how do i overcome social anxiety?

>>41063458
By being social

Just be confident bro.

Relentlessly do things that scare the shit out of you. If your nervous about talking to girls, talk to 100 girls a day until the anxiety disappears.

>>41063458
I don't know man, I tried talking to a girl the other day, ran the the bathroom and started hyperventilating. I feel like I'd actually die if I said something. Maybe meds?

>>41063458
go full retard on starving that is gonna kill your feelings if u do it long enough it is gonna be permanent

>have more female friends than male friends
>they're all married
>single women refuse to give me the time of day

Anybody else have this problem?

You probably got them there chronically elevated stress levels. A few solutions:
1. Fapping
2. Meditation
3. Low intensity, solid-state cardio

These three alone every day will make a world of difference.

Socially speaking, try to spend as much time as possible making friends. Vidya is one of the best hobbies for anxious people because the focal point for the group isn't on yourself but on the character in the game that you project yourself onto.

>>41063458
FOR FUCKS SAKE, JUST STOP CARING, STOP CARING, STOP CARING, WHO CARES, STOP CARING AND IT'LL GO AWAY WITH TIME, FEEL ANXIOUS? DON'T CARE, SOMEONE LOOKING AT YOU? DON'T CARE, CARE? DON'T CARE.

>>41063576

noted. thanks anon!

>>41063568
get gud

>>41063576
Is fapping actually good for social anxiety, because I dont?

>>41063458
Frankly, you don't.

Despite what /fit/fags will tell you, "anxiety" " isn't caused by "things in the water", nor by "a lack of masculine role models", it's just being aware of where you ACTUALLY FUCKING STAND.

Non-Chad men are not SUPPOSED to reproduce. THIS IS WHY SHYNESS EXISTS. It's not something you're supposed to OVERCOME, it's MEANT to limit you.

>>41063576
>bs
brute force is most effective, stop production of chemicals that make negative feels by starvation
all the skelly girls I know are cold hearted sociopaths
>worked on me when I accidentally became skelly on summer

>>41063616
for men no
for women maybe

>>41063621
fucking top kek anon

Jordan B Peterson tells to look in people's eyes when talking to them

>>41063621
This is completely true

>>41063585
This. It helps to repeat saying "don't care" at least once a day.

>>41063621
That's not how biology works anon. But that's good because it means you might not always be an idiot.

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>>41063621
>he fell for the chad meme

Can anyone tell me if meds work? I sometimes feel like peeling my skin off in social situations and I don't think that's normal.

>>41063621
yes
AND do NOT forget how the things like HEIGHT
and FACE and FRAME make a BIG difference when capitalized, Captain Autism

>>41063458
>social anxiety
Is that really a thing? how tall are you?
I'm 6'3" and never had anxiety about something.

>>41063616
it's like taking xanax senpai, look up its effects. a lot of people think its bad for you but i think its a false equivalence. you'll have to make up your own mind.

>>41063590
no problem senpai <3

>>41063625
ESL?

>>41063458
get big
the anxiety tends to vanish when women and men stares at you in awe and jealousy

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alcohol

>>41063616
If you worry about it affecting you negatively, worry too much about what you're jerking it to, or jerk fast to cum fast, then it'll affect you really badly the more you continue doing it.

However, focusing on how great the actual release will be, not focusing all your attention on porn or whatever material you're using, jerking it slow/rhythmically and using the highest amount of willpower you can manage to *not* speed up when you're about to nut AND continuing to stroke soflty after nutting, will release the highest levels of stress and increase your test levels slightly.
It wont cure your social anxiety overnight, but if you're motivated enough it'll help calm those nerves that wont go down.

bee urself

>>41063621
>"anxiety" " isn't caused by "things in the water"

anxiety isn't, but the gradual feminization of men is

daily reminder xenoestrogens exist and are in most of the food you eat

>>41064167
this, too bad i dont know which food they are in

>>41063458
Literally just be social. I used to be socially anxious as fuck, literally trembling when holding a speech infront of the class, not being able to talk to women and always cared about what people thought of me. The simple solution was to just bullshit around and do what I wanted.

what's your MBTI type?

I'm shy as fuck and extremely socially awkward. ISTJ

>>41064180
>meat and dairy which aren't specified as hormone free

>every sugary snack ever

>non organic soy compounds

>shampoo and soap/lotion

Jesus fucking christ i cant tell if 90% of the people here are bullshitting or are fucking retarded

>>41063576
wait what
i thought not fapping decreased your social anxiety
which one is it

>>41064278
decreases it
it could be placebo but it works so who gives a fuck
anyone who did nofap said they got laid

>>41063576

> Fapping
> Vidya
> For curing social anxiety

You got those wrong m8

>>41063576
i want to get laid im not gonna to talk to the girl about the new nier and fapping wont help that much aswell

>>41064550
girls don't care as long as you're attractive

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>>41063576
>3. Low intensity, solid-state cardio
But I don't wanna

>>41063458
Vyvanse or adderal

>>41063576
Yeah, none of that hard drive cardio

stuff that actually helped me

>meditation
>reading /litcore/
>forcing myself to do shit i don't wanna do

start with small steps, i.e. talk to the cashier about the weather or some shit.

>>41064691
>talk to the cashier about the weather or some shit.
For a smaller and more easily applicable step, just say hello or hi to people, and/or smile and nod at them as you walk around the store or wherever. You can do this everywhere with everyone and it's a easy way to work up a little bit of confidence. It helped me in my job at least.

>>41063475

This is not accurate. Shocking yourself doesn't remove the irrational beliefs that have led you to develop true social anxiety. It may lead to becoming used to the discomfort to a degree but you'll still have the same negative thoughts and attitudes about yourself and your place in the world.

>>41063576
>try to spend as much time as possible making friends

This is like telling a depressed person "do things that make you not depressed". It's advice that sounds obvious on the surface but, as with the "face your fears" method, doesn't address the underlying issue at all.

>>41063585

This is actually helpful in terms of reducing your exaggerated viewpoint of how others perceive you but there needs to be more along with it than simply forced apathy towards other people.

>>41063827

They do in the sense that they address the symptoms, and don't cure anything. Getting drunk also "cures" social anxiety but it's not an optimal or sustainable treatment.

>>41064232

Most of the people here who claim to have "beaten" social anxiety never had true social anxiety in the first place. Like that dipshit Youtuber who makes/made fitness videos who said things like "sometimes I have depression, then I go lift and I'm better" which is as asinine as saying "sometimes I have limb paralysis (when my foot falls asleep) but then I just move my foot and it goes away".

>>41064691
>start with small steps

Ding ding. This is the only real, sustainable advice in this entire thread. You have to slowly chip away at false beliefs about your social prowess, expectations of others, and consequences of making mistakes in social situations, while practicing with situations that cause a slight amount of discomfort until you become comfortable with them--then moving to a new situation and repeating.

OP, you need to look into cognitive behavioral therapy. If you don't/can't go to a therapist, there are books and online self-paced programs. I used socialanxietyinstitute.com ...

>>41064931

... and the CBT therapy has made a drastic difference in my life outlook and comfort level with various social situations. Like literally my only reason for living before was being dedicated 100% to my work, and I had conceded that if I ever lost my job permanently I would very quickly either become a hermit or just kill myself. Now I feel like I have things to look forward to outside of work, and maybe even start a family--something I had completely written off before starting therapy.

I really can't recommend a social anxiety SPECIFIC CBT program, not just some fucktard who tells you to bee urself.

>>41064931
first post you replied to and disagreed with is pretty much the same as the last one but you agreed with the last one

>>41064963

I get your reasoning but there's a difference between jumping in the deep end of the pool and struggling not to drown, vs. slowly walking in from the shallow end. Going slow lets you practice CBT techniques without getting overwhelmed, and boosts your confidence and desire to continue getting better, as opposed to getting flooded with stress and wanting to die.

>>41063585
This desu, you should only live to the desire to kill every woman you see all women are sluts

>>41064650
That made me snicker

>>41064990
why i want the sex

>>41063458
nofap