Self Help

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>>41353889
If only I knew, friend

KAAAAAANEDAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA

>>41354105
lol

>>41353889
you need to get a job with real responsibility, not some sort of slacker position. Having a sense of purpose even if it's a physical labor job just puts you in a mindset that you WANT to be ready for work therefore not to make bad decisions to hurt it. The rest of the steps can be achieved through hanging out with friends, dates, travel, all sorts of methods.

>>41354134
OP here.

I'm currently working a 40-hour a week job in a factory. It's not the kind of job you can really slack in, I'll admit.

>>41353889
You're trying to punish your bad habits with negative reinforcement. That doesn't work. You have to reward positive habits with positive reinforcement. For example, you should be able to feel/measure yourself getting stronger from lifting. That sensation of success will motivate you to keep on lifting.

>>41354134
OP again. I've had the idea of living alone in a dorm, or perhaps even serving in the marine corps to force me to actually get some responsibility. The weird thing is, I'm not sure if that'll actually help, because at a job, I actually like doing the work, and almost always complete what I put my mind to. I'm able to function without procrastination and all that in a workplace, but as soon as I return home, I go to my room and the cycle continues.

>>41354353
The immediate solution is simple, keep yourself out of your room as much as possible. Spend time in the nearest library, park, cafe, whatever. Just stay out of your room.

>>41353889
Seems like you have a strong case of Faggotitis.

>>41353889
brah,

>>41353889
>to defeat problems like Procrastination, Laziness, Social Awkwardness, and an Addictive Personality?
There's no such thing as defeating a problem.
Succumb or struggle. There's nothing else.

hit rock bottom that should straitin u out

>>41353889
>help me, i have common problems
no

>>41353889
tackle shit one problem at the time
I had some history as well
first there was drug use
then depression
then smoking
and finally alcohol
I quit one substance after the other
depression got better
still addictive personality, but abstinence works better than management in that case
just hang in there friendo

i need to get some things off my chest so im jus gonna dump em here.
i fap, i fap a lot, 4-7 times a day if i dont go to uni. I have anxiety, ejaculation reduces anxiety, constantly watching porn and dopamine rushes makes it worse. Im addicted,for years now, i dont want this, i dont want to limt myself, i dont want to feel like tired, observed,lazy
i used to weight 77 on 2015 , i had abs godammit, i now weight 113 kilos
no more, no more weed,no more vidya, no more masturbation, i know who i was, i know who i want to be, and i know what must be done.

>>41353889
I found myself in a similar spot. Get a Passion Planner, my dude. Sounds faggy, but it really helps you plan out your goals, and make yourself find ways to achieve progress towards those goals each day until they're completed.

The only trick is that you actually need to use it, and not get lazy or procrastinate on filling it out.

>>41353889

I had a friend tell me a long time ago "You will get better when you feel sick and tired of feeling tired and sick". Proved true.

Around Christmas, for various reasons, I found myself thinking "I can't do this. I can't live this. Something has to give." I got a referal to go see a psychiatrist. I walked out with 4 scrips for L-lysine dextroamphetamine. That went a long way towards dealing with procrastination and laziness. It was so amazing it was actually really scary. All of a sudden I can just do course work, start cleaning and fixing my apartment, stick to a diet and exercise routine. So look at the possibility of ADD or at least ADD meds. Or even just going to see someone to try and work on the neurochemistry angle.

Social Awkwardness and an Addictive Personality, I can't help with. I will say this. If you're happy and relaxed it's much easier to be social. If you're productive and doing things you enjoy, rather than just things that make you numb or distract you from your life, it's much easier to be happy and relaxed. After that it's like anything else. Practice. Spend time around people talking to them.

Didn't read any of that, get professional help.

See a psychiatrist or counselor at a local community college for free.

>>41353889
I haven't finished it yet but I (and scooby) would recommend getting yourself a copy of 7 habits of highly effective people.

It's mainly about living a truly fulfilling life.