/SIG/ Self Improvement General

trying to get into eastern religion, seems really comfy

>>39665805
Any specific readings you recommend?

>Books
Reading the Brother Karamazov, finished reading A Clockwork Orange a bit ago.
>Writing
Nothing really.
>Community service
I've been a lot more active in the community, volunteering for events and such, and participating in charity events. Most recently I went to a thing where you help little kids make crafts and such, and the money spent goes to a charity to give presents for Christmas to people left in nursing homes. I met a really qt girl there and I think it's going well between us.
>Learning a skill
Started learning how to play the piano a few weeks ago
>Misc.
Haven't drank Soda in 6 months

>>39665809
Not him but a book on eastern philosophy I always recommend to laymen is Readings in Classical Chinese Philosophy - Ivanhoe & Van Norden

>reading

Just finished the book of family traditions on the art of war and started a streetcar named desire. I'm still 9 books away from hitting my goal of 50 this year.

>writing

I also keep up with a journal, although this month I've been doing a challenge to look at it a different way.

>community

Today I gave my last performance in a show for one of my local theaters. Made $200 off of it and got to work with some incredible people.

5'5 manlet that has been lifting for 5 years and has never been able to get a girl, and has been cucked by actual fat lanklets

the straw that broke the camel's back was when a literal 290 pound woman who was 5'1 rejected me for "being a little on the short side."

I'm a virgin at 23 and I've given up and now I focus on other things.

>Writing: Been reading Stoner, Dune, and a little Gene Wolfe. Good shit, my dude.
>Writing
Not much but I've been self-studying out of a mycology textbook and a couple bird guides. I'm also working through some programming books to get better at Haskell and Scheme.
>Misc.
I do birdwatching now. It's really relaxing and I usually pair it up with hiking sessions. I'm also trying to get into fishing. I honestly haven't felt happier.

>>39665884
>fat lanklets
???

>>39665892
wew, meant to say fat tall men

>>39665721
you need to stop watching porn because you know it's bad for your mental health. Not just because you want more sex in real life (though it will likely help with that) otherwise your stopping porn for bitches which is like lifting for bitches.

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>>39665721
This was my reading list from 2015. Would recommend each and every title.

Reading was the main thing that allowed me to get out of the awful rut of gym, vidya, porn, repeat...

This last year I've challenged myself to dive into a new hobby each month. The ones that I'm sticking with are
>gardening
>drawing
>cooking (this has drastically changed my quality of life)
>shooting

>>39665721
How is reading Lord of the Rings going to make you a better man? Why don't you need some actual literature like "Meditations" by Marcus Aurelius or any piece of classical literature?

>>39665721
>quilting porn

How in the absolute fuck does QUILTING porn make you a better man, what the fuck /fit/

>>39665932
Actually scratch that...don't read the way of men...

>>39665952
so you can learn honor and courage.

>>39665853
>Haven't drank Soda in 6 months
Any big difference?

Btw I love piano, I'll try to take some classes on vacation

>>39665962
Quitting porn is ultimately good for your mental health. Fapping isn't bad, but porn will fuck with your head. Quit before it gets too bad.

>>39665976
Oh you said "quit" I thought you wrote "quilt" as in like sewing porn onto a comforter

>>39665976
this the porn online is super porn

>>39665952
>so you can learn honor and courage.
also frodo was a manlet with no muscle, still had courage to fight against dragons and giant orcs.

>>39665879
50 books in 1 year? Impressive. I'm 32 years old and have never actually read a whole book

>>39665972
The major difference I've felt without drinking soda is that I feel physically better, as in I don't feel as sluggish. Having mental energy but no physical energy feels like shit, which is what I got from soda.

>>39665970
Yeah, but it's fake honor and courage... Obviously you can learn from fiction, but why learn from fiction when there's volumes and volumes of classical literature that teaches true honor and courage.

>>39665972
not that guy but after quitting soda for close to a year, drinking a coke at in-n-out was disgusting. had to dilute it because it was too sweet and syrupy.

>>39666010
Plato believed that cinema and fiction is a great way for people to learn, Actors and public figures need to be good and promote goodness, also if you want to understand a culture you look at their art/film

>>39665932
Out of that list which one book would you recommend?

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Hey.I never read a single book throughout highschool and reading always bored me. But now that I've quit vidya and jerkin my dick, do you have any reccomendations? All I've read for like 3 years are greentexts.

>>39666033
Was thinking on quitting it, maybe just drinking beer at parties and no more soda (Usually drink 1-2 beers or 2 glass of rum with soda or a glass of whisky)

>Books
How to Bomb the US Government
Art of War
The Wheel of Time

>Writing
All of my workouts and anything that I see that's funny/interesting

>Misc
No porn
Practicing eye training (switching between looking at reading far away objects and looking close)
Deep breathing exercises via Wim Hof

>>39666061
Things Fall Apart - Chinua Achebe
The Autobiography of Benjamin Franklin - Benjamin Franklin
Meditations - Marcus Aurelius
Anna Karenina - Leo Tolstoy
The Brothers Karamazov - Fyodor Dostoevsky
The Stranger - Albert Camus
Siddhartha - Herman Hesse

Those are the more important ones on that list. I honestly ADORE the vampire trilogy but that's personal preference.

>>39666092
The First print run sold out breh. Sam's not sure if there will be another one.

>>39665879
I do not think you should be aiming to read a certain number of books in a given amount of time. Instead, I believe you should get as much as you can from one book. That's just my opinion, I'm getting away from "oh man I'm so close to finishing this book" and instead getting to "fuck this book is so good, why does it have to be over?"

>>39666080
You can only read what you are into. What do you enjoy? Sci-fi movies? Read A Scanner Darkly, Ender's Game, or some Michael Crichton.

Google what you're interested in, add "books" to the end of your search. Protip: look for it in your local bookstore, preferably used. Amazon used books are a steal if you're willing to wait a week for it.

>>>39666080

go to /lit/ and look at some of the charts from the sticky

You could start with the greeks or maybe read something more modern like infinite jest or the stranger

>>39665952
Reading in general is good for you. Personally, I read it prior to bed to help me drift off. I'm sure it has a positive effect on my dreams. I have read the Meditations, I would highly recommend every man has a copy on hand.

>>39665932

>The Tower Towers

>>39666610
Typos happen

Check these 6s....

>>39666658
No check these

>>39666663
>>39666666

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Does anyone know any books? Perhaos similar to pic related?

>>39666118
Have you read How to Win Friends and Influence People? That is always highly recommended here.

>reading
I am in the middle of The Last Wish - "first" book in the Witcher series
>Writing
Term Papers
>Misc
Stretching, particular focus on Hip mobility
Plan to take up another martial art depending on class work load

>>39666724
>>39666726
21 seconds.

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>>39665884
bruh what kind of people are u surrounding yourself with? s.m.h. I'm 5'6 and i lost my virginity when i was 22. at times i felt like i was never going to but i didn't give up, 24 now and I've been with a bunch of girls. it's ok to move at a different pace than others. And you're doing fine by focusing on yourself, but dont "give up" completely and turn into a faggot /r9k/ robot that doesnt know any better. It may sound cliché, but to build up that confidence that a lot of girls actually find attractive you gotta love and accept yourself first brah.

also, dont show desperation. next time dont even look at the fat cunt

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>>39665721
>Books
Just finished ''The King in Yellow'' who inspired lovecraft. Well that is, the more ''scary-story'' part of it. I couldn't really get into the other ones but only because I was really into horror at that moment.
>Writing
Nothing. I can't even get myself to draw comics at the moment, the last illustration job I did left me bummed out.
>Misc.
Military, hopefully. Also I'm back on /fit/ after 4-5 months where I was too bummed out to do anything. Turn out when I pick up drawing, I stop trainning, and when I pick trainning again, I stop drawing.
Probably because I feel terrible when I draw (never satisfied) and feel awesome when I train on a daily basis. FML

>>39665721
Learning how to stop shitposting on 4chan and actually spend time doing important things is the most important skill you can acquire

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>>39666835
forgot to say in the writing part, all I asked for christmas are all books that I'd recommend.

-Essential Substances: A Cultural History of Intoxicants in Society
-Lovecraft's compendium
-No Longer Human by Osamu Dazai

>>39666237
No, I think that's a better perspective to have. It was just a challenge for me because as a kid and teenager i read dozens of books a year. After high school, I read what my classes required (4-8 books per semester) and maybe one or two others.

>>39665721
imo people who are lost should read "letters to a young poet" by rilke. it is has been a source of good advice for me.

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>>39665721
>Books
Reading the Wheel of Time series for the first time, almost finished with the first book and I am already hooked. I am also reading non-fiction books on a continuous cycle, right now I am reading Multipliers by Liz Wiseman, so far it is decent.
>Writing
I post stupid comments on /fit/ threads. Sometimes it leads to meaningful discussions.
>Misc.
I've started learning the piano (a few months in, really enjoying it.) I have also started boxing, golfing, and skiing (once we get enough snow!).
Boxing is thus far the most enjoyable out of the three, although I do enjoy golf from time to time. I know I have quite a ways to go before I am going to be anywhere near where I want to be skill-wise for golf, but I am excited.

>Academics/Career
I am lead on a research project with the head of the biology department (my major), and am starting an internship at a nearby hospital soon (since I am aiming for med school). Right now I work construction part time to make some money on the side. It keeps me active and is generally satisfying work, albeit not what I want mentally. It allows me to kinda check out for a while, and after a days work I can look back and feel accomplished.

I have to stay busy or I go crazy, anyone else need to keep their schedule as full as possible? I feel like the minute I slow down, I am dropping the ball on all of my goals, and just stress way too much.

>Books
How I raised myself from failure to success in selling- frank bettger
The bible.

>Writing
Gratitude journal
journal of medetations
Journal of plan of action.

>misc: Meeting new people daily, taking cold showers, building my business.

>>39666923
So why the cold showers? I have heard about the positive effects it has but what made you decide to make the change?

>>39666006
Brainlet

>>39666942
Well, various other things I've read and mentors I've had, and reflections about myself I've had, has shown me beyond any shadow of a doubt that we are habitual creatures.

Seems pretty obvious but on the daily, most people have habits, that they aren't even aware of, and those habits produce the results that are their life circumstance.

If you change yourself, you change your life.

The cold showers are nothing more than a means to train my mind, to develop new habits, despite not really wanting to do it. Its training my mind that when I say do something I do it. No one really wants to take cold showers, even if they are good for you (I always feel more alert and energetic afterward, but it always sucks.) Its more about not holding myself back by something external, and having the mental fortitude to do something I'm uncomfortable with for the sake of progressing.

Success is nothing more than positive habits practiced daily.
It's a small thing, but its the part of maintaining the habit, to exercise my will on the world, develop myself and do what I know needs to be done despite discomfort or fear. It's a habit I decided to develop because it reinforces the larger belief that even if I don't necessarily enjoy it, i have the capacity to do whatever i decide to do.

This was also true, for why I started working out, it's the thrill and enjoyment that comes from improvement. I didn't necessarily like it at first, but now I'd have it no other way.

>>39667054
So it is a method of exerting control on your own desires? Saying "yeah this sucks, but I'm in charge so stfu" ?

I have had a few experiences like that. I will start liking something almost too much, to the point where I will have to cut it out just to exert control on my body haha

>>39665965
Why is that?

>>39667138
Yeah, that's exactly what it is.
There are a good bit of benefits outside of that, but for me that's what I use it as.

>>39665932
There are some damn good books on your list. Haven't read quite a few of them, but my favorites from your list:

all Dostoevsky (top tier), Anna Karenina, Lolita (the book is written so poetically, like every word Nabokov scrutinized to make perfect), 1984, American Psycho (good guilty pleasure).

I want to read Meditations.

>>39666080
CRIME AND PUNISHMENT

>>39665932
>>39667212
i just listened to meditations by marcus aurelius on audiobook

its a meme book

>>39665805
Taoism and Greek Stoicism are almost the same thing, fwiw.

>>39667285

How is it a meme book? Are you retarded?

>>39665721

I am planning on either reading American Psycho, Unbroken, or continuing the Dark Tower series.

Pls help me choose.

Men need to be connected with their purpose in life, a purpose lives after you are dead. Check out the book the way of the superior man. Changed my life

>>39666156
I brought it as soon as available.

I've poured through their material- new and old- and found it to be rich.


Other good books
>Ride the Tiger
>Revolt Against the Modern World
>Men Among the Ruins

Just one of these would suffice though.

Another Classic
>Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance

Anyone into psycadelics?
Does it really help?

>>39667285
can confirm

>>39666010
classical literature is still fiction.

>>39665721
>Books
Main reading is Demons by Fyodor Dostoevsky and I'm slowly working on Super Imperialism by Michael Hudson
>Writing
I have a diary where I write down my kooky ideas and short essays. I started writing a short story today but it is hard.
>Misc.
Starting to buy fresh ingredients and cook again. I need to start tutoring again. Might start ghostwriting and writing niche erotica for petty cash. I'm also looking for places to move as living by myself is too expensive, maybe won't if I can increase my cash flow.

>>39667437
>>39667550
i mean look, "meditations" was kind of cool with this all time great leader listing hundreds of qualities to have

but you probably won't remember anything the dude said. they are pretty much all just basic life tasks. nothing really out of the ordinary that will "really make you think"

>>39667601
Have you even fucking read it?

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>>39665721
compulsory post

>>39667805
I read it in college and studied it. It's a meme book but that doesn't make it bad. Most of it is "be yourself" which is fine but not particularly insightful. People read it to signal their virtue, like reading The Art of War and The Prince.

>>39667879
What the fuck

You can't possibly have read it or studied it

Most of it is "be yourself"? How do you come to that conclusion? It's a collection of lessons and morals that he's learned and been taught from others and how to apply them to life when you are struggling. People like it because it's written very plainly and most can find something that they can relate to today, i.e. it's timeless

>>39667805
not technically, i listened to an audiobook (6 hours long btw)

what this guy says
>>39667879
and even this chart
>>39667860
are basically correct. sure its a nice book and all, but really, pretty much all it says is to stay calm in all situations and have a routine that you follow to create stability in your life that allows you to stay calm

>>39667938
>sure its a nice book and all, but really, pretty much all it says is to stay calm in all situations and have a routine that you follow to create stability in your life that allows you to stay calm
is this a complaint/criticism?

>>39667977
as i said, it's a nice book. but it isnt really some amazing book giving life changing advice. basically everything in it, hundreds of pages of individual pieces of advice, boils down to the same basic, repetitive ideas

>>39668016
I still don't understand if that's supposed to be a criticism

He repeats the same ideas because those ideas are effective answers, you are supposed to return to them

>>39668016
I thought you were saying that about all the books in the chart above.

>basically everything in it, hundreds of pages of individual pieces of advice, boils down to the same basic, repetitive ideas
Well it is a book about stoicism.

>>39668036
its not a criticism. i'm not criticizing the book, it has a good message for how you should live your life

i am merely saying that it's not really a life-changing book. it's hundreds of pages of saying basically the same thing that a lot of people already know

Does anyone have anything similar to "models", I really enjoyed it. Especially the self improvement parts with grooming and fashion tips.

>>39668049
I suggest you read the book again

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>>39668049
>i am merely saying that it's not really a life-changing book
I disagree. One of the most important discoveries I ever made. A few years ago my brother had bought the book, and I came across the word stoic. I had no idea what the word meant, even though I am, and always was a stoic person. To think that there is a whole school of thought and philosophy based on it, really changed me. Same thing happened with with my discovery of existentialism.

>>39668116
>A few years ago my brother had bought the book, and I came across the word stoic. I had no idea what the word meant, even though I am, and always was a stoic person.

You are saying you were a stoic by any other name before reading the book. That means it didn't change your life it just affirmed what you already believed.

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>>39665721

Been trying to be better. I'm weak and slow, but lifting consistently.

>Books
I started reading Brothers Karamazov back in June but I'm having a hard time with it honestly. I enjoy it, but I have just sucked at reading this year. I've recently picked up a great book on existentialism, a Chinese science fiction, and Zorba the Greek. I also read Meditations by Marcus Aurelius which I'd recommend to everyone here.

>Writing
I want to write, used to write for school paper. It just feels pointless when there's no one to read what I write. How do I keep going there?

>Community
Volunteer helping adults learn to read and write twice a week, it's great.

>Misc
Do some piano and I've gotten into photography this year. I'm not great but it helps me deal with depression. I like the ideas others have posted about doing a new hobby a month, but I have a hard time sticking to stuff. How do you stay motivated? I feel like I lose interest in everything I start.

>>39666724
Mastery, the 50 laws of power both by robert greene

>>39668139
Not really. It allowed me to discover people who are like me, and what wisdom and ideas they held. It reawakened my love for philosophy

>>39668166
>my love for philosophy
Bit of an oxymoron.

>>39668184
how so?

>>39668194
philosophy is love of knowledge (learning)

You said you love to love knowledge.

>>39668204
true

You should all be reading Julius Evola.

>>39668204

Philosophy is love of wisdom, not knowledge. Epistemology is a huge topic in philosophy.

Finally quit drinking. Ive stopped for a couple months once and for one month another time but my mindset was different. This time its is a more deliberate, definitive decision. Im just so sick of all the time and money ive spent either on drinking or because of drinking and im sick of feeling like crap all the time. Time to get serious about saving money and going back to school and being a healthier more fulfilled person.

>>39668204

That's not what an oxymoron is...

>>39668315
how embarrassing. I meant redundant.

>>39668150
>It just feels pointless when there's no one to read what I write.

Post it online. Bother your friends to read what you wrote. Read it to a girl you like. Show your mom.

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>tfw gay dudes hit on me all the time
>tfw no girls ever hit on me
He threw in a pls respond afterwards for good measure

>>39665721
I'm trying to kill my procrastination. It's one hell of a demon and it's holding me back like you wouldn't believe. I've already dug myself a hole, within another hole and things seem bleak. I'm tired of putting up a facade to make things seem like they're alright. Honestly, I'm probably fucked, but god dammit I'm gonna fix this. It may be too little too late, but some day soon, I'll be on top. That's a promise I'm making to myself.

>>39668375
What does he look like? What do you look like?

I'm stuck 50/50 between using my free time to make YT series/videos of the vidya games I love/hate to play.

Only reason I hate it is because I feel like I'm wasting time when I could be SIGing. It would be cool to track progress, make videos and keep up with them and stuff.

I'm 24 and barely graduating college. Idk what to do. Is vidya ever worth it?

>Books
I finished 1984 not too long ago, and I'm starting A Clockwork Orange.
>Writing
Recently started a daily planner, which I've been pretty inconsistent with so far, but I'm getting there.
>Misc.
Finally saw a therapist and ended up getting medication for ADHD. It's been helping me a lot, which I'm happy about.

>>39668284
Congratulations, anon.

>>39668709
He looks like a fat and very gay black man
I look Arab as fuck but I'm Spanish

>>39665721
Fedora: the thread

There's nothing sadder than people trying to become pseudo-intellectuals, categorizing and compartmentalizing each part of their life, only to realize that once they achieve the goals they've set out for themselves they're still dead inside. Keep living for yourselves and trying to create your own meaning of life and tell me that you can honestly admit to yourself that you're happy.

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>>39668878
That's unfortunate.

>>39665932

>Chinua Achebe
My fucking nigger (literally kek)

In addition to normal lifting I'm training for police fitness tests, gonna start applications next year. Keeping a journal now too, which has really helped organize my thoughts.

>>39668915
The "compartmentalized" things discussed in this thread are such because of the nature of written language. Reality is much more complex and everyone in this thread understands this except you brainlet.

Good job at presenting yourself as an insufferable pseudo-intellectual cunt while simultaneously accusing others of it.

Go kill yourself faggot.

>>39665932
>art of war
>recommend
Nigger that is just a manual for a military way which is also written in a sophisticated way

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>>39666092

>Books
Reading the Witcher series right now. Also been flipping through Kelly Starrett's books and other strength training books as well. Plan on reading some of Emerson's work when I'm home for break.
>Writing
Finished writing my senior thesis in biology
>Misc.
Going to do more yoga and meditation

bump. we need more /SIG/ as /fit/ is loosing the sight of what's important

>>39665932
i always chuckle when seeing the iliad, odyssey and art of war in these lists
it's like the /fit/ version of /lit/, everybody here thinks some books are "must reads" and read em not because they're interested but because it's "the thing to do"

we studied homer's Odyssey and Iliad and Virgil's Aeneid (which is much better as a book but of course nobody here knows it) in middle school, I liked it, it's kinda neat but nothing amazing
generally speaking I find ancient authors to be fine but always a bit too simple. might just be the time difference, I dont doubt their importance in their time and influence on future authors
roman comedies are goat

Other than that, pretty nice books, havent read them in a while since middle school or HS.

>>39666724
http://www.rsdnation.com/node/241735
have fun

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I finally got around to reading ASOIAF.
Having a blast.
D&D are hacks.

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What are your guys' opinions on binaural beats/meditation for mental gains?

>>39673021
You can do OHMs yourself.

Just a method for clearing the mind.


Deep breathing exercises like what Wim Hof does have measurable and definite benefits. This is the way to go.
https://youtu.be/Np0jGp6442A

>>39672894
G.R.R.M. writes realistic character interactions, and good about noting the traumas of life.

However, his interpretation and way of writing about these things implies that he thinks that most parts of life are beyond your control.

His story belies his life post-cuckoldry. He is very bitter and believes that you are stuck with what you're dealt.

It is a pretty good story with deep attention to detail, but if you're interested in a story for its philosophical views about enduring hardship, then I would recommend The Wheel of Time.

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>>39672873
>Virgil's Aeneid (which is much better as a book but of course nobody here knows it)

I'm almost offended. Is this what you really think of your fellow /fit/izen?

>>39673074
Whats OHM?

>tfw trying to relinquish the hold of the liquid jew

Can never make it more than 5 days without having a drink, then I get the taste for it and go on a bender, thus fucking up my gainz.

>>39673258
Try a stimulant like adderall, a lot more fun and less likely to kill gainz, just gotta make sure you get your macros in before you take it

>>39673228
https://youtu.be/SBiwLibZqfw
You make the frequency yourself

>>39665721
American financial advisor with a major brokerage firm here. If anyone has questions on retirement savings/investments I'd be happy to answer

>>39673277
What do if in a cucked country?

>>39673424
I'm sure you could find something else to fill the void of alcohol.
If you cant get a prescription for adderall or something like it, just think about the money you'll save and the gains you lose when you drink.

>>39673446
I am not him I just want to try some stimulants. How do I get prescribed those?

>>39673228
Overhead Mess

It's like the overhead press but you basically have to do a headstand and diarrhoea shit all over yourself instead of lifting a barbell up

>>39665721
I just realized actually working out my legs will help me conceal my xxy hips

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>>39673422
>American financial advisor with a major brokerage firm here. If anyone has questions

How big and how is the firm owned? Is it Publicly Traded or run by an Owner/Director? What do they make?

I'm in line to inherit such a company but I've got an opportunity with a hedge fund and I'm trying to work out whether or not to jump ship

>>39665721
>Books
Albert Camus' 'The Stranger' and 'How to Make Friends and Influence People'
>Writing
Started a journal, just jotting a few thoughts down before bed, trying to clear my head and get focused
>Misc
quit fapping cold turkey, trying to socialise at uni more, teaching myself german

>Books
Almost finished part two of "The Clan of the Cavebear". I know it's mostly a woman's book, but whatever, I enjoy the story. It allows me to take a look into the mind of a woman.
>Writing
Trying to improve my handwriting. Just writing down random things
>Misc
Enjoying playing electric guitar, succesfully cut down fapping to a weekly habit. Succesfully continuing my study.
Succesfully prioritising social activities over lonely activities

>>39673422
Over the past year and a half I've saved 90% of my untaxed income.

I've got 40k in savings.

What business/franchise should I buy?

I don't trust conservative investments because that's about preserving wealth instead of creating it.

>>39665952
"If you don't stick close to the grounds the snakes will pull you down again". Is what they'd say here.

Get of your high horse. Reading anything is better then being glued to your PC or Netflix. LOTR is a classic. It's als grand novel about morality, love, self sacrifce and determination.

I'd reccomend non fictional literature anyday of the week, but I'll be damned if anyone talks down about anyone reading in this age of digital walking dead.

>>39673471
Just go into the doctor and tell them that you have trouble focusing on your job/school.
It helps if you tell them that it's been a problem for a long time and you think that you would be able to do a lot better if you could focus better.
Basically look up the symptoms of add/adhd and tell your doctor you have them.

I've been on a huge self-improvement kick over the past 6 months.

>Skills
Working on my B.S. in computer science
>Job
Recruited by an Air Force cyber unit, will be joining the Air Guard later this month
>Books
Reading about cyber security and hackers these days. Almost done with The Cuckoo's Egg, next on the list is Worm.
>Diet
Well I was losing weight slowly and steadily for a while but I have to drop a lot of weight quickly so I've dropped down to a 1000 calorie-a-day goal.
>Exercise
Started lifting again last month almost starting from 0 after a year or two off. Long term goal is 1/2/3/4 but making very slow progress because of the calorie deficit.

>>39665952
>Meditations
>Literature

Come on, it's got good insights, but it's just a journal.

And Epictetus is better to start with, anyway.

>>39668878
>fat and very gay black man
Next time you talk to him, make sure to remind him of that time Dunkey beat him in Smash.

Great thread
>>39665932
would love to read many of these books but im struggling with getting through Ulysses (by James Joyce). Can't keep up with reading daily...

>>39665721
Didn't even know power posing is a thing. I do this all the time without realizing it.

>>39665805
Here's a tip: don't get involved in any religion

>>39665721

>Diet
Recently (about 2 weeks ago) started dieting cause I want to lose weight
>Academics
Finishing up the semester. Planning on studying and reading ahead over the break.
>Organization
In general just getting my shit together. Cleaned up and maintaining room. Decrapified computer, laptop, and phone. Put all semester's notes and assignments in binders.
>Books
None atm (besides textbooks) but plan on reading The God Argument by A.C. Grayling over the break.
>Misc.
Haven't drank soda in probably a month or so now

>>39670360
>Nigger that is just a manual for a military way which is also written in a sophisticated way
>This is a bad thing
Do you unnecessarily shit on Clausewitz too?

>>39674141
After that text, I don't think I want to see him again

>>39673674
U are inheriting a brokerage firm?

>>39673851
What kind of business do you want to run? What experience do you have. Also, 40k is a nice amount of savings but it's not enough to buy a business. It could help you get your start. Unless you want to quit your job I would create wealth by buying stocks or a broad based stock index like SPY.

>>39665962
How else does a man learn fucking cross stitch?

>>39674786
Yeah, minimum franchises I'm looking at ask 150-200k with minimum 25k working capital.

I have a ton of sales experience.

I have been mentored pretty extensively on management as well and studied finance.


Tbqh, what's a stock index going to net me after fees? 7% if it's good?

I'm at that point where I have a lot of liquid cash compared to the average guy, but it's not enough to get into something significant.

I want to open a gym with rock climbing, obstacle course, and barbells.

Big focus on pushing protein shake sales and "hanging out".

Will probably have "hangout rooms" for rent. Kind of like a gentleman's sport club.

>>39665721
Just ordered 200g of 5-HTP to help combat my crippling depression, what can I expect bros?

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>>39665721
Currently in my 5th year of university. I got hired at the university's outdoor program about a year ago, so I'm pretty heavy into that.

>Reading
Walden and Civil Disobedience by Henry Thoreau as well as East of Eden by John Steinbeck
Walden can get pretty boring at times, but it has a lot of great ideas in it.
>Outdoors
This is sort of a long list, but I'm a Wilderness First Responder, got my Whitewater Rescue type IV earlier this semester, and have been leading caving, canyoneering, and backpacking trips, and been going outdoor rock climbing when I have a free weekend.
>Programming
Teaching myself Java right now to learn how to make apps. Not really looking to make money with it. I just think it would be fun to have apps I created on the market.
I've also been messing around with arduino. Taught myself to solder the other day, and tried to use stranded wire with it. I learned my lesson

>Books
Just finished For Whom the Bell Tolls by Hemingway and Shakespeare's Hamlet. Getting invloved in Beyond Good and Evil.
>Writing
I don't keep a journal or anything but I've been writ in poetry (edgy I know) for fun lately. Throwing around ideas for a fictionalized biography about my mother since she's led a super interesting life.
>School
Been dedicating much more time to homework.
>Gym/Diet
Bulking at the moment so all my lifts are going up. Having some focus on abs and forearms so that's fun.
>Learning a new skill
I've been obsessed with public speaking recently because I was a political simulator thing for high school kids on Tuesday and Wednesday and was completely blown away by how well some of these CHILDREN can speak.
>misc
Flirting with/joking around with my girlfriend a lot more lately - I honestly believe that pulling pranks on girls (harmless ones, and not constantly because that shit's annoying) is the key to making a LTR work.

>>39675064
Have you read The Sun Also Rises? I've heard it's a good read, because it really embodies the directionlessness of a lot of people's 20's.

>>39674040
Hey, I'm a mechanical engineer, and I've been getting pretty interested in cyber security lately. I've started to learn some languages, but would you recommend any books to get me into it? Textbooks are fine as long as I can get a decent copy for <$50

>>39674924
7-10% average. But there are down years too.

Write a business plan. I can't stress this enough. Know how much in sales/membership etc you need to make to survive. Is there a small business development center in your state? A lot of times they offer info and one on one counseling.

Seriously just google how to write a business plan and start. Even if you never pursue the business it will be good experience to write one for an idea.

>>39666901
I'm on book 3 right now, shit is so good. Jordan really teases out the backstory and details of all the crazy shit from a world-building perspective. And from what I hear the bro who finished the series after RJ died actually did a great job wrapping it all up.

>>39675225
Fcukkkk. I'm on book 10 haha. Haven't read any of them in a while. I'm a little scared I'll never find anything to match it in scope again.

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Love these threads.

Anyways boys, I need advice here:

I under prepared for my exam tomorrow and NEED an excuse to see a doctor that would warrant missing the exam. I wont ask in /adv/, because they're all immature softkunts that will probably give me a generic "deal with the consequences" type of response. They don't understand the concept of WHATEVER IT TAKES.

Any advice is appreciated guys, thanks.

>>39675201
I know how to write a business plan and all of that. The problem is that my dream doesn't have a great ROI.

>>39675306
lie about a migrane?

>Reading
For fiction, War and Peace. non-Fiction, I'm reading How to Talk to Anyone and Thank You for Arguing.
>Languages
Now able to read simple stories in Chinese, should start practicing speaking soon.
>Health
Almost done with my cut, also doing great with gym and cycling.
>Social skills
Going to start working towards eventually getting a girlfriend, since I'm doing alright in the other areas.

>>39673136
yes, everything is determined and there is no free will. I dont see what's wrong with that
I just see it as a nice fantasy book that I can read easily.
Philosophically speaking it's as deep as a pond, I enjoy the world, characters and storytelling

>>39675306
idk if this works or not but advice my uncle always gave me was eat a small piece of soap before school, you'll feel like shit, look like shit, look pale, puke everywhere etc, and half an hour later feel fine again

try at own risk man, I never tried this

>>39675610
Migraine might work. I was also thinking massive anxiety? Idk if that's a valid medical reason he would sign a sheet for.

>>39675658
Lol I'll have to look that one up. Any excuse that my family doctor would realistically buy is good.

>>39675642
Nothing wrong with that. I am the same.

I just get tired of people acting like it's the greatest fiction of the 21st century.

>tfw spent last 9 hours edging

Someone kill me please. I didn't even go to the gym or eat this entire time. I also have a math final tomorrow and I don't know anything from the last 4 chapters. I have physics online homework for the semester due tonight and I still need to do like 10 hours (if googling everything...) worth of it to do.

Kill me.

>>39668341
Problem is even online nobody reads it. I've gotten friends to read stuff but idk I'd just like some sort of audience I guess. Should look for a shit magazine or something I suppose.

>>39675823
Try Reddit. Not even joking. I don't know the names off the top of my head, but I know that there are subreddits where they critique each other's writing, and they're big enough where everything will get read.

Do we live in a world without adventure lads? If so, is our current society killing the male psyche? I feel like a need to adventure is intrinsic and inherent in, at least, most males. We constantly need to improve and explore but our world has been explored from top to bottom. Besides the depths of the ocean, we have nothing new left to see/do.

Also, /r/ing the one pic of that guy shopping with his wife while daydreaming about being a neanderthal or some shit.

>>39675908
You can go to a foreign country like Kurdistan right now and fight in a revolution.

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Alright so I've been thinking about taking some time off from school and just work for a while. I'm kinda in financial troubles and I also hate my major.

I found a desk job at a hospital and I thought about applying to there. The requirements are
>high school diploma
>some desk job experience

I don't have desk job exp, but I'm hoping my resume will be enough to "wow" them. I've taking a lot of advice from /biz/ and from some of you guys and I'm wondering if my resume looks good now.

if not what do I need to fix?

>>39675924

I'll only fight for whites lad

I've taken an interest in mathematics and want to be competent in the maths required for physics.

Also gonna start my cardio and mobility back up over Christmas.

>>39675927
>researched major types of child abuse
bro i dont think its a very good idea to tell potential employers about all the CP on your computer

>>39675939
>GAH I just want to live a life of adventure... all the estrogen in the water is polluting my bodily fluids and corrupting the purity of my essence

>Go on an adventure? Are you crazy, there might be brown people.

As long as you are still in the closet you should neck yourself like David Foster Wallace you homo.

>>39675973
Was DFW gay? Tried reading Infinite Jest but it was a little much for me.

His commencement speech is GOAT though, especially for this thread.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8CrOL-ydFMI

>>39676034
Not gay, just a faggot who hung himself with a belt. Infinite Jest is fucking trash.

>>39675939
Go to Somalia and be a security guard for hire for white people that decide to stop by.

>>39675927
What country do you live in? If you really need desk experience on your CV some local anon might be able to provide a reference for an imaginary admin internship or something

>>39675908
>/r/ing the one pic of that guy shopping with his wife while daydreaming about being a neanderthal or some shit
THIS

Someone please supply

>>39668150
i'll read what you write :)

>>39676274
I live in the US. On the ad it just said some experience needed for the job. I just want to make sure my resume is good enough to wear they won't care that I have desk exp.

I think it looks better than what it uses to.

>>39665721
>Books

Not sure if it counts, but I have my CompTIA Network+ exam this Sunday and I'm reading stuff on that

>Writing

Nothing I suppose

>Misc

Trying to get my shit together man, all my life I've been fat as fuck and ever since I graduated college, I couldnt get a job

From today I lost 65 pounds overall from 318 and I have 1 out of the 2 certifications I wanted

I'm trying so hard

>>39675927

90% of the battle with resumes is with formatting. Make it look pretty. Add some dividing lines between the education, experience, and additional information sections. Align the dates/GPA etc. to the right margin.

I screen resumes at an investment bank (we see a lot of good resumes) and I will tell you that a well-formatted resume has a much better shot at an interview.

>>39677719
I was told adding lines was a big no-no.

>>39677802

Personal preference. It makes it very easy for an employer to scan and quickly find the info they are looking for.

Not necessary but no one will ever dock you for adding lines.

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>>39670360
>thinking this simplistically

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>>39675952

>>39665952
you can still learn things from fiction man

t. Odyssey

>>39665721

>Books
Reading the dark tower series atm, also bought a book on taoism.
>Writing
Some boring shit about business administration.
>Misc.
Want to quit porn. Also doing a little cardio won't hurt.

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>>39675908
>we have nothing new left to see/do
Have you been to the Sahara? What about the Amazon? Himalayas?
Have you sailed across the Atlantic? Stepped foot in all the 7 seas? Have you even been to all 6 (yes 6) continents? Have you seen the whole world from top to bottom?

What have YOU done?

So you won't find a hidden landmass by sailing west. There still much for YOU to experience. Spend a year in a foreign country; Crash at a monastery in Nepal; Go hunting in the Serengeti; Sleep with a woman under the desert stars; Work as a janitor in Antarctica; Get lost in a concrete jungles of Hong Kong; Sail down the Amazon.

"nothing left to do" yea fuck off

These self-improvement threads are kinda circlejerk.
I'm not interested in philosophy and stoicism. I'm not interested in reading some 2000 page russian book.
Are there any guys here doing their own version of it?

I am improving myself but my way.
No need for meditation, I do Yoga with breathing exercises. Same effect, more fun.
No need for reading 'classics'. I prefer reading books with feasible advice, a good biography, science-fiction...simple books I guess.
No need for no fap, no porn or some other restrictions. It is really simple, if you value your time these things will cease automatically. You won't have time to watch porn because you are busy, working out, your job, cooking, leisure activities, social gatherings, your own business you started...and so on. You should be busy as fuck. At the end of the day you should be looking forward to finally fall asleep instead of Netflix/porn/smoking weed. Believe me, women will be attracted to you due to your lifestyle, so you'll have enough opportunities to satisfy your sexual needs.

>>39680833
>These self-improvement threads are kinda circlejerk.
Self improvement is masturbation anyway
Read fight club

>>39680833
>/SIG/ Self Improvement General
There is no formula, just strong recommendations.

Do your own thing if you feel like you are improving with it, and can show up resoults later on. Enjoying yourself and doing your own thing is a way of self-improvement on its own.

>>39665884
nice, im reading dune as well

>>39665805
Careful with that.. me, my SO and some friends and their families got dragged into some Hindhu-ish cult (did not realize at the time), recked me mentally, wasted years of my time, ruined my relationships, made me go full Atheist & a skeptic as a result. Lesson is: don't confuse spiritualism and mysticism.

>>39668204
What a retarded post, nobody has called this shit out yet?
The greek etymology of a word has no relation to how it should be used

If you think "I love philosophy" = I love to love knowledge
"I philosophy" = I love knowledge

I philosophy, good job you are fucking retarded

Train willpower.
Willpower can help make up for pretty much any lack you have - because we can't be good at everything.

What helped me the most was fighting addictions. First it was smoking - i was already a smoker - i quit cold turkey and kept a pack of Marlborough Reds (my fav) in my pocket at all times.
Simpoly denying yourself urges, when it's so easy - carries over to helping yourself carry on through any pain, discomfort, or difficulty.

If i can say no to something i enjoy so much, and something that is wired into my brain to want - then i can keep going on the 3rd day of a 150 mile hike in the rain. I can find it in me to do push ups till i can't move my arms.

Also, something stupid i did that i would not reccommend - but helped me hugely.
I started smoking Meth. Hard.
Then quit.

You get through that, there ain't much harder.

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>>39667153
Because trying to define and then argue that your definition of masculinity is better than someone else's in the fucking 21st century just comes off as pretentious and stupid.

Everything after the first 4 chapters are incredibly cringy to read.

>women have primarily gathered and cooked food for thousands of years
>some fucking stupid rant on gender roles
>implies chefs like Gordon Ramsey, Robert Irvine, and Bobby Flay are faggots for eschewing a 10,000 year old gender role even though as men they are objectively masters at their craft.

>>39681204
he is right tho

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Pic related is probably one of the best books you can get for self improvement.

I know what you're thinking
>another BS self-help book

This one is very philosophical and teaches you how to organize your life around basic principles, highly recommended

>>39675115

From what I've been told by the Air Force cyber guys, you need to know C and assembly very well, and a scripting language like Python or Perl.

I don't have any specific Python or ASM books to suggest, but a great introductory C book is K.N. King's C Programming: A Modern Approach.

Anyone know good webpage for iq tests? Nowdays you need to do those tests before even hetting interviews at companies so would be nice to prati e ln them.

>>39682001
I found i quite liked the AST the RAF use. They have a practice test on the website, and you can find reccomended practice for the AST that are also pretty good.

Includes Mechanical and Electrical Comprehension that i beleive are very useful ways of measuring practical IQ

>>39665932
>The Way of Men
Learning about masculinity from a Nietzschean homosexual is a bit humorous.

>>39666080
start with the greeks

>>39681238
You sound degenerate.

>>39665932
this list is a meme

>Achebe
>Rice
>Ellis
literal high school trash

>>39665992
>dragons

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>>39681072
You are not only correct, but also he used "Oxymoron" incorrectly in the first place

>>39682184
Worthless contrarian

>>39682153
Go read the book and see for yourself.

>>39666807
Dunno man.

I'm turning 26 tomorrow, and nothing but making out with a girl this spring.
Then again, I 've never tried until a few months ago.

Talked to lots of girls since then, strated to get over my approach anxiety something major too and am learning to actually talk to girls as people instead of avioding them in general, which somehow seems to help.
Stopped porn, and realised that being imperfect makes a girl no less attractive, as well as realising that I have to get over my fears.

But still, I'm struggling somewhat to actually make moves and make things happen with girls.

Everyone, including Chads I konw just tell me to simply talk to them and show interest, whether it's just for fucking or a relationship.
But as a guy, there's no way around manning up and just making a move to see where it goes at some point, right?

So things just don't happen "by themselves" or "naturally" apparently.

Can i get some books on improving and growing a business?

>>39667455
bump for Deida

>>39680833
this is me except for meditation and nofap.
I'm really trying to get into the first, it sounds really interesting to me.... and 128days streak

>>39666081
I went straight whiskey. No beer or soda. Beer makes me gassy and is carb heavy and soda is just concentrated obesity.

Whiskey in moderation (a glass a week unless there is a party) is perfect

>>39667444
You can only choose what will best fit you. Read into the books and what others have said about it and choose from there. Some of the worst books I have ever read were the ones that were recommended to me by others.

Looking for a book that was posted here some time ago, it starts of with an experiment, two guys are stripped down, an observer is now to guess which one is the CEO and the janitor, the observer knows who's who by the way the men greet him.

>Books
Reading Invisible Man
>Writing
Trying to learn how to draw good then make a comic
>Misc.
also quitting porn (or trying to). also maybe spend less time on the internet but fuck me im still here.

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>>39683974
Interacting with women often is supposed to be common and natural, do it enough times and something will happen.

>>39665721
>Books
It saddens me that I'm not reading anything atm
>Community Service
Does putting around 3 people this month on an SS+GOMAD style training count?
>Learning skill
Been learning guitar for a few months, also finally got around to taking driving lessons (In UK this shit is so expensive that it's almost not worth it)
>Misc
Got a car, been drinking less regularly than before, saving up money
>Training
I've been a powerlifting meme where cardio=nogains
Finally am done with it, started to go to circuit + HIIT classes, also going to start swimming soon when I get some swim shorts

>>39686203
>In UK this shit is so expensive that it's almost not worth it

Maybe if you live in London, if you are over 18 and you don't drive you are immediately inferior. Get that shit out the way boiii, my girlfriend is 17 and even she drives

>>39667927

This.

>>39670337

fucking rekt em lad

>>39665932
You mean to tell me that you read War and Peace, Anna Karennina, Brothers K, and LOTR, and all that other shit?

Damn I struggle with 40 pages a day

>>39666092
Wheel of Time is good for physical exercise too, 12K pages is a lot of paper...

>>39688170
I think it's good as a story about overcoming life as a crucible-among many other themes.

>>39668915
Irony: the post

Drawing. Cuz that's what I wanna do with my life.

>>39688221
faggot

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>>39688466
Yup

I am cringing so hard at these dyel faggots thinking that they're superior by reading obscure old fiction books. It's fucking fiction, it will literally not improve yourself one bit. Your better off reading anime because at least that shit is readable.

>>39675939

Good choice. It would be a tragic end to die at the hands of Turkish commandos just because you are bored with your privileged 20 something life.

>>39688483
Holy shit, what have you studied to get to such a point anon?

>>39688634
It actually does if you glean some understanding and actually think about what youre reading. There's a reason the classics are recommended to people.

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>>39688695
I've been drawing for years. Started when I was in sixth grade and just kept going. I've mostly been self taught and just practiced off of the masters and off of numerous anatomy and fundamental drawing books I have.

Just gotta find something you love and dive into it man.

>>39688715
Thanks for the info. Cant really find something I love where I can get to that point of mastery, but thanks for showing me someone is out there making it.

>>39688726
You'll find it man. But whenever you do find it just dive into it. Learn all you can about it and don't let mistakes deter you from making it happen.

Over the years I've had a lot of people doubt I could make a living doing it. But now opportunities are opening up for me because I didn't give up.

The best piece of advice I can give you is don't think about the money. Because in the end we all have to die. So do what makes you the happiest and dive into it man.

Best of luck! We're all gonna make it!

>>39665721
>Books
Reading through the Hyperion Cantos (almost done with the second book), really loving it
>Writing
keep a journal not daily but when I need to vent. Also working on dropping a webcomic soon
>Community service
pretty much what my job is
>Learning a skill
picked up a guitar for fun 2 years ago, also working on my art

I'm on accutane, and I graduate uni next semester.

cocoon mode af rn

other than that I'm not doing anything specific to improve other than working on social skills, being more organized, etc.

>>39688751
I'd love to see your comic when you throw it up. Let me know where to find it man.

I've been dieting and running, trying to lose the weight I gained after leaving the army.

Yesterday I took my last final and completed a physics degree from a very good undergrad program

I feel absolutely no sense of accomplishment, and feel no sense of pride in what you did. What am I doing wrong, /fit?

Anything by alan watts

>>39682184
literal pseudo-intellectual posturing

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Overview

>pic related
>short (5'8" morning height, 5'7.5" night height)
>symmetrical face and good looking
>when online, found to be very charismatic
>when in real life, can't relate to normies at all and can only make really good small talk
>among my loser friends, I'm a natural leader
>bad relationship with parents

Should I see a therapist? I think I have a lot of potential. I'm not autistic, it's just my upbringing made me socially stunted. The gym has helped my confidence, and ability to actually socialize, but I am a huge narcissist, have an inferiority complex, dsyphoria, among other things.

I already workout, draw, read, and try to culture myself, but there's a lot of background noise to the metafunctions of my brain if you know what I mean.

>>39688970
I should probably add I feel like I NEED to be a naturally dominant figure in all aspects, but am trapped in the body of a manlet.

brehs you inspire me. its rough trying to keep up my motivation at the end of finals, but reading your successes and dedication really puts my mind back in the groove. th-thanks /fit/

>>39676668
you will make it.

>>39688970
>>39688990
sounds like you need to come to an understanding of what you need to work on.

first, stop blaming your social ineptitude on your parents. i believe you when you say they caused it, and its good you know that. now what are you going to do about it?

second, you can be an alpha and be short(er than average). its easier for taller guys to come off as the alphas, but its 90% attitude. amused mastery works wonders in this department. its also ok to take a back seat sometimes if youre in groups. doesnt have to be all the time, but it eases the pressure and means you have nothing to prove. think of it like youre LETTING someone else take the reins.

>>39677719
Not that guy but i'm curious

What does an investment bank look for in experienced hires?

Would a Senior Accountant (Big 4) that worked only on hedge, mutual and private equity funds be of interest? (CPA, Level 2 CFA)

Curious about comp also, gonna test the job market and see whats out there

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>>39689038
I know what I need to work on specifically

Overall though, what really plagues me is my upbringing and its lasting effects. I'll keep it short but here is the just of it.
>grew up an ugly pizza face and would literally avoid mirrors
>socially exiled in a very small class size for all of grade school and middle school = no social skills at all (so bad I didn't bathe or cut my hair)
>father figure not there, always working, but even when not, is a very pathetic beta who taught me nothing (had to teach myself how to be masculine and not perpetually beta)
>overall, now a passable functioning person but with lasting mental 'defects'

To summarize, I'm left with an intense desire to just be so good and intimidating naturally that any ego anyone has is simply gone when I'm there. I feel intense hatred towards those who are better than me or would ever scoff at me or EVER think they are better than me. I also feel intense hatred towards those who are like me and content with it.

You know that guy from There Will Be Blood? He said a quote that really stuck out to me saying "I hate most people. I want no one else to succeed."

I've had a few instances where people have tried to be rude to me because they thought they could get away with it and although I generally stand up for myself, I still imagine just physically lashing out at them and making them so injured they wonder how they could have ever held any sense of ego when dealing with me and making them feel as helpless as free falling without a parachute.

tl;dr my problems are mostly my mindset and how it interlocks with reality. I am well aware this isn't healthy. Where do I go from here?

>have a lot of tattoos
Am I ruined?

>>39689094
definitely try counseling then. professional could help you tackle some of the issues youre struggling with alone. you just have to be completely open and willing to take the advice.

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>Books
None recently, I haven't really had the motivation.
>Writing
Keep a daily journal just to record my thoughts and reflect on my past
>Community Service
Active member at a non profit food pantry at my college
>Learning a skill
I'm taking Spanish classes and I hope to become fluent in the next two to three years
>Misc.
I'm limiting my porn/masturbating/cigarette smoking and I'm also preforming at open mic comedy nights at some local bars and people tell me that I'm funny.

>>39689119
Will I be institutionalized or something? I also fear this shit showing up in background checks

What are some books that inspire you to lift more? And I mean that in a philosophical way, not a FUARK YEAR BIG WEIGHTS GO HEAVY BABY way.

>>39689125
no and no. issues like that are more common than you think. its just between you and your counselor

>>39689145
Also I should add I'm still a virgin.

I'm 21. At this point, do I have to buy an escort and ask her to literally coach me on what to do and how to do it so when I do get a girlfriend, I won't be pathetic?

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>Books
I'm reading Jeremy Scahill's Dirty Wars and Masha Green's book about the rise of Putin.

>Writing
I keep a journal too and I'm trying to get a political blog thing going

>Misc.
Failing nofap as always, trying to cut sugar and soda after my 15th relapse this year. Also going for the cold shower meme

>>39665884
Stoner is a fucking amazing book. You sound like an interesting dude, don't give up on pussy. Particularly at your age because the whole "oh my god he needs to be at least this tall" thing dies at 24 and then you're good.

>Books
Finished the Iliad today (read the Odyssey last year and never got around to reading the Iliad), going to read some of the Greek tragedies and move into Tolstoy/Dostoyevsky over the New Year. Anyone read Anna Karenina, Crime and Punishment or The Brothers Karamazov?
>Drawing
Novice at drawing, used to do it daily but have fallen off the wagon - any motivation would be much appreciated
>Academics
Semester at uni went well, doing an hour or two a day of study for content next year
>Community
Going and volunteering in an elderly home for the first time tomorrow - anyone got any experience or tips?
>Misc.
Started meditating and reading into stoicism over the past week, got into lifting for about a month and have dropped 3-4kg (91kg down to 87kg 6'2"). Would love a recommendation on some good literature on stoicism if you know any (besides Meditations)

>>39686677
>Damn I struggle with 40 pages a day

That's not bad tho. One average-length book a week is way above the average.

>>39666858
>-No Longer Human by Osamu Dazai

great choice

>>39665932
WHy the FUCK would you have a respectable list like this and then top it with shite at the end. WHY?! would you faggts insist on Tolkein being a even half decent author. Fuck you know nothing meme cunts. The presence of Tolkein in that list negates all the others. FUck you

>>39672873
Jesus Christ, fuck you.

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>>39672873
>ancient authors
>simple
read something in its original language and get back to me

I used to be a fattie

>Less than 6'0
>330 lb
>40% bf fattie

I'm down to the last 15 lbs I need to lose and went from 40% body fat to somewhere in between 18%-20%. Two different tests gave me different results.

Now that most of the fat is gone I started working out at a gym where they have coaches they make sure your doing the workouts right and well. I'm extremely happy with where it's going.

>>39689558
Forgot the main point of all of this.

Its because of these strides I've made in health that I've become more sociable and less autistic.