Be honest /b/ Whats the worst part for you after a breakup?

that one day of getting used to not writing her

>>743067428
For me the worst part was to manage what to do with new free time after breaking up with that cheating bitch.

>>743067428
Feeling empty

>>743067428
Implying /b/ can get a relationship in the first place.

The realization that you had a kid with her, you're a penniless fuck up which is why she isn't with you to begin with and that your life is only downhill from here.

The only thing between me and a bullet in my head is a 4 year old boy. He needs a dad.

>>743067428
>be me
>date blind girl
>beautiful 7/10 tall slender figure with curves in the right places
>long red hair.
>liked the way my face felt (shes been blind her whole life.) And thought i was a cool dude so she dated me.
>her aunt in Louisiana dies.
>her mom makes her move back because shes afraid of losing her to.
>since shes blind she cant exactly do long distance.
>right before she leaves she feels my face one more time
Thats what i miss the most.
Waking up and having her touch my face.
I miss the way her fingers scanned my face like a copy machine.
I wonder how shes doing now...

>>743067428
>the lack of sex
>waiting hours and days looking to my cellphone and knowing there wont be more texts and nice words from her anymore
>knowing its too hard for me to get a new girlfriend, specially one that fills me at least 50% like her
>feeling alone all the time and not being able to work/study for long periods because I cant help thinking of her

and so on

>>743067428
The first six months.

>>743067428
the way my abandonment issues make it feel like my mom is leaving me all over again.

I never realized that was what i was feeling - I would just feel this insane, brutal emotional pain. Try and fix the relationship, find out what was wrong with me, how could she be done with it... That is the worst part. none of the rest really matters. you meet new people. you fuck new chicks. but that empty spot inside never really heals.

just losing someone you can talk to whenever
it gets lonely

>>743067734
good for you. how old are you? fwiw I know lots of people who had kids young and have really fucking awesome lives - with new husband wife

>>743067428
forcing yourself to delete and erase everything from her its hard too
but I know from previous breakups it would be far worse to keep watching how she is doing, looking through her facebook/instagram updates and then, one day she is uploading a picture with another guy.

its better to cut every contact and think like your exgf doesnt exist anymore

>>743067428
>Whats the worst part for you after a breakup?
getting all the sex toys backs. super awkward. some roomate staring at you, glaring because she hates you since your ex hates you, and you are like on the verge of tears trying to pack some hand cuffs, a black dildo, a cat mask, a giant triangular pillow and 4 bottles of lube into grocery sacks or whatever.

The fact she wanted to stay friends afterwards
and being the fucking softie I am I couldn't just cut
her out entirely so now I have to act like I'm still a
friend to her when really I just need to not even
think of what we were.

Also, anything even remotely pertaining to our relationship she just throws side. It's awkward and I really just want say something about it but it's like why ruin the salvage you have, there's no chance you'll be together again. Not to mention the moment she'll mention another guy she has her eye on my heart will just sink.

Women are trash. Men are superior physically and mentally. Women only serve. They arent partners. Giving in to a woman emotionally is beta as fuck.

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>>743067734

Spoiling yourself instead of spoiling her.

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>>743068000
was gonna argue, but can't argue with the trips

>>743067998
You're the lowest common denominator. Drop that dumb hoe you fucking retard. Shes an emotional parasite.

listening to your roomate fucking the shit out of her and her screaming orgasms. you used to be so proud of those, and now they are daggers into your heart.

>>743067428
knowing theres not a possible way back even after years, I tried everything that worked fine back in the past when we had other arguments and bad moments. It doesnt work anymore so I have to assume its really over this time.

Its been a week since the breakup and I just cant do anything.

>>743067428

The fact that that whore found another BF at the beach after 16 days, told me about it because "She wanted me to know that she wanted to stay friends" and the fact that she bothered to write me IN DETAIL how much this guy was perfect and prolly was the love of her life.

>>743068000
Gay curious virgin detected.

realizing how much time I wasted with someone who sucked the life out of me. how all my friends were right about her, that I couldn't fix her, that I had missed out on a million opportunities I'd never get back. That is what I think of when I think of my ex.

>>743068194
sounds like she was trying to convince herself. also she is immature or evil.

>>743068180
sorry man, that feeling sucks. the good news is , once you get past it - there is very little about anyone that is truly unique. there are so many fucking people out there. I kick myself for fighting to make my shitty relationships work.

>>743068194
mine disappeared 15 days before we were about to celebrate our 6th anniversary.
>no response from her in all those days, she was reading my messages but ignoring them.
>she changed her profile picture showing her hugging another dude
>"hes just a friend, Im still the same, why are you saying these things to me? we can be friends too"
>declined her offer of course, but 1 month later I asked if we can meet at least for telling me what happened and she was like "I dont want to meet with you, Im with the man I want and love"

>7 months later she was writing me "How are you anon?" "I understand you dont want to talk to me.."
>Didnt answer. Fuck her.

crazy sluts. I wish I could go back and be 25 again instead of wasting 6 years of my life with someone like this

>>743068383
I feel you. that is some crazy shit.

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>>743068120
They both deserve death.

>>743067428
having sex 1 to 3 times a day, the the talking part. lucky my bitch is a fuckin bitch and we argue for days til were back together again

>>743068383
Shit man... She sounds like a crazy twat.

>>743068000
You poor fool.
A good woman provides emotional stability.
Not to mention the financial gain of two incomes, cooking and cleaning abilities, sex whenever, you don't have to fuck with nightclubs and tinder and all that trash.

But it is HARD to find a good woman, you'll know when they don't fuck with your emotional state, and you don't experience looping conflicts, where shit gets brought up again and again and never resolved.

>>743068230
I fuck a load if women. Thwy love being controlled and reminded of their inferiority. It tuens them on. I would never tie mysekf down, however. Stay blue pilled home goy.

>>743067783
Kekd so hard at the end.

>>743067734
He needs a dad, but he doesnt need you. get your shit together

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>>743067428
The sex obviously, what else should i miss.. the girl? That would presuppose me having feelings for an other human being, the sole idea is just silly

Getting used to being on your own again, no more messages throughout the day and arranging plans etc.
But I've got more time for friends and I don't have to worry about being tied down by someone who was too selfish to care about my own well being.
Look for the positives

>>743067783
Can't she send you texts? Like for serious.

Just because you're blind doesn't mean she can't read or type anymore. Hell she can send voice texts.

>>743067996
lol. well at least she aint fighting you lol. i had to push my brand new 300 dollar ac out her window and she kicked my 50 in tv and 1000 dollar cpu multiple times. she still want the dick tho

>>743067783
Didnt you make a thread on adv about daring your blind friend

>>743067783
>>since shes blind she cant exactly do long distance.
its called a phone.

love the scanner part though. I'll jerk to that.

Checking their social media every day and coming to the realization that they lied to you and cheated on you the entire time, and getting blocked when you confront them about it.

Too specific?

>>743068383
Crazy ass bitch. Don't worry anyways, it's not like you have no chances now. A cousin of mine got his first gf when he was 32.

>>743067998
what 94 said, get out now if you have feelings.

>>743068521
Traditional cuck detected
>women provide emotional stability
I literally bust out laughing and woke my room mate. Citation needed. Protip: citation doesnt exist.
I can cook and clean better than any woman ive met. A bachelor has zero need for two incomes. And thats even if the woman works at all.

>>743068743
>years later. start getting threatening email about how I raped Julie
>wtf, i never did. we broke up, it sucked but whatever
>call her family, they won't take my calls.
>call her, she won't take my calls
>FB her, get immediately blocked
>realize later she was sending the threatening email, the dumb cunt.
>never understood why - we'd been broken up for years. she had no reason to make that kind of shit up.

still bugs me, just b/c I wanna know wtf happened

thinking about her everyday
finding something you wish you could share with her
seeing pictures of her being happy with chad
knowing she doesn't remember you anymore

>>743067734
I second this notion. I dont want to live, but cant an hero because my son needs me... or so I think.

>>743068817

Tbh a GOOD woman is ALWAYS better than being alone. The problem is finding a good woman.

>>743067428
Trying to find another girl to fuck xD

>>743068894
this happens to me all the time
its like, theres this movie we've been waiting to see together and maybe she saw it too but doesnt care anymore, not like you do.

and many other examples with daily things and routine, music, work or things you enjoyed together

>>743068984
even fat bitches are slut now a days

Treating eachother almost like strangers when not long ago you were two closest people on the world.
Realising that while you loved her she didn't love you back and preffered someone else.

>>743069089

When have fat bitches ever NOT been sluts?

>>743067428
Worst part is when she has her friends collect her records and then change her number. I guess that I dont need that though...

>>743067428
disposing of the body

>>743067734
He'll have a dad, as soon as your ex finds a new guy.

>>743069089
well in the past most of the average girls were faithful. you know if you were dating a chubby/ugly girl it would be better than the typical slut who has hundreds of "friends" and can cheat everywhere.

but now, it doesnt matter anymore. its even worse because the 5/10 girl can go out any time and find hundreds of men saying she is beautiful, every body is pretty and she can has anything she wants. (this only works for girls of course)

So if a girl just wants to get another bf or someone superior she can do it any time. Try it for yourself, make a Tinder account with some average girl and wait 5 minutes.

Now try this being a guy and even nice men with studies, work, fit or not being bald can stay single for years.

>Waking up to an empty bed
>She was my only social contact
>feelsbad

>having to find worth in myself instead of through her
>the the fear of getting hurt again, so you just stay lonely

>>743068726
Legit the best way to describe it. It tickles your face. Like its getting photo copied.
And she never gave me her number if she got one in louisiana. She also wouldnt pick up her old number.

>>743067428
those tits are lit bro

>>743067428
that picture
>wants him to forgive her by sending boobs picture
>shes used to do that
>forgive her for what? bet she cheated on him many times and he discovered only one of them
>whats her method for forgiving? doing what she always does for everybody.

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>>743067783
You went full Katawa Shoujo and got the bad end. GO AFTER HER YOU FOOL, SHE COULD BE THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE. Godspeed, anon!

>>743069089

But are they?

No really, i know a LOT of girls who are great human beings. They can argue without bitching, i KNOW they're loyal to their bf's and they're also very pretty.

They're all very introvert doe, i guess you gotta look for that. If they have hobbies and interests beside their social lives, try. It means they aren't attention dependand.

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>>743067896
Yes. But have you noticed you always go for women that are like that?

>Try and fix the relationship

That or date someone that bores you to tears. There's that rush after a break where she ignores your messages for weeks?!
Then she replies and you're back in.

pic related...and the sex was magic, right ANON?

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>>743067428
saying goodbye to their dog if they have one, Im a sucker for dogs.

>>743067783
Oh my god this is so sad

>>743067428
when it's 6 to 7 years later and she's stalking you online

>>743067428
Trying to find out what to do with all my money.

Finding motivation to not cheat on your current gf with her (ex) is the hardest part

>>743067428
Not having anyone to fall back on because whoops apparently I can only have one friend at a time.

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>>743067428
being alone

>>743067783
Go find her, ask for her hand.

>>743067428
not getting back at her.
I want her to hurt, to regret crossing me and go after her little friend who acts tough over the phone but won't face me in person.

the thing is, he's a diabetic and has some insulin machine on his side the whole time. I could shoot him up with corn syrup and kill his ass, but I'd def be caught because its obvious as fuck who would do it.

I miss the sex, but beyond that I didn't care for her at the end, I just hate the fact she worked against me.

knowing you cant get anyone like her and you resign with the next girl because you dont have a lot of choices.

do you know when your exgf was a 7-8/10 and it felt awesome? but now, years later you cant get those kind of girls anymore and you have to look for average girls

>>743068000
Okay sonny

>>743067428
not having someone to talk to at al times. also going back to jerking off. even if getting back porn is nice, bu tthat feeling only lasts one day

>>743067428
Name? More?
Looks like a Jackie I knew

> just ended a 3 year relationship bc i wasn't a priority anymore
> want 2 die every day

worst part is not having someone to message every day and feeling like theres a void no one can fill

itll get better though, ive been through this same experience before so at least its not as bad as then

>>743067428
The worst part is realizing how much of a cunt the person was. Think about everything they ever did to piss you off. Everything they did that hurt you. Then you realize the happiest times were because you did something nice for them.

>>743073249
>bc i wasn't a priority anymore
imo the partner should never be a priority in your life. own life comes first then you help eachother out when needed.

>>743067428
for me one of the hardest things is I cant watch porn anymore because I remember of her all the time.
It happens to me most of the time

>>743067428
fapping to her nudes and thinking about her fucking other ppl

>>743067428
Just image searched it, this is real shit.
Name?

>>743073249
feel you anon, mine was hanging out with her fem friends or wanted to stay at home instead of being together. she worked a lot too so at the end we barely saw each other.
it has to end sooner or later but it still hurted a lot. seeing how she lost interest in me over the time

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>>743073378
A partner should be a priority.
When making plans - be it for the future or for the weekend - you should think abut your partner and arrange those plans so that they are in the best interest of you both.

Not having a partner as a priority doesn't work out. An 'independent woman' with that mindset might consider going for studies abroad without her bf, a guy might go out for a Friday night reunion with his classmates - twelve of whom are sluts.

Your partner should always come first - above your friends, your family and, sometimes, even your own egoistical wishes. Only then can it go truly smoothly.

>>743067519
This

>>743073600
exactly my feels, was always work and friends felt like we were strangers, didnt even fuck lmao
>>743073378
never be a priority? so you should never make time for them? i wasnt eveng etting laid

>>743067428

When she's adamant she's taking the dog. I had to pay her $1000 for him.

>>743073858
yeah, I mean it was like that at the start and everything started falling off but you're exactly right

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>>743067428
A tie between the 1st few days where it literally physically hurt, i didn't even knew i could feel like this, and now, the lack of physical contact, i miss having someone in my arms so fucking much.
But not her, fuck her for making me feel that bad

Or maybe missing pic related

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>>743067428
The long, burdened walk through the woods. The loneliness on the return trip. Having to bleach my shovel and hoping it won't corrode another hole in it.

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>>743074006
I learned that the hard way.
Thankfully all is well now.
If my current relationship ended I'd off myself 100% - I just couldn't live alone anymore.

>>743067428
The withdrawal from happy hormones.
For a little while there you have this relationship version of a crack monkey, screeching and chittering loudly at me to debase myself and to do whatever it takes to get back with the other person and your source of happy hormones, no matter how bad they were for me.

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>>743074078
Man, the bleaching's always the most difficult part.

>>743067428
being alone all over again. living in a small town does this. I know the moment I end up a relationship I will be alone again because most of the girls here are uninteresting.

In fact right now Im talking with one Ive just met online and all her hobbies are "dancing and singing" nothing more. A 28yo girl.

>>743074131
Fuck good on you mate,
happy to hear, lets hope I move on and find me a good mrs that actually dedicates time to me

>>743067998
Think of it like this anon, she's asking you to be there for the boyfriend duties, but doesn't want to do her part as the girlfriend.
When you're in a relationship, you're both friends and lovers. What sort of shitty friend would ask you to put your emotions aside in order to maintain a connection?

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>>743074268
Best of luck to you.
on a side note - look for personality over looks. She can learn how to dress well and do makeup, she can gain/lose weight, she can overcome shyness, but she's not likely to develop a new personality. Sometimes it's worth investing time and effort into something.

>>743074173
and my source of*

>>743074582
deadset, but unfortunately this one had a great personality, wasn't into clubbing or makeup but she's just changed over the years. :/ at least it wasnt as bad as my previous relationship, she fucked my best mate lmao

>>743068000
Trips of truth, anyone who disagrees is a beta male cuck or a triggered sjw feminist

>>743074689
Another anon here, having your best friend fuck your girlfriend sucks. Finding out that you're only in a relationship, because your girlfriend decided that being with you, would be almost as good as being with your best friend who doesn't feel attracted to her, sucks even more imo.

>>743074582


Girls tend to change their personality all the time, even girls about 30yo. they make unexpected things
"but you didnt like that? how are you doing it now?"
"you didnt think that way why are you saying this now?"

Or whats worse, having manipulative friends who keep telling them things and always going crazy after some time.

I remember my ex, I was out for work 1 weekend. She went out with her best friend, she said to her "I saw your bf -me- hugging another girl the other day" (Obviously a lie)

Guess what she did that night? Cheated on me with the first guy who talked to her in a club. Didnt tell me that until 4 months later, and only because I asked what happened and insisted for days. Crazy bitches.

>>743074955
yeah but I dropped that bitch like it was hot, now this next one has fucked me up bad by not prioritising me

feels like i'm an unwanted cuck ;( lets pray the next one is gold

>>743075039
thats some fucked up shit bro, hope you're alright now man

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>>743075039
Well, then she wasn't really that great - she didn't put you first. A rational person would have waited for you and talked it through.
Also it's a good idea to have a chat about your and hers friends and see if any of them might be a problem - and decide what to do about it.

I feel bad for you.

>>743071967

I never even got to say goodbye to her dog...
The poor thing must be wondering what happened to me.

>>743067428
The residual extreme sexual lust for that person in particular that will probably last until the day I die.
Probs cuz we were both nymphomaniacs.

>>743075039
I never got why women who are friends with each other, think it is okay to give advice and make up stories that are bound to screw over the relationship of their friend.
>>743075089
Well if you manage to communicate that need up front to the next suitable subjects of your affections, you're bound to meet someone who will oblige you.

>>743074011
post more of her

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>>743075341
>>743075039
Just struck me that this 'friend' either had a crush on you or was just jealous and fucked in the head.
I've seen girls like this in my life - THE most toxic people in existence. In comparison to them, psychopaths and schizophrenics are a piece of cake.

>>743067480
Ya, this.

>>743067576
This too

Kek, just realized I remember nothing I ever did with my first gf. Almost completely nothing.

Good riddance, dumber than a box of rocks. Or less motivated. Same thing.

>>743067783
Fuck dude, did not visit /b/ today to feel

the crushing loneliness that sets in at 3am after you've slept all day because you don't want to deal with the feelings of guilt after breaking up with someone who loved you because you knew it wasn't what you wanted

>>743074011
You're still going through withdrawal anon.
Being in a situation where a child might happen, makes your brain reward you with hormones.
Once you get out of that situation, your brain will go all "Where's the source of my drugs man, I feel bad, so should you".
Exercising might help you replace some of the hormones that you got from love, with the ones you get from physical exertion.
>>743075596
>either had a crush on you or was just jealous and fucked in the head.
Sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder to me.
It could be all three at once when you're dealing with a person with untreated BPD.
I say this from experience from both dating and befriending these people.

>>743067428
The part where you find she has a dating profile with like 100 pictures of her in her bra and panties

>>743068120
letting that shit fly in your house, man? what the fuck?

>>743068120
Why is she there? Fucl that homie. Go kill them

>>743075873
Oh man.
The racing heart and a cold pressing pain in your chest, the blurred vision and mind jumping from 'I'll kill them' to 'I'll kill myself'.

>>743075873
not the same, but one day I was with a friend who just created a tinder account and I was helping him to choose pictures and bio.
guess what happened when we started swapping girls? My gf appeared there, looking for a relationship or who knows what.

I felt too miserable and depressed, it still hurts.

>>743067783
this literally hurt me

>>743074011
Yea i only miss the huge titties, moving on to another pair without autism

I had a dream last night about the first one, even though we've been broken up for over ten years and I'm in a healthy committed relationship.

>>743076032
Dude ive planned out so many times how im gonna kill myself. Im basically just waiting for the moment where ive got nothing to lose. Right now what's keeping me going is weed and video games. Im a fucking mess man. Ive wanted to talk about it with my family but what's the point.

>>743075873
I was in a chat room once, nothing special, just passing time at home.
Somehow I end up speaking with a guy who has met in person a girl, and Ive got a terrible feeling about that.
Asked about details, and he met with my current gf. There wasnt any doubt, even mentioned "she said she had an argument with her bf, honestly she was like desperated".

Not telling anything else because you can imagine it. I felt destroyed, didnt ask for details neither, just closed it and called her.
Things like that make me lose all hope.

>>743076032
>>743076078
Why didn't either of you end up on "Fuck her!"?
She's got just as much agency as you do, her actions condemned her. This reflects badly on her, not you.

>>743068383
You made the one only right choice. Her new faggot dropped the THOT and she wanted validation that she wasn't used up already. If you would have responded you would have become her emotional tampon. You literally drove her crazy, and I guarantee for the next week all she thought about was how you didn't respond like a good little faggot. You won.

Good on you, bro. From one bro to another, I hope your life is going good right now, you deserve it.

>>743076332
You should talk to your family so they get you the help you need, anon.

>>743076332
The point of talking about it with your family is not being alone with those emotions anymore anon.
It gives them a chance to show you that in spite of what your brain is currently telling you, there are people who care about you.

>>743076492
Its hard to admit to them. I always put up this front that im doing fine. But once i come home or get of the phone the depression kicks in to remind me that im not ok.

>>743076437
Thank you, it was hard to decide to ignore her but I know I made the right choice.
Just knowing she wrote to me while she was still staying with the new guy felt already like a win to me.

And my life right now is pretty messed up, Im actually OP and my last gf has broke up with me 1 week ago. The whole purpose of this thread is because her.

>>743067599
You got to comprehend that /b/ has got normal folk on the outside, weird on the inside, but normal people like you and me im sure. Okay more like no one but you get the point ._.

>>743067783
Making me cry before class anon, thanks but also fuck you xD

>>743067428
not gonna lie. worst part for me was always the thought that she will fuck other people.
that shit bothers me even when the breakup was 100% from my side

>>743077019
its sad but yes, girls can have sex anytime they want, if they are feeling bad after a breakup or whatever happens they just go out or meet online anyone of their tastes and its done.

but for a guy its too hard. thats why girls can fix their lives so much quicker

Knowing it was the love of your life and the most perfect fit on so many levels, especially when she was my high school sweetheart and the history we had there.

Here ya go OP, think you got it bad? This will take several posts.

Didnt see her for 20 years, reconnected later online and it was basically something right out of a novel or movie. Could finish each other's sentences, know our thoughts, had the same way of expressing things and our feelings.

But as always, the bs starts to happen, the pushing, the pulling, the mind games, distance, etc. Had a hiatus for several months and well, she was never the same as she had been for the first 4 years. Her moral compass went way off track, involved herself with lowlife simpleton rejects for quick flings, even admits to me she used them (this was someone who prided herself on honesty, yet admits she used these people). She wouldnt stop lying and deceiving me, would lash out on me for no reason, and threatened to call the police and/or file harrassment charges on me. She did that 12 times. Yes, 12 times. Yet, right after we would be talking, close again, laughing it up, sometimes within hours after those threats.

She made everything about sex during that second time around, would always say 'attachments suck, its bs' , yet at times she would express herself in ways you don't do if its 'just about sex'.

>>743067801
If you're looking to get filled up to at least 50%, you're probably looking for a boyfriend, sperglord.

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She was actually my first, and well, unfortunately, things didnt go as planned that day. Its something I never should have done --meeting just to get fucked. I wasn't able to 'get it up' on occassion due to being very nervous. She tells me I did things like a champ when I went down on her, but that it "wasnt enough to keep me around". I kinda figured that after so much she expressed to me from her heart, that sorta thing wouldn't really be a factor. She then exaggerated things, made it worse than what it was, saying how I never got hard at all, which was total bs because I was plenty hard at different times, I just was unable to maintain it here and there. Had I dared said and did these things to her and treated her like that, she would have been broken to a zillion pieces since she is very sensitive. Always was ok for her though.

We still were talking, but it was never the same again. Runs back to the jerkoff she was using for some time and when that finally got old, we wind up talking again and she says how she was 'sorry for everything' and opening up to me in ways she hadnt in a long time. But that didn't last long. Days later she said how she was drunk and missing her girls. I knew that was just an excuse though. Bought her stuff for her b-day on two ocassions, once that year and then the next, all of which never got a response, but she kept them. I mean, i gave up at this point trying for something deeper, I just wanted to end it all the right way and not have us hating each other over nothing.

Thing is, she was one of them introverted, shy (cept behind closed doors) and structured type of woman with all of these rules, and what others think matters to her a great deal (family, friends, etc).

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Its all about impressing them and being with someone worthy enough on the outside (and i dont meant looks). I was simply never good enough on the outside for her and she alluded to that\hinted at it several times. Even when meeting me, i offered to come down to see her, but she refused, wanting to do some half-way bs that was farther out from where she lives. It was like she was ashamed to have me around her and didnt want to be seen by anyone with me.

You guys need to understand though that this is the cycle so many woman go through. They get married (for the wrong reasons, just like she told me herself). It falls apart, then they go out and spread their wings (among other things), and when that gets old, they decided that groundwork and provisions in life mean a lot more , especially when they have kids. They want someone who basically who will be established in a big way and it wont matter if he looks like a cave troll either. Its about survival with most women these days fellas. Plain n simple. The other idiot she was with who was she was fucking before and after me? Yep, I am sure he had np getting it up...mainly because he was using her too and was nothing but a scumbag. But where did that get him? Where did all that supposed "great sex" get him? It got him nowhere, thats where. She didnt wanna be seen or caught dead with him either. He too was kept on the proverbial far-off curb like I was.

>>743069364
Step-dads are worse than no dad pretty often

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Yep, I still lover her. I always will...even after she actually and finally did take me to court for "harassmemnt". I sent her daughter a b-day gift and that seemed to cause it, yet everything for her months before was just fine (that was mentioned on the complaint too). When I gave her the b-day gift for herself, she actually shook my hand, took the gift, etc. Yeah, that really sounds like someone who is being harassed huh. Judge dismissed it, was over in less than 3 mins, knew it was all bs, but said "no further contact". Just as I knew she would do too, she brought this new guy to court with her who wasnt even there for the first 2 hours as we waited, yet she steps out during the 5 min recess, and comes back with him for the remaining half hour. Totally deliberate that was. That was back in Feb, been 6mos now.


Fact is, bad timing. Timing is a bitch. I wound up moving, lost contact for too long, and things in her life that happened complicated matters once we reconnected years later. I use to follow her home from school with her gfs, tease her by throwing pebbles near her from a distance to get her attention, tease her in classes, and...who would have thought after 2+ decades passed, that I would lose my virginity to her. What are the odds? My 1st major crush, fell for her instantly when I seen her for the 1st time, couldnt stop looking at her --was no different when I seen her years later. And look what it devolved into so unnecessarily? Without any true reason at all. Nothing had to be that terminal. People just decide to want it that way. She chose to tear down and never fully believe in us; the only man who truly ever did love her. This guy she wound up with, yeah...her family and friends will love him. He's perfect. Aside from working in the same field as her, he's a friggin volunteer firefighter, ffs. He may as well be a saint.

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>>743077523
I've only read part of your story and I've already named your story "The joys, woes and tribulations of dating a girl with BPD".

>>743067428
Ignoring the two straight months of all caps emails filled with threats blackmail and begging.

But my experience was a bit unique i think.

(continued-last one)

Someone mentioned here how you resign yourself and settle for what you know you wont ever have again, with someone else. Well...that I wont do. I wont go down that road. Because you see, doing that would invalidate everything I ever told her and what I felt for her. Reneging on that would mean I never meant it. It was THAT real for me and always will be. No one is missing out on something. That is impossible. How do you miss out on something you never had to begin with? Ill always love her and care about her, and if she wants to make it seem like i never existed, np. I know why she did what she did, i get it. I know her heart like no other does (one of the reasons i believe is why she turned on me in that way). But things will come around for her all in due time. It does for everyone.

So yeah, that's my story. Best advice I can give anyone here --dont get caught up with the sexual bs and other crap that is going to wear off eventually. In time, a woman (not a girl) isn't going to give a rat's ass about that shit, especially when she has kids. She wont care what you look like, how hot your body is, or how big your dick is, nor impressed with how cool you are and what not. Those arent her needs. She was much more important ones to fulfil. And if you cant fulfil those, youll be in the dumpster real quick, no matter what she may have told you and how much she claimed to care and love you.

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>>743077843
duuuuuude

>>743077787
Yep. You aren't the only one to say that. My own firends and family did as well. There is no doubt she has something going on in that area. She even once told me how i "didnt know certain things about her" when she was upset once, but would never tell me. She allude to a lot without fully elaborating...something she claimed to hate, but again, always ok for her to have done. Oh well.

Are you me?

>>743075427
Sorry i don't have anymore of that, though i wish i could see them in action

>>743078163
She sounds like a text book example of bpd, does she also make a habit of badmouthing all of her friends behind their backs?

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>>743077843
You should read a book called The a rational Male... fuck everyone in this thread should.

>>743078818
*The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. You can find a free .pdf online just google it.

>>743067783
Me sad boy now

>>743078533
Yep, she did that several times, fell out of it with long time girlfriends she had due to drama like that. Heard from a mutual friend how a couple of them found out she was talking about them negatively yet would act totally different around them.

Youll love this one too. She told me very early on when we first reconnected how she "never came" before. Yes, NEVER in her life. Every woman I have told that too instantly laughed and said what bs that was and I knew myself it was too, but when you are very wrapped up with someone you go a long with it or even possibly give them the benefit of the doubt somewhat. This was said to basically inflate my ego as being her savior while she was at a low point in her marriage. Lame ass bs is what it is though.

>>743067428
Show her face

>>743067428
Asking for my stuff back.

>>743068665
LOL imagine at the dinner table the software reading out loud the sexting he sends

>>743079237
Yup that sounds exactly like the type of mind games I've learned to avoid.
It took me going through 2 rounds of dating women with bpd, but now I never get romantically involved with people who act like that.

>>743067801
I can fill u up 100% fagboy

There has only ever been one ex I cared about; she was my first true relationship. (The firs girl I ever "dated" asked me out because I looked remarkably similar to this guy at school she had a crush on.)

We had a long-distance relationship for a few years until she broke up with me because I was being to controlling; admittedly, I was because I was paranoid of losing her and her father hated me.

The breakup nearly destroyed me; I was suicidal and did a lot of stupid shit.

5 years or so later, I hear a song on the radio that reminds me of her and I have to pull over and cry. I email her, but get a cold reply.

A month ago; 10 years after I'd last seen her, she reaches out to me and we start talking again. The week after that, I drive the 6 hours to see her and it's an emotional reunion. She is every bit as spectacular as I remembered.

We've been in daily contact ever since.

The problem is she's going through a divorce and I see signs of depression; suicidal thoughts, professed desire to be alone, but I hear a fondness in her voice when we talk and I see her old self returning.

It is my greatest hope in life that she can love me once more as I still love her.

>>743067428
That thirty minutes before I decide to masturbate that I think being in a relationship is a good thing

>>743068622
This.
I broke up with my ex a couple weeks ago because she wouldn't let me do anything apart from see her. Really sucks not getting a good morning message from her or watching a movie together, but hey, I've got my mates and hobbies. The positives outweigh the negatives.

>>743077523
>>743077632
>>743077740
>>743077843


Youre a fucking loser
Go write a book or something retard no one cares

And in 5 fucking shit posts u could have just said

TLDR was virgin and now im single virgin and trying not to be super depressed.

Thats your 5 retard posts in 1 sentence u dumb bitch

>>743080109
Agreed bro, this dude needs to learn to jerk his dick when he starts getting emotional. Girls are idiots, and easily gotten, if you have trouble with it then youre probably an insecure cuck with whom she wouldnt respect anyways.

>>743079849
Man oh man, I can relate to a lot of that for sure. I wrote the long story above about the ordeal I had gone through. Did the LDR part of that too, as well as the 'alone thing' and lots of pushing and pulling and her lashing out and accusing me of what yours did. I really dont get all that, because what can you do in that situation? In my case too, she had these 'options' pulling at her (as she called them) and well, when you feel that deeply for someone, more distance surely isn't going to help at all. On top of that, one little negative thing can have her scurrying to one of them as well. So, you do all you can to maintain contact and communication, yet somehow that is 'controlling'. Meh. No win situation when that happens.

Seems I will likely experience soon what you did, you're a bit ahead of me. I am sure she will marry this guy all in due time for all the wrong reasons, no different than she admittedly did the first time. The more things change the more they stay the same.

Trying to figure out what random slut I'm going to fuck tonight

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The inability to move on even when it's clear it'll never spark back up.

>Met and started dating a gal several months after my divorce.
>Things were going great, like *really* well
>We shared a few interests, and even then ones we didn't I saw as a worthy time investment (reading, gardening, theater etc rather than clubbing like the ex)
>3-4 months into the relationship her sister dies unexpectedly (35, gf was 23), Dr. fucked up her Rx, just slipped away in her sleep one night (left 2 kids and a husband of less than a month)
>GF was very independent, one of the things I found most attractive about her, but when she was grieving she didn't know how to let people in to help so she started to go crazy.
>We hung out less and less and when the holidays hit she went full on batty.
>Calls me up saying "I can't feel like a shit gf anymore and try to deal with my own stuff at the same time"
>Tried to tell her that I wanted to be there with her and help her (losing a sibling and a divorce aren't the same, but tragedy is tragedy), but it didn't matter
>Told her a week or so later that I won't be friend zoned and if we stay in contact it's bc she thinks we might get back together later
>She agrees and that goes on for months.
>Start smelling the friend zone creep in
>Decide to start her a project (I'm a bit of a woodworker) and once it's done if she wasn't ready, so cut comms.
>2 months later I finished and we cut comms

She works with the wife of a good friend of mine. They wen't out to dinner one evening and my friend told her "You know, you really fucked up by letting him go" ex broke down in the middle of the restaurant crying saying "I know"

Worst part is knowing we both want it to work but girl brains gets in the way of doing things like they should be done. Watching her slowly turn into something else and knowing she wanted help but being too proud to ask for it or to let people in.

Pic related is the inlay on top of the jewelry box I made her.

>>743079849

I'm going to be blunt here anon, but you need to move on dude. Giving a fuck about a woman for that long is unhealthy as hell. She had a life for ten years while you wallowed in pity.

Fuck her, but lose that emotional dependence. Look into yourself for that.

>>743080589
Yeah; it's a tough choice. Do you let yourself risk getting hurt again? Can you bear the pain if it fails?

In my case, I'd give anything for her and dedicate my life to making her happy. If it doesn't work, I'm giving up on women altogether.

>>743082167
Oh, I didn't wallow in pity. I joined the Army, dated several women, was engaged to one who was a sociopath, and have had a lonely but not unpleasant life.

I'm not emotionally dependant; I had planned a solitary life for years and, the way I see it, she's the only one who ever made me feel a full gamut of emotions, so it's worth a chance.

>>743068726
She probably scratched her asshole in her sleep.

Nothing because women are terrible people.

>>743067428
Why the fuck would I forgive somebody when their nudes are that fucking lazy? Hunched over, shit posture, tits just hanging out of her shirt, no presentation. If you want me to forgive you, have your had up pulling your shirt down, maybe grab a titty and hold it up so it doesn't look like a saggy mess like what the fuck is wrong with you. You don't look aroused or sexual in the slightest you just have tits hanging out in the air like no bitch there's NO desire to forgive you AT ALL. Learn how to take a good picture and arouse a man or go buy yourself a fucking vibrator because I'm reserving this dick for a slut that knows how to present herself.

That she let me play the fool for months. 4 years later I can almost forgive her. But that guy she hurt is still living in me still and reminds me what we went through while she didn't even care.

>>743067428
not knowing who to call when you just want to talk. And the sex.

>>743067428
Mind running constantly and resulting sleeplessness.