How do you guys cope with been lonely?

>>745137444
Just got used to it

>>745137444
You remember that you where put on this planet alone so you can live alone.

>>745137444
You don't

>>745137444
I try to convince myself more and more of killing myself one day

>>745137444
I find it better than being in a company, pretty much burnt all my bridges at this point

>>745137444
Go do shit? Yeah, we're born alone and die alone and all that, but really I cope with anything using a well placed booty call.

Nintendo

What's to cope with? If you don't like spending time with yourself maybe it's cause you don't like that guy. Fix that.

its gonna sound cliche', but im aline..just not lonely.

i guess just over time, you start to not Need others. And so, you begin to be OK with it.

But then, you can also screw up or set back whatever social skills you Had and basically youll become a shut in.

Havent had a girlfriend in a year..havent had sex for about that long too.

Being a loner has its ups and downs.

>>745137444
My ways ( I live extremely secluded)
>having a dog
>hobbies
>exercise and workout
>alcohol for them really lonely days
>porn
>masturbation and experimentation

I literally live in a cabin in the woods. I work as a ranger/park guard and have almost zero contact with people..

>>745137444
Try to find something to do that cheers you up mate! And also, nice trips

>>745138132
sounds Really awesome actually..

>>745137788
*were

>>745138132
I'd have a pet but i live in an apartment
>>745138077
It does have ups and downs, i don't have to worry about mucking up a social situation! >>745138009
Im fine with myself!

>>745138177
It's alright. Doesn't pay very well but enough. Prefer being alone but sometimes it gets a little too lonely.

>>745138209
Could be a cat

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>>745137444
>How do you guys cope with been lonely?
It's better to be lonely and unaltered than to be betrayed and discarded. You avoid the wound it causes entirely, and the regret that comes with it weighs only on the shoulders of people who choose to partake.

>>745138328
Heck cats are fat and lazy!>
>745138329
I guess thats true, i just feel the need to talk to people you know?

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>>745138132
tell us more

>>745138421
second

>>745138421
>tell us more
Like what?
I'm not ashamed of my sexuality.
>buttplugs
>prostate massage
>dildos
>vibrators
>masturbation in nature
>naked in nature
What ever, I've tried it all and more. Gotta keep life fresh.

>>745138283
yeah, i hear ya. i gotta job too and thats probably the only thing thats kept me from going over the deep end into some sort of lunacy

>>745138558
Fucking a tree is not nearly as satisfying as you might think beforehand.

>>745137444
>How do you guys cope with been lonely?
Prostitutes in my local brothel, booze and my hobbies.

>>745138558
ever nutted on the wild life?
not fuck them but maybe throw your cum at them?
like Migs from silence of the lambs?

>>745137444
I don't. I have every intention of killing myself. Hopefully before the end of the year. But I'm good with whenever.

>>745138649
need a roomie?

brothel?

where you from anon

>>745138614
Kek, haven't gotten to that just yet.
But something special about nutting in the forest without a single piece of clothing on.

>>745137444
everyones different, i just kinda get on with life but if you're craving friends im sure you'll find some eventually

>>745138706
Sorry mate, full up here in my tiny flat.
I'm from Australia.

>>745138762
Thanks anon

>>745138558
Make me want to be a park ranger/guard

Asmr

Had lots of friends, went out to the bar and shit at least 5 nights a week and now I only have like one friend I talk to and I stopped going out, been a few years now but honestly being lonely is better then fucking my body up and spending time with idiots who only want to do drugs and party. As for coping I can't help you there some days I'm kinda sad I don't have people around like before but for the most part I think I am happier. One thing I would suggest that might sound dumb is meditation and tea
I started drinking good tea, not nasty ass tea bag shit but really good tea shipped from overseas and it helped me realize alot about life.

TLDR; meditation and tea can do wonders

I don't feel lonely. I feel lonely about twice a year.

I realize this is a good thing. And i wouldn't want to change it. But i am somewhat curious what loneliness feels like to people who feel it deeply.

I mean, some people commit suicide over it, obviously people can feel it very deeply.

But i almost never feel it, and when i do, the intensity is only as bad as like... food cravings. "I REEEEEALLY want brazilian steak right now. I would FUCK UP some Picanha."

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I live on an island. No neighbors for miles.
It's all about keeping busy, keeping your mind busy.
I give my self little projects like my meat/fish smoker I built.
And like others have said, hobbies.

>>745138558
when was the last time you had sex with another human being?

Realise that the only real source of happiness is internal. If you base your happiness on the external world; sensory pleasure or material wealth or other people, then you'll be unhappy if they are taken away. We don't have the ability to completely control the outside world, and so the chance they are taken away is always there. The one thing we can control completely is ourselves. Look inwards and try and remove yourself from attachments like friendships, and you'll never be lonely again. The process to doing this is a lot of meditation and thought, so don't expect it to be a quick fix.

The other choice is make some friends or something.

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>>745137444
In the beginning, I didn't mingle well, and my social skills were of negative score. I started to stay alone and keep to myself more and more. Tldr it was easier to stay alone rather than accompanied.

As time flew by I started getting lonely. I would envy those couples on college sharing love. Depression got me pretty bad until one day I found a crow in a pet shop. He became my buddy Huginn.

As >>745138132 says, a pet and some hobbies make living as a loner extremely easier. I started having long jogs at the park and managed to stay fitter than I had ever been.

One thing leads to the other and soon folk started to talk to me. Notice that, even if you're a loner, it doesn't mean you must be alone at all times, and, it doesn't mean you can't be friendly to those that approach you.

Nowadays, I can say that I have many friends. I don't feel lonely when I don't want to. But being an introvert makes me seek isolation every so often.

Maybe one day I manage to get my paws on a girlfriend.

Nice trips btw.

>>745139005
>sex with another human being?
Few months ago while taking a leave in the closest town. Some chubby creature with more makeup than a clown from the pub.
But I don't go into town that often.

>>745137444
I drink and have phantasies about being something I'm not

>>745138858
And what have you done with knowledge/wisdom obtained from meditation? Fucking nothing you're still here on 4chan with rest of us mentally damaged fucks.

>>745138886
I love them ads

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>>745137444
Take pleasure in the sorrow, for it brings me closer to God.

>"The LORD is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit." -- Psalm 34:18

>>745139123
>But I don't go into town that often.
How does that work? Splain dat!
(honestly interested in how your life is)

>>745139042
This is good advice, similar to what I said with tea and meditation. Happiness comes from within not from material items or even others. You could be surrounded by 1000 friends and feel lonely, you could be in a barren forest with no one around for 1000 miles and feel completely content. It is more about understanding your own mind and self and that will lead to a less lonely more fulfilling life. It sounds cheesy and like a cliche but it sounds like that because it is true

nobody with brain is happy 24/7. Look at this way OP you are in a upper level than the rest of happy stupid people out there.

>>745139087
I loved your post untill
>>Maybe one day I manage to get my paws on a girlfriend.

That is so cringy bro
My furry detector is going off the charts

>>745139233
Lol! Classic mantra people created just to feel better about life.

>>745139210
Yeah but I'm not sad or depressed and I wake up happy just about everyday which is more then OP can say...just giving my two cents on what helped me.

>>745139042
Okay sure, but I don't see point of either - being with friend or being lonely, it's fucking same for me.

>>745139255
I get weekly supply drops near the ranger station (my cabin is 28 km from it) with basics and whatever I order extra like booze and stuff.
Can't leave my area of the woods while in duty, so driving into town would violate that and probably get me fired.
I have internet (around 10 mbit/s), no cellphones work here though so just a landline or internet.
I own this cabin, started by renting it.
I get paid monthly. I'm on duty 2 weeks at the time, get 1 week off (still on duty but secondary reserve with 50% pay) and once a year I get 4 weeks of real vacation.

>>745139565
That was the point of my post, it won't matter if you have others around or not if you are not happy internally you will always have a voided feeling inside.

>>745139004
that looks pretty cool.
where are you located?

or can you say?

>>745139836
Thank you, northern Sweden is where I'm at.

>>745139438
Nothing is perfect pal
I appreciate you loving it.

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My friends don't want to do much with me any more, but they will hang out with each other practically every day, and I never did anything to them to deserve to be ostracized. I honestly just learned to keep all the pain and loneliness inside so that people didn't think I was fucked. I just put on a fake smile and roll with life now.

>>745139901

sweet!
ive been tonsweden once, going back soon. A place called Froson ?

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>>745139443
Humans empathize in sadness and pain, not in joy. Which is what made his passion on the cross so brilliant and effective.

>>745139948
Ah Frösön near Östersund huh? Nice place.

>>745139565
>>745139638
>with friend or being lonely, it's fucking same for me.

Then you're not lonely, you're lost. That's either depression or some kind of existential crisis. See a doc or a spiritual leader as appropriate and look to broaden your understanding of the world. Meditate or take a class or something. Gotta find happiness internally bro.

>>745139907
fuck Them!

if thats how theynare gonnna be just, forget it.

be a loner. lots of ppl are

I'm a militaryfag. Before I went over seas I was pretty social, did the normie things like socialize and drink bla bla. Then I went to the middle East, I was young like 19 and just heard stories of what it was like. We had some pretty close calls with death, but finally made it to the last month there. A situation happened where a child died by accident, I felt bad about it but I understood that these things happen. But on that last month, I started to develop sleep paralysis. I didn't know what that was but my body would go limp and I would see a dead child just staring at me. It fucked me up for a bit because it would happen everyday, to the point I started to see things during the day. I for help for on meds but the whole event made me hate reality. I become self destructive, drowning in drugs to be somewhere else. I stopped of course and it got better, but without drugs I feel really lonely. Just alone in the normal world, and it sucks. I keep trying to move forward, do better, but I still get waves of lonesome

>>745140007
yeah man.
i got a couple good friends over there. Thats been my big expenditure for the past 2 years.

>>745139907
Don't want to be rude, but guessing you're relatively young? 18-25 right, if not younger? That's just part of getting old mate, friends drifting and stuff changing. Don't worry about it, in a few years you'll have different friends or priorities. When I left home at 18 I felt the same, but a decade on I'm married and have a totally different life. If I'd have known it was just part of life back then it would have been a lot easier.

>>745140082
Sounds good, have been there with my parents a couple times when I was younger.

>>745140063
more ppl are lonely in the world then they let on. People with big ass families n shit are, from just an onlookers experience, are fuckin lonely

>>745139638
do you sometimes realize how awesome it is that whatever the fuck you do (like wearing only a sombrero, then painting the back of your hands green, and then imitate the walk of a crab) no soul could ever witness it?

Does it make you step out into the woods and scream "WALALALALABOOOOGOOOBOOOGOOODINBINGDINGBINGBONGDONG" at the top of your lungs just because you can and nobody could judge you?

Man that's what I'd do. Not that crab walk thing tho, my skin is allergic to paint

>>745140198
the only thing i cant get used to is how you guys have like 18 hours of daylight or more?

are you friends with Varg?

>>745140207
Very true man, I have a loving wife and some great guys at work that always want to hang out, but I can bring myself to do

I got a girlfriend, stopped smoking weed, started working out and care less of the stupid shit that has happened in my life. And just try to take it easy. I love visiting Norway for hiking, that's where I can really let go of whatever shit is going on.

>>745140247
i actually have done similar things in public.
but im autistic aswell

>>745140247
Hahaha love you buddy, and yes that's exactly what I love about living here as well.
Running naked down to the lake screaming my lungs out like a food? Done that.
Taken a midnight walk singing 80's rock songs with my horrible voice? Yep.
It's a freedom you rarely get in the modern world.

>>745140341
you still have sleep problems?

that stuff can depress the hell outta you if youre only getting like, 3 hours of sleep.

>>745140001
Are you serious? Dude....

>>745140283
>18 hours of daylight
Hmm never thought about that and how odd it must be for strangers.
Up here in the north we have midnight sun, meaning the sun doesn't set at all for 2 months in summer.
And in winter it's pitch black for even longer.
Guess it's a native thing, we were born with it.
>Varg
Not friends but I have indeed talked to him once, a long time ago before his prison sentence.

>>745140001
sadness and pain are just irrelevant emotions. the point in here is that the human being is a social animal. but the society brainwash the mass with an "acceptable people behaviour" that means you must behave under this model to dont become in a outcast.

>>745140479
Not like nightmares anymore and I usually can sleep 5 hour straight. My sleep paralysis rarely happens now but the last one was pretty bad, I usually see things this time I heard voices

I visited India when I was 24 years old. For reference I'm 46 now. I had just come out of a break up that almost killed me. I was 10 seconds away from jumping off a bridge when a random person just came up to me and said "You're a decent person. Don't be sad"
So, I stopped myself. I quit my job. I had saved up a bit for a trip for both of us but after she left, I decided to visit India. Just seeing that country put my problems in perspective. There's people out there who had no food, not much in terms of quality of life but they were genuinely happy. It was not a charade I have been playing up all my life.
So, I arrived to the point that my happiness shouldn't be based on other people. It should be inherent. And I have lived alone since. I have a few girls over every now and then but I'm largely alone. And I feel content. I just don't believe in love anymore

>>745137444
I met a nice Korean chick on tinder and got engaged. Its working pretty well so far

>>745140438
man that's exactly what I'm talking about.
This has got to feel awesome.
I'm investing into trekking equipment for the last few weeks to get my shit together for visiting lonely as fuck places and feel unwatched finally, doing stupid shit like that everyone would judge me for
I can't really recall why I need this so much, but it's something I need to be doing the next months to get back on track again

>>745138283
sounds like the game firewatch

>>745140009
Been to both.

Still everything to me is meaningless.

>>745140575
i wanna hang out with him.now, he looks mental.

howd you get that job iut there anyways?

ever see any weird stuff?

>>745140682
Do it mate, find a secluded location and chill for a few days. It's wonderful.
>>745140688
That's because it is the real life version.
Fire duty is one of my main jobs.

>>745140632
yeah, anxiety n depression are heavily linked to that i think.

>>745140875
Yeah I agree, it's a shit feeling but I've gotten use to it, I'm prideful at the same time. I hate looking weak, so I just keep pushing through

>>745141034
i gotcha, man. i used to have bouts with it myself since i was a kid. had bad OCD and what they call ruminating thoughts.
Since i was like, 7

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>>745137444
I live by myself in the middle of nowhere in the highlands of Scotland (near Knoydart if you're interested), I am at total peace with myself, I don't feel lonely and make the choice to move here 14 years ago.
My brother comes to see me every 3-4 years, we have a blast but if he never came to visit again I wouldn't mind.
Other people do not validate you, do some interesting shit with your life you can look back on and then go somewhere to be left alone.
I was in the Parachute Regiment for 10 years, went to Iraq and Afghan, I attended Wolfson college in Cambridge and got my BSc, I had other interesting shit happen to me and with me over the years, now I've just had enough of people, why else would I visit /b/?

>>745137444
nice trips

lonely is just a delusion in the mind

go here

https://petitions.whitehouse.gov/petition/do-not-pass-hr672s198-combating-european-anti-semitism-act-2017

>>745137444
I smoke weed, jerk off, then cry.. like a real man should

i keep my mind off it. with porn.

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>>745140001
thank you anon

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I cuddle with my mom

>>745141398
Nah i live in australia, thanks though.

Alcohol

>>745138329
Good reply, anon.

>>745142902
hmmm

>>745137444
league of legends

>>745138329
Yeah.

>>745137444
suicide

>>745143553
Edgey

I try to focus on work, or go out for a smoke. If that fails, i take a drive or go for a walk or watch videos/play games.

Then there are the days when I just want to die.

>>745143690
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>>745137444
Became a bottom. It hurts my ass but at least I get treated like a princess by my bf, before that no woman ever gave me the time of day

>>745137444
Smoke weed, drink booze, horde knowledge, training, watch funny shit, expand music and movie collection...

>>745142902
this post feels good in a security way

4chan, memes, games and talking with the 2 friends i have

>>745137444
I go to work then come home and occupy myself with projects... Car, motorcycle, woodworking, welding, computers. Occasionally spend a weekend with my one of two friends who lives in the same town. My other friend wants to move somewhere in the pacific, build a boat, live on it and make money dong contract work for the coast guard. Admittedly that idea sounds pretty cool and when I lived in Alaska I often though about what it would be like moving out to the village and subsistence living or having your own boat. Though now while I'm young I'm too cozy with first world living and being a wage cuck even though it really sucks and seems pointless. Maybe if isave up enough money I can leave this shit early and do something like forest ranger anon.

>>745138132
Hey forest man, ever thought about room mates?