Love ultimately depends on aesthetic. Frivolity is important too, however I consider this obeys the rules of aesthetics. It has to be aesthetic to be considered genuine and genuine to be considered aesthetic. This appearance of genuineness is what attracts people to one another.
This is why I can still be a person with favorable traits (handsome, fit, wealthy, confident), but without pleasing to generic aesthetic I will never, and have never found love. It's interesting that the more effort I put into being more competent, that without aesthetic, I will only become more susceptible to experience additional loathsomeness. Remaining in the comfortzone, enslaved to habits, loneliness, low confidence, obedience, acceptance to denial, would save me a lot of trouble if my goal had been to find love through self improvement.
You don't need any quality if you are aesthetically pleasing and/or frivolous in nature. These are the only ingredients needed to find and foster love. This is why utter mongrels with shit genes, poor hygiene, and low intelligence, get laid with anyone, while an intelligent, strong man such as myself is intently avoided.
Love has no mystery.
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>>42220114
You get it wrong, being aesthethic only boost your confidence because you respect yourself, because you know the hard work you are putting on it. So all the negative thoughs are more simple to eliminate. Is like when you apply for some permit, you bring papers that proves that you have done the requirments, you can lie, but having the papers is more dificult to do it.
It. former fatty
>>42221252
appearances might make you impressionable and can get you some mainly social gratification. With current social norms dwindling whatever you achieve on a personal level it becomes even harder to be impressionable when you're not into sluttiness/ a slut yourself.
this all can get you places however you can still fail to appeal on a social, interactive level, even if you have a promising physique/characteristic.
This is what I've tried to say, implying that interactive aesthetic (chadness) is needed to find love, not physical attraction. Even the latter is difficult if you're not easygoing. The fact that you're a still disappointment is not making the process of continuing to become more fit easier, now that I know people start noticing I work out and still I don't seem able to connect with anyone.
This seems to define my existence, and becoming stronger means I get to experience this essence of me better, instead of going back to my unstable risky old self, not caring about fuck all.
I guess I didn't know what to expect getting better and achieving relative success, which was actually my only goal. I just find out there is no use expecting to magically change everything. I'll still be an oblivious autist with unanswered wants.