Help me/fit/ I come across as an asshole and I want to change

Pic is me

>>38019383
Just don't be an asshole.

>>38019383
You look like an asshole.

>>38019415
this
you're probably also autistic OP and thus have no conception of social norms and therefore treat people like shit without realizing it

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>social anxiety
>go into fight mode in social situations
>come across as a dick

I think you could just smile or something

>>38019383
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get a haircut, lose the piercing, dress a bit less casual maybe. I don't care about it, but other people do.
that or stop caring about what people think

You are an asshole

>>38019434
Thanks! How do I fix this?
I don't think I'm autistic but I'm def still overcoming highschool insecurities

>>38019440
>meme """""""""illness"""""""""
Drink bleach or stop making excuses for yourself. Either option is a vast improvement on your current state

>>38019479
I feel strong anxiety and panic in social situations, I don't know how that's a meme "Illness" chad.

>>38019479
I'm trying to figure out what's wrong with me so I can improve. I'm trying to add direction to my efforts. In writing this I found myself making an excuse - thank you for making me aware of it

>>38019492
It's not a meme, just human instinct that doesn't help anymore.

>>38019383
You don't look strong

>>38019492
Its a pissant weak excuse. Literally the social version of MUH PCOS or MUH GENETICS.

You're using your meme bullshit to justify staying in your comfy little safe space. Stop being a faggot accept that you're going to look like an idiot and that doesn't mean you'll spontaneously combust. Everyone looks like an idiot quite regularly. No one cares.

Stop being weak.

>>38019600
I talk to strangers, attend courses and clubs and all that other shit all the time faggot.

>>38019383
1v1 me at eaton centre

>Treat people like shit
>But help them sometimes
>People think I'm quirky and funny when I call them retards for not being able to do something and then help them with it
It's alright

You look like a cool bro, would befriend and lift with. Sounds like they're just a bunch of softies, desu, I've been told something similar as you have numerous times, just let em figure out you're a good dude in time... if they can't see the real you then forget em, their loss

>>38019706
This. I want them to see the real me off the start and I'm trying to figure out how to show it. I'm not blaming them for being softies

>>38019631
Totally would but I've got life to live. No point getting wrecked so I can't lift

>>38019468
Thanks!

>>38019467
I know it's not because of how I dress. I don't care as much as I did before about what people think, I'm just trying to improve. If it were one person saying it then I'd give no fucks but I've heard it a lot. We're all trying to improve

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you need to change increase your virtues and think more charitably about everything.

>>38019800
If I can do this I WILL BECOME HE MAN

>>38019746
Maybe when first learnin about people or asking about interests, try to express your interest in a not-so-masculine topic or hobby? Not too sure... its not easy getting people to drop their guard around you when you're obviously bigger, stronger etc than they are

>>38019835
*I can and will do this

>>38019383

Don't change.

Be who you are. If others dont like it fuck them.

>>38019383
It can be from a lot of things: posture, the way you dress, even the nuances like your normal speaking tone and the language you use. Just go out of your way to socialize and help others, and really examine and reflect on your everyday actions.

I really don't know any other way.

>>38019858
People change. People are constantly changing. I want to change for the better

>>38019882
Thank you, this is solid advice. I'll give it a shot. I'm looking at giving meditation and daily reflection a try. Do you have experience with it?

>>38019962

How in anyway would it make you better to pretend to be someone you are not in hopes to make friends?

Kind of makes seem insecure and childish my friend.

What's your height and weight, OP?

Are you a big guy?

>>38019467
>dress a bit less casual
Why the fuck would you not dress casual if you don't have any business meetings or parties? There's nothing wrong with how he dresses.

>>38019383
I'm guessing you have resting bitch face. You don't look intimidating in the picture so I'm guessing you just need to smile more. And get a haircut ya damn hippie

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>>38019835
>>38019848

I donno if you're OP or just some other fitizen reading this thread but either way, I just want to impart something on you.

Try to be a man who protects and loves all women. who would never use take advantage of them. one who hates to see them on the streets, hates to see them being used or abused, hates to see them sad or hungry.

Treat every woman like she's your mother. Become someone whom they know will always respect and protect them.

>>38019973
Pretending is different. I want to improve who I am. You're on /fit/ for the same reason

>>38019994
180lbs
6'3
Lean

>>38019999
I know I need to smile more, I'm working on it. Same goes for all you fuckers out there!! I'll keep my hair a little longer
>checked

>>38020049
Both me. Good advice. Thank you

>>38019383
Shave your eyebrows. It sounds crazy but it really works!

>>38020258
Hahahahaha I'll need a really good reason to!! How come?

You certainly don't look intimidating to me. Are you 6'5+ or something?

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>>38020274
>>38019994
180
6'3

>>38020341
lol ok skeltor

>>38020341
cut the hair
looks too punk-ish

Smile more
Ask questions

>>38020341
>tfw 170 lbs
>tfw look 4 times bigger than you
LANKLETS BTFO
MANLET PRIDE WORLD WIDE

>>38020341
>implying anyone is intimidated by that

More likely you just bertstare everyone so they think you're mad

>>38019383
1.There is nothing wrong with you
2.You are actually good looking
3.Others might simply be intimidated by your good looks (refer to other anons post about not caring what people think)
4.You're too good to be on 4chan

>>38020361
Aiming for 190 by next year. Thanking the gods for lean genetics

>>38020364
Punk's not dead. I doubt a haircut will help because I had this problem with short hair.

>>38020341
Just become a youtube personality/male model
Why are you worried about your looks you are a 7/10

>>38020341
>6'3

There's your problem OP. Being tall is a blessing and a curse

>>38020405
Punk is dead, get it cut. Cut it into an undercut and you will look pretty good.

>>38020079

My body but I will never change my personality to satisfy others.

People tell me I come off as cold and mean.

I'm not gonna go around pretending to laugh and smile to satisfy them.

>>38020386
170lbs short is a lot more impressive than 180lbs tall. I'll make it though. Up 15lbs from last summer.

>>38020394
I'm very happy. Probs just resting bitch face

>>38020395
Thanks bro. I'm here mostly for the /fit/ humor. Got hooked about two years ago and haven't been able to kick it. I'm here a lot less now.

>>38020406
I'm not worried about my looks. Neither interest me right now but it's a possibility down the road

>>38020430
Punk is very dead - I know lol. I'm considering a haircut soon anyways. Undercut is looking good

>>38020428
It's more than height

>>38020433
I'm not changing myself to satisfy others. I'm changing myself for myself so I can have more fun. I'm not pretending to apease others. Honest question: is everything okay bro?

if you want to appear friendlier just smile and look people in the eye more

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where do you lift? i need to find a cheap gym senpai

>>38020536
Home gym is a blessing. Sick city but I'm north of it

>>38019383
is this nathan phillips square?

U kno they're getting rid of those letters, right?

>>38020557
what do you have? i've been looking through kijiji for cheap basic equipment as well but it's pretty expensive shit