>how you holding up?

>>42262048
Pretty good. How about you?

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>>42262054

My girlfriend said I love you for the first time last night so I'm doing pretty great

>buy car
>get in accident a day after i bought it
>it may be totaled

Just sad I dont have a car

Fucked up my knee doing squats I think by going down to quickly. Tried today going slower and felt much better. Mom says I should stop squatting ATG.
>inb4 underage
Home from college so I'm not going to rent a place for 4 months

Got another month before I go back to college and still worried about loneliness. I don't want to pledge a fraternity again but that'll be the only way I get my ass to socialize. Everyone says "just go out and talk to people" but that seems inappropriate, especially on a college campus where people are busy.

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>>42262048
>spent the last month living like a monk studying for MCATs
>got scores back today- 90th percentile
>hit the gym and did deadlifts to celebrate
>chilled in the sauna after
>the "regular crowd" of 40+ year old guys said they were proud of me
had a moment there... damn sweat in my eye

I got rejected by my oneitis today. I'm going to use her rejection as motivation to hit 4pl8 squat tomorrow.

We're all going to make it bros.

>>42262724
Atleast you tried.

Slowly accepting that between work, the gym, and social obligations, I don't have time for anything else. I just want to play video games, but I guess that part of my life is gone.
Every time I come home from the gym, the "joy" I feel from it quickly fades and after realizing that I have to be back at work in about 10 hours I want to weep.
The sad part is that I don't even like video games or the gym that much anymore. The only reason I continue to go to the gym is because I'll hate myself even more if I don't go.
I should find another hobby, but the only thing that keeps the overwhelming sense of despair at bay is the moment I finish a set. Unfortunately that minor sense of accomplishment goes as easily as it comes.

>>42262048
Just ended things with my gf of 1 year. We got back together kinds for a couple months and it wasn't working so I broke it off because I want to fuck sluts. Going to a party on Saturday with all my friends I haven't seen in a while. This qt.3 is going to be there and told me I'm looking fit. So hopefully I'll smash. Moving out of my parents house in a month and I can stop working 60 hours a week starting in September.

>feelsgoodman

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I have a weird ache in my armpit that I think is my rotator cuff, so I'm icing it and laying off the OHP and shitty-form pull-ups for a bit.

Threw a party over the weekend and it went really well, so other than this stupid shoulder crap all's well desu.how are y'all?

>>42262054
that picture is a favorite

Not too well right now, but I already know I'll make it out even better than I went in, so thats okay.

>>42262921
>The only reason I continue to go to the gym is because I'll hate myself even more if I don't go.

iktfb. I think a lot of us have been there. Just keep at it, don't worry too much about making gains but keep going, you'll return to a place in your life where that fire is present again and you'll be glad you kept things up.

As for myself, shit sucks. My girlfriend is an insane miserly emotional wreck that abuses me for not giving her enough money. I'm planning on moving out with my cat and my computer and whatever clothes I can bring and just ghosting this cunt in a couple months when I've saved up enough secret funds to afford escaping. Holy fuck. Brehs, don't ignore red flags. Ever. No matter how thirsty or lonely or confident you are.

Fasted yesterday now shitting my brains out. Idk what I ate but something went wrong it's straight liquid.

>>42263039
do you have a fucked up diet in general?

>Tfw +2 lb on 3x5 OHP and bench after being stuck for a month always missing 1 or 2 reps
>Still weak as fuck
>Probably didn't actually get any stronger, just had perfect bar path, speed, tightness, and luck on every rep this time

>>42262724
its a lot better than constantly wondering 'what if' good job lad

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>>42262048
>old crush texts me out of nowhere
>catch up and talk for about 5 hours
>everythings going well
>end up saying something incredibly autistic and cringeworthy
>no response
Feelsbadman

>>42263050
Not really I get plenty of meat and veggies with decent amount of grains. Only problem is sometimes eat sweets and pizza. Ate burger with wheat bun for lunch and BBQ pork with veggies for dinner

>>42262048
its my bday tomorrow and im gonna be 22 with a chopped off middle finger from work, can barely lift but everything is alright

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Had a horrible social interaction today, I truly see I just like and enjoy being alone and on occasion coming out of my shell. I don't enjoy situations where the attention isn't on you and you have to force yourself into social interactions.

I used to blame myself and say I hated myself too much, but I have to be honest I just don't care a lot about other people that much. Maybe that's why I'll always be the loner in the office

>>42263075
hmm I got nothing. anyone in this thread knowledgeable about fasting?

>>42262724
Proud of ya bruh.

>lifting at the gym
>the feels come in full force
>tears start dripping from my eyes
>don't have any cares anymore, basically given up socially so i keep lifting
>OHPing with tears streaming down my face
>people are looking
>don't even care

i'm still here lifting and there's tears on my phone. it actually feels pretty good. therapeutic.

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Been lifting for 6 months and didn't get the results I thought I would get. My diet is probably the cause, but I'm still disappointed.

>>42263032
Make sure to check if she's doing fishy shit like setting up credit cards in your name or something.

did a week nofap and then binged on porn for 4 hours last night

I feel like killing myself

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>>42263206
kek same here, I swear I'm going to hit a month this time around

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>>42262048
Fucked, lads. Why is love so irrational? Graduated top of my class twice yet I went full beta on my ex trying to get her back. Begged, in fact.

She ghosted. Won't respond. Even thought of going to her place to see her and person and try to talk.

Ended up blocking her on everything, all social media, and her number. Guess I'll just pretend all this time I spent loving someone, making love, and spending money on her... just... didn't happen.

Fuck, lads. It's been months. I've been on dates with MODEL-TIER girls and all I can do is think about my old 6/10 ex. What the FUCK is wrong with me? I feel like I'm going insane. For awhile I would wake up sick. PHYSICALLY SICK. I would actually throw up thinking about her and how she has cut me out of her life like some cancer.

>used to hold my bicep
>used to say how much she cares
>used to write papers together and sit in class with each other
>used to talk every day and see each other multiple times a week
>used to sleep together
>used to do EVERYTHING together
>even was about to pay for her college

Fuck, guys. I'm going insane. I feel like such a fucking beta but I just can't move on. Help.

>>42262724
No regrets brother. Good job. Hope you get your 4pl8.

>>42263256
you aren't don't worry. You'll drive yourself into a pit if you act like your relationship never happened. Just use it as a learning experience.

Breakups suck bro. A lot. Just remember that most everyone has experienced the same as you, and they made it through it. Give it a couple of months.

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>>42262048
>jobless for 5 months
>tired of endless hr bullshit
>tired of endless interview bullshit
>i just want some purpose in life
>i just want to hang out with friends and not have to worry about how im going to pay for everything in life

>>42263144
Sounds like you need to eat more?

>>42263206
Been there.

>>42263081
Change your perception. No one cares about you either, but normies know how to interact in public. Learn from them to "become" one.

>>42263069
Don't jump to conclusions, mate. Unless you really said something TRULY autistic.

>>42263126
>i'm still here lifting and there's tears on my phone. it actually feels pretty good. therapeutic.
i'm proud of you for not giving a fuck anymore my man
life is better when you realize that nobody but you matters

>>42263206

i fapped 4 times in 2 days (which is very rare, my urges are usually once every 3) and it's been a week since i've had an urge.

i must have used all my reserves. i don't even get the pleasant kind of morning wood anymore.

>>42263256
>Ended up blocking her on everything, all social media, and her number.
you did the right thing my man
now you just gotta wait until things get better
if you're into drugs, 4-aco-dmt is my fav after a hard part of life
it'll help you see how small all your worries are in the grand scheme of things

>>42262678
that moment isn't over dumbass.

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>>42263304
Thanks for the response, fella.

I'm trying. I ended up going back to church and some Christian therapy sessions. I've never felt this broke up over someone. I pulled out my Nikon the other day and found a whole bunch of pictures of her doing some modeling for me at a river in the park. Fuck man, that was a good day.

It just amazes me how all this time can be invested and it just seems like she cut me out no problem at all. Like some psychopath or something.

Whatever though. I'm trying.

>>42263349
Thanks, man. I feel like blocking her was for the best too. I was blowing up her phone like a fucking retard for too long so that's the only way I can stop. I'm not into drugs really, beyond performance enhancing drugs. I actually just started a cycle of test-e to get back into shape. I also do moda from time to time for long days at work or when I have a bunch of shit I have to do.

Always wanted to try shrooms, lsd, and other drugs of that nature but can't because I get random drug tests at work.

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>>42263256

i had a 4/10 GF who worshipped me and i dumped her.

i didn't have that much in common with her, she didn't have the prettiest face, and she was a little flat.

but she was skinny, she was the right height and she always wanted to hang with me.

every once in a while i tell myself 'why did i give this up'. why did i think i could do better. why did i think she wasn't good enough

she was literally the best i could do and i threw it away. i haven't had a gf in 5 years. i have social anxiety up the ass. i was 22 when i stuttered my ass off about going steady with her. i'm fucking retarded.

now i'm on /fit/ working to at least be half the person girls want me to be. the least i can say is that i've grown socially, but i still can't carry an interesting conversation on my own. i can only do that when i'm entering an existing one.

>>42262960
>https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbk4Tl4K8fM&list=PLRQlmBkNGzQ0sYJmIqvkaT0N0dpALB7rH
Do this exercise. Fucked up my shoulder multiple times with bad bench form and with dumb bell shoulder press once. Doing this with a broomstick really helped my shoulders heal up. I also do this as a stretch before OHP and bench and never had problems since.

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>>42263370
>Christian
>Doing drugs
Not saying I'm perfect or that I dont fall senpai but you have to realize that you already have one of the most fulfilling things that there is and that is a relationship with Christ.

>>42263370
shrooms helped me after a breakup. I recommend trying them sometimes

>>42263425
Christ did drugs and also turned water into drugs

>>42263395
>working to at least be half the person girls want me to be

ultimate omega
you did her a favor by breaking up with her

she would hve broken up with you eventually when she saw how much of a colossal faggot you are

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>>42263436
>Doing shrooms/acid is the same as having a cup of wine
Really activated my almonds

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>>42263412
thanks brah. i've let my form go after hitting lmao1pl8, too, so time to start paying better attention

>>42263395
You'll make it man. Don't know if you're still in contact with her, but maybe reach out?

>>42263425
It's long and complicated. I went to Catholic school from kindergarten to the end of middle school. Became edgelord 4chan atheist in high school and throughout most of college. Eventually started going back, reading the KJV, etc. I'm not perfect and know I have a lot to work out... idk. It's complicated for me. I'm figuring that out too.

>>42263320
Yeah I probably do. I've been on a cut and was hoping to put on a little muscle. I've been eating 1,800cal and 100g prot/day

Trying to avoid the friendzone with this new girl. Fucking purgatory of dating, let me tell ya

>>42263370
>Always wanted to try shrooms, lsd, and other drugs of that nature but can't because I get random drug tests at work.
triptamine based psycadelics won't be caught on a drug test

>>42263472
I feel you senpai, I was Catholic and became an atheist in highschool, eventually met someone who invited me out to his Bible study and college and became convinced that god was real. I have a lot of my own problems that I need to work on, I feel like I've started drinking too much to curb my anxiety about the future and also jerk off way more than I should as well as have some identity issues, it's definitely not easy and I have a lot to work on myself but all that Jesus cares about is that we try, honestly try, not to be perfect.

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>meet much older woman during pilgrimage in europe
>we start traveling together, I put the moves on her, we hook up and have sex every night throughout the galician countryside
>see her a few more times after that, she video chats me to see my face so she can sleep
>she gets depressed that she's not able to see me, and the impossibility of our age gap working out sets in
>tell her that she should look into finding someone more her age, want her to be happy
>she does

Eztremely bittersweet feeling.

>have a gf whom i absolutely love
>got a new job a few months back
>girl who works there is insanely pretty, but i never speak to her because have a gf so what the fuck
>girl at work is all of a sudden showing insane amounts of interest in me out of nowhere.
>going out of her way to talk to me constantly and shit, i did nothing to warrant this either.
>shes actually cool, and as I said insanely pretty
>still have my gf who im perfectly happy with, but now im crushing hard on the girl from work
I am 1000% not going to cheat or do anything with this girl, as i love my gf more than anything, but the emotional turmoil this is creating inside me is fucking awful. I dont really feel like i can tell anyone either because i feel guilty for crushing on this girl. the only good thing is that the anguish is fueling my workouts pretty well so theres that...

Lifting's always been my solace during summer, else I'd probably be inebriated 24/7 with all the spare time I'm left to think about my pathetic life.

>>42262678
Unrelated to fit.... What texts do you recommend studying? I got another year before taking the exam so I'm in the market for books now.

>>42263126
Respect

>been liftan for 2 years now
>Weak and look like shit
>Buddy of mine started lifting 3 months ago and he already looks better
>No job no education no future
>Kisless virgin
>Losing will to lift
Should i just kms?

>>42262183
Why not join clubs related to your major or interests?

>>42263602
No because at the end of the day we're all gonna make it brah
You just need to get a skill while you lift and market that skill so you can get a job, just use the discipline you've gotten from lifting and also pick up an instrument or some sort of hobby you like doing, you're probably better off than you actually think you are. I believe you can do it anon

Girlfriend on business trip from work, focusing on routine. Gym, work, martial arts, sleep, repeat. Makes time fly. Didn't get any heavy feels yet so that's a plus.

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>>42263548
You did good anon

>>42263602
Lifting isn't the be all and end all, cunt. You've imposed your own limits to an extent.

Find something you're actually suited to doing, whatever that may be. See your confidence increase. Fuck, don't any of you cunts have capable parents.

>>42263652
I feel so tired from living anon
I don't think I'm gonna make it

>>42262170
Damn anon, were you insured? I totalled a car once by running it (accidentally) into a boulder, but things worked out fine

>>42263665
> Fuck, don't any of you cunts have capable parents.
Nope

>>42262678
Nice job anon! You should be proud

>>42263126
Please try focusing more when you're lifting anon, I wouldn't want you to hurt yourself, but good on you that you kept at it. You'll lift those feels eventually

>GF of 3 years broke up with me, basically said I'm a loser

It hurts bros, but I'm entering Cocoon-Mode for the next year and when she wants to get back together, I'm gonna tell her to fuck off.

>>42263665
if i had capable parents inwouldnt even know what 4chan was

i also wouldnt be smoking heroin

>>42263567
know your amino acids by heart, be familiar with as many lab techniques in biology/chemistry as you possibly can. new MCAT has no pure physics/math questions, but be passingly familiar with the equations. my shittiest section was psych/soc, so its worth spending cram time on. other than that practice tests help, and so does being a DAMN good reader. speed reading accurately saved me an ass load of time, finished each section with about 20 min to spare

>>42262048
turned 22 today, still a virgin, still not happy with my body

so tired of this /fit/

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>Only life goal I had is never gonna happen because of my genetics (I've posted about it before so I won't elaborate unless someone really wants to know)
>Insane Body Dysmorphia, feel smaller then ever after 1 1/2 years of lifting
>Can't sleep because I've been getting dreams about some childhood shit I thought I put behind me.
>Get angry and start hitting things, getting hard to control emotions.
>Feeling intense existential dread and self loathing
I think I need to go pray.

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Does anyone here feel like they were born just to fail.


I'm 25 and I dropped out of college when I was 20. I went from a business admin major to a marketing major to finally, an accounting major (I don't know why I picked that because I suck at math). I hated all three of my majors and I really didn't know what I was doing in school, so I just ended up leaving. I've been working at this easy/shitty restaurant for the past 7 years and I'm finally ready to quit. I want to leave so badly. I hate all my coworkers and I feel like the place is really taking its toll on me. Even though its easy, I still fuck up a lot. I feel like a dumb fuck everyday I step foot into that building.

I've tried to find other jobs in offices, but no one wants to hire a college drop out. I can't even get an easy high school lvl office job. I've tried to get a IT cert, but that didn't workout. I don't really want to go for a trade. I'm not physically/mentally strong enough for the military either.

All I want is to work in a nice office with good people. I just feel stuck right now and I feel like nothing will ever change.

>>42263533
>drinking
Man, been there. I used to kill whatever alcohol was in my fridge then go teach classes at the university the next morning hungover. Best way to avoid using it is to stop buying it and being around it. Includes going with your friends to the bar. Save it for special occasions like concerts, weddings, etc.

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>>42262048
Found out i can only do 1 one handed pushup on either arm and its making me so fucking mad that I can't do more

>>42263737
>and when she wants to get back together, I'm gonna tell her to fuck off.
Let me tell you, lad. That WILL happen. I saw my ex at the grocery store after two years of lifting and she wanted to hang out again. Said I'd think about it and then she wanted a "nice to see you hug" after and I denied that cunt kek. She broke up with me for the same reason. Because I was a "loser." Now she's almost 30 with dried up eggs working a 40k year job. Congrats on being a "career woman" bitch.

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>financially unstable
>classwork is getting harder
>job work is getting harder
>my place is a mess
>can't even lift what I used to
>30% body fat never goes away
>grandmother slowly going insane
>girl I loved moved away
>old friends don't understand me anymore
>New friends are shallow husks of relationships
>no qt3.14159 I want to ship
>don't have time to read philosophy
>don't enjoy video games anymore
>don't enjoy any of my old hobbies anymore


I'm hanging in there I guess. Two more years of this and then I'll be a lawyer or something.

Anxiety is getting a hold of me again
My brain won't shut up

Last few weeks were so good, but the switch got flipped yesterday for some reason

>>42263841
Sit down and meditate for 10 minutes. Set a timer. Focus on your breathing. Let the anxious thoughts come to mind, but eventually be aware you are having them and return to your breathing.

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>>42262048
not so good, senpai. Had a long, busy day between making up a workout and working all afternoon/evening

came home, made dinner, realized how much i would like to have come home to a nice gf. In a really transitional period right now so even if i had the chance to get one it wouldn't be for very long

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Do you guys think that some people are just born to be alone?

>>42262183
embrace solitude. READ READ READ. Learn to play an instrument or find another hobby. READ

I'm not too well, I fell I wasted the last five years of my life.

>>42263883
i think people can overcome that stuff, it just takes work and some luck.

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>>42262048
I'm flying out to visit a close friend in October. That's pretty much the only event I'm looking forward to between now and then.
I wish my life was more exciting.

>>42263883
You probably need a different hobby that makes you meet women casually in a free-pressure environment.

Take some dancing classes.

>>42263868
would just be nice to have someone to "decompress" with at the end of a long day. I'm independent enough to be fine on my own but god damn to i want someone to just "be" with sometimes

>>42263862
Thanks, I'll try my best.

>>42263883
I used to think that, then at age 27, I somehow ended up with a wonderful girlfriend.
I think it helped that I worked to be happy with myself, so I can make someone else happy to.

>>42263886
This is bad advice. No. Join a club at your uni. Add EVERYONE on facebook from your classes. If you see someone in your class, go up to them at the cafe and say, "Lol, Professor Smith is killing me with this paper." Make friends with your professors during their office hours. Join a club or organization which relates to your major.

I'm giving you advice from the other side, lads. Listen to me. No one gives a fuck about your hobbies, instruments, what you've read. They care about who you know and how you're involved in the community. I used to be extremely autistic to the point of eating cake alone during club meetings and would lie and say I have to leave early for "work" or something. No. Quit being a faggot and make some friends. Trial by fire cunt.

Don't get me wrong. Personal development, /fitlit/, all that is important. But I'm telling you, socializing will get you a lot further and will make you happier in the long run.

Trying to get my drivers license.... Taking too long and its making me pissy.

>>42263935
>be happy with myself

How did you do this?
I have a lot of insecurities, family problems and social problems.

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>>42263970
Can I get a gf through /fitlit/ without doing all of that anxiety inducing social interaction?

>>42263970
It could go either way retard. Im doing great right now and i gave the advice. I didn't have any friends until about junior year and I don't even talk to those guys much anymore. I read constantly all day every day instead of drinking and wasting money. It helped me in the long run and I can play guitar pretty well now. The best place to make friends is through a job desu. I made my true friends at my first job and Im still close friends with my childhood budies. Most people in college are faggots and tools who only care about getting drunk and listen to coon toons at bars

>>42262048
Moved to a new city 2 months ago
>apartment wasn't ready so landlord dropped me in with two girls while he renovated mine
>they're both crazy party girls
>after a month living here sick of both of their shit
>fucked a few of their friends but now want nothing to do with either of them
>wouldn't fuck anyone associated with them even with a rented dick
>they constantly do drugs in the living room, weed, coke, shrooms
Fucking hell I hate this apartment. Hair goddamn everywhere. I move out on the first.
>no way to move my furniture up from home so I had to drop $300 dollars on a new bed and mattress for the new place in a week
However
>lifts have continued to go up even 30lbs into my cut
>finally fixed my squat form from a knee injury a few years ago
>work is going awesome, actually lift with my boss and wrote him a workout plan
>started reading more
Life is good. But bitches are crazy.

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Got diagnosed with cancer back in January. Between chemo, radiation, and surgery, this year has been pretty shitty.

Not great, been 6 months since my twin brother was killed in a hit and run and I'm still struggling to get over it in the slightest. I just don't see the point of any of this shit any more, I mean people tell you that you should always carry on but there has to be a failsafe where there are certain things that can happen to you that just signal the end of your run and people will understand if you just pack it in, but I couldn't do that to my elderly parents so I dunno

>>42263764
HBD bro its also my birthday, dont fret, do your best and dont be autistic

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How do I get a cute crazy azn bish?

Objectively everything is fine, but I keep sabotaging my relationship with a hot/cool gf because I can't get over the fact that she had sex with other people in the past. I think I'm ruined by 4chan and redpillers.

>>42264134
Bro, if any of us knew how to do that... let's just say we wouldn't be on /fit/. BUT, if I ever find out, you guys will be the first to know.

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>>42264024
Can we be friends

>>42264101
I'm sorry, man. I lost my brother 11 years ago and it broke me for a long time. All I can say is that it will get better, but it takes a long, long time to heal. Personally it took me 8 years before I was 99% over it, and it still comes back to a certain degree every easter (which is when he died). Don't let that number discourage you, though. I wasn't in pain for 8 years, but it affected me.

>>42263998
I tried to just look ahead a few weeks at a time. Ignore the big problems and work on the small ones I can fix.
Instead of trying to be a social master in one day, I'd just work up the courage to talk to someone that day.
Small things like that are reassuring.

About insecurities. My girlfriend is the most positive and social person I've ever talked to, and she also doesn't give a shit what anyone thinks. My girlfriend has no problem walking up to people and asking them stuff, or dancing down the sidewalk. But I learned a few months ago that she felt insecure about her smile, she thinks it's too big and not cute. But that doesn't stop her from smiling as much as she wants. She helped me learn to stop clamming up and shying away, and I hope I can pass that idea onto you too. Whatever you do, just own it. There was a classmate of mine who had a funny snorting laugh, it made people laugh but it didn't stop him from laughing in class, and everyone loved it.

Family problems isn't something I deal with very well. If some shit goes down in our family, I don't really know what to do. Usually the problem subsides and it goes back to the way it was, so I just kind of hide out and don't talk to anyone until that happens. I don't really have a solution for that one.

It might take a while. It probably took me til I was around 23-24 to feel comfortable with myself. I'm still shy sometimes and I'm not like The Rock or anything, but I've improved a lot, so what more could I ask for.

Sorry for the long post, 4chan is already giving me shit for how long this is.
You just struck a chord with me, cause I was where you were once before. You'll find a way out.

Been hung up on a 5-6/10 I'd known since high school for too long.

Last September I tried to forcefully make myself let her go by telling her that I think we should stop talking because she didn't seem interested in talking to me anymore. Then she blew up at me and sent me an angry as fuck text. I tried to reason with her, but I failed. I haven't said a word to her since. I feel like trying to befriend her again. I just miss watching movies with her and hearing her laugh. We were always such similar people.

2 years ago I had a gf for 4 months and mostly forgot about her. But after my gf dumped me 2 years ago, I haven't had any prospects, and tfw no gf is getting worse.

What do?

>>42262170
Been there done that. No insurance, and got sued. There's always two sides to a coin. It's not the end and now you're wiser and more experienced.

Currently spiraling out of control. I'm pretty sure a girl I work with that I'm interested in is banging another co-worker, like 2 weeks after she broke up with her last bf. That doesn't matter much to me, but it's the fact that I've been working hard to try to become friends with these chucklefucks but I'm the only one putting in any effort so they clearly want nothing to do with me. It's not even a case of me being an unpleasant autistic. Fuck I'm so sad and angry.

It sucks because I feel myself becoming a sadcunt and it's getting harder to fight it when I'm almost 30

>>42264386
It doesn't sound healthy if she's just kind of using you for something to do but not fucking you
Don't ever try to "confess your feelings" or anything but just start showing her that you can provide and protect her and be the mature ambitious guy she wants

>>42264386
Wallow in sorrow and accept that maybe tfw no gf will turn into tfw no wife or kids, and that's alright

After a terrible experience with a girl I was dating, I just gave up and decided not to look for a gf, and that if it happened, it happened.

Thankfully it happened, and she's great.
I guess it's best not to force things.

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>>42262048
>be on bus
>can hear girls up the back mirin'
>trying to come up with a plan to approach me
>they think I can't hear them
>first time this ever happened to me
Started lifting relatively recently. Feels great.

>>42264439
You're putting in the effort so they don't have to and maybe you're coming off as a try hard
Just sit back and watch how awkward it gets around work when they stop getting along

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got back to lifts after 5 years of doing nothing

My good dude from college years is helping me to get in shape. He is ripped football player.

I have fucked up back muscles because of my office work, going to the sport therapist and acupuncture today to start a process of fixing this shit, since I can't do a proper squat atm.

Going to the gym every other day, but those rusty muscles hurt like shit for now, I am seriously hoping that in a week or so the DOMs will be more bearable. As for now, after a gym, i basicly all I can do is eat and sleep, while the other day I am just sore and sleepy all the time. I know its a phase and I've been there, but shit, I wish it will be over soon enough.

Hold me bros ;_;

>>42264462
I took about a 4-5 month break and I couldn't do anything close to what I used to be able to do, and that wasn't even half a year. It was so demotivating.

I got back into the groove pretty quickly. The extra pain and doubt only lingers in the beginning. You'll get there, anon.

>>42264461
Nah man it isn't even that much effort. I'm just trying to find common ground to bond on. I realize I live a weird life but I can still bond over music or shows or whatever. But whenver I come into work I'm always the one trying to start the conversations about anything that's interpersonal. Otherwise it's just trivial banalities used to crush the silence.

When I come in tomorrow and the girl asks me how is it going I'm going to ask her if she actually wants to know or if shes just being polite. I'm sick of pussyfooting around, gotta be direct. Then I can know whether or not to just ghost these fuckers and work on myself instead of wasting another second thinking about her

What bothers me the most is that I actually thought I was getting along with these people and making headway into being friends but it's come to my realization it's all just fake

So sick of being alone, oh well, c'est la vie

>>42264441
>Don't ever try to "confess your feelings"

She already knows I like her. She doesn't like me anymore (she did at one point but I was too dumb to escalate) but I'm pretty sure she hates my guts now

If anything I'd just approach her as an old friend who wants to fix things. I don't really mind if she doesn't like me romantically anymore, I just miss having her around sometimes. We were very close up until a couple years ago, and then she sort of drifted away and I don't know why.

>>42264511
Most people are that way
You need to find a social hobby and sooner or later you'll meet some cool people, then you network and go on a blind date with one of their girlfriends friends and you're well on your way
Trying to prove a point and being too blunt with that chick is only going to further outcast you, go there make money, and then leave and enjoy life

>>42264600
Yeah I realized that but the problem is I don't really like too many social things. I've been looking into yoga and judo/jiu jitsu but the hard thing I work nights so I have to find places that do classes in the morning. And I live in a tiny 100k pop city in the middle of fucking nowhere in Canada.

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I've become very apathetic and lazy. i didnt even go to the gym yesterday, i fell asleep instead. thats huge for me because this never used to happen, so here i am at 3 am, wide awake, biding my time until 4 till i go on a run and then hit the gym after, so theres no way for me to slack off

Lately its been hard for me to motivate myself, and my mood has been more negative than usual. I don't enjoy it, but at the same time i dont know how to get out of it, since i really dont enjoy any of the old things i used to. The only things i enjoy are bouts of vidya here and there, lifting, and some anime. I've cut off my friends/social life/girls to just kind of focus on myself without letting anyboy distract me from my goals.

so im not good, but not im not particularly bad either. just hanging in there i guess. howre you, /fit/?

>>42262678
>90th percentile
>still calls MCAT "MCATs"

Hopefully you didn't take it multiple times anon.

Good work though. Apply to some highly regarded schools and get off 4chan for about a year.

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>>42264665
to add on to this, its not that I've cut people out of my life and am lamenting about it; and its not that everybody i know is a shitty person and im taking joy in it. It just seemed like the necessary thing to do so i did it

I'm tired of being around people with vastly different goals or values than myself. Its as if everybody acts in one way, dresses in one way, thinks in one way, listens to the same music, has the same ambitions (if any) and its detrimental and for the most part shallow.

Nobody around me wants to accomplish anything, nobody wants to do something more, theyre all content to sit around, smoke, play 9001 games of fifa every day and wait around until the next excuse to drink.

Truly, this world is rotting. Does anybody else have this problem? where they cant find anybody else like themselves?

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I've been better. I feel like my husband is slowly losing interest in me, that's why I'm looking to become more /fit/, sincw he's into that. I want to start using pic related, redpill me on it

>be me trying to lose weight
>lost 30 pounds by lifting and eating right
>go to party eat like shit
>eat shit for 3 days straight
>weigh in again
>gain 10 pounds
>WHAT THE FUCK

>>42264726
>redpill me on it
its shit, you need to go 6 days a week at least and at least 1 1/2 hours

stop being a faggot

>>42263552
You're insecure. You can't believe this good looking girl that you just met is giving you attention. You're putting too high a value on that attention because it's stroking your ego. "I must be more attractive than I thought! Maybe I'm smooth! I wonder if she fantasizes about having sex with me?"

My advice to you is this: piss or get off the pot. You're basically jacking off just flirting with your coworker. I'm asking you to pull your dick out and have sex with another person- be that your girlfriend, by shutting down all flirting with work chick, or with work chick, by making your move and ditching the gf.

"Oh but I love my gf more than anything."

Shut up. If you're flirting with work chick you don't "love her more than anything." But that doesn't matter, young men have a hard time meeting women in the middle.

The important thing right now is to stop being a bitch, get the fuck out of your narcissistic little fantasy world, and do something with real world consequences.

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>>42264717
Got the same problem some time ago.

I was addicted to vidya for several years, even during my cocoon phase they consumed +/- 4h of my daily routine. Drop it man, its just not worth it.

As for the friends, well sometime ago was in the same spot. My gang was a group of witty, sharp people, yet theyslowly turned into lazy, miserable dudes who don't want to do anything more than meet in fornt of tv with a bag of chips and booze and complain how everything is shitty. I and another 2 people form my group started travelig, camping, or other "normie" shit as the rest of the group is calling that, I fear we wont be seeing them so often in the future, It is sad since they were great guys to hang out with but now they are just bitter passive agressive dudes who don't even have a will to try something new with their friends.

Sometimes you have to let go people anon to be happy again.

>>42263745
Everything is always someone else's fault.
Grow a pair.

>>42263552
women want what they cant have. re-evaluate your relationship; if your gf is truly worth it, then distance yourself from the slut and ignore her advances

if shes not worth it, dump her, fuck the slut, then ignore them both and move on with your life

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Just hit 3pl8 deadlift after a bit over an year of lifting at 140 lbs.
Feels pretty good desu, even though /fit/ would probably say its shit progress

>>42264796
ive already cut down my anime intake, but the problem with my vidya intake is i dont have much else to do. its the summer and i dont have a steady job, so many days im stuck at home all day doing nothing

>>42262048
>Meet goofy, fun loving fit qt at the end of May
>We hit it off, go out on a date, it goes super well
>She tells me a couple days later that she just got out of a long term relationship and wants to make sure she's ready for something new
>just casually talk until a couple of weeks ago
>out of the blue she starts heavily flirting with me again, so I go in on it
>constantly texting and snapping each other every day
>she's out of state for work but we make plans to hang out when she comes back
>Go out with her yesterday
>have a great time
>but she keeps sending me mixed signals
>not sure if I should make a move or not
>make a move it works out so i keep it up
>we crash at her place
>as soon as we get to her place she goes from receptive to kind of frigid
>sleep in the same bed together but she doesn't want to kiss me or spoon or anything
>next morning she's kind of awkward and gives me a halfhearted goodbye as I leave with a maybe for doing something again this next weekend
>texts today are super short and clipped and then just ghosted me

I don't get it bros. I really like this chick, we have great chemistry, same sense of humor and we have tons of fun but I feel like I'm running into a brick wall here. I guess I should just keep radio silence unless she hits me up again.

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>>42262048

> 22 year old kissless virgin
> start university in 2 months
> finally leaving home

if I dont get laid this year it's all over. Last ditch attempt.

>>42264726
Become a cardio bunny

>>42264869
>If
Self defeating statement. Not gonna make it.

I'm going to call the Dr to schedule an appointment tomorrow. I experienced some minor chest pain earlier, and it lasted for about 10 minutes or so.

The thing is, it's been irregularly happening for years now, and I can go without experiencing it for weeks or even months at a time. And it's minor pain, so it's not like I'm clutching my chest and can't breathe or anything like that.

But my family does have a history of heart disease, so I better get it checked out now.

>>42264827
I don't know about you, but for me, vidya was the root of my problems. I just cut it out and suddenly I had so many time on my hands.

I don't know where you live, but hell, I live in Eastern Europe so living here is not so easy as in the west.

Yet, since I dropped vidya, I am trying many new things and I am having a blast. From listening to political podcasts while improving my cooking skills, reading and pipe smoking, to leathercrafting. Next week im gonna try meditation classes. I have time for everything, despite having a full time job and going to the gym every other day.

Good luck anon,

>>42264882
I want to actually look decent

>>42264844
Do not message her unless she messaged you because she is talking to another guy
This is the most probable reason she's acting like that
Otherwise on to the next one

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>notice I won't come close to my protein goal today
>eat a kilogram of greek yogurt
>make my goal on both protein and carbs while coming in under on fat
>tfw

>>42264930
Mind if I ask how old you are? I've been kind of addicted to vidya ever since I was 16. 19 now and it's not helping me at all in uni.
I'm playing less and less now, so the vidya isn't even an issue anymore, but idk how to spend my time. I still feel young, but there's not much I want to do yet. I feel like I now just isn't the time to "get out and see the world", as I'm still focused on my studies and lifting and improving myself.

Just curious how old you are, as I can only assume that one's values/preferred ways of spending time change when they get older/graduate.

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>>42263602
>>been liftan for 2 years now
>>Weak and look like shit
Gotta clean it up and make some changes bud. Either your program or diet needs some tweaking.

If being a virgin really bothers, lose it to an escort. Hell lose it to a hooker, and than continue banging hookers to get the confidence game up.

We're all gonna make it. Believe

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>>42264907
Do you feel the pain while you inhale heavily, or is is a constant one?

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>>42263786
Go back to community college and get your associates in business. Human resources is easy, bookkeeping if you take a couple accounting classes.

The military will make you strong, physically and mentally. That is what they've been doing for centuries turning boys into men.

Army is huge so many job possibilties. Pick a job you like, do your time, get out with a skill and a resume that says military HR people love military folk.

>>42263767
What is the problem?

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>>42264957
I am 30. I was addicted do vidya for like 12 years, It almost ruined my life, probably ruined 1-2 great relationships I had. Fortunently I am a pretty smart dude and I have great family and friends who supported me,

Tbh I don't know what kind of advice I can give you anon. When I was at your age, I was fucking 8/10 nerd chick and was too busy playing vidya and boozing so I droped out of 2nd best economic college in my country. Thank God it turned you I am pretty gifted in sales and languages anyway so I am making good dosh anyway, but still it was a dumb thing to do.

I was a total unresponible retard at your age, and from your post here I can already see that you are probably more mature than I was in your age.

I'll give you only one hint. If you dont end up with kids by 30, you are hitting the golden time of your life. While studying and in my late 20's I was poor af, now I can basicly try anything I 've ever wanted, its just a matter of time.

Don't hesitate and let your dreams come alive. I snorted coke, fucked a black hooker, jumped with a parashute, now I am making my own gambison and I am going to try out medieval sword-fighting.

Just be yourself and do things that make you happy, and you will meet the same kind of people along the way. Most of them will go, but few of them will stay and that will bloom into great friendships.

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Im leaving this place for good. Its been too much of a timewaster in my pathetic life. I have got valuable lifting tips and the like but it isnt worth the negative effect this place is having on me. I know i might break my promise and come back tomorrow, but i dont want to be an incel whose only asset is lifting. Wish me luck boys.
BBBBBBRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAPPPPPPPPP

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>hurt my shoulder
>out of gym for 2 weeks
>finally lifting again today
>nothing hurts yet
Feels good to be back

>>42264975
It's kinda constant when it happens, but like I said, it happens once a month at most. And when it happens, it's a minor-to-moderate discomfort at most. It's not like I have dizziness, shortness of breath, or anything like that.

I get routine checkups as well. All of my blood tests and blood pressure are fine.

I'm still going to schedule an appointment. Better safe than sorry.

>>42265049
I see. Thanks so much man. Being relatively new to university, I'd get anxious at times about what the future will hold, as it's all new to me. It's great to have somebody who's graduated and lived a bit of life to tell me about how they're doing.
I just feel like sometimes I'm missing out on certain things in life, but never felt sure because I'm still pretty young.
Your stories and advice have definitely been helpful man. I'll take them to heart for sure.
Thanks, and I wish you the best!

>>42263317
Man up.
Accept a shit paying job and work your way up. Invest in yourself. When you started working out you werent pushing the weights you do now. Ive worked myself up to higher levels in a company twice before. You can do it as well

>>42262678
How do I into /monklife/

>>42264099
Can you lift on chemo?

>>42265099
I'm not the person you replied to, but I've kind of been living /monklife/ for a while.
I just focus my energy into things that are important to me, and nothing else.
No partying, no going out with lads, no vidya, just focus.
It's great if you seriously want to master something, but the drawback is that your social life and "fun" are pretty much gone.
I was pretty anti-social for a bit but at least I aced my uni finals.

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>>42264930
you too

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>>42263081
I feel. I used to beat myself up over it all the fucking time until I just forced this idiotic ''I'm only here to study/work, not make friends'' motto on myself some years ago and it's helping bro. Takes the social pressure off there so I can truly focus. I socialize online or when I go to bars/concerts.

>>42263395
Sorry, but good riddance. I mean, sounds like you only want her for the ''security'', the mere fact of having a girlfriend. You shouldn't settle for that. You CAN change, you said it yourself, you've grown socially. It doesn't have to stop at what you already achieved.
What I'm trying to say is that just keep working on bettering yourself, try to let loose, and you'll find actual love soon enough. And even if not, at least you can be proud of yourself over what you've achieved.

>>42263602
Just keep at it, not everyone is the same. You'll get it bro take it easy.
No education? W-well you can go to school.
Forreal, go to a vocational school for example if you're even mildly interested in a trade, even if it's not your ''dream job''. It's not only getting the qualification papers, it's also about actually doing something, new experiences, new people, and way better chances of landing a job.

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>>42265122
Don't think it will do you any good. You are basicly poisoning yourself to kill the cancer, I'll adivce swimming or bike, its less extreme.

Good luck anon. My friend had lung cancer at 28, he beat it. you can do it as well.

>>42264825
Every one has their own genetics to deal with. I just failed a 4pl8 pr try after 4 years. 200lbs and 6'7

I'm fucked /fit/, I've told this story a few times here on /fit/ so i'll give cut to the chase

>Women starts to work at the hospital I work at
>Over the course of a year go from hi/bye at work to meeting up in a social settings
>Get along great with her, while maybe not having the most in common we just get along good
>Like a snap of a finger all of a sudden i'm in love with her and she's in love with me
>Enjoy being held by her more then any feeling I ever had in my life
>Up to this point only had meaningless relationships, literally never loved anyone before this chick

Sounds great right? The issue is she was married but her husband died in a car crash a few years back and also has two small children from him. No way am I ready to deal with any type of kids. /fit/ told me to stop being a bitch and just accept theses dudes dead kids since she is willing to have more kids and it's we get along great and she makes good money. I just couldn't do it though, I just couldn't deal with kids at this stage in my life

We went out tonight, I went to tell her about how apprehensive I was about her kids and how I don't think I could deal with it. But as I was holding her hands and looking into her eyes telling her how I'm not ready for kids I get to the end were I was supposed to say how sorry I was and that I hoped we could still be friends but instead I say "but despite how not ready I am for kids I love you and will do my best to be a good man for you and your children".

Continued

>>42265388
At no point did I even make a choice in my mind to tell her I would do my best, it was like my fucking heart took over talking. Tears started just rolling down my face as I said it. The fucking thing was, the real fucking kick in the dick is I meant it. I can't leave her or her kids, i know it in my heart I can't. She didn't even say anything. She just kissed me, and that single kiss was the most fulfilling interactions I ever had with another person. We went back to my place and had the most sensual and amazing sex that I ever had it it was fucking literally in a dark room in the missionary position like a couple of fucking Mormons. Now i'm sitting here having a fucking panic attack as she sleeps in my bed. This is the biggest change in my life I think I ever went through at once. I don't know what to do or how to be a father figure never mind the fact she is gonna want kids of mine in the near future.

I'm scared and feel like a faggot

>>42265473
>>42265388
How old are you, and her?

>>42265499
I'm 32 she's 27

>>42265473
Congratulations man. I think you are doing the right thing.

>>42265520
If she wants to have kids no problem in that mate. You are 32, your swimmers are only getting worse from now on. She is getting close to the wall too.

Honestly I think sometimes it is better to follow your heart. Yeah it will be hard and you have to get used to it, and help raise kids, but it is one of the best things in life. Especially if she's fine having more, your own. I think you made the right decision, or rather the right feeling came out at the right moment. Good luck my man.

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Anyone else use modafinil?
I use it pretty sparingly, probably dose 100 mg once a fortnight or so.
Took some yesterday and felt pretty good all day. Have just had absolutely crushing depression today. I haven't kept emotional records to notice if it's a pattern of happening three day after each time.
Anyone experience similar? I've got so much I'm supposed to be doing at three moment but it's so hard.

>>42265345
> 6'7
if you're seriously that tall, you shouldn't feel bad, the leverage is really working against you

>>42265567
I'm still so torn about how much of my freedom I just gave up. She was telling me how this is the first time she felt like a women since her husband died. I don't even know what to say.

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>>42265473
Oh man, this is it.. Don't fuck it up now. I think you're on the right way. This is life being life, don't get scared, don't throw it away. You can do it. She's worth it. Be a man.

I am not feeling happy nor sad... just meh?

Gained weighed. Girlfriend wants a lot of attention from me. Can't have my own time.

End of August we are going to live together for a year because of internship. Hopefully she will try to improve herself by going to the gym and not being an insecure woman.

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>Tfw got an exertion headache a few days ago

It's all over lads

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Lets start with the /fit/ shit

Successfully been lifting almost seven months now, and I've been using a PT weekly the last 2 months. It was a great decision because it upped my confidence in using different equipment (cables) and helped me with form and variety. Also set me up on a great leg routine thats rather short. Been keeping a better diet the last few weeks as well, its been my general weakness and has been preventing me loosing fat.

Now for the awful /feels/ shit

I'm six days away from turning in a masters dissertation. Its been a real struggle and I hate academic work. Im almost done but getting myself to the finish is a real struggle. I'll get there, I'm just bitching about it at this point.

The loneliness is something that is slowly driving me insane though. I turn 34 next month and really dont have much to show for my life. I've developed some awful anxiety about women over the years. Much of the last ten years for me have been a shut in. In the last couple years I fell for three different women who broke my heart. I struggle with putting myself out there, I struggle with even approaching women let alone talking to them. I didn't start lifting for women, I started lifting because I was tired of being a weak fat piece of shit. But now that I'm in better shape, and more attractive, I feel even more worthless than ever. I honestly dont know what to do at this point.

>>42262724
she can't hurt you anymore. keep on, brother

>>42265055
see you soon faggot

>>42264930
Eastern europe huh? How is living here not so easy? I'd be scared of getting shot on the street in 'Murica. Well, as long as you don't live in Ukraine or Kosovo or whatnot. That can get bad at times, I suppose

>>42265585
It is normal to feel that way man, but you have to fight this animalistic feeling of sorts. At the end of your life I think you will thank yourself, even, even if it ends badly. But considering your age and workplace I doubt it.

>>42265582
Yeah I use it from time to time. I find St. John's Wort is more consistent day my day for depression.
>https://examine.com/supplements/hypericum-perforatum/

Moda makes me anxious as fuck, even after taking it with food and tea. But it gets the job done. I feel it doesn't solve depression. I feel it just helps you focus on other shit.

>>42262048
>fucked up a deadlift once when i was new
>9/11 you never forget the feeling, terrifying as shit
>deadlifted like negative 30 lbs yesterday
>barely felt it in lower back, can't tell if rounding back
>gonna progress up to 1pl8 then get a friend to form check me
>back never feels sore, but i'm always scared that i'm slowly killing my spine with shit form
>tfw the lifting equivalent of an insecure teenage girl, always needing validation on deadliftz

also having to work on a project using 3 libraries i have never touched before, so that's fun i guess.

Anyone here with a mental illness?

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>>42265855
All I say is that living costs here are higher compared to what you earn here. It's not bad (I live in Poland) but If I would do the very same job in Western Europe/ USA I would have much more disposable income.

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>just had a nightmare
>some big dumb piece of shit catches my ex-girlfriend
>she needs help
>i punch him straight in the face
>my punch does nothing, i'm too weak, he's twice as big as me
>try a chokehold
>can't do it, some other guy comes in and helps her
>she doesn't acknowledge me
>wake up to the words 'i couldn't protect her'

i have to get stronger, anon. i can't live like this anymore.

>>42263256
>I'll just pretend all this time I spent loving someone, making love, and spending money on her... just... didn't happen.
dude, just hond on tight to your friends and family, also your hobbies, you learned a lesson with your ex, life is though and well, she ghosted you probably because she wasn't happy on the relationship, its better to end things up now than couple years later after you love her even more right?
i had to break up with my gf, i broke her heart and i felt like shit, she cared about me like no one ever did, but i wasn't feeling like i was living my life the way i wanted, i wasn't happy at all, i was feeling trapped to something that i wasn't being happy, in the begining it was hard as fuck for me and her, but one day it all got fine and now i'm carrying on just fine

>>42265927
yup same here, reached fucking 1/2/3 and I dindu my diddies since like forever because of bad form

>>42263370
>I actually just started a cycle of test-e to get back into shape
this will solve your problem bro, test e. will make you turn alpha in about one month, you'll feel like a god, you'll realize how shitty natty lifting is and recovery? that word won't exist anymore, your sessions will be intense as fuck, pump will be awesome and you won't be tired after lifting, its literally the best drug ever

>>42266028
>have naturally weak lower back
>during college lifted consistently
>diddlydoos noticeably improved my posture and back strength

i know 100% i should be doing them but i'm scared of fucking up so much lol

>>42264797
never said it wasnt my fault or choice
i just said that if my daddy didnt beat me with a whip since i was 4 'til 15 maybe just maybe i wouldnt spend my days working up yhe courage to off myself while smoking and snorting H

>have gf
>decide to fuck around on tinder because I'm feeling devilish
>match qt
>organise a date
>suddenly waves of guilt overwhelmed me
>unmatch
>she tracks me down through friends (I'm a white guy living in Japan so I'm very easy to find in this town)
>apparently she still wants to meet me
>friends haven't sold me out... Yet

>>42265388
If you raise another mans kids you are a cuck, not a man.

>>42265616
No, she's literally using him to provide for her children from another man. She is manipulating him and he is a dumbass for letting himself be a cuck.

>>42265635
I've been there and it is the worst, but you will recover.

Most important thing is to avoid recurrence while you heal, give it at least a 3 to 4 weeks and when you go back start working back up slowly. Also, focus on learning how to regulate breathing because that can help prevent them in the future. Avoid anything that can bring on the headaches as well such as exertion in daily life like going up the stairs too fast or masturbation.

>>42266127
>Yet

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non-shit version

Dating has ruined me. I don't even wanna meet anyone new. I keep thinking about my past partners and how we clicked and shieet and I just don't have to energy nor interest to put in work and get to know anyone new, how they are like and what they like.

I think that there is a limit of times you can pour your heart out and develop meaningful relationships with people. Then at some point you've just used up all love and romantic thoughts and there is nothing left to give to anyone new again.

Dating stopped being fun because of this a long time ago. And don't fall for the "it'll happen automatically and naturally :)" meme. Nah, doesn't help if you find someone attractive when there's literally zero desire to get to know them or get to close to the them other than physically.

>>42265585
you arent a cuck either. yes you will raise two kids who arent yours but the husband died so its not the same as cheating. thats the only time its ok to marry a single mother.

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>>42262048
I feel beat down, I haven't been at the gym in over two months, my body feels absolutely terrible, that feeling of your muscles getting weaker is awful but I can't be bothered. I mean I have nobody to blame but myself, the self-imposed solitude and never putting any effort into anything has turned me into a complete failure in every aspect of my life, worst thing is I really don't think I care that I've gone this way

>>42266448
Raising any other mans children is cuckoldry if you dont have a debt to pay to him.

>>42263663
I want to be and feel like the wojak in your picture

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since you asked

I've been stuttering less, really trying to work on that. I've been more concious of picking and choosing my words and thinking about them before i speak, so my sentences arent as permeated with "uh" or "um" as they used to be. Also been working on my tone, so my voice doesnt sound like its wavering all the time. Sometimes I'm caught off guard and stutter a bit, but its getting better. Even if its not, I'm gaining confidence

I'm off to the gym, hope you have a good day /fit/

>>42266017
>wake up to the words 'i couldn't protect her'
Fuck that sounds terrible. That kind of dream feels familiar. Throwing punches or lifting stuff that you should be able pull off easily but all strength just vanishes somehow. Incredible frustrating for me.

Liftstuff:
On my first Cut know since I started trying to get out of DYEL mode. Of course the wheights aren't going up anymore and I can't quite see the progress of fatloss yet so I'm anxious as hell I'll just fall back into my pathetic old body.
Yesterday I couldn't finish my routine because I started failing on the last exercise. I hope it was just a down in daily form, but if this continues I'll have to up calories a little bit again. I want those lovehandles gone but getting stronger is my main goal so as long as they don't get out of control it is ok.

Also I started doing MMA/fighting stuff again after quitting for 2-3 years and I'm having a blast.
I was quite a skelly back then and when I met my old training buddy last week again he complimented me on my stronger physique.

Feelsshit:
That qt from my friends circle I'm into just doesn't want to bang me. We are good friends and everything but I just can't let go of my feelings for her. She said she doesn't want a boyfriend at the moment, when I confessed to her but a few weeks later she goes on dates with others.
If she wants the D why not just get mine? I'm easily above them in terms of looks. It really keeps gnawing on me and my confidence.

>>42266281
That's just.. like.. your opinion man. How can he be "cucked" when the guy is dead? Duh..

>>42267320
Because he's raising another man's children. That is cuck mentality. You have no DNA ties to those kids, you are essentially wasting your life by spending time and money to raise them when it won't continue your family line.

>>42263829
Well done nigga, fuck women who look for greener pastures

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>>42266409
good stuff, thanks

>>42267332
will you please kys already?

>>42267360
No. All cucks should kill themselves though to make this world a better place. Low life subhumans.

>>42262724
Good for you man it hurts at first but at least she knows how you feel about her

>>42263548
Oh, the Camino. Good times mate, huh? I'm gonna go again. This time with my girlfriend.

>>42267386
you're such a bitter cunt, it's funny.
kys

>>42267481
>kys
Why would I be bitter? I am just stating facts here and you are triggered by it because you're a beta cuck who is raising another mans children.
You're a subhuman cuck, not a man. You don't deserve to call yourself a man.

>>42263786
stepping stone master race

I am doing ok

Changing a lot of things in my life right now. I moved, looking for new job, meeting new people. I wasn't happy where I was and this is an effort to fix it. Going to find a new therapist in the area today. Been kind of bummed since I told this girl I didn't want to see her anymore last night

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>had to lower squat weight because i recorded myself for the first time and my knees were well past my toes and I wasn't even hitting parallel
>recorded myself today and form was much better and I was going below parallel
>but I had to drop it by fucking 30kg and now im no longer le blue man and have gone back to "untrained" legs and back

>>42263069
>I miss you
>We should catch up again
>I love you

Which was it Anon?

>like girl
>think girl likes me
>being coy and playing games
>get jealous even though we're not together
I fucking hate this feeling.

>>42263832
I'm sorry I don't have any advice for you anon, other than keep at it, and one day you'll wake up and you'll be glad you did.

Your picture made me realize something though. I was always aware of the "manic pixie girl" cliche, and when I was younger that was actually what I wanted out of a girl. But why is that such a stereotype for young, awkward, leftist, nihilistic white dudes? I think subconsciously, that's the way I wished I could act. In movies/books/whatever, the guy is always getting dragged behind reluctantly, but I think that's just because of the social consequences of truly letting go. I think the manic pixie girl is a better self-portrait than the awkward hipster, but nobody realizes it, much less admits to it.

I'm not a liberal or a nihilist anymore, and my taste in women has shifted drastically, but it's crazy that I'm still piecing together the reasons why I was the way I was.

>>42267684
On the plus side I recorded my form for every exercise to make sure I wasn't cheating and my form is actually fine for everything else. So at least if I just stick to not cheating now i'll be well on my way back to le blue man.

> went on a second date with flat chested qt from yoga
> Seemed to go even better then the first date

Am I going to make it brahs? I never really had the chance to explore love before.

>>42267804
you're gonna make it.

>>42267825

Thanks dude.

>>42262048
I'm good but there's times when I feel like the void. Just don't know man. Just don't know.

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>>42262048
My boss doesn't respect me at all and he has been bullshitting his way around certain topics, frankly this is my fault since the way this dept is structured is one of the oddest things in any company. I'm at a point I just don't know what to do anymore, I'm starting to feel like they want me to quit and move on but I just don't know yet, I like the job and want to stay here for a few more months or maybe another year but I don't know if I can last t any longer. I can't stand it anymore

>>42262048
Went down from 90kg to 78kg in the last year,
starting to see definition where there was none before.
Been doing callisthenics and cardio for the most part.
Gonna start lifting again and get back some lean muscle, especially on the chest.

>>42263829
She also gave the reason that she wants to focus on her career too.

Thanks brah, it's been hard dealing with it but stories like this make me determined as fuck.

Success is the best revenge.

>Want relationship with girl i was having sex with, she doesn't
>I tell her we can't be friends and basically i want nothing to do with her
>Delete her from all social media, delete her phone too
>Still we work together and she lives NEXT FUCKING DOOR and i know she will bring some guy to fuck and i'll listen to them and i will feel like shit
>Realise that the only way to avoid this is by finding some other girl before she finds a guy and ideally fucking her so she listens to me
>Cannot do this because i'm not alpha enough and also if i constantly go out and think about getting laid i will appear desperate and not get laid

I don't know how to deal with this. I mean i haven't even thought about her for 2 weeks now(except that i saw her in my sleep yesterday) and i've been working on my dream of learning how to ride a motorcycle(i couldn't even ride a bicycle, i bought one and learned how to ride it in 6 hours), and improved my swimming a lot, basically focusing on my self only during my leave, but i know as soon as i return i'll get these beta thoughts again...

And the worst part is i can't get attracted to women anymore. I work in an island where it's full of hot women in bars but they all stand around looking at their drink and i sit there wondering 'how do you approach them'? I'm not even talking about the 9/10 ones, even more plain ones. Every time i go to a bar or club it's the same story, everyone stays in their little circles, text on their phones and maybe pretend to dance once in a while. Nobody can actually have fun with this, right? And i know women WANT to get fucked, why are they so hostile? I have never seen a guy approach a woman in a bar or club and get a positive response. I'm sure that at this point it's a meme like those /tv/ memes about no singles policy in cinemas.

>>42265027
Wanted to join the army and become a Ranger, cucked out of military by allergies. Many. Such. Cases.

>>42267899
been there man, i left after being pushed to basically. maybe some of us just aren't destined for happyness

>>42268108
If you think it takes only 6 hours to truly learn to ride a motorcycle, you're as good as roadkill.

I'm pretty proud of myself dude...

I feel like I've almost conquered my gym anxiety. I feel more confident.

I'm incredibly far from my goals but I'm a month into the gym and I feel great and fit, and healthy.

I love my life.

>>42268226
That's not what i meant. In fact i'm not confident at even riding my bike at this point. The point is that something i couldn't do my entire life, that is get on a bike and move forward, was actually extremely simple.

I remember from learning how to drive a car that just being able to maneuver in it means nothing. In fact it took me over 4 months to work up the confidence to drive in highways.

However the fact that i would never be able to even consider learning to ride a motorcycle if i couldn't ride a bike first still stands.

>>42263552
>Open relationships are a good thing. If you can compartmentalize the sex, it is only an outlet, then you're in good shape. Just make sure she understands that it's open for you and not her. It's serving a specific need, and if she has that need it's a different conversation, but this is a solution to your issue and she doesn't need to get someone on the side just because.

>>42263256

Anon, in life, people come and go out of our lives.

It is the saddest thing, but you need to find some way to find or build enough inner strength to survive completely on your own. Women are great, but at the end of the day, they do what they want just like anybody else, and we can't do anything to stop them.

The only thing you can do right now is to stop moping around, you don't need her or anybody, build your self-reliance, stop depending on others for happiness, otherwise this will just happen again and again until you are a nervous wreck.

>>42264665
anon that sounds like depression.

>>42268225
Naa

I'm happy it just my dept is kind of odd

I'm the only one in my dept in this state

Everyone else is actually in another state and they have formed bonds with each other while I am away in a different state and I don't even get to work closely with them anymore. My boss says he is working on x.y.z for me and I don't hear anything back from him about it

I reached out via email and he doesn't respond for a week. Turns out he calls me the other day to tell me he is working on x.y.z and towards the end of the discussion he mentions "what he really called for"

So basically he probably didn't do anything he said over the phone and once I sent an email he doesn't respond but called me later to say he is workign on it

It's clear as day they really don't care about me since I'm in some remote office and I'm the only engineer here. Nobody else knows what I do or what I work on

I don't know if it is like this in every company but I kind of have a job where I'm in a dept who everyone else gets the good work since they all work in one office and I work thousands miles away and they just don't know me that well since I'm in some other office.....

Not sure what to do anymore, don't want to move to their state either..

>>42268272
sounds solid

>>42266017
Sort of like mine
>at party
>sitting on sofa
>girlfriend is talking to someone
>is suddenly being lead upstairs
>i cant get up, try shouting her
> she doesnt acknowledge
> get free and run upstairs
>cant find her
> fall to my knees crying
>wake up in tears

I wish i was unaware of the redpill

>>42268546
lol you got cucked in your dreams

>>42268296
Solid advice.

Ending things with gf about a month ago. Fucked me up mentally though from the whole oneitis bullshit. I went on a 2 week backpacking trip basically secluding myself from the outside world which worked a bit but I'm still thinking about her a ton. I've been talking to a qt at work but I'm not sure if I want to get in another relationship, so I'm just lifting and picking up random side jobs to keep me busy. I really wish you could just erase memories from your brain, because the best memories are fucking me up the most.

>>42262054
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA cute

>>42267526
>no prospects, reached a wall in his life and career
>no one loves him, no friends, social recluse
>masturbation sessions usually end up at blacked.com
>self loathing and depression
>bitter

>a-at least no one loves me s-so I'll never be a cuck!

Lmaoing at your whole life

>>42267332
you know, mister /pol/, fascism is all about unity, right? those children need a stable father figure in order to grow up right, and anon said that the woman is open to having his children also, so half of your post is just incorrect. Honestly don't see a problem with him taking on the role of father (even if he isn't ready) as long as he still has that love that is obviously in his heart
I could understand you calling him a "cuck" if the woman didn't want to have any more kids, but that just isnt the case
>>42265473
I think the path the your heart has chosen is the right one, and I wish you luck

>>42266656
as long as hes getting children out of the mix, it isn't that bad

I just want to cum and feel good.

>>42269042
Do you not feel good when you cum?

>>42262063
Good. And you?

>>42267707
I used to masturbate to you everyday.

>>42267749
Thanks for replying anon. I just gotta keep fighting the struggle and I will see the progress once again. I love school for the fact that I have time to research really interesting things about the law, but at the same time I wish I could be spending all my time working on real cases and get this part over with.

And yeah, its weird how things like that click. I've had a few of those moments recently too.

>>42262048
Well, I'm developing a severe case of oneitis for a girl at work, and I have a gf of 3 years at the same time.
I can't tell if she's into me, or just nice, I'm getting mixed signals, she's nice to everyone. I want someone to tell me she's into me to satisfy my ego but I won't do anything with her even if she did. On the other hand, at least if I got turned down it might help put her out of my mind.

On the bright side, she got me to start taking care of myself, my lifts have started going up, I have more energy and my sex drive is through the roof. At least I finally have a gf I guess.

>>42268992
Nice projection. That list of things about yourself and then trying to attribute them to strangers on the internet you know nothing about. Maybe some day someone will consider that a valid argument. Probably not.

>>42264757
Water weight. Just drink 1-2 gallons a day for the next week. Youll piss it all out

>>42264726
You have a husband and you still turned into a fatass. Youre part of the problem, and why so many men just refuse to commit for fear of their wives blowing the fuck up.

How about you just stop eating so much and you'll lose weight? Or follow kayla itsine's bbg program. He already married you so you're golden from here, time to get fit and stop being a slob.

>>42266819
>from those who have more, more will be required

>>42263886
terrible advice

social skills are important

>>42268108
>wondering 'how do you approach them'?
It's really about when. How is such a dumb question, because it's a second guess of natural tendencies. If you're wondering how, you're not paying enough attention or enjoying enough. Timing makes moments..

Skinnyfat dyel with a massive potbelly. Been losing weight consistently. Dropped 4 pounds over the past month. Muscles seem slightly bigger. Pot belly still just as big. ??????

>>42265473
I think you're on the right path. Dont fuck it up.

>>42262102
and the last anon...

>>42268108
>>42269429
Also, if you're interested in a relationship, you should just be telling her she can't see other ppl.

>>42263395
Been there, my brother, same story.
You did the right thing.

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>>42262102
Nice, my gf and I say it pretty often but I'm always the one to initiate it. She's a bit shy/quiet though so it's not a big deal.

>>42264114
>>42263764
happy birthday buddies
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnu2Z0nrdxE

I've been doing a lot of drugs and not sleeping right and skipping workouts, and filling my free time, which I have way too much of, with mindless entertainment. All this has led to a whole lot of fucked up brain chemistry causing a pretty deep depression which encourages me to continue the cycle. But I'm starting to structure my days productively and I'm back in the gym, so things are looking swell

>>42262102
My ex gf said she loves me for the first time during sex, it was the most cringe moment of my life because I wasn't ready for such commitment, but still said it, and she started crying like what the fuck

>>42263425
christianity doesn't explicitly state not to do drugs. and anyway:>>42263436
jesus' blood was drugs

Makin gains in the gym
Uni starts in 21 days, i'm looking forward to the potential social gains.

My diet is still something i have to improve.

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>>42262170
>buy car
>3 months later get into a triple car crash
>shitty NY drivers
>1500 repair w/ 1000 deductible
>student
>get check in the mail w/ the deductible waived
>mfw it was actually my fault

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Not too good. I only get the small time projects at work. I figure I should be happy I'm making over six figures but they only put me on small assignments and customers that only have roughly 40-50 pieces of equipment. We have clients with 700+ and I don't get to work on those projects

Yes, I am new at this company

>>42270032
The problems you not her.

>OMFG A WOMAN THAT I HAVE BEEN DATING AND HAVING SEX WITH CARES ABOUT AND LOVES ME CRINGGGEEEE XDXD WTF

>>42264788
wise words anon
>dem dubs

>>42263786
Don't think you're not good enough to join the military m8. Austists with undiagnosed mental problems get in everyday. And if I can speak about the commraderie, it's the best you'll ever experience. Just make sure you go active and not national guard.

Not good anons
>graduated uni a year ago, still haven't found a job
>only friend has moved away
>girl I've been talking to online seems to be losing interest

>>42272450

literally me

>graduated over winter
>constantly applying
>either get a phone interview and nothing else or no call at all
>girl i've been talking to/been on a few dates with lives 2 hours away and i think shes losing interest

the gym is the only place where i can take my mind off this stuff for a few hours. i legitimately dont know what i'm going to do. i don't wanna join the fucking military.

>>42266127
Lmao
>classic white guy in Japan
>psycho qt nip waifu
These memes can't write themeselve

>>42266127
enjoy being murdered by a jap qt stalker

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ON A MISSION TO SELF IMPROVE
I MUST GO TO CLASSES, GO TO GYM, FIND WORK, LEARN RUSSIAN, HAVE A SOCIAL LIFE
I LOVE HAVING TIME FOR ALL THESE THINGS THAT DON'T CAUSE SCHEDULE CONFLICTS!!

>took MD with two friends
>get talking bout deep shit
>they low-key tell me that I would be successful with girls as I'm attractive, I just have a really dark sense of humour and play the asshole most of the time
>realise how cynical i am all the time and why i've never had a proper relationship
>how the fuck am i supposed to change my personality like this
>blessed with decent face and genetics - fuck it up by being a real life shitlord
what do i do /fit/?

>>42273103
You've been born with autism. Hence why you're here. You need to take a break from 4chan, notice the responses you give, and just reflect at the end of the day if you were cynical, negative, did stupid shit, etc.

>>42273197
100% not autistic, but this is solid advice, thanks

>>42272477
I'm thinking of getting another degree, but I can't figure out in what. Accounting is going to be dead in 10 years, bio/life sciences is full of women and I won't get hired for that. Not autistic enough for engineering/CS, too autistic for business. Considering an hero

>>42268226
you sound like a video game npc

These threads are fucking embarrassing, take this shit to /r9k/.

You are all a bunch of sad cunts sucking each other off, never aknowledging your faults and blaming the rest of the world for your incompetence.

But you don't want to hear this. All you want to hear is "you are great, just be yourself!". You can't really be the one in the wrong, can you?

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>>42262048
bad
realisation i will die alone, i have wasted too much time and will probably never get my dream job and crippling insecurity morphed together and hit fucking hard

hopefully i will be back at the gym by monday and will stave off suicide again. I'm tired anons, really tired

I need to dump this somewhere cuz it's eating me up.
My gf of a year and a half just got us a Chihuahua after I explicitly stated I didn't want a Chihuahua. Little shit just sits there and SHAKES. all this thing does is shake and make the house smell like dog piss, I fucking hate it. We haven't had sex in about 3 weeks, and I'm tired of the relationship. I started nofap and noporn the last time we had sex and now I don't even feel attracted to her, like I could do better. We have a 1 year lease that expires next year and honestly I want out now. I miss my freedom and I miss being able to do what I want. I haven't been able to go shooting for two months because all of my free time is spent appeasing her because she literally can't do anything by herself.

What the fuck do I do gents?

>>42274041
360 and moonwalk away

>>42273735
>These threads are fucking embarrassing, take this shit to /r9k/.

Do you understand the importance of a thread like this and what it does? Don't look at the small picture, look at what is going on when someone is paying attention to a thread like this. Think about what happens when you have 200+ responses in a thread,

These threads are mostly a form of therapy for some people, they are already working on changing what bothers them, they are working on what they need to do and they just need one day where they write it down somewhere and think about their thoughts and what is coming out of them during these writings.

Don't look down on others for sharing a piece of their life on here, you don't know them try to understand who the person is behind the post.

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I told her how i felt and she said she thinks of me as a brother.. need to lift more gotta make it

>unfulfilling career
>no friends
>depression
Seriously considering suicide

>>42274777
Ouch. Have a (you)

>>42274777
Lifting isn't the solution here dumbo... it was your insipid personality that got you brother status. Omg that's even worse than friend zoned lololollol

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>>42274777
Honestly better than never telling her.

Had a crush on a friend for quite a few years. Never told her how I felt and today she moved 2,000 miles away.

>>42269082
oh no man

>>42262048
>started talking to a qt
>complimented my gainz
>sweet talked me for a little over a month
>sent me nudes phonesex whatnot
>one day tells me she wants to be friends
>dont get to respond
>blocks me everywhere
>all media, phone, even some stupid app
>die
>the next day OHP 175 for 5 reps but as i pressed the heaviest physical weight on my shoulders i ever have, it doesnt compare to the emotional weight they feel
>almost cry
>1 week later texts me randomly
>feels came rushing in and she gave me a half assed apology as to why she did it.
feels bad bros, but fuck her. tomorrow i will go for 185. wish me luck

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>>42262048
>think co worker has the hots for me
>we talk literally entire shifts and actually forget to do duties (work super slow retail job)
>shes Moldovan and they are some really oppressed people
>parents don't let her talk to any men, unless they're Moldovan too
>she tells me how she went thru a rebellious phase once, only kissed 2 guys no sex

fast forward a bit

>find out she asked another co worker that she wonders what kind of women I like
>fits her description
>she smiles and sits down and twirls her hair some

>due to differences in our lifestyles I didn't think it would work out between us but curious if she actually does like me
>friend brings it up nonchalantly one day to her
>she goes from talking to me all the time to little to no conversations held
>"yo did i say anything to upset u or somethin?"
>goes on a tyrate how shes tired of how every time shes nice to guys they think that she likes them
>tells me to basically stop being friends and be just co workers


She has done of lot of questionable things to give me the idea she was interested. Including risking getting in trouble with her parents driving with me a couple of times.

Women man. Especially religious, oppressed women.

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>>42262048

>Depressed so lifts are suffering
>Just got done with another crappy leg day in terms of weight
>Cut is in overdrive - I'm having a hard time stopping the weight loss even though I eat more
>Constantly tired, vision is getting super bad so I'm going to the eye doctor
>Getting reduction in hours at work
>Saw a qt staring at me when I working out but I was too tired and sad to say hello

I've been better. Looking forward to going back on campus next month.

>>42275193
bang her in the back, she's probably just mad at herself/full of repressed guilt and rage

>>42275235
>She has little to no self confidence
>Her family makes her wear her hair up, she can't hang out with any guys
>Shes 24 and has to live with her parents until she is married
>Can only marry Russian/Moldovan or face exile basically from her family
>She has 6 other siblings
>There are constant people in her small community that will rat to the family if they see them breaking rules
>Doesn't believe in birth control. Believes you will "be blessed with however many kids god wants you to have."

You can't make this shit up.

>>42275268
holy shit, I feel bad for her. She's probably not mad at you, just pressured and shit, but definitely don't bang the girl who doesn't believe in birth control lol

>>42275286
I feel bad for her too. I've tried to be a friend to her and build up her confidence. I'm a satanist and she knows that and shes like a literal hardcore christian. Shes really in to reading books and poetry and I've found some I've liked and shared it with her. Sucks to see her throw away a friendship so crazily but at the same time I didn't lose much. Only time.

>>42264907
Go vegan if u want to eliminate that problem, it worked well for me

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>>42267332
>>42267526

look retard, everyone here knows you're objectively correct

but even if you are, you still have to let the man learn for himself that he's a cuck

telling him he's a cuck won't overwhelm his fee fees at this point, because he's so desperate for human affection and hopeless about his future prospects he'll attach his identity and future to any woman who happens to wander into his life

so just let him figure it out for himself, sometimes men have to learn the hard way

>>42272477
>>42273619
Stop being bitches and join the Army as an intel analyst and then go private sector after.
>TO. DAMN. EASY.

>>42262724
That's a lot more than many of us /fit/ bros have done. Get after it man.

>>42275268
Sounds like a pretty stupid bitch Anon; plenty more pussy out there that ISN'T crazy. Don't worry about it.

>>42275851
Yeh I feel this way too. I'm more worried that I'm going to have more shifts where its only me and her and I end up bored as fuck.

>>42262921
Wow are you me?

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Past few months lost a ton of weight and dropped to 165 but I had Five Guys today. Can't complain.

>>42262183
Look up the bill starr rehab program for your first problem.

And when you're done with that and finally go back to lifting heavy, remember to make "tightness" your top priority. Never go down so fast that you lose tightness in the hamstrings or core and you'll be alright.

Provided you aren't doing low bar keep going atg too don't listen to anyone who says otherwise

>>42263602
>Weak and look like shit
Do yourself a favor and download one of the many calories tracking apps like MyFitnessPal. I personally recommend fatsecret.

You need to eat in an excess of your base rate, and make absolute sure you meet that goal and get enough protein daily. Lift heavy and don't worry about how you look until you get your numbers up. Starting Strength isn't a meme and will skyrocket your lifts if you follow the program.

Good luck bro.

>>42271098
I don't mean it like the kids on internet using this word nowadays, but like original meaning of this word.

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>>42262048
>tfw been depressed all day and went to the gym anyways but ended up just leaving early
Fucking sucks man. I'm so broke up inside that I can't even lift or exercise. I just want to veg out in my bed and stare at the ceiling and wither away.

>>42264788
this is good advice and I hope that faggot follows it

>>42266268
haha what the fuck, how can you be this dense.

>kids whose dads die deserve to grow up without dads b/c of my autistic philosophy

>>42266430
think about something besides girls for 6 months to a year, and it'll come back. Don't worry anon.

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>came so far
>look in the mirror and like what I see
>have always had things get in the way of what i enjoy
>ace all my EOC's in high school, but family stress and lack of sleep hit hard
>barley passing
>Love wrestling, train hard to win states, only reason I wake up at this point in my life
>Beat the 3rd place state qualifier a weight class above me in a unofficial post season tournament
>walk in to the practice room the day of districts, all packed for the trip and hotel room the school is paying for, actually happy.
>coach hands me a piece of paper
>"You fucked it up, no one else", "Get out before I throw you down the stairs"
>Keep pushing through it, "it'll get better I know it"
>ffw few weeks ago
>at this point still have never found a relationship
>like someone though, pretty sure somethings there but very careful not to put myself in a vulnerable position
>she makes me want to change, plan on quitting smoking (weed every now and then not everyday), on really trying this coming colllege year,
>Have really come far, hadnt visited 4chan in months
>got all my paraphernalia, a little oil, scale, giving it to a close friend, instead of trashing it all
>Siren
>heart sinks, eyes blanken
>apparently someone stole a vesicle matching the description of my car
>intent to sell, possesion,controlled substance my whole life fucked in a second
>girl I was talking to finds out, thinks im a delinquent
>it feels like the universe doesnt want me to succeed....
>but thats not the case
>it's my own fualt, no one elses, remember what my coach said
......I havnt gone to the gym or ran in 2 weeks, barley have showered, sleep all day

Leave me behind brehs.....

I'm not gonna make it

>>42269272
I weigh 49kg at 1,58m you mongoloid. Thanks for the tip though.

>>42262048
Met a 10/10 girl at the library the other day. Got her number, talked for ten minutes, scheduled date, hugged. We were texting and she kept sending long replies and smiley faces. We had a date scheduled, and then one night she just stopped responding. Strangest thing ever. I'm kv so I got pretty attached, only to be dropped. I think she saw my FB profile and realized I'm a loser, so can't really say she was wrong.

>>42264788
was lurking, needed this