how do i overcome my crippling social anxiety and get laid?

>>41034049
Paying for it best option for you.

whip your dick out in public

>>41034049
drugs

>>41034049
why are girls with cat ears so hot

I'm not even a furry

take some x

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By talking to girls in social situations and asking them back to your place

There is no magic pill or secret technique and any other answer is misguided bullshit

You could also try being less of a man child who spends his time downloading images of children with cat ears and posting about his failures and lack of effort on the internet

>>41034299
because you're filthy weaboo

>>41034049
Exposure therapy, conquer anxiety with small, frequent exposure to social settings. Try going to the library, gym, mall or other nonthreatening but populated areas and get used to being around people. Start talking to people by asking for the time, directions to a certain store, ask how many more sets they have; practice talking to both men AND women. Do this everyday for 30 days. Once that’s complete, approach people more regularly and make small talk with them. The goal here is to become a tiny bit more outgoing each day

>>41034408
Not Op, once I asked a woman for directions, she pretty much ran away from me.

>>41034699
really? story?

graded exposure, antipsychotics and SSRIs worked for me

>>41034699
how?

>>41034699
bet she was azn. they always think you will rape them, even if you just say "hello". wonder who is the real retard.

>tfw having sex isnt even worth the aftermath

I'd highly advise against having sex with someone you dont want to see again after the act
Unless she doesnt want to see you again either then its ok

Jacking off is sometimes the right thing to do

no fap for 90 to 180 days depending on the damage

getting J O O C Y helps too

>>41034699
Same thing happened to me
I was omw to to a potential internship so i was well dressed and i even put on a friendly smile when i said "hey, im sorry bu..."
She looked at me in horror and powerwalked around the corner in sanic speed

Felt weird

>>41034783
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>>41034926
>>41034977
Nothing that interesting, I was in Canberra on holiday and was looking for some shops, having no phone on me I had to find and ask someone, saw this woman mid 30s? walking by herself so I beeline towards her and ask her, she looks like she shit herself, points in a direction while yelling 'it's that way' and power walking off before anything else could be said.

>>41034926
Not too sure if Azn is Asian but she was white

be oblivious

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>>41035042
>when you overload another human bean with your own crippling anxiety

>>41035091
what do you mean

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>>41034049
Drive to a different town and start talking to random girls. You dont have to be successful. Note down what worked and what didnt. Getting in a routine to talk to girls is good for social skills. Guys who are good with girls are mostly seen as alpha male by other guys and are more likely accepted by them, so you also met guy friends. Having guy friends or getting along with other guys shows girls that you are an alpha male and you will have it easier with girls. You just have to risk something, but where is the problem with that? Its not that people in another town knows you. Just visit alot of different towns, to defeat your anxiety.

>>41034049
valium

>>41035111
dont reflect on your own actions

>>41035092
Pretty much, I have a slight slur so that wouldn't have helped too much

>>41034049
Get out there... Take the hits of learning like everyone does. That shit means you will be the 5th wheel get over it.

>>41035142
This is good advice, make it part of your routine to leave town a couple of times a week and meet bitches.

>>41034315
>>41034408
Exposure therapy won't work for actual anxiety or introversion, no matter how much time you spend with people or around other human beans you will still get panic attacks and/or hate every single moment of it.

However just like the normie nerd or loner you will get better at handling social interactions by trial and error or just witnessing other people in social situations, won't make you any less anxious though.

>>41034049
>how do i overcome my crippling social anxiety and get laid?
1. LEAVE 4CHAN FOREVER. This place is CANCER, it's holding you back
2. The rest is up to you
/thread

>>41034049
Just stop caring. If you don't care, you have nothing to lose. And to be brutally honest, it's not like you have anything to lose anyway friend.

>>41034928
You can troll but this what you said is just retarded and you know it just stop

>>41035399
Yall always say this but its hard for people who dont see good and only the bad outcome. But your right you dont have anything to lose.I will go thursday to a different part of town to party wiht a friend. he invited me. ill try to just be like fuck it people dont know me anyways

>>41035782
Do you smoke/drink? If you do stop, because that is definitely contributing to your anxiety.

>>41035782
This is already the wrong approach, you're trying to rationalize not caring by saying "people don't know me anyways", don't even care enough to think about that kind of shit. Just go, and do you, and then when you're bored, leave. Slowly but surely.

>>41034315
This is the best answer. All the twenty page guides to getting laid that people repost are retarded and probably written by virgins. Women arent fucking supercomputers that can analyze everything you say in a millisecond. They don't close down their vaginas for the day the instant you say something that deviates from some internet person's shitty guide. You just have to talk to lots of women and act flirty, anything else is just overthinking it.

just get tinder :^)

real talk though m8s, I've been studying with this girl for a while (in a group) and she's a top tier qt3.14. What should I do?

>>41035880
no i dont go like that. didnt mean it litteraly. i mean just like you said to, to just do me. but with a little more controle over myself. ill go for the party and to have fun and try to not think of hunting for girs only

>>41035868
i basicaly dont smoke sigaret and weed. i stoped for 5 years befor i tryed it again. have been smoking in the mean time while trying to stop, but only like 10 or 12 times in those 5 years. sigarets are basicaly done i never was addicted but i did smoke dont know why lmao. and drinking i did 3 days ago but thats basicaly done too. so long story short i basicaly dont smoke weed, smoke sigarets or drink. only with friends and thats basicaly never and ony drink when going out and thats basicaly never to

>>41035993
>just get tinder :^)
why is it so bad idea?

>>41036085
It's not a bad idea at all if you're good looking that is. If not, it'll just kill any self confidence you have

>>41036102
I think I look decent, I have limited autismo

>>41036182
Make a decent profile and you'll most likely get matches. Tinder has made it easy mode for attractive autists

>>41036231
nah, Id rather stay on /fit/

>>41035142
It's ridiculous how having friends makes you more approachable. I rarely get approached when alone, but when I'm talking to one of my friends a random girl will often just start talking talking to me.

Also to OP, read a book, try that Dale Carnegie book. Shit helped me out of autism mode, teaches you how to talk to normies.

>>41035993
Tell her idiot, when you're on your own, get her laughing get in close take her hand firmly but not forcefully look her in the eyes and tell her you want to take her out, you want her to be you gf and you want to spoil her, fuck this is basic shit

>>41036325
>get her laughing
not the guy you replied to. but how do i get a girl laughing?

t. autist

>>41034049
offer them /drgs

>>41034928

A morning of awkwardness is better than a night of loneliness.

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>>41034049
If you are below 6' no matter what you do you won't get laid

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>>41036358
please respond

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This seems like the best thread,
Get me laid
My standards are low anyway

>>41036477
Which jav porn star is this please

>>41036491

Ditch her not attractive.

My problem is what to say. Talking to guts is easy, with chick's I get the feeling that everything should always have a sexual subtext. Can't we just talk about animu or kino?

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>>41036054
>sigaret

>>41036491
but she already wants the sausage anon

>>41036516
talk about anything but have a playful, chilled and non-serious take on things

basically, girls like guys who have the confidence and balls not to take anything seriously and not let anything get to them

>>41036491
Why does this never happen in my country

>>41036491
Wow Sophie, take a deep breath. Message me when you're not so hot and bothered.

MDMA is the only right answer in this thread

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NEED TO GET LAID BEFORE THE END OF FRESHMAN YEAR LADS

Or at least before I turn 20.

Got with two high quality lasses this weekend tho so I think Im on the right path.

>>41036500
Aware of this, I've not been laid in about a month, if I can get anal I've accomplished something

>>41036491
>reply after 4 days

What does this mean?

>>41036358
bump

>>41036757
1) Be attractive
2) Say something mildly funny

Step 1 is very important.

>>41036777
I'm not attractive, now what?

how do i even come up with mildly funny things to say? I'm autistic

There's this girl I see every week at the train station. Our paths have been crossing for almost a year now. I think she's interested, she even sat neXT to me the other week, but I couldn't say a word. I wasn't nervous, it's just I don't know what to say. And it seems weird now if I talk to her after she pulled that "stunt."

>>41037010
>sitting next to a person is an indication of interest, and a "stunt"

>>41036862
please respond

>>41037069
Hence the quotes.

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Why do you want to get laid if you're not having children, lad? What gains do you think shall come to you for losing your virginity?

>>41037069
Nigga she clearly feeling him or he's reading too much into the situation.

>>41037089
Lower your standards brah :/

>>41037176
how does that make me more funny? i haven't made anyone laugh in years

>>41037193
Having a decent body and a functioning penis is enough to get you laid.
Go to a bar, get slightly drunk and if a girl looks at you, smile at her.
If she smiles back walk over. Proceed to small talk, don't try and be funny, just chat as if she was an old friend.
There are women who want sex as badly as you and will have sex with you.
Be persistent and you will get laid. I believe in you.

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>>41037100
This desu, getting laid is just a low time preference hedonistic degeneracy. Marry a God fearing Christian instead.

>>41034049
Realize that your social anxiety is only going to lead to a life of pure regret. Seriously. Grow a pair.

How old is the girl in OPS pic?

>>41034049
I've only been lucky with girls when I've been really drunk.But I dont recommend that, just work up your confidence. Just talk alot more to people in general. Approach girls without the intent to get laid and just talk about anything. Once you get over your anxiety it's gonna be alot easier.

>>41034366
you are a fagot.

>>41036611
ye well she also took 4 days to reply. ditch the bitch shes ugly as shit get someone attractive and we will help you with our pickup lines

>>41036516
imagine her as your best friend that you know

>>41036777
i met a girl that laughed at everything i said i wasnt even trying to be funny is she making fun of me?

Have you tried Tinder? you basically do all the talking online and get to know them first and then get straight to the good part

>>41037010
idk i met a girl at a bus station she came up to me asked me for a cig and then we continued talking like half hour until the bus came and then 40 minutes to the ride home
im still not sure if she was interested or not

>>41038011
>friendzoned

>>41037100
It's less the getting laid and more the ability to have to choice to pursue it successfully if I want to

>>41038099
>not hitting on your best friend

>>41038011
i have no friends. now what?

>90 posts
And no
>just be yourself
posts yet. What the fuck.

I recently got a gf and started having regular sex after literally years of tfwnogf. it's terribly underwhelming.

>>41034926
They have to deal with yellow fever autists alot, I don't blame them for thinking you're going to rape them.

>>41036491
>You can give my meat a good 'ol rub

>>41038234
being yourself obviously doesnt work if u cant even talk to someone

>>41036581
because there is some decent culture yet

>>41038323
That' s the entire point of the just be yourself meme.

>>41038111
Yeah this. It's about dat dere external validation and feeling like you have a say in the matter instead of just being an incel.

>>41038234
>>41038323
>>41038335
What really is your 'self'? Who can really say the person they are is the person they'd be under different circumstances. The only thing any of us comes in with is a certain set of genetics, which is why there is no hope for autists. You didn't get mind controlled by vaccines, my friends, your mom's eggs and/or dad's sperms were simply fucked up. The good news is you have someone to blame besides yourself! This also applies to manlets.

>>41036231
I think I'm actually attractive (I look young though, like 16, 17ish) but I don't have any good photos of me. I don't hang out with any girls, and none of my friends take pictures so it just makes it worse. Anyways, please kill me.

>>41034049
First off you have to start to face your fears and come to the understanding that you're going to have to do a lot of things that you're going to find uncomfortable for you.

Get out of the house as much as you can. You need to start talking to people everyday. You can take the bus, go to the mall and just browse, the library, cooking club, the gym is great and just initiate small mini conversations that last less than 30 seconds.
Just keep doing this, you're not focusing on approaching women, just people in general so that you get more comfortable in talking to strangers. Talk about your surroundings, the weather, etc.
After practicing this daily for awhile, basically however long it takes until the above is easy for you.
Start talking to fatties and ugly women, and make them your friends even. Flirt with them to practice your skills and learn how to crash and burn. Dude, you have to be prepared to face rejection and learn to brush it off.
I spent a whole month on POF purposely crashing and burning. Seeing how far I could take things before being rejected. Being a prick generally, saying exactly what I thought, and acting like the testosterone oozing big cocked mother tucker that I am without filter.
I had a great time and was rejected hilariously on so many occasions. I missed out on some hot ass in a couple instances. I did get laid though actually. Sometimes being super forward pays off. Anyways, between that and practicing talking to strangers in public like crazy I'm almost cured.
I really just learned that if I chick likes you that you can say pretty much anything and she'll try to help things progress. If she's not into you she'll brush you off.
A major factor that has helped me also is nootropics. I get wittier, snappier, more energy.. I project more energy. Less anxiety and way better mood.
1. L-Theanine with coffee
2. Ashwaganda
3. Piraracetem and aniracetem
4.Alpha GPC
5.sometimes phenibut. (party, first real date, club)

>>41038425
not really, your personality can change by the people you hang out with

Real talk here. I think the biggest problem is guys simply not trying. Be honest with yourself, how many times have you just said hey to a girl (or a guy)? You probably care to much how it will end up, that you don't look like a fool, so you just don't try ever. Just don't give a fuck.

About not giving a fuck. Are you guys comfortable with saying 'degenerate' shit to a girl? Like imagine you going up to a random girl and saying shit like "damn girl, I wanna cover you with cream and lick all over your body". Something that is way out of your comfort zone. Like something black and latino guys would say with no worries. Not trying to make this a race thing, just something I noticed. Generally they don't have a problem with saying things like that. It may work, it may not work. Every girl is different. But atleast they try and eventually they will have a catch.

I think this comes forth from "white people" growing up with the idea of being nice and polite and showing respect. Things like catcalling is viewed as bad. This in turn supresses the male instincts. Whereas people in lesser developed areas (bad boys), grow up with the idea of having to be a tough guy and learning early on that women like confident and fun men. Generally they don't give a fuck what something thinks about them, so theyll say anything.

This is pretty generalized but I think has some truth in it.

>>41038591

I forgot to add that high doses of ashwaganda makes your dick hang properly. It must increase blood flow or something. My meat hammer impresses the grills now even when I'm not naked.

>>41034049
Also besides getting yourself on a nootropics and hitting the gym a few suggestions:
1. Buy a few new outfits including the gym that fit you well for your figure.
2. Get your haircut every two weeks.
3. Groom yourself regularly
4. New shoes
5. Face products. Cleanser and moisturizer
5. Argan oil for hair. Use sparingly.

Looking and feeling fresh both physically and mentally will give you that extra confidence in social situations.
4.

>>41036268
Sadly you almost need friends or a social group to get laid
It never worked for me otherwise

>>41038681

That's what they call a limiting belief.

Get out and start making friends right now and you will have a healthy social circle by this time next year.

Join clubs or groups for interests you like and talk to people at the gym. Learn the names of the regulars and you'll make one of them your friend at least. Once you're social in the gym, you can pick up there easier as well.

You're going to make it.

>>41036393
D-delete this

>>41034049
just be yourself bro lol

If only autists could come together and get each other laid.

>>41038743
I appreciate the advice man, but I honestly don't have the energy for all that.

I'm sure if I tried I could make some friends, but it's got to the point I'd rather just sit at home and dream about how this time next year girls will wet themselves over my body or something.

>>41035921
you're mostly right however
>not fucking supercomputers that can analyze everything you say in a millisecond
they can and they do, they're autistic about social interaction just as you're autistic about squating and mlp

>>41034057
LOL

>>41034315
"asking them back to your place" is the whole problem usually.
It's basically jumping through hundreds of hoops and if you fuck up at any point it's game over for that girl for you.

You're gonna make people here think they should actually just ask girls to come to their place, and end up embarassing themselves.

>>41038027
she was either being a complete bitch or she liked you

>>41038893
if thats all u want just get tinder

>>41037269

>implying our lord thinks it's productive and wise to be feared
>implying he doesn't want to be loved instead
>implying that fearing our creator is healthy

You need to reevaluate your faith.

>>41038192
please respond

>>41039315
I tried, got 2 matches after a month both who ignored me.

>>41039680
your profile is probably boring or you have to be really ugly but youre probably just boring

>>41039755
I don't think I'm REALLY ugly, maybe below average.

How do you make an interesting profile? I doubt many girls are into physics and the history of gunpowder but I don't do any sports (except lifting) or stuff like that.

>>41039589
girls usually like to talk about themselves and their hobbies more than yours unless you share common interests doesnt have to be sexual subtext

>>41039789
i dont use tinder but i remember a guy saying that /fit/ helped him design his profile and it helped him alot so post your profile

>>41039828
I've deleted it years ago, but it had a picture of me in a suit at some event (yes it was fitted), one picking mushrooms, and a group picture at a party. Don't remember if I had any more pics or what bio I had.

What kinds of pictures/bio did the guy post? The most 'interesting' pictures I have are at museums and historical parks.

>>41039755
Tips for nonboring tinser profile? Especially when I have no pictures of myself I like

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In order to get laid you must first overcome your social anxiety completely.

If your social anxiety is as bad as mine was then you probably have trouble talking to both men and women, in both comfartable and hostile situations.


I have a simple solution for you and anyone that has social anxiety, and it works.

You know how when you start taking cold showers you become more resistant to the cold in general? You know how lifting weights increases functional strenth despite never doing any manual labour?

You MUST expose yourself to the most extreme of social situations, where there is no real escape. Do this type of thing in short bursts kind of like cold showers and weights and you will see immediate results.


I'll give you a program

Monday
Take a short walk around your neighborhood, try to make eye contact with everyone you pass by and hold it for 4 seconds.
Tuesday
Ask someone on the street to use their phone. (This will get you ised to asking people for something and help you appear non themrsatening, you can progress in this excecise by doing it at night).
Wendsday
Rest day (try to meditate on this day and think about your social interactions. You may start to cringe at some of them but try as hard as you can to breath and relax… it would really help if you join an mma gym, because it exponentially increases your human contact)
Thursday
Do as many retarded things as possible. Don't talk to people and creep them out, but you should so things that attract attention. Walk in wierd ways, pretend you are a crackhead
Friday
(This is one of the harder ones for most people). Go into a public place where it is easy for people to hear you, but it is not rude to be loud, and have a really loud (fake) phone conversation. Make it about something really out of the ordinary… (girlfriend pregnant, cheating girlfriend, suicide of friend) and just develope the story as you go

Saturday and Sunday
Try and talk to girls and meditate

>>41040031
You don't have to do the stuff that O said, but the genral principle of doing embarassing shit actually works. The spelling is shit so if you are going to retain anything, just remember to expose yourself to the most dreadful situations in short bursts.

do you guys think nofap would help? or can i get rid of social anxiety and get laid even if i fap

>>41035312
trial and error is literally exposure therapy, mate

>>41040424
All no fap does is make you sexually frustrated enough to risk talking to girls.

>>41039897
i dont remember but there are guides on reddit for tinder
https://www.reddit.com/r/Tinder/comments/2o9het/how_to_tinder_guide_i_got_laid_in_48_hours/

https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/593s1g/my_brief_guide_to_tinder/

>>41040572
what if i just say fuck it and do that without nofap

>>41036491
say something like
>i know where you can find some meat ;)

>>41040572
>>41040595
>>41040424

try it 90 days and see for urself

theres a reason why so many young males do it. follow the footsteps, not some bitter misinformed anon

>>41040694
im currently a month in and i watched some porn and played with my benis a bit but i didnt cum should i start recounting days?

>>41039417
>Implying you can't be feared and loved at the same time
Beta as fuck

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GAAAMEEEEEEEE

>>41040785

>love me!
>but if you don't do it the way I deem appropriate I'll send you to be ass raped by iron pokers for all eternity!
>I'm benevolent and worthy of veneration!

God is not Stalin.

>>41040586
Thank you

>>41040031
>pretend you are a crackhead
wtf

>>41035312
Bullshit.

Whether you have severe anxiety or mild anxiety, exposure therapy is one of the many methods in which you can whittle it down to bearable levels.

I think you need to educate yourself on what anxiety is and why it happens.

>>41034049
Practice

>>41039113
Well that's what I do anyways. Go to a bar, make small talk, drink, kiss, ask them back to your place. It's not even difficult.

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>>41039113

Depends on the scene and context, which is the first step. Actually placing yourself in situations where these things can happen. Usually parties where girls are looking to get laid.

Also trusting your instincts. Unless you're actually autistic, even socially anxious people can sense a change in an interaction or mood, even if they can't pick what it is. Assume positive until its obviously negative and don't attach yourself to the outcome or the person, just keep listening, talking and being funny, hopefully interesting. Eventually they invite you home