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>tfw my con crush got married

Was my cosplay not good enough for him?

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Let me just get one thing out of the way.

It is NEVER. OKAY. to fart at a tea party. Take it outside.

And no, not even if you think you can do it quietly. In fact, those smell the worst! This is a space for cute girls to be cute, and nobody wants to smell your butthole!

I'm actually getting fucking mad writing this, because I went to a meetup last week and somebody dropped a butt bomb right behind me. And you bet your petti that I got stares. Lolitas don't put all this effort into being pretty so you can pin your rancid winds on them.

Jesus fucking christ, my eyes are actually misting up a little, just remembering this. Whoever farted on me, I hope it was fucking worth it, you nasty cunt. Was it that hard to take it outside? Or shove your pimply ass out the window before you blast shit air all over a room full of pretty girls? Or hell, maybe you could have just shoved a cork up that unwashed hole of yours before it ruined the comm??!

If you're even reading this, you know what it's like to spend hundreds of hard-earned dollars on dresses and stuff, right? It's a lot of effort to look cute. So you can imagine how disrespected I feel when I put on my full coord, drive two hours to a party, and be on my best behavior while I sip tea, only to have some fifth-rate ita shoot a rancid tornado out of her ass.

This was four days ago and I'm still fucking pissed. I thought I was over it, but no. Every time I forget, the anger comes back stronger! If you can't control your ass for an hour, stay the fuck out of my lolita!

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>>9118181
>being this butthurt over a fart.

>>9118181
This just sounds like you farted and are trying to shift the blame.

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>>9118174
I've been planning to go to AWA this year, but it falls just before the one-year anniversary of my con crush's death. AWA 2015 was the last time I saw her. I can't believe it's been a year. I still think about her almost every day.

>>9118181
I'll admit, this post cheered me up a little.

>>9118181
new copypasta?

My friend doesn't want to cosplay ever since he lost three toes. He said he feels ugly now.

I was like, dude, just wear a costume with shoes. Or get some fake toes, whatever.

MY COSPLAY IS GOING TO BE FINISHED NOT THE DAY OF THE CON NOR THE MORNING OF THE CON NOR THE NIGHT BEFORE THE CON BUT A FULL FUCKING WEEK AHEAD. I am so proud of myself for not procrastinating. Having cosplay friends does help.

>>9118357
That's amazing anon! I hope you keep the trend up for your next costume, and the one after that!

Unfortunately, last time I finished early I just wanted to redo everything. It drove me crazy.

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>>9118181
you should write, anon

Sometimes I wear my lolita wig to the mall, just so I can feel like somebody else for a few hours.

>>9118181
Getting a slight Patrick Bateman vibe here. Or at least the deranged sorority girl. Either way, if you were in my comm I'd toot on you.

>"well-liked" in college
>date a girl for a few years
>we break up
>getting no play from anyone

Can someone who knows how dating works explain this to me I feel like a leper

>heat wave
>no energy to work on projects
>AC helps me not feel miserable, but the loud, rumbling drone induces a headache

is it October yet

>>9118181
This specific topic (farting at a tea) comes up now and then so I think there is one lurker in the global comm that is literally obsessed with this or has a phobia about it and puts a secret on BTB or a post here about it whenever they think they can get away with it.
The Fart Fetish Friller strikes again.

I need to start working out again and to organize my Lolita closet but I'm lacking any motivation.
Feels bad, man.
Any words of wisdom for me, gulls?

>>9118494
well I don't blame them for being scared, it's a p terrifying idea. and anime cons (where most lolita shit goes down) are stinky places already.

what is BTB?

>>9118497
Behind the Bows on LiveJournal, the lolita secrets group.

>>9118495
Do you have any music that puts you in a "lolita mood"? When I can't find the motivation to organise my closet or put new coords together I put on some Kokusyoku Sumire or Malice Mizer.

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>post a cosplay pic
>friend's dad (who I've never spoken to) says "Looks like some cougar's boy toy!"

Wtf.

This girl from my comm... Ugh. If youre 30 but act like youre 12, something is wrong with you. If you feel like drama just "follows you around", it's possible that what is wrong in this situation is YOU.

>>9118559
Turn lemons into lemonade and get a sugar momma. Endless cash for cosplay, most enthusiastic blowjobs you will ever receive.

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>>9118181

Totally saved.


What up with lolitas being so gassy though? Or are some anons here just butthurt, when it comes to anal breezes?

>>9118181
I love you anon, this post made my day so much better.

>tfw lolcow is allowed on 4chan through this board

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>tfw off-and-on friend has been banging on about X character for years
>wants to cosplay her but never has done jackshit or even looked for plus size/custom size costume
>find listing on Taobao that goes up to XXL and custom
>it's only $25
>I like X character too
>bookmark to buy for myself later
It's going to be a shitstorm when she see photos but I'm almost looking forward to it.

also

>try not to cosplay hype stuff unless I love it
>don't really want be 248th of character walking around a con
>PokeGo gym leaders revealed
>is Team Instinct
>sees Spark
>oh no

At least I'm held back by the knowledge that I'd have to slim down my thighs to look good in pleather/leather pants but damn I really want to cosplay him.

>>9118481
This isn't /cgl/ related.

I wish I was dead a lot

Like, I don't wanna scare anyone but I'm actually seriously considering killing myself. (I probably won't follow through though)

>>9118711
do it faggot
have fun with your (You)

>>9118753
cheers man, thanks for the encouragement

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>Bf follows tons of cosplay porn accounts
>Most if not all are ugly faced chubby white girls
>This is the only reason he likes me
>This is why I hate cosplaying now

>>9118696
>>9118711
No don't doit!

>>9118181
Teehee. :')

>>9118793

>dating you for a fetish
>not exbf yet
>download selfrespect.zip

>>9118793
lose weight and learn better makeup then
dump his ass

>next cosplay involves shorts
>have wide hips but sort of flat butt
>trying to do squats and lunges to get the booty and firm thighs before cosplay
>also working on losing weight
>booty is not getting any better
>if anything, booty is worse because weight loss
>losing fat from butt more than from abdomen

I just want to be a woman that Sir Mixalot can sing about. Life is cruel.

>>9118910
>cosplay involves shorts
>try 'em on
>cameltoe for days

Oh shit. And it's not even something a pantiliner can help. It's like the toe is just sewn into the shorts.

>>9118917
I've had that happen. It's tragic when they're built that way.

>>9118924
All the pubic hair in the world can't save me now.

Okay, so I bought a dress last month and after a long time of hearing absolutely nothing and the tracking code not updating, I called USPS to have it tracked - apparently the dress is just sitting in the country I bought it from (Malaysia) with no shipping date or anything. It's been sitting there since the 19th.

I have no idea what to do. I contacted the seller and they say that they refuse to do returns, but the dress isn't even in my country? What should I do?

>>9118910
add in pads for your butt, just like what's inside bras

>>9118978
Contact the seller to get them to contact the post office to resolve the issue. If that doesn't work, file a claim with Paypal or your credit card or whatever you paid with.

>>9118981
There's an idea, but I'll save it as a last resort.

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>con this weekend
>got two costumes to wear
>one is a rewear that makes me look 10/10, legs for days, and I really suit the character
>other one is new and I've put a fair bit of effort into it but it's not as flattering and I don't suit the character as well, plus it's a character that's way overdone by attention whores who haven't even read/played the source material
>want to drop the new one even though I worked hard on it and just wear jfash that day instead
>even though I know I'd regret laming out and not cosplaying

>>9119036
>>other one is new and I've put a fair bit of effort into it but it's not as flattering and I don't suit the character as well, plus it's a character that's way overdone by attention whores who haven't even read/played the source material
Junko?

>>9119043
Nah, not quite that bad. Jolyne from JJBA. A lot of anime-only bandwagoners cosplay her because OMG MUH FEMALE JOJO, without having actually read her part of the manga or knowing anything about the character. I was meant to have a Foo Fighters to hang out and take photos with so I was really hyped, but it doesn't look like that'll happen now.

>>9118917
Vagina pouch! Lol, I hate it.

>>9118651
It's just the taboo of lolitas doing undignified things while in lolita. I personally don't think you should drop a rose at a tea party, but I wouldn't get mad if someone pooted by accident. It happens to all of us.

>dingdong it's the mailman with taobao order
>don't have time to open it because i'm rushing to a friend's house
>she wants to buy my blouse
>but we talk a bit and she tells me she doesn't want that one cutsew OP she has anymore
>I fucking love that cutsew OP and ask her for how much would she be willing to let it go
>"nah anon y'know what let's swap this op for your blouse"
>overjoyed and say "are you serious?"
>"yeah white doesn't look good on me"
And this is how i got a BTSSB cutsew OP for 32$ (the blouse costed me around 32 bucks)

>>9119118
and also got a cute taobao order to unwrap once i was home.
Blissful happiness.

>>9118917
Get a Cuchini or a Camel ~ Not (etsy)

>had online argument recently with a cosplayer who also has a ton of social media accounts to get views about quality vs quantity, actually likin the show ect
>noticed she's been posted in the bad/cringe cosplayer threads a lot
>she Unfriended me on Facebook
>tfw she thinks it's me when I literally couldn't care less about her existence and wouldn't want to save her half ass, satin cosplays to my computer or phone.

Inb4 u cared enough to post this/noticed she Unfriended you

>>9119241
u cared enough to post this/noticed she Unfriended you

>>9118360
Shit, I was like "pfft, good thing there's not enough time for me to worry and want to redo anything" but now I want to make a new prop. Anon, help.

>>9119386
Cool feels post, retard

I'm going to jail for a bit and will get out just in time for Dragoncon.

I'm afraid prison will have changed me and I won't enjoy the con.

>>9119460
What for?

>>9119455
It is feels, I'm tired of how whiny western misandrists are.

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>been planning on going to a big con since last year
>bought my badge, paid my portion of hotel, got cosplays finished, etc.
>was going to buy a train ticket (don't like driving long distances alone) but mom was against it
>"we'll just drive you".
>okay.jpg
>my car starts fucking up
>it's a pretty easy fix but now mom's unsure about the whole thing
>"why don't you just leave saturday night?"
>tfw I only get to see my close friends once a year at this con
>tfw I'm already frustrated enough with other real life nonsense and need a break
>tfw this is my last con before classes start up again and I'm back to working my ass off
>tfw I was going to take a train in the first place and bypass all this shit

I know it's not much but, damn, do I get sick of having to compromise so much for everyone else. I barely go out because I'm too worried about helping out around the house with bills and the thing that I've been looking forward to for basically a year now is probably going to be ruined.

>Finally cut ties with friend who I've been slowly starting to hate because of their clinginess, obnoxious behavior and mood swings from BPD

It's such a huge weight off of my chest, I wish I didn't drag this out for months though. I'm not the first one to end it with them either.

>>9119538
Con-related note, I don't have to worry about them trying to go to the same cons as me and constantly inviting me on FB.

>>9119464
Violating probation from previous burglary charge. I used to be a homeless criminal until a dude took me in.

>>9119542
I never imagined that homeless criminals and cosplay weebs would have overlap.

>mum passed away recently
>saw her once in three years this April after I found out she was sick
>feeling guilty because I'm not as 'sad' as I should be because I feel like I've already grieved for her
>been left to pay off some of the funeral bill so getting less money
>mum left me nothing but old make up and a box of tampons
>dad's screwed me over again but I just want him to be there for me for once in my life
>grans not sleeping very well and I feel like I'll have no one soon
>got a 7 year old sister to think about who's had a shitty life as it is
>feel like I have no one to talk to because I'm so bad at expressing myself
>feel like everyone has this 'get on with it' attitude towards me
>feel myself turning bitter because I'm always the one to listen to everyone else's shitty problems
>I feel like a robot who literally won't allow myself to feel pain

I know this will probably be ignored because I'm in a bubble where no sound can get out but it can get in, I have no other means to express myself so for anyone out there I just want you to know I'm sinking...

>>9119647
My condolences, anon

>>9119663
Thank you.

>>9119647
I am sorry anon i hope things will get better for you. Please take care of yourself. You are never truly alone, love.

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>>9119647
Dude no that's terrible my condolences anon.
I know it won't particularly help, but people grieve differently. Some shut out emotions, some are a ball of emotions, some laugh about the good times; but the most important thing is you're making it one day at a time.
And people with a 'get over it' attitude towards you are also people you need to ditch ASAP. No one needs that kind of negativity in their life. You deserve so much better.

Adding to the feels tomorrow is my birthday and I finally get my gift (pic related). Part of me is bummed because there is no surprise involved (gift giver had no clue how to order anything lolita related so we figured it was safer if I walked through all the ordering) but I fell absolutely in love with this when it was announced.
>inb4 shit taste

>>9119647
This might sound harsh, but people will be there for your younger sister. She's little and has no shortage of support, worry about yourself and what you need. This will apply a lot if you feel like you need to get the hell out of dodge. Take care of yourself anon, i really hope you find a good friend who can be a strong support

>>9119680
>>9119683
Thank you for taking the time to reply to me. Also, is that dress Meta? It's very lovely and happy birthday.

>>9119647
I think you should look into getting professional help. It's ok to need to seek out help, it's not ok to feel like you're drowning and no one can hear you.

>>9119690
It's Victorian Maiden. I am always a slut for Victorian Maiden, Thank you!

I really do hope things start looking up a bit for you. Try to put yourself first.

Everything my gf cosplays as does not fit her body type. I tell her that she's getting too chunky, but she doesn't fucking listen. I look better than her in cosplay, at this point.
170 lbs at 5'6 is ridiculous. Getting close to dropping her, but it hurts.

>>9119716
In crossplay* I meant.

>>9118694
It had to come out ;_;

Depressed. Been working on a really labor intense costume for a con at the end of the summer but after doing a test run I am worried it just isnt the proper costume for a summer con. The costume it self has a layer of linen and then body armor i made of vinyl and I just start sweating like crazy when I wear it. When I took it off there were some sweat marks I could see and now I am paranoid if I wore this outfit to the con I will just sweat too much and it might show. I worked so hard on this that not being able to wear it really sucks. I know I can just wait until the winter but I am still just so disappointed.

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I'm going to wear J-fash in public for the first time tomorrow. Where should I go? The mall? A movie? Steak N Shake?

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It really made my day to find another good anime representing a lolita character.
The last one was Rinko Ogasawara fron ShiroBako. This show is a little more soft yuri vibe, but her cubical area looks like our room thread inspo.
Anyone else like some anime lolitas?

>>9119828

Steak & Shake kicks ass.

>>9119829
What an ita though

>>9119716
>directly telling a girl she's getting "too chunky"
>expecting her to do anything but get even fatter to spite you

It's like you've never even talked to a girl.

>>9119829
Very costume-like but a little charming still. Does she go yandere later in the series and terrorize everyone? That might be good.

>>9119891
for anime standards of representing lolita i think it's quite good.

>>9119716
You'll be doing her a big favor in the long run to drop her. She probably deserves much better than a bitchy, judgmental, cross-dressing partner.

>>9119905
>implying crossdressing is bad

Got cold-shoulder dumped by a guy I've been seeing for six months last night and went on a drunk shopping spree. My only consolation is that drunk and heartbroken me had the good sense to buy a JSK's worth of brand socks instead of yet another JSK.

It really sucks too because he was one of the few people irl I could talk about lolita with.

>>9119538
>>9119540
No, all you have to worry about now is them spending all con every con talking shit about you and spreading rumours, to the extent that multiple people cone up to you over the weekend like 'hey, aren't you that person who [XYZ]?'

Have fun, anon. You're going to have soooooo much fun.

>>9119990
Oh yeah, and they might also try to steal your entire personality, style, hobbies etc, and then once they've done that, start telling your friends in those hobbies that you sexually abused them.

You are in for a rough ride friendo, don't be afraid to call the police or look into a restraining order if things get too bad. And DO NOT EVER HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH THEM FROM THIS POINT ON WITHOUT RECORDING IT. They will lie about anything and everything in order to make you look bad, so if you have an opportunity to prove what was actually said, grab that shit with both hands.

>>9119905
>pointing out that someone is medically obese is being judgemental
Is that you, Ann? Please get on a treadmill, already. I didn't get in shape to have a fat cow.

>>9119905
Are you seriously blaming him for not wanting his partner to turn into a cow?

>>9119905
this! i'm an overweight virgin male and the reason why I can't get a gf is because women are being too judgmental when it comes to my weight. my mantits are perfectly fine. where have all the good women gone?

I'm sorry this is going to be cgl related only a bit but I feel like I'm coming to a breaking point soon.

I already whined few threads ago how trying to forget my abusive ex was taking all my energy so I couldn't enjoy lolita properly anymore. What I left out was that he is still after months from break up driving past my house and creeping on me. When we broke up he was clingy, said he would forever kiss me, hug me and hold my hand and even asked of we could still fuck: noone would have to know. He was addicted to me, followed me everywhere and was jealous and sometimes in the end even scary. This is shortly why I'm freaking out of this behaviour. Bonus is I live outside of small village and he has absolutely no reason to drive past my house, he will only break his car. A week ago when I was in the grocery store in evening, he happened to see me driving to the parking lot and he pulled accross the road. He probably thought I didn't know he had a new car and stated there, car running, no one got out or anything, doing nothing until I left. He left immediately when I left. I was so creeped out and since then I'm just wating the next thing he is about to do. I feel so uncomfortable to leave my house. Fortunately, I'm happy to live with my not so little brother and my boyfriend have been staying with me but I'm afraid I will go crazy from this shit. I'm moving out in about year atleast and my family is moving too, maybe even before that. I have started to consider going under the radar by deleting my instagram and maybe remove my picture and stuff from facebook. I feel so sad I have to do this but I can't go to police to solve this since this is not actually something that proves anything and I'm afraid what will happen. If I just knew what is going on in his head but better be safe than sorry.

>>9120072
Report it to the police anyway. That way they have a record of your complaint.against him. Next time you see his car, take a photo that shows the number plate, or get your brother or boyfriend to do so. Start building the evidence for a restraining order. He's stalking you and the earlier you report that the better.

>1 out of 6 costumes made
>leave for con in 1 week
>also make cosplay props for a living
>friend finally paid for $300 commission ($200 discount so it's a big order)
>feel pressured to complete order before con
>still need to make other props to sell
>start stress eating
>going to gain back the 3lbs i recently lost

fuuuck

my parents never loved me & are trying to throw me out of the house. I got nowhere to go because I live in the middle of nowhere.

>>9120055
No, I'm blaming him for being shallow and judgemental towards someone he is supposed to love and support. If he isn't helping her, he's no good.

>>9119516
Book your train tickets and just enjoy yourself, anon.

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Some obese dude in my town tried to kill himself by hiding under a car at McDonald's. He survived because the driver saw his feet. He was in charge of running the only anime con within driving distance, and now it's being cancelled.

To give you an idea of how small our town is, that McDonald's is the only McDonald's.

>>9119829
what anime is this ?

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>>9119829
Best anime lolita right here.

>>9120221
Hopy shit dude.

>>9120229
New Game

>breakup right before a con
>everything I'm going to do there reminds me of them
Welllll I guess it's time to meet new people there... if I wasn't in such an awful mood right now.

>looked for a job for this summer, all recruiters rejected me or never answered (because of the whole "not enough exp+no driver licence+student with a shit schedule=no job" bullshit)
>not enough money to go to Japan Expo or go anywhere this summer
>all my friends are far away from my city, some are at the other side of the planet until college starts again
>I'm slowly becoming a neet who plays video games all day long and fucks up my sleep schedule

I can't believe I'm saying this but I can't wait for college to start so I won't feel like a useless piece of shit and I'll go to cons in my city.

>going over financials before heading back to school
>gonna have to pull more for savings
>no Lolita dress spending for at least three years

Worth the sacrifice, right? At least im hoping to make more than what I am making now to make up for it

>>9120221
How did he fit under there?

>>9120072

You need to stop pretending there's nothing you can do to stop it. It might be hard but it is doable to get police intervention. Or does he have connections to the police? Is that why you don't think they'll do anything?

Either way, at least start a paper trail on this guy if you haven't already. It really sounds like he's either mentally ill or he's got some sort of personality disorder. Waiting around for him to stop or moving away does not guarantee everything will resolve itself. He could very well continue stalking you and move wherever you do.

You'll need to check local laws but typically if it's out in public then there's nothing preventing you from taking pictures or recording him stalking you. I'd take as many videos as I could of being stalked and then secretly back them up somewhere on 1 or 2 flash drives and a cloud based service to prevent them from being erased by him or someone else.

>>9120072
>>9120281

If you can, get him on video following you in his car. Maybe try to repeat the grocery incident then head to another shop or in the opposite direction he looks to be going and get him on camera following you. Get a couple of videos on various dates and try to file something with the police. A complaint, a form, something. See if you can get a copy of the report/complaint, if possible, and scan/back up that too in case they "lose it." Right after, send him an email telling him to stop following you and if he persists that you'll be forced to go to the police again. Black hole anything he sends after that because the point of the overt stalking is to make you afraid of him and force you into reacting to his presence. He's probably getting off on it. If he talks to you in public then try to video/record that too. Written communication via email or text is usually better, though, and can usually be confirmed as proof of contact.

Also, don't hide how he's affecting you or what's he's doing to you. He's an abuser and abusers rely on secrecy. Tell everyone about the things he's doing or has done. Tell your neighbors you think he might be mentally ill (because he certainly sounds like it) and that he's been watching/following you. Tell them you're starting to become scared and ask if they could keep an eye out. Ask if they can write down dates and times they see him if they can't record him themselves.

If the local police won't help then at least start a trail for when you move. Also, get into therapy. If you've already been in one abusive relationship you're likely to fall into another. I'm not saying your new boyfriend is like that but sometimes you don't even realize you're repeating certain patterns until you learn to recognize the dysfunction in yourself.

>>9120072
I would go to the police now to find out your options because it sounds like it is getting worse not better. That will advise you better how to proceed and what your privacy rights are and when you can actually charge him with harassment or file a restraining order. Start documenting everything that happens with a dated timeline log beginning with your abusive relationship in case you need to provide evidence to make a case against him.

>>9119449
Your prop looks good. Only you see those tiny flaws. Give yourself this week to relax. You deserve it.

I started a new job recently and most of the people I work with are into some sort of nerd related hobby. Recently find out one of them is a photog. He is also well known in my industry and has lots of connections.
>has seen me wear lolita before
>ask him if he wants to do a shoot sometime
>sure anon! sounds like fun
>heckyes.jpg
>fast forward to team hangout
>drinks
>get a little saucy
>say stupid shit in front of photog

Acting embarrassing in front of someone I'd like to be friends with who could also help me with my career GREAT

I'm beginning to get a little paranoid about this one girl in my cosplay community. For an upcoming con, she's planned out her entire schedule in a way that almost completely copies mine. Same series, same groups, same characters. Everything. She even picked the same obscure costume of my waifu that I just posted about. The girl has been a HUGE drama bomb for years and has been targeting my friends as of late.

I'm not worried about her upstaging me. I just want to make new friends at cons. It's just getting a little awkward that she has literally the same lineup as me and every time I say "Hey! Awesome taste! I love [x] too!" it goes completely ignored.

Am I being too paranoid? Could it be that she just genuinely likes the same stuff as me? It seems odd (she doesn't usually like this kind of stuff). But it's not like I think she's planning any dastardly deeds like stealing my boyfriend and becoming prom queen. Idk I'm just feeling weird about this con now.

>>9119516

You're an adult now. Not a child. Do what you want and stop letting your mommy to control your life. Get the ticket. Be happy for a weekend. Honestly, going off at least 3 red flags (driving with you to the con, talking you out of going until Saturday, paying household bills) you're probably way too enmeshed and your mother is trying to keep you stuck at home. Saturday will come and then it'll be "why don't you just go next year" or some sort of emergency will happen to prevent you from going.

Do you share the car with your mom? Did it just happen to start acting up after she took it to go do something?

Wondering about that because my own dad had the habit of preventing me from trying to go anywhere alone or becoming independent by creating problems with my car that were easy to fix when he "had the time." Of course, he made sure it never got fixed in a timely manner. He used it both as an excuse for why I couldn't go too far from home and as a scare tactic to make me afraid of driving.

>"Anon, you don't want to get stranded on the side of the road do you? I won't be able to come help you if you go out, hahaha."

>tfw your dad abuses you physically & your mum abuses you mentally

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>Long story short, my gf hates our cosfam
>I do realize they have some bad personality traits and are annoying sometimes, but everyone is. I still love them.
>It's gotten so bad that my gf doesn't want to see them and has a hard time going to conventions with the rest of the group.
>At every con I have to choose between abandoning the the group to keep company to gf, or the other way around.
>I always choose gf because I don't want her being lonely and miserable

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>Work pays pretty well
>Pretty miserable at the end of every day
>Constantly dream about changing jobs
>A job that makes me happier probably pays worse
It doesn't help that in about a year I might be moving and changing my life completely. I'm freaking out. I like being happy but hearing all of these stories from friends about the job market scare me.

>>9118793
Do porn, date one of the richer motherfuckers that attaches himself to your fanbase and dump the garbage you've got now.

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>>9118181

Maybe you deserved it.

>A long time ago on cgl I joked about making a beagle lolita print, using my two beagles for it and giving it a silly flowery baby-esque name
>One of them died yesterday
>Want to actually make it now in her honor
>Too depressed to touch my tablet
>;__;

on the bright side i guess
>popular lolita reblogged my art earlier
>I'm not popular so the boost in notes is nice

>>9118181
That's not how it works.

Unless that bitch lifted up her petticoat and dress just to fart on you in particular the smell would've been trapped under all those layers.
>s. someone who's farted in lolita before

But you're welcome anyway :^)

>drop out
>become NEET
>5 months in and I already want out

I don't have any friends so I have nothing to do but spend all my time by myself trying not to bother anyone.
These days I leave the house maybe once a week, and I'm feeling more miserable by the day.

I'm just so lonely anons.

>>9120482
>Unless that bitch lifted up her petticoat and dress just to fart on you in particular
I would, tbqh.

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Burned myself pretty badly using a heat gun to shape EVA foam
Now I have to worry about it healing AND looking like a gross sore in my cosplay

>>9120341
I know and it drives me nuts. I'm pretty much the only one she has and it's been that way forever. My sister is pretty much a drain financially and can't contribute. Mom still treats me like a baby even though she says she wants me to be more independent, etc. I feel guilty whenever I want to do something because she needs the help and I feel like shit if I don't. I've been saving up to move out, hoping to get more back from school since I'm taking more classes next semester.

The car is mine but it's the only one we have so it's shared with my mom and sister (that's another fucking headache). I'm just sick of this codependent crap. I'm planning on buying a train ticket for Megacon next year to visit a cosplay friend, whether she lets me or not.

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>tfw I'm 25 and will never trust another person enough to have sex with them
>met a cute ita last month
>she blatantly offered me the fuzzy-wuzzy
>couldn't do it
>went back to my room and climbed in a pile of strange hillbillies

I kinda wish I had took a job I got offered at google when I graduated. I went into what I studied as I loved it but it was shit pay and short term contracts now its all but dried up & our union is fighting for bare above minium wage. Tried several things since, nothing quite worked although constantly told how great my stuff is- in creative ventures I had a bit of notoreity but not enough in to live off. I have maybe one try left in me if I dig deep but I think life has finished with giving me opportunities and I am just to jaded to hope its not more than being used. I am starting a crappy low pay job with minimal hours thats just enough to keep me ticking over but not enough to buy new things in the hopes that it gives me the incentive to try hard, one last try at creative endeavors

>>9120077
>>9120281
>>9120287
Thank you all, feels so much better to hear someone taking this seriously. Everybody just thinks I'm overreacting: maybe I am but this feeling is unbearable. The problem in this is that he doesn't try to contact me or even talk to me in public nor he does even this frequently. The last time I got to know he drove past my house was when we talked about he getting his last belongings (took 4 months....) and he accidentally kinda said he did it. I thought it was finally over after he got his things and few weeks after that he stalked me in the store. I absolutely lack evidence at this point, legaly he could drive as much as he wants past my house and watch as I do my grocerys as long as he like stays outside of my house or harrasses me via phone. That's sadly how the things work. My neighbor is fortunately already watching cars that drive in this road but he has a new car again so this is quite frustrating. Also, I'm not able to snap a pic since the situation of someone driving past is so quickly over and it's illegal to film for example road here. We have a camera in our yard tho. I just hope this would escalate somehow so I don't have to always believe it's over and then he is doing something creepy again. My family is already thinking I'm overreacting but noone can really know this feeling if it hasn't happened to them. I was lucky to get out before he got really physical so I don't really know how far he would go or if his just bullying me. Not very sane either way however. And this still being kinda mild ans not knowing is not a very pleasant thing to deal with. And I'm kinda easy target as a lolita.

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Hoooooly shit, did any other Washington lolitas see the dramu today? Someone in our Fb shared this picture with the group, and all hell broke loose. By the end of it, tons of rant posts had been created, 10+ girls got banned, and the mods deleted fucking everything.

>>9120663
She was just disturbed that you call vaginas "fuzzy-wuzzies."

>>9120632
I know that feel anon.
Can you into a job? Even if it sucks it helps since you get out of the house and do stuff.

>>9120702
Shit im a fatty chan but my waist isnt close to 100 cm! Thats some seriously scary thoughts.

>love my job (workers comp ins)
>love helping people and them genuinely appreciating me

>occasionally get death claims
>rest of the day is ruined
>ugly sobbing in the bathroom
>get a call from his wife later that day
>she's crying, she doesn't know how to pay their bills. She's pregnant, already has two boys
>his head was cut off from a swinging steel beam at a construction site
>said the employer didn't even want to report the claim because ~muh rates~

I actually can't take it. I love my job every other day of the week but when I get these kind of claims I actually just shut down. I just wanted to hold that lady. I'm sure it wouldn't have helped much but I just want to hold her.

>>9120719

Holy fucking shit. That's horrifying.

At least you can be satisfied that your work matters

>>9120702
nice

>>9120663
wat

>>9120719
I shouldn't have read that now, I'm going to hace nightmares now. I feel you though, I can't even watch the news because it ruins my day easily, I can't imagine my reaction if I were you.

>be unhappy with my career choice
>can't find a job in my profession
>personality is a sticking point in the interview
>go to career services
>take a Myers-Briggs test
>personality matches me with a career choice in business
>adviser suggests to study the GMAT to prepare applying for the MBA
>mfw I need more schooling
>fret about my future, I bought a JSK today for shopping therapy

I have a master's degree in engineering and going back for a MBA to me is not a wise idea. I don't have enough real world experience so getting into a top school will not happen.

>>9120660

Now I'm 95% convinced she fucked with the car, especially if you have a mentally disabled sister like I have a mentally disabled brother. Remember, actions speak louder than words. Ignore what she says and look closely at how she acts. Always ask yourself if what's she doing is what's best for her or for you?

If your sister is disabled she should be able to get some sort of govt. assistance to help pay for something. If not, then there's almost always someone or something out there willing to help. A church, a support group, so on. But if your mother isn't utilizing any resources outside of using you then shit is seriously fucked.

Keep in mind you can't save someone if you're drowning yourself and if she's anything like my father she's going to make sure you never surface. The closer I got to graduating and being able to get a well paying job the more I was "needed' at home to help and had an increase in car troubles preventing me from going to school or work. And keeping you from your friends, any sort of friend, is a solid way of making sure you have no one to rely on if you need to get away from her.

I'd really suggest looking up stuff on Fear Obligation and Guilt (FOG) relationships if you haven't before.

>>9120747
DON'T DO IT

DON'T GET AN MBA WITHOUT EXPERIENCE.

You have an engineering degree, get a job in consulting or something first if you don't wanna do engineering.

>>9120689

You sound like deep down you miss him and regret breaking up.

>>9120660
>>9120761

What's wrong with the car?

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>>9118151
>Been pining after a qt watch for at least a year, but couldn't justify paying ~€100 for an accessory+P&P
>the designer is my absolute favourite but her accessories are always hilariously overpriced
>faffing about this morning, accidentally see that exact model on a flash sales website going for €50
>cry tears of joy

Can't believe my luck

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>>9120732
>wat
I thought my story was pretty self-explanatory? I fear intimacy.

>>9120747
>personality

I hate to say it but is it your personality or the fact you might be a woman in a male dominated field?

Also an MBA isn't really going to help you right now. It'll just end up being another money pit. I'm sure the school would love to bleed as much as they can out of you, though.

Have you tried interning? If you've had an internship once already then maybe try again. Or try to find some way to network.

>>9120747
>Relying on Myers Briggs to make career choices
You know that it's unvalidated broscience despite being in common use, right?

>>9120790
>consulting or something first

I never thought about consulting since it would require a couple of years in the field first. What do you mean by 'something first'?

>>9120817
Being a woman is not a barrier from working in one's preferred profession. Glass ceiling broke last night as a major party nominated a woman for President.

>>9120824
It's a good gauge of who we are. I got an INTJ.

>>9120855

>personality problem
>"something first"
>glass ceiling broke last night
>good gauge

Nevermind, I see the problem. I wouldn't hire you either.

>>9120855
No. The Myers-Briggs system is a modern cult that is has been going way too long. Your categorization changes depending on your mood. Get a job with your engineering degree. You can't get experience until you get a job. An MBA is not worth it unless you already have a built-up career, which you clearly don't have.

>>9120747
companies are tripping over themselves to hire good engineers right now. either you're not good or you're not trying hard enough to find a job.

>>9120881
#Imwithher

>>9120889
I know I don't want an MBA. Waste of money.

>>9120898
Been sending out my resume to no avail. No interviews either. Mind you, I've had my resume glanced by several peers.

>>9120898
>>9120904
Could be location too. Are you only applying locally? Because if you're willing to move you may be able to find more opportunities.

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I'm falling back into fat habits. I overate pretty impressively today.

Damn it.

>>9120907
>Could be location too. Are you only applying locally? Because if you're willing to move you may be able to find more opportunities.

I've mentioned in my cover letter than I am willing to move without compensation. If I can afford to buy a dream dress of mine, I can afford to move for work.

>>9120855
>It's a good gauge of who we are. I got an INTJ.
it can be a good tool imo but going off what you "get" instead of learning how the different functions work and seeing what your preferences are tends to be inaccurate. a good majority of supposed INTJs act like Te or Ti is their primary function rather than Ni, for example. also the test itself references a lot of outdated social norms that most people in the Millennial or younger generations will not identify with, leading to a lot of over-diagnosing of Intuitives.

but hey, at least it's less misinterpreted, easier to understand, and more immediately useful than the Enneagram.

>>9120761
Oh, no anon. My sister isn't mentally disabled. She's just a screw up with two kids that can't seem to get her life together. I love her but it's the truth.

My mom isn't really abusive? At least I don't feel that way? I think she's just really grown to rely on my sister and I (lately me because of what I explained above) way too much. She doesn't drive and she's currently separated from my stepfather. Rest of my family is too busy to really help. I don't know if she necessarily knows how bad and guilty I feel whenever she talks about being depressed or feeling like she has no support. I can't live with her forever and I don't want to. It's getting to the point where I am looking for any way to get more money to move. I'm even thinking about getting a second job even if I know I'll run myself ragged with two jobs and a full courseload.

I did read up on FOG and some of it fits my mom. She definitely likes to do the whole, "I do everything for everyone and nobody helps me" thing whenever I get upset or angry. Then, of course, I feel bad. She's flat out told me that I might have to "cut out cons and cosplaying" next year because I need to save money and that's an unnecessary expense. Never mind that I have always been good with money and always pay my bills. The one or two times that I've paid her late or been unable to (last time was because I had to spend a lot on my first AA table even though she promised to help me) she acts like I'm unreliable and the worst person ever.

I'm going on a tangent now so I'll stop but lately it's been unbearable.

>>9120807
Thought it was the alternator or alternator belt but it's turned out to be something with the spark plugs.

>>9120913
Me too, anon - I'm counting calories but I've gotten lazy about it the past two days. Make up for it tomorrow!

>>9120904
Jesus.

I mean... I'm voting for Hilary, too, but at least I have the decency to be ashamed of it.

>>9120969
Oh honey, we all have to make to in these trying times.

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>move to new city
>go to local mall
>overwhelmed with all the stores there that weren't at my old mall
>visit Forever 21
>find super cute pair of pj's with swans on them
>purchase my normal size
>try on at home and a bit too small
>exchange for next size up
>try on at home and legit no change in cut or amount of fabric
>belly exposed if arms are raised due to the top being a box cut
>shorts extremely short and barely cover my butt
>decide the shirt can be fixed if sewn into a tank top
>spend many hours on altering the top
>think it's finally fixed so iron the new seams and put it in pj drawer
>put on pj's today
>shirt still exposes stomach like it originally did
>neckline rides up too
>now out $16 and many hours on pj's I don't feel comfortable wearing

I fell for the mall meme. The fabric was so cute, I couldn't resist. I would've been better off just ordering a pair of pj's off eBay with this quality. I'm really weird with my pj's too and have to have the shorts a minimum length and the top can't do anything weird like ride up.

Atleast the fabric can be used for a future craft.

>>9121071
Just do what normal people do anon, sleep naked, it's so much better.

>>9120913
>>9120961
This week was killer for me too, we can do it!
I lost 10lb on four months! Woooo!

Remember! Your burando loves you!

>>9121074
I usually end up naked anyway (always keep underwear on though) but it's nice to lounge around the house in something cute. I get tired of throwing on boxers and an oversized shirt all the time.

>>9120855
>***J
Into the trash.

>>9120814
Anon. Reread your post.
What the fuck were you smoking?

>>9120933
anon, do not let her know you're trying to become independent. I had a mom who behaved very similarly and I made my intentions of moving out of state with my partner (who I'd already been living with for a year and been dating for almost two) known to her and she used my depression to have me committed to a hospital and then forced to stay in her home because the social worker thought it was 'safer' there than with my partner who worked every night (while I was usually sleeping).

I had to seek police intervention, stay at a women's shelter, file a restraining order and move 16 hours away to get away from her.

(and this was a pattern -- when I was a teenager she would sabotage ANY attempts I made at becoming independent like refusing to help me get clothing for a job interview, refusing to take me to get my ID so I COULD get a job and so on.)

This all sounds so fucking hyperbolic but controlling parents can turn into fucking monsters if they're scared you're going to get out of their reach.

to contribute to the thread:
partner just got an AWESOME job with the state and I'm stoked to get myself a new sewing machine/fabric and be able to actually BUY some lolita that isn't bodyline... but he won't be getting paid until the 12th of August. I'm so fucking impatient. Not sure if I should use the money I'll be getting from an art show on sewing machine + lolita or not :/

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>>9118793
This makes no sense
>BF is attracted to me for the way I look and the things I'm interested in
>he's attracted to other people who look similar and like the same things
>he LITERALLY ONLY LIKES ME FOR THE WAY I LOOK AND MY PERSONALITY
>I know hate all of the things I used to like

>on the way to con and slowly realising my cosplay is a fucking disaster
Somebody just kill me now

>>9121081
***P master race

Currently attending a convention.

>was supposed to share with good guy friend
>he bailed on me last minute because he quit his job and started up his own thing
>never apologised
>been ignoring me for days
>third time he's done this
>talked to mutuals late last night at con
>they're still in contact with him, regularly gets responses from him
>they tell me he didn't quit his job and willingly decided to go to a work conference instead while telling me for months that he would definitely be here with me this weekend

I'm crushed, I really adored this friend and just don't have the mental energy to deal with this. I assumed that since all of my friends are adults, that I wouldn't have to worry about anymore good and respected friends who fuck around with my head for fun.

>>9121082
???

A girl offered me sex. I turned her down because I don't trust anyone enough to put dong in them. Then I returned to my hotel room, where my redneck roommates awaited me.

>>9120961
>>9121079
But food tastes so good... I'm fighting off the urge to eat ice cream right now. I knew I never should have bought those Drumsticks.

>get a gf at an anime con
>we broke up after a year

>trying to find a new one at every con I go to
>no luck

I just need a replacement, gdi.

>>9121207
I'm that guy. Anytime I get nervous or offended I burn bridges, family included. Just leave him be, he'll regret his actions, with ten fold the pain you've experienced.

>>9121219
I have so many questions.
>Why are you calling her ita?
>Why 'fuzzy wuzzy,' are you 10?
>But casual sex is not commitment tho
>If the rednecks are friends, they aren't strange as in 'strangers' like you implied.
>Not all rednecks are hillbillies tho

>Fighting urge for icecream
I do slow carb with free days. I'm about to make myself hate me for what I'm about to eat in sub 5 hours. Also, on plan solutions do exist. CarbSmart Breyers is a lifesaver.

>come out to parents in feb and get cut off
>be depressed, going to therapy and on medication but doesn't feel like much
>in march, gf breaks up with me because she doesn't want a depressed gf
>takes a good portion of my friend group with her
>get denied from my major in may
>lose job in june
>car breaks down two weeks ago
>unable to afford summer con anymore, let alone want to go since all I had planned were couple cosplays
>stop therapy for a while since I no longer can afford
>medication is cheaper and more affordable for now
>taking loans to cover apartment rent when landlord sends email yesterday they are increasing rent starting september
>can 2016 get any worse
>long distance friend sends me a care package after seeing a lot of my mopey text posts on tumble dot com
>a couple of fujoshit things and some daiso stuff but i still cried a lot

idk if things are going to get better by end of year but knowing someone cared was really nice

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>its past 1 am and I am crying in my kitchen because I cant manage to make this fucking invisible zipper work

>finally got enough confidence to start posting art online a few months ago
>make friends with other artists on twitter
>all meeting up at AA next year and sharing tables
>one girl in particular has been really friendly
>we talk a lot over skype and share doodles and do streams together
>i really like her but don't know if she likes being friends or being more than friends
>what do

>>9121269
>because she was ita (pretty tho)
>it refers to pubic hair
>it involves trusting a total stranger
>I found them on Facebook; didn't know them
>okay

>I ate two ice creams today; horrible

Just go through running a con not too long ago. We have two con directors. A guy i'll Bob and a girl I'll call Sue, both have been with our con since year 1, we're now on year 6
>both directors are bffs and have been for 16 years
>anytime there's any legitimate blame for one of Sue's fuck ups, bob steps in and says how "Oh we all get busy" and covers it up
>find out Sue never did taxes for the last two years of the con, while bob didnt do taxes for the year before those two
>con would have lost tax ID and been shut down
>all that money we'd need to pay to get the ID back if it come down to it
>Sue also never kept track of bank or paypal information as treasurer
>I step in as treasurer in Dec last year
>feel like i stepped into a landmine with all this bs
>straighten shit out
>find out everything is in Sue's name
>she feels as though she's part owner since she helped start it all
>okay.jpg
>keep digging around after receiving treasurer
>find out that none of our paperwork is located where it should be
>sue has it all on her kitchen table or spread out elsewhere
>she has to "find it all"

Note: this is all documentation about how our event started, legal documentation, bank paperwork,everything

>>9121109
Ugh. Well, thanks, anon. She has no idea really.

Back to cgl related, I never hookup at cons (or in general) but I'm so damn scared of commitment that it's starting to look like an option. I know for certain that a few guys that are into me will be at my next con but it's so out of character for me that even thinking it feels weird.

>>9121280
damn anon my heart goes out to you

>>9121435
part 2
>Sue is annoyed and fumbling around for the paperwork
>She keeps "leaving it on the kitchen table" and forgetting to bring it to meetings
>this is after not only I have asked but also the president of our board of directors has asked as well
>She also didnt inform me that my con debit card arrived in december.
>It was really close to the holidays so i thought i'd see it later in january
>find out in feb she has it
>card was cancelled
>ran to bank to get a new one
>pin number gets sent to her place
>inform her of new pin getting sent
>took her two weeks to respond to me
>told her to bring it to the meeting when she does tell me she has it
>forgets something yet again on her kitchen table

Fast forward to con weekend:
>tuesday, a few days before our event she contacts me on fb
>tells me she needs info from the treasurer email which i only have access to at this point and she used to
>she needs a contact that she should have saved in her hotel email as she handles that and has for the last couple of years
>She doesnt have a saved and can't remember what it is
>I find it and give her the info
>it's for our liability insurance
>con is in 3 days at this point
>day 0 of con
>see an email pass through saying that our insurance was declined because "techno" is not something they can cover under the insurance.
>one of our staffers injured themselves while working the con
>we have a recap meeting this weekend

To my knowledge she's being completely removed at this point. She's been so incapable of not only providing information but correct information. She had planned on stepping down to just staff however, she still tries to micro manage even when she's not in a managerial position.

>>9121280
Really sorry, anon :(
Wish I could provide some real consolation but know that those people don't deserve to be in your life.

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I feel super nostalgic for livejournal, kink memes and how fandoms were some years ago. Tumblr is so shit, and yet I can't stop using it because of the very few friends I have there, and even then nobody dares talking to each other directly, it's boring. I miss being a stupid weaboo/fujoshi online, it was so fun. Tell me I'm not the only one who feel that way.

My sleep schedule is fucked up and because of that I tend to eat at weird hours. I feel like shit overall these days. I just want to get a part time job so I can get more money and study at the same time instead of doing nothing all day long until September. Also my phone has a problem, I can't call anyone anymore, I have no idea if I should replace it with all the money I saved so far or if I should just deal with it.

>>9121484
I've been nostslgic for LJ too, entries that were more like diaries than blog posts, and checking Daily_Lolita. I don't go on Tumblr unless for a search and FB just seems stale with all the likes but so few meaningful comments in any group posts.

>>9118559
Welcome to the reality outside of your little otaku bubble. This is how many people see male anime characters if they have no context.

>>9121450
A couple of you on staff had better visit her together and camp out while she finds all the paperwork before you kick her or she will flounce and you will never get it unless you threaten to file charges against her for fraud and risk bad publicity when she cries to everyone.
But I'm glad you are getting rid of her, this sounds like a nightmare.

>>9120933

I find that the real problem with abusive relationships is that it's hard to really understand what is healthy. It's kind of like being stuck in some hole underground and never even realizing there's a sunny meadow right above you. You just crawl in the dirt and maybe, occasionally, you get a sliver of sunlight and then wonder why you can't have that all the time. Things don't have to be hard. They don't have to be difficult. You don't have to fight just to go to a store or a convention or whatever you want to do.

The real thing that will tip you off if there's something really wrong with her is by setting boundaries with her. Maybe telling her you can't handle her dumping her feelings on you or talking about her depression, which should be discussed with an actual mental health professional.The proper response here would be a calm "I'm sorry for making you feel overwhelmed. I think going to to a mental health professional would be a good idea. Thank you for explaining to me how you feel." and then trying not to repeat the behavior. The wrong reaction would be "No one cares about me. How can you do this to me? You're so ungrateful here's 10 reasons you're ungrateful" with a heavy dose of tears and shrieking.

Finally, I think there comes a point where we have to accept personal responsibility as we come into adulthood but I think you should examine whether or not your sister has been partially trained by your mom to be as irresponsible as she sounds like she is. Maybe your mom has done a lot of the same things to her as she's doing to you? Maybe your sister's growth has also been inhibited by your mother?

>>9121484
>Tell me I'm not the only one who feel that way.

You're not. I never thought I'd be nostalgic for LOL random, lust for bishie boys, and absurd slash pairings. But it's been replaced with something so much much worse. Something angry and hostile and full of unctuous moral superiority.

>>9121516
I've told her plenty of times to go see a therapist, she says that she will, she never does. I think she sabotages herself a lot of times. Maybe she's afraid to change or admit that she has problems? I don't know. It's hard for me because my whole life, I've really only had my mom and sister. I'm an adult now and so I can see that I need to make my own path and I want to. I'm able to see that being around the both of them creates a toxic environment for me. They think we should always have each others back and I feel like helping family is fine, to a point. My sister's friends have always told her that our mom is too controlling and too involved in our lives and I used to think they were being mean but I get it now.

My sister was on her own for about three years with her boyfriend. He's an ass and awful with money but my mom's involvement didn't really help either. She always says that she just doesn't want my sister to make the same mistakes that she has but she essentially just tells her what to do and always just gives her money/helps her out whenever she finds herself in yet another bind. I agree with you, anon, my mom's behavior has really made my sister super dependent on other people for help which is why she sits around and doesn't do anything. She'll work but she really has no ambitions and has never finished anything (dropped out of college and beauty school, wracked up tons of debt, etc).. My belief is that we should just let her figure her life out on her own because she's old enough now (27) that she has gotten more than enough help from us and the rest of the family.

I honestly think my mom wouldn't know what to do with herself if we moved out and she didn't have to help us. Like, she says she's so stressed and can't take it but she puts herself in the middle of everything. I worry that when I do leave, she won't have any help and then that's when I feel guilty. Never really thought about how fucked up my family was until now...

>>9121207
Just wanted to add to this, I'm a fucking idiot.

>havent eaten for 28 hours and too anxious to go anywhere alone right now
>friends are either uninterested or too busy to join me for a meal
>just threw up from hunger but too pathetic to do anything about it
>have too much pride to cry in front of friends let alone ask a single one of them if they'd be up for a talk since I've been crying nonstop for 16 hours now
>lowest low I've ever been at, never felt more alone and upset in my life
>urge to off myself is rising and Im horrified of asking anyone for help cause I dont wanna ruin my friends' weekend

I don't understand why the fuck I keep coming to cons when I hate myself so much.

>>9121541
You go to cons for your friends. When one betrays you, it leaves you like this.

> Lolita comm enamel pins are becoming "the thing"
> Girl wants them for local comm
> But only "for people we like/us cool kids."
> Admin of the group comments about how "Our community is shit anyway."
> I want to comment about how they're making special pins just for their clique instead of the whole comm but I don't want them to jump down my throat.

>live at home
>no friends live in the area anymore
>lonely af aside from talking with school friends online every day
>relatively friendly with coworker
>both of us really want to see star trek
>decide to just go see it one day after work
>coworker is a guy so family instantly equates that to dating
>now have to constantly reject coworker's offers of hanging out (we would just play video games. exact same thing i did with high school friends)
>going to con in a month with some college friends
>most of them are guys
>lied and told parents I'm visiting female school friends who live in that area

I fucking hate this shit. It is impossible fo rme to have any male friends because stupid ass normies think just being in the vicinity with a guy means you want to fuck. My best friend from college is a guy and him and me wound up spending 4 years convincing my family he is gay, just so they would stop giving me shit about us hanging out.

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>>9121541
Oi. No. Bad anon. I have sort of the same problem sometimes but you have to eat for you and be healthy for you. You are worth picking yourself up and nibbling on some food or even just getting takeout or something but just eat a little bit. Then you can have the energy to make new friends and do more things that will make you happy. I know how bad that feels, and i wish you the best anon.

>>9121450
>To my knowledge she's being completely removed at this point. She's been so incapable of not only providing information but correct information.
GOOD.

jesus. she should not even be on staff. she needs to "take a vacation" from workin on the con so you guys can clean it up.

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>>9121600
>now have to constantly reject coworker's offers of hanging out (we would just play video games. exact same thing i did with high school friends)
>him and me wound up spending 4 years convincing my family he is gay, just so they would stop giving me shit about us hanging out.

I'm glad I'll never be this autistic. Hot damn.

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>tfw I will never be a qt /cgl/ girl's slave

just end me

>>9121614
You must not live in a super normalfag family. I had to do something similar to that anon, before. It's obnoxious as hell when if you are alone with a guy you are friends with, every time you go home your whole family rags on you about how the date went. One of my flatmates is a guy, and we told my family he's gay because otherwise it would have been insufferable. I pretty much can't tell my family anything about my personal life because I have a lot of guy friends and anytime I mention going out with one for lunch or something it's instantly "Oh did you sleep with him? How was your date?"

I definitely feel for that anon.

>>9121600
At the risk of sounding like tumblr, this is why I hate agressively heteronomative people.

>>9118793
>Bf's sexual fantasies directly reflect that of his partner and not some crazy different-race, skinnier sluttier male power fantasy submissive porn actress

Theres literally no winning with women.

>>9121628
There's getting annoyed at your family for making stupid comments about hanging out with the opposite sex, and then there's going out of your way to avoid doing things that you enjoy or constructing elaborate lies over years about somebody's sexuality just to stop them from making said stupid comments.

Is it not possible to just talk to your family like an adult and ask them to stop making the comments because they make you feel uncomfortable? Or better yet, say equally stupid things in response like "Yeah, I'm probably going to fuck him in the back of his car later on" and then just change the subject.

That or just move out.

>>9121615
Most fetish lolitas would want sugar daddies to spoil them not clingy slaves to baby unless you pay by the hour or provide brand dresses.
'Slaves' are the neediest of attention-whorish babies in the D/s comm, everyone knows this.

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>>9121633
>go out with an ex years ago
>she considered watching porn cheating and asked me to stop
>got into an argument with her once because she claimed to never, EVER find other men on the street/that she came across in general attractive within the confines of her own mind and never had sexual fantasies than didn't involve me

Some women are just mental m8.

>>9118793
>BF is attracted to my type
>This is a bad thing

I don't understand this mentality, don't you want someone who's attracted to you?

I'm thrilled on the vanishingly rare occasions I find a girl who fetishizes skinny balding nerdy white dudes.

>>9121640

>implying I just don't want to be dommed.

Clingy people are obnoxious.

>>9121657
Then do the sensible thing and hire it done. Or maybe go to fetlife where this topic belongs.

>>9121659
Someone needs to make a /cgl/ group on FL.

>>9121664
There's not enough interest. Back to the dungeon pls.
Polite sage because no.

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>Live in LA, paying terrible rent prices because I had no friends within LA proper
>Can't afford cosplay with my shitty little job
>Sold off all my lolita and instantly regretted it, but can't buy my pieces back because sudden poorfag
>Going back to school after a semester off
>Transferring
>Moving to a tiny little town in Washington.
>Most expensive place to rent I've seen is still less than half of what I pay now
>Will be able to cosplay again
>Might be able to get my wardrobe back eventually
>Can actually save money

Also, nearly unrelated to cgl but related to my feels

>will be able to afford the dog breed of my dreams

>>9121776
What breed of doge?

>>9121786
Northern Inuit! I may settle for a Husky or Alaskan Sled dog if things go south with it since I'll have to get it from the UK, but northern dogs are my favorites.

Tfw acne
Tfw wash my face 3-4 times a day and change my pillow nightly and eat no dairy or gluten or unnecessary sugars while being fairly active and getting a healthy amount of sun
HOW DO I MAKE IT STOP

>>9121818
>3-4 times a day

don't do this.

also visit the skincare thread, post your age and EXACT routine and see if they can help.

>>9121818
Have you gone to a dermatologist for prescription strength meds?

>>9121819
Thanks anon, done

>>9121820
No I'm poor

>>9121799
Yeah, those aren't apartment doggers.

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>become certified at work today
>scheduled for full-time hours, which means more money but more stress

OH FUPA. At least I can buy burando now.

>>9121838
>No I'm poor

Obamacare?

>>9120705
Late reply, but I can't get one unfortunately.

However I'll be starting at a new college later this year so at least that's something to look forward to.

>>9121818
Take vitamin A and zinc supplements. Or codfish liver (liquid form) since it's supercharged with skincare vitamins. Also, have you introduced any actives into your routine? Like, AHA/BHA, clay masks, etc?

>>9121874
Hopefully you won't be commuting from home?

>>9121838
Is it cystic? Could be a genetics thing.
Birth control sometimes helps relieve acne.
Then theres also Accutaine.

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>mfw my workplace starts talking about retirement plans, but I'm going to die at 51

>>9121799

That dog will tear up your apartment bro.

>>9121887
I can't afford to stay in dorms but it's better then nothing

>>9122068
why?

>wore colored stockings with coord
>look like skin tone in all my photos
>fucking no leg wear meme
>gfdi

>>9122097
It seems like a good age to end it. lol.

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>>9122123
scared of being old?

>>9122095
True. Dorms are fun, but they're way too expensive. Not worth it if you'll be paying off loans for the rest of your life.

>>9122136
I just want to be young and beautiful forever, like Sailor Moon.

I'm probably just talking shit desu.

>>9122140
also the lack of privacy or personal space is insane. the freshmen dorms at my college did not let freshmen bring a vehicle and the bathrooms were communal.

>>9122136
Well I'm not, I look forward to watching lolitas and cosplayers defying aging and just continuing in their hobbies. Most won't but I think some will. I love seeing old cosplayers even now.

>>9122143
Communal bathrooms are a great way to meet people!

Especially when they're co-ed. There's nothing like the first time you stumble in drunk and come face to face with a girl in a facial mask. Pretty horrifying.

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>>9122141
i am 31 and still look literally 12

there is hope for us all as long as we avoid sunlight and cigarettes

>>9122068

Do I know you...? I've had a friend have similar sentiments.

>>9122148
yeah but for a youth hostel-like experience you would think they would charge less.

>>9121776
We are picking up our corgi next weekend too! What breed are you wanting to get?

>>9122150
>I got carded the other day so that must mean I still look young!

>finally bought a petticoat to go with my shorter skirts
>ships fast
>practically vibrating with excitement
>it gets here and they sent me a kids size petticoat half the size of the one I ordered
Thanks malco mode

>>9121496
We actually have all of the paperwork thanks to the president on our board. I spent so many hours going through treasurer and revamping it to a better standard. I even took the time to make a breakdown of what treasurer does for the next incoming person.
>>9121608
It's been pretty bad and I even stepped away from my rage to be as professional as possible so she had nothing to hold against me. It's extraordinarily important to keep a professional image even when shit gets rough. I got to sit through a board meeting, while in lolita, and list off all the shit she did wrong back in January this year. I wanted to look fabulous going to a funeral.

She even had the balls to get a rewards card (just points for hotel rooms, not a credit card) and never told -anyone-. Upon finding this out, i tried to call her out at our next board meeting. She went completely red in the face, had no information to give me, and said it was either "5,000 points or $5,000" on the card. I also had the website already pulled up on my phone before i asked her this next question: Do you know the website where to look this all up? She stuttered and stumbled, giving me no direct answer. I turned my phone around and showed the entire board where to go to look it all up. Sue's face was red because i'd called her out on not knowing something that was her responsibility. I got the information later that day after i told her it wasn't helpful to lie. Magically everything appeared in my lap. Found out we had 50,000 points on the card. She had also placed the president of our board of directors on it w/o his knowledge or consent. When i told her this, she made the comment of "Oh i knew it was somewhere between 6,000 and 60,000 points." Tomorrow is D-Day for me. Wish me luck. Maybe i'll wear lolita tomorrow as well.

>>9121600

Guaranteed all those dudes would fuck you if you let them out of the friend zone

>>9122152

Obviously you have never seen what people do to those dorms on the weekend

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>tfw no classic lolita girlfriend who plays the ukulele

I want to be gay and indie together

>>9121541
Here comes a nice feel to end this bullshit -

Shortly after I made the last post, an old friend of mine who was at the con asked if I was ok. Told him about my shitty thoughts and lack of food, so he came to my room, calmed me down, and took me out to eat.
While we were eating, the guy friend I was supposed to be sharing with finally got back in contact. We're totally fine, his life is hectic and he never realised that I gave enough of a fuck to want to know what was really up.

On top of two former toxic friends who fucked up both of us quite a bit, he's got a lot of shit on his plate. We laid everything out there during the last 8 hours and we're now closer than ever. I may have had a super shitty last 2 days, but I'm ready to go out and hang with friends in cosplay tomorrow. Can feel a massive weight lifted off my chest that I've been walking around with for months, so I'm just really happy right now and more able to not put myself down as much.

Sorry for the lame feel. But yeah, I got my food and everything is fine. This has been bugging me way harder and way longer than I really thought so I'm so happy and relieved.

>>9122256
Good end.

>>9121857
I gotta be awake in four hours. I'm so scare.

Also, I think my older brother's gf is jealous of me.

>trade dresses with a girl at a swap meet today
>get home
>brooch from the dress is missing
>terrified that I'd managed to lose it
>message girl
>"oh yeah I decided to keep it that's why I knocked the price down"
>crisis averted
>I have a billion brooches to replace it with anyway

feels pretty good man

>found a worm on my pillow this morning

This is NOT. LOLITA.

>working on a cosplay
>everyone says it's looking good
>hate every facet of it
fuck

>>9122372
how even

>>9119036
Me again, I did end up wearing the costume in the end! It looked great, my makeup was on point, loads of people asked me for pictures and I even got into a cosplay video. I guess I just need to stop overthinking stuff and leave my comfort zone more often.

>>9118864
>>9118874
>>9120406
>>9118793


>how dare my boyfriend enjoy my bodytype!
>Dump his ass!

This is why people call /cgl/ posters mental.

>>9122857
That bizarre attitude isn't unique to /cgl/.

I was hoping someone here could explain it, though. It's so blatantly backwards I can't wrap my head around it.

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>At a con, see a really good group of my favorite anime
>Don't get a photo because as almost all groups do, they have one unfortunate looking characters
>After we see them I'm gushing to my boyfriend over all the little details that made them so good
>Say how cute my two favorite characters were, how happy it made me as he urges me to say more about it
>Turn to face him as we're walking and realize one of the cosplayers is behind us
>She probably heard everything
>mfw

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>>9122857
Not wanting to feel like you are more there as a fetish (for example 'fat slutty cosplayer') as opposed to being loved for all your quirks and getting a little weird about that isn't that fucking weird dudes

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>Buy four pairs of shoes on taobao
>"43 is a european 11, that should be right for me!"
>43 is a chinese 10.5
>they're all just pinchy enough in the toe that I can't wear them for more than 45min or so

feels bad man

>take all four pairs to a swap meet
>they're all sold at-price within an hour
>mfw I have enough money to re-buy them all in the right size

feels damn good, man

/cgl/
>buy item for cosplay on ebay over a month ago
>it's just now shipping
>already planned a completely separate cosplay because it wasn't showing up
>might show up when I'm at the damn con

Not /cgl/
>got awesome new job
>last day of current shit job is Tuesday
>has had a lady come in on my weekend shifts and is always happy to see me
>"I didn't see you yesterday!"
>"oh I usually have that day off I've been covering!"
>"well now that I know that's your day off I'll be sure to visit you the other day!"
>couldn't bring myself to say my last day is in a few days

>>9122881
If it was one of the cosplayers you were gushing about it probably made their day! If you were roasting the one unfortunate one is when you should worry

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My new dress is a slightly different shade than I expected and it's driving my nuts.

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>tfw my airsoft gear is basically identical to Big Boss' from Peace Walker
>tfw all I need is a different holster and extraction harness
>tfw easiest cosplay ever

>>9123010
But will the con allow it?

>>9122995
>my nuts
Always nice to see brolitas.

>>9121541
>haven't eaten for 28 hours
If you're going against your instinctual NEED to eat, you're a failure of evolution
>too anxious to go anywhere alone right now
Anxiety isn't a fucking thing, just fucking go out, you goddamn idiot.

>>9123016
Well, I was a Diamond Dog at Anime Boston this year: Black plastic rifle, black and gold pistol. If they weapons weren't an issue, the clothing definitely won't be.

>>9122871
>That bizarre attitude isn't unique to /cgl/.
yes. male-dominated 4chan boards usually add a recommendation to fuck before dumping problematic girlfriends.

>>9122906
Why can't it be both? Anon never mentioned how her boyfriend treats her so I'm gonna assume that because he fetishes her, she actually gets pretty decent treatment

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>about to make ho armor because a friend asked me to be part of her group
>OTT unrealistic fantasy armor is something I've secretly always wanted to do
>I'm so fucking pumped to start
>tfw

>>9122857
>>9122906
>>9123081
It makes me feel very "dime a dozen" type of basic bitch/not loved for myself, and definitely sees my cosplaying as something kinky for him and not a hobby I (used to) enjoy.

>>9123081
I'm sure the 'ftw no lolita gf' dudes would treat me decent as well, but I'd rather date guy who likes me for more than that one hobby/my appearance.

>>9123142
>>9123156

This makes me very sad for both of you. Are you so socially awkward that an online relationship is the only hope for you?

I would rather date someone who has the same hobbies as I do and who worships the ground I walk on rather than constantly feel inadequate because he faps to someone who looks a complete opposite of me

>>9123078
Also, guys usually don't get triggered by the idea that their girlfriend finds their them and their type attractive.

>>9123191
That's not the same at all though having similar hobbies and jacking off to a hobby. My boyfriend and I both play vidya, but he doesn't fap to girls playing dwarf fortress.

>>9123142

You need to talk it out. Either do that or get some relationship counseling. Something is wrong and I can't say if it's you or him but communication is failing somewhere that you feel inadequate and suspicious that he likes your body type. That's not healthy.

>>9123215
Thought we established that we were talking about cosplay and same body types?

>>9123200
no, just that she's talking to any other male

>>9123191
It's one thing to appreciate something about someone and another to be obsessed with just that ONE aspect of them. My bf is supportive of my cosplaying but he also likes my art, we have similar hobbies, and he doesn't put one above the other. I can tell he likes me for me as a whole and not just one part of me because he thinks it's hot.

if your bf is making you feel like this, you should probably talk to him, anon. There's the possibility that he really doesn't know that it bothers you so much. You shouldn't dump him over something that could just be your own insecurities.

>>9123191
No, I have a boyfriend and he appreciates my interest in lolita but he isn't dating me because I'm a lolita.

He likes me because he thinks I'm cute, because we share a love of playing music, video games and watching horror movies, because we can have long, deep conversations about politics or philosophy, but we can also talk about nonsense for hours, because I get along well with his family, because we have similar goals, and so on.

There's a big difference between dating a guy who only likes because you fit a type he fetishizes (i.e. qt lolita gf) and dating a guy who likes all of the facets of you that make you a unique person. If you don't understand that then I feel sorry for you.

>>9123237
> I would rather date someone who has the same hobbies as I do
That sentence has nothing to with it and also it still applies. Enjoying cosplay and being supportive doesn't necessarily negate you being into coswhores, but "sharing hobbies" doesn't mean one jacks off to it. Anon talk with someone about it, sort stuff out and talk to your dude. Don't do the two of you a disservice.

>

You all are so triggered by the word fetish that it's actually hilarious. God forbid that someone actually finds your fat ass attractive because it's then a fetish! Ever thought that because they are dating you, then your body type actually becomes relatable to their fap material?

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I just worked my first ten-hour shift, and I have another tomorrow.

This job is going to make me one of those people who can actually afford cons.

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>used to watch My Little Penis with my sister every day
>she abandons me in favor of friends her own age in 2014
>can no longer watch the show without feeling sad
>find our MLP cosplays from 2012 in the parents' garage

Where did the time and my little sister go?

>>9123217
underrated post. if >>9118793 is right then there's something seriously wrong with the BF, but she talks like she crippling insecurities, and they sound like the type of couple that bottle everything up instead of sharing their fears like a properly functioning pair. however hard it is, you have to drag these things out into the open.

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>played P3P when I was in 9th/10th grade
>never got to beat it because PSP died on me
>finally able to play it now
>finally beat it
>happysobbing.jpg
I now have a newfound desire to cosplay the FemMC. Never got the chance when I first got into the game because I lacked the skill, but now I feel confident enough to do it.

A local cosplayer drowned yesterday. So wired.

>>9123217
>>9123366
I brought it up and told him it made me uncomfortable, he told me to stop being so controlling.
The people who are angry at me for being upset aren't going to change their mind but thanks to everyone telling me to get some self respect and/or gave advice. Sorry for starting shit.

>tfw you tell your comm that you're pregnant and they act like it's a bad thing

wtf

>>9123661
Honestly, in an overpopulated world, it is.

>>9123245
I honestly couldn't give a fuck

She gets bitchy about a few of my friends, which bugs me.

>>9121851
>>9122075
I likely won't be living in an apartment. Most of the rentals there are houses with gated yards, which is A+ for me. It's a fucking small ass town with large houses.

>>9122160
I was thinking of a corgi as well, though I'm mainly looking at northern inuits! I had a corgi mix before and she was the sweetest thing

>>9123700
Sounds perfect! If you have to live cheap, small towns are so much better then suburbia.

I'm scared to post really anything because the thought of getting any negative feed back (not constructive) freaks me out. >>9118793
I wish this was my problem.. my bf likes women with huge tits and blonde hair. I'm a natural red head and average chest lumps. I feel bad that he doesn't look at women that look like me haha

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I had a very weird /cgl/ dream last night and want to share

>be me
>for some reason install wiiu in my bathroom that has a surveillance camera and small monitor on it
>get violently ill
>on the toilet with heavy period blood gushing out of me and diarrhea at the same time
>the sink is directly across from me, close enough for me to lean my face over
>suddenly mouth is full of mucus and snot like a headcold
>spitting snot into the sink at the same time as toilet happenings
>notice on the monitor Voldies face is there?
>panic but think its a still image
>somehow voldie is actually spying on me in the bathroom from the wiiu
>she records the whole thing
>posts me all around cgl and gossip ensues
>the whole internet knows I'm a disgusting freak
>never show my face again
>fin


the feels you feel when you dream about cgl

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>>9123453
P3P is trash, FES is better in every way, FemC is non-canon.

>>9123668
Yeah, let's all stop having children so that the next generation is 100% made up of crazy religious fundies and people from 3rd world countries who don't have acces to birth control. A+ plan for the future.

>>9123966
>not wanting the world to be overrun with blacks and Muslims

b-but that's racist

>>9123661
No one wants to deal with a mombie who is defined by her ugly brat that she'll drag to all the meets. Not all of us want to have children. Enjoy your ruined life.

>>9123988
Project harder, anon.

>>9123668

Not in the western world, it isn't.

>>9123661

Congratulations! Boy or girl?

>be me
>be not gay
>repulsed by adult baby shit
>bf of 9 yrs turns out to be a transwoman
>bf of 9 yrs turns out to have deep seated adult baby desires
>never been with anyone else

tfw when all this time you've been using lolita clothes to reassure yourself that you actually are feminine and pretty even though no one but a trans adult baby seems to think so.

>bf starts joking about stealing your clothes after transition
>feels intensify

>>9124286
And the only place I can even talk about this is some Chilean coffee farming board

>>9124286
Geez, how can someone keep that hidden from the person they're intimate with for a decade?

Seems pretty unfair to both of you, you'll never be into his (her?) fetish and he'll never have it fulfilled.

>>9123794
That bird-thing looks strangely familiar, but I can't place it.

>>9124286
Did you tell your bf(gf?) that you're not gay, and you're not okay with staying with them after a transition?

>>9123966

>It's your duty to have kids so the crazies don't win!

Yeah no thanks hon, can't afford kids and even if I could by the time this problem boils over i'll be dead

>>9124347
Nobody said it's your duty, dumbass. Just that it's stupid to shit on anyone and everyone who DOES want kids. You don't want kids? Don't have kids. But stop crying when someone else does.

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>>9123966
This.

It amazes me that the smartest people don't want to have kids. It's like they want the world to turn into Idiocracy.

>>9124372
Well, when you run costs and benefits you get an atrociously high (and rising) cost for a nebulous set of benefits (mostly feels), and there's always the chance that you either A. Suck at parenting or B. Your kid gets screwed up by society, such that even those are lost.

The only way to win is not to play.

>>9124381
If you don't play, you automatically lose when you get old.

>>9124410
As opposed to every other old person who gets tossed in a home and forgotten?

Society, at least in the US, has moved well beyond children taking care of their parents. Why spend twenty of your best years trying to get some kind of insurance on your worst twenty?

>>9124381
yeah, I'm pretty sure that my kids would be pretty fucked up and I'd be a horrible parent if I did have any so I'd rather not put another human being through that kind of suffering

>>9124286
Get out whilst you can. He is going to make your life a misery and demand you cater to his weird sexual fantasies (and probably steal and stretch out all your cutest clothes).

>>9124372
Oh please. The masses of idiots have never ever been relevant to civilization. Consider the years and years of illiterate, unhygienic, religious peasants that had dozens of children all through history. If idiocracy would be a thing, it would have been a thing hundreds, if not thousands of years ago. If you think we're going into a period where humanity, as a whole, is getting LESS intelligent, then you are seriously deluded.

It amazes me that you think you're one of the "smart people" for "getting" idiocracy, when you're giving yourself away as being completely ignorant yourself.

>>9124417
Do you really think our country will have the budget to care for us in our old age? We'll be lucky if Social Security is even still solvent.

>>9124433
Yeah, whenever someone sources satire as their argument support, it's hard to take whatever they're saying seriously.

>>9124439
As a smart person, I'm more than capable of navigating a 401k and working for a company with matching retirement benefits, to say nothing of saving through investments. If, by some miracle of medical science I manage to outlive such payments and my own savings, I doubt my children would be in a position to support me- as they would likely need support from their own support.

Protip: Social Security at this point is a scam. Don't expect it to be there in a decade.

>>9124298
To be fair, he started mentioning this stuff right out of high school, but It was always hypothetical and offhand.... So I guess it didn't really seem real at the time. We had a long distance relationship through college, so half the year it didn't really affect me. I think they knew it bothered me, so they downplayed a lot. I was in denial :(

>>9124308
Yeah. I think they really believe I'll change my mind when they're fully themselves and cuter than me, but I know that isn't happening. I know they're about to go through a really hard time with transition and coming out to their family, and I don't want to just abandon my best friend right before something so major, but I feel like a fraud.

I feel so shitty about the whole thing. This would be so much easier if I didn't care about them. I'm scared we won't even be able to be friends if I break it off, and I'm afraid they'll hurt themselves and it'll be my fault

Sorry it took so long to reply
This is the first time I'm writing this out and it's hard

>>9124429
How do I do it? D: this is the only relationship I've ever been in

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>sitting around the outside area of con, around midday
>a McCree cosplayer stands up and announces that it is now officially high noon
>pun opportunity spotted
>sit down next to him and light a joint
>'aha, is that my favourite substance I smell?'
>'well, it is high noon'
>pass him joint
>make smoke buddy with good taste in anime and hang out over the weekend

I like it when bad puns make good things happen.

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>>9124504
This entire post is autism

>>9124467
>I think they really believe I'll change my mind when they're fully themselves and cuter than me, but I know that isn't happening.

It's a lot more tolerable when they can passably transition. I wouldn't want to be seen in public with the "fat guy in a bad wig" look that so many of them have, or even worse, the sissy look.


Loving and caring for someone can go a long way, but what happens if they transition so much they're not the person you originally loved?

I just know I wouldn't want to be in your position, Anon. I hope you and him find a happy answer.

>>9124504
I'm jelly you live somewhere you can smoke up in public.