social autist problems, need help

>>39816444
Don't worry, guy. New years is right around the corner and there will be so many new people that you will see how good you are doing and be happy in a crowd.

>>39816463

I go to an all male gym, maybe I should go to one of the bigger ones, but I doubt they have as many machines

>>39816505
No you are doing it right. Do you look at the other guys a lot? Do they look around a lot?

>>39816514

Yes people look around.

>>39816444
bigger in what sense? taller or more muscular?

as someone who won the genetic lottery and is 5'4 i just learned to deal with it. everyone i meet is taller than me, including girls and most kids lmao. can't do anything about it so why waste energy on it?

>>39816523

there are taller, I'm like 5"8 manlet, but it's the bigger as in size ones.

I think what gets me the most is a lot of them all talk to each other and know each other and I'm a loner. They have probs been lifting for years together.

>>39816539
well that's how it works. taller people means bigger bones and muscles by default. not to mention if they lift they will get that much bigger. you will always look smaller than taller guys even if you work out (unless you go on gear). best to realize that and move on.

if you don't want to be a loner then start by greeting the regulars you see there every day. then start talking to them between sets, ask them for a spot or a tip, or if you can work in between their sets. that usually gets the conversation going and you'll make a new friend.

it's a weird situation. most people don't care about others at the gym and are there just to do their workout. i don't mind talking to people when resting but i'm not going to go and bother some guy who looks like he doesn't want to. i bet that most would be pleased to talk but because of this magical circle nobody does so.

when i started i also didn't know anyone but after a few months i've made a few friends that go at the same time and talk to them whenever i'm there and resting between sets. what i did notice though is that people rarely initiate conversation with those that have headphones on. listening to music is like having a sign that says leave me alone.