/sig/ Self Improvement General

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>>42547897
Bumping.

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>decided to be a real man two months ago
>stop eating shit and do daily exercises
>buy a car
>tfw unable to pay for a gym until next month

>>42548662
Just challenge yourself with pushups and pullups for the coming month

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Posting JBP self-authoring stuff:

Past Authoring: https://pastebin.com/fmeZHZUM
Present Authoring (virtues): https://pastebin.com/qJkjDNFk
Present Authoring (faults): https://pastebin.com/85Lwz46G
Future Authoring: https://pastebin.com/J45xybPT

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>>42548602
Thanks m8

>>42548714
neato
thank

>>42548787
> read to appear more intelligent
> memorize useless shit like capitals
Yeah, dropped.

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>>42548714
hang on

Are these the paid ones, for free?

Pic related : Who else loves this soundtrack, got one track as an alarm clock, freaking love it.

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>>42548838

>>42548708
Doing this bro! Made up an one hour daily routine with the help of an app and someone from QTDDTOT

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What are the best exorcises a Skelly can do with some dumbbells and kinesthetics?

Practice beer pong until you are good.

Don't tell anyone you practiced beer pong in your room alone.

Make people believe you are naturally good at party games. They'll elevate your social status in thier minds.

Most underestimate the power of this.

>>42548874
>paid ones for free

Yeah

How do I change my personality for the better?

I'm a very boring, uninteresting person. When I was still dating my ex she did so many things (drawing, singing, piano) meanwhile I don't have any real hobbies except boxing. I also have no idea what to talk about. I usually talk about films and music but it pretty much ends there.

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I switch a lot between being depressed and feeling normal(not happy but not sad either).
When I feel depressed everything loses it's special colour. I still work on my hobbies like reading and playing bass but it all feels so grey
On other days i'm normal again and everything gets a lot better. I'm not sure what I can do about the constant switching between depressed and normal. In a week 1 or 2 days are mostly depressed and the other are normal

Right now i'm a little bit depressed, went to the gym a few hours ago and that cheered me up but still feeling a little bit weird. I'm happy i'm cheered up a bit because when I biked to the gym I was a wreck

>>42550777
find some hobbies, maybe pick up a guitar or join some group/club
read a fuck ton. seriously, just read whatever is interesting or useful to you, as it'll help give you new perspectives or new ideas.
get the hell off 4chan/the internet. I only go on it one day a week for 2hrs, thats it. the internet is a great source of info but beyond that it will only hinder you
make some friends at a sport or club

>>42550777
o shit, repeating digits

>>42550872
Thanks.

What should I talk about with people tho?

>Educated
>Getting in better shape
>Highly motivated/ambitious
>Can't get a job to save my life

I have very little work experience and at this point money is holding back all my gains. It's pretty pathetic but not even min wage retail will take me. How the hell do I get a job? I even have skills that I could demonstrate if just given the opportunity, but I don't even know how to convey that at this point.

Also, routine ideas for the poorfag/minimalist?

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hmmm have you guys ever considered using a different acronym for the general?

sig sounds kind of like that thing nazis say when saluting hitler

just a little problematic desu but i know it wasn't intentional

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>>42551666
Fuck off with the liberal /pol/ bait Satan...

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>>42551666
I've never read it like that (Germanfag here).

I think we need to have a talk anon...

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What are some good websites/resources to increase your breadth of knowledge and general education? Mentalfloss is pretty meh, but I would like something with a variety of subjects (sciences, geography, history, culture, art, sociology, etc.) presented up front rather than going to a random wikipedia article

>>42552363
library

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how to stop being butthurt and sad about life? i spent several years doing things wrong in life, and messed my life up in some relatively common, unimportant ways. but part of me is just butthurt as shit that something bad happened me (even if i brought it upon myself in retrospect) and it's holding me back from taking me positive action

Is it wrong to play a lot of videogames? I sometimes have a lot of free time, and while I do enjoy going to the gym or lifting or practicing the guitar, I also spend a big chunk of my time just playing videogames. It's one of my favorite hobbies since I was a kid, and many of my close friends also play a lot so I often end up spending entire afternoons playing with them.

How do I balance vidya and self improvement? Any tips?

>>42552557
oops meant to say "reading" not "lifting"

>>42552471

Introspection, homie. I advise reading Prometheus Rising and The Fourth Way. Take 'em with a grain of salt, naturally, but the ideas they throw down may help you out. Also, let go of expectations and just take things for what they are -- You can't be disappointed/angry if you *honestly* have no preconceived notions.

>>42552411
>tfw I don't have access to a library

>>42552604
Man thats a shame anon.

I often came back from the library carrying 10+ books from whatever interests me, it works way better for me than the internet in that regard

anyone here with sales experience?

>>42547897
Why the fuck is the lower part subjectivity and the higher part objectivity? Anything being "objective" by definition is debatable but claiming to know nothing is far from objectivity. Putting "objectivity" and "subjectivity" there as if one is bad and the others good is dumb, claiming that something is objective is essentially a choice and has nothing to do with self improvement.

>>42548838

Never memorize something you can easily look up.

>>42550869
People who have reasonably in-order lives can still be susceptible to depression, and supposedly they are the ones who benefit the most from antidepressants.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JuQgJxYriYI

If you're suffering, it's probably a good idea to see a therapist (especially if there's no obvious behavioral cause for your depression/mood swings).

How do I stop blushing?
Why am I so socially retarded? I literally start blushing and sweating when someone says my name.
Someone fucking help me...

>>42553934

blushing doesn't matter mate. sweaty hands can be awkward, but blushing is really not bad.

but if you suffer from awkwardness and low confidence, you should look out for Phenibut. great stuff.

>>42552604
wow. can't imagine living without reading. a lot of things you can find freely online.

>>42552557
i never gamed alot, but i would say as long as you don't become a asocial gametard, it is alright.

just don't let it make you miss out on social, real-life things, don't let it be an excuse for laziness, shyness and a way to avoid social anxiety.

>>42550777

say yes to everything that comes your way. i was an awkward, shy neet, and decied to turn it around by saying yes to everything. wanna take the train to party in another city (eurofag)? yes. wanna go boxing class? yes0 wanna go and trip on lsd? yes.

i took it a bit too far and signed up for first aid classes and some other things, but it really changed me a lot for the better

see

>>>42553645

>>42552363
Nerdwriter1 is pretty good for a bunch of that shit

>>42548787
>college
Even a mention of it hurts...

I've posted in these to vent for about a year now but I think for once I don't need to, I've got a (admittedly shitty but not awful for still in school) job.
I'm not depressed or empty every other day.
I'm finally over my ex and I'm almost as happy as I always was before I met her.
I've eaten properly for the last 2 or so months apart from today and that's only because this was my first day where I was totally free and not out with friends in ages.

My friends group no longer looks like it's going to break apart and I'm going to a new school soon so I'll meet more people which is nice.

All I really need to do is start playing guitar and singing like I keep saying I will, read more often and paint more and I'll be content.

I'm going to end it asking for advice because I'm banned from /adv/ without ever posting there. There's this girl who's clearly into me but I'm not sure if I should go for it, she was going through hard times so I used that as an excuse to pussy out but I want to know if I should go for it. I'm just not sure because I hardly know her and she looks a lot like my ex which fucks with me a bit.

Blogpost over

Still cant get laid but atleast i have some friends and im not a criminal/drug addict anymore.

Struggling with math at trade school though

>>42551666
neck yourself reddit

>>42547897
>went to job interview yesterday
>got the job

Feels good brehs

>>42555173
>Looking for work in an extremely competitive field
>Got a surprise offer for an unrelated job from a small business
>Now going to work for them while applying to better jobs at the same time

who /devilish career hunt/ here?

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How to stop lying to self? i mean, i'm doing good progress in my life, but every once in a while i will catch myself lying to myself, like getting a extra snack, skipping the last series of abs or stretching, or reducing in 30min the time i should be studying in order to play more vydia, small things like this

how to stop?

>>42556066
recognizing it is important. If you can recognize when you're doing it then you can stop. It's really hard to break a habit instantly. Just need baby steps

Does anyone remember that youtube channel that was shilled there not so long ago in those threads? Something about mind.

Made it 16 days with no fap in prep for college but one night couldn't control self and just humped the air while reading doujins for a good 3 hours and came. Relapsed after that and just jerked it all night to doujins in shame knowing I failed. On day 4 again. I will make it this time

How do I get better at small talk/general banter? This is my biggest flaw currently. I literally am unable to casually joke around with people unless it's with close friends in which case I just act the way I want to and say nigger jokes. It's not that I'm retarded or anything, I can gladly have deep intellectual conversations about certain topics, but the initial ice breaking when meeting people is through small talk banter which i suck at.

>>42556471
Learn normie banter by watching some standup. Whatever makes you laugh is usually a reflection of yourself, so use that to build your humor up. I myself love Aussie banter and use it from time to time to great effect in social interactions

Also try to stay away from racist jokes. Everyone knows they are the best types of jokes but you won't be getting any friends with them.

>>42556446
You can do it. Push to 17 days and then lose count.

>>42548787
maybe its ultimately good advice, but a lot of these things are just about putting on appearances, lying and being a stuck up asshole "above it all"

>>42556066

Consequences; You break a taboo, you punish yourself with pain. Unless you're a masochist, you'll train yourself to knock it the fuck off in short order.

>been kinda down recently
>fapping twice a day
>starting to finish in like 2 minute when fucking GF
>says she doesn't care since I always get her off manually first, but I care
>started doing nofap
>planning on adding cardio to routine after stress from that starts to go away
>on day 3
>wanna have sex with everything that's remotely curvey
brehs how do you do it

>>42550948
TV, moves, and if possible, boxing.

>>42556665
I can see that helping me gain some discipline, but is self flagellation really the best way to punish yourself? Isn't there another kind of punishment I can force myself to take?

>insomnia is worsening, going to sleep at 7 AM or not at all and always sleep unhealthy amounts of 12+ hours
>suspect I have hgh defiency or low test but don't want to make myself a clown in front of the doctor
Just fuck my shit up

>>42548929
this isnt true at all

i am a sperg and played beer pong at a few parties in college and was really good but besides some high fives, nothing changed for me, because im an ugly as fuck skinny autistic beta

>>42557157
I used to sleep a lot and go to bed late (2 am or 3am) maybe its depression, dunno

>>42557157
I've been like this for years, but it's getting worse now that I'm an 'adult'.
I'm going to a sleep doctor to get an evaluation whenever they call me back, would be pretty psyched to get TRT even though I'm only 24.

>>42556640
You're getting judged by the way you dress and compose yourself, on first look.

>>42556262
Actualized.org?

>>42551666
kys senpai

>>42556799

Rubberbands on your arms. Every time you fuck up, you put on another rubberband. The point is, you have a physical reminder of your fuckups, whether it be lingering pain/scars/rubberbands/tattoos/sharpie dicks drawn on you. Personally, I feel that reminders which leave their mark retain their potency after you're done, rather like how you won't ever fuck about with boiling water again once you've been scalded, but you're likely to fuck about with boiling water again if you only got yelled at to cut it out because you might get scalded -- The message just doesn't sink in as deep without extreme measures; Half-measures more often than not lead to half-results.

I'm just trying to lose weight and tone my muscles. Are swimming, ab exercises and running good ways to achieve this?

>>42557909
yes, those are the best ways too.

>>42557922
Thank you for the response. How much time per day would you recommend doing these activities?

>>42557960

It really depends on what you plan on doing

Running you should try to get up too 45 minutes to an hour running.

Swimming you should work up to also, but you can also go longer with it.

And ab excersises, look up routines.


Honestly all routines are pretty good.

Couch to 5k works for running.

Swimming I'm sure theirs stuff out there.

>>42557986
Thank you for the help man, I appreciate it

>>42556613
Thank you for your kind words anon

>>42552363
4chan

>>42554412
Get in that puss. If you get to know her she probably won't look like your ex anymore

How do I get legs without heavy lifting? Rural homegym so back squats are a one way train to snap city

>>42551666
And that's a good thing.

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>>42548714
thanks man, sometimes /fit/ isnt so shit after all

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Any general tips on how to not give a fuck about what people think/things you can't change?

>>42558484
E V O L A
resign yourself to the tiger of modernity and ride it out, but don't be afraid to put it down when it's tired of running

>>42557548
Yes! Thank you.

>>42550872
Should I get into boxing? Could you give me some general directions as general as it sounds?

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>>42558424
I have a bunch of /sig/ books and shit, I ought to dump it in a MEGA archive. I'll do it soon.

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>>42551666
>problematic

>>42551666
sieg = victory
I see no problem here.

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what keeps you guys going when you're miserable and you just want to give up

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>>42559244
Please do, Also
>Checked

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>>42551666
>le steben uniberse """"cutsie"""" weightlifting gif
>Its a little problematic guys
Fuck I know this is bait but it still makes my blood boil

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>>42559581
self hatred.

and DBZ, i want to become a saiyan, real fucking bad

>>42556670
Personally, I relish in it. When something sexy happens (on like TV or whatever) you are actually able to appreciate it because of your horniness. Feels good.

>>42548714
>future authoring program abbreviates to FAP
nofap btfo

>>42552604
libgen dude

So guys, I started going to the gym like 2 and a half months ago and I'm getting some results. Should I go to a nutritionist to get some kind of diet? So far it's a regular diet but without junk food and my dad bought me some protein powder to help me out

>>42548893
Which app? I can't afford a gym as of now, but I don't want to use that as an excuse.

>>42558484

Read some Gurdjieff, Ouspensky, and Evola, homeslice.

>>42553853
>N E V E R I M P R O V E

>>42556606
Yeah that's my problem though. That IS the only thing I find funny. Racist jokes. Making fun of poor people. Muslims. Africa. This is what makes me laugh

>/sig/ general
Just make sure you're drop safe ok

DESPERATELY LOOKING FOR PRODUCTIVITY-RELATED CONTENT ESPECIALLY CONTENT ABOUT PLANNING AND STICKING TO A SCHEDULE!!!

>>42556606
>>42560292
That's also my problem. I really only find 4chans brand of humor truly funny. I generally come off as boring and unfunny unless I'm comfortable with making off color/dark humor.
Luckily my GF is just as fucking stupid as I am and finds this shit funny. But I hide that shit when around people I'm not close with.

>porn addiction destroying my life
>start thinking like those Japanese grass eating men(google it)
>do a proper research
>stopped watching porn
>the research says the brain will start noticeably improving after 6 months

((they)) really fucked me /fit/, don't know if I can make it

>Stop drinking
>Start managing my diet more carefully
>Stop taking caffeine

How do I interact with people, /fit/?

>>42559740
read the book "How not to die"

>>42547897
why are all the yellow climbing goats in such sexy positions? not gonna lie, i rubbed my penis about "wants to fix them" on more than one occasion.

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>>42550777
Boxing is a great hobby, desu. Learning an instrument wouldn’t hurt. Movies and music aren’t hobbies, they’re passive experiences that don’t build character are for normies. Try reading and doing something outdooors.

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>>42551666
Are you a woman, nigger, faggot or all three?

Has anyone here had to deal with performance anxiety? I cant get fully hard and its frustrating. Ive cut it out porn and only masturbating once every couple of days. Pls help lads, gonna have muh girl over on the weekend

>>42547897

What are some good hobbies to try out and get a life? I'm 23 and friendless.

I lift, I read, sometimes I'll write, I sometimes play my classical guitar, I just bought a DJ console and I wanna get a keyboard to get into producing as well, but none of these will get me any friends ( nothing social ).

I'm not autistic. Whenever I go out with a group I'll be able to hold conversations, be funny, sometimes even lead the way, in other words: belong. It's just that nothing and no one sticks. No one tries befriending me afterwards or invite me anywhere ( except for girls I've met on tinder, which... come on ).

I've been thinking about hiking / trekking, go on some mountain paths... but I know I'd end up doing it alone, and as much as I want to say that I'll be fulfilled seeing a mountain or whatever, I know it won't be entirely true unless I share the experience with someone. I was also thinking about taking some painting courses maybe, cause I'm a graphic designer and it'd probably help me in the long run too. Also maybe take yoga classes at the gym? I don't know...

How do some people belong in 12 different groups of friends while I never managed to even belong to one. Are some people just meant to be lonely? I didn't go to college. I was already making money doing what I love since I was in high school, so I never took that path. Probably the biggest mistake of my life, and I sure as hell ain't gonna do it now.

God fucking damn it.

>>42548893
post routine. I do bodyweight, will rate it for you.

Has anybody got any advice for dealing with social anxiety?

I don't get anxious about the prospect of hanging with friends but rather the prospect of saying something stupid and causing them to abandon me/hang out without me.

Pls help

>>42563525
just stop thinking so much

most likely your friends are not spending a single second ever thinking about that shit, maybe they even have the same thoughts of themselves

I just dont give a fuck. I say whatever I want to whomever I want so no matter what you can't do worse than me. and hey, sometimes it really causes problems but only with leftards who think some stuff is offensive. yet I get along very well with a lot of different people from all parts of life. so yeah, just practice and try to stop worrying and understand that you have nothing to lose. you can always make new friends if something doesn't work out

>>42563755
>most likely your friends are not spending a single second ever thinking about that shit, maybe they even have the same thoughts of themselves
kinda ambiguous so lemme clarify

what I mean by that they don't think the stuff about you that you think about yourself but they probably think the stuff about themselves that you think about yourself

>>42560562
I do the same but there is more to 4chan humor than just racist shit and making fun of poors, I usually will break the ice by giving a genuine compliment (if I have one) and then giving a sarcastic compliment or in general making some shitty remark.
Good way to balance your shittiness.

>>42547897
Oversleep, Overeat, Overtrain

>>42561580
True sexiness is found in between the lines of righteousness and depravity, where only a few can remain.
Those who do remain also have tight asses.

>>42560886
I personally have never looked at video porn (I grew up with dial up) so I feel like just looking at pictures isn't as bad, if videos are bad in the first place (have no experience so can't say).

I can masturbate to imagination easily so that's my gauge on whether porn is affecting me.

>>42563221
All of the things you've listed are considered very social if you try.
Instruments and producing will get you a ton of friends, go to a local bar or something and perform, musicians know each other and will be on your dick if you can produce even a little.

Maybe start making youtube vids, helps anxiety and a friend of mine who is probably an actual autist is now in a successful touring band because the singer saw his videos and realized that my friend lived in the same hometown.

Gotta make the initiative and invite people to things, don't wait for others for change in your life.
Yoga would probably help meeting people.
Only reason I make friends is I invite people to do things, it's important to be fun (don't have to stress over this, just don't be quiet) and allow a few vulnerable moments as people connect with others easily this way.

Seriously, your hobbies are GOAT social hobbies, just get in there and make an effort.

>>42563525
I don't want to be with people who abandon someone for an awkward phrase, so the fear is mostly gone as they are shit people if they leave over one social mishap.
Also phenibut, great stuff.

How to Win Friends and Influence People is always said to be a meme book but if its supplemented with Edward Bernays' Propaganda it becomes quite a bit more eye opening.

>>42548714
good shit, anon

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>>42553420
>Anything being "objective" by definition is debatable
Scientific anomalies are potentially re-trainable.

Example: Vs. extrinsic motivation, intrinsic motivation wins objectively.

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My best friend, the person i grew with, and had most of my life experiences, the one person who most made me who i am tried to kill himself not many days ago.
Im literally the only person that knows this, he overdosed on tylenol, went to sleep unknowing the time it takes for it to take any effect, and only the next day when he thought nothing happened, he started puking blood on the streets and people took him to an hospital.
He ran away because he didn't had any money on him for the hospital bills and didn't want to call people from his family.
I don't know how to react to this, i've been trying to improve myself, stopped drinking alcohol and taking hard drugs, started meditating more often, went back to taking gym seriously and been so happy with college life lately, yet i just still can't fucking now how to help another person, even someone so close to me.
Im gonna see him tomorrow and im having such a mix of feelings thats its hard to boil down, i feel angry at him, because i would feel alone in this world without him, i feel sad that he tried to resort to this and that he feels that bad, disappointed with myself, since i feel like i failed him as a friend, and helpless, i feel like i just don't know what to do to help him, and yet i'll have to talk to him tomorrow, acting as a pillar when my legs and arms tremble by my own fear and weakness.

Sorry for this, i just had nowhere to talk this.

>>42563755
>>42563771
Thanks anon, Id never really considered that my friends might be just as self conscious as I am. Realising that they probably are has actually helped a lot so thanks.

>>42564057
I think the other issue for me is that, while I agree that I wouldn't want to be friends with anyone who is so ready to abandon me after a few awkward phrases, the even bigger fear of mine is that, if they do so, I won't be able to find new friends.

I guess I just need to learn how to be comfortable with myself and being alone if I have to be, but I really don't know how to do that.

>>42548787
>invite your professors to your apartment
Uh what?

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any social improvement channels you guys use?

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>>42556471
Learning eye movements and pacing/leading with what they're saying -- "I feel/see/hear.." -- "Oh, well come [listen] to me talk about myself, and maybe you can [wherever you would like the conversation]."

Its most helpful feature is understanding.

>>42563996
Do you get normal regular erections and fugg girls? If yes you're golden

>>42557157

Go to bed earlier, 10-11pm in the evening. Start doing more excercise, get more fresh air and sun, supplement D-vitamin. Eat more veggies and fruits.

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>>42548708
>>42548662

>>42564125
Had a friend this close to me who was successful, heroin overdose.
Hardest part was still "paging" different events and ideas to later talk about them with him after his death, like seeing a man who looked just like moot a few days later and thinking that I had to remember it to tell someone, but who?
Fucking sucks man, especially since the family and friends will act like there were no warning signs and that they were so happy.

This has been a few years later, another close friend killed himself since as well.
It's certainly not a good spot to be in as a friend since it's their life and their responsibility for happiness, just have to be a good friend till the end m8.

>>42564194
People are self conscious and they are friends with (You) for some reason.
It's hard to accept that people like like or even love you when you don't love yourself too much, the best advice in this situation is literally b urself because apparently that's the person they want to be around, no judgement for poor taste.

>>42564224
>Do you get normal regular erections
Yes.
>fugg girls
No.
I don't fap to just perfect porn either, I've fapped to some pretty shameful 3/10's before so I think Im good

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>>42548662
>>42548708
>>42564287

>>42557157
Just getting in bed and being still is probably best, taking some magnesium and zinc.

>>42564288
Thanks for pointing out that there must be some reason people wanted to be friends with me to begin with. I think I've always maybe thought it was true but I deffo needed to hear it so thanks, I really do appreciate it.

I'm really sorry to hear about your friend, I hope you're doing alright bro?

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>spent past 2 years living in france and spain
>different people each semester so gradually improved how to socialize with a whole new milieu
>third semester I reach the top of the social dominance hierarchy and get people to follow me, introduce them to JBP etc elevate and lower people in the hierarchy as I see fit

My current problem is that I've made so many social gains that I think I may be -too- alpha. Hear me out because I'm sure this sounds conceited, but I know how to climb and manipulate social hierarchies so much now that I no longer feel a need to even climb since I'm sure I'll rise to the top. I say whatever I want regardless of the company with as much leisure as I say it around close friends.

I'm worried that this last development will just make me alienate people because they'll think I'm an asshole. Even last semester, I was constantly described as the "lovable asshole" but that seems like a fine line to balance. How do I avoid just being thought of as an asshole? I'm extremely right wing as well so I think I with this new confidence I'll squash some liberal in conversation then get reputiated behind my back as some kind of -ist.

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>>42564349
Sounds legit.

>>42553853
>Talking to qt
"I'm from Washington"
Answer A or B
A. Neato fact about Washington
B. Oh cool

>>42564288
Fuck man, that guy was one of the reasons i broke with my ex, when he went back from another country, i talked to him and noticed how he was ahead of me in the things we liked to discuss like philosophy, then i realized my ex was leeching all my time.
I understand that feeling, whenever im reading a hard book and need to understand the concept behind it, i imagine myself talking to him about it, when i see some stupid shit, i think about sending it to him, i think it would be devastating, since i know it would take time to get rid of this.
Im sorry for your loses man.

>>42564520
so is this how autists try to flirt?

>>42564349
Nah you're just a loser and don't realize it

>>42548787
This is mostly how to be a superficial douchey normalfag who mistakes trivia for intelligence.

>>42564520
> Oh cool, here's a Neato fact about Washington

This will seal the deal

>>42548929
>>42557170
Some bros at a party might be a little impressed. Girls will not give a shit whatsoever

>>42548923
dumbbell press
pullups on door (use a towel maybe)
goblet squats
bulgarian squats
pushups

sprints to lose weight, do not do cardio for durations

>>42564457
>>42564605
>projecting

>>42564317
Good call, take them separately as they compete for absorption, zinc in the morning and magnesium at night for calm gains.

>>42564331
A lot better than I was, things are still weird and I can't do the same hobbies as I used to since they were so ingrained with them.
I have new hobbies now though and things are looking a little better, eventually all the anger at both them and yourself and dissipates and it is replaced with a feeling of more or less "fucking sucks but I love that asshole and glad they aren't suffering", still wish they were live ofc but it's nothing to be stressed about anymore.

>>42564554
If I see 4chan memes or weebshit I kind of talk with a inner monologue that is really me just talking to the first one who died.
I don't know if it ever completely goes away but after some years it stops spiraling you into depression and just gives you a little sting that reminds you that you're alive and haven't done anything to deserve so.
Not as depressing as it sounds btw, has driven me to become a better person because I know intrinsically I deserve nothing more than what I've already been given.

>>42547897
that pic
>>knows limits
>having limits at all
limits don't exist, they're merely blockages to disregard and triumph over
anyone who embraces their limitations is a failure, not one soul is limited in anything

>>42547897
>/fit/
>tries to lift his problems away

>>42564916
Yeah I guess you can always take comfort in the fact that they're at peace and no longer suffering now. Still though, you have my condolences and I really do hope it all works out for you, you seem like a genuinely nice bloke who deserves some peace and happiness.

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>>42564349
You're trying far, far too hard on that one
try to be more subtle next time

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>>42547897
Guys, let me depart some knowledge on you. Learn this shit:
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QGm6v9-1ZBU

Seriously. Pulling out a moonwalk at a party or when out with friends has gotten me so many numbers. I don't know any other fucking dance moves besides Liar Liar by Oh My Girl kek.
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GM4rInqycjY

Plus, the moonwalk makes you fun. Who doesn't love MJ? Anyways, just throwing it out there lads. But the real problem for half of you autists will be getting invited to a party anyways.

>25, soon to be 26 year old
>kissless virgin
>no friends
>shut-in
>have been a loser for literally my entire life, seriously since I was like 12-13 years old
>feel like at this point, even if i did get the drive and means to self-improve, i would be so terrified about my complete lack of any abilities and lack of life experiences in everything that i wouldn't even know how to build upon my improvements

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>>42565460
I'm 18 and headed down a similar path. Starting college this Monday and I can only hope it will go better than high school :(
Making friends is easy in college, right?

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>>42565677
>Making friends is easy in college, right?
Went through undergrad and grad school. I made a total of maybe 2 good friends and 5 acquaintances.

Here's my advice not to end up like me:
>add EVERYONE from class on facebook
>make a linkedin and constantly network
>join at least one club you're really active in and maybe a few just to fuck around in
>don't be afraid to chat up random people granted you're not butt fucking ugly (example: see person from class in the cafe and say, "man, fucking Smith's class sucks amirite?")
>become friends with your favorite professors (best advice I can give. I especially became close with them during grad school and now we go out for beers sometime and several have hooked me up with corporate job offers. This is probably the most important one on the list.)
>make social gains by reading retard books like How to Win Friends and the Charisma Myth both will mildly help autism
>use the school gym more made 3 gym friends there but we never hung out outside the gym
>go to school events such as bonfires or stupid event parties
Some of these like making friends with professors and using the school gym I did. Others I regret not doing such as going to more events and joining more clubs and adding everyone on fb (deleted mine a long time ago which destroyed my social life kek). Now I'm 25 and about to go get a PhD because school is the only thing I've ever been good at and working a corporate cuck job fucking blows dick.

>>42565677
make friends with who you want to be friends with
be friends with your classmates, people with the same goals as you do
if you pick just anyone, you'll end up lonelier than you were before

Okay /sig/ I need help here. I'm not a very socially adept or outgoing person but I have a friend group of other awkward people and they're my only real friends.

The problem is that as a group we are never serious. It's always joke joke joke nonstop. There have been a few times late at night when I've been able to break through the 'joke barrier' and discuss philosophy and real things with them but these are very far and few between. (The times I've managed to do that can be counted on one hand).

I don't want to leave the group because I do like them and I'm horrible at making friends so they're all i have, but there is no interpersonal relationship between us. Just us bashing jokes and shit off each other. We don't even do anything together other than play video games and occasionally meet up for airsoft, and every time I try to arrange something where real discussion would be possible no one wants to go.

Anyways thanks for listening to my vent that is probably full of grammar errors, and any advice would be welcome.

>>42565785
>I completely failed at being a social creature but here's my advice on how to be social
>>42566245
this. You're an "adult" now, be friends with the people you actually enjoy spending time with and drop anyone who annoys like a fucking stone. Everybody is happy to see the guy who "knows everyone" but nobody is actually his friend.

and yes, first day of college is the perfect time to make new friends. Everyone else there is as nervous as you are, just be 1% more confident than they are and they'll react in kind. I made friends the first week of freshmen year by leaving my dorm room and saying to the guys next door "cool, you guys play tf2?" I literally walked into their room and introduced myself and they're the best friends I've ever had in life, one of them is going to be my best man.

>>42556665
What would you suggest for self pain administration? I find that short of drastic measures I can't really hurt myself well.

>>42557157
Melatonin lad. Had insomnia for the first 16 years of my life and melatonin practically saved my life.

>>42566404
I'm in a similar group, but people open up when you are one-on-one with them.
We'll never talk serious in whole groups but I had a friend just this year who hasn't ever talked to me in a serious matter say he loved me and I better not kill myself when the other friends left for a while and we were just chilling and talking.

Always can open with a bullshit "so how is your job/school/grill/penis doing?"

>>42557157
just fucking do it, Doctors exist to help you
accept the clowning and let the man fix your problems
It's probably fixable by melatonin, but seriously get a professional opinion, just incase it's something much worse

I have a conundrum lads. I know this might be better placed in /lgbt/ but that board is a shithole.

I've about had it being anu happy khv and have set myself a goal of finding a bf before the next July. The only problem is I'm still in the closet and online dating is full of mansluts, so I have to come out socially if I want any chance of meeting someone.

However whenever I try to work up the courage to come out I never end up being able to do it and I'm afraid my only friend might distance myself from me if I do.

So how do I work up the courage to come out, and what is the best way to do it.

>>42566602
>I'm afraid my only friend might distance myself from me if I do.
If he does he's not a really friend. If you can't come out of the closet to the closest person you know how will you be able to actually engage another guy in a homosexual relationship?

>>42566415
>I completely failed at being a social creature but here's my advice on how to be social
Yes, it's called hindsight and wisdom dumb fuck. Been there, done that. Telling him to do what I would have done.

>>42562648
it is the weekend

>>42563525
beer

>>42566602
Would back up this anon's >>42566614
advice, not gay so can't help too much anon.
Do you go to college?
Asking because in my experience premed students are often gay and are seemingly less slutty than their art counterparts.

Friends accept you for who you are, a guy in another friend's group came out as a pedophile the other year (not loli, actual pedophile who got in trouble talking to girls, nothing sexual but very creepy).
People got over it, they make fun of him and tell him he better hope none of them have daughters but they accept that degenerate, if he can find acceptance surely a gay man can.

>>42566602

You're overthinking it and psyching yourself out. Just do it.

>>42548714
This scares the shit out of me but I'm doing it.

How do you get back into using social media like Facebook if you haven't been on any personal sites for 5+ years? I dread having to see everyone I went to school with or people my age doing a lot better.

>>42564057
What sort of dosage do you recommend with phenibut?

>>42566972
why even bother, who the fuck uses facebook anymore?

>>42567026
Depends.
Monday classes start back up at uni for me so I'm going to be dosing 2 g phenibut with 200 mg caffeine.
I've shared phenibut with many friends and all of them could comfortably go up to 4 g instead of one, but he can't handle much of anything else either.
4 g would be too much for an actual functional social day btw, that's more of a recreational dose.
Would say take 1.5 g to 2.5 g with some caffeine to be a more social person who doesn't feel ALL the weight on there shoulders, you feel slightly normie as you conservation is less tedious.
Takes about 90 min for most for it to kick in properly by the way, worth a shot.

>friend tries phenibut at a party with me
>he's a depressed stoner, took 4 g with me when he was extremely high
>says he didn't feel anything
>see him a week later
>"man I was mowing my lawn the next morning and the sun felt good on my back, which was weird because I never thought about anything just feeling good. Then I noticed how good my shorts felt on my dick, and it wasn't even sexual I was just having a good time. I then thought "today isn't so bad" and it hit me that the penisbutt thing you gave me was working"

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>>42566916
I posted it and I haven't even done it yet... Fuark.

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>>42550967

Law of Attraction stuff, I like Abraham-Hicks a lot, also r/lawofattraction is p good. Will probably help with your job/career also
Wim Hof Breathing Excersises
Qi Gong
Writing, anything really, though Law of Attraction stuff is legit god mode. I also really like writing first person fiction about me bring awesome, right after I get home from gym is the best time to do this. Weed is optional but helps

>>42548714

Thanks, saved

>>42559688

Nice one

How do i up my social media chat with girls? Im a charmer irl but feel like an autist when im messaging people

How the fuck do I get off the internet? About 99% of my free time is spent on 4chan and I haven't got a fucking clue how to stop.

>>42567551

Just from having a quick look it seems like this law of attraction shit is just The Secret with a new name.

>>42568068
My guess that other people on the Internet can't help you.

>going to school for Web development and design
>everything on the design part screams 'no job' or 'no money'
>everything on the programming and development side screams 'never good enough', 'never enjoyable', and will probably lead me to suicide but pays really well

Why can't I just find something in the middle, lads?

>>42567824
Use emojis to lighten things up. Bitches love emojis.

Plus, nothing you say really matters. Just talk to them

>>42547897
lads have any of you quit smoking?
How did you do it? I just love darts!

>>42568168
Web development is fun and I hope you can find yourself in it.

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Some self improvement books

>>42559581
Desire to become totally superior.
Pride.
Courage.
Imagination. Thank you manga and anime for inspiration.
Wizards and Warriors. Magic and physically impossible shit is real as fuck, go on 8ch /fringe/.
Tolerance for pain, depression, nihilism, setbacks and negativity.
Knowledge. Esoteric and exoteric. This ties into the wizards and warriors shit, but, basically, what everyone thinks is reality is never the case. We're all making judgements on severely limited and distorted information (or rather, are focused on limited, false and distorted information).

>>42568190
I did. Every addiction is (relatively) easy to overcome when you understand the mechanics of the said addiction. For smoking you need to understand the psychological, social and physical component of the addiction. Do your research. I'm gonna tell you the most basic and important thing: go cold turkey, first 100 hours will be increasingly terrible, after that you're getting back to normal. After 15 days life is bearable, after a month you're pretty much normal. If you're weak you'll fuck up at some point, after the first cigarette you light up in your moment of weakness start quitting again, this time I'll be easier.

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>>42563221
> I play music but this won't get me friends

It will, it's just that all the "I can't make friends" shit you swallowed like a black pill is counter-acting it.

People don't like pulling others in like a fish on a hook. Friend making is specific. You have to invest emotional energy, which is a tangible specific thing (generally from the heart) rather than cerebral or vital/physical energy in order to connect with people (brain and low navel btw).

You can cultivate emotional energy by cultivating energy in the chest region. I'll post an occultism book rec. Keywords: Montalk, Franz Bardon, William Walker Atkinson, Robert Bruce, New Thought, Tao, Dao...

>>42568262
To even get jobs, I'd need to learn node.js, redux, npm, and all other sorts of shit that, by the time I learn, the industry could already have moved away from.

It's literally an endless slope of the worst kind of learning.

>>42568168
big companies ship their web dev offshore (india) because its so easy anyone can pin it together with all the different frameworks out there, and at this point they can pretty much pay a dev offshore 1/3rd what someone onshore (USA) is willing to take

>>42568283
I'm curious on whether people who believe in magic have a legitimate opinion on the scientific method and in particular quantum computing and such that should be able to see past this so called distortion.
Don't 100% think it's a dumb idea that we have limited information HOWEVER why is it more likely that magic is real than it being fake?

>>42568330
I know what you mean, you start with fucking HTML and CSS, well that's fucking easy, and then the reality hits

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>>42568365

I believe 100% in a couple of things/practices that are very non-scientific/not provable by science

I think these things have to be proven subjectively. It was like that for me and its been like that for everyone else that I know who shares these interests

Pick something you like, something you would like to believe, and research and practice it with the intention to prove it

>>42568579
I'm not here to argue that your beliefs are wrong nor am I trying to judge, but I sincerely don't understand how an investigation in something like this would work.
>Pick something you like, something you would like to believe, and research and practice it with the intention to prove it
Seems like a good way to make yourself believe in anything you want even though it doesn't exist.

I'm curious about your thoughts on this because it's the exact opposite of the scientific method, you pick something and try to disprove it.

At what lengths do you think magic is real?
Could someone conjure a fireball with just their hands?

>>42556799
Personally I like whipping my back while listening to Greek orthodox chants

>>42566895
>>42566793
>>42566614
Alright thanks lads, I guess I just need to man up and do it.

Thanks for the help

I'm a schizoid (as in what most people think "antisocial" means, not schizophrenic) that's kind of interested in branching out. Right now my social interactions begin and ends at work, plus sometimes going out to play Magic the Gathering. I've never had anxiety or awkwardness interacting with people. I just have no inclination to exchange phone numbers, screen names for some video game, or even just use Facebook. I want to get married and have kids some day and it's pretty clear that can't happen without engagement from my end. Or maybe I don't want to get married and just imagine marriage happening to someone else that looks like me.
How do I get myself to want social contact?

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>>42562648
Diffusing the garlic with oil is good.

>>42564349
Cool. Maybe deepen your philosophy, goals/strategy, and insight/understanding of reality; I suggest esoteric studies, maybe read the Kybalion and realize how relative things can be? Then consider what really matters in life and develop a commitment to authentically answering that question.

>>42548787
>be a fake ass bitch

>>42568365
>>42568597
Well I'm the original anon. Limitations in theory lead to limitations in method and vice versa, thus perpetuating "missed signals/patterns". It's about reading between the lines, even within our vast body of scientific understanding. It's about understanding our own limitations in comprehension and how restricting yourself to an orthodox scientific perspective limits learning things that are too different to explain using current understanding. I would still love to learn absolutely everything science has produced, however, as "orthodox science" is rather a matter of the opinion of groups of scientists with authority who don't have a shred of comprehension of the immensity of reality, their own ignorance, or even scientific research, it being such a behemoth; thus science itself is pure gold, yet scientists are stewards of investigative research rather than monarchs of wisdom and understanding.
Scientists aren't meant to draw conclusions that the thinking, understanding man must accept (or reject temporarily in order to think it until it sounds true in his mind; an act of cognitive dissonance since the end result was always assumed to be agreement or 80%+ agreement), but to produce the results of experimentation and the invention of new experiments (investigative research). Music theory/science can produce more insights than quantum mechanics for instance, but we're not looking at places like music for our understanding of reality.
Most researchers and scientists "explain away" rather than explain.
I think I've said the same thing in 10 different ways. You get my point.

I'd rather accept the risks involved in forging my own path, that ultimately leads to superior knowledge and wisdom. If aren't willing to prove yourself capable; to succeed; then you aren't very adventurous.

>>42567042
fags do, and losers

>>42550869

that book is shit for personal self-development dont do it if you want to not be depressed

>>42548714
+ Ε Υ Λ Ο Γ Η C Ο Ν +

>>42548787
What if I'm a faggot who is sexually attracted to a person you are supposed trust, and avoid talking to women because they complain too much and are way too emotional?

>>42570275
>What if I'm a faggot who is sexually attracted to a person you are supposed trust
do you honestly think this isn't what everybody wants?
and avoid talking to women because they complain too much and are way too emotional?
You're the one running on muh fee fees logic right now. Obviously all women you meet will be vapid cunts if you look for women in places where all the vapid cunts hang out.

>>42565397
This fag listens to kpop

>>42568138

Its actually the other way around lol
But have you actually tried it? It was a major game change in overall mental health for me when I finally could grasp it on like the emotional level aka "got it".
Usually it seems to take most people a little while to get up to "navigation speed" however and also sometimes social drama and oaverloadingly plenty of "small epic everyday events/coincidences will start to come up, I think maybe some people get upset with these things and think theyre doing something wrong, instead of viewing these events as tutorials/beginner levels for building up your energy/mental focus/mindset/coincidences etc.
Some people stir up a lot of shit in the beginning though (I did).

But it is possible to see it like this: building and leveling your rpg character, you gotta get into shit. Lose health, depleted mana, gear will be damaged, you could have killed that boss if you'd had just 10-15 more ammo rounds for your main weapon.

But you continue to play right? Because there are health and mana potions. There is a blacksmith. An arms dealer. And you buy more ammo. You level your marksmanship skill, your strength, your charisma, your vitality, and you grow a way bigger mana meter.
Most people live their lives as if theyre playing on difficulty: I am Virgin Hardcore Death Incarnate, no mana potions mode.

Here is the Pill: There are mana potions. Loads. Everywhere. The more you practice looking for them, you'll get better at finding them.

>DUDE WEED LMAO

>>42568319

Thanks saved
If you have the book tables for the other pills please post. I ironically/unironically love Iron pill

>>42568597

I wasnt talking about cherrypicking or set up/prejudiced studies or anything like that. What I meant was youre not gonna have any luck if you pick something you want to disprove, but you should choose something more like "it would be pretty cool if this actually worked". Sometimes its easier if you do it like more for fun than super serious

>>42570033

Confirmed for deep af by DubDubs

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>>42570422
yup

>>42570456
thank you based dub lords

>>42551666
I didn't know the Devil was an SJW

>>42548714
What the fugg is JBP

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>>42547897
I need help /fit/, I graduated in Law in march.
My dream career involves passing on a public exam where thousands of people are competing for 20~50 vacant spots.
But I just can't be disciplined enough to study. I've tried so many things and nothing seems to work. I've hired a study coach to elaborate a study plan but I couldn't follow it because I would almost die of boredom. I go to a psychologist who talks to me and does hypnosis sessions but it doesn't seem to work (maybe because I'm very skeptical about hypnosis). I tried nofap/noporn and it did help at first but then it didn't. I created a study schedule to go to the public library to study everyday but I skip most days.
I seem to stick with a method 2 weeks and then I slowly start to give up when I don't see a lot of results, I'll never pass the public exam like this.
I know the problem is with me but I don't know what should I do. I can't even concentrate long enough to watch a TEDtalk about self discipline for fucks sake.
I didn't have this problem in school or college where I would study one or two days before tests or sometimes not study at all and still do well, I've always been a good student but now that I have to study during months for the same exam it feels like there's no pressure, so I'm virtually incapable of studying.
I feel my life passing before my eyes while I'm a fucking NEET who does nothing the whole day except going to the gym and can't gather motivation to change, despite really wanting to.

Do I have depression? ADHD? Should I go to a psychiatrist and ask for medication? Will it miraculously cure my lack of self discipline or is it another illusion?

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How does one keep their motivation? I tried time and time again on improving myself, working out, studying, be a sociable person, get better generally. But I find myself stuck in a rut again after some time has passed. Here I am again as a couch potato. How does one muster the willpower, and then keep that willpower on for so long?

>>42566481
this

>>42570682
Paradigm shift into entirely disregarding motivation. I do gym and other shit because its just shit I do, I don't question why and when I don't feel like it I mostly get on with it anyways. Don't think about doing things, do things. Start now. Just go.

>>42570660
>It's BORING
>I don't wanna
your whining is frivolous and childish
Man the fuck up and put your nose to the grindstone, Get your shit done you spoiled brat

>>42570742
just do what you dont wanna do
comeon be a fucking MAN lmao
only children do things they dont wanna do

>>42547897
How does 1 figure out what they want to do in life? Been stuck working some crappy computer repair job coming on 2 years now and last night I pretty much told myself I was done. Problem is I have no idea WTF I want to do. I"m 22 and haven't known for years. Probs doesn't help that I was discharged from the military for 2 trips to the psych ward prior to this current job. Fuck, it wouldn't even have to make me rich, just something to pay the bills and maybe, finally take some BJJ classes along with gym. Just something I enjoy

Any advice or saved pics would be much appreciated

>>42570792
this looks like a shitpost, but it is completely correct
The worst place to be is your comfort zone, if you want to be successful and high performance
if you don't like it, fight through to the other side

If you want things to change, first you have to change

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>>42550967
Been there. Apply persistently. I applied to the job I ended up getting in a well paid supermarket after 3 attempts.

Also keep changing your CV.
Don't use the down the page format, use your CV to showcase Word skills with tables and shit. Just keep it clean, concise, and well presented.
And spin the fuck out of everything you have, using a couple of the 'buzzwords' that industry likes to use.

And for the love of god, do some volunteer work! Businesses love that, and even if it gets you nowhere it gives you something to talk about in interviews etc and could provide networking.

And if you think you're cut out for it, apply for sales/telesales/recruitment. It's not the sort of person you picture that is good - it's the people who listen more than talk, ask questions of people to find out what they want+need, and have a strong work ethic that do well.

Don't stop reading, /pol/ is a cesspool, but they're recommended reading list is remarkably balanced considering what one would expect.
Given the current climate, stick to non-fiction, but Brave New World and 1984 are there if you have to read a story. /Pol/ and /k/'s both have Mega repositories that are godly in how much free info they contain. Especially the do/k/ument, if you can get a hold of it.

An innovative way to do it, is read a few chapters from many books. Get the core ideas that the book is trying to convey, and memorise them. Then put it down and jump to another book and do the same.
You can always come back, and the second read will deepen your understanding.
That's the quickest way to advance, but you have to go back to fill out the depth once you have a good grounding.

It's like working out - anything will do early on. Just keep exercising your mind, body, and soul.

That's some jumbled advice from an anon who was in your shoes and has turned shit around.

God speed anon!

>>42550967
I bought a lawnmower and weed wacker. Printed some business cards now I get paid $20 an hour to walk around listening to poscasts. Make a job. Find some old people and offer to do odd jobs they're appreciative as fuck.

>>42552604
What country do you live in? How? Why?

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>>42552363

See >>42570973

/pol/ and /k/ are good, /lit/ and /his/ are more of a cesspool than /pol/ desu... but lurking can give you some useful info. Occasionally. I'd just stick with the mega links desu.

I found a link with .pdfs via Mega:
>mega:#F!B4dB2SzQ!h_pMC30v2a_y31iD0dy0sg

Save to an external HDD and read a few whenever you get time. I use my daily commute to do a chapter or 2 straight off my phone.

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>>42570840
What country?

If UK look into apprenticeships, there's companies that do professional ones, IT ones, etc it's not just trades. Infrastructure Technician would be golden for you with PC repair background.
Apprenticeships also extend from A-level equivalent to degree level now (you get paid to take the degree, you don't pay a dime). Only drawback is the money is shit, but it practically guarantees you a good well paid job after.

If in the US - look into trades, but push yourself to a specialism. If plumbing - hydro-pressure is supposedly golden ticket level. Taking dents out of cars is a big money job too.
If you wanted a career, start out in sales. It's shit, but do ok or better for a year or 2 and you should have a decent network to jump into something else, and businesses LOVE good sales experience.

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>>42552604
You speak/read english and have internet access, so get .pdfs of books.
Internet tends to have nearly any book you want.

Literally search for " [book name &/or author] pdf". 6-7 times out of 10 you'll find it, and can download it.

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>>42553382
Some, what did you want to ask?

>>42556066
You need discipline over motivation.

And maybe a purpose beyond self-improvement. Aim higher and diversify your interests

>>42556471
Literally just practice. I was hopeless on the phones when I started. It's awkward talking to someone who didn't ask for your call that you can't even see.
I learned by having fun with it, and fucking up.
Just remember, you'll never please everyone, so just be authentically *you*. Once you're comfortable being you, it'll all fall into place.

Maybe read Dale Carnegies How to Make Friends and Influence People. It's lopsided and by no means a conclusive aid to getting on with people, but it has solid tips for mastering small talk.
Tip one: being a good conversationalist is more about listening than talking.

>>42556606
Forget standup. It'll just have you copycatting comics. If you aren't a funny person, you'll just appear awkward anyway. Whether you have a knack for brevity or levity, be authentic to yourself and people will respect you.

>>42557170
>>42564650


Patently untrue. From party sluts to good religious girls, if you're playing on the same team, you better win your game

>>42564650
though recall that women are herd animals
If the dudebros elevate him, the women will go to him because he is higher on the social hierarchy than they are

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>>42570682
Ask yourself why armies never focus on motivating the troops.
What do they focus on?

Discipline.

They go overboard with the "sir, yes sir! sir, no sir!" crap. But doing stuff you have to do to improve, over and over and over and over again builds discipline. And when shit hits the fan, do you stop and think of something to motivate you, or do you snap into action and get shit done?

Just start, and your body will adapt after 2 weeks to 2 months. It'll start becoming a habitual discipline.
Then you don't need motivation, it's just a nice boost!

>>42570660
Discipline isn't something you just do. It's something you build, over a long ass time.
Start by making studying a habit. Only allow yourself a reward after you have studied.
Otherwise treat it like a workout: start off following a routine, and as you get into a swing of things, get creative to keep shocking your body so you power through plateaus and dips.
Don't forget to factor in rest either.
Given your issue is you get bored and peter out, keep changing things up so you can't get used to a routine.

People think too much now. Just start doing something. Keep doing things. Don't give yourself time to think.
Even fucking an heros don't die of suicide any more; it used to be an act of spontaneous emotion with only a little thought involved. Now its a drawn out debate in ones head to the point an heros die of though! Kierkegaard said that.

Post-modernism is shit. Modernism is shit. It makes you weak of body and mine and soul. If you do not want that, if you want to be strong in all things, reject the nihilism, the self-pity, the depression. You don't need a psychiatrist to tell you you're fucked up, that just gives you an excuse to quit and stop trying. And thats what they want.
There is no miraculous cure.
But there is a cure.
And it starts with working at at, and it ends with working at it.

Change your scenery too

pic related

>>42571432
This. As a PT who makes fatties /fit/, I give them a similar speech. Motivation is fleeting and will only aid you temporarily. Discipline, however, will aid you over a lifetime.

>>42564520
Failure, ask her shit about Washington you sperg.
You're trying to shift the conversation to yourself, which is wrong, and she'll be disinterested in you.

>>42570660
Try creating a routine. You can start it as small as 5 minutes per week, and work your way up to 5 minutes per day.

The important this is that you proceed with purpose, not passion. If it is your 'dream' you will focus and study no matter how mind-numbingly boring it is.

Hi! I usually don't come here you guys. Usually I go to the website reddit.com. Anyway, hi! 'Sup?

>>42570742
>>42571848
Thanks bros, I'll keep those in mind.

>>42571432
>Only allow yourself a reward after you have studied.
This is my biggest problem I think.

>Change your scenery too.
I've been thinking about this for a while, I still live with my mom but I have enough money saved to live alone for a few years. Maybe moving to another city away from my family and friends would help me out.

>>42558922
Not the same anon, but you should. Don't be scared to try it out, it gives you a feel of acomplishment that is too hard to get with other stuff, and is good for your health. My advice tho would be to not get too much into heavy sparring, gotta protect the brain, boy.
But don't worry only professionals do a shit ton of sparring so you wil be fine.

You could try muay thai too, in my opinion muay thai gyms are more chilled and have better social enviroments. So depends on what you're looking for.

>>42572534
I don't know. I'm Thai and in Muay Thai opinion, Muay Thai gyms are Muay gay muchacho.

What do different color pills signify?

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>>42572279
hey there, partner! welcome to our friendly board (don't mind the silly trolls and the like!). i'd like to officially welcome you to our cool kid club with a dank meme!
>>42572658
silly nooblet! colors are simply the way they are because of how the sunlight bounces off of things

>>42572692
Green, Red, Blue, Brown Iron & Purple. Please guide me I am lost.

>>42560561
Go on youtube and look up the getting things done system. Did wonders for me in college and now I'm killing it there.

>>42571432
Anon, i need more knowledge of exactly what you said.
Where should i learn more?
>reject the nihilism, the self-pity, the depression.

>>42564216
I fallow maybe two or three weight lifting things on instagram and see those things alone make me want to keep going even if I stall out. So most my self improvement is my friends saying i got it and myself getting up and doing bc something.

>>42563996
how the fuck have you never watched video porn. do you still have dial up?

>>42570033
Buy why is any of these revelations more likely to be true than others?
Why do you believe that quantum mechanics is inherently less insightful when you have (I assume) little to no education in it?

All this talk about RPG's and stuff sound like cyclical thinking to me, ie it sounds like someone with schizophrenia.
This is not an insult toward you, this is exactly how everyone who believes in mystical/magical things, they very vaguely talk and never say anything specific as they more or less talk about their emotional response than anything.

This is coming from a scientist who has to put up with a lot of people who ask me about crystals, I'm not trying to disprove their believes but they do sometimes spout things which I can measurably disprove so it makes me less likely to be willing to try to understand everything else.

>>42573254
No, I live in Appalachia so some houses on the side of the highway don't even have internet.
Growing up I never had internet so I just became accustom to pictures and imagination, don't really like video become I'm not used to it and I don't like seeing naked men.

>>42573242
I'm not that other guy, but personally, Jordan B. Peterson helped me out. While he can seem like a bit of a meme, he has some genuinely deep advice that can really change your perspective on the world.
You might as well give it a try.

Legit question for people here who were losers most of their lives and turned it around in, say, your mid 20s.

How do you get over the shame and lack of socialization of your entire life up to that point to actually make it as a normal person?

I'm 25 and I've been a complete loser for literally almost my entire life, since late middle school/early high school. No friends, no girls, kissless virgin, been mostly a shut in the whole time even with attending college and dorm life, live with my parents, shit job, etc.

It's gotten to the point where I literally cannot even comprehend how to even act like a normal person. I cannot imagine what to do or say on a date with someone, or even how to set up/attend hangouts with people. The concept of being a normal person to me is so foreign I can't even comprehend it,

I doubt any of you have ever been as bad as me, but there's really nowhere or no one to ask about this situation. Any losers like me who ask for advice get told to fuck off back to r9k or kill ourselves. The only place to talk about loserdom like this is on shitholes like r9k where you have people who have dealt with the same issues and so it actually feels like you belong somewhere

>>42567059
Careful with phenibut though, its got quite bad withdrawal symptoms if you take it too often (once a week is ok). Also watch out for overdosing, one time i took a bit too much and it felt like i drank too much and actually had to puke/felt like puking for 5 hours if i moved at all so i had to lay down on bed the entire day.

Other than that i would definetly recommend it, i've had some great days using this stuff where i went from a total introvert to some chad that would strike up conversations with people i didnt even know.

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>focus on self improvement for the past year
>feel great
>decide to stop being a pussy and make a move on a girl I've had a crush on for about 10 years
>thought she felt the same way
>at a party with her
>here's my chance
>"anon! meet my boyfriend James!"

>mfw I had to shake this cunt's hand knowing he'd be plowing her later

>>42573557
I bet if the bf wasn't there you would have chickened out anyway just like all those other times you told yourself you would tell her over the course of 10 years.
I bet she did like you in the beginning but realized you were a chickenshit and got tired of waiting for you.

>>42564216
RSDMax

>>42573459
I know about the withdrawal, any more than 3 times a week is a bad idea.
Even then 3 recreational doses in a week is probably a bad idea.
I practiced exposure therapy with myself by stacking caffeine, L-theanine, and Phenibut.

>>42573634
>I bet she did like you in the beginning but realized you were a chickenshit and got tired of waiting for you.

this is true, I was a proper beta cunt, I realised where I was going wrong though, just took too long to realise

>>42573770
well, take your humiliation and go for someone else
you win some, you lose some

I smoke pack a day, help me.

>>42573785
help yourself
nah but seriously
would recommend switching to a vape and work your way down to 0 nicotine

>>42573785
i found some really good advice about that on a website
CALLED
REDDIT
IT'S REDDIT
QUIT SMOKING FROM REDDIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! REDDIT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

>>42573747
how did you perform the exposure therapy, like what did you do?

>>42573824
exposed penis to a bus full of kids

>>42573824
and i said therapynis, wanna succ

>>42573824
Well I was going to college at the time so I would just do the generic "say yes to everything, talk to people, join clubs, try to get into parties" which usually doesn't help an autist since they'll fuck up and the bad experience will only stifle growth.
The stack made it where I didn't overthink anything and just felt okay, making conversation not tedious and I didn't feel physically drained like most introverts feel when with strangers.
Would rec, don't take more than 3 times a week and you'll be good baby.
200 mg caffeine.
200-300 mg L-theanine.
1.5-2.5 g Phenibut.

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>>42572330
What's the point in moving if you still just sit in one room?

Get out, get in the sun and the rain. Don't have to do or pay for anything.
Fucking run or hike to keep it /fit/ related. But just get out and away from screens, even if you just read in the park.

>Only allow yourself a reward after you have studied.
>This is my biggest problem I think.
It's everyone's problem in the west right now. We're so comfortable in life there is no goal to strive for, no challenge to overcome besides consuming things to define our identity.
But your job, or what you own doesn't define you.
You just defined a struggle by admitting you have a problem.
It's small, but it's a start.
Conquer it, then find another. And conquer that.

>>42573557
This is honestly a good thing. That 10 year long crush was one of the things shackling you to your previous life. Now you get to move on to a clean slate.

>>42573905
where you buying the phenibut?

>>42573434

I'm someone like you. I'm 29 though.

I'm getting much better but I'm by no means fixed yet.

Big things are to find something that you enjoy and go for it. I tried a few things before I really found stuff and people that I liked. I wound up trying Kick-boxing and found a couple of friends there. For the last 9 months though I've really thrown myself into rock climbing and have found myself enjoying that a lot!

When you find something you like, you tend to find people that you like along with it. Focus more on the enjoyment of the thing and people tend to naturally come with it. Everyone gravitates towards fun in some way or another!

On the whole dating side of things you've now got something to talk about on a date. As long as you're open to what they enjoy as well then conversation will probably keep flowing. Not everything is going to work and that's OK too. You're one step closer by ruling someone out as well as finding something that you are looking for.

My biggest piece of advice is to try and put that stuff behind you. Don't focus on it, don't bring it up. That sort of thing tends not to come up naturally anyway. I think that the only time it ever came up for me is someone asking me what my longest relationship was when on a date. I wound up lying about it, but in hindsight I honestly wish I had had owned it to see what the reaction would have been.

>>42573434
You have to move on and not feel shame, you're a different person today.
Not memeing, I had plenty of problems and still do but shame makes people relapse into shitty behavior, works with autists and works with fatties.
Have a cheat meal?
Or maybe you just sperged the fuck out and had a panic attack in public?
Doesn't matter, you're be dead in a century anyway so keep pushing.

>>42574195
Got the powdered stuff from liftmode, the cheaper HCL stuff.

>>42574298
Will add that while taking responsibility for past actions is a good thing one must truly understand that their past self was the one who fucked up and not them today is the only way too truly get past it.
Look at the successful (as in decent people) past murderers and shit, you see a 50 year old man leave a prison who killed someone when they were 20.
Some and many do relapse and do violent shit again, a lot of successful ones say things that seem counter-intuitive because western culture is obsessed with punishment and righteousness which are not great for mental health.
You're hear quotes from these murders like "I'm so sorry I did that but that's not me, I'm not a murderer" and it triggers normies but it's the truth, that person 30 years ago was him 30 years ago, not him now.

Take responsibility faggot but remember that you don't have to feel guilty for past experiences, be better than your past self and forgive him for his autist ways.

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>>42573434
You fake it. Eventually, your brain and body make it a habit.

Like everything it takes practice.
Workout and spar too.

>I doubt any of you have ever been as bad as me
lose the self-pity
There's always people worse off and better off than you.
You're posting on the internet, so there's at least 60% of the planet is worse off than you.

Give yourself achievable targets for the week. And stick to it. If you get lazy, chastise yourself and stick to it next time!
You only have to survive 2-8 weeks of any action before it becomes habitual.
Then it's easy.

>>42573557
>self-improvement
>thinks a girl is the answer to this or related to this
There are tons of fucking girls out there. Keep moving, meet people, and you'll find more.
Diversify your interests and meet new people. It's really not hard.
Stop overthinking it and just do it.

>>42573242
See >>42571122 for the mega link.
I recommend Brave New World first, and supplement with Meditations.
Then try what this post suggested: >>42570973
From
>An innovative way to do it
onwards

What country are you from?

>Reject
>Nihilism
Easy, ignore it.
Its entire purpose is to sound intelligent while it strips away everything that stands between you and pointless consumerism.

Being critical of something is fucking easy.
Making things is hard.
It's why everyone is critical now, because no-one can create anything really. We just buy it.


>self-pity
Self-pity stops you from ever improving. It's wallowing in shit so people feel sorry for you. But you lose respect when you do. Respect takes a lifetime to build, is it worth throwing it away for sympathy?

There is always someone worse off, and better off than you.
Always.

>Depression
is tougher. Try reading around Stoicism, Buddhism, and Taoism. Understand to focus on what you can control, and keep things in balance.
Peterson is a good start point as the other anon said though.

The more you learn, the more you see how bad things are. Take it one step at a time.

>>42547897
I came here looking for exactly this.

Does anyone have a daily schedule that they stick to? One that accounts for working 9-5 while still pursuing fitness and other goals?

I'm i terested to know how you guys handle it all.

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>acne is caused by sebum production
>testosterone affects sebum production
>masturbation affects testosterone

So why doesn't masturbation cause acne?

>>42574473

Because fapping doesnt affect test levels except for a slight tiny lift in day 7 ehich is insignificant in the grand scheme of things

help /sig/ do I pledge a frat next year. I feel like I've been missing out on the college experience shit, but I'm also not even close to a chad

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>>42573346
Not him but...
>quantum physics
the broad strokes are not hard to grasp.

Tom Campbell here explains it.
It's long, but if you want to know the fundamentals of QP, 2 hours is a bargain.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=t_RwcGzGurc

>>42574450
Schedule things. You'll be more productive which only feeds into motivation for more self-improvement.

Its like working out; focus on a different areas of yourself each day, and give yourself rest days to recover.

And if you have a commute, try use that time.
If by train or bus, load some non-fiction pdfs onto your phone instead of playing games or searching the net.
If by car, audiobooks can work, but desu I feel they just distract you while you drive.
But if you can do both, then go for it.

You'll be surprised with how much free time you actually have.

>>42574501
You're over thinking it. Stop thinking and do something! Start noticing the shit around you rather than trying to have College Experience™ and realise you're capable of defining what sort of experience you want.
But if you are there, fucking get your head down to get a good grade, and networking is always a good investment.

>>42573434
>>42564220

>>42570660
I feel you. Was an excellent student in school because many subejcts interested me and from them i had such marks that the subjects that didnt interest me didnt matter. Then University hit like a train because i had no discpline what so ever. Only managed to do it because my mom studied with me, I'm not kidding. She basically forced me to apply myself to the study by forming a study group with me. Alone i wouldnt have stood a chance

>>42574545
what if I want to pledge a frat but might be too autistic and made fun of

>>42552363
Khan Academy.
Wikipedia.
lib.gen for free bookz

>>42574450
>wake up at 6
>stretch, shave shower
>put on suit and head out to work
>enjoy the 2 hour commute ahead of me, read (currently reading Why Nations Fail, Meditations and The Art of War)
>get to work
>eat breakfast (bring some oats with me in a tupperware, eat that with raisins/blueberries and milk - cold, it's surprisingly nice)
>work
>gets to lunch
>either go for a 20 minute run around Hyde Park and then eat, or eat lunch prepared the night before
>work
>clock out
>more reading on train or if I'm tired I listen to a political podcast
>get into station at 7pm
>walk 5 mins to gym
>work out for about 2 hours
>go home
>cook dinner
>cook tomorrow's lunch
>check up on my vitamins eaten today and if I'm low on zinc/magnesium I top it up with supplemental pills
>hop into bed
>sleep (usually with a quick browse of 4chan before)

>just moved out of mummy's and daddy's house
>going to uni for the first time
>unlimited meal plan
>free, nice gym
>only friends I have here are stoners
>haven't hit the gym besides swimming a few laps yesterday
>smoked weed for the first time in over a year
Lads I need to figure out how to socialize so i can make a new friend group, because I am falling into some bad habits fast, when i have all the tools around me to get into great habits.. Any tips?

>>42574835
>Spend 4 hours of your day commuting
Move closer to your job, bro. That shit is going to fuck you up in the long run.

>>42574847
>just as I pressed send on this the one kid I know there who doesn't do drugs and works out all the time texted me asking to hang out
thank you Gods of /fit/, I humbly accept the second chance you have given me.

>>42564125

It makes sense you'd feel this way, even all of those things at the same time. It's an incredibly emotional situation. You're on the path to a better life, and it would be the best for you both if he would join you in that. A friend, at best, can only do what he can to support someone. That does not include being physically present 24/7 to make sure he doesn't overdose.

Share how you feel with him. Express clearly you want to be there to support him, but also that you're unsure how to do this and that you genuinely care for him being around. In the end it's clear that you do from what you typed here, and anyone would be happy to hear that.

Good luck anon.

>>42574734
Did I mention you are over thinking it?
Because you are over thinking it.

That's a massive problem with people today. We're brought up being told to think before we act, to consider how other people would think of us.
But everyone is so wrapped up worrying about what other people think, the never do anything.

How would you ever learn how to not be autistic with people if you were autistic with people then avoided interacting with them?

You want some simple tricks for getting people to like you?
No bullshit or smoke up your ass, they are simple:

>Listen, don't talk.
You have 2 ears and one mouth. Sadly, most people try to make up for this fact rather than use them proportionately.
Ask questions about what they are talking to you about, and they'll walk away thinking you got on famously.

>Remember names
People love their own name. Let them hear it once in a while, and show you remember it. It's subtle but effective.

>Show genuine interest
people always seem boring. They often are, but theres always something that sets them apart from the other people you meet. Try and find that thing by showing interest in them and their life. Don't be overenthusiastic, as that's creepy. Just fucking be you and question them about things to find what sets them apart from others.

>Make others feel important
Ask their advice or opinion on something, talk about their achievements. Include them. Don't constantly do this, still gotta be you. But it doesn't hurt to ask now and again. Do nice things for people, just don't be weird about it.

>Smile
Don't over do it, but smiling and regular eye contact are massive subconscious things.

NEVER try to prove you are something you aren't. And avoid lies and discussions about politics, especially if you are a /pol/lack.

>>42574909
thanks anon. I needed that

>>42554253
It does..

>>42574875
>not hanging out with stoners when bulking

>>42554090
>Nerdwriter1
im sure this guy can provide some good info, but the way he talks makes his videos hard to listen to.

>>42570660
Sounds like adhd

t. adhd diagnosis, medication saved my life.

>>42548875
Also beat up NERDS

>>42573346
I only made the comparison since music could provide insights into quantum mechanics, and I have less explicit knowledge of music and whatever high level theory that exists in music than I do quantum physics (I having been scientific minded growing up, watching science documentaries and nature documentaries, having thought about the nature of light and consciousness and perception and quantum mechanics).

I only claim that the scientific body seeks comprehensive truths with a dialectic bias of what exactly truth is. Precision is their truth. Precision and statement. The thing is that science was once the pinnacle of truth. Now, I seek to pioneer by using precision/statement truths as the ground in which to create the next layer of truth; precision/statement truths are so common that you can metaphorically walk across them and find new places that "contradict" the previous places you've been (by this I mean cognitive dissonance is readily obvious).

It's the rejection of common dialectics that you refer to. Since precision is too cumbersome for some perceptual explorations it is often left behind. It's like, they just want to stretch and expand, but precision/statement is a clear "wave function collapse", and that just fucks up all the probability wave harmonics that they're making music out of.

>>42551666
i refuse to believe someone is this sensitive and paranoid about neo nazis

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>>42559244
Just do it

>>42574089
>We're so comfortable in life there is no goal to strive for, no challenge to overcome besides consuming things to define our identity.
Great quote.

Serious question coming

/r9k/ says self improvement is the biggest normie meme out there. They say it doesn't work unless you were already a Chad and just didn't know it. Is this true?

The reason I ask is I've spent the last year getting fit and learned how to dress properly, changed hairstyle etc. and nothing changed. I also become a lot more social going out pretty often. But I'm still alone.

Don't get me wrong, I like the change I brought to myself. But I'm still not noticed...maybe it's cause I'm a manlet?

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCuErSr7xeR763BzTJL7yJ7A

The 21 Convention (21 Studios on YouTube) is one of THE best resources you can use for self improvement in all fields of life; social skills, girl skills, fitness, the philosophy of becoming a better man, etc. I will eternally be grateful to /fit/ for showing me this. Trust me, it WILL change your life.

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>>42577278
No, it is completely and utterly false
There are many millionares and billionares that all say that anyone can become rich and successful if they're willing to put some actual fucking work in

/r9k/ is the containment box for the parodies of humanity, if they're against something, it's probably a good thing to do, and if they like it, it probably isn't

>>42577481
Thanks. Man I don't know, sometimes I do get exhausted. I feel like I've done a lot to improve and haven't seen much benefits, other than being healthier which is great.

For awhile I felt I was on the cusp of having something good come my way, but it eventually faded when nothing changed.

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>>42577529
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results.
More of the same usually just gives you more of the same.

If you're not getting changes, it's because you're complacent, expecting life to come to you
Find your comfort zone, and march away from it, Never look back, and take not one step back
Fortune favours the bold, after all

>>42577529
Leaving r9k and pol and the like would be a good idea if you really want to improve. They have a weird way of making completely toxic, bullshit ideas appear reasonable and before you know it, it starts affecting your personality.

Maybe your hard work isn't bringing any benefits right now, but it will in due time. Hard work betrays no one. And it's better than the alternative, which is rotting away while doing nothing.

>>42577720
I actually quit /r9k/ for awhile and i admit it made me feel better. But the first bad day I had, I went back there and been going since.

I actually only went to that board a few years ago when I went through a rough break up and end up there for a few years and they completely changed me. When I got better, I only went to laugh at the funny stories, but I think you're right...it wears on you after awhile.

I think maybe I'll stop it and /pol/ for awhile and see if that helps. Thank you.

>>42574868
>move to London

Lmao, no chance - I'm not a millionaire

>>42573434
>How do you get over the shame and lack of socialization of your entire life up to that point to actually make it as a normal person?

Because nobody knows that shit but you dummy. Stop locking yourself in your own mind

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>>42577278

>/r9k/ says

I didn't even read the rest of your post. wanna be a loser on r9k forever, listen to what they say.

>>42577481
>>42577278
>>42578766
im a complete loser autist who would browse r9k occasionally

the thing about r9k is i understand why everyone else hates the place but when you're a complete loser, we obviously dont fit in anywhere, with anyone. we've gone through life alone for the most part, and we can't even discuss our social problems with virginity, friendlessness, etc with people in real life because we will get ridiculed and humiliated for it.

hell, look at the responses on here just bringing up being a virgin or not ahving friends, you get told "fuck off back to r9k you friendless permavirgin autist, kill yourself and stop wasting oxygen you waste of human life, this is fit we are 'normies' and succeed at life unlike you"

i understand that the place is a cesspool and saying bullshit like "improving yourself is a normie meme" is asinine, but when we are not only rejected by everyone but also cant even talk about our problems with people, its why we end up there with people who actually have stories we can relate to

>>42564125
who the fuck is dumb enough to try and kill themselves with acetaminophen

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>>42551666
> Problematic
> Steven universe image
You're in the wrong place buddy.

>>42551666
fucking lel

>>42550777
get some hobbies. Like music? Learn to play an instrument. Figure out something that sounds interesting to learn and do it, learn to paint or draw, learn a language, read books. Becoming interesting is basically just an inevitable consequence of intellectual self improvement.

>>42566666

>>42573557
A 10 year crush isnt healthy mate. Keep improving yourself, get out there and meet some more women and you will find somebody with whom you can form a real emotional connection.

>>42577278
It can always work out, some things might be more difficult do for certain people though. Also, /r9k/ thinks the only reason to do self-improvement is to turn into a Chad instagram star that parties with hot sluts, so I wouldn't listen to them.

I think you should reflect more on what your goal is. Looking for women that are wife material? You're not going to find them in a bar. There's an old greentext about some grandpa telling his grandson this; it's a pretty good read. Also about not being noticed, you need to take the initiative to make friends. I mean, how many strangers do you actually pay attention to during your day. Not that many, right?

>>42566419
Every time you fuck up that's 1 mile you have to run at at least 8:30mpm

Hey brehs, I'm about to start my job hunt and feeling shitty about the fact that my linkedin is dogshit (one internship 2015-2016 is my only work experience) & I don't have social media - a potential red flag for companies when they do a bg check on me? I'd just say that I had it before, got rid of it and have since been able to use the now free time much more productively.

How much will this shit count against me?

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>>42577813
Read on how propaganda works, it will help you realize that many behaviors and thoughts you have are just instilled in you because you see it everywhere and are constantly approached with it.
If everyday you go to /pol/ or /r9k/ you will be slowly changed toward their views, even if most of them are poisonous.
To get free you just need to look inward and not be around it for a while, that's why real propaganda (think Nazi Germany) had posters everywhere and shit, because if you let people sit by themselves they develop their own more moderate beliefs.

Not /pol/ and not even paranoid, just saying that you should never be around the same group of people or ideals for too long as it will rub off on you, have variety in your life and take infrequent breaks from groups (including /fit/) to keep the mind healthy.

>>42550777
When I was younger I wanted to watch many movies so I could talk about them. Then for years I had to goal to watch 1 per week, so 52 a year. I never managed until last year. Now I'm quite into movies.

Is it ok to go back to university if I will be 29 by that time? Everyone else will be 19-22.

>>42579751
Yes

>>42579751
yeah dude there are lots of older people at university. You're not gonna have the same experiences as the youngsters because it's also their first time out in the world on their own. But you'll benefit a lot from it.

>>42577278
Sure, you might not be rich and have 50 girls on your dick at all times, but at least you are better than you were before.

>>42571298
>You need discipline over motivation.
really tired of seeing this.
He Needs discipline yes, but this have nothing to do with Motivation.
>He Needs discipline
>it is allway good to have Motivation / be motivated.

Fags.

>>42571432
Motivation - Discipline
You faggots are talking like those things are working against eachother.
It is real nice to be motivated, It Best to be always motivated.
Discipline is a total other Thing. Im fucking disciplined, IF20/4, on the Week Raw Vegan + eggs, Training every fucking day.
But im also motivated to go on, i love to feel motivated. Hear a song and get pump up, read a nice Quote and get fired up.

Faggots.
If someone want help to get motivated, then help him get motivated, if someone wants to get disciplined, then help him get disciplined.
Dont ever fucking put Motivation against discipline.

I dont know, this shit gets me triggered...

>>42573557
come on faggot, you know she deserves something better than you!
Keep improving and evolve to an Alpha male.
Then you will be drown in pussy

>>42571432
Will do, thanks for the tip anon.

Guess there's no other way than the hard way. Definitely will do.

>>42578804
>when we are not only rejected
Stop right there. Don't identify with the nerd-hikkimori-r9kanon group.
You are your own person, who happens to frequent a certain forum. That's it.
The sooner you cut it out of your life the better.
What does communicating with them really give you? There is no progress, there is no growth, change of perspective or wisdom, just resentful
people wallowing in self-pity, pulling down anyone who dares to rise up like crabs in a bucket.

>Want to be very productive
>fail everytime

Do you have any tips on how to be at reaching my goals?

I have a good job and I'm lifting 3 times a week, so it's not like I'm a total failure.

But everytime I set myself a goal like "I will get better at maths" or something like this, I loose drive and motivation.

I know there is no easy shortcut. I'm willing to put work into it.