How do I lift with a broken heart?

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>>39982252
Start with something not heavy.
Like a rope and a knot

>>39982252
Use it to motivate you. Turn it into rage. That's what I did. I imagined the girl I once loved getting pounded and creampied by another man, then coming home and cuddling with me in bed. I felt like such a cuck, I had to push more weight. I was so enraged that I couldn't stand it any longer, I'd lose control and people around me would watch me do simple weight like bench 185 or squat 245 as a PR. I still feel though as if they knew the rage inside me, as if they could feel the energy, and I know the feeling when I see people who lift with the same enraged motivation. Either because they lost a family member, got betrayed, whatever.

>>39982296

>I imagined the girl I once loved getting pounded and creampied by another man, then coming home and cuddling with me in bed. I felt like such a cuck

Why torture yourself? How do you feel about her now?

>>39982252
harder

>>39982252
Lift with hate. Imagine the whore getting hammered by some other dude. If you were buff you'd be too absorbed by your own image to even think about someone else.
That's how i am, atleast. I love myself too much. I even fap to pictures of my cock and imagine how bitches love it.

>>39982296
>>39982340
Breh this hit home, godspeed see you at 9 plates

>>39982252
You fix it

>>39982252
Remember that your heart never truly breaks for you lift for thy. Someone else will come along and lift you up again OP but for now lift and get your mind off of things.

>>39982252
Stop being such a pussy and lift heavy things and put them down

Pick up the bar, put it back down.

Same as before you got sad, m8.

Dw m8 there is about a 90% chance you're gonna make it.

>>39982252
How has your heart been broken OP? Tell us

>>39982439

Dated this girl for 2 years. Really loved her. Towards the end, she didn't feel the same away about me as she did before. We broke it off and now she's with another guy casually.

>>39982465
Well better to break it off now than in 10 years anon. Feel sad for a day or two cry if need be then get your ass back up and treat yourself something nice and lift like you've never lifted before.

>>39982296

This
It's great because you become attuned to what i call the 'pulse of pain'
If you think about it pain is the engine of life
From killing to eat to getting dumped
The only constant is pain and immersing yourself in that pain is the only way to gain power

>>39982478

I wish I only needed one or two days. I haven't cried and I won't - too much pride. I'm a selfish fuck so knowing she got with someone else really killed me.

>>39982596
Her fault for letting you pass not yours don't dwell on it too much

>>39982252
lift because of your broken heart anon

you just lift

>>39982340
I could only use it as pain for so long before I started to stop caring about her and moving on. Now I use other motivators, but anger will always be the best. Just find something to get angry about. Dog recently got diagnosed with cancer and I might have to put in down within the next year. Been petting him and loving him a lot, but when I'm at the gym that turns into pain and anger for weight moving.

>>39982252
better with broken heart than with broken anuses

what is wrong with males nowdays?

>>39982596
>im a selfish cuck

Maybe thats why she left you. Improve yourself and move on, or go die in a sauna.

That being said, delete this thread inmediately and dont ever post on my board again.

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>>39982252
use the pain for fuel. that's what I did.

started at about 250 lbs. now I'm about 200 lbs.

use the pain and anger and frustration. make her jealous she's not with you anymore. make her wish she could have you again.

>>39982840
don't do that don't make her jealous make yourself jealous that you didn't start like that sooner

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I need advice fellow /fit/izens

21 yo kissless virgin here. Ever since I got fit girls hit on me all the time, but after
years of being ignored by them I feel such a resentment towards them

Literally nothing gives me more pleasure than telling a girl to fuck off och straight up ignoring them.
The day I turn a girl down I break PRs motivated by pure glee

But because I turn down every girl I stay kissless and a virgin

What do???

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ive lost hope already
i just wish some day some girl notices me trying hard and talks

i dont think i will ever go and embarrass myself again.

besides, no girl will put up with my shit

>>39983058
You know what to do.

>>39982840
Bad advice. You should lift knowing that a more healthy and attractive you will have a better chance of getting that girl back, but the decision is ultimately up to her. If you are sperg af and wanting to make her feel bad you probably won't get her. Love her with all your heart, see the goodness in all she does, as well as what she can improve on, and you will be able to have a healthy relationship with that girl you pine over. Best of luck anons, I'm in the same boat.

>>39982296
>Literally got dumped 15 minutes ago

Will do this on my next workout. Godspeed.

Don't lift to get her back for the love of god it will not work the 2nd time nor a 3rd please lift only for yourself

>>39982252
just look around the gym. find a qt with her DYEL bf. that is usually enough to infuriate me to lift

>>39983100
Elliot Rodger, please leave. You are dead.

>>39983058
So, if I'm reading this correctly, when you were unattractive girls didn't want you, now that you're fit they do. Okay, so basically then you need to find a fat, unattractive girl to fuck, because that proves you're not shallow like those girls who rejected you when you weren't fit.

>>39982833
i <3 /fit/

tfw

>>39982252
>unrack the weight
>lower the bar
>lift the bar back up

>>39983171
I'm about to get dumped in a few hours.
Gf said "we need to talk"

Help mi brahs

don't know what do to tbqhfamalam

>>39983267
don't get mad at her hear her out and try to get honest answers without any bullshit

>>39982296
This but don't go as far as this guy did. Just channel the burning in your chest into rage and use it as motivation.

My old gf dumped me and I swore I'd get a new girl, smarter, more attractive and less insane than the one who dumped me. So I used it to keep me motivated to improve myself. I eventually got a gf who was more attractive, kinder, smarter and younger than the old one.

>>39983100
Best answer

>>39983222
Worst answer

>>39983058
>>39983222
Do this !
i dare you.

you use the pain to lift harder. I've been using the same pain for 4 years

>>39983274
this

don't lift to get her back some time in the future

might happen

but ultimately will fail again and again

>>39983274
This is like a fairytale to me, i wish i can some day say this exact thing.

>>39983091
I want to say to you that you do have a chance, that you are moer tha what you think of yourself. Then again, life is not a fucking movie.
I wish I could tell you that, and be completely correct. But society was not meant for everyone

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>>39983272
Yeah, i just sat there and tried to not look too upset desu senpai.

>>39983282
is pain natty?

>>39983299
dude you got dumped, i'm about to get dumped, that advice was for me :V

>>39983320
>>39983299
just hold your head high and get as much closure as you need learn from it and do not get mad at her it's her decision to break up

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>>39983058
Hook up with them and then block their number

>and then you meet >her
>you actually like this girl
>you decide to keep her number and actually text her the next day
>you keep talking
>you guys get coffee
>you find out she lifts and hikes, your two favorite things to do
>you go back to your place for drinks
>you have a great conversation, which leads to making out on the couch
>she sobers up and goes home
>keep talking daily
>you invite her over for dinner
>things go great
>you guys enjoy a glass or two of nice wine
>you fuck, and she stays the night
>you wake up with her ass pressed against your dick, and your arm wrapped around her petit waist
>"good morning handsome" she says, and then gives you a kiss
>you cuddle and make out some more before she leaves for work
>you text her in a few hours
>no response
>wait a day and text her again
>no response
>message her on Facebook
>she leaves you on "seen"
>a few days later, she posts some guy on snapchat, obviously on an expensive date, with the caption "I love him more than anything" and multiple heart emojis

reminder

duck out if the compromises make you miserable. duck out if you get miserable. duck out if it just makes you uncomfortable.

the goal is not to force a relationship to keep going. its to find a relationship worth keeping.

there is literally no benefit to frankensteining a relationship other than possibly sex, but you're better off withotu it if it isn't working.

emjoy the relationship for as long as you can. and if it goes south, leave, cuz all you're doing is preventing yourself from finding the good one that might last.

lasting isn't the point, it isn't the goal.

And yeah you have to take the risk of making a high stakes deal with a potentially very unstable person, plus people change. That's life, you can't play all of it safe.

>>39983344
Shiiiiieeeet
that was going fine

>>39982252
Create an image so vivid that it infuriates you.

Mine is Imagining all of the times I've been too weak or too slow or out of breath or not Confident enough.

Also I used to have this very vivid nightmare...I was so weak my punches were like marshmallows and roaring at the top of my lungs came out as little more than a whisper.

Everytime I lift/run/etc. it makes me want to kill that weak little human inside of me and I have no spare thought for my broken heart.

>>39983344
>>a few days later, she posts some guy on snapchat, obviously on an expensive date, with the caption "I love him more than anything" and multiple heart emojis
spoiled bitches, do not date. ever.

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>>39982252
you man the fuck up, alpha males don't sulk over women. Women are basically the NPC companions in a videogame. Mildly interesting to have, yet they're disposable, sometimes annoying, and just not that important to the game

>>39983161
bad advice? the only bad advice here is trying to get back with her. leave her and never look back. I dated a girl off and on for 5 plus years and I finally dropped her this last time after breaking my heart. I will make her wish she never did. I want her to feel the regret and pain she made me feel. cringe I know but that's what fuels me at the gym a lot

>>39983344
fug man, i'm sorry to hear that. at least you got the validation, right? At least it happned, right? No one can take what's happened from you, r-right?
chekt, btw

>>39983467
the thing is the damn curiosity that kills me. HOW DOES IT FUCKING FEEL?!

>>39983525
what curiosity?

>>39983513
>the only bad advice here is trying to get back with her
this

can't fathom how people can get back with a gf again if the reason is not something minor like distance it didn't work once it won't work again

>>39983547
true. people just need to realize there are so many girls in the world. don't waste your time going after the ones who turned you down/dumped you/cheated on you/whatever. "but she's so special and basically perfect for me". no, faggot, that's the hormones talking. they all seem like that, for everyone, everywhere.

>>39983535
How does it feel to cuddle? To know someone's yours, to grab someone by the hand and see them smile, to have sex with someone you love, to just spend time doing nothing, just being with her, to go hiking with her, etc
>inb4 quiche faggot
I know and i hate myself for this. A lot.

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>>39982840
This, broke up last July, saw my ex last week, she looks like shit. Im up 3 pl8 bench and overhead is nearing 2pl8, that and I have fucked 3 other whores since then.

>>39983547
I know the truth hurts OP but basically what he said. I tried to make it work with my ex like 8 times over the course of 7 years or so. everytime she leaves me broken as fuck. if she left you, odds are it won't work out. just go to the gym and lift some metal brah. You'll make it.

>>39983547
>>39983573
or getting back with any ex-partner again for that matter it's just plain stupid clinging on to the past and hoping it might just get back to what it used to be

pro tipp:
it won't

>>39983467
well put anon.

>>39983513
>I will make her wish she never did. I want her to feel the regret and pain she made me feel. cringe I know but that's what fuels me at the gym a lot

You sound very young and naive. Maybe she wasn't the best to you, but you could do you r fellow human (her) a solid and not be dumping negative emotions into the thought of her. Just my two cents.

>>39983586
That's why it's calle truth and not lying anon.
>>39983576
Don't feel ashamed for your feelings anon never do.

>>39983344
ffs
don't do this to me

>>39982402
Lmao9pl8

Lift more losers

Hazing your body physically is the only way to subdue the emotional pain for a short time. Or whiskey, but that's a road that will leave you a shell of a man.

>>39983586
>I tried to make it work with my ex like 8 times over the course of 7 years or so
Damn son hope you've learned your lesson for good this time

>>39983573
>"but she's so special and basically perfect for me". no, faggot, that's the hormones talking. they all seem like that, for everyone, everywhere.
fucking THIS

perfection is an illusion and the worst kind

>>39983295
>society was not meant for everyone
:(

>>39983576
its all overrated desu. They're basically just a best friend you spend half the time with. Cuddling isn't that comfortable, it lasts like 20 minutes tops. Flirting and teasing all the time though is the best part. But other than that they're a best friend you sex twice a day. But nobody is going to love you until you bench 3 plates

>>39983467
thanks for this. gf dumped me. Been crying a lot

>>39983671
see >>39982478
>Feel sad for a day or two cry if need be then get your ass back up and treat yourself something nice and lift like you've never lifted before.

>>39983607
>Don't feel ashamed for your feelings anon never do.
it's so hard not to feel ashamed

>>39983661
>But nobody is going to love you until you bench 3 plates
B-but, I don't bench (not needed so much in oly)...

>>39983698
>it's so hard not to feel ashamed
Well just don't feelings make you human

>>39983619
I do both. At least I'm a decent looking shell.

>>39983698
>in oly
How long you been doing oly?

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>>39983601
you're probably right anon. but I won't forgive her for what she did. I'm not OP by the way. I'm just some guy who was dumped many many times by the same girl and was completely crushed every time.

I could show respect. but why would I do that when she never showed me any? your words are wise but I digress. I will not forgive her anymore. my trust was misused so many times I honestly don't remember accurately the exact number.

I will show her how much better I have become and I will not let her take advantage over me again. my absolute worst days in my life by far was because of her. I want her to hurt like she made me hurt.

>rant over

>>39983722
>I'm just some guy who was dumped many many times by the same girl and was completely crushed every time.
learn from it let a new relationship blossom from that experience

>>39983722
>I will show her how much better I have become and I will not let her take advantage over me again. my absolute worst days in my life by far was because of her. I want her to hurt like she made me hurt.
That is the childish way yes or you could man up and act like a grown up and lift for yourself

>>39983703
i hate being human desu :(

>>39983714
about three months. im in an oly club and everyone says this, the program never gives much attention to bench. Just a few reps here and there

>>39983749
>i hate being human desu :(
Still don't be ashamed of your feelings

>>39983748
OK Anon

>>39983513
You need better motivation than that. Anger is great motivation, don't get me wrong, but it's wildly inconsistent as motivation.

Do it for you, your family, and your future. Don't do it out of spite because eventually you'll get over that some broad was a bitch to you and be left with no motivation.

>>39983722
best way to get back at her is to not give a fuck and live a better life without her

>>39983161
>bad advice

wtf your advice is literally one of the worst i´ve ever read on fit

>>39983722
you have two options:
>obsses over her and end up killing yourself
or
>forgive her, from the bottom of your heart one last time, accept that she might have her issues, and move on with your life.
>Don't let her do more damage than she already has
>Don the armor of indifference (*tips*), so she becomes a no one, a stranger.

I did this with my bullies, back in hs. I forgave them and when i see them i greet them as if they were just my old schoolmates, with a sincere smile on my face. Because they do not hurt me anymore. They never did. I moved on, i won't let them harm me anymore than they already did, except late at night, when im still awake, i can only think of butchering them. But, realx, and it will cool off

end of blogpost

Don't tell me there are literally people ITT which got back with their Ex please for the love of all that is holy tell me that this is not true

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I HAVE TERMINAL AUTISM
PLS HELP

>>39983759
i'll try, anon. Thanks. but i'd give it all in a heartbeat to become a j00cey bear somewhere in canada 50000 years ago

>>39983842
start your own thread and don't abuse this one for starters
also
she's ugly as hell dude a rats face might even be a guy during daytime

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>>39983732
>>39983748
>>39983795
>>39983796
>>39983825

i don't know maybe you're all right.

>kill yourself

idk about that anon but maybe I should try and forgive her. at least try.

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>>39983842

>>39983865
it's just that everytime I have any thought even remotely of her I can't help feel anything other than pure unimaginable rage and sadness for what she did.

do you brehs know what I'm saying?

>>39983865
Good luck!
WE'RE ALL GONNA MAKE IT

>>39983882
Sure but man up and throw away those childish thoughts nothing will come off thinking that way other than negativity

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>>39982252
Heavily.

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>>39982296
May you be blessed by many plates in the church of iron smart anon

>>39983909
>Rip praying to QUAD before a 10x10 200kg squat?

>>39983882

I know how you feel, brother.

This is why forgiveness is key. Most importantly, you need to forgive yourself for being abused, for making the mistakes you made, for being a doormat. Learn from it and be better.

>>39983208

What is average benis size

>tfw found out ex stayed with me 6 months after she'd fallen out of love with me

Spot my feels /fit/

>>39983344

>you post 'is he goldilocks? Because apparently my porridge was just right' on the photo
>thot and thot enabler btfo

>>39983795

Not if you can maintain anger

I think of it this way
We live on one planter and every resource is finite
So everyone has a vested interest in seeing you dead to up their potential share of resources
Hence i lift to become stronger as the weak are inevitably the property of the strong
It's literally lift or die

>>39984266

*planet not planter

>>39984113
Well desu it's her fault for staying when she wanted out. Find someone who's mature enough to talk about feelings

>>39982252
Lifting kills time.

>>39984303

Ehh i think it was more cause we were together 6 years

It's just s bit shit to know she was biding her time all those 6 months waiting to drop the axe

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>>39982296
>

>>39984185
Do you not know what snapchat is, or are you just retarded

>>39982252
By using your arms

>>39983313
Is there anything more natty than pain?

>>39985175
rich piana

>>39983294
It happens. I've been in a handful of relationships, and after each one ends I'm confronted with the same thought: "There will never be a woman as good as her". I'm proven wrong time and time again. There's so many good women out there, man.

>>39982380
T. Patrick Bateman

>>39982252
See your cardiologist before engaging in any strenuous activity
No but really if your heart is broken you should be smashing prs. Turn the sadness into rage, but don't shoot up a school, just pick up heavy things

>>39983842
ask if she is an archeologist

>>39983580
>other whores

I c what u did there

>>39982252
That picture makes no fucking sense. Think about it for one god damn second. He still has his heart. It's fucking retarded.

>>39982252

I got dumped in November. I think it was the first time I ever really loved a gf. I moped about it for awhile. I still do sometimes.

I started lifting because of her. I wanted to make her jealous, to make her regret dumping me, to make her miss me me, and to win her back. I used the pain as fuel at first.

Eventually, you'll realize she didn't deserve you and she wasn't worth it. Learn to love yourself and lift for yourself. We're all gonna make it.

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>>39982296
>I imagined the girl I once loved getting pounded and creampied by another man, then coming home and cuddling with me in bed. I felt like such a cuck, I had to push more weight.
Never change /fit/

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guys. i have just found what i needed for fuel.

>have old gf, still good friends
>since we broke up shes had new bf
>she starts talking to me
>snapchat daily, text almost daily
>new years comes around, she says we should hang out
>me thinking sure, why the fuck not, havent had sex in forever
>hang out, fuck like rabbits, had fun, feels great, say we should hang again soon
>literally a day later she shits on it, saying she isn't over her ex, no more hanging out
>know that thats code for you're not as good as him

i have found my gasoline. fuck her and him and everyone, wish me luck, brothers.

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>>39982465
What did you learn?

I have two pieces of advice for you: first, have fair and realistic expectations of yourself and others, second, find something else to stick your cock in, great for making the sads go away.

I would also urge you to consider not falling for the monogamy meme in 2017.

>>39987845
But a piece of him is gone.

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>>39982596
>knowing she got with someone else really killed me
Why do you care? She's just some chick; there's literally *billions* more where she came from.

There's nothing special about her, and there's a fair to near certain chance she was "talking" to her new dude before you guys even formally ended things.

We're conditioned to put women on a pedestal, which is insane considering the overwhelming majority of them, in the western world especially, are vapid, entitled, capricious, self-centered, and above all, *replaceable.*

Move on, and like I said, find something else to stick your cock in, you'll forget about her.

Even if you're blue pilled as fuck when it comes to matters of love, relationships, and women, which you may very well be, I'm sure you can appreciate this: you have a finite amount of emotional energy at your disposal, why on earth would you expend *any* of it on shit you have no control over?

She's gone, and that's probably for the best. Ironically enough, the single greatest way to get a girl to come back is to not care if she does. Fake it until you make it, and eventually you won't have to.

Good luck OP. Sack it up, man.

>>39988523
If you literally consider a woman, any woman, "part" of you, you're a cuck, a beta, and you've already failed.

Women are attracted to men who don't give a damn about them.

turn your sadness into anger, anger into motivation. doesn't it make u mad that ur ex hoe is fucking some other twat?

>>39983580
Yeah? In the meantime 30 Chads have planted their seed in her.

>>39988542
found the teenager

>>39982296
Well, you don't have to go into cuck territory. Just remind yourself that if you weren't a fat sack of shit, she would have been attracted to you and the only reason you're an unattractive fat sack of shit is because of you so only you can change that.

>>39982252
Lift it with your legs

>>39982276
>No Gondola
0/10 would not kms.

>>39983688
>still crying

>>39989313
I have never been fat in my life though. She was just a whore, has nothing to do with me. Some women get off on cheating regardless of who they are with, she was one of them.

>>39989312
Found the virgin. Nice fedora btw.

>>39985937
>"There will never be a woman as good as her". I'm proven wrong time and time again
this!!!!!!!!!!!

stop thinking about how oh so perfect your previous partner was she/he wasn't

>>39984441
>It's just s bit shit to know she was biding her time all those 6 months waiting to drop the axe
Shit behaviour from her m8 don't dwell on it

>>39989326
Get your sorry ass up and do something, anything, you want to and stop thinking about it over and over shit won't get any better by doing this

>>39989341
no shit I'm a virgin, rofl. you really are a teenager if you consider that an insult

>>39989363
And you really are a virgin if you believe most women aren't whores that want to be treated like shit.

>>39989377
you're so deluded it's not even funny. please don't tell me you took all that reddit redpill shit seriously. tell me you're not that goddamn stupid

>>39989357
cheers man

>>39989397
>reddit redpill shit
Just common sense from being in multiple relationships. There are good women out there, but most want to be treated like shit. If you ever were in a relationship you'd know this.

How do you lift with not knowing whether the girl wants you genuinely or not?

>>39989415
your ghetto little anecdotes aren't worth a shit. I can tell why you had the experiences you did and it's because you're a shit dude so you only come into contact with shit people. but the funniest part is you extrapolate the two strippers you dated to be all woman kind. simply hilarious, you're so stupid dude

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>>39982296
>I imagined the girl I once loved getting pounded and creampied by another man, then coming home and cuddling with me in bed.

I feel like Heathcliff in Wuthering Heights, for anyone who's read that book. It's my favourite novel because I relate so strongly to it. Half the people I've met who've read it say they couldn't read it through because they couldn't stand Heathcliff, he's such a horrible character. I feel just as bitter about >her as he does about Catherine. I fucking hate that girl, and yet I love her completely. I've spent a lot of time ruminating over ways I'd want to get back at her for the way she destroyed me, and then I spend the rest of the time wishing I could just see her again.

I don't even know if I love her, I spent my entire adolescence as her boyfriend, we developed into adults together, we were always together to the point where I didn't even feel she was a different person to me. What hurts most is the way she seemed to freely dislocate herself from me and move onto someone else almost immediately, like I'd been tricked that entire time into thinking she was conjoined to me, but in fact she was just a parasite who sucked me dry and moved onto her new host once she felt I was empty.

Christ, I fucking loved that girl so much, and I haven't even been with another girl in the 4 years since she left me. I try and act like I don't give a shit; repeat all the AA-tier slogans like just lift and smash pussy right, she was just a hole so just replace her with another one. But I'm not sure I'll ever get over it, honestly. All I do is live in cocoon mode - I go to the gym, walk my pupper, then it's back home where I don't want to be around anyone and I can just ruminate by myself.

>>39989415
>There are good women out there, but most want to be treated like shit.
can confirm

woman want a mixture of being treature like cattle and princess
show too much and she'll be repelled by you
show not enough and she'll be thinking you're not into her

it's weird but you have to be controlling, stand your man

>>39989431
Dude, it's not like these women want to be beaten and raped, but a lot of women like to be treated poorly. That doesn't necessarily mean you need to treat them poorly, but understand that if they don't get what they want out of a relationship, they may end up leaving you for someone who gives it to them.

>>39989440
I lost the ability to love, with this kind of thinking. Be careful brah

>>39989458
like I said, you're deluded. you're basically telling me the results of your acid dream. I feel bad you fell for that stupid meme but you're young and live in a poor neighborhood most likely so what the hell should I expect from you, right? you'll either wise up or you wont but until you do you'll be making me both laugh and cringe when you post shit like you're posting now

>>39989458
>but understand that if they don't get what they want out of a relationship, they may end up leaving you for someone who gives it to them.
As should guys

>>39988460
At least you banged her again bro.

>>39983058
Save your time and go mgtow

>>39988460
>>literally a day later she shits on it, saying she isn't over her ex, no more hanging out
>>know that thats code for you're not as good as him
Shit like that is why guys like us tend to be more careful around girls

>>39982296
been a year and one day since I broke up with my ex, I do the same thing man.

We all gonna make it.... one day....

>>39982296
big lenny?

>>39989503
Don't get back at or with her anon please.

>>39983267
dump her first

>>39989479
Dude, I live in an upper middle class mostly white neighborhood. Honestly, ghetto trash is probably more mentally stable than some of the girls I have dated. Idk what fantasy world you live in where most of the girls are perfect and pure, but a LOT of women are going to end up being slutty. Hell, there was a study done of women around the world, as well as men, and while ~20% of men admitted they would cheat if they could get away with it, ~70% of women admitted to the same thing.

I'm not saying all women are bad, I truly believe there are good honest women out there. Just not in the majority. Get out of your fantasy world where all women are pure creatures that need to be cherished. Some do, some don't. Same with men.

>>39983344
Sounds like not too much time wasted and relatively clean end. Where do I sign up?

>>39989445
>>39989458
5 years married and I still do that to my wife. Be in control. Never let her understand you. Ram her with all your might when you bang her. Occasionally do something to make her feel good about herself, like once every month or two.

>>39989547
I don't know which is more hilarious, the fact you're sincerely spouting redpill reddit memes or the fact you just quoted some huffington post "world wide poll" as your rationale for doing so. you're like a fucking cartoon buddy. get at me when you grow up

PS. LOL at your "a-and men t-too" shit there at the end. you sound like a fucking tumblr girl

>>39989574
agreed 100%

don't be a pussy but don't be an egoist

>>39989574
>Ram her with all your might when you bang her

what do you do if they start crying?

>>39989583
ram harder

>>39983358
underrated

but a very hard state for people to achieve. Paradoxically comes from experience which is what a lot of people lack.

>>39989601
>>39983358
>lasting isn't the point, it isn't the goal.
Literally what 99% of everyone i know try to achieve, beating a dead hors (relationship)

>>39989583

This >>39989589
Sex is good HIIT and should be treated as such. If you're lifting all that heavy ass weights and your woman isn't hurting when you're ramming her full force, she'll find someone else who can.

>>39989580
>t. kissless virgin who has literally admitted to never having been in a real relationship
idk how you do it bro
>>39989547
this man. aint no memes or anything just the fact that not all women or even humans in general are perfect. some want to use you some want to be used by you some want to abuse you some want to be abused by you.

>>39989589
>>39989606
but she literally jumped off and curled into a ball sobbing her eyes out saying I hurt her

>>39989607
>the guy whose only had 2 relationships that failed and thinks he has everything figured out because he read some angsty posts on reddit that really "hit home"
oh sure, you're the guy with important knowledge here. yep, the fucking deluded failure. have fun, pal

>>39982252
Nothing really helps.

The best thing you can do is not to lift alone.
If you don`t have a gym bro already you will have a hard time.

I remember when my ex gf broke up with me I had to fight like crazy to not rest 5minutes in between sets and think about her.

Don`t lift alone.

>>39989607
>some want to use you some want to be used by you some want to abuse you some want to be abused by you.
catchy song is now stuck in my head

>>39989614
then maybe ask whats wrong

>>39989620
>If you don`t have a gym bro already you will have a hard time.
>
>I remember when my ex gf broke up with me I had to fight like crazy to not rest 5minutes in between sets and think about her.
>
>Don`t lift alone
shit tier advice
not everyone is like you
not everyone will endure the same shit you have anon
stop that

everyone is different and treats a break up in different ways

>>39989658
poked her stomach breh

>>39989668
huh?

>>39989658

>everyone is different

nope. Every man goes through the same process. Stop that esoteric bullshit

>treats a break up in different ways

It`s about the lift after a breakup not the breakup itself.
Being alone with your thoughts while holding the iron bar is killing the lift. Best way to not be alone with yourself is having company.

Whats your advice Mrs. Freud?

>>39989700
>Stop that esoteric bullshit
no people are different so is their way of approaching a break up
telling people to have a lifting buddy because you didn't want to go lifting is bad advice

>Being alone with your thoughts while holding the iron bar is killing the lift
then you're dwelling way too much on it
while lifting my head is clear and the only thing i'm concentrating on is the lift itself

>>39989614
Your glutes must be really strong then. Try and ease up buddy.

>>39989705
I never said I didn`t wanna go lifting. I kept my program active. It just took ~30minutes longer because she was omni present in my mind.

>then you're dwelling way too much on it
Thats exactly what I believe OP`s situation is.
If he had no problems with the lift and had a clear head he wouldn`t have to create the thread.

>>39989731
Music brah. It takes your mind off her.

>>39982296
Holy shit what the fuck anon

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>>39983344
This just made me so angry. If this happened to you anon, I am so so sorry. You're gonna make it, I promise.

>>39983344
>>she leaves you on "seen"
better than
>she unblocks you
>talks to you
>she blocks you

>>39983467
The fucking filename

>>39983576
It's great, but the paradox is the more you try and hold onto it the more they pull away. The easiest way to continue to get that from someone that you love is to indulge in it as little as possible while still staying sane. Women are fucked.

I miss waking up in the morning still holding each other, kissing each other good morning and staying in bed talking bullshit for another hour before getting up on the weekend. But then I remember that really only happened during the first year and a half and the whole time after that she acted like a fucking cunt who wanted as little contact as possible but still freaked out at the thought of losing me. Shit sucked and I realise that now, but it hurts looking back right after it ends.

>>39982296
I do the exact same thing

>>39982252
legday bruv

Philosophical question here:

Is lifting BECAUSE OF a broken heart the same as lifting IN SPITE OF a broken heart?

I don't have issues lifting. It's pretty much what keeps me sane. It gives me a great self-esteem boost as well.

I still miss my
>him
so much though. It'll never workout but if he only knew that if given a chance, I'd love the shit out of him and do my best to be a good wifey for him. If only...

>>39991138
It wouldn't work a 2nd time anon

>>39982252
If that outline works how I think it does, she has a dick [spoiler] I approve [/spoiler]

>>39991138
>It'll never workout
you tried and it failed i presume?

>>39991205
I know. He doesn't want me anymore and there's nothing I can do to change it. I could chase and waste my time and energy but it wouldn't make a difference. >>39991216
Wanted he be with me, he would.

Shit sucks balls.

>>39991233
Well at least you know it wouldn't work now stop lingering on the thought and starting improving your life for yourself no girl nor boy can make that happen only (You)

>Ask nerdy as fuck college qt out (Literal A+) student
>"No, I don't date meatheads"
What the fuck

This absence of communication is killing me

>>39982296
This

When I start to feel fatigued during a lift and feel like I'm going to fail the last rep, I imagine my ex sitting in front of me judging me for not being able to complete the set.
Without fail, I get a surge of energy, the anger this anon talks about, and I feel like I can do even more reps.

>broke it off with me November
>still think about her constantly
>she has no feelings for me anymore
>havent talked to her since December
>hoping I gave her enough time and space
>hoping next semester to maybe I can see her and possibly respark what we had

is this bad?

>>39991883
>>she has no feelings for me anymore
At that point you should not dwell on it any longer anon.

>>39991883
Im on that boat anon but It was september for me.
My biggest fear was that she was going to get together with that guy she talks to everyday.
and I was right. As soon as she started ignoring me after I left her she started dating him 2 months later.

Seeing his hand around her shoulder in the picture infuriated me. His smile is what I want to destroy.

So much for the multiples "I dont see him that way!" and "no I dont like guys younger than me" when I always brought it up.

I constantly think about what I could of done to avoid all of this happening. I thought it all through and I did do shitty things but everyone, even I think she was the main problem.
Emotional damaged whore who cant be alone. I just spent so much time with her I hurts so much. I wanted her to be the one for me.

Now I just want to hurt her and him. Any way I can. Even by lifting

>>39991893
it's hard not too

>>39991987
>I constantly think about what I could of done to avoid all of this happening.
probably nothing. most of the time it's just a case of people finding out they weren't that great for each other after all. I mean, if you did something obviously wrong then learn from that, of course, but if it just deteriorated over time then it was probably not meant to be, and the best thing to do in that situation is to find someone more compatible. All the time you spend dwelling on your ex could be more productively spent with someone who actually appreciates you for who you are.

>>39992057
I know, but you have to let it go. She is not coming back, and carrying that small bit of hope is preventing you from moving forward.

>>39992066
>more productively spent with someone who actually appreciates you for who you are.
thats the hard part. Finding someone that does.
I've known her for years and dated for 2. It seemed like the stars aligned or something and we shared a lot.
It was hobbies, lack of trust due to her lying and having multiple male friends that was wrong. I dont believe she did anything behind my back, I really dont but It still made me uncomfortable and fought over this a lot.

I just miss her so much and the good times but as soon as she got with him it all turned to anger. Having hope is a bad thing. I did learned a lot. Im really bad when it comes to breakups.

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>>39982252
I just cry into my towel at the gym ;-;

>>39992124
This

Besides it didn't work out the first time it won't work out a 2nd time you have to realize that and move on by thinking about you and not her now

When I broke up with my girlfriend, I went into depression. I started eating like 10 meals a day, pizza and shit. I was really lanky, so it helped. I bulked a lot, and used my anger and sadness as fuel for my gym sessions. Gym was the only place where I could forget about everything that was bad about my life. After a while I gained 15 kilos, bigger than ever. Never had a problem with girls before, but they started noticing me even more. Then I found a new girl, depressed no more. My ex still calls me from time to time, trying to get back together.

So in conclusion, use the state that you're in right now OP. I promise it will be better.

>>39982296
>I imagined the girl I once loved getting pounded and creampied by another man, then coming home and cuddling with me in bed.

i-it's not a cuck fetish. It's for my lifts!

>>39983058
9 more years and you will be able to lift with magic

>>39992372
Don't let her get back with you anon

>>39982252
Feel the pulse of the dead, for you have no heart. Then you will know the true meaning of Power. True Power is knowing that no one gives a shit about you, so you can do whatever you want with your life. No one expects anything from away, which is why you MUST blow their wxpectations away.

>>39992641
the only one you should never disappoint is yourself

>>39988490
>BBRRRRAAAAAAAPPP
>pft

No shame in getting with someone else as long as you accept that it's over

>>39992607
Yeah I know man, it would end really badly :) She knows she can't get anyone who loves her the way I did, that's why she still tries after 3 years. The tragic thing is, she has a boyfriend too.

>>39992754
>it would end really badly
Good that you're acknowledging that don't give her any attention of any sorts and do whatever pleases you

>>39991883
Don't. Just don't hold on to it. You will only hurt yourself anon. She is done with you.

>>39982296
>Use it to motivate you. Turn it into rage. That's what I did.
this gonna be good

>>39982296
All these new replies

>>39993025
This

>>39993025

This x2

She already had time to think about and weight how she felt leading up to the break up

if her feelings magically return she will reach out first

christ almighty what is up with you people thinking about your ex and hoping you might get back together

this is cringe tier people

when it's over it's over it will not work a second time as much as you would like it

sometimes this board is like r9k 2.0

>>39993309
>if her feelings magically return she will reach out first
Pro-tip: They won't what's done is done and should not be undone

>>39982252
>broken heart
back to >>>/mlp/ with that shit

>>39993324

Not necessarily. It's happened to me before. You get yourself better and show you're enjoying life, she has a year or two and realizes there's nothing out there like you, tries to text, you ignore because you don't care anymore.

Happened to me. But in all likelihood it is over, yes. Even if she did ever have a change of heart it's not worth being someone's point of convenience or safety net.

>>39993351
She might reach out to you yes but it will not work the same way or better than it used to because there's a reason you guys broke up in the first place and this reason will sooner or later come up once again

>>39993351
>Even if she did ever have a change of heart it's not worth being someone's point of convenience or safety net.
agreed.

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Girls who think they can lift

>>39993663
id bang her

>>39993663

The fuck is this bullshit? A weight she could load up with a couple of plates but she's got the bar totally fucking full.

>>39993684
seen it done in my gym too

guy loads up 3x 10kg plates on each side instead of using the big plates

How do I lift when I have to poop?

>>39993838
Poop first then lift otherwise poop in pants

>>39982252
Was she a whore? If so, stop wasting time and emotions on her, do what this anon did>>39982296, and use it as bonus motivation to find a good woman

Lift nevertheless
Don't think about her too much
Don't want to get back together with her won't work again
Enjoy life

>>39983344
Fucking bitch

>>39982252
Lift heavy Bro.

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I was going out with a girl, holding hands and stuff but I never kissed her, I'm socially inept so it didn't happen. We kept talking and everything was going fine then she started becoming distant and I knew there was someone else, I just didn't want to listen to my gut. It ended up being right; she's currently with him and I can only imagine the stuff they do.
Before I would get angry. God gave me nothing else but an unconquerable rage that burns on and on but now I feel some sort of relief that she's with someone that can give her what I couldn't.
>Man is a mystery. It needs to be unravelled, and if you spend your whole life unravelling it, don't say that you've wasted time.
I want as much wisdom and knowledge of man and woman as possible before I kill myself. I don't have any hard feelings towards her; made me feel loved and gave me rage for the gym and now I am free.
Some sort of advice from someone who's too naive for life: if your gut feeling is off, it's most likely correct about it. Whether it's a situation, people, etc. And second, abandon all hope. It's foolish to cling on to something you deep down know isn't gonna happen. If it does, good but as the anons above me have said, fuck it and if it doesn't, you weren't expecting anything either.
I shall see what life has to offer. Peace be upon you all and sorry for the blog post.

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>>39991883
Most people would say yes it's bad. Holding on is an extremely painful process. However, if you're like me, you'll put up with any pain to get what you want. As much as I'm running from reality by giving myself false hope, I simultaneously love hurting as part of the game, because accepting pain is how the strong choose what they want. Weaklings have to take what they can get because they can't stand the pain. But I've brought myself to the brink of suicide playing these games with girls, hiding my pain the whole time, all in efforts to keep them around, and once it passes, I never regret it.

>>39993684
>>39993728
What is warming up?

>>39995947
your a phaggot dont kill yourself. Be better don't have so low self esteem you seem smart so just man up and get a better gf

I have written this same piece of advice on other similar threads but here it comes again:

You will fully get over her(him (not necessarily forget but get over and not feel heart broken anymore and miss her) the day you meet someone who compares to the person in question.When you fall in love again, it'll heel all the old scars and wounds.

It's hard finding a new suitable partner. But the only way to do that and try is to actively do things in order to find a new partner. Don't be maniac about it, but be social, try Tinder just for the sake of it, small talk with the qt at the gym. Don't have an end goal, don't imagine every slightly interesting person to replace the former one, but keep the possibilities open and seek for new opportunities.

You gotta let go. If you keep thinking about her all the time, you form an addiction. You just simply do, and no wonder your thoughts will revolve around her and just her. You do that to yourself.

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>got back with ex after she slept with someone else
>gave me chlamidya
>called her a slut and she had a mental breakdown lol
>got into redpill and self improvement and my squat is up to 3pl8

Some may say I was cucked but hey lessons are learned, not told. She will still be the same miserable shitty person 10 years from now and at least I am on the path to developing myself as a better man

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>oneitis posts "block his # and love yo self"
>talk to her
>she told me to go fuck myself
>next day coworker told me that she quit
>"Did she say anything about it, you guys are together anon."
>surprised by what she said
>"She likes you Anon. She talks about you alot."
>finally confessed my feelings for her
>no reply

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>>39982296
I don't regret entering this thread.

>>39996450
>got back with ex after she slept with someone else
>gave me chlamidya

Deserved.

>>39995947
Don't do it anon, you'll never find out how painfully Griffith will die.

>>39996532
I don't disagree with you. Major fucking lesson learned and thank fuck it wasn't herpes

>>39996467

word of advice, never let a girl know how you feel until youve banged

also never mention the future of you 2 together, let her do that. as in asking questions like "where do you see this going?"

learned all that from experience with my oneitis

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>>39996888
>mfw I'm a grill and I never mention the future or the nature of the relationship until a man does cause there modern bitch weaklings will be scared away if you even mention the R word.

>>39996994
if you have him hooked, it wont. if hes interested why would it scare him away

>>39982296
Tbh lad I imagined the same thing when my ex broke up with me but tried to tell me that she still loved me. Hitting a 265 x 5 squat tomorrow