Anyone else suffer from sexual anxiety? How do you get over it?

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>>38594642
Talking to girls about sexy stuff, randoms online is a good place to start.

>>38594642
yea man, my first lay i couldnt get it up. still traumatized by that lol

Just pop a cialis and fuck her like Superman

>>38594642
honest answer? have more sex. it becomes not such a big deal.

Jesus Christ I want to go ballistic on those tits

>>38594682

Damn that's pretty fucking hot

>>38594682
2cringy4me

Sex is so far removed from my life that I forget other people actually do it

>>38594642
Stop fapping to porn and practise using your imagination. Apparently using porn can give you issues with your brains reward system. Not sure how true it is, but worked for me.

>>38594682
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>>38594850
What was the photo supposed to be?

>>38594869
my man

Does anyone else lose all interest in a girl after they've banged? As soon as I've cummed a few times I jut want them to leave so I can do my own thing

>>38594875
Explanation for refusing to kneel for me, she managed to convince me to be good.

>>38594960
What? Why did you want a photo of her kneeling, i dont understand that part.

>>38594920
You're dating shit-tier girls or you don't enjoy sex

The best fucks come 4-5 weeks into a relationship

>>38594642
You really should commit more time to foreplay. It will help you have the time you need to become aroused, and she will be all the more happy for it.

>>38594998
you are fuck idiot do you understand that part?

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>have had sexual contact with 5 different girls
>first one said the penetration hurt her, so we stopped
>second one i was too drunk and nervous to stay hard for a hand job
>3rd one, only slightly drunk, tinder date, couldn't stay hard again, tried other times with same result
>4th time, couldn't stay hard despite not fapping for 3 weeks
>5th time, lost hardness shortly after penetrating, though not in a good mental state during this event

I really don't know if it's strictly nervousness, the fact that I wasn't that attracted to the last 3 girls and was just trying to fuck, if it's part of my health problems, or what. But since it's so goddamn discouraging for seeking out girls, I don't try anymore

>>38594642

Who dis

>>38594642
well there goes nofap

>>38595083
Nope, mad faggot? Now just explain what your dumbass wanted.

>>38594684
It's much easier when it's the same girl. A string of one night stands was difficult for me after I had one night where I took a benadryl, took a girl home and couldn't get hard to save my life (thanks bendadryl), and ever since then, I've got performance anxiety. First time I've had sex with new girls has been better once I got viagra, and after the 3rd, 4th, etc. time you don't even need it to get hard because you're comfortable with them.

>>38595118
Try viagra, it worked for me. Order it from overseas.

>>38594998
ddlg

>>38595198
That was not me you cunt, it's part of a sexual submissive game called ddlg

>>38595215
How much do you pay for it? And part of what I think is the problem is that when I'm in the girl, I feel almost no sensation.

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>>38595255
OHHHHH ok gotcha makes sense.

>>38595215

how and where from?

>>38595272
I paid 70 bucks for about 70 pills.

>>38595343
Go to almost any website which ships from India, and fill out the information they have there.

>>38595851
How is the quality? This sounds kinda sketch but i'm kinda desperate. I don't even attempt to have sex cuz i know of my ED

i cant even get hard by myself (havent had morning wood in years)

let alone with a woman

>>38595911
foreplay nigger

>>38595118
Try different condoms

>>38594764
this
I had an awful time with my girlfriend when we just started out. like the most generic shit - I was scared of losing my boner so i lost focus and lost my boner at the slightest distraction.
it stopped happening after the first time I gave her a proper dicking.
>now my problem is reversed, I have zero anxiety and I don't give her that extra mile, just cum after 15 minutes like a piece of shit.

I get anxious when I'm in bed with a girl I like and have gotten to know well

when I'm in bed with a strange girl or one I've met recently it's a lot of easier for me

it's kind of odd honestly

>>38594642
steroids

>>38597222
The results happened regardless of condom use.

Xanax and a beer.

>>38594869
Yup. Same

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>>38594869

>>38597398
I can only stay hard with hookers

>>38594642
take like 2000mg of l-arginine before you fuck

I'm on SSRI's and have a really hard time getting off from fucking alone. I'm hard as a rock instantly, but cant get there. Makes the girls I've been with feel self concious about themselves

>>38598216
Yeah bro I've been on ssri's and it would take me like 30 minutes of death grip fapping to get off. My forearm was burning after

>>38594920
p-plz talk more about this. I'm 25 year old virgin I think I'll be forever alone. Plz let me know sex is overrated so I feel better

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>>38598271

It's kinda cool to fuck a grill senseless, but at the same time, I want to get my rocks off you know? It's shitty.... and I don't even feel that much better for all the negatives.

>>38595031
I hear this alot, but sometimes I'm hard after two or three mins of hot and heavy kissing but by the time both pants come off I'm semi, and the semi just dont work on a tight qt, and then panic... and humilliation. Advice?

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>>38595215
>>38594702
Really... pills are the best answer we've got? anyone else overcome the first fuck nerves with a natty strategy?

>>38597385
>>38595203
Guess I feel a minuscule bit better I'm not the only one

>>38598346
Personally I really like the beginning of sex, squeezing her ass and feeling that tight body against mine. But after we've been going at it for a while I've just gotta focus on not cumming before she does. The best sex is after I've already made the girl orgasm that day so I just do as I please and don't worry about her pleasure. Sometimes we both have a better time the second time.

I can only get hard with men now.
Is this normal?
Not gay.

>>38595147
don't, you're gonna feel better afterwards

had it last night with my gf, couldn't cum in the end

the time before i came real quick as well, fucking kill me

>>38599831
>Not gay

Just accept it buddy. There's nothing wrong with it really.

>>38594642
By not having sex with anyone anymore

>>38595911
Stop watching porn idiot

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anyone knows a reliable source to buy sidenaphil without prescription?

>>38599722
When i lost my verginità i couldnt get it up, then i let my gf take control of the operation and it worked. It happened again when i had another gf because because i had trouble actually finding the hole and panicked. (Pro tip: take your dick in your hand and Stick out your tumb to aim better)

>>38599722
viagra helps a lot bro

performance anxiety is a cycle that is reinforced by failure. The more you fuck up the more likely you are to fuck up even worse again in the future.


Taking viagra guarantees you a boner and you lose your nerves and realise how easy the job at hand is. You wont need it again after 1 atttmept

I had severe sexual anxiety my entire life, I was technically abused as a kid, by my mother, Japanese comics and pornhub might make it look hot, but it was terrifying and destructive, ever since then, everytime I was with a woman it was like being at a doctors office, just a total clinical experience with no emotion for me at all.

I started lifting, and working on increasing test through diet, creatine (studies show it can raise resting test levels by up to 22%) and fitness, I learned to work through these issues and leave it in the past psychologically.

The last hurdle was erections, it goes without saying I had total erectile dysfunction, even when I was horny I couldn't do a single thing about it, I got viagra, and it sorted me right out, that shit gives you fucking terminators dick for like 4 hours straight, now I have a pretty average sex life, which is a massive improvement.

Hope this helps.

>>38594920
Eh I'd say you're used to porn too much. You're stuck in the habit of
>start video
>cum
>immediately discard the mindset you had and go do something else

Doing the same with real partners will make you feel disconnected as fuck.

>>38594642

I had this problem, overcame it, and got it again.

First relationship was shitty and anxiety filled. Flopped out the first time and got really stressed about it, gf at the time was pretty inexperienced and couldn't really make me feel comfortable. Happened a few times after with different girls.

Ended up casually seeing this really chill girl who enjoyed having sex, popped a viagra for the first time we had sex and that more or less cleared up the issue for me. Went from worrying about getting hard to being able to have sex on MDMA just fine.

Unfortunately when I stopped seeing her (moved country) went back to cocoon mode and sorta lost that momentum and it's back now. I know i just need to find a chill qt to get back on track. I think i'm a little fucked up because my first couple of sexual experiences were pretty unenjoyable for me.

Basically just find a girl you can see, don't feel bad about using meds for the first few times, once you get into the swing of things performance anxiety will be the last thing on your mind.

>we're all gonna make it

>>38603428
did u feel a difference when starting on creatine?
im thinking about trying it out, not sure though

>>38598346
It will always be better in your mind, no matter what it is that you fantasize about.

>>38602060
Not that guy you're replying to, but I'm a neurotic mess and this past year I've been hitting the gym and trying to drop my heavy porn use to see an improvement in my life - I can get boners and fap without any problem, but keeping an erection during sex is getting really difficult and even when fapping I need to have the tightest grip.

It's an on/off thing, sometimes the sex life goes amazingly smooth and I feel fantastic for having real contact with a girl, and then I have days when I can barely function mentally. 2 weeks ago for the first time in my life I wasn't able to cum and I wouldn't wish that on anyone. It's the most bizarre and scary thing in the world, to see a naked woman lying in front of you, knowing you're attracted to her and finding her beautiful, but not being able to keep an erection during sex. I'm honestly terrified of being gay now, seeing replies like yours in a thread like this is enough to spike my anxieties.

Ignore it. I'm working through it. I just need to ignore and keep moving forward. It's kinda difficult. Hopefully I'll get used to it.

Anyone have the issue of thinking they will just disappoint the other person. Im sure by age 26 and up its rather understandable that porn is just porn, but something is always clawing at the back of my mind that no one would be interested in me because im not an exact perfect of what they want.

Its seriously stupid to think that and i dont think that way about anyone im interested in but i cant shake it.

>>38602314
kek

I fap before i sleep and still wake up to raging wood which wont let me go back to sleep. Go check your Test levels if porn is killing your sex drive. I admit that i only have sex bi monthly if im lucky thanks to holidays and shit though so all the test in the world doesnt help my game

I have medium amount o Pearly penile papules, that I would actually be hesitant if a hot girl wanted to give me a blow job. Purely because of it

>>38595005
>You're dating shit-tier girls or you don't enjoy sex
Probably. One girl I still fantasise about more than a year later and one I banged the other week I'm not interested in at all despite her putting loads of effort in.
>>38603517
Probably this too. Hugging and kissing and shit doesn't really interest me afterwards, porn probably helped give me that attitude

>>38603684
No offense bro, but people who reply like this almost always don't watch nearly as much porn as the people who complain about its adverse effects while trying to compare the two. While I do acknowledge that everybody reacts differently ( maybe you really do have more test ), this just reeks of normalfagging porn habits and makes it sound like you just turned 18, most people noticing the issues are in their mid 20's at least.

>>38595118
It's more common then you think. Don't worry about it too much but a pill might help if you really can't get it up. If you can masterbate with a boner then you can have sex with one, just gotta find your mental problem.

>>38594642
I don't even know how it's possible to have sexual anxiety, and I was a virg till 20 yr old. It's such a basic biological function, cavemen did it. It's such a simple thing you just stick your weiner in her and pee. Or if u don't wanna get her pregnant you take it out and pee on her leg

To all the anons who had issues with their penor so far during sex: it happens to more people you would think. Most of my friends have\had it and can occur from time to time.

The most important thing to do is to find a girl whom you can trust and be chill with, who can put your mind at ease. Who makes it feel completely okay to lose your boner once or twice or hell, even twelve times. I dunno about murrica but here in Europoor, we get pretty normal and caring girls.

My first couple of times I was a complete mess and could not keep an erection for the life of me. We were trying for a month before I could actually penetrate her and cum instantly. It doesn't matter, with my anxiety I am glad I was able to do this at all.

This was back when I was 16 and now at 24 I still have a brief or not-so-brief adjusting period with the girl I'm with, cuz I need to know if I can trust her or nah.

tl;dr - find a girl whom you can trust and share your concerns with and who understands you.

>>38603963
I'm this guy >>38603651 and to me it's the opposite. I remember the only one night stand I ever had, about 3 years ago ( before I got stuck in the anxiety/neurotic loop ), I was on a double date and as soon as it became obvious that I was gonna get laid with her, I became harder than diamond. She wasn't particularly beautiful but she had the biggest tits I'd ever touched and was a decent enough fuck, I remember pinning her to the wall and everything.

It's not that I didn't like her, but I had by no means a meaningful relationship with her - as a purely sexual and non emotional thing, it worked so well. It was so, so much easier than the relationship sex I'm having now by a huge margin.

>>38604042
Yeah, I'm assuming that we all have different reasons for the sexual anxiety, mine is the pressure to perform and the girl not finding my dick big\thick enough (even tho im pretty average, 7x5.3in).

I think the best advice would be to take it easy and try to get your mind out of the loop: fear of failing-failing cause of fear. Plus finding out what works for you apart from this. My main reason to post was to point out that the majority of our peers have issues with this one way or another and that we are not alone in this.

>>38594642
use viagra for the first 1-3 times, after that you'll be so over your nerves you'll laugh at how nervous you were.

>>38604150
It's not great on the other side,either. I'm above average in peen size but my gf hates it, says that sex is painful for her every time to the point she almost dreads it.

>>38594642
Strong emotional connection with the partner. Also it's much easier the second time.
Remember, if you're worried that your partner is going to laugh at your lolnoboner instead of helping to ease the stress, she's not worth it.

>>38595118
I have this problem, but only when I fuck guys. Girls? No problem. But I get such performance anxiety with guys that I can't cum. It's frustrating to read about straight guys blowing each other for a giggle, and here I am salivating while getting pounded and I can't orgasm no matter what I try.

Viagra

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>>38595255
TFW you have a DD/lg relationship with your GF, but feel uncomfortable in it.

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>>38603681
I'm 27 and just recently got over this exact thing.
I just started uping my game with fitness and hobbies and continually reminded myself of all the things I've accomplished before and that to most women I really am a prize and at least 80% of women would be happy/lucky to have me

>>38606951
w-what hobbies ?

>>38607182
Shitposting.

>>38607182
Arguing with jews on the internet.

>>38607742
>>38607838
Thanks, /pol/

>>38607182
constantly lying to himself

>>38603684
Me, the post
i've been premature my whole life so at that point i'm just not taking the risk of being humiliated anymore even though i'm 7-8/10, what's the point of bringing a girl in my bed if i know she's gonna sigh and look at me full of disappointment after 3 sec of foreplay
>mfw forced into the monk lifestyle

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Have_No_Mouth,_and_I_Must_Scream

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>>38595118
dont worry m8. my rod doesnt stay sometimes. Its no sweat. Just turn it on the girl and make it feel like its her fault and make her get it up with her mouth.

On another note my girl farted pretty much right in my mouth the other day and I stayed hard. What can ya do? amirite fellas

>>38594869
Fuck, man. Right in the feels.

>>38607967
Just read this.... fuck me man. Why did you do this anon?

>>38594642
by having sex. a f will also help

>>38594642

a person like me cannot have sexual anxiety

that shit is so rare that when i actually commense the act i am overcome by test and i have no problems having sex dood. maybe you are just a low test BETA who isn't made for this environment and should acknoledge your obvious genetic flaws. my advice...kill yourself...but hey thats just me. i think from a logical point of view buddy. if you cant get it up....kick the fucking bucket bro

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>>38608357
THIS tbqh famalam

To the people who tryhard in order to stay hard I have to say the following.
Not fapping for weeks/days whatever isn't a solution. The only thing this will do is make you finish much faster.
Your problem 9/10 times is forgetting that you are supposed to be enjoying it too and you convince yourself that your only job is to perform.

>>38603224
sst. same labs thatll fab your T often sell fuckpills

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>has never had a long-term relationship
>kissless, friendless virgin until 21
>issues setting boundaries and asserting self
>get /fit/
>random hookups nonstop off dat dere okcupid
>lose chub halfway through, never finish except by own hand
>never address personal problems, fault always belongs to girl
>foreveralone.png
>meet THE GIRL, get oneitis
>sex is great, finally feel normal for once
>THE GIRL breaks up with me
>WEEDLE HAS EVOLVED TO KAKUNA never leave apartment
>mental breakdown after receiving pity sex from friend's ex
>slowly ween self off of porn, back to imagination
>get into bdsm scene as professional dom
>tie up overeager qt3.15s, suspend them from ceiling or bind with saran wrap
>wrek dat ass
>do this on the reg
>literally no pressure because everything is "in character"
>able to get an erection looking at real life boobs again
>ED basically gone

OP, find your thing and do it. Get on fetlife or fuck man, craigslist or something, just find someone just as eager to indulge in fetishes as you are. Experiment. Have fun with it. Talk trusted friends about your anxiety, it's way more common than you think. Odds are, one of them will know someone willing to help you out. Maybe you're friends with a couple and they want you to fuck the girl while the guy hides in a closet and faps

>tfw 23 havent had sex in 4 years and the most recent encounters were abysmal failures due to my death grips from watching diamond jackson get the black fucked out of her.
>seriously considering getting adderall so I out drink and fuck ever male in my zipcode.
Shits better than viagra.

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>>38594642
>sexual anxiety

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>>38594642

My story
>meet up with hot half Persian older woman
>be confident, and positive thinking at the time
>have best sex ever, raging hard
>lick her ass
>fuck her ass so good she cums like a maniac as I shoot into her
>bask in the glow of my achievement

>6months later
>fighting off anxiety, slight depression, lack of confidence
>she invites me over again, to fuck
>30 minutes of eating her out, couldn't get hard
>she gets mad, barely talks to me and says it's time to go
>I leave and try not to cry on the way home

I don't know how to get it back /fit/

>>38608508
So, maybe you can help me with this.

I'm weening myself off porn. I've lost 80lbs, so I feel like staying disciplined isn't the hardest part.

But I get blueballs after about 2 or 3 days of not jerking off. I know that no porn =/= no jerking off, but when my balls ache, I just want to rub out a quick, easy one. Is there any way to help alleviate this?

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>>38594642
by staying just single and admiring women from afar.

fuck i'm pathetic, maybe I'll feel more confident when I finish my cut

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>>38594869

>>38594869
My girlfriend moved away for college a bit ago, won't see her till Christmas.

Going to be the longest streak without sex (assuming I don't cheat) since I lost my virginity at 14, 8 years ago.

There isn't much of a reason in my mind to not get laid. Realize your status, I mean really objectively see where you sit, and either try to move upwards to improve your selection or settle for 1 step above yourself and REACH.

Or just settle.

But acting like no one will sleep with you is just wrong. You know some fat bitch will let you get up inside her with no more than a friendly "Hey :)" text

Sex might just not be for some people you know

like how alcohol, for some people it just doesn't feel good or they aren't interested.

I dunno I fucked like 8 hookers and 2 normal girls, and a guy (lol)

basically every time I didn't even want to have sex i don't have any sexual desires for other people (I fap sometimes tho), I just had sex because I felt like that's what I SHOULD or what I was expected to like and enjoy and do

sex with other people maybe I'm just super anxious or some shit, but I've always felt like, you know how you'd be super embarassed or try to hide if someone walked in on you jacking off? I don't see how sex is any different? I feel it's super embarassing and should be private. basically sex you kind of jack off using another persons body why doesn't anyone find this embarassing?

literally someone else is basically seeing you jack off

maybe I just have bad anxiety, I need valium and alcohol just to leave the house, or maybe sex is just kind of disgusting and way to unprivate. I don't like how exposed I feel. like you're doing the most private thing (jacking off) but you're doing it with some other human

I only had sex sober once and it was even more horrible than drunk ED sex. it was so horrible I left halfway through it was with a hooker I was like 18 losing my virginity. I felt so dirty afterwards and couldn't shower the feeling off. this wasn't because she was a hooker because this happened with the normal girls as well

tldr: sex just might not be for some people, the fantasea is NEVER as good as in your mind, once you cum all interest is lost in the girl and you suddenly find it all way more disgusting, you need to be super confident to be nude and doing private things in front of others, let alone enjoy it

I'd be perfectly comfortable never having sex again I'm only 24 it's just not for me

too often I think men just assume that they SHOULD or OUGHT to want and do it and maybe for some guys the desire just isn't really there

>>38598346
Lost the old V card at 27 few weeks ago, sex is nice but not magic. As soon as you lose virginity you will find there are many more things to worry about after that, probably won't change your life at all.

>>38612973
She's getting railed right now.