How have gains affected your love life and how girls interact

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Fat women on online dating sites think they have a chance in me wanting to address them by writing to me.

I made the mistake of pursuing the first girl I was really interested in. Now I've been with her for 3 years.

Its all great. But I keep getting the feeling that it'd be great to go out and fuck random girls again (but of a much higher attractiveness than the ones I did before I lifted)

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>>38514719
Yep.
Back in high school I was 6'1 160lbs and nobody gave me the time of day.

Today I'm 6'3, 220, and have been lifting for a few years. Not even exaggerating, lifting and the confidence associated with it are responsible for nearly all my hookups.

I'm back to being a fatass sadly, but as a former-celestialbody turned prince of manlets, I can say that my time during that was one of many stares and smiles from women.

>tfw go grocery shopping after a 5 mile run
>wearing a regular brown shirt, can't see through but I'm sort of sweaty
>veins on forearms a little joosy
>hair's about shoulder length and wet
>walk into wally world
>stares
>stares
>still not used to it so I look away
>run into old friend
>6'0" 360lbs~ mlp shirt and all
>his hot ass little sister is with him
>chat them up
>"wait a minute, this is your sister? Gatdamn anonette you're gorgeous."
>she turns red
>he tries to butt in
>NO

And that was the day I got mired by a 5'1" 8/10

:( I wish I hadn't gotten with a fat chick after I lost weight.

>>38516158
>Manlet
>long distance running
>greasy, wet hair
Hmm

>>38514759
IKTF bro. You don't fancy using them for violent degrading sex then? Fat bitches are the easiest lay ever.

>>38516182
But five miles isn't long distance and my hair isn't greasy...:(

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>>38514719
No I still don't talk to girls and they don't talk to me.

>>38514719
>be me at party
>people hanging out in the pool
>I join them
>We start doing 'battle' where people sit on someone else shoulder and they have to push the other dude
>I'm on a poor dude who manage to support me against a girl
>she starts touching my abs (i dont have abs) and chest while smiling
>she was a slut so I didn't care
>still feel good

I'm getting some small mires but nothing more, it's more about having more confidence

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>>38517836
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>>38514719
Yes but not for the better

>Age 22
DYEL, around 76kg
Wonderful 9/10 gf with an insane sex drive, happy as a clam

>Age 28
Weight at 89kg and a bf of 15%. /fit/
Gf left for another dude, no sex for almost two years, zero prospects for dates and the future of my love life is pretty much dead

I still remember the good ol days when i had my gf, other girls flirted with me and i got confirmation i looked good.
Now i feel like shit most of the time because i miss sex and love

All these pretty girls and milf tier women love me but I don't know the difference between genuine interest and being nice/flirty. Also terrible at holding a conversation because I'm always trying to do something. Trying to hit on legitimate 7.5/10+ all the time and having success, just haven't had time to socialize much recently

Lifting didn't fix my autism guys

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>>38514719
>be me, start cutting and hitting the gym 6 days a week back in late march/early april.
>qt3.14 thiccc chick in my writing class.
>give her a ride to a function we're both invited to, bond really well on the ride over
>shes really enthusiastic about sitting upfront with me (other classm8s in the back)
>two months in, no huge noticeable fat loss but all my clothes start fitting better
>last class before finals, she says "hey anon we should go cruising together again!"
>early into my weight loss I was an insecure mess and thought I'd just be friendzoned so I said "yeah totally" and walked away
>didn't get her number after finals
>didn't hear from her all summer
>continue steady weight loss over the summer
>noticeable gains and fat loss, fine tune my fashion a bit too
>lookingood/feelinbetter.mp4
>fall comes, I've dropped almost 30lbs.
>go to last class at night, PE
>first one in class w/ prof
>Next student to walk in is qt3.14 from last semester
>her face immediately lights up and she runs over and hugs me. Def mirin the fat loss/mini-gains
>have class with her in yoga pants 2 times a week
>still seems really interested in me

I'm still fat and working on it, but holy fuck no girl even touched me on the shoulder all of last year.
Things are looking up

>>38514719
Iam not ripped yet but one the way to it and my love life is way better
got laid first time, and had some other stuff with girls so yeah it changed something
especially changing diet and caring for myself and stopping to smoke weed regularly

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>>38514719
>Lose 75 pounds
>Throw out meme t-shirts
>Put on a good amount of muscle
>6'3"
>"Wow Anon, you must have a ton of girls chasing you!"
>Literally not even a single one
>Have had a couple gay pedos creep on me at gym

What the fuck was the point.

>>38517836
Same. Have never spoken to a gril.

>>38514760
Fuck are you me!

>>38514719
I'm eyeball fucked by milfs and fat chicks, vaguely legal girls with daddy issues follow me around like lost puppies, and lesbians get grabby.

>>38514760

If this was written by a woman the whole board would be crying for your blood right now.

>>38517977
you're a faggot

>>38514719
>spend last 3 years lfting
>shit progress in all honesty, but you could see i was escaping dyel mode
>girls flirted with me, liked my body, commented on it, but that was it
>last year
>spend like 30 days in the gym ALL THE year
>eat shit food
>gain 20 kilos
>look like a skinnyfat in general
>managed to have sex with 3 women that year, several times

It was during med internship, I guess it had less to do with my body to the situation me and the women were in.
I guess, by the end of the day you dont find sex, sex finds you.

With a hot body youre more approachable though

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>>38514719
A lot of them think I'm gay. I blame epic bantz with my lifting partner that makes us seem like an old married couple. (Known each other for 15 years.)

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>>38514759
This
The difference in socializing with hot girls is nonexistent, but you get way more fat girls hitting on you.

It's fucking insulting. I imagine this is what hot girls feel like when they are hit on by sub 6 foot guys.

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>>38518258
>I imagine this is what hot girls feel like when they are hit on by sub 6 foot guys.
I never thought of it that way. It's no wonder women are grossed out by manlets lol

>>38518258
I have a 5'2" friend that fucks more 10/10s than you could possibly dream of lanklet. Wanna know why? His muscles actually look good.

>>38518386
haha no you don't. Seriously. No more Asians, When?

>tfw was ottermode in high school
>lived in the rural south but spoke neutral and dressed urban
>styled my hair instead of bieber bowl cuts like everyone else in the late 2000s
>started lifting
>had a few non sexual encounters with women
>literally every gay guy within a 100mi radius tried to get with me
>at graduation the girl of my dreams told me she always thought I was gay
I'm not gay just fuck off already. Just because I don't say y'all, hunt deer, wear camo and boots everyday, and am not fat does not mean I'm a homosexual.

>>38514719
2 months and 13 pounds in (145lb up from 132, at 5'10) and the uptick in female attention is noticeable. Girls at work going out their way to touch my arms. Girls at shops talking too much and givin me googly eyes. Can't wait to see what its like when I am not tiny.

Girlfriend is mostly just sick of me flexing at her and grunting all of the time.

>>38518386
>Wanna know why? His muscles actually look good.
doubt.jpg

>>38514760
happens to everyone. if youre <30 and can manage financial committments then run free

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>>38518158
fuck you

Up to 6/10s who are not fat but not fit take obvious interest in me, which is good enough for me.

P.S. the "it's 2016 all women are shit" stuff is a meme. You just gotta find yourself a nice ditz. At first it seems like having someone who is somewhat unintelligent is a bad thing, but in time their stupidity and cheerful unawareness can become quite endearing. They act as though their happiness is completely dependent on your approval, and their personalities, despite being ideal, are not very deep, making breakups rather painless if they do end up cheating or something like that.

>>38518158
women don't want to
>cook
>clean
>work
then get mad when all they have is pussy, fuck off

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>>38518222
t. DYEL cuck

>>38517977
That's some bright luck anon. Ball's in your court dude, make it happen! Good luck flimflam!

>>38517977
Probably won't see this, but if you do ask her out you faggot. It's overdue.

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>>38514719
i pull bad bitches now hbu

>>38514719
Sex life has rocked since lifting and losing weight. At this point its a constant battle to not fuck my grill. Thank you /fit/ for letting a fat ass fuck his grill right

also get the mirin from grill on campus and at the gym so thats good

>>38522003
Well no shit, but I should probably mention that her interest in me increased significantly since she saw that I look a bit better

Does this board do anything but talk about girls?

>>38523652

Only logical, mate. Imagine how stoked you'd be to see a chick you're into actively improving themselves. Get after it.

>>38522091
fuckin bradley that guy's something else

>>38514760
literally same. i'm only 20 tho. feel like im missing prime years.

>love life

top fuckin k e k m8y

not even fat, 5'9 155 lbs

>>38514760
I was this, except my relationship ended when i was 18 months into lifting. Now, 3 years into lifting and i can say that 3/4 of my hookups since have been because of lifting and the confidence that came with it, as >>38515972 stated

>>38523775
>same height but 20 pounds more than me
i really need to start lifting

>>38516158
So get back to it you lazy sack of shit

>>38515972
I agree.

For me, it wasn't getting muscles that made women want me more. It was the fact that I became confident and comfortable with myself, which is what really got me places.

>>38523681
The purpose of this board is to motivate us to better ourselves and achieve our goals. For many of us, that means girls. It's only the reasoning behind it thats different for us.

>>38518386
That friends name? Albert Einstein

>>38518143

This. Also doesn't help that I'm a fucking Manlet (5'10").

>>38523896
5'10" isn't even short you dumb faggot, there are plenty of girls your height or shorter. Quit making excuses and get out there

>>38519403
agreed. i've always found dumb girls attractive. i think it's because my mom is dumb.

Girls don't talk to me but look at me but they look away when I look at them

I tell myself that they do it because I'm that attractive but I know that I'm just ugly and the only thing that's even remotely attractive is my body so when I look at them they see my ugly stupid head and immediately know I'm compensating for the thing

>>38523976
Yup

I spend 90% of my life in my room and the other 10% at work so I don't really interact with women.

>>38514719

>join tinder
>go on alot of dates
>get mono
>can't lift for a month

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>>38524021
>join tinder
>fat chick
>fat chick
>fat chick
>fat chick

>uninstall

>>38514719
i stopped interacting with girls and i've never been happier

>>38517836
Story of my life here.

>>38524061
It largely depends on where you live. I get mostly asians here.

>>38524021
Alex why are you posting in this shit thread

>>38517975
This right here. I'm nice to people and they are nice back to me but I was a lardass for so long that I can no longer differentiate between nice and flirty.

>>38514719
I've lost 110lbs over the course of ~a year (290 to 180). Women still don't interact with me. I feel more confident in interacting with them. I can make eye and maintain eye contact, and hold conversations, but as of yet, I can't seem to make any progress. Feels p depressing.

>tfw going to be a virgin forever

>>38524085
>>38517836
Be honest. Is there a pretty obvious reason that that you guys are unfuckable?

>>38523932
youbwanna fuck your mom anon?

>>38524310
Not either of them but yes

>extremely weird looking ugly face (rated 3-4/10 on here and reddit)
>holocaust skinny
>have no friends because i have a weird personality
>no friends = rarely leave the house because no one to do anything with = isolation that breeds anger and misery and also no friends shows low social worth to any girl so i dont even bother

>>38524362
Well you can at least fix the skinny thing

>>38524310
Also neither of them. I don't seem to 'get' social cues as well as I should. My confidence could use some work, and I don't have a strong social network to get out and do stuff that often. Most people like me as a person, I can't seem to get over the hump into having someone like me romantically though.

>>38524362
>>no friends = rarely leave the house because no one to do anything with = isolation that breeds anger and misery and also no friends shows low social worth to any girl so i dont even bother

iktf bro

>>38524411
>>38524398
>no friends = girls wont want you

no, thats because you are either fat, artistic or ugly. maybe all of em.

i have 0 friends and never had a problem with girls.

>>38524453
can you explain please?

>>38524453
I mean I want to believe that, but "social worth" is a really big thing for girls because they get their self-esteem and value others from how others view them instead of it coming from within

Like on Tinder, if you don't have pictures with friends, you are seen as social poison and have no chance at a girl on there

The girls don't react negatively to you when they see you are always alone or your only friend is her and her friends?

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>>38518158
yes, and rightly so

>>38514719
I don't know really, because when I was an acne-ridden dyel skinnyfat I used to avoid looking at people, and I'd avoid them of possible. If I was walking somewhere and let's say 3 girls were standing talking, I'd walk around them.
Now I walk by them with my head up and try to make eye contact, but I don't know what to "look" for. I have no idea what's supposed to happen.

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>>38524483
>>38524462

ok.
example:
>get a date with qt on tinder
>get to talking
>asks if i go out much
>nope.jpeg
>why?
>no friends
>lol. why?
>just moved here, people are not very interesting here.

ended up making out with her that night.

>Would you still have liked me if I never lifted?
>Ummm...
>Well... Yeeeea...

Then it was over.

>>38514719
I was in a 2 year relationship when I first started lifting and making good gains.
I was returning to uni at 24 because I was depressed and unable to find work in my previous field which I didn't enjoy anyway. Additionally I had moved back home.
Eventually gf left me a few months into the semester leaving me single with newfound gains back at university.
Usually this sounds great right?
But I was so crushed I've been barely able to even flirt anymore. I've managed to make a bunch of friends but I can't flirt, I can't make small talk, I feel like I reek of someone whose been dumped even 1.5 years later and to top it all off I'm terrified of being hurt again or to feel like I'm not good enough for someone.

Shit sucks, I'm in the best physical shape I've ever been but for the past year I've experienced my worst recurrence of depression yet.

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>Am almost 20
>Had oneitis since start of higschool for this one chick
>She moved away so I had to forget about her ( I didn't)
>Depressed from 18-now
>New cute girl started working with me a month or 2 ago
>She's already leaving for another job
>Don't know how to ask her out

Fuck guys, I haven't felt this way in a while and don't know what to do

Saved my relationship
Improved every aspect of it

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>>38524653
>>She moved away so I had to forget about her ( I didn't)

Tfw can't forget about a oneitis girl either

>>38524614
and fucking her without a condom?

>>38524712
no, we had 2 more dates after
all that happened was some light petting on a park bech.

started liking this girl so i had to cht contact.

>>38518735
yo hold up

you're telling me you're not gay?

Yes. I am a manlett in my early 30s being chased by attractive 20 year olds.

I think more than anything if you feel good with yourself because of training you will show that talking to the opposite sex.

>>38524805
this

i started lifting just a month ago but the girl situation is already 10x better because i feel more confident

>>38524805
Im a 6'1'' guy in his late 20s and im curious about how fucking big you are exactly
The girl situation has gone downhill rapidly since i started lifting and now im struggling to even find a girl i can date so whats your secret?

I posted this in another thread but oh well
>Be me
>Lose 45lbs but still a bit overweight
>Lose braces
>Go to friends house
> Girl who's a friend from school drops by
>Friend goes to shower because he's weird
>Me and girl alone talking about old school days
>I smile and she notices I don't have braces
>She says I look really good and hottt
>Pretend to browse my phone and ignore that

Even a 6/7 wouldve been fine but not a 3 ffs

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>>38523720
Absolutely getting after that. Hopefully she isn't too turned off by my still fat torso. I wonder how much body fat women are willing to put up with in a man

>>38514719

>Used to be scared of girls
>Less scared now, they approach me sometimes
>Can hook up with most girls I want to if I can pretend to be smooth for long enough
>Made some autist sperg out on the weekend when I picked up the girl he had been poorly hitting on all night
>I guess I'm almost Chad now?

Life is breddy gud mane

>>38524483

Nigga what.
I have 400 matches on Tinder and all my photos are me by myself.

>>38524678
This. It's changes the game

>>38525030
Really? it ended my relationship
Gf left me for another guy and dating has gone down the shitter

not him. But it's not how big you are, it's how toned you are. Stop listening to memes that tell you mass is what you should be shooting for.

>>38524975
I don't even.

Dude, if half of what you said is true, and not just perspective, she's into you. You worked on yourself, and someone's noticed. Luckily for you, it's a qt that you seem to maybe be interested in. If you're not, then don't fuck around with her. it's not fair to her, nor is it for you, considering how much you seem to be worrying over this.

Just. Ask. Her. Out.

Just keep it casual, and preferably when you know of something you both might have fun or interest in. Hell, even if it's just to get something to eat after class or something.

Fuck, wish I had that luck or even the chance at that interaction when I went to class.

And if she has been increasingly been more interactive and interested in you, both physically, and maybe personality-wise, I think you have a chance. I doubt your torso fat is putting off 100%. Even then, post pics if you're that insecure and we can rate you to the ground.

>>38524061
>>38524090
For me, I've gotten bots. And it's even for ones that I thought were a 6-7.

>>38518735
Well, being metro gets easily mistaken for being gay. Especially if you're in a rural area.

>>38524061
i just left swipe the fat girls.
i get a couple matches every few days but im relatively picky about who i right swipe. no fat girls and no girls that look like basic white bitches, so like 80% of tinder.
i really just do it to waste time now anyways since i have it set for 100 mile radius its not exactly practical to meet most of my matches anyways. occasionally i strike up a conversation and keep it going for a while but none of them are ever particularly interesting and the conversations usually feel forced.