Who is she, /fit/?

>>41091374
ur mom

No one, I got over the cunt.

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Sigrid.

It's been only two weeks so far, but my heartbreak is still crippling.
Since two days I've been fighting the good fight and trying to replace her with iron, but it's been really really hard.

I'm anxious and sometimes I'm on the verge of tears for no true reason.

What hurts me the most right now is that she already has someone else and has replaced me completely.

Here I am, with my every thought going out to her, while she has completely forgotten me. Not worthy of a single thought.

This pains me deeply.

I'll be stronger... eventually.

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>>41091419
Keep lifting anon.

>>41091374
In the future i'll probably laugh about it, but right now it's not so funny

We got close to each other in late january, first kiss early february. Since then we met up every few days, i ran game etc, did it right.
There were red flags that she's batshit in some ways (weeaboo, kind of a loner, stuff like that), but i chose to ignore them.
But very often she found excuses not to meet, made it very difficult. this would have been a closed case for "not interested" if she wasn't unbelievably sweet and loving when we were actually at the same place, a total contrast to her over text. And it's not that i fell for her and then interpreted her mere presence into her being in love, she actually was like a little girl with a crush... but only when we were not more than a few feet apart. this went on for a few weeks, and it bugged me evermore that she was kind of "avoiding" me, so i called her out on it and broke it off. later that same day it made click in my head, and i called her again. she confirmed my suspicions as to why she was doing this, it was because she heard through the grapevine that i'm just using girls for sex and then discard them... which is sadly true.
But aside from her weird personality problems which were irritating, but resolvable, she was as close to perfection as you could get for me...
She has a huge caring and nurturing instinct (this one time we went for a walk with her dog and came by some horses.. She said that "they look way too thin" and started to collect grass from the ground until she had this huge bundle of grass she then proceeded to feed the horses with). She also has a great body since she trains almost every day, which is very important to me that a girl does this by herself.
There were tons of sides that shone through that made me for the first time in my life go "she might be worth respecting and not manipulating, have a real relationship with and if that goes well for a while keep for marriage and children".

>>41092094
After i called her out on her avoidance we were again repaired for ~a week... and it became a cycle of making up, mutual sorries (i did some very dickish things, i'll come to that later) and then doing the same shit again.
One of the two recurring things i was most irritated about was that she wouldn't trust me. Whether it was big or small.. An example for a small thing was this: we were walking somewhere, when out of the blue i pulled her in another direction and told her "come with me". Just little stuff to have fun and she wouldn't play along for the life of her. It manifested in this and in big stuff also..
The other thing i hate her for are things like these:

(character limit fuck off)

>>41092102
We made plans to have this whole day for us, until we went to training together with one of her girlfriends. But she from the beginning said that she was going to donate plasma with another girlfriend in the morning from 10 to 12 or something. Of course, this was not the problem, i could go lift in the meantime. When i came back home i texted her that i'm gonna come over in half an hour (15 min bicycle ride from my home to hers). She answered me that she just went out with her dog to this.. not really park but whatever (the way to and from meant that she's gonna be gone for about 3 hours). WTF. Okay, she was back home and it was already 16:00 or around that time. Then her next excuse was that she was tired and just wanted to take a nap for an hour. I told her to fuck off and went over. Half an hour later her eternal cockblocking ugly girlfriend showed up and that was that. She knew exactly what she was doing for the whole day.
This started our cycle anew, and she recognized what she was doing wrong, even told me that she was sorry for stuff i didn't bring up as an example, so she knew what i meant. She said she was going to stop it but of course again didn't. She always fucking let every little thing come into our plans, and only our fucking plans. She didn't spontaneously flake out on her fucking cunt of a friend, but me, sure, take the 50th fucking rain check. Rustled my jimmies fucking hard.

>>41092109
I already said that i'm kind of a manwhore, so what had to happen happened. I met this girl, she was hot for me, she had a great ass. I started to get to know her, added her on snapchat, met up to do little stuff, afterwards she sat on my lap, we smelled each other's necks and stuff like that, but she always told me "i want to kiss you/fuck you (situation, lol) but i won't since you have a girlfriend". Before i had anything with #2, i told my girlfriend (the girl this whole thing is about, maybe should have clarified that) when i was sleeping over that it's in men's nature to fuck other girls. We can't change it and supressing does no good. The reason most stay faithful is not because the men choose to, it's because they lack the skills and balls to risk pissing off their spouse. She was kind of accepting but sceptical, which is more than i initially expected, went pretty easy to explain this stuff to her ("but why can't the woman fuck around too then??!").

I haven't had a crush in years. It would be kinda nice but in the end it would propably have more downsides so I am pretty happy being the emotionally dead fucker that I am.

>>41092114
So one time #1 royally pissed me off again. So now i became kind of cruel also. Damn we fuck each other up. Instead of confronting her about the stunt she pulled, i spooned with her, her facing away, and told her every single thing i've done with #2 over the last few days. I told it in a way to fuck with her head. When i was finished she asked me with a (maybe broken? i couldn't know for sure...) voice why i was telling her about this. I just said i wanted you to know. She told me that she didn't want to see photos of her (ealier i said that maybe i'll show her some) since it would just hurt her.
I did all that so that she knew i had options and was choosing her to be my girlfriend, not fwb or anything, and i was doing all this while having worth myself and preserving my worth even though i was commiting to her... i'm a headcase i know.

I haven't been absolutely head over heels for a girl since the one I lost my virginity to. Even though now I realize she was a manipulative sociopath

>>41092124
Fast forward to another weekend. She was on a seminar (ninjutsu... look i told you she's a weeaboo. But this stuff actually seems to be legit as fuck).
Saturday evening she texted me how COOL this was. Ok this was normal still.
Then she told me THREE things from the whole fucking weekend.
First: This i so cool! And "Name" directly came over and massaged my back and greeted me <3
Second: A high level dude said she did some technique right and a blackbelt didn't, and this "Name" wants to talk to them (she was there with her local dojo)
Third: [Stuff] And at the end "Name" said "oh, come on little girl, i gotta hug you a last time"(sounds way better in my language and way more.. flirty)
So i thought ok for some fucking reason she wants to make me jealous. I can play this game way better than she can, and i will play this once to show her and then tell her to never again do it or fuck off.
So i met up with #2 on the same fucking day for "training" and afterwards went to a park in the city, sat on benches, her leggingscovered ass pressed on my dick, me touching her between her legs yadda yadda. And also i told her to take a picture of us just like that with my phone. I set the caption to "two can play this game" and sent the snap to my girlfriend. She was halfway ok with me fucking around, but i did the one thing she asked me not to do. She probably thought i fucked her brains out while she was gone far away. Oh well, but at least i can say she started it.

This was Sunday, april the 2. (we're almost arrived at the present! yay!)

>>41092129
The day after she texted me that she didn't like that and that i should be together with #2.
So my plan worked but i got justice more than i desire.
As soon as i could i drove over to her house and waited for her. We kind of made up that day. The problem was that she was going to be gone for the following two weeks, which every student here has off.
What she didn't knew that i knew, ist that she was actually going to leave for this gay island in the netherlands a week later than actually planned because of.. medical reasons pertaining other people.
On the last thursday, the day where we normally go kickboxing together and we actually are together from 18:00 to 24:00 (so not only training.. it's kind of "our" day) i lied to her and said i couldn't come today, since i felt that she was still kind of withdrawn since our last falling out. Then she texted me during the day saying that she misses me and wants to see me before she's gone. But she also is hurt because of the other girl, and that all this is a very stupid situation, since she does actually like me.
This was weird. So she does want to see me, but she still says that she will be gone the whole next week... which she won't.
So from friday on till sunday we again were telling each other in what ways we were pieces of shit to each other and so forth.. again. Then i told her i knew that she's here, but avoiding me even though she said she wants to meet me.
So from the last sunday to tuesday we multiply broke up with each other and made up over telephone again, text was for long texts and breaking up, telephone for making up until the next morning.

>>41092133
And then finally.
We agreed to see each other this thursday, the last fucking day she actually will still be here until she leaves.
The day was supposed to be our first healing and happy experience we made for 2 weeks. We said that we are going to start everything new, she's gonna start working on her trust issues with my help (making babysteps), stop doing this thing where she let's everything come before me, even when we already had plans and i also was going to stop doing numerous things, the biggest was toying around with her emotions so much and being unfaithful. We were supposed to have 4-5 hrs for ourselves, finally. I had suspicions from earlier behaviour, but i gave her the benefit of the doubt.
So i ringed her bell at ~14:30
We greeted each other very cordially, she's again in loving puppy mode. She tells me she just has to do some stuff her mother out of the blue told her to (cleaning the house, which she has NEVER done, they even have some fuck come in and clean it for them). Deep in my mind alarm bells rung but i was already there. I stayed aloof and watched her fumble around with a vacuum cleaner, making fun of her when she fucked up and lightly kicking her in the ass when she walked by. The chemistry was perfect in that moment, but i didn't come to watch her clean the house. Then it was the upper floor. I gave up and just lay down on her bed face down. After a while she came in and started packing her things for the fucking vacation. It was at this point that i asked her if she was fucking kidding me. That she KNEW what she was doing, that she arranged every fucking chore in the universe to be in exactly the part of the day we were supposed to make up, the most important day we'd have together EVER.
I was pissed that she was doing the same thing she was supposed to stop doing today, today.

>>41092136
Now comes the next thing: the reason we were meeting up thursday not wednesday was that cockblock uggo friend had her birthday on wednesday, and #1 was her best friend and cockblock probably wanted to do something with her. No problem, we got thursday, right.
Nope. Literally seconds after i read her the riot act again about her behaviour the door bell rung. it was 15:40, training starts at 19:30 in the same fucking village. So i just took my jacket and went home. In the evening #1 asks me over text "so... is that it?" and i told her yes.

I didn't fucking want to, but what can i do... she knows what she does, apologizes profusely and then doubles down on it. She knew exactly how the day was going to go down and went ahead with it, knowing that it was our new start.

So now she's on this gay island and has as a whatsapp status a selfie of her holding some faggy looking idiot like they're together. Since she knows how fucking nuclear i react to this stuff. I bet she has it set so that only i can see it... after i broke up with her she said that "she's sorry and that she isn't capable of bettering her behaviour right now... and maybe we could meet up sometimes anyway??". I broke up with her thursday/friday night.. and on saturday she makes this fucking uncharacteristic photo which eerily resembles my snap to her with #2, and puts it into her fucking whatsapp status. Since it was sunlit and she posted it 00:30 she probably first had to find out how to make wa status invisible to all other people, just to fuck with my head and my head alone. it works.

It's a waste, since she is perfect in literally any OTHER way, but these things are just too huge. I fucking fell for her hard.

haven't told all the recent stuff to even my best friend, since he's on a wedding in buttfuckistan. had to tell it to someone

>>41092114
You're disloyal scum and dont deserve to have anyone in you life.

Went out on first date with her last night, don't really feel anything. It went fine, but didn't touch into proper romantic much and I'm completely apathetic about the whole thing.

Something tells me that's not how it's supposed to work.

>>41092153
>be miserable mess after broken up with fiancee since a few days ago
>get busy being fit again
>meet new girl
>she's beautiful, smart and funny
>be talking for two days now
>nothing inside of me wants to fuck her or talk to her
>deeply annoyed by our conversations even though she wants the d and I'm saying all the right things... like some goddamned robot

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>>41091374
We did some interesting things together.
Our first kiss was in public, half-naked.
Had sex one day. The next day she broke up with me over the phone.

I still feel anger. I'm training 2 to 3 times a day right now just to keep my mind occupied with things other than her. I'm hurting myself. My hands hurt. My heart hurts. My head hurts.
But I keep going, because I feel anger that I never felt before.

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>be in love with one girl for 4 years
>do pic related things with her even tho she showed interest in me many times
>she got a bf week ago
>somehow dont feel sadness, anger or anything like that. Just a relief
anyone been like this?

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>>41092221
It burns within you, doesn't it? It lit the fire of determination and you just have to fight to release it.

At least, that's how I feel personally right now.

My ex. It's been a couple weeks and I have class with her tomorrow. It was rough the first few days, but now I'm just happy to have spent what time I did with her. The one thing that keeps me going to is knowing I could feel that again with her or someone else. In the meantime, the gym calls. We're going to make it.

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>>41091419
Just keep at it mate, everybody experiences those feels after a breakup. Just don't stress it too much and it will fade away at some point desu

>>41092248
It is burning. I feel a burning sensation in my belly every single time I think about her leaving me just like that.
Sometimes I want to cry, but my body doesn't let me. Instead I just start getting frustrated and angry again.
Even when not thinking about her, I easily get angry at whatever physical activity I perform.
That's why I'm not playing sports with my friends right now. I fear I might hurt them if I let myself go.

I'm unable to pair bond anymore. Women are like groceries. Embrace the feels boys.

>>41092212
Bro, it's too early for shit like that. You need to grieve for a bit.

she doesnt even like muscular men, i'm just in to lift the pain away

>>41092237
holy shit that pic got me right in the feels

>>41091419

Get over here fellow scandibro

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>>41092297
My fiancee immediately replaced me with someone else. How can she move on without a single thought and I'm left here constantly crying my heart out? Why can't I just 'rebound'? Why am I the one who has to bear the weight of losing someone I love, completely alone?

But yeah, you're right. She's a gorgeous girl and I feel absolutely nothing. It's not right for her either.

My ex. Its been 2 years and I have had a dozen other women since her. I continue to lift to attract women to fill the void and fight the lonely house. She was pregnant with my kid and it miscarried. It happens to the best of people I know. But this killed me. All I wanted in life was to be a father. Anyway, she got mad at herself. I tried to help and failed. Eventually we decided to get some space and come back when we were ok individually. She isn't there yet and slipped out of everything in her life. She is getting back to the woman she was, but its fucking hard trying to help someone who doesn't believe they deserve helping

>>41092327
My advice would be committing to lifting.
Lift the pain away.
I'm constantly trying to train, just to keep those thoughts away.
Take up martial arts. Let it all out.

>>41092327
I'm in a somewhat similar situation, broke up with my girlfriend about a few months ago and tried rebounding almost immediately.

It just felt wrong, I didn't feel any excitement, although the girl was hot, smart and funny. I just felt empty inside and everything seemed forced.
I've taken my time since then, gotten over it and I'm currently in a relationship.

What your ex is doing is a really shitty thing though.

>>41092338
That's some heavy shit, bro. I'm sorry to hear.

Will you be there for her when she comes back? What's the plan exactly?

no one
I lift to try and be more badass than the next guy because I'm at what feels like a quarter life crisis and all I care about is being a badass action star. I am in law enforcement, I want to join the fbi or cia or something and do dangerous shit.
nothing feels like it has any meaning anymore so this is what I want to do.

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Might be good to get this off my chest.

Gild I've been sleeping with a few weeks. She has a boyfriend and no intention of leaving him. But I am so god damned in love with her. It fucking hurts. All I can do is keep fucking her like her boyfriend can't until something changes one way or another. FML

>>41092407
*Girl. Fuck I can't even type

>>41092237
That pic is true for my first crush. Found out oneitis that broke up with me found someone new and I'm having suicidal thoughts for the first time in my life.

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>>41092355
I will lift the pain away.

This was also me:
>>41092248

>>41092365
>What your ex is doing is a really shitty thing though.

God, how sad. I was about to rush in and defend her. Fuck, how I still love her so much.

Fucking bitch.

Maybe I should repeat that over and over.

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>>41092407
Would you really want someone who treats her loved ones like that?

>>41092444
I ask myself that every day

It doesn't matter who she was. She's had a boyfriend for almost two years and gotten fatter, and looking back I can only see how toxic of a person she really was much of the time. I don't regret not talking to her since. Most people at least get the memories, but all of mine are poisoned.

>>41092281
Yeah, I know. I do martial arts and I was going to train this wednesday.

I found myself relishing the fact that I could give 110% and decimate my sparring partners to show them who's the best and who's truly top dog.
I felt guilty thinking it afterwards and sad that I'm in this state of mind to people I normally admire intensely. I'm not going to train either.

>>41092372
I will. I made the decision when I was younger to save and set myself for the future. As a result I am in a position where I own my home and have some savings. So if she needs to get away from the world and just have me. Fine so be it. I put people in my place and rent it out and we can travel or whatever. As long as wherever we go has a gym and her. I'm set

>>41092444
>>41092456
We don't get to choose who we love, but we do get to guide ourselves with our wisdom and our inner strength to do what we know we need to do. You can walk away from this before you end up the next man she cheats on. Think of it this way, if she wanted to be with you she probably would've left him already. Women are guided entirely by their feelings, and while you make her feel sexually aroused, you don't make her feel in love. I'm sorry, but you're going to only get hurt if you stick around.

>>41092149
Sounds fucked - but you need to try your best to move on; sounds like this whole thing started because you two broke up and kept trying to force something that, in the end, would never work

>>41092429
All me:
>>41092355
>>41092281
>>41092221

It's overwhelming. Maybe time will heal wounds. But I fear that something will block itself in me and I'll become indifferent to relationships. I don't want to stay alone, especially since I'm moving places soon and going to have new opportunities.

The worst thing is that my friends are worried about me, and I don't want to tell anything to anyone.

>>41091374
wish I had one, cant really get obsessed in love anymore. Best I got was some taken one in a sports club that was somewhat decent and normal.

Srsly, I think I can only fall in love after longer periods of time with a woman.

>>41092468
Stay strong. We all need to.
Fuck, people look at me and think I'm still as a sculpture inside, but it's just a big stew of anger and frustration.

>>41092494
I know you're probably right but that doesn't make it any easier

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>>41092471
Alright, sounds like you're good people.

Just beware of not putting your life on hold. When it comes to the practical things you seem to have it figured out, but you've got to keep developing and growing mentally as well. Don't ever put that on hold. Obviously I don't know your personal side to this, but my sister has suffered at the hands of 'wait for me', and I wouldn't recommend it, to say the least.

Hope it works out for you, anon. I truly do.

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>>41092327

my friend,

i'm from south asia and girls are the same over here. I know how much it hurts when a girl moves on and when you're unable to move on.That is not your weakness.Have no shame in your pain, allow yourself to feel it through every cell in your body.Because that pain, just like when bodybuilding, is a sign that you've pushed your limits.For now, focus on lifting and whatever studies/work you do.I know that reminders of her would be everywhere of the things you did and the places you went to.Slowly realize that if a person doesn't realize how much you love them, then they're not worth your time.Love in a realationship is not a one way street.There's no dignity in willfull suffering over a person who doesn't even think of you anymore.Try to divert all that love towards yourself, because in the end you're the only person who knows the capacity of your love. And as for why girls recover so soon, I have a theory why they do that, and I don't blame them for it.Maybe its because they trusted the first partner they ever had with the bottom of their hearts only to have their heart broken in the end.Their process of healing was ultimately to realize that suffering over that person was worthless and to move on.And more relationships they come across, more easily they're ready to move on.And this is common for guys as well.However, this doesn't mean that all relationships are doomed.I do believe that there are people who can make you feel like that first love, and those who find that person are the lucky ones.Take solace in the fact that she didn't leave you after you married.That you got lucky.

Godspeed.

>>41092114
>Before i had anything with #2, i told my girlfriend (the girl this whole thing is about, maybe should have clarified that) when i was sleeping over that it's in men's nature to fuck other girls. We can't change it and supressing does no good. The reason most stay faithful is not because the men choose to, it's because they lack the skills and balls to risk pissing off their spouse.
Boo hoo I am unfaithful yet cannot stand disloyalty in others. Why can't the world accept this hypocrisy in my favour

>>41092503
I fear that I'm too afraid to love again. The heartbreak has been insurmountable so far, but I believe I will heal eventually. Time -will- heal my wounds.
But will I ever dare to love so deeply again? I think not...

Perhaps it may not feel like it, but be grateful for the friends that are worried. That's a good thing, anon.

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How do I meet people?
Not even girls, although that would be nice, I just want some like-minded people to talk to irl
18 now and only made one good friend in school, now I'm working in a trade so I'm not really in an environment to meet interesting people.

>>41092519
Thanks bro. I truly appreciate it. I still have goals and stuff I want to achieve and I will do it without her. But it would be nice if she was with me doing it. You're a cool person anon.

>>41092550
Some anon once told me that with age, people become more and more damaged with each broken relationship.
I think it's true.
I will never be able to love again as hard as I did the first time in my life, but I don't want to love less in the future just because of that.
I'm not afraid of loving, it's just that those bad emotions are blocking it out. Fuck.

>Perhaps it may not feel like it, but be grateful for the friends that are worried
I am beyond grateful, because it showed who really values our friendship. I just don't have the ability to tell them what is happening.

>That's a good thing, anon.
I know.
Thanks for reminding me, man.

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There's this grill I'm talking too, and I know she's bad for me but I'm already hooked. She does a lot of drugs, dropped out of school, and cuts a bit. But God damn she is just so cute. I want to love her and help her but I know it's probably just a pipe dream. Just snapchatting her throughout the day is fucking with my already iffy mental health, I'll be so happy one minute and depressed and apathetic the next. I just want to love and be loved.

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>>41092539
I'll think about this today and reflect on it the best I can. There's a lot of truth in this, but it's hard to overcome raw emotions with reason alone. But I'll try, regardless.

Either way... thanks, anon.

>>41092557
Go to sports clubs, parks, hobby gatherings.
Don't try to find friends at bars, pubs, parties, etc.

>>41092591
Let it go now instead of later. If you know she's not for you, spare yourself the pain that will be a hundred times greater when you'll eventually end it.

>>41092591
Two people with shaky mental health in a relationship is a recipe for disaster, you'll destroy eachother

>>41092518
The right thing can't always be easy. But it's often the most satisfying choice.

>>41091374
Emelie.

But that was over a decade ago. I have been with a lot of girls after her but I have only ever loved Emelie.

But she was into art fags with long hair, not gym dudes. God damn it.

>>41092692
She's shallow, then.

>tfw always been getting a lot of attention from women, even from jailbait, due to looking and sounding older than I actually am
This is my curse. Most of those weren't worth getting into, because it was only physical attraction.

>>41092727
>She's shallow, then.

Having preferences is shallow now? You seem like a neckbeard.

a girl in much better shape than me, who's become committed to being as fit as possible at the expense of just about everything that made her fun to talk to when I met her

>>41092237

REEEEE GET OUT

>>41092758
What I meant was that if someone already is with you, they shouldn't drop you just because they prefer some other look.
A relationship is a dozen of other conditions put together, not just physical attraction alone.

>>41092237

A former school mate now coworker of same school board. We have been out intermittently over the past year, but I can never push it to a relationship. I have issues bonding with people. I stem this to my parents marriage, which although has been going for over 40 years, has never been a very strong emotional bond to base off of. So I've had issues bonding with women.

Last weekend I was out with her and my dog. Took her to a restaurant in a part of the town she had no idea about. It is a super quiet location that I routinely go to myself. Usually, I have a fun time with her and then something goes chaotically wrong. This time I had to help pull a torn contact out of her eye while driving. I had my hands on her face, looked into her eyes and felt nothing.

Another instance last year I was out at the opera house and a random guy tried to initiate a fight with me.

>>41092848
>then something goes chaotically wrong
details please

why do girls keep using me for sex?

>>41092870

I don't want to blame 9/11, but it certainly didn't help.

Opera House story is a good one:
>At Ring Cycle performance
>Act 1 ends
>Dude gets up six rows in front of me as soon as lights go up and gets in my area
>He thinks I was talking the entire first act with my female companion
>I'm confused as crap because I literally couldn't even look at her in the face because I was nervous about how this date would go in the first place
>Apologize like a bitch for something I didn't do, guy then lays his hands on my shoulders and I put my hands up in the air because I don't want to get kicked out of an event I spent over $200 on
>Girl I'm with is pretty incensed at this point at this dude, tells him off
>Random dude curses us both off and says he drove 3 hours out to see this opera and we ruined the 'valspar yells' or something
>turns out the people that were actually talking were two rows behind him
>he realizes this at one point and is super embarrassed and his wife begins to chew him out because it was an autistic man and his sister-guardian
>I begin to eye fuck him to get back at him passive aggressively
>girl is like "Don't prompt him to say anything else"
>I start to talk with the autistic man and his sister during the 2nd Act intermission
>dude is visibly frustrated and his wife is completely fuming at this point at him
>girl I'm with is just death staring the dude
>after the opera ends his wife grabs the dude by his arm and gets the fuck out of the opera house as quick as they can

I'd like to assume they got divorced.
>tfw no gf

>>41091374

Deepa. I miss her. She really hates me now. I dun goofed.

>>41091419

I'm sorry, brother. I'm 13 days into it, too. 13 days 16 hours. I'll heal eventually. We both will.

>>41091374
Sex 8 times in a day

To make up for the fact that we can only see each other every 3-4 months

Just keep lifting

>>41092237
h-how do you flirt with someone? plz respond

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She is my "best friend"

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>>41091374
I seriously do not understand why you guys want a gf

If I was single right now, I would be swimming in pussy, Im literally on the verge of cheating
Im stuck with a girl that I respect a lot, that I care for a lot, but that no longer makes me as happy as I feel I could be.

And the worst part is that I feel the only reason I am with her is out of pity and attachment, I have tried breaking up with her more than once and the way she always begs makes me feel so bad, like: "why am I making another person that I care so sad?" I feel like she is exploiting my guilt of making her sad so I stay with her.

At this poing I'm just cruising forward, with someone I kinda love but no longer want to stay with, and I can not stand the negative emotions of trying to break up with her again.

If she broke up with me, I would not shed a single tear, I'd feel relieved and would wish her the best, but I can not stand trying to break up with her again

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So brehs is the old quote "It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all" true?

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>>41093496
True for me.

I lost my virginity to a prostitute when I was 25. I think I have a good understanding of what it means to be 'forever alone'.

Had my heart shattered several times since then. Despite the tremendous pain... I had a lot of happy periods of my life as well. I'd never want them gone. I will cherish those memories deeply.

>>41093417
No, she isn't. She knows and she just keeps you around to use you.

>>41092539
Im not op, but ty anon

DELETE HER FROM ALL SOCIAL MEDIA BRO'S IT REALLY HELPS. DON'T BE A BITCH I DID IT AND IM NOT THINKING ABOUT HER AS MUCH NOW

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>>41092121
>not falling in love with every girl you meet

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>tfw I will never cum inside her

>>41093612
>that piercing
Why? Why do women want to look like cattle?

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>>41092121
>tfw emotionally handicapped
>tfw actually pretty happy compared to people that are in a ltr
I can concentrate on my career and my hobbies and traveling, I went from being an electrician to being a project leader in 6 years and I went on epic road trips to Namibia, Patagonia and Russia (I love road trips). Most, if not all, of these things I couldn't have done when I had a gf.

Even the best of gf's keeps you tied down in some way, even the best of gf's can break your heart and will sooner or later.

>>41093650
Because deep down they secretly know that's what they are.

>>41093602
I would do anything to not have this happen

>>41093650
same reason they call you daddy and take it in the ass

Me and this girl have been eyefucking in the library for about a week.

Yesterday was my chance, she was alone...

But I pussied out, and felt like shit the entire night.

HOW THE FUCK DO YOU APPROACH FEMALES?

>>41091374
>Jesusa
>tfw she asked me about the holiday homework on normiebook
I'm getting close, lads

>>41093858
>Hi my name's anon. How are you

a girl from my school that just ended

so probably will never see her again

>>41093496
Totally man. First time having sex was with girl who proposed to be my girlfriend after. Mind blowing 1st time, and also allowed for frequent practice. You'll have more sex with a monogamous relationship than fucking randos anyway. I realized I was out of her league and 3 years later, currently fucking hot, built, Irish chick. Been called sex god twice because of experimentation and experience in first relationship I'm damn sure.

>>41092149
You're a fucking idiot. There are 20849183874728 women available to you. And at least 1093848381838 of them arent crazy. Stop being a beta cucks and drop her

>>41093879
>my name is anonette...
>me: ...

that's what I'm terrified is going to happen, I guess. awkward silence lol

>>41092327
Women don't love with their hearts they love with their brain.

someone special that makes me feel important but at the same time makes me feel like shit... I really don't know how to feel bros.... she is perfect but I don't think she likes me the way I like her... gonna talk to her as soon as possible BECAUSE I NEED TO KNOW

>>41093968
You have to judge her reaction and respond accordingly. If it's obvious she likes you you can be more forward. If she is just friendly you can talk about some exercise you saw her doing. If she seems annoyed just be nice and positive and end the interaction asap

>>41092149
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>>41092094

Why the fuck did I bother to read all of this bullshit. What a waste of fucking time.

You are the epitome of a modern day fuckboy. It's laughable how you expect to be treated differently to how you treat her.

Kys

>>41094029
alright, thanks man.

just ordered liquid cialis online, should cure my performance anxiety dick problems and help with confidence

>>41093496
yes.

>>41093487
you're fucking stupid. give me your girlfriend so i can treat her better than you ever will.

>>41094152
please, take her from me as you please, she is annoying me as we speak

>>41094177
why? what does she do that you don't like?
or are you just one of those people who gets bored of everyone after a few months-years?

>>41093487
you're W A S T I N G your life because you're a pussy. you know what needs to be done, yet you won't do it, because you're afraid of an hour of tough conversation?

sack up, bitch. you get 31,000 days on this motherfucking planet. every day you spend with this cunt is a day that isn't spent finding the girl that makes you happy, or plowing sweet fresh pussy.

by the way, every day you get older, the harder it is to fuck younger girls. don't believe the bullshit about it getting better as you age.

>>41094193
ive been with her for 3 years
she is constantly asking for more, no matter what I give. She is always jealous of other girls, does not give me space, I cant go out with my friends to play soccer without her annoying me about it

Right now she is annoying me because I did not give her chocolate during easter, eventhough she knows I am completely broke and had not time to buy anything.

The other day I stood from 2pm to 9pm selling a congress for my study group and when I got home all i wanted was to go to bed, but she insisted on talking in the phone and then complained and started crying because I was so fucking tired that I wasnt answering her as she wanted.

>>41094265
oh okay that's kind of annoying. i had a girl date me who later broke up with me because she "got bored" and she said not to worry because she does that to everyone. i never got people like that, why even bother saying someone if you know you're going to leave them it isn't some kind of game.
my only advice is to put your foot down to your gf and she'll either change or break up with you herself, it's win win

>>41094239
I agree with you, I wish it was just my life, but I feel like I'm losing my very soul

I hate cheating and cheaters, and yet I have been talking with some girls that came for me and they clearly want the D

I have been on holiday since thursday and so far I have done nothing but eating bullshit and playing on the computer, I have no drive to do anything right now, I just feel like she is a weight over me

>>41093496
No. I wouldn't give a life of regret and broken promises for a few months of pleasure.

>>41094281
i dont understand that eithr, thats why I take a very long while to develop relationships. She is my 1st gf, it took me a year to ask her to be my gf. After that we have been with each other for 3 years.

Honestly, I have tried it, I actually broke up with her for a few months, got other girls, but I eventually gave in and resumed my relationship with her. She improved a bit, for a while, she is now again becoming what she used to be.

She is also loving, smart, 9/10 thick who does bodyweight exercises. She is a good person, I just dont think she is the right one for me.

>about to post about girl
>girl txts me back as i write this post
>its superlate too

W-wwill I make it guys...?

it helps writing it down on a piece of paper.. all the anger and stuff. I know it sounds silly but it helps. Trust me i've been there

i lift while thinking of you guys. no homo.
-aesthetic

>>41092237
Mate that's too close to home right now,
Mate a great girl at the beginning of the year and I didn't wait around and asked her out, she said no and we stayed friends/super friendly if you feel me. I liked her a lot but as time went she has started dating someone else I know, but I feeling nothing but relief, I had ended a bad relationship before this one and I guess I'm just not ready for one. Maybe I'm cool just being with me for a bit now, maybe you too man, enjoy the freedom.

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>I have often wonder’d how a Man can dote on a Woman so much, as to gaze on her all Day, tumble about with the Thoughts of her all Night, be continually enquiring after her when Absent, and when present making her offers of Service; chuse Darkness before Light, prefer Solitude to Company, torment himself incessantly, and all about such a trifle as Love? In this Case he neither hearkens to the Counsel of his Friends, the Reflections of his Enemies, the Danger of his Life, the Hazard of his Honour, or the Loss of his estate; nor during this Enthusiasm, ever sees with his Eyes, hears with his Ears, tastes with his Mouth, or feels with his Hand. All his Senses are surrender’d up to Love, and all his Resolutions dedicated to Folly.

>>41093539
She's not that kind of girl.

>>41092149
You are seriously a piece of shit and in no way do you deserve to treat your gf like shit and not expect the same back

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>>41092237
y-you didn't have to post this anon

>>41091374
I haven't met her yet, but I've still got a ray of hope left. Maybe one day I'll find the iron maiden I'm looking for, and I just hope that I'll be good enough for her. That's why I push myself harder and harder each day.

>>41093374
bump

>see guys able to laugh and have fun with girls
>i just ask them about their interests and normal shit

>my petite at manager
>calls me huge and refers to my "hulkness"
>constant jokes and innuendo that I can't tell if its flirting
>she's engaged with a kid

>>41091374
My half nepalese ex gf.

Fuck dat bish

>Develope oneitis in junior year HS
>She wrecks my heart over the course of a year and a half
>Fall super depressed
>Gain 50lbs (266lbs at the time) and nearly drop out of university
>Become so depressed that I start watching anime which I very rarely do
>Around May 2016 I stumble across JJBA
>"How come I can't look like Joseph Joestar?"
>Start lifting and counting macros
>Realize how badly I've been eating
>About a year goes by
>Now 215lb
>Lifting and dieting gave me huge boost in discipline and my schoolwork improved
>Now transfering to a way better and cheaper uni
>Now have a summer job making 20 bucks an hour
>Now at the best I've ever been mentally and physically
>Only improving from here on out

She was the catalyst of my ascension, OP.

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There is this crazy hot girl who is obssessed over me and I am not even that attractive face wise.

I already said to her I feel uncomfortable since she is way attractive than me but she Says absolutely loves my body, humour and personality and wants me.

She keeps messanging me and demand attention on her, no wonder, she is hot af.

>mfw I am in engineering first year and struggling with grades and time already without her

She is super rich aswell, I feel she is one of the ultra hot rich girls who had everything in life(chads, money, parties, travells) and now wants a mr nice guy.

I am afraid of commiting bcuz I am really emotional and I feel this could all be wreckage.

>>41095707
go for it you faggot

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My flatmate this year in dorms and flatmate next year aswell. We made out, spooned two times, then i told her i like her and she did the same. A day later she said she doesn't want any kind of relationship and that a relationship is like a cage for while we will be gone for three months for summer, so it's better to stay friends for now and leave it as it is. She even initiated it, but i'm pretty sure it's because she doesn't like my looks (Fatlard in making when she met me at september i was 115 kg and now lifting daily for past 5 months and 95 kg but still belly etc). We still hang around and are really close friends but i just can't anymore be around her like nothing happened and just move on. Planning to get as fit as i can till september and try again, she's really shallow when it comes to appearance but i still love her.

Krasa
She's my neighbor

>>41093680
Its basically me
I want to kms

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I'm in a bit of a pickle. I've been sleeping with this girl for nearly a month, and while we haven't said we're exclusive, we have been doing a bunch of stuff together besides sex. It turns out she got drunk last night and slept with a close friend.

She says she wouldn't do it again, but the way she's been telling me I don't know if I should believe her.

I honestly did feel quite like shit when she told me, but I really shouldn't, cause it wasn't anything too serious.

What should I do?

>>41095707

stop showing your insecurities to her (at least until you are both committed for a while) and go for it

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>>41096395
I don't believe her when she says if she wasn't drunk she'd wouldn't do it...

>>41092539
You're a wise man!

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Nette
I'm a huge manwhore after coming out of a horrible relationship, I just fuck because I can and it feels like I'm compensating for something. I've had many chances to get into a proper relationship with amazing, caring and fun girls, but each time the "chase" was over I quit.
But she is more than that.

r8 and subscribe

>>41095810
Good luck my dude, I know it's easier said than done, but go and fish for other women as well. Don't let your roomy think she's the only option you have, shoe her you're desired.

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>>41096471
This I do believe though

>>41091374
I haven't meet a girl I liked in two years...the last one is with some fat shit tho

>>41096471
>>41096395
>>41096514

>would you have done it again
>I don't think so

She clearly doesn't regret it. That's not even a "no".

Her justifications are also pretty shitty

This kind of happened to me, had a flatmate who I was sleeping with and doing all kinds of relationship things with, and hadn't really had an exclusive talk because we hadn't admitted feelings for each other, she got with another guy on a night out (didn't even sleep with him) in front of me and was literally grovelling and apologising after I just left and went home because it made me mad.

And to be honest, that's how it should be if the girl wants you. Personally I'd accept no less

But even if there wasn't an exclusive talk, doesn't mean you can't be mad. You have every right to be. Up to you if you can look past it.

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>>41091374
She is my new gf.
Known eachother for ages, helped her through a bad break up, became bestfriends over time.
She lives far away in another country and is visiting my town for 2 weeks.
What started off as an inorganic forced friendship as I helped her through her break up with a friend she has become the apple of my eye and the vessel of all my love.
She is only here for one more week and I'm madly in love with her and cannot bear to see her go back as I will the way her eyes light up like fireworks whenever I make her smile.
I just got home from where she is staying and she's gone to dinner with her relatives and I miss her dearly so even though only a few hours have passed.
She also squats 70kg and is a 10/10 to me.
How do I bear bros? It's long distance and I'm going to miss her so fucking bad when she leaves in a week, help me /fit/ like you always have in the past.
I don't want to be depressed and yearning for her this badly until I see her again in a few months.

>>41096395
>>41096471
>>41096514
shes ugly as fuck anyways bro, ditch the cunt

>>41096395
Don't be a fucking cuck

>>41096607

Sure you're not a rebound?

>>41096514
shes not worth it dude, get out of there

>>41096642
Nope, I'm 110% sure I'm not a rebound and she wouldn't go for a long distance rebound relationship.

>>41096587
See I don't know if I can forgive her, the way she replies tries to justify what she did, and she doesn't apologize.

I might listen to these other anons and forget about her.

My nephew
>Im 25, used to be a fatass because family has shit eating habits
>Skinnyfat runner now
>Nephew's parents are hamplanets, father is 300+lbs and losing mobility because of MS orjust being fat and lazy idk
>Decided to start lifting to be a good example
>Hoping to coach him when he's older

I've always been a "your body/who cares" type, but this kid is 3 and consumes chocolate milk amd candy around the clock and his parents see nothing wrong with it. Shit really irks me.

>>41091374
Ex wife.
Left me 8 months ago.
Still wearing my ring.

>>41096672

I mean, you can look at it both ways

Maybe she didn't know that it would hurt you so she didn't apologise at first.

But then again, she clearly thinks you're significant enough for her to tell you about this so why did she do this in the first place, as well as justifying it as "it was always gonna happen" and if she wasn't sure about you two why didn't she just ask?

Tough situation anon

>>41096514
You're showing weakness when you're being nasty to her like this. When she's honest with you, you shouldn't do this. This is only going to enable her to hide such things in the future and think of you as a child.

Regarding what you should do? That's completely up to you. If you don't mind being with a girl who is a bit promiscuous then of course stay with her. But if you're the jealous type, then this is a lost battle. You're attention and efforts are better of spent elsewhere.

If you have questionable morals you should just string her along and have sex with her to the side while you find someone more relationship worthy.

>>41094108
Just think that if she's been eyeing you and shit she wants you to talk to her so you can't really mess up that bad

Can I get some advice from you guys? It's really tough not having anyone to talk to about this.

I've been crushing on this girl since June. She was at the end of this rocky relationship so I sorta just pushed her out of my mind. Fast-forward to valentines day, she sends me a heart-shaped pizza and confesses that she's been into me too. We date for a month or so, and I'm head-over-heels for her, we have the same interests (lifting, anime, art, photography, fashion), and I'm looking forward to each day with her. Then, things start to go south.

>>41096395
>Didn't say you were exclusive
>Get all butthurt
Beta as fuck son. Even if you're pissed you should have just said "no biggie. You don't need to tell me who you hook up with lol"

>>41093602
Why the fuck does this happen to me? I have had multiple gfs and I am rather normal but any girl that is talking to me, laughing, etc. and it's over. I can't stop thinking about her. How do I stop the autism?

>>41094108
Genuine question. I have performance anxiety as well. Are there even reputable sources for that online?

>>41096735
She's told me she thinks I only think of her for sex, which I can see why she sees that but it's not true. On the other hand she came back to our uni town to come see me for two days from home (2+ hour journey), and we literally spent the whole time together, she didn't go to see her housemates or any friends.

>>41096740
What suggests I'm being nasty? I'm trying to make her realize that was she did was wrong. What do you think I should change? Also i ended up telling her I didn't forgive her, and that i wanted some time alone so i'll message her later.

>>41096775
>pizza
Fucking gains goblin, drop the cunt

>>41096781
even if we werent exclusive it still feels like shit, we're close and I don't want her sleeping with other people.

Girl in my class obviously wants me but my ADHD meds make me really not give a fuck until later when I feel like a dumbass for not doing anything

>>41096775
Her pops finds alcohol and pot in her room (she's 22), and being the strict dad he is, she ends up getting kicked out of her house, and starts working two jobs while going to school. I guess all this stress makes her depression a lot worse, and I noticed her being a lot colder not just to me but in general. She ends up cutting things off, saying that she doesn't want to put me through a half-assed relationship and wants to focus on getting better. She tells me she sees something with me in the future, but doesn't want me to wait for her because life is unpredictable.

Fast-forward to now, I still can't get her out of my head. I've been on dates with other girls but they just don't even begin to compare with her. I feel like i'm already set on waiting on her, so I guess i'm just venting. Any anons with advice or similar experiences?

>>41096709
Cuck. Go sell it at a pawnshop or throw it in a sewer grate. Stop holding onto the past. Grow up

>>41096785
>She's told me she thinks I only think of her for sex, which I can see why she sees that but it's not true

Have you told her that now? I can't tell with the conversation.

Let her chase you if you're taking space, else she's just another girl that plays with emotion and doesn't really care.

>>41096785
>What suggests I'm being nasty
>WAAAAAHHHH YOURE NOT MY GF BUT YOU HOOKED UP WITH SOMEONE
>MAKES ME WANNA PUKE
>I DONT FORGIVE YOU
Absolutely pathetic. You look like a desperate clingy beta fuccboi. Kys my man

>>41096799
You should have said that to her then. You can't get pissed off at her because you didn't tell her what you wanted. YOU fucked up not her. Take some responsibility. She can't read your fucking mind

>>41096775
>>41096801

>wants to focus on getting better.

My ex broke up with me basically for this reason. "Needed to be single and work on herself".

Like you I couldn't get her out of my head. What you're experiencing is a classic case of denial (as I was) that is attached to the fact she told you she sees something in the future (as she kind of told me)

Some people move on by going on dates, some people don't - clearly you aren't one of them so take the time to try and break out of the denial stage and heal.

Look at it this way: she ACTIVELY doesn't want to be with you. People who like each other don't just give up so easily.

>>41096514
>did you cum
HAHAHA DUDE WHAT ARE YOU DOING

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>>41096811
I have, I don't think she's just playing with my emotions but I'm not sure shell chase after me

>>41096834
>>41096847
So just accept it and move on and keep fucking her?

>>41096785
I guess I should call it something other than being nasty. But asking her if she came and the way you said you didn't forgive her came off as a tad bit odd.

A genuine question though, what are you looking for in a relationship and in a girl?

>>41096864

>So just accept it and move on and keep fucking her?

I doubt you'll be able to move on whilst you're fucking her. The two don't work.

>>41096775
Seems like a legit thing for her to do. She's going through a fucked up time and doesn't want to deal with a relationship right now. Move on.

>>41096804
What's the point? I have no desire to be with anyone else.

>>41096864
Idk dude she looks like a gremlin I wouldn't fuck her with someone else's dick but you do you

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>>41096866
Pt. 2 of the above
Honestly I just want a gf who wants to be with me and likes the stuff that I do, and makes me feel like a better person for being with her. But I don't feel like this with her, I definitely care for her, the sex is the best part by far, but she's not "the one"

>>41096881
...at this present time.

You have to cut your losses sometimes, and move forward. Emotions will heal and you will learn from the past.

>>41096896
well then continue the search for a good gf ricky.
hint: if they have random hookups they arent the one!

>>41096881
That's because you're holding onto the past

>>41096896
>but she's not "the one"

Answered your own problem

move on anon

>>41096850
Did you end up keeping in touch with your ex after? I'm still really close friends with this girl, so I feel like if she ends up seeing someone else then that confirms that she really didn't want to be with me, and I'll just end up cutting all ties.

Tbh. the first serious girlfriend. She contacted me again recently and we talk just fine, though, it still lingers sometimes. I even have a new girlfriend which is going well but I can't shake the feeling that it's only temporary for the old one, so, I guess I have to end it with the new girl.

>>41096915
>>41096938
I'd feel better if I continued my search if I was still getting laid. Would it be so bad to keep her close but not that close?
Also here's the conversation, the posts were a bit weird: https://imgur.com/gallery/aEEY4

>>41096910
I'm still moving forward. I'm still breaking PRs and studying for a new career. I haven't given up on life.

>>41096874
She's since moved back in with her family again and has been looking for a new therapist and wants to start meds. Is it stupid for me to see how she's doing in a few months and try things again?

>>41096896
honestly man I think you've very similar to me.
Jealous, and afraid of showing emotion as to not get hurt. I heard the same line numerous times as well.

If you find a girl who's worth settling down with, try and be genuine with her about how you feel. Tell her if shes pretty, tell her what you want, tell her how everything's going...don't hold back.

I'm trying to work on it myself as well. I know a lot of these virgins will call me a cuck and suggest just fucking a bunch of people with no strings attached.. but that gets unsatisfying after awhile.

>>41096973
it may scare off any new girls and this ellie chick might get pissy and crazy if she finds out.

>>41096973
>I'd feel better if I continued my search if I was still getting laid.

Different poster, but this why I suggested earlier to continue stringing her along for sex while you find someone more reasonable

A married girl I work with.

I'm turning into a fit version of Craig from Malcolm in the Middle. It's sad really.

>>41096947

She broke up with me about 4 weeks ago, whilst in denial I tried to keep in contact but a blow-up argument and I decided to cut all contact and block her on everything.

It's been hard, even if I'm currently far away from her, but I've had a couple conversations.

I have to live with her for the next two months starting next week. Tbh I hope we can be friends but with feelings involved I don't know if it could happen.

> if she ends up seeing someone else then that confirms that she really didn't want to be with me

I've already accepted that she doesn't want to be with me and I think you need to too.

Like you, I've decided that if she sees someone else or even sleeps with someone else that I'm cutting all ties - it's not worth the hurt bro.

You can't move on and be close friends, later on in life? Sure. But only when you're at a point where you're no longer grieving.

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don't go for the girl you like

go for the nice girl you're not paying attention to

>>41096980
See that's the thing I've only met one girl (two actually) who I felt like I enjoyed and looked forward to being with them, but they both live in totally different countries now. And from one of them, I heard the same thing, I was hard to read and didn't compliment her, I know it's a bad thing but I can't change

>>41096985
>>41097000
Wouldn't it be possible to not tell the "girl of my dreams" about the previous one? Ellie's graduating this year, and will probably move back home which is two hours away, but I'm only in first year.

>>41096514
She did it because your putting the pussy on a pedestal bro

>>41096973

Alright, she sounds like a classic girl. Sounds like my ex. Doesn't want to make herself vulnerable by admitting feelings for you. If she hasn't already told you, just ask her. In person.

I think it's clear she's remorseful. Let her work for your trust again if you want. Also, in person is always better than text. Messages leave open all sorts of interpretations such as both you and I thinking she was justifying it.

>>41092221
why are you angry?

>>41097063
what do you mean by classic? And I reread it again, I think you're right I do think she's truly sorry.

>>41096783
from the research I did, ag-guys seem like the best and most reputable source. there were some cheaper options, but had bad reviews

>>41097044
>And from one of them, I heard the same thing, I was hard to read and didn't compliment her, I know it's a bad thing but I can't change

This is just an influencing people in general type of thing. People like hearing good things about themselves and they like feeling like a good person.

You obviously think someone is attractive because you're having sex with them... so let them know(in a non-creepy way of course). If you express how you enjoy their company or when they do nice things for you... they will continue to do such things and will go out of their way for you in the future. I know you feel like you can't change, but keep forcing yourself to do so until it becomes a habit. Nothing but good can come from this

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>>41097044
What state are you in?
but yeah if thats the case keep fucking ellie

>>41097009
Fuck man, your situation is way worse than mine, I hope everything works out for you. I guess I am in denial about things but knowing how I am, I'm too stubborn to move on without her actually giving me a sign telling me to fuck off or her seeing someone new. I'm seeing her this weekend so I guess I'll echo your thoughts to her and see what happens.

>>41097106

Classic girl, as in your typical girl. Doesn't want to make the first move even admitting feelings as it makes her vulnerable, probably has some sort of trust issues. Likes to drink a lot.

She writes exactly like my ex.
>did not expect these feels

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>>41091380
fucking dumpstered OP RIP

>>41097127
i exclusively date girls who cant/dont drink. theyre always more interetsing than the drinkers. i have bad oneitis for a girl whos allergic to alcohol, but she is dating some lanklet.

>>41096978
Just move on. If she's interested she'll talk to you. The more you chase a girl the harder she pulls back

>>41096910
It also doesn't help that she told me one day maybe we could get back together

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OBLIGATORY WATCHING FOR ALL HEARTBROKEN /fit/IZENS

>>41097115
UK bro

>>41097112
I understand what you're trying to say, but i always hesitate, I don't want to seem like a "bitch" or whatever just for complimenting her, but I'll definitely remind myself. I've watched a bit of jordan peterson and one of the best things i think he's said is that if your partner does something you like, tell her, or if you like something about her, reinforce that positive behaviour. I just find it hard to do.

>>41097127
She definitely has trust issues, her ex cheated on her twice and she still kept going for him, and drinks a bunch too.

>>41097110
Is this an injectable?

>>41097118

I too am stubborn and I would probably still be in denial if not for the blow-up argument that lifted the veil of emotions off me.

It didn't help that she never gave me closure. Have a good talk at the weekend, try and get some closure/progression.

Also back to your first post

>It's really tough not having anyone to talk to about this.

That's the hardest part I've found and I know many of my male friends have also struggled with. It's a lot of easier for women. Thankfully threads like these exist and there's always people willing to give you advice

>>41097159
>I don't want to seem like a "bitch" or whatever just for complimenting her,

I agree. It's definitely a gray area.

>>41097180
Thanks man, I really appreciate it. All the best for you, I hope your living arrangements really do work out and you find some closure too.

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>>41097194

Thanks anon. Good luck.

>>41097159
>She definitely has trust issues

There's the answer for her reactions. I mean, she clearly does care about you.

I genuinely don't know a girl that doesn't have serious problems. They all do.

>>41091374
Amilcar, Teresa, Daggo, Satan... All those that came before me, and those that still are. I lift to be better, to make them proud, to look in the mirror and be happy with what I see.

Sorry for the cringe.

I got a question.

If you're taking a chick out and she's not really that pretty but you still wanna bone her just to get your dry spell over with, do you say "you're so pretty" just to get her to suck your dick? I do it but feel guilty for lying

>>41097271
I guess that does make sense. Thanks for the advice anon, and that other guy too. I'm going to talk to her about it in person, and most likely forgive her and move on and see how things go. I'll definitely keep an open mind.

>>41097302
>and that other guy too

lol welcome man. Good luck and don't settle!

>>41092094
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>>41092149
You type like an overdramatic cringy 16 year old girl.

Fucking kill yourself holy shit.

>>41096514
>>41096514
>Don't make any sort of commitment to a girl
>She doesn't make any sort of commitment to you
>She's slutty already
>Surprised when she fucks someone else.

Are you stupid. You chose to be in a fwb type relationship, not a committed one and then get mad at her when you'd do the same thing?

Either clear what is okay or not but you can't really give her shit for this.

>>41097175
nope, just a liquid you swallow.

>>41096800
I know that feel anon.
Can't really do all that much to fix it either. It's basically a choice between not being able to focus and not being an emotionless robot.

>i'm a caveman degenerate and I just want to fuck everything that breathes with no consequences

You brought this on yourself.
We live in a fucking society.
Get some family values and morality pls

>>41091374
>Who is she, /fit/?

basically any girl I meet as I watch my chad friend woo them instantly since im a beta male with no social skills

>>41096864
>>41096896
please post more

>>41091401
The fact that you thought of her shows that you're not over her, anon.

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>>41091374
Theres to many to talk about..hold me bros

>>41096471
>I don't think so

Jump ship

>tfw haven't ever had anyone to have feel over
It's an odd sort of feel.

>>41098454
saved pic bro

MGTOW

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>tfw you know you'll never forget her and your time together but you also know she's probably forgotten about you by now
>tfw deleting all your pictures together and throwing away all her gifts in the hope that it will make her easier to forget

>>41096896

How old is she? if shes young this shit is going to happen desu

she might be a good girl

got pics / more / ass pic?

>>41092518
You'd only end up like the Cuck she's with now once she finds a better sexual upgrade than you, women like that are psychological cancer

>>41096801
>It's not you, it's me
Sounds like bullshit to me

>>41098490
Nope, you wont

Only meeting other girls you will forget her

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Atleast you lift, because you know "her".

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>>41091374
>last response I got from her was "o ok" because im guessing she didn't understand the joke
>before that she instantly replied to my message even though I didnt reply for days

Should I try to continue moving forward boys? As in keep trying to talk to her?

>>41091374
Shes nameless, she doesnt exist. Every day I want someone else to genually like to be in a relationship with. Not a relationship where I feel anxious 24/7 worried about fucking something up. I want someone who I actually can talk to. Had a girlfriend before but never felt anything serious. So far its been a lonely life.

>>41098923
Just woke up so i forgot to clarify the other message i got from her in my second part of the greentext were completely normal I just get caught off guard when I recieve short or one word answeres like "o ok"

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>>41098920
Im sorry anon...one day you'll know her

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>>41091374
her name was Christina and she broke my heart many years ago. still haven't recovered.

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oh hailey, my favorite lightskin. miss seeing her smile.

i choked and never did shit cause im a beta. probably for the best though, too bad i cant get you out of my mind even when i really try to

>>41093487
I strangely know that feel

>>41097026
>go for the nice girl you're not paying attention to
Where are they

>>41100417
kurisu? didn't you find a way to save her AND mayuri though?

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>being upset over losing somebody
>they're not even blood related
LUL

>>41092121
absolutely same here.
I treat people well, and I have many nice connections with both males and females, but I'm emotionally dead.

The only loss I can currently think of that would hurt me would be to lose my brothers. I would be a dead man if I were to lose my brothers, but my parents, I don't know. They've done all they needed to in life. They raised kids and lived well.

Regardless, I enjoy life being single and emotionally dead to relationships. I haven't been stressed in a long time. My only objective in life right now is to get some big ass arms and a respectable squat, while continuing to develop my career so I can improve upon my lavish lifestyle.

My only fear is that one day my depression may end, and the emotions I've been sleeping on will wake up and knock on my door.

I don't know how I may feel if I end up old and lonely, but I know that not having feelings towards another person is a liberating freedom. It's almost unexplainable, how not having feelings for a girl can open up so many doors to other lifestyles. I'm currently mastering myself in many ways, focussing on becoming an expert at many topics, while most people are focussed on getting a significant other so they can have fun together. My depression killed my fun. The only thing I feel now is a desire to not regret days wasted. The last time I feel for a girl, I wasted years of time and money on her, and that hurt the most.

Sorry for the rant, your comment kinda struck oil on me. But if there's anything I hope anybody reading this can take out from it, please understand that just because your life choices are different that the life choices of other people, make sure you know what you're doing.

I am not desperately chasing a relationship, hoping to find fulfilment through another person. I am however, living my own life, aspiring to reach goals set out for myself, to develop as a person.

It doesn't matter what you're doing with your life, as long as you're doing it well.

>>41102167
tl;dr

it don't matter what you're doing with your life, just make sure you chose to do it.
You don't wanna end up in a situation you never expected/wanted to be in because you had no clue what you've been doing with your life for the last 10 years.
Life is like a ride; map it out and you shouldn't have any issues.
If bullshit pops up along the way, you had no option/say in it ever happening. Move past it.
If you ended up in a situation you don't want to be in, you probably fucked up somewhere.
If you're scared of fucking up, make sure you do everything you can to make sure you don't.
And if you don't have a plan mapped out, then don't be surprised with where you end up.

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>>41092121
This mate.
>tfw emotionally dead inside