TALKING TO GRILLS AT THE GYM

Get spaghetti

throw spaghetti at her

MAMA MIA

>>40473215
... what do I keep the spaghetti in?

I don't know why I though /fit/ would know how to talk to girls....

>>40473265
>>40473215
This dude's literally spelling it out for you

>>40473271
I'm American. It's not considered polite the throw pasta at women here.

>>40473203
>normal sex/social life
Define both

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>>40473329
Have had >10 sexual partners

Go backpacking, to the occasional party, Las Vegas trips, camping, and just bullshit with friends, some I've had >10 years.

>>40473329
>>40473413
Also I was just the best man at my buddies wedding. Probably pretty petty but I did screw the brides maid.

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Has no one here tried to flirt with a girl at the Gym?

>>40473413
>tfw abnormal sex life/pretty normal social life

>>40473579
What's normal to you?

>>40473203
Don't talk to her while she's lifting, but maybe if she's resting between sets, or casually when she's racking her weights? I don't like when men talk to me while I'm working out, but if they're very polite and don't interrupt me mid-set it's not a big deal at all.

>>40473296
It's reverse psychology, idiot

>>40473507
I don't think it's the appropriate place. If you happen to catch them in the store or something then maybe use the gym as an opener. Like "hey do you go to x?" but trying to flirt at the gym seems a little thirsty imo.

>>40473640
Ok so as a girl, and assume OP is mildly attractive, how would he approach her? What would a guy have to do to win you over or at least get you interested? I have had success with girls who approach me in the gym, my ex was a trainer, but she came to me essentially. How can you cold approach a girl there? I feel like it's different if you both go to a crossfit box or a powerlifting gym, because you immediately have something specific in common.

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>>40473640
I figured that much. What's a good intro though?
I have no problem flirting with girls when there's a reason to interact with them but I don't have a reason while at the gym.

>"uh you look pretty fit, what's your routine"
???
>"the smith machine is actually really bad for you"
???
>"I usually bug random girls but you're insanely attractive"
???

>>40473620
According to OP's ideas of what's, I had only one sex partner and I've only kiss her in my entire life (I'm 21), hence the abnormal sex life but I go to parties and have good old friends, hence the normal social life.

>>40473664
This has occurred to me, but the odds of seeing her at the store are low.

This lady anon says she okay with guys chatting her up >>40473640 but it does seem thirsty with no actual reason to talk to her.

>>40473692
you walk up and talk to them. you fuckers overthink so much shit.

actually i used to sit there and overthink all this shit and wonder what to say, when to approach her. you just walk up and do it. fuck waiting for the perfect moment. you think a girl gives a fuck if an attractive guy approaches her at the gym or in the store or wherever?

do you guys SERIOUSLY think that she goes "omg this guy is so hot but he approached me at the gym what a faggot, if it was anywhere else id fuck him xDDD"

go up and do it. i can almost guarantee that you're going to fuck it up, but you know what? it's ok to fuck it up because eventually you'll learn that talking to girls is a joke anyways. 95% of them are fucking retards and you guys psych yourself out because you spend your days fapping to porn and wishing a girl would kiss you let alone jump on your dick.

>>40473203
Hey, I'm anon. Would you like to get coffee (insert date)?

Unfortunately any attempt to talk to a girl at the gym is going to look like creeping. Even if it's unintentional and nonthrearening like "where's the bathroom?" Or some shit.

Your best bet is bump into her somewhere else, like >>40473664
said.

So just stalk her and "suddenly" run into her on the street. What could possibly go wrong?

>>40473753
Kek, it crossed my mind. This guy' >>40473740
says it's cool to chat up girls at the gym.

>>40473737
That's really sweet anon, I wish I could have that but your case it actually quite rare.

>>40473657
Wew lad

>>40473692
That's what this thread is for. What reason an I find to talk to her. Give gyms are not a great place to chat.

>>40473744
Without even a minute of banter? That seems kinda rapey. Perhaps after I make her laugh a few time.

>>40473413
10 partners at 28 is pretty low senpai

>>40473826
Talking to a girl at the gym is exactly like talking to a girl anywhere else.

Be super confident, but don't be afraid of being rejected.

And don't come out with dumbass openers like critiquing her form.

>>40473842
If she's interested she'll go for it, if she isn't she'll turn you down. A bunch of awkward gym talk isn't going to change it one way or the other. I've found people respect a straightforward, honest attitude. But do your own thing.

>>40473872
He could walk out at the same time as her.

>>40473507
Compliment her form. Really.
A compliment is the best way to approch a woman plus it's both your hobby.
That's always a good way to start a conversation.

>>40473912
this sounds even more creepy than just talking in the gym

>>40473912
He could. But seriously...girls aren't dumb. In fact they are a lot better at reading guys than the other way around. Trying to orchestrate some elaborate scenario to talk to a girl comes across as manipulative and weird. Easier on your ego if it goes poorly but less likely to succeed in my opinion.

Y'all all over thinking the fuck out of this. Anytime I approach a girl I always comment on something relevant and nearby. There's no fucking algorithm to pussy you fucking faggots. Just walk up and say that whatever fucking retarded backwards reverse underhand deadgrip glute shrugs exercise she was doing looks cool and that you'd love for her to teach you it. It doesn't fucking matter, comment on how clean the air fucking is nobody gives a fuck. Your entrance doesn't matter, just set your destination for getting a number or setting up a date.

>>40473920
Not OP but could imagine trying this with my gym crush.
>hey, I noticed your form is great and you lift more than me.
Holy shit nothing like being at .5/1/2/2 after 4 months to hate your fucking self.

>>40473203
maybe compliment her form on a lift or be impressed with the weight she pushes/pulls
that opens communication so you can chat while leaving too

>>40473854
It's probably more like 15. I've partied HARD. in my early twenties. Woke up next to some nameless faces.

>>40473920
Thank you, this if for sure in my wheelhouse.

>>40473912
>>40473936
Yeah she would think I'm following her... because I WOULD BE.

>>40473864
Thank you. I can work with this.

>>40473854
See
>>40473947

>>40473692
>Asking advice about girls from "girls"

>>40473744
Dont do this when you've just met her
>>40473203
next time your gaze meets hers walk up to her
and say hey dont think to hard about what you say

>>40473974

So I just walk up to her and say "hi I noticed you have really great form, how long have you been doing this?

"She says something"

I introduce myself

>>40473970
NICE. thankyou. I've got this now guise.

>>40474035
That's the perfect time. When she's looking at me again.

Bueatiful, I've got this bros!

>>40474052
>"Hi, I noticed you have great form, how long have you been doing this?"
>"I want you to bend me over a barbell and make me scream like a wild hog."
>H--h---I'm uh....anon....

Sure that's fine. Just don't go out of your way to insult her and the worst you can do is be boring. You're fine.

>>40474082
I keked.

>>40473990
That's my plan. Next time our eyes meet.


I've got this now.

>>40474110
For
>>40474052

>>40474110
I'm confident about this now. Sometimes I just need to brainstorm with my autistic friend simulator.

>>40473203
just challenger her to a lift-off and make it high-stakes.
whats she gonna do? complain that its unfair because of gender inequalities?

alternatively you could ask her how many kilograms she weighs girls love talking about kilos

>>40474166
In all seriousness, you got this dude. You can say nearly anything, if a girl is into you it doesn't make much of a difference. Most important thing is that you like whatever you are saying or doing.

>>40474173
Then give her a dead arm and say "your turn!".

>>40474035
>next time your gaze meets hers walk up to her

Go with this. If your eyes meet give her a little smile. If she smiles back go for it.

I hope you're not one of those faggots who never smiles because it makes them look "goofy"

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>>40474203

>>40474203
.... dude. I've never been a smiler. Closed mouth grin maybe but not showing teeth. That's a fanatic plan though, I'll work with that.

>>40474186
Fantasia advice.

>>40473203
I did once. Gym was crowded and I started doing abs next to her (vertically) so our heads were facing each other when we were doing planks and I jokingly challenged her to a plank off. Made some small talk about abs n shit and what ab stuff she does. introduced myself when we were both finished and asked her what time she usually comes, she said it was usually around the same time and I told her hopefully I'd see her again here some more (didn't want to ask her number yet, too forward for just meeting) and she smiled and said yeah you too.

That was weeks ago and I haven't seen her since :(

Was planning on getting her number next time I saw her but now I think it's been too long since I saw her last. Is it creepy if I have a good memory and can remember people's faces and usually names for years after meeting them once at a party or somewhere random?

>>40474255
I hate to say but if you don't have a good smile you're never gonna make it. Any person, boy or girl, needs a good smile to get by in life. Otherwise you might as well be eliot rodgers school-shooter tier.

Even the goofy fucker in this >>40474212 pic probably gets by out of pity laughs.

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>>40474255
Give her the good ole white person smile

>pic related
But with a just little more smile

>>40474336
>That was weeks ago and I haven't seen her since :(
>Was planning on getting her number next time I saw her but now I think it's been too long since I saw her last.
The same shit happened to me except I didn't ask her what time she usually comes and now I'm going to the gym at different hours every day for a chance to find her

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>>40474336
she changed her schedule just so she didn't have to see you again

>>40474361
>>40474385
Guess I'll start practicing whenever I'm looking at the bathroom mirror.

>>40474426
>>40474336
Guess I better strike while the iron is hot and take my chances next time. Thanks for the cautionary tale.

>>40473947
>girls aren't dumb

Am I really the only KHV on fit? I'm 23 and I do not ever talk any females that I'm not related to outside of basic interaction at the store. No matter how fit I am (and at this point, 6 years in I have some nice gains) they always make it very clear they aren't interested. How can you have the balls to talk to girls? Like how do you even strike up a conversation without looking creepy?

>>40474534
Read the thread. It's been answered.

>>40473507
A wiser fellow than myself once said: "Don't shit where you eat."

>>40474581
"Models" by Mark Manson was super helpful for me. It's not just a how to pick up girls type of book, more like how to improve your overall life.

>>40474581

You're creepy if you talk to them, you're creepy if you don't. You're always going to be a creep to a certain segment of the female population. Just gotta find the ones who find you appealing. At that point all the others can choke a railroad spike.

>>40473203
Walk up to her and say "Hi, i'm anon", wait for her to introduce herself, and follow up with "I noticed you in the gym and was wondering if you'd like to get coffee sometime".

If yes, get digits, if no, say "cool, see you around", and then never talk to her again. You probably have a 1/5 chance of getting a yes. Godspeed, anon.

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>>40474736
That's more or less the plan. Will post results.

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Walk up to her when she's alone and resting.

"Excuse me. I'm gonna go back and finish my sets in a second ...

(be leaning away from her - #1 thing gym girls hate about being approached is not knowing how long you intend to stand there talking to her)

"...but I have to tell you: you look fantastic, and you're discipline is extremely attractive to me on many levels. I just wanted to introduce myself, I'm Anon. *handshake, get her name* I'm gonna go finish my deadlifts but I'll see you around."

>A few days later

"Hey, Erica! Wanna come back to my condo tonight, lay back on my bed and spread your tight little pussy open so I can stare into it?"

(said casually while smiling, as you gesture with your thumb over your shoulder to indicate the general direction of your condo (don't forget the lean back))

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>>40474336
Haha geez. Asking her what her schedule was... good job creeper

Should've said "see ya next time" or some shit, nonchalant.

You thirsty dumb bastard

>>40474872
>staring into her pussy..

I'm starting to get hard.

>>40473203
>go to gym a few weeks ago
>been lifting here for about two years
>gym is small with no deadlift area, so I have to borrow barbell from the bench press and do deadlifts where people stretch
>after moving barbell and doing warmup, 7/10 girl approaches
>"Hey, I'm annonette. Why do they call it deadlift?
>Respond "I dunno."
>proceed to do lift for 5 reps
>never talk to her again

>>40473203
what does she look like?

>>40474893
Fuck. I genuinely thought I wasn't retarded

>>40475540
Kinda mousy like a l pale ibrarian with long brown hair. Small frame with a narrow waist on top a tight bubble butt and perky tits. Skin liked bleached milk.

got one

>about a month ago
>leg day, gym has very few squat racks
>qt approaches and asks if she can work in with me
>say okay, proceed with 350x5x5
>"wow you're really strong, what was your name again?
>"anon. I don't know if you usually come here alone, but let me give you my number so we can work out together if you want"
>no idea where the fuck that came from
>she says okay
>text nonstop for 2 weeks
>she comes to the gym with me three times during that time
>ask if she wants to get dinner after 3rd time
>"oh sorry anon, I JUST started dating somebody"
>thatfeel.png
>never texted her again

>>40474014

Jesus Christ, you could've just been straight forward and posted... "I've never talked to women before"

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>>40475703
.... I guess she wanted you to bench press her vagina instantly without getting to know you first... fucking women bro, mfw

>>40475038
Because you're lifting "dead", as in on the floor, weight.

You're fucking retarded and deserve to have that one get away.

>>40475703
Damn anon that sucks.

But then again you essentially hung out with her three times and didn't make a move. She probably thought you were gay and moved on.

>>40473507
Do it almost every day...
>smile, hey, your Name... im the Crow... gutes Training!
Nothing Special, next time a Little more small talk, maybe ask her out.

I dont start a conversation in the gym. Just Show interest and go do my Thing.

Walking with a huge bulge was always positive too. Well ist not normal Walking... i use a walker like the old Lady do... paraplegic here.

>>40473920
>>40473974
No no no, dont compliment her! for god sakes not to your Gy crush... well only if you never want to fuck her, then do it.

>>40476350
i think the crow knows what's good. i wouldn't show any intention the first time i talk, id probably say something when im right near her like hey i always see you here im me, maybe hows it going too. then id be like nice to meet you and continue on most likely and then next times i see her i might just say hey or something until you become sort of friends of some kind or at least an acquaintance.

>>40475772
damn anon you jumped pretty hard into that conclusion

>>40473236
your pockets bro, what did you think?

>>40474872
>"Hey, Erica! Wanna grab a beer and then get a fingering? I could give you a high five later, too"

>>40473740

the only one who knows whats going on

Corny shit works.

If you see her a lot:

"Hey, nice form (or something similar). You come here often?" <-- smile here

Ez laugh then go from there. breaking the ice is the hard part

>>40475038
"idk, might have something to do with you being drop-dead gorgeous"

then do the finger pointing gun thing and skadaddle

>>40476762
yeah, why not. Just dont give a fuck and say what you want to the grills. Just stay in a legal Frame.
I dont tend to verbalize such agressiv things, but i escalate (grab, kiss her) quickly if i Isolate the Prey.

>>40476788
thats fucking stupid
just tell her you wanna eat her ass and spin her around on your cock like a windmill
if your aesthetics are on point she will say yes

>>40473203
Stare at her intensely.
Scream every time you life.
Talk to yourself under your breath whilst staring at her.
>psychological warfare

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>>40477218
>Scream every time you life
>you life
>life
>scream>life

>>40474125
>>40473990
>compliment her form on a lift
>in order to get her number

I think the first step to getting a woman, is not to ask for advice on /fit/...

Compliment clothing, or just ask her to coffee (gay and unoriginal, but women usually still go for it.)

Don't compliment form, that is the most autistic approach on god's earth, she might not even understand what you're on about, and even if she does, you will come across as an autistic gym perve.

If you cannot just ask her out, don't bother. There is no wizzard's equation.

Also, gym is very 50/50 on whether it is good place to ask a girl out, half girls are easy af, the other half have got niggerish ego.

>Get it through your skull that you shouldn't talk to grills at the gym. If they want to flirt, let them come to you. Even then, consider blowing them off. You're there to work out, nothing else.
>Find another hobby, a social one. There are social fitness related hobbies
>Don't talk to girls directly
>Get guy friends at your social hobby
>Eventually, they'll take you with them to parties and stuff
>Approach girls THERE, and not at the fucking gym

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>>40477344
You forgot the

>then die as a virgin

part... faggot

Girl here. It doesn't matter what you say. If she's seen you she has already decided whether she'd go out with you or not.

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>>40475930
This is exactly what she thought.

Source: someone did the same thing with me - got my number, we went for two or three runs together, the fourth time he asked me to coffee after but I honestly thought he was gay so I said no. If you don't at least flirt while you're with her she'll definitely think you're gay.

>>40473296
I know you won't believe it but it isn't polite even in Italy

>>40475038
shieet dude that sounds like my gym

>>40473203
DO NOT FUCKING OBSESS YOURSELF OVER HER
this is the last thing you must do. try to unobsess yourself. Don't talk to her at all. Calm down first.

>>40473842
I am bad at tickling people..what other ways are there to make her laugh ?

>>40478496
Obsessed isn't the word. If it was this thread would haven't went in the direction of following her around like some anons actually suggested. This thread is about striking up a conversation at the gym.

>>40478557
I strangled a girls kitten once. She was in tears with laughter. Good times.

>>40478365
Your right, I don't believe you.

>>40473203
hi im average joe. as an average joe with average expiriences i must inform you that you are literally wasting more time by getting obsessed and thinking about strategy rather than going for it and stop giving fucks about the results. just go for it and stop caring, if you don't fuck this time it will be the next one, just be yourself and build your confidence over being yourself and not planning.

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>>40473507
I've actually had a couple come up to me to talk and it just feels awkward. I'm jarred out of my train of thought and thus not ready for a conversation in the least. I've been jamming to music, counting seconds and thinking about that one rep I fucked up and how I'm gonna fix it next set.

Unless you're both using the same piece of equipment for a lot of sets, it just feels weird. Maybe it's just me...

>>40478597
im just trying to convince you to not throw pasta to italian grills if you come here so we can do it in peace

Does all of this advice work for dudes in the gym?

I feel like if you went up to one of the guys in the gym, he'd just ignore you.

>>40478636
OP here. Guys should know that if a girl is going out of her way to strike up a conversation at the gym then they're down.

The times this happened to me I didn't go for it though because I found these girls unattractive.

>>40473203
>>normal sex/social life

get out

>>40478343
What if flirting doesn't come naturally to the person? Don't any women believe in a neutral phase speaking as essentially crotchless humans to get comfortable first? Does the mal-female dynamic have to be there all the time for every second of the interaction?

>>40478618
I'm can't say I never planed on throwing pasta at women... because I have.

>>40477673
Post more

>>40478677
These are the only two.... sadly.
>>40477673
>>40473275

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>>40478663
I had a girl do this to me at work and going for it made her go away. It's left me shell shocked, to be honest. Sucked because she was perfect per my standards. So much so that it was as if I imagined her into existence. Fcukkkkk

>>40478671
As in not a NEET who browses /fit/ solely to look at shirtless muscular men for "research"

>>40478710
You should have chased. That sounds like the classic "playing hard to get" which is a very real thing.

>>40473740
I hate when people say this because there's no practical advice.

>Hi, qt
>Hi, anon

Now what?

>>40478676
i must be honest, i'm italian and when i've read about trowing pasta to a grill to flirt i immediatly was thinking about myself getting a huge fist of tomatoe spaghetti from my poket and trow it on her face. i feel it in my soul, i can feel the need of doing it in my blood. what kind of pasta has better chance to get you laid?

>>40478740
Start a conversation maby??

>>40478740
"I've seen you here alot, what's your routine"?
>Her: Blahahaha
"Oh nice, can I suggest some workouts?" "I spend 12hours a week here for lack oh anything better to do"
>Her: tee hehe, Blahahaha

>>40478745
I thing angel hair would make your point. Tortellini seems desperate.

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>>40475038
I've done this, too. Different words but exact same thing. Down to the deadlifting.

>>40478799
what about gnocchi alla sorrento?

Whats the best sauce to thorow the pasta with for you?

>>40478776
I can't suggest anything as anything i know relates only to me and is generally bordering on masochistic which makes that line of conversation a dead end for me. Your move.

>>40478725
That's a tough gamble at work. I left it; she's dating some guy she met online. Been 3 years.

>>40478841
Well learn some good chicken workouts then so you can suggest those as you have a general love of fitness and it is your hobby this will not come across as weird (so long as you actually at fit) your basically giving her free personal training at that point and most people jump on that opportunity. This assumes she's a regular grill and not a gym rat of course.

>>40478827
Could work. I'd go with a red sauce. The red really makes the point of "I'M FLIRTING WITH YOU!". White sauce sounds to pervy.

>>40478692
name?

>>40478885
Lol maybe I will. Thanks for engaging me on this and not just screaming about how I'm going to die alone and pissing off.

>>40478672
No, imo - it depends on the woman. Personally I prefer guys that aren't angling for sex / flirting all time time on the first dates, but then again I'm looking for more than casual sex.
I guess it depends on what you're looking for.

>>40478945
Wish I knew. I'm obsessed with this girl as she has the identical body of my ex (accept less asian). The one who got away. These pics are the only I've ever seen of her... for years.

>>40474336
Bro i wish i had that power. I got ADD and I will forget someones name literally 2 minutes after I learn it if I dont write it down. Im not a sperg about many things but sometimes I wont call people by their names even if I know them because im scared of getting it wrong and getting laughed at/ridiculed/angering them.

>>40473203
I know that feeling. There a girl at the gym and I've seen her go there for a while, really stunning, just my type. Decided to get the balls and ask her number and ask her out. She said she was really busy but was really nice about it and chatted for a bit and said to say hi when I see her. I might try again in a month or so.

If she talks with other people, then she's open to conversations at the gym. talk with her a few times here and there, small talk, let it build up. then when the time is right say "lets go (insert whatever you want to do here)."

If she doesn't talk to anyone ever, your best bet is a cold approach as she's leave the gym. This requires luck and timing, because if she has her eye on you, she'll notice you hovering in front of the door trying to talk to her and it'll put her off. Or hope you run into her outside of the gym. basically, if this is the case, move on.

>>40473718
>hey there, feeling fit buddy?

>>40474581
Anon i got an idea for you. It worked for me. Talk to girls that you dont find attractive. They can have terrible faces or be fat just start somewhere. Like walk around a walmart for an hour and ask random ugly women "do you know where the blank is?" Just force yourself to do it. After that you can move up both in the women you talk to and the complexity of the conversations you have. Baby steps bud youll get there jo problem

>>40478974
>first dates
How did it get into a date situation? How long would you have known this person before agreeing to a date? What if they're angling for the date immediately upon meeting you? Why is thirst ok initially but not once you're on the date?

There's a lot that goes into the initial meeting.

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>>40479127
What must it be like for an ugly girl reading a comment like this?

>>40479127
There was an anon who told the story of how he mastered conversation by talking to all types of random people thought out the day. While in line and such. Practice.

I've started this and my conversation skills are raising quickly.

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>>40478616
Please tell me there's one that goes all the way up to his tranny lesbian phase.

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>>40479291

>>40479289
I already do this but I've hit the wall of transitioning conversation into flirtiness or whatever leads to getting together or expressing interest. "Closing the deal" as it were.

>>40479154
I've met guys mostly at random places, a couple at the gym actually. Usually it is a conversation about lifting/other shared interests, then exchange numbers, then text for a little bit and get coffee/drink/whatever. For me it's important that we can have a conversation about things we have in common that isn't just flirting the whole way, and it's a good gauge of whether he's just thirsty or whether he's thirsty but also interested in something a little more serious. I think a good indicator is whether we can talk as two people with things in common, or if it always has to have a sexual overtone.

I was more responding to the guy asking if you had to be flirty all the time - and I don't think so. If a guy wants to have coffee/a "date", and is going out of their way like that, I'm not going to assume they're gay or whatever if they don't flirt constantly.

>establish clear eye contact and give a friendly smile
>for a couple times (days) smile/nod when you see her
>after you're no longer scared of eye contact, approach her and introduce yourself. Ask her what her gym goals are, say yours, then smile and walk away
>after a week of saying hey and small talk/when you're no longer trembling when speaking, ask her to chill

Autism friendly guide. Start slow if you have to. A lot of times a simple smile will let girls know you're interested, and make them a lot more up front/comfortable with you. Girls are actually more scared of rejection than you, so smile

>>40478740
Please tell me you're trolling or have severe autism...

>>40474336
>Is it creepy if I have a good memory and can remember people's faces and usually names for years after meeting them once at a party or somewhere random?

you just have to pretend like you don't know, or that you're struggling to remember. If you blurt out, "HEY WENDY!" you'll come off as weird. But if you say something like, "Hey... Wendy, right?"

I remember pretty much everyone's name, but you have to know how to use it.

>>40479387
Both of them are me. I'm not the type to go in for numbers and stuff. Even if we've had a chat at the gym, I don't KNOW them enough to cut time out of my day for them and it would be kind of disingenuous to imply I give enough of a shit to even call. Randos who approach me get treated with caution, male or female. Thanks for the insight though

>>40473203
>6' 175lb

SPOOKY SKELETON PLS GO

>>40479406
According to >>40478343 they'll think you're gay if you do that and turn you down.

>>40479421
Nah, I just find conversation with strangers a hassle. Even moreso with most women.

>>40473203
Guys I need some help. When Im doing cardio girls would regularly join the machine right next to mine, although there is a whole host of other machines available down the line. They will then use it for like a minute and then get off. Ive noticed they give me a couple of glances sometimes. D-do they want to talk to me? What does this mean?

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>>40479652
You know what it means. You're asking the wrong question. It's the question we're all discussing here.

>>40478740
If you guys watch RSD it's pretty simple. Just open up to something your passionate about, make statements and not questions it forces her to reply but not out need.
Try this
>Hey, how's your workout going?
>It's going good, I'm just training X today.
>That's cool, I'm just doing X and Y today, sort of an off day.

See how asking a single question could kill the interaction. Also, girls really like touching and public displays of affection. If you touch her and don't mind people noticing you two are talking she will very safe. It's all about her feeling comfortable and liking who you are man. Women aren't that complicated :)
Seriously, try shaking her hand or offering her a sip of your preworkout if you're feelin it

>>40479732
Youre right. Theres just one thing about woman that is the problem. They are WAY more socially evolved than men and can smell bullshit from a mile away. The attempts at convos I have made have been less than desirable. Worst part is to see the interest in their eyes fade away as you start talking. Fuck my life.

>>40479652
I'd open really casual with her. Like:
>hey I see you in here a lot femanon
>blah blah blah
>That's cool, why are you here?
>blah blah blah
>Start a relatable conversation about self improvement that can go somewhere
Try thinking shit out before hand. I've read like 4 books now on picking up and I'm in the process of putting into practice. Women ARE at the gym to meet people. It's okay to talk to her in the grocery store, a book store, a coffee shop or the club. Women love being approached by a guy as much as a guy like successfully talking to a girl.

>>40479846
Because you're going about it with a hidden agenda man. You can't think in the back of your head you just want sex. She clearly came up to the elliptical because she wants to slob ze nob. Just start talking and just get to know her. You know how many thirsty fucking dudes talk to her everyday? She is sick of that shit and is just looking for someone that's real. Talk to her about genuinely interesting and relatable shit. I've seen martial art instructors that work with RSD that will show girls how to do kung-fu moves in the club. Great way to peacock socially and physically escalate.

>>40479846
In the pickup community, the first 500 approaches don't count.

>>40479894
I've never looked at it that way. Thank you anon

>>40479556
No, there's a difference between striking up conservation in a communal area a few times and actively taking out/meeting someone a few times. Although taking too long can have the same results.

>>40478672
If you don't flirt right away, you're essentially a teletubby in her eyes. I learned it the hard way.

Men define women based on who they ARE.
Women define men based on how they ACT.

Act like you're interested in her.

>>40479846
>They are WAY more socially evolved than men and can smell bullshit from a mile away. The attempts at convos I have made have been less than desirable.
Man you worded that shit so well. Being ballsy is often rewarded and less risky than we assume.

>>40480389
But you have to do the first one to do the second one, no? Different steps in the same grand process.

>>40473718
Imagine someone coming up to you and shouting about how bad the smith machine is

>>40475930

Wrong.
Women are fully aware what is happening (i.e. you liking them), they just don't want a beta that can't muster up the courage to make a move.

>>40478343
Gay men don't ask women for their number so they can go for a run together you lying cunt.

>>40479332
Nature should handle that for you... body language an such.

>>40479387
Thanks for your girl incite.

>>40480889
I'd appreciated it like I did when /fit/ informed me on how terrible it is. I had an entire thread of people calling me retarded for using it but I did learn something and now I squat with the big boys.

>>40479537
Was 165. Working tward that 180. My metabolism makes me cut af.

>>40481934
>nature
>should
No it doesn't. There's some kind of segueway that somebody initiates.

>>40482229
This is OP and I've never had a problem with flirting. I made this thread for gym intros. Body language should tell you all you need to know when/If a girl is flirting with you. Even if they are flirting it's still not a sure thing though. Girls will flirt even when in a relationship.

>>40476350
What the fuck are you

>>40478740
you have to learn to improvise. talking to women is like any other skill, you have to hone it. that sounds gay as fuck, i know, but if you go without talking to anyone for a year vs talking to multiple people every single day, well i don't have to explain this.

you don't sit there and rehearse a script, fuck that. then what happens when you finally run out of shit to say? you sit there like a moron. just go up to a girl, say shit, and fuck up. i have multiple times and THAT is why i'm so successful with women today. the amount of times i've fucked up an almost guaranteed laid is well over 30-40 times. i've had girls APPROACH me at parties/bars and i fucked shit up. give me that shit back and i'd have them in my bedroom in no time. some people have a better childhood where they weren't sitting inside on 4chinz all day and may seem 'naturally' better at it, but i guarantee they've fucked up situations that resulted in them not getting laid.

the only piece of advice i can tell you is to train yourself NOT TO THINK about shit. you have to be able to see a pretty girl, and WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT WHAT YOU'RE GOING TO SAY, go up and talk to her.

most of you guys live in bigger cities where you'll probably never see/interact socially with that person again, so what do you have to lose? some random bish on twitter saying how creepy some random guy is? lol.

either way i've wrote too much. stop reading and go talk to a fuck ton of women. then youll realize how retarded they are and the idea of being tied down to the AVERAGE day women is a horrible idea. you'll realize you psyched yourself out over some bish who can't even cook food and has a fuckin filthy ass room cause she's a gutter slut. 100% serious