How you holding up /fit/?

Hit 1pl8 5rm bench press again, after not lifting for a few months because of work/life changes stressing me out and fucking up my gym time.

Feels good man.

Still no gf, tho.

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accutane and seasonal effective disorder are wrecking my shit but its o.k. we are all gonna make it! .....right babe?

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>>39588398
I've reached a point where my life feels empty and meaningless, but not painful, so I keep living it. Though if you told me I was going to get hit by a bus tomorrow I wouldn't really care.

>>39588401
>muh no gf
whish this stupid meme would die

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Just binge ate a thing of orange beef and white rice.

Jerked off 3 times today and haven't showered yet.

H-how do you guys get through rest days?

>>39588424
>bingeing on orange beef and white rice
ew, what the fuck is wrong with you?

How do I find meaning?
Or rather, how do I find myself? I don't know what I would like to spend the rest of my life doing.

>>39588398
made an inter pals account up on /int/ to talk to qt.3.14

met a nice turkish girl

25th birthday today

No friends, kissless virgin, basically spent it in my room

>>39588431
>Or rather, how do I find myself?
look in the mirror u big dumy

Trying to quit drinking.
It was cutting into my gains

Now I'm dying for boredom

>>39588434
happy birthday anon

you'll make it eventually breh, we all will

>>39588431
>how do i find meaning
just do what everyone does when they're sick of reality

pretend you're john connor and that anybody walking in your general direction you is a terminator

Not too good. Finals coming up, homelife is (has always been) stressful. cold parents who either command or criticize me.
How do I move out /fit/? I only have retail experience and those jobs pay fuck all.

>Lost 25 lbs this semester, 6'2 233 -> 208
>all my lifts have been going up
>my grades are great
>qt 9/10 ive been seeing casually hasnt texted me back in 3 days
Fuck I hate women.

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>>39588434
Happy birthday nigger

>>39588437
>>39588463
Is the man in the mirror a terminator though?

Life is pretty good but for many years I have forgotten to be social and its importance. Later in life and now starting to see the big picture. tfw, invited many places out with people usually say i dont want to go out etc.. they do it for a reason nobody truly wants to be alone, thats why they want to go out often, they dont want to be alone either

other than crippling loneliness, life is pretty awesome in 2016, and for 2017 i finally think i will get in shape, i want to take the whole year to focus on fitness and hopefully rebuild my body to its once glory when i was younger, also as i get older i am starting to be self conscious and pay attention how i look/present myself around strangers and what kind of vibe i give off, i usually dont care how i look to other people, but this is important

>>39588473
You are me. I fucking hate women.

>tfw you gave her your heart and she kicked you in the balls

passed my driving theory test the other day, it was at 3:30pm and I started revision at 10am the same day.

I had previously booked a couple theory tests before but I wouldn't attend them last minute because of anxiety.

Now I need to find an instructor and book the practical test.

Bad. After thinking I was around average height for ages (5'8), I was looking through my graduation pictures and realised I'm the shortest guy there by a couple of inches. Today is the day that the height trolls won, I feel shit.

Haven't lifted in over a month. Not feeling the dedication. Feeling pretty out of it these days. Having trouble focusing on things.

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>>39588473
>>39588497
>Mfw I'm a grill and haven't texted my crush back in several days
Honestly, in my case, it's just that I'm not sure what to think about him. I have an initial feeling that he is a male slut so therefore not worth my time and energy. Considering putting him to friendzone.

>>39588473
You know the sad part is that she's probably wondering why you aren't texting her

>>39588473
>9/10

HAHAHAHAA the delusion on this board is so real

i guarantee you she is a 5/10 at best.

>>39588536
What are opinions?

>>39588528
Is your name mika? I swear Im a good guy I just wanted to fuck.

>>39588547
Anything I believe is incorrect

>>39588497
Why do they gotta go and ruin good things by being so irrational?
>>39588528
>S-sheila?
>>39588529
If she ever texts me back I wonder what her excuse will be.
>>39588536
You act like 9/10s dont exist.

>>39588401
2 pl8 is the gf threshold son.

>>39588569
>If she ever texts me back I wonder what her excuse will be.
Excuse implies that she needs a reason not to text you

You need to understand that she doesn't even consider texting you.
You are a source of entertainment
It's entirely mono-directional

>>39588569
i can absolutely guarantee you that you, an overweight 4channer, are not dating a "9/10", which would be on the level of a model or famous beautiful actress

the fact you needed to say that she is a "qt 9/10" on 4chan says it all

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>bought gym membership back in March
>ended up hurting my nuts after fapping too hard
>doctor says chronic testicular pains are linked to lifting too hard
>almost a year later and my balls still don't feel normal

I just wanna feel horny again

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>>39588599
is this a thing?

>>39588569
Maybe we should take it as a red flag or a learning lesson and move one. I dunno. I like her very much, I just dont want it to end like this.

But maybe I dont get a say in this. Fuck.

>>39588527
are you still doing cardio? cardio is best for mental gains imo. try doing hiit one day and something longer like walking the next.

>>39588398
Pretty bad tbqh
>18 and balding
>getting fat again
>really hate lifting lately, more than usual
>depressed
>school is becoming overwhelming
>all my friends moved away, and my last remaining friends will be moving away soon as well
>starting to feel lonely
>just wanna sleep right now instead of lift

>>39588594
kek, she is tho. And even if I posted a picture of her, you'd be so blinded by the need to be right.

>>39588584
this is why I hate women, I mean, we were both using each other as a source of entertainment. She honestly made more moves than I did at first so I dont really know what to think.

>>39588608
Yeah, sometimes it's best to just forget about them and focus on yourself. It's hard to find a women who wont ruin good things

Today was fucking brutal.

>worked a temp job as dishwasher last night
>didn't leave until 2:30 because Christmas parties lasted forever
>realize I have another job to be at in two hours
>can't be helped
>shower, breakfast, go to work stocking products at Target
>I'm so tired I'm beginning to pass out while walking
>knees are dead to the point where I just collapse right on the sales floor for a brief moment
>barely managed to drive home without falling asleep at the wheel
>pass out for 8 straight hours
>Now back at dishwasher job

>>39588606
Doc says I have an enlarged vein in my sack which can fill up and cause discomfort

It's a surprise because I lifted during all for years in college and not once did I suffer anything

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>>39588398

Sob story with a good ending

>Got dumped by gf because she chose to return to her meth addiction a week ago
>The season for my seasonal work ended, I own my company but there is no work now
>Binge drinking every other day, can't everyday because broke
>Probably won't have money to make taxes

but

>Spent way to much time on 4chins because nothing better to do/detach myself from the crippling pain
>Found myself on /fit/ a lot
>On Google play store out of boredom, downloaded a calorie counter (myfitnesspal)
>tfw 220 lbs, only landscaping gains from the summer, fading quickly
>Decide to go on a deficit, turns out alcohol has a shitton of cals
>Autisticly meeting calorie requirements and have stopped drinking
>Got two good paying jobs calling me to schedule an interview
>Fixing to hit the gym first paycheck instead of paying off my crippling debt
>foundpurpose.jpg
>Watching enough Elliott House that I feel like I'm sucking his dick
>I wish the best of ex gf meth head, but completely detached from all feeling for her and okay with it

Thank you so much /fit/, I think I'm going to make it.

I'm equally ambivalent towards everything resulting in being unable to form my own opinion on fucking anything or really even care about it.

Might be depression, I don't know, I get little stabs and sparks of motivation to achieve a good life from time to time but I have to force it. I have a date of sorts (although neither of us have used that word) and although that should (for me) be something that matters I feel nothing and nothing will probably come of it.

Cut is going well, maintaining all my current lifts and I'm down to 77kg from 85kg, seeing some good definition which is nice.

>>39588644
Damn son I've been there. You'll make it though brah just remember to take care of yourself.

>>39588528
Hannah please.
You even DMd me first pulling me in and then you stop even though it was going so good.

Recently invested in 2.5kg and 1.25kg olympic barbell plates so I could stop using a shitty 10kg thin barbell bar. My plateau has ended and im progressing very well. However my mums been hospitalised so im not holding up too well.

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>>39588751
>>39588556
>>39588569
I'm not Sheila, Mika or Hannah, but just saying that try harder. That's what my guy should do. I will never text him again unless he reaches out after me.

Don't think he will though, we been talking daily for months and now I just went fully quiet once and for all.

>>39588431
Do things, if you dont enjoy it scratch it off the list.

>>39588644
these moments are what makes a man anon.
Stick it out and forever gain the opportunity to call out other lazy people whenever they cry about "being tired"

>>39588790
god women are strange

>>39588528

quit slutshaming asshole

>>39588822
Ahahahahahahahahahahaha holy shit I have this. I could not have lesa respect for you or people like you.
>God I'm such a masculine and good man for selling my time and life for a shit cause while I get paid a fraction of what it's worth
Or alternately
>I'm proud that my life is worth sub $15 dollars an hour
Jesus Christ you are fucking done, your life is over slave.

>>39588828
You need to understand that we women live in a constant fear and scare that a guy might manipulate us into liking them just in order to get some of that sweet pussy. We don't wanna be fools or fall into that trap.

>>39588837
You don't make a husband out of someone who's like that. God only knows where his dick has been. Just reckless sexual behavior, can't make a good man out of someone who's like that. If you have enough super ficial relationships with people, you fuck up your mind and can't form deep and meaningful long term commitments with anyone. You are used to live off the instant gratification and excitement alone.

>>39588822
So pathetic

>>39588862
>can't make a good man out of someone who's like that

So...so many assumptions about human nature...I want to say a psych major but i really don't care.

>>39588862
Please don't, I know what you are doing but the autistic sex obssessed idiots here won't get it. For many men and women their entire purpose, motivator for 90% of relationships, is to have sex with someone. For many others, we want the relationship and connection before and above any physical shit. That's why these idiots get confused when every text every day is about sex or flirting; because that's all they want.

My OCD and anxiety has been kicking up shit because of an encounter with a slut.

She told me she was clean (but then she was also crazy and a slut, so I don't trust her) and all my friends tell me that my risk of infection in minimal (since I didn't actually have sex with her, just let her suck my dick), but I still can't calm my paranoia.

>>39588908
>>39588896
Isn't*
Also case in point, literally can't understand that you don't want to fuck everything all the time so he assumes something is wrong with YOU

Half and half, just moved across the country a couple months ago and made a lot of friends really quick, but I fell head over fucking heels for this qt at my work. Been at this job for three weeks, seeing girl for two, sparks flying everywhere (but I'm her supervisor and she's 8 years younger than me so treading carefully) then I make a solid move today and she puts the brakes on it. Not surprised, but perplexed and disappointed.
>>39588862
You sound very much like her. This is trippy. Advice? I'm absolutely not a playboy and it's pretty obvious, I'm a heart on my sleeve kind of guy. Always been told I'm the boyfriend type.

>tried to make gains hot cocoa with hot water and ON double rich chocolate
Never again, amigos

>>39588896
Well since he isn't the only man on earth, I don't see a reason to try to invest to a guy who is
>probably a huge male slut
>emotionally immature
>douchey despite being 25, not 16

I rather keep looking for a man who is
>emotionally mature
>willing to form a real, meaningful relationship and connection with someone
>not afraid to commit if meets the right person

>>39588932
>Advice?
Be patient but not pushy. Give her some space and hit her up with a casual message after a while if she still haven't texted you.

>>39588932
Perplexes that a girl who is your employee and a decade younger doesn't reciprocate Romantic gestures in the work place
That's a headscratcher

>>39588925
no - i don't think you understand what I'm getting at.

You are categorically assuming so much about someone based off of some statistically insignificant observations.

I mean - saying things like "mansluts can't be good husbands" is like saying "a soldier can't become a doctor" There is no valid causality, but what do you care, you know the world and how it works.

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>oneitis actually talks to me, her and her friend sit down near me between classes and start eating
>"hey anon, what's up?"
>autism my way through some small talk
>"anon do you have a gf?"
>say no
>"have you... ever had a gf?"
>confused as to what to say, consider lying, end up saying I haven't
>"omg, why? You're so nice and cute!" Says her friend the Stacy, oneitis giggles
>blurt out that I've been in the closet because I'm from a small redneck town, this is of course completely untrue but seemed like the best reason of being a khv at 22
>both of them exchange surprised looks
>"that's so sad anon, we're gonna set you up with henry (barista at local starcucks) he thinks you're cute and saw you wearing a modest mouse shirt the other day, that's like his favorite band! "

Now me and Henry are supposed to get coffee tomorrow.

How do I get out of this.

>>39588975
I think she's making fun of people who say sluts can't be good wives.

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>>39589006
plz be real

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>>39589006

>cute grill asks me if i'm taking my gf to common friends birthdayparty
>tfw nogf
>suggest we get together baking for said party beforehand
>sounds good
>day comes, she tells me she's way too sick
>oh well
>next time i see her she tells me we should get together and bake some other time
>talk about it again yesterday
>She says: "oh and maybe these other guys can come too"
I expected something different desu

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>>39589006
HAHAHAHA

really though, either tell the truth or ask for henry's number and at least tell him the truth and that you didn't know what to say

>>39589070
shit solution
>>39589006
you should fuck henry

>>39588398
i hate myself and i want everyone else to die

>>39589074
seconded

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>>39589008

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>>39589006
At least you might get laid, you should be grateful

>How do I find meaning?
You ever tried shroom?

>>39588398
Somehow I feel like the biggest pile of shit. Yet I am superior to everyone else.

>>39589076
This
For real though we all every single one of us deserve the death so many of us cower from.
What life is there to cling too; next weeks episode of serialized t.v show? Being paid a fraction of what my job is worth to do nothing for someone else shit cause that doesn't matter? To live in a world that would rather melt their brains with YouTube videos on their phones instead of face the reality that reality is garbage. Everyone is just distracting themselves until they die.

>>39588955
Right on.

>>39588964
This too. Hence not surprised. Shame, I'm damn sure it's the only thing holding us back.

Ive been better.. but ive also been alot worse.

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Trying to stop crushing on my best friend. She's a sweet gal and we hit the gym together everyday. I haven't been seeing anyone lately so i know its my loneliness getting the better of me, I'm in love with the idea of a relationship with her but it wouldn't work out.

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As far as everyone knows, I'm doing great.

>>39589211
That's a very passive aggressive statement anon, I hope the best for you.

>We're gonna make it

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>>39589211
>tfw loser in high school
>tfw you make a linkedin account for the first time showing off your degree, gpa, good looks, and accomplishments
>tfw your classmates either don't have anything to show or work in retail

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>>39588413
I'm right there with you Anon.

Wife left me and my lease ran out at the same time. Had to move myself and my dog to another country to live in my younger brothers basement. I just got a job, but I really feel like it's only so I can afford dog food. Doggo is the only thing keeping me going right now.

Your body is all you've got. Work on perfecting it. It may not bring you tremendous joy but it's a good project to keep you occupied. In the mean time, remember you're not alone. I'm waiting for the same bus.

>>39588398
Well you see OP, /fit/ is a website on the internet so it doesn't actually need physically holding up like a house or a building haha. You're so random OP ;^D

>>39589324
It's okay dude, you can be honest here.

>>39589008
I am not, I am honestly and genuinely worried that if someone is used to slaying pussy all the time and enjoys it, how could he make a good and devoted partner? The pussy slayers always have complete opposite features than what I'm looking for in a man. (Down to earth, modest, loyal, reliable.) I defo don't wanna waste my time on someone who might be an overgrown fuck boy-man. Those guys are male versions of nasty bitches.

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>meet qt cook at work
>"anon I heard you have a girlfriend here"
>"you're a good hugger anon"
>"I've been working out too"
>"I've been watching my sugar intake anon"
>"I'm lefthanded just like you Anon"
>But she would rather go out with my friend than me

I tried to ignore her at first because of the gains goblin meme but when she uttered those phrases I fell for her so easily. It's like life knows what I want and waves it on my face like a fucking dick he really is.

>>39588862
fuck off you ugly whore

>>39589443
Why do you want her if you already have a gf?

I've been running at about 20% sanity right now.
Within the span of a month, my fiancé left me, my parents got a divorce, my hours at work have changed to 0230-1630, and I'm stuck in a position where I can't see any friends or family.
Other than that, I broke through an overall strength plateau, so that's cool.

Also going to be alone for the holidays for the first time in my life. Not really a big deal, but I'm just missing home.

>>39589544
Oh and also my mother wil be in jail for the next 5-7 years.

>>39588398
In Taiwan there are two types of girls, those quiet shy types who are totally waifu material and those bitches who look like clowns and are mostly golddiggers.

After getting fit, only the bitchy kind is attracted to me. The other ones think I am a brainless hunk.

However, I am only attracted to the other ones. Im totally fucked now.

Thank you /fit/

>>39589526
I don't have a gf. I don't know why she asked me that.

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>>39588398
not good brah

>>39589443
don't date girls you work with. trust me.

>>39588434
Happy birthday i wish you the best and i hope your next birthday won't be spent alone
Take care brother

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>>39589544
The only difference between loneliness and solitude is how you choose to spend your time. Embrace it. Break through it like another plateau.

>>39589317
Good on you anon, I hope to have that feeling one day.

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>>39589006
/fit/ in a fucking post

>>39589006
Accept it. This is your life now. Have fun crushing Henry's boipussi, bro.

>>39589006
Go on the date and fuck Henry, eventually get married with him and go through life together. But always whisper "no homo"

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>have finally found qt greek waifu material 8/10 and she is into me
>I like her pretty much but I am a 22 years old virgin
>constantly being shy around her when I obviously shouldnt
>social anxiety.jpg
>being afraid of having sex with her (had a negative experience attempt with another girl 2 years ago)
>thinking right now about consuming cialis and taking an escort to get over my sex fear
>either I do it, or she will lose interest in me eventually because I am so fucking shy

Fuck my life. Just why all of this.

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>>39589006

>>39589565
Lol shieeeeet, well if it makes you feel any better, some girls just say that to make conversation as it's easier to find things in common to talk about. If they pursue topics they don't know and just wanna listen to you, I'd take that as a better signal of them being genuinely curious or into you over just mentioning stuff you have in common. Think about it in the context of meeting other guys, you just say stuff to hopefully find common ground and form friendships. It's like that for girls sometimes too.

>>39589577
Listen to this guy.

>>39588434
Anon if you'd like, I'll order you a pizza or something at least

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>>39588434
Happy B-day man!.
Next one won't be as bad , just keep pushing trough.

>>39589006
lmao

say you lied and ask her out

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just went to a dinner party of some cousin, there was this girl whos a huge qt3.14159 very well educated and nice, just the kind of girl we all dream about... much to my disbelief she was actually engaged to a literal skinnyfat negroe with the manners of pig.
I spent the whole thingy crying inside, thinking about suicide and slightly flexing to try to assure myself ;-;

i really dont get it, it feels like god is punishing me somehow

>>39588434
Happy 25th brother.
The hustle never ends. Keep chugging and you'll find the light at the end of the tunnel.

We're all gonna make it.

My first girlfriend and I broke up about a month ago. We were only together for four months but I'm 26 and it's the first time I've ever retained feelings for a woman after sleeping with her. I'm scared it won't happen again so I'm taking the break up pretty rough. We only broke up because her career took her to another state, too, which I think makes it more frustrating.

On the plus side dwelling on all these negative thoughts is causing me to hit the gym harder than ever and I'm actually doing cardio for a change to boot.

>>39588434
swinging by this thread to wish you a happy birthday

we're making it, believe it

>>39588434
Happy birthday. You'll get there man. We all will.

>>39588860
>>39588874
>haha fucking w-wage cuck am I right guys?

>>39589727
#learntoflirt

woof, not so good i don't think

keep seeing an old friend i had mondo feelings for having a great time with her boyfriend, she's not even part of our group of friends anymore either

feel like i missed out on a relationship with her earlier in my life because i was so out of shape. I was a gross excuse for a human. I've turned myself around these past few years and have gotten mostly in shape but there's still a ways to go and it's starting to get rough because i can't just guess at calories and workouts anymore like i could when i was the most out of shape and anything less than 24/7 eating would give results

I have a lot of regrets

is there anything that can be done bout being gay? i heard electric therapy but don't know where or who to ask for that.

>>39588434
happy birthday anon. internet hug to ya

>>39589066
kill the other guys

Don't catch feels fit
>start dating a girl in the summer who I've had a crush on since high school
>things are great for the first couple months
>last month school work started catching up to her
>hangout less
>tells me shes not sure how she feels about us, feels like she should want to be around me more
>asks for some space to think about what she wants
Two weeks later:
>barely heard from her
>tried to take my mind off her with some sloots but tfw no qt gf

Don't be vulnerable peeps

>>39589780
>i can't just guess at calories and workouts anymore
i think you'll find that weighing food and calories will be lots easier than you think. after the first week it's second nature and it doesn't add more than a couple minutes per day. same with having a set program of exercises to follow... i find falling into a strict routine actually makes it much easier each time. you get to the point you can sort of do it while spacing out. it's what i imagine meditation does for some, maybe? you also get the feel of exactly what kind of resting period you need inbetween sets of different lifts.

if you just get over the first hurdles it stops seeming like a chore after a while.

>Cooked 2 delicious meals today
>Found out that pumpkin puree, vanilla whey, and low-fat milk make an amazing shake
>Body naturally woke up after 6 hours of sleep so I was tired for most of the day, ended up napping, and then didn't go to the gym because it was dark out and I live in a shady area.

Overall pretty good. I decided I could use a rest day anyway so I don't feel guilty, plus I got a good amount of stuff accomplished in my room anyway.

>>39588398
pretty garbage

my lifts are shit, I feel like shit (my back is really tight for some reason) and I think i look like shit

don't know what I am doing and I am afraid I am running out of time. my grades this semester are pretty garbage, honestly the worst I've ever done in school

I have a job where I make $35 an hour (which is pretty good considering I'm in school) but I hate being there and existing there

im in a sticky situation with the relationship i am in right now and I am pretty lonely

idk what im gonna do guys just wish me luck

There's this girl at my work who I've become pretty good friends with over the past few weeks. She's chill, funny, and smart. I think she's also single and interested.

The only problem is is that she's also quite fat and has a very unhealthy diet. She's always eating some kind of junk food. I used to be pretty unhealthy myself, but over the past two years, I've got my shit together and have started eating right, lost weight, and, more recently, hit the gym. I'm not perfect, but I attempt to eat healthy somewhat consistently.

I value her friendship, but I'm not attracted to her at all because of her weight. I've dropped hints about eating healthier and losing weight, but I've avoided discussing it too much because she's understandably a bit sensitive about it. Do you think I'm justified in "friendzoning" this girl solely because she's fat?

dropped 5 killos in like a month, my bf level reduced drastically but i cant see my abs and i wasnt even that fat so i dont know if i have shit genetics or if my bf% is around 15 so i dont know what to do
was 71 kg now im 66.5 and im afraid of losing more weight and losing all the muscle ive build over the last months

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Let's get in the holiday spirit.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vMfrdkUnZzY

Never give up anons.

>>39589874
>currently a student
>making $35 an hour, more than most peoples' real jobs
>"pretty good"

ah you're probably some engineering student with the high paying internship and gonna make 110k right out of school i guess

>>39588790
Until she says im bein annoying ill continue to show interest.

>>39589874
>tight back
there are some really good warmup stretches my friend does before squatting and deadlifting
i don't know what they're called but molding mobility is decent. if you try searching for "back warmup routine" on jewtube you'll probably find something.

other than that; just try to focus on your school. put your (newly limbered up) back into it. ask you're teachers for help, if they're dedicated they prolly will try. specially if you got depression etc.

trust me, just do it. don't wanna regret it further down the road. some temporary shitty job and hard studying will be worth it. enough preaching. but good luck

>>39589929
>$35 an hour
>"temporary shitty job"

this board i swear

>>39589954
not american. don't know how much your dollars are and didn't bother to check.

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Internet has been down for weeks (using a public spot atm), too broke to pay my bills.

Miss you guys.

(I'm the dude who takes care of his two elderly parents.)

My business plan is almost finished. Looking for seed investors right now and will soon be looking for full investors.

Hopefully, I'll be selling locally sourced, safe agriculture in an area that has never had this product fresh real soon. :)

(Hey, M***! Hope you're well!)

>>39589978
wow, good job. you sound like an incredibly decent guy anon.

>>39589978
hope that works out for you, man. sounds like youve got a lot on your plate.

>>39589954
>>39589903
I understand that's a pretty good hourly rate (well, actually it's pretty below standard considering the city where I work since it's so expensive) but money isn't everything brother, and if you believe that, the work is soul sucking and is a part of my field I do not want to get into (QA work - and it's not even automated, it's manual QA work). It's very easy to get pigeonholed into that type of work, too, which

I'm slightly scared of that. I've been applying to internships for the summer like crazy and I know I'll be taking a pay cut (unless i work for some big tech giant hur hur which won't happen) and I'll be very glad to be working on something I want to work on. I am very lucky to have that job and the rate but god let me say I hate it

>>39589929
thanks anon

>>39589991
I try to be, thank you.

I'm real excited about this business. I've always wanted to do something environmentally friendly and profitable (I'm a Teddy Roosevelt conservationist) and this idea fell into my lap.

I've checked with people in the area and they all love the idea (we can only get this product here as frozen and tasteless and from questionable sources like Southeast Asia).

My mentor (a dude who used to own a railroad) has been VERY helpful in figuring out my ROI needs, margins and such. Planning on touring a famous and vacant building near me next Friday for possible use as my "farm."

Still making it to the gym 5 days a week, too! (My only stress release.)

>>39589978
What is your business plan about? Can you give rough deets?

>>39589993
Thanks. I think I can manage (hopefully).

>>39590042
I don't want to give too much away as I will be the first person within 300 miles of my city doing it and I really don't want the idea stolen from under me, but I'll basically be farming a product indoors that usually comes to America from places where the product is known to have toxins in it from pollution. I'll be producing about 200-250 pound of it a week at around $20 a pound (compared to the toxic, frozen version at $12 a pound).

I loathe to call it "artisan," but it will be a "local-culture" product intended specifically for sale in the region and not to be frozen and exported beyond the metropolitan area.

Once I'm up and running, maybe I'll say more here as I want to franchise or assist other concerns in the midwest with producing their own (outside of my market area of course).

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>>39588413
woah that's a rare pic my guy
first time seeing it

>>39588434
Happy birthday, sorry it wasn't what you hoped.

>post pics as I'm curious what you look like and how you ended up in this situation?

>>39590079
By start up investors how much are you talking 10k 50k 100k?

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not so well

everyone always assumes i'm a retarded child

i feel like everyone always makes sly remakes about me

>oh i didn't except such a smart thing to come from you!

i will prove them wrong

>>39588434
Happy birthday anon, you made it through another year

>>39589817
ayyy

I was in that shit too. Except she didn't tell me any of that shit. Fuckin' sucks. You just gotta move on and keep liftin.

>girl kept egging me on to help her lift
>she keeps saying shes down
>yesterday told her if she wanted to go at 5 today
>she said 5? Am lol?
>no pm

She never responded even though she even messaged me on Instagram to ask for my number, was going to text her today to see if she was still down but I just didn't and she hasn't said anything all day, just feeling annoyed as all

>>39590133

$94,860 minimum. I need lots of capital equipment including a natural gas emergency generator and a specialized heat/humidity system along with some huge vats to hold swamp-like conditions for growth. The good news is most of this equipment will last at least a decade.

My mentor (a guy from SCORE dot org and anyone wanting to start a biz should get a mentor from there, it's free) and I will be going over exactly what type of investment/investor I should seek.

If I can find a group willing to wait until 6 months after my first sale for their first repayment, I could do a 25%-30% return on the loan in 5 years maximum. I'm willing to go 50% on an 8 year investment.

>>39588434
Happy birthday anon. Hope you do something you enjoy today.

>>39588695
well that was sad, and it did get good, but i want more of your life best of luck anon

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Probably gonna start moving away from weightlifting. I've been really getting into rock climbing and I think I want to focus all or most of my energy on it.

>>39590194
I would like to buy into .001% of your company for $20 mate

>>39588790
>be woman
>"waaah give me attention"
>"now you're giving me attention, im going to pretend im not interested in you"
>"w-w-why did you stop talking to me ;("

Fuck off. Stop playing games you stupud bitch. I hope you never make it and you hate your body as long as your continue to function like this. Fuck you.

Hang in there, don't kill yourselves. You're the only people in the world I can talk to, and you all seem like good lads.

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>>39588398

Not good. Been eating a lot of fruit, chicken breast, rice. drinking decent water.

Can't stop eating these fucking things though.

>>39590228
Heh. I very much wish we could arrange that. My seed capital needs are about $4,000 (need to join the Chamber of Commerce, build a website, get promotional items, bribe city council members [kidding] and get special import permits) and I'm going to offer my seeders 100% return within 1 year of start of production.

>>39590255
Different anon here. How much is minimum investment?

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>been going to the gym every day since mid july
>at 205 lb, 6'2 dropped 35 pounds in fat. ~21% bodyfat at this moment from measuring waist line.
>getting addicted to making gains, loving progress. Actually looking good in clothing
>Gym is not actually a 24 hour gym but a community center gym that usually only fat lard families or old people tend to visit for the pool 90% of the time.
>Mostly alone in the gym
>Graduated college in august.
>~1 hour drive from where i have social connections and my school
>Hardly get to interact with anyone.

I have a few problems. I'm enjoy my routine but I'm thinking about making it more intense and longer. Out of school and out of work and hardly any decent social contact that isn't through the damn computer screen has made me depressed. The gym is my high point, I only enjoy the day while I'm there... it feels like a dependency i want to pump up the routine mostly because i don't want to leave. I can still remember when rest days were relief but now they're fucking depressing. I hate rest days.

My other problem is meeting other people, in my area ideally. I depended on classes to make things happen but social connections in college tend to be fleeting once the semester finishes.

I don't really like the hookup culture shit, should I dick around with tinder?

I blame myself for not throwing my addictive personality at this sooner. If I started as a freshman I can only imagine where my life would have been but no my dumbass waited to start at the tail end of college.

At least I have fit. We're all going to make it, eventually

Good. About 4 months in and gains are starting to become truly noticeable. Lifts are going up, body is looking better, and a few compliments have already been tossed my way.

This time I was actually able to stick with lifting because I didn't follow /fit/s meme routines like SS or SL.

I do my major compounds but add in accessory what the fuck ever I want while trying to keep push/pull motions to opposing days.

The icing on the cake is I'm so damn close to being able to do a deadhang pullup for the first time in my life. Feels good brahs.

>quit gaming in summer
>actually go outside and find a girl, date for 2 months, lose kiss and virginity.
>she leaves to study abroad, I'm sad af for the whole semester. Grades shit
>all I have is lifitng, getting swole, but incredibly bored and have no interest in life.
What do, I'm going insane. I hate school and have no hobbies due to my previous shut in lifestyle.

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>>39590241
Don't worry I won't

>>39588434
Happy birth day, Anon.
We love you.

>>39590273
I really don't have a minimum for seed investors. I need to speak with my mentor and lawyer (friend doing my legal pro bono) a little more but I'm thinking of offering 400 shares of non-voting stock at $10 a share redeemable for $20 after 270 days of my first sale or an incurred additional 10% interest annually thereafter.

>>39588434
Happy birthday man, don't let this beat you down. We can make it.

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>Lost my friendships this year, everything i built in relationships broke within months of being friends
forward to today..
>Pretty good friend of mine moved to another state
>New job and he moved on, talk to him every once in a while
>Sends me picture of him somewhere with a drink in his hand, sends me snap of him out there in the world

>I don't even know if we are friends anymore, he is in another state we dont chill, i also find it interesting he is drinking and sending me a photo, as if that means something to me?

>>39588434
happy birthday friend

>>39590307
fuck it let's try
https://discord.gg/FMJuN
Mr. Biznisman if you get in here in the next 20min I'll give you an email address

add me to a mailing list or something and shoot me an email when you're ready to open a new round of investment

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>>39588398
I used to think I would never be fully over it but I'm slowly getting better
Still having troubles controlling my appetite though, been binging lately

>>39588398
>used to spend an hr everyday lifting weights
>now i spend an hr lifting myself out of bed
not sure if i want go on anymore

>>39589885
yeah

>>39590160
>except

I was on a cut and just had a dozen cookies, I'm not gonna make it.

>>39590398
Seen it.

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>>39588581
4/3/2/1 and a personality is the GF zone bro

>>39590441
Roger that. I'll put you on the official email list (a gmail account for now and the company initials will be "K.A" [the first word will be something important to a Nordic country... a quick Google search will reveal what it is] and signed by "De**") and let you know if/when I push the IPO.

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I'm frustrated with my cut. I'm losing weight, but I can't help but wish I could do it faster. I'll stick with it, but I just want results ASAP. Probably a common problem.

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>>39588398
Depressed, but still trucking.

Been working ~50 hours/week and going to school on my off days.
Between that, studying, lifting, and life's necessities: feeling pretty drained but for the occasional couple hours to enjoy some time for myself. I'm entering the dead zone.

Luckily I enjoy the material I'm learning, and the routine and drive to become a continually better version of myself keep me going.

And the semester ends in 10 days. :^)

Fucking shit, nothing seems to go my way and everything keeps going down the shitter
Finally think I have a thing going with this girl, supposed to hang out tonight but she cancels, last night she just drunk texted me, called me cutie a bunch which is kinda cool I guess
Tons of other shit but that's the thing bothering me the most, I'm so fucking lonely that I got attached super fast to her and it sucks how it's not likely reciprocated as much

Just watched a movie and at the end there was a little girl who wanted to 'thank her hero', the detective who saved her life.
I literally cried because I'm a fucking pathetic loser and nobody will ever call me their hero and I'll probably never amount to anything in my life
Shit came out of nowhere.

>>39588434
Palju õnne sünnipäevaks, Sõber!

I am willing to bet no one has wished you a Happy Birthday in that language before.

In the 25 years you have circled this Sun, that's a first for you, isn't it?

I think you're awesome.

>>39590487
Cool coo. Just send me a confirmation email or something so I know you got it

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>>39590551
You're a Proton user... Excellent.

Check it.

>>39590510
Same issue. I want to lose 15 lbs and losing somewhere around 1-3 a week. Agonizing.

>>39590517
you're making it senpai

stay sharp

>>39590510
>>39590630
stop eating limp dick faggot

>>39590638
and risk these gains?!

I think I'm seriously falling for a girl who has a boyfriend. And I think she's already in love with me. She even asks if I would date her sometimes. I say that I really like her, I just don't know if I can trust her. I don't know if I could ever truly trust a girl who cheated on her bf with me.

>>39588404
Went through accutane last year. Don't miss the chapped lips at all

>>39590517
I know this feel all too well.

>>39590660
Don't do it man. You're setting up a relationship on a rocky foundation like that.

I have never heard of this scenario leading into anything that lasts. Tell her to end things with her bf first, burning that bridge is important.

Also... if she can do it to that dude, why can't she do it to you down the road?

>>39590660
Been with a girl who dumped the guy she was with to be with me, she eventually did the same thing to me

>>39590213
Thanks /fit/bro, I'd say it can't get worse but it always can, but from where I'm at I expect good things.

>stoic.gif

>>39590660
You're inflating her ego.

>>39590660
That shit only works in romcoms man. Don't do it.

>If you're saving a woman from her man, she will eventually find somebody to save her from you.

>>39588463
This is actually my life. I'm so sick of people I just avoid them all because I'm tired of being let down. I literally have no friends and the only time I do anything remotely social is when I go boxing every weeknight.

For context; my best friend of 15 years is fucking my exgirlfriend/oneitis; and I'm not even surprised that something this shitty has happened. This is how much people have let me down through life; I'd of been more surprised if he didn't betray me like that.

I love you /fit/

>>39590682
>>39590684
This is my thought process. I don't think I'm special or unique. If it can happen to him I feel it's bound to happen to me.
I'm pretty sure their relationship has been dead for a while now, it'll end soon. I think I should just string it along as a casual thing as long as I can and reevaluate how I feel about her later on. The fact that she's asking me to commit to her while she's still dating someone really bothers me though.

>>39590694
Actually, I think it's the opposite. She boosts my ego quite a bit.

>>39590732
>actually having friends/girlfriend for the chance to be let down

haha fucking loser you should just be a now 25 year old kissless autistic permavirgin who hasnt had friends since he was 13 and hates everyone and everything and everyone hates him

>>39588594
You're going full retard; stop it.

>>39590732
Cut contact with your "friend" and that girl. That's massive disrespect.

>>39589318
>>39588413
But what if the bus only mangles you so you are paralyzed? Surely this would be worst. Best to not chance it and go with a shotgun to the head if you are serious, it has a 96% effectiveness rate.

That being said you shouldn't do it. You guys have a lot to offer to yourself and others. Crippling depression/anxiety along with secondary ailments like blunted affect etc all feed each other but it is possible to escape them.

Look deep inside anons, and don't be afraid to look both ways before crossing the street

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Want to leave my job as a bus boy/ waiter and go into being a Physician Office Rep or some kind of comfy office job. I don't really have any office experience, but I do have people skills and I can multi task pretty well with things. I'm worried that I won't be able to get the job. I really want it because it pays more and I won't have to run around like I do at the restaurant.

I do have some college experience. I did well in Community college, but did kinda bad in a 4 year school.

I'm just too tried to work at the restaurant. I'm too old to be around a bunch of crazy ass high school bitches.

>>39588790
Wew you're a typical woman.

>>39588860
NEET DETECTED

didnt sleep much
kinda depressed but my friend wants to help me get a gf

>>39589318
>Doggo is the only thing keeping me going right now

I know that feel my man. My dog is the most sacred special thing to me.

All I have is my body and my dog. I just want to make it and have him around to witness it.

>he turns 6 in february
>the only birthday I give a fuck about

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>>39589211
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZkGnmF60n6c
Hope you feel better anon.

im really just curious about how it is humanly possible for me to have lived the life i've lived so far

im 24 years old and im a virgin, never kissed, never even asked a girl out. i haven't had friends since middle school, when i was 13 or 14. went to college and didn't really make friends there either, and honestly didn't even try to make them. i just stay a shut-in completely wasting my life and i just don't care.

i look at people my age or younger using tinder and say to myself "why do normal people need to use this phone app to have sex, they should have people IRL to have sex with" and literally don't understand how people can think of sex that nonchalantly that they can just hook up with random people they meet a few hours earlier. and i laugh at how desperate the people on there are for sex that they need at app to find it

i look at how people get depressed if they go a week without going out with friends and see how i've done it for a decade.

i just don't understand how my brain can evolve to the point where i don't even want any of this stuff.

>>39590736
yeah building a ltr on that takes time

>>39590746
I've done both.

I literally just go boxing and work; cut everyone out my life and just focusing on my next fight. My friend started to drift from me earlier this year when I stopped drinking alcohol so I could focus on training; I think he was jealous and I suspect this is the big "fuck you" to get one over on me.

I'm just disappointed; if it makes their passage through life easier fucking then they can go for it but their karma will come back around on them; neither of them are built for a relationship. They can be destructive together while I do what I do. (Training, working and shitposting on /fit/)

I've started unfucking my life, I'm going to learn a trade, I've started a diet and in 2 weeks I've lost 18lbs, starting the gym Monday

not entirely sure how I'm going to fix the virgin at 22/nearly 23 thing though, thinking about just fucking uglies until I know what I'm doing enough to start fucking attractives and not be laughed out of bed

I'm slowly curbing all of my drug usage, cocaine is down to once a month, prescription drugs down to just 120mg codeine and 5mg valium a day, everything else gone

one day we will all make it

>>39590982
just hit the gym, start getting the lifting high and never look back anon

Told my gf of four years to fuck off. Not really but that I'm not moving in. Told her the truth. Shit is way better now and i don't help pick up her mess anymore.

>>39590736
>>39590682
>>39590660
Same situation here bros plus the fact that i believe she discovered that her relationships foundation is only built upon the past and sees me as someone new. Really like this girl but i don't want to start a relationship with her just to find out that she's still thinking about that past relationship.
I also believe that this whole process of leaving someone and then getting together with someone else can work if both partners accept the fact that it's a new relationship.

-Got jerked off by a chick last night
-hit 260 pounds today (down 167 pounds)
-match with cute chick who i went to high school with in another city who is now in the same city i am

Pretty good desu senpai

Pretty good.
>Closing in on 10kg lost in the last 7 weeks.
>Signed up for a gym membership
>Been on no fap/no porn
>Working everyday in a new job
>Finally (just) under 100kg.

My only problem is I injured my shoulder at the start of the year and now my left arm bicep is like half the size of the the right one....

>>39588398
year 8 still no girl friend. had a kiss two years ago wasn't good :(

>>39588434
35th birthday i went to mc Donalds ate alone and went home. I spent a good 30% of the day crying.

>>39588434
mate coming here makes you smarter than me :D happy birthday buddy glad your here.

>>39588624
better to be a balding dude with muscles than not.. If your losing your hair you need to lift even more.

Started unfucking my life
>applied to uni, gonna get a degree in economics
>gym going well, controlling my diet
>doing a lot of sprinting
>saving up money as much as I can atm

One day I may.

>>39591035
just to add because I forgot

the prescription drugs are for severe shoulder pain but a recent visit to a neurologist shows no physical sign of damage and it's likely anxiety induced psychosomatic pain

the cocaine was/is for depression

I'm also planning on saving up enough to move out of my parents house again and start a homegym with the view of eventually only going to a cheapish swimming pool

I just need a yard big enough to do farmers walks and prowler pushes/pulls

>>39588434
happy birthday anonbro

hit the gym, put down the fork, start a hobby

one day you will fucking make it and look back on this time and laugh

>>39591112
39th Birthday (10 years alone), I went and had a beer and a burger at my local dive bar.

Little Polish bartender I went to high school with remembered it was my birthday because it was the day her mom died in high school (Junior Year). She bought me a shot of Bushmill's.

I cried in my car that night because she was the only person to acknowledge my birthday.

What's /fit/s standpoint on going LTR with a girl who breaks up with a guy to be with thyself?


Can it work if she's serious about it?

Or are woman in this case not trustworthy

>>39591187
wont work, sorry bruh.

>>39591195
Got any arguments to back that up?

>started lifting for grills
>got a gf
>got cheated on and dumped
>lost my friends
>started lifting for myself
>met a new lifting buddy who taught me the art of money over bitches
>start taking way better care of skin, nofap noporn nobooze
>8 months later, achieve semi-ottermode
>step back and realize how many grills are now hitting me up on facebook, blowing up my phone, asking me out, staring at me, complimenting me
>fuck enough grills to know better than to fall for their games
>bitches no longer matter
>bitches can no longer be trusted
>bored with them, I take more pleasure in rejecting them than I do banging them

This feels amazing

>>39589006
jesus fucking christ

>>39591195
Depends on the circumstances under which the previous relationship ended and how serious both of you are

You're jumping from one rel. to another in a matter of days? No way
You're taking it slow? Presumably

>>39591253 Meant for >>39591187

>>39591187
Not trustworthy.

Sorry Senpai; in the rare case it'll work but you gotta remember at some point she liked him enough to get with him. If she can do it to him she can do it to you.

A girl broke up with a guy to get with me; he killed himself over it and she still broke up with me to get with someone else. Funnily enough after 5 years she broke up with him with their wedding coming up within a couple months; she literally doesn't care who she hurts. It's karma though; I see that I got what I deserve.

Cause and effect; get with a slut and she'll behave like a slut.

>>39591259
>Not trustworthy.
Why?

> If she can do it to him she can do it to you.
As long as you remember that nothing is forever you're fine imo

>A girl broke up with a guy to get with me
What period of time are we talking here days hours minutes?

>>39591259
>>39591187
once a slut always a slut, but the exception proves the rule

>>39591259
I gotta say though...i think most girls ive met in my life have been the monkey branch type who swing from guy to guy, is this really unusual for you that girls behave like that?

And keep in mind what >>39591271
said, nothing is forever and even if you meet a virgin chick who is fanatical about you chances are you will break up

After 4 years and a combat deployment, she left me, she left me after moving out here for school. JUST ONE FUCKING MONTH.


So Ive put over 150lbs on my powerlifting total since then.

Fuck women.

>>39591271
A key that opens many locks is a master key

A lock that is opened by many keys is a bad lock

That lock will find a new key that is richer and fitter than you

Manipulate her, use her for what she's good for, block her number, move on

>>39591295
Monkey branching is typical throughout the nature of humans though

>nothing is forever and even if you meet a virgin chick who is fanatical about you chances are you will break up
Can confirm but i guess that if the girl who's wanting to get with you isn't a virgin anymore is probably advantageous

>>39591304
this key analogy is bullshit my man and your view on woman is too

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>along i bedroom
>take off shirt and shorts
>flex in the mirror
>try to remember the feel of a woman's touch on my body

>>39591317
Enjoy being beta

>>39588695
you are going to make it. :)

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Cutting messes with your head, man

>>39591226
She doesnt love you, shes just a "grass is always greener" type of girl. She thinks shes going to be so happy with you and that coupled with you guys presumably chatting/dating/fucking whilst shes in a relationship is exciting to her.

So you have a relationship with her and it will be fine for 3 months when everything is new and fun and then she will get bored and start seeing someone else behind your back and the cycle continues.

>>39591335
Is that what happened to you? Doesn't mean it has to happen to everyone

>>39591160
35 bro also had a burger alone on my bday.. hold your head up high bro your going to make it money over people.

>>39591295
>is this really unusual for you that girls behave like that?

Unfortunately no it isn't unusual; but I'd of hoped that having her ex kill herself (and he named her as the reason on facebook) would of made her a bit more careful with peoples feelings. It made me really look at sex and how I was behaving; now I'm at a point where I don't even really like casual sex to be honest. I'd never touch a girl with a boyfriend again and anyone who flirts around behind their partners back is disgusting.

>>39591271
>Not trustworthy.
>Why?

Actions define us; what do her actions say about her? There is the odd exception but if she has been sneaking around behind his back with you then it's her nature to do so; I wouldn't trust her.

>>39588404
Bro buy vitamin d. Had seasonal affective every year until last when I started supplementing. Now I'm happy all year round

a qt was flirting with me but also told me she is going for a friend of mine

I don't know what this means

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My dating life is fugged cause I can't stop thinking that the guy is probably dating 300 other girls too and just wants a harem. Can't help but act all bitchy and distant (disntance myself from them emotionally) cause I'm afraid that I'll get screwed over.

>>39591347
It means she likes the attention but she deems your friend to be more valuable than you.

Sorry bro but that's the truth; the dating game is fucking shallow and horrible.

>>39591343
>Actions define us
True but isn't it worth a shot if your setting your mind on "if it works great if not life won't end" kind of mindset?

What i'm saying is i know that people don't change they just don't but if there is a slight chance that you and her can actually make a ltr work as two mature human beings why not take that chance know what i'm sayin'?

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>>39591354
Fuck breh...

>>39591343
>made her a bit more careful with peoples feelings
Im sorry but jesus, i hope you werent serious
Im a bit cynical perhaps but people dont learn, people are in it for themselves and being an exbf i know that the least valuable person in the entire universe to a girl is her ex bf

Ive grown tired of dating and girls, they monkey branch and abuse guys simply because there are so many of us and we are replaceable which sucks major ass for us

>>39591187
I'm in a case like this.

From my point of view, it's a case by case scenario.

She broke up with her fiancee, with whom she was with for several years before hand.

Several reasons for that. She didn't want marriage - him and his parents constantly pressed her for marriage. She didn't want kids, at that point - him and his parents constantly pressed her to give him a kid even though she had explained to them over and over she's too young and not ready for that.

Aside from that, she actually didn't really love him. In fact, she didn't even like him. However, she confused his overall neediness (because he's a fucking loser) for love, and felt she wouldn't find someone that would "love" her as much as he did, so she stayed with him, basically because she didn't know better.

Then I came along, and we clicked nearly instantly. I did make it clear from the beginning that I didn't want anything too serious. Thing is she was actually more than happy to have something "not too serious" with me, instead of setting up her death bed with the other guy.

We're together for almost 1 year now. Lots of fighting and shit, mainly because I'm a retard 90% of the time, but when we're good, we're REALLY good.

She loves me unconditionally, even when she's absolutely furious at me. I wish you guys find a partner that loves you as much as she loves me. You'll just know when you do. It's not something that can be described easily. I can just feel it from the way she looks at me, the way she acts around me, the things she does for me. I'm absolutely certain that she will never look at another man the way she looks at me, it's a strange feeling.

/blog

>>39591382
>Thing is she was actually more than happy to have something "not too serious" with me,
that was your nr 1 fault

>>39591382
>mainly because I'm a retard 90% of the time
Explain why are you making yourself the culprit of your relationship when you were the one saying you want something not too serious?

>I'm absolutely certain that she will never look at another man the way she looks at me,
How come?

So you're saying it depends on the circumstances right?

>>39588398
I haven't even touched a weight since my last remaining friend killed himself on my birthday and my stomach started to do that thing again where it sticks out like a starving ethiopian child

>>39591187
>What's /fit/s standpoint on going LTR with a girl who breaks up with a guy to be with thyself?
depends if she's really breaking up for YOU or if she's breaking up because of other reasons

>>39591360
Do what you want to do; you asked what we thought and we told you.

But if in 2 years she does the same to you and you feel like shit; just remind yourself that you asked for it and take it as a lesson. You don't fuck with cold bitches.


>>39591362
It's ok; now you know the truth it's on you to make yourself more valuable to the opposite sex. It's shallow and women will replace you easily without remorse; and hell we tend to do the same back to them even with our best intentions. You just gotta be someone they want I guess.

Btw I did this; I'd go out with friends and play the girls until i got them into bed; I've also had multiple relationships which didn't work out because deep down I was bored and I didn't want that life.

Now I don't bother with girls unless one was to literally fall on my dick; it's too much work and instead I put all my time into focusing on a sport and bettering myself through studying buddhism and just doing my own shit. I've started to actually reach my goals in boxing after years of half assing my training and I'm happier than I've ever been. The only way to win the game is not to play it IMO and instead say "I'm good with my shit right here"; change your perspective and realize happiness isn't external but is instead forged by habits. It doesn't work for everyone but it works for me; I miss sex but I'm so busy that I don't miss relationships at all.

>>39591382
Dude...girls always feed you bullshit when you take her over from some other guy
Its not for you, its for her
Its mental gymnastics for her so she is more sure with her new choice

>>39591403
>But if in 2 years she does the same to you and you feel like shit;
If that happens well then i believe it wasn't meant to happen as people say not going to kill me but i at least have to take the chance and see where it might take me

>>39589544
16 hour shift? What do you do?

>>39591405
>Its mental gymnastics for her so she is more sure with her new choice
100% this
take everything she says in that situation with a grain of salt

>>39591393

Apologies for not clarifying.

I didn't want something too serious then because I didn't know what I was getting into. I actually still wouldn't want anything too serious.

However, I'm now more than certain that I want to be with THIS girl and continue to build our relationship, because it has become clear to me that she is the person that I would like to be my partner.

>>39591397
Please read above. And by being a retard 90% of the time I mean that I react stupidly in situations that I shouldn't. The fighting isn't because she wants something serious and I don't. We are both on the same page in regards to that subject.

>How come?

As I said, it's not something I can easily describe. From the get go she was infatuated with me... I don't know man. It's the way she looks at me, the way she reacts to me. You can just feel it and you know it when you come across that.

>So you're saying it depends on the circumstances right?

Absolutely.

i have not been to the gym in ages once again because i'm tired of this shitty small as fuck gym

>>39591429
>I mean that I react stupidly in situations that I shouldn't.
I see

>You can just feel it and you know it when you come across that.
Totally understand that i'm reacting to her the same way you're describing it

Cheers anon

>>39591405
>>39591419

See, this is what I mean boys.

I completely agree that there are certain situations, the majority in fact, where a stereotype is correct and you should rely on it to make a judgement.

But please don't forget that, as cliched as it is, we are all human. Yes, even women. There isn't a text book you can follow on human interactions. We are all complicated beings.

>>39591459
agree but it's hard to get that stereotypical picture out of your head if all you're getting is stereotypical reactions and phrases isn't it

>>39591340
everyone thinks their relationship is different and its going to be the exception to the rule.

See you in your break-up thread in 6 months time m8.

>>39591464
Some relationships are somewhat the same yes but not every single one

>>39591459
Without getting too bogged down in an endless debate i can just say sure we are all human and irrational but men and women face diffrent problems in dating
A woman needs to assure herself that the choice she made is the right one and the mental gymnastics help with this because it villifies her exbf as being useless and the new choice as being supreme

Women have endless options of guys to choose from so it also helps with that because she wont look at other guys or be very receptive if she keeps telling herself the relation with her current is the best she can get
As soon as that stops you as the guy is basically fucked because now others guys will have a chance and this is how monkey branching works, basically

>>39588398
Gyno, still looking like shit after 1 year lifting, only 65kg x 5 bench, 130x3 deadlift and 120x3 squat.
>5'8 manlet
>no gf
At least I will become a doctor

>>39591459
>b-but we're special
you are a walking stereotype

>>39591480
still a chore that woman need those mental gymnastics so assure themselves instead of just being happy that they are with whom they are

>>39591475
if shes essentially cheating on her current partner with you she will cheat on you later with someone else.

I mean, dont ask for the advice if you dont like the answer. Literally everyone goes through this at some point.

"Cant turn a hoe into a housewife"

>>39591492
From what ive noticed (from dating, LTR and overall interaction) these mental gymnastics are crucial
If girls didnt do these she would assess every guy who approached her and you better fucking believe those are many approaches and some/many would be better than her current choice so given the opportunity she would leave her current bf for a new one and endlessly repeat if she didnt find a guy who was top 10% of the population and maybe even then

So tl:dr relationships wouldnt work if it werent for girls mental gymnastics

>>39591498
Never said a thing about cheating anon if she's cheating with you while in a relationship she is trash yes

>>39591480
There is no need to debate, this can be a discussion.

I completely agree with what you said, but I feel this is the case where there isn't that chemical, whatever it actually is, that we call love.

We had a period recently where we broke up for 2 weeks because of me and some stupid shit I said. I acted like a total shitlord. Seriously, any other person would just write me off as a complete dickhead and not deal with me anymore.

However, despite that, she was the one to contact me after 2 weeks. She was really hurt, more than I was, but she swallowed her pride and we spoke, we made some stuff clear, I apologized and now we are together again.

What would your explanation be for this case? Why did she look for me, even though she's a pretty girl and she doesn't need to deal with a manchild, when other men give her attention on a daily basis?

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>>39589318
>Your body is all you've got
The deepest true. Money? Govs can depreciate that in a second. Gold? Can be confiscated in most countries in case of war. Lover? A truly loyal ones are so rare chances are you're not with one.
Avoid contusions like fire and hone your mind and that bastard to perfection.

>>39591505
but why why can't they just accept the fact that they are with someone and be happy instead of reassuring themselves like "oh did i make the right choice? yes i did" over and over again why can't they just well just be

sad thing tbqh

>>39591505
You're happy with one guy? Great stay that way

You're not happy with that guy? Alright find someone you are

It's as easy as that but people in general tend to make relationships more difficult as they really are in the end it comes down to liking the other person and getting along that's it

>>39591491
This.

>>39591459
>>39591382

You've only been together 1 year and you already said you fight a lot; 1 year isn't a long time Phamalam. I hope it works out for you but I'd be surprised.

>>39591512
>Never said a thing about cheating anon

Im talking about the guys original question which was along the lines of "shes about to break up with her bf to be with me, will our relationship work?"

The answer to that is no, despite all relationships being different and everyone being a unique special flower and a complicated matrix of emotions, she still has a thirst for different cocks and will eventually start taking Chads behind his back,

>>39588434
Happy Birthday Man.

>>39588862
welp, at least you're not as stupid as my sister. Maybe you're gonna make it. You can't change people. They have to change themselves. And most of the times they won't.

>>39591520
>>39591529
Well im gonna take some shit from neckbeards on this but what i meant was something like this
Girls get approached, if they reassure themselves their current bf is the best they wont give others a chance
Without the mental gymnastics they will start doubting and giving other guys a chance and then its a matter of time before they meet someone better

its how monkey branching works, its a drawn out process and once she stops the mental gymnastics to keep her with her current bf she will start gymnastics to leave him
(my ex gf made shit up about me being controlling and not letting her do anything fun when i encouraged her to get hobbies since i was strapped for time)

Without their gymnastics relationships would probably never form since they would just jump from guy to guy with little overlap

>>39588599
the fuck were you doing with your nuts while fapping? don't answer. I don't wanna know

>>39591540
>she still has a thirst for different cocks and will eventually start taking Chads behind his back,
She might sure but why not enjoy the time together when given the chance?

>>39588398
Trying to break my excessive gaming habits by going to the gym everyday and trying to start college. Been 3 years since I graduated high school.

>>39591558
Hmm i see then it's up to us guys to find a girl who can can call herself out on those type of i'd call them shit test

>>39591538
>You've only been together 1 year and you already said you fight a lot; 1 year isn't a long time Phamalam

Indeed, 1 year isn't a lot.

Why do you think we actually fight about shit though? Do you think we'd fight and still be together if there were no feelings or we didn't care for each other?

>I hope it works out for you but I'd be surprised.

Thanks. I'd be surprised too, as it would go against all the redpills I've swallowed here on /fit/ and everywhere else.

All I'm trying to say is that, yeah familia, there is certain shit that is set in stone when it comes to women and human interactions, but my experience contradicts alot of the shit I've thought to be absolute truth.

>>39591515
>What would your explanation be for this case?
I dont have all the answers, i might give off signs that i do but im experienced with women but no one on this planet truly knows how they think

Anyway, its mental gymnastics at play
She convinces herself you are the best choice so the others arent given a chance to even prove themselves in her eyes and this is why she wants to get back to you

Mental gymnastics helps girls affirmate the current choice theyve made, it helps them get over and find new guys after theyve lost interest and its sort of an endless cycle
Some day she will lose her interest in you and after she has met a new one her new bf will hear all about what a total asshole, dickbag and fucktard you are because it bonds them together

She looks back thinking youre utter shit (even if youre not) and he gets confidence his new gf wont cheat because his competition is shit compared to him

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I went to the club for the first time tonight. I had more fun than I thought I would. I honestly thought it would suck but I spent the whole night talking to this qt Irish girl and we exchanged numbers. I didn't think I could do it but I did. I would go again but I need to learn to dance first.

Apparently I have a nice ass cause some gay guys grabbed my ass and so did the girl I mentioned. and some black girl twerked on me.

>>39591567
Not him; but on a related subject:

One time this girl I met was wanking me off in bed; and she started to squeze my balls really hard with one hand as she wanked me off.

At first it hurt; but then it became an enjoyable pain and now I really like it. I've never had someone do it to me again other than her the few times I slept her; it felt amazing.

There were times during it when I'd be thinking "ow fuckkk that hurts" and I'd be wanting to ask her to stop; but at the same time it felt great and I don't know; maybe the pain heightens the stimulation down there.

>>39591574
Or just enjoy it
If youre lucky you find a girl who is in a downward spiral and looking to escape her current relation, if you manage to get her she will stay with you for some time and then repeat the process and move on

Think of it like days and nights, sometimes you have your moment in the sun and all is well but it comes to an end when night falls and then it becomes dark again
Enjoy the time in the sun and dont think about the approaching night

>>39591628
Will do

>>39591597
It makes sense, I can tell you have a lot of insight.

However, she has never truly shit talked her ex-bg/fiancee in front of me. In fact every time the question rises, she always says he was good to her and she's sorry about what she had to do to him, but she just wasn't happy there with him. The bit where I say he was a needy fuck and didn't actually love her was my analysis of the situation. Maybe it was my mental gymnastics to make me feel better about stealing another man's woman.

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Post lifters from your country.

/rus/

>>39589006
send her a screencap of your post

>>39591635
>Maybe it was my mental gymnastics to make me feel better about stealing another man's woman.
Well yeah humans preform mental gymnastics but women are more irrational than men so they are more prone to it

Nothing lasts forever friend, women have the upper hand in life because they seek out emotion and are guided by that more than reason and to be happy its easy to just go with the flow and enjoy moments of happiness even if they make no sense

sometimes a beautiful lie is better than an ugly truth

>>39591658
>Nothing lasts forever friend
the sooner you learn that the better plus this mindset makes having a relationship so much easier cause you're not spending your time wondering and doing everything to try to hold that relationship together so to speak you can just live

>>39588434
Keep slugging at it bro.

I literally started to try and unfuck my life the week I was turning 26.

It's a year later and I'm not there yet, but I can see it from here.

>>39590982
Since I've been socialising with people more I feel lonely if I don't see my friends for a week. But I went 2 years with only talking to around 8 people (family and close coworkers)

However, I feel like I had an increasing debt of dissatisfaction that had been building up over the years that I've only now started to pay back by forming good friendships, experiences and abilities.

>>39591160
Did you say something nice for her mother?

>>39591658
>sometimes a beautiful lie is better than an ugly truth

I believe this would be a nice conclusion to our discussion.

Good talking to you buddy.

>>39588790
>Spend months on a grill
>Don't fuck
Unless you picked an orbiter he should be balls deep in some non dumb bitch by now. Men don't wait months to bang one grill unless they can't get with anyone else. How retarded are you?

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struggling into finals week, i'll be lucky to get out of this semester need that fresh start. same goes for the gym, inconsistent and never cut the last 20 I needed to

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>>39588434
happy birthday, every day you haven't made it brings you one day closer to making it in the end

>>39588657
That's a varicocele.

Get your test and sperm levels checked, the increased heat from the poor blood flow caused by the vein can reduce testicular function

T.medfag

You know what? Not very good recently, but tonight, I feel a little better. We're all gonna make it.

Week 4 of carbnite. Lost some inches on my waist, weight isn't moving too much after the initial 10 or so pounds. Feeling sluggish in the gym, but I have to get leaner or I'll be alone forever. Does anyone know this feel?

>>39588434
Happy birthday bro! You'll make it, just gotta hold out for a little more and try harder. ;)

Not good but my workout is slowly improving, so I got that going for me.

>>39588404
>>39591344
There's special vitamin D sun lamps that are supposed to be good. Like $90

>>39591344
Does Vitamin D really make that much of a difference?

T.Nightshift worker

>>39591672
>>39588434

“Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!”

>>39588398
It is time to leave it all behind and look upon a brighter future

>>39588398
>

>>39589885

Of course, anon. Physical attraction is important. Besides, if you were in awful shape and she was hot, do you reckon she'd give you the time of day?

>>39590527

That's rough, anon. But if you're here, it's because you want to improve yourself. Good luck.

>>39589686
i had a similar experience anon. just do it. the anxiety will go away after a couple of times.

>>39592083
That's exactly what I was thinking. Another girl at work is goading me into dating her, but I thought that, if the genders were reversed, then I would have grounds for a harassment claim with HR.

>>39591413
Stand a security watch for my ship in the Navy

>>39588434
Happy birthday anon!