thing for girls much stronger than her.
She dared me to do some situps "I can do 20-something happily but Ive not been working on it long, you try."
>do 40 off the cuff with proper form, despite not having exercised properly in two years
Gonna build a proper regimen up and then get fit.
You have a very strong fetish, doesnt really seem like much can be wrong with that.
I mean if you can get off without it the youre not broken. But i mean, it wont feel as good as with the fetish cos... well, that's like the whole point of a fetish.
You've just got one that could be dangerous in the long run / if not practiced properly.
>You have a very strong fetish, doesnt really seem like much can be wrong with that.
>I mean if you can get off without it the youre not broken. But i mean, it wont feel as good as with the fetish cos... well, that's like the whole point of a fetish.
>You've just got one that could be dangerous in the long run / if not practiced properly.
Well what I like in terms of fetishes goes a lot deeper down the rabbit hole, I'm just worried that my extreme masochism came from somewhere I'm repressing and have forgotten, my childhood was pretty weird after all.
It's certainly possible, though I dont know how likely it is.
I mean, I've got a whole lot of fetishes, and while my masochistic streak isnt THAT deeply run, it's still there.
And my childhood was 100% normal, no weird shit.
If it really bothers you, you could try talking to a therapist about the possibility that you have repressed childhood shit going on?
>even if she were real she likes men
Then again, she likes scrawny sarcastic english men.
Im a scrawny sarcastic english girl, so that's not TOO far off right?
Not in my fanfiction, she doesn't. That is the glory of a fictional character.
It's actually really funny, if you watch panels and interviews with Adrianne Palicki, some guy almost inevitably goes "So you know you're The Hottest Person, right?" and she's always sort of gracious but also like "HAHA yeah okay put it back in your pants."
I want to pretend it's because she's secretly a lesbian, even though it's obvious it's because she actually just wants to talk about her work instead of her boobs for once.
Oh god season 3 is so good, you don't even KNOW.
I mean, it's got great Bobbi (esp because they finally fucked off with the Hunter thing and gave her a better character arc) but it's also got great writing and plot development and character development and hnnng, so good.
I would wait and marathon it, but tbqh I don't have that much self-control. I love the show way too much.
Euw, no. Kids always have been and always will be a dealbreaker for me. I wouldn't even casually date a woman with kids.
>Im a scrawny sarcastic english girl, so that's not TOO far off right?
Just join a mercenary group for a few years, you'll come back with stubble or a full beard. No one can explain it, happens to special forces too
Well, my 2 years older than me big brother used to hit me when he got angry at i.e. video games, but I was okay with it, rather me than someone else. It was usually just in my arm and such though. And often in general why he hit me in the first place was because I think I was pretty annoying.
Though I have been told he once pushed me down a flight of stairs, and I literally cannot remember it, and I was at an age where I should be able to remember things.
But then there's also that my dad, stepmom and stepdad all have shouted frequently in my childhood for menial things. my step mom was abused herself by alcoholic parents so she took her habits from them, but it wasn't very bad and she was usually nice to me, then my dad just shouted at me and my brother when we were acting like little shits. But me and my brother only visited my dad / step mom only once in a while..
We lived with our mother most of the time and for 10 ish years, step dad as well. He had issues with drinking a lot every evening, he was nice then, but every morning he had horrible hangovers and was incredibly abrasive towards me and my brother, shouting at us for hours for just leaving a dirty plate on the table for example. And if he got pissed off at the morning, he would be angry at us later in the day too.
So I don't know.
W-wat. I'm cis.
You know Freud's bullshit has been debunked for decades, right?
OH MY GOD FINE, you win I'll watch it now jesus.
Honestly I wasnt entirely convinced at first but the show really did grow on me fast.
Agent Carter is great too just because she's brilliant. Not seen Jessica Jones yet but I've heard good things.
Fucking Marvel please calm down.
Much as I love Carter, and much as Jones is apparently good, they aint no Morse.
Ahaha, probably all that military machismo rubbing off.
But I dunno, I wouldnt want my face to be spiky.
Not sure it'd be worth the tradeoff.
Might be worth seeing a therapist then, I mean chances are you're fine, but it does kinda sound like there could be something in there. Not sure what to say honestly anon, sorry.
Nigger I'm on 4chan. In lesgen. What on earth makes you think I'm trans-friendly, let alone special snowflake friendly?
I'm that amerifag sadist you were talking to that one time.
But yeah no, therapy is a really good idea. BDSM relationships are tricky to navigate, and it's really important to have your shit in line, know your boundaries, know what you want and how to communicate it, etc, if you want them to be healthy.
Also 5'11" is so fucking tall I'd climb you like a goddamn tree. Fuck.
4chan's ppl and tumblrites aren't so different
You have been both taught to say "nope" everytime someones pronounces "freud" or some shit, even though on one side, it's all "cis white scum oppressing us, let's kill all men" and on the other side it's like "necrophilia is not that bad come on guys"
It's like you're afraid or some shit, Freud is not going to eat you, he was a nice guy, he liked fags
Nice! My work here is complete.
Yeah, the first half of the first season is a veeery different show. Honestly, I loved it then, too, but I can see how someone could love one and not be entirely sold on the other. Sometime around episode 10 is goes from "Yeah this is okay I guess" to being REALLY FUCKING GOOD really fast.
Yeah, I like Agent Carter too. It's no Agents of SHIELD, though. Accept no substitutes.
The whole MCU is really amazing tbqh. They did really well getting Joss Whedon on board.
Jessica Jones is... well-done but really disturbing. I actually haven't finished it because it was so hard to watch. Like I feel like I need to take a shower after each episode.
Oh I know well and good how to have a healthy BDSM relationship. With my play partner so far, we've yet to trigger any bad memories, but we haven't gone very far in terms of physical abuse yet, as in no blood spilling or something that would cause scars, but I'm pretty sure the event of me being pushed down the stairs was the only bad thing to happen in my childhood, I just can't remember it.
The frequent shouting at me and my brother has made me really uncomfortable whenever people are shouting at eachother or me though, I just want everyone to be happy and be pleased.
Also be my partner pls.
Yeah, but legit, read up on psychology. His theories are really not taken seriously at all anymore and don't hold up to scientific scrutiny.
He's just sort of this weird pseudo-celebrity that laypeople have heard of, so you get a lot of pseudointellectual fags reading a book on his theories and loudly proclaiming everyone around them has an anal fixation or penis envy or whatever. And it's always so obvious you "I dropped out of psych 101!" nerds don't know what you're talking about.
If that masochist anon is going to see a therapist, their therapist will tell them the same shit I'm saying anyway.
>He's just sort of this weird pseudo-celebrity that laypeople have heard of
>that laypeople have heard of
you mean that you've heard of. It's you that don't know what you're talking about
It's exactly like I'm saying, you don't even know what the fuck his work was about yet you feel like you have to say it's bullshit => because you've been taught to/because 'everyone does'
At least I know what I'm talking about when I say I don't agree with the millenial stuff
It's more just that it first season took a little to get going. I did like the dynamic, and it was fun, but then Hydra and the whole implosion of SHIELD and holy shit I got hype. Went and hunted out Winter Soldier so I could see more of that whole thing going on, then went right back into it to watch more of AoS. And then when Bobbi was revealed at first as a Hydra agent I was like "Maaaan the bad guys got best girl, holy shit" and then the reveal came. Good times.
And yeah I've heard exactly that about Jones, too. Like, Kilgrave is an amazing villain because he really gets under the skin.
It sounds great honestly, if unsettling.
He also falsified data to support his theories and got rid of data that didnt.
Fuck Freud and fuck the pseudoscience retards who STILL cling to his shit after all this time.
I hear ya. It still helps to know where you're coming from, though, especially if you're worried about it or think you might be acting on something deeper, yknow?
I've known people in the scene who were acting out on abuse they dealt with as a kid, and if they aren't on top of it that shit can get psychologically ugly pretty fast. You can still do great BDSM if that's the case, but ya gotta get your shit somewhat sorted first for it to be healthy.
Anyway, just my .02. I'm a fan of good therapy.
>Also be my partner pls.
Like. a. tree.
Here you go again "fuck freud" and shit
>He falsified data to support his theories
Theories that you don't even fucking know about, for real
Scientific accused him of falsifying them
Scientifics of our century.
I'm calling bullshit.
I've already talked to my doctor and I've been referred to a therapist, so I'll find out then if something is up.
>especially if you're worried about it or think you might be acting on something deeper, yknow?
I'm not really worried about that for my masochism, however my bad luck with play partners has been causing me to want worse and worse things for myself. I just think it's weird that I'm so masochistic and why it feels so good to be hurt by someone I love.
Though I like you, I think you're interesting, if you ever wanna be friends, I'd love to talk with someone experienced. There is a lot I should learn, even though I already know a lot.
I know, right? The show got SERIOUSLY AMAZING with that plotline and then never slowed back down.
>And then when Bobbi was revealed at first as a Hydra agent I was like "Maaaan the bad guys got best girl, holy shit" and then the reveal came. Good times.
I absolutely love that part, because she goes from this hyper-dommy ice queen beat-you-the-fuck-up badass to this relaxed, personable badass with a twinkle in her eye and a friendly smile. That transition in the blink of an eye just turns my insides to fucking jello. Perfect woman.
>And yeah I've heard exactly that about Jones, too. Like, Kilgrave is an amazing villain because he really gets under the skin.
Yeah, if you can deal with the realistic creepiness of it it's a really well-done show.
I've never had a real relationship with a MILF, but I think I'd be willing to try it. A woman having children doesn't bother me if they're already grown up and moved out. I'd never date a woman my age with children though.
That said, I've had a few MILF playmates/FWBs. I'm kind of hoping to find a new one.
>That transition in the blink of an eye just turns my insides to fucking jello. Perfect woman.
Pretty much yeah. Man I had things to get done today too. Fffff.
Realistic creepiness sounds great honestly, my biggest issue with most of the Marvel shit is that the villains are closer to saturday morning cartoon than they are to actual villainy.
Which isnt really shocking since we're talking comic books here.
Nice. Already on top of shit, then.
You're pretty interesting, too. If you lived around here I'd ask you out for a cup of coffee or something.
In terms of experience that I can offer, it honestly sort of depends what you're looking for. I've almost exclusively practiced BDSM within committed relationships. For me, it's like an intense form of intimacy that can't really be fully experienced or appreciated outside of that emotional connection. There's an element of pure trust there that's absolutely intoxicating.
But I'm also sort of that way about regular sex, too. I don't really do the casual thing.
I've tried the whole play party thing too, of course, but it's not really my style so I haven't done a lot of it. If you're looking for advice on 24/7 lifestyling or play-party hopping I might not be able to give you the best tips. Although I can probably give tips for finding the good dungeons. The really good ones are usually invite-only. Ya gotta know someone who knows someone, that sort of thing.
Nobody wants to debate your dumb ass, lmao.
They SHOULD be paying me. I've gotten multiple coworkers and friends to watch the show. I wear fucking SHIELD paraphernalia to work and will ramble about it to anyone who listens.
Sadly, not on the Marvel Television payroll (yet...), just a really, really big fan.
>Pretty much yeah. Man I had things to get done today too. Fffff.
Yeah I should be getting ready for work but honestly just fuck it all. I got Mockingbird to salivate over.
>Realistic creepiness sounds great honestly, my biggest issue with most of the Marvel shit is that the villains are closer to saturday morning cartoon than they are to actual villainy.
Yeah, you're gonna like Jessica Jones, then. I like the slightly cartoonish villains, juuuust removed enough from reality to be briliant escapism.
Well if you have Skype or something like it, we could perhaps become friends on there.
I don't really want to practice BDSM outside of a committed relationship either, but the compatible people I've met both are engaged with someone, one is with a guy who's really vanilla so he's okay with her having fun with other girls, and one's engaged with a guy who's also her sub, but he doesn't do pet play so I was maybe going to fill that void, I went with the former person to be her play ting once in a while and best friend, though I really want to find a partner, because the way I want things only in reality works out in a committed relationship.
So I just have a girl who likes me a lot who enjoys abusing me every now and then, though for the next month or even longer she's gone and I now have no way to get relief, help.
I kinda despise regular sex, though I'd totally enjoy pleasuring a qt, I don't get anything from it being pleasured myself. But I'd only do this with someone I've been with for quite a while I guess.
I know a lot about the 24/7 life style, so I'm confident how it'd act out, but it's something that can only work in a committed relationship. What I know little about is finding people into the darker stuff, besides the more open ones on fetlife, I'm in works of becoming a member in the local group, they mostly just have frequent casual public meet ups, and occasional parties at private locations for members only, where people get to play, dress kinky and such.
>I wear fucking SHIELD paraphernalia to work
I am entirely intrigued by that this means. Like, a bag with the logo on it, or what?
Though I DO love the Agents logo. It's stylish as fuck, nice and understated.
Yeah, I should've been working. But fuck that noise I guess.
Aand yeah, I dont mind the cartoonish ones, and the MCU so far is doing a pretty okay job of it, but a genuinely creepy bad guy is always fun. Subtle evil can be a lot more menacing and fun than violent evil like Hydra.
So over Thanksgiving break I gave a bislut multiple orgasms,then while she was in a post sex coma, I got on her DS and traded her shiny Lapras and a shiny Nidoran females to myself.
Greatest Team Rocket heist of the year imo.
Wallet with the logo that's made to look like a SHIELD badge. Hat with a SHIELD logo on it. Relevant t-shirts on-and-off. Planning to get some SHIELD logo patches and sew them onto the arms of my sweatshirt. Contemplated a Black-Widow-style SHIELD jacket but I think I'm too butch to pull that off.
I really need a shirt with that alien writing on it, and nothing else.
>It's stylish as fuck, nice and understated.
ISN'T it, though? Fuckin gorgeous minimalistic design.
>Subtle evil can be a lot more menacing and fun than violent evil like Hydra.
Ooohoho, Kilgrave ain't subtle. He's just exactly the kind of evil you'd encounter in our world.
I DO have Skype. I'm a little wary of giving it out on 4chan, though. Anonymity and all that.
>So I just have a girl who likes me a lot who enjoys abusing me every now and then, though for the next month or even longer she's gone and I now have no way to get relief, help.
Haha, you definitely need to hit the play party circuit.
>What I know little about is finding people into the darker stuff, besides the more open ones on fetlife
No easy answer for that one, ime. Remember how I got all excited about you being a painslut? BDSM is such a broad umbrella that it can be really challenging to find someone compatible even within it. Being into the harder stuff like pain, blood play, etc is actually pretty rare, in my experience. And if you're a sub, you gotta be extra careful and selective about it too, because there are some fucked-up characters out there who will get into "BDSM" because they like to (genuinely) non-consensually abuse and hurt people, and you gotta make sure you're playing with someone sane, especially with the hard stuff. Way less room for error, there.
Alright, next morning is here. I'm doing my walk of shame back home in yesterday's party dress.
She has a dog that sleeps in her bed. He slept between us. I was hoping for some sweet benign cuddles (and being pressed up against her boobs), but no.
I did get some sweet puppy cuddles.
A conversion slipped through my fingers.
Though she did change into her bra and thong in front of me.
Well I can give you by throwaway Skype; anonket. Then we can take things from there.
And I'm not sure I understand what you mean with a play party circuit.
And I agree with you there. I'm really wary of my current partner because she's diagnosed with dissociative personality disorder, she's.. Special. It's just scary to know she would genuinely enjoy killing a stranger. Though she likes me too much to hurt me.
Hah, nice. I'm pretty guilty of wearing stuff like that when I can, but my primary choice is Star Wars because Im just that awful.
I'm so hype for the 17th you have no idea.
I usually feel like im too butch to pull nice things like that off, but I dont really know why. I mean, I'm tall, but Im a lot more tomboy than I am butch. It's an odd insecurity I guess?
And yeah the show's logo is so much nicer than the ott SHIELD logos ive seen from the comics. Nice and modern and sleek. I'd probably wear it on something, quite happily. So long as it iddnt have loads of branding on it. Just the minimalist logo. Always the best way forwards.
And fair enough, I guess that changes my expectations a little. But still, I'm gonna watch it anyways I guess.
So I've got to finish what exists of Season 3, then watch Jones, and then pine for more Carter.
>She has a dog that sleeps in her bed. He slept between us.
At least you saw her changing in front of you.
We have rarely discussed Freud in any of my psych courses, even in "Psychology of Human Sexuality" he was without exception brought up in a purely historical capacity. I'm taking a class on sleep and dreams now where we do dream analysis in groups and even then we're discouraged from being too Freudian. Please consult with anyone who made it past the add/drop period of Psych 101. No one cares to debate with you the way no one would care to debate evolution or gay conversion therapy or whatever. Tedious and only intellectually stimulating for the losing side. This debate is not happening in academic psychology, let alone on 4chan. He was hugely influential, but if someone were to tell their patients the same shit today (no, dear, you don't have asthma, it's just a manifestation of your deeply repressed desire to perform oral sex on your father-- an actual thing he believed about one of his patients because classic psychoanalysis is bananas), they would have their license suspended.
>she's diagnosed with dissociative personality disorder, she's.. Special. It's just scary to know she would genuinely enjoy killing a stranger. Though she likes me too much to hurt me.
Holy shit, anon. That post has more red flags than the Turkish army. Be careful, please.
Also, had to run to work so I can't add you right now. But I'm not ignoring you.
She's special like I said, but she really does try really hard to be a normal person. She gets sad really easy, often cries when people insults psychopaths for i.e. not being able to love, or care for people. She's deathly afraid of that the world might just be an illusion and such, too. She hates how she feels and perceives the world different from a normal person, so really, she's not one of the bad ones. So she's either really good at manipulation or speaking the truth, but I used to be a manipulative bastard myself, so I could easily spot her tricks.
So I doubt she manipulates as well, even though she very easily could, she does not enjoy it being done to her, so she would never do it to someone else unless they asked for it, as in I could ask her to manipulate me to make me fall in love with her, which she said she would if I wanted, as I enjoy being manipulated by a dom.
>if you're not out that complicates things for you
how, exactly? I'm willing to keep it a secret from anyone I haven't come out to yet (it's something I've decided upon for some time, don't think I'd have a problem with it)
-Flirt with girls
-Feel validated by same sex attention
-Feel like there are actual wlw out there
-Don't have to deal with social anxiety, with wondering if your hair still looks okay or if your makeup smudged (if you wear any) or leave the house
-Don't have to commit to going on a date or meeting anyone irl, it's super low key
-Maybe flirting with girls is scary for you
-We should probably all go outside
-What if someone you know is on tinder and it's super weird?
I've heard that the app "Her" is friendlier than Tinder so you can give that a shot.
Pros are looking great!
>Maybe flirting with girls is scary for you
I haven't tried yet, can't imagine the shit I'd maybe spew. I can always avoid it, right?
>we should probably all go outside
already do. Got plenty of hobbies and going out for a run is one of my favorites
>what if someone you know is on tinder and it's super weird?
see, this is the road blocker for me right here. I simply don't know if the risk would be worth it.
will look it up and consider giving it a try if it's not an iOS exclusive
>did mentorship thing at college last year
>got really close to one of the girls
>became friends outside of program
>hang out and cuddle and shit all the time
>she would still jokingly call me her new mom all the time
>only three year difference (21 to her 18)
>develop a crush on her
>can't tell if she's straight girl joke flirting or actual flirting
>also feel a little weird about hitting on someone barely out of high school
>don't ask her out
>transfer to new school this semester
>still talk and skype all the time
>just got text from her asking me for advice on how to ask out a girl in her class
Do what I would do, ask her why she didn't tell you she was lesbian / tell her you regret not telling her you are, tell her how you felt and take it from there.
You might be surprised, she could still be into you if she was, but thought the same thing about you did about her. You never know!
If it gets weird though, just shy away from the topic and help her out as requested.
Also I'm sorry for you, I've done the same thing too many times and it hurts just as much everytime. Though you're going to get nowhere if you're not honest.
I asked her why she didn't tell me sooner because she knew I was gay and wouldn't care. She said she tried to but still wasn't sure about it herself at the time so she didn't. But she really likes this girl and she knows that she likes girls and if she waits too long the semester will be over and she might not have another class with her next year.
I'm not going to tell her. It sucks but she's my friend and I don't want to confess when she's dealing with her own romantic drama. We've already made plans to see each other over spring break. Maybe if this thing with her classmate doesn't work out, and I'm not with anyone, I'll tell her. Or they'll be together and I'll drunkenly blurt it out. Who knows?
When I was a kid, my parents made fun of me whenever I interacted with a boy, all "oooh he's your boyfriend" and it really got to me
Like I used to think being friends with a boy was the same as having a crush on him because of that, and learned to hide any romantic feelings because I knew my parents found it cute/hilarious and it embarrassed me. I think that's why I didn't realise I was a dyke until a late age. I convinced myself that I liked boys in the meantime, using mind gymnastics... I was so far in the closet because I was ashamed of any romantic feelings fr years
Anyone else have similar experiences?
I wish you good luck & that you'll get over the pain quickly if it doesn't work out. I still think honesty is always the way to go, you might flatter her. You don't have to tell the full story though, cause it can make her feel guilty.
I'm in kind of a similar squeeze myself, there's this sadist redhead I'm crushing on, but she's 7 years older than me, and she's looking for a partner herself, but she's gone out on dates with a few people already, and she doesn't even know I'm interested in her that way, and we barely know each other. At least we're maybe gonna go out and have coffee, with me, her and her best friend, or maybe just me and her best friend, so at least I'll either learn to know her more, or I'll get to ask if I have any chance on the readhead to her best friend.
No. I just get really annoyed that people push for that. Like you can see them grooming their kids for that. Just fuck off, kids are kids and don't need to think about things like romance, marriage, etc.
>They often experience an increase in quality though. Also why the fuck does that even happen, do people not keep a tab open/search the catalogue? Why.
I always think they tend to go shittier. Or at least they tend to delve into anime shitposting imo and I'm just not that into anime.
And yeah I think it's cause people just don't look at the catalog.
Guess we're bringing cis back though. Neat.