have any of you overcome your autism through lifting? how do

f-fuck

>how do i get rid of my social anxiety?

alcohol

Talk to people 1xF

If you get used to rejection, life is much easier to deal with. Try a few small things that you know you'll get rejected for, and deal with the feelings as they come. Eventually things will get easier.

>>37687014
this is only a temporary solution

>>37687051
i feel the effects are permanent though. just less fucks given in general.

>>37686830
Make a gym buddy on craiglist or something.
Make a gym buddy meet-up thread and hope someone here goes to your gym.

Slowly realize that no one cares, and will forget about you in mere seconds.

no, but it may help with confidence. Just lifting weights wont cure you of social anxiety. You have to force yourself to socialize with people everyday.

>>37687064
i have some friends, but only a few. i'm not a complete autist, but i'm get very self conscious in public settings and experience a lot of resistance when it comes to talking to people of my age that i don't know, especially girls

>>37687135
Probably not autism if its solved by lifting. Just mild social anxiety which is very normal. Good news is that large tight knit groups of friends are myth. Most people only have a handful of true "friends" and rarely are they all apart of the same clique. It makes for messy relationships with all the gossip and so forth. These friend structures have been made famous by television because they make for neat plots but are by no means normal. Most people find a significant other and spend the majority of their time with them. Finding one of those isn't hard either look for them at places you regularly visit and spark up a conversation about shared interests if they're into it they'll smile make eye contact or maintain the convo. If you get two out three of this combo you're gold go ahead and ask politely to meet up for something minor and go from there. If you don't get two out of those three take the hint and move on

Stimulants or anti-depressants can help. I talk all the fucking time with everyone now that I'm on cymbalta and an anti-epileptic, while before I hardly ever talked to anyone. Gonna visit some old friends from high school I haven't seen in years and shit. Also, easily make small talk with cashiers and waitresses now.

>>37687373
i've been on prozac for depression and generalized anxiety for a year and haven't noticed much of a difference

>>37687321
the emphasis for me isn't really on making new friends, though that would be nice. it's more about feeling confident in social situations. like feeling like i can go to a party or on a date without experiencing a lot of stress and anxiety that usually lead to avoidance

>>37687435
It's kinda like jumping into a really cold pool at first there's a shock but if conditions are right it'll get comfy. If they aren't hope out dry off and try again another day. Relationships are tough for everyone you're not alone.

>>37687468
yeah i've tried to be more social in the past, but i don't think i've been persistent enough. though i feel like part of why i'm so anxious and self-conscious in social situations is because i don't like myself. i feel like my self-confidence and social confidence must be related.

have any of you gone from disliking yourself to liking yourself?

>>37687417
Probably should be trying something else then or make some mental gains. Took me over a year to find a combination of medication that worked for me. Takes a month for shit to kick in and what works on one dose works entirely differently on a different dose. Prozac and related (SSRI type anti-depressants) has one of the lowest rates of efficacy as well, but the least amount of adverse side-affects, so they always try that first.

>>37687508
I waffle between loathe and love several times a day, but if you are truly self loathing for reasons you know aren't right you may want to seek some counciling or confide in another person you trust.

>>37686830
Yes because with lifting came the general sense of self improvement for me. I'm an diagnosed autist but im not stupid so I came to realize I can improve anything I want including social skills as long as i try, fail and learn. You just have to throw yourself in the deep.

ive spent 5 years working a job that involves constant interaction with colleagues all day, i cant just retreat to a cubicle and not interact with people, im at a table with them all day

if my social anxiety used to be 8/10 it's now 6/10

still there, still an issue

"exposure therapy" only slightly helped, in my case, and 5 years is a long time

>>37687435
just sounds like really low self esteem, thats what i have

i have no confidence because i dont believe i have any reasons to be confident, i have nothing to "back up" the confidence id be showing

being a loser with a minimum wage job - its difficult to be confident because i have nothing to be confident about

>>37686830
"FAKE IT TIL YOU MAKE IT"
Watch the TEDx talk about body language

>>37687509
>make some mental gains
what do you mean by this

>>37687718
there are a lot of people who are more confident than they "should be" though.

but i know what you mean. so you think just becoming good at something would make me less socially anxious?

>>37686830
Alcohol, weed, ted talks

>If I do x will it cure y

no it wont you fucking tool, if you want to get rid of social anxiety you have to SOCIALZE

WOW AMAZING SO COMPLICATED

>>37687875
>Alcohol, weed
i want to feel socially confident while being sober though

>>37686830
If you are good looking not many things in social settings will make you look like a fool. If you are ugly be funny but not rude. If you are fat and ugly kill yourself

>>37687893
hurr if you want to become a better football player don't lift only play football durr

>>37687937

hurrrrr will baking cakes make me a better football player

>>37687955
no, because it's completely unrelated to football. general confidence and social confidence are related though

>>37687766
this ted talk is a literal meme. Next up you're probably going to say we should read Carnegie's 'how to make friends & influence people' or 'Meditations' by M. Aurelius?

why is it that when i hear people laughing i assume they're laughing about me? i wasn't even really bullied as a child

>>37688188
Whatever works for you buddy
Read "How to Make Friends and Influence People"

>>37688215
you don't seem to understand my comment

when i work out and my body is pumped up i feel like hercules ... and no more anxiety :)

>>37687031
this

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>be socially anxious
>lift, get big
>be muscular and socially anxious

Going to counselling has been helping me, still a huge way to go though. For short term results: liquor

>>37688297
you aren't any more confident than you were before getting big?

>>37688241
Doesn't matter.
OP. just talk to people

>>37688304
I am, but only around certain people, and I always still feel slightly awkward unless I have a couple drinks

>>37688304
It's surprising how much people will forgive you if you look joocy

just stop giving a fuck, if you say something stupid laugh at yourself, if you really do something stupid you'll at least have a funny story that's how I got over it, most people wont even care if youre a little awkward everyone is at some point

>>37689125
>just stop giving a fuck
if only it were this simple

>>37689234

it actually is

I'm a 31 year old sperg, no friends, sucky anxiety.. prozac helped me get rid of the anxiety to some extent..gym is good for keeping the depression back

>>37689392
this is honestly why she made these fucking stupid videos:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=znLmhdx0STc

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i used to be depressed. i was the standard anon and my life was, no gf, kissless virgin work, 4chan, eat, sleep, repeat. the only thing stopping me from driving off a mountain cliff was this shithole of a place... then somehow i managed to find a gf (aka fat fuck). went well but lost my head and she broke my heart. went back to being depressed, contemplated suicide until one day i started to see she was actually a manipulative bitch so i said to myself fuck it. fuck everything and everyone around me, i'm not giving any fucks anymore, i'm doing what i want. i just stopped feeling depressed. it was as simple AND difficult as that. i started to go out and didn't care whether i was alone or with someone i just went out and got fucked regularly because i gave no shits and i kept telling myself that. just keep repeating to yourself "fuck it!" if you think it will be fun? fuck it! do it! if something goes wrong? just deal with it and move on! if you think you look like a total retard you might but who gives a fuck if you don't give a fuck about it!? fuck it. when i started lifting i was afraid i was doing everything wrong and i'd end up on youtube as just another dyel fail but i just said fuck it! we all had to start somewhere and i am sure the biggest toughest dude in your gym has made countless fuck ups but you just weren't there to see them.

td;lr just fuck it!

>>37689392

/b/ used to be a really fucked up board
nowadays is filled with edgy wannabees
i swear /fit/ is the board with the most fucked up ppl

Just lift, get rid of your insecurities AND socialize, go out, ask girls, etc.

Most people tend to think that lifting solves everything by itself.

>>37686830
>start lifting, eating well and doing other sports
>testosterone levels normalize
>depression levels decrease
>outlook on life increases
>instead of becoming more social, become more self assured of myself, more aggressive and hostile towards the failing, fat, and dumb normies
>start to openly mock them
>they dont like it and cower from you if they dont know you, or just listen to you sometimes if they are familiar with you and you warned them of how you are
>look at the normies around you, all the dumb smiling faces enjoying trivial things, hollow culture and simple pleasures
>you can never be like them as the only thing that could give you pleasure would be a race war

neat

>>37686830
>how do i get rid of my social anxiety?
Start taking N-Acetyl-Tyrosine daily.

>>37688188
Some memes exist because they work. Make friends and influence people is a great book, and though I prefer the Enchiridion, Meditations works. Start actually trying shit instead of moping about memes

>>37691813
>and though I prefer the Enchiridion, Meditations works
stoicism a shit

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>>37686830
Realize everybody was as shallow as you suspected and you fit the ideal now.

Don't over think it

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>>37692365
Hahaha, this. Had severe social anxiety cured by anti depressants, viagra and steroids. Still autistic, however.

But the shallow thing was true.

>>37687051
it basicly does what meds would do, you get used to not give a fuck,

>>37686830
I feel like gong to the gym has made my anxiety worse. The panic i feel walking in not knowing if i should say hello to the guy at reception or not and i go early in the morning so i see the same ten people every day and sometimes they want to talk to me and i don't know what to say and then i have to walk past the guy at reception again and wonder if i should say goodbye.

Realize that most people couldn't really care less if you live or die. I noticed people with severe social anxiety seem to think they're the center or everyone's attention. Nah. Most people are fairly self centered. I went on a long ass walk today and I can't remember a single person I passed and I doubt any of them remember me either.

You're a blip on the radar in most people's lives, don't worry so much.

>>37693378
>>37693378
except i remember other people, especially if they do something awkward, or i see them multiple times

>>37693415
They're still a blip for the most part. I might look over and think "oh that's shitty form" but then I'm back in my own head. I don't sit and ruminate on their shitty form for the next 6 months.

>>37692750
it does nothing for me