>Have been with gf for 8 years
>Tells me she wants to be 'polyamorous' i.e. open relationship
>After weeks of pain and soul searching I reluctantly agree
>3 months later she meets someone she really likes, who's moving to the US in 3 weeks
>Tells me she wants to go to be with him and asks if I'm coming or not
>I decide not to
>She says she'll still visit
>Might actually suit me to have a gf I only see every 3 months lol, this might actually be good!
>Ah, so now (predictably) he has a problem with her seeing other people
>She doesn't want to compromise her new orientation (i.e. Polyamorous), but she does really like the guy
>They make a deal: he's OK with her seeing me, we can kiss, cuddle, whatever, just no sex
>I'm thinking 2 things: 1) Why the fuck is some guy giving me permission to fuck my gf? 2) But it would be nice to have someone who will visit me and to kiss and cuddle with.
>I can still date normally so it doesn't affect affect my love life
What would you do lads?
"Pain and soul searching"
You convinced yourself it's ok for other people to fuck your girlfriend.
Then she leaves you for someone else and begins treating you lick a cuck.
How did you not see this coming? Women are only "polyamorous" till they find a dick they can't move up from. That "orientation" (which is total bullshit) goes out the window in a heartbeat.
Face it, she wanted to keep long term options open with your ass while she took miles of dick. And for women, they can literally fuck as much as they want since they are the choosers of sex - dudes, it's much harder to find other women to fuck, especially those that are ok with you being in another relationship. Women are possessive fucks.
stop referring to her as your gf
congrats you got kinda cucked, but now have a snuggle buddy when she visits, its really not bad for you as long as you don't heavily emotionally invest in her
No, I'm pretty sure cucks take pleasure in the thought of their woman sleeping around. If she just cheated that doesn't make him a cuck. He has to like it.
Which, seems like he does if he let her go.
OP, buy a rope.
do you want to kiss and cuddle some other dude's fucktoy that's now your ex?
if so do it.
personally I wouldn't, but I'm fairly jealous and only use women for sex so clearly I'm not you. I'd probably let my girl kiss and cuddle you if she wanted to though.
OP, I'm sorry, but the only recourse here is suicide.
That means its not polyamorous but tbh shes not even real and youre just a larping cuck
Tell her to fuck off and be with him then, not having sex means youre not in a relationship and youre just paying for another persons existance for no reason
yeah that's true, since we became 'poly' I've fucked one other girl I wasn't really into, and she's had 4 (bear in mind we've only been doing this 3 fucking months lol). girls don't like it when I tell them I already have a gf, just want another lol
Are you mildly attractive? Because either she will still have sex with you anyway despite her promise to this guy, OR she will not sex you and its literally because she wants to hurt you because it makes her feel good.
>They make a deal: he's OK with her seeing me, we can kiss, cuddle, whatever, just no sex
dude, that guy is literally the bull in the cuckold relationship you got.
I bet his dick is bigger than yours, and he is more fit than you
tell her to research poly cowboys, and that if it really is about being poly, then she needs to tell him that if her relationship with him interferes with her relationship with you, it's not going to fly. Ethical non-monogamy (which poly falls under) requires consent from all parties.
The funny thing is, I always felt secure because I'm pretty sure I'm more attractive than her, so never felt that she would have a better option. I'm an 8 and she's a 6 (I might be wrong, but I think this is the case)
1. Drop her. you're already in the bullshit zone.
2. learn your lesson, keep next one on a short leash.
3. if you have "doubts" youve lost at "life". check yourself out.
p.s. feelings are for noobs
p.p.s. life and people are over rated anyways.
I said goodnight sir!
walk away, don't keep in touch. You'll get over her and that's the sad truth.
All the time effort and money you spent in two years time you'll look back and go.. "meh".
love is not the only dish of a happy life, find out what you want to do woth the only fucking life you have, write it down, make a timeline and get focused on your dreams. When you quit being a beta and have your own plans, you'll get a partner becasue you'll be an alpha. Not some pathetic little beta scrounging around for whatever affection he can find whereever he can.
yes, the problem is that she like this guy so much she's prepared to compromise a bit on the poly. Basically she either has to sacrifice him, or sacrifice the poly part of her.
Get her to help pick out a chastity cage you can wear while she's with you so that you don't get tempted to try and make her break her promise to her boyfriend.
Agree to meet her every time, then don't be there, or "take a phone call" and leave. Power is a psychological game. Have her come to a party and ignore her, and tell other dudes she's DTF. Play like you don't care, and eventually YOU'LL BELIEVE IT. It will become reality.
Alright I probably shouldn't of just thrown something like that out there and not followed up.
That's a good stance to have. I suppose in this case you should fuck her right in the pussy. If you got any porn of her send it to him and tell him about how she's a great little whore for you, don't send them all at once tell him a bit about it, how much she likes it, then kind of trickle photos out once you got his attention. He probably doesn't feel the same way about domestic violence so she'll probably come back to you and then the cherry on top, dump her.
and you're still a femenist trying to make it appear that men hate women. Then using it to say "look look men are dangerous, lock them up"
A man would just walk away and leave her.
literally quoting from a relatively famous thread that is somewhat relevant to OP's situation. Not a big deal. Who gives a shit people say worse on /b/ all the time, /pol/ is literal nazis, you think a little domestic violence and post murder raping is going to change 4chan's image? Fuck off
compromising on the poly is either unhealthy (because if she IS poly she'll hate herself later when the new relationship energy dies down and she realizes he's a manipulative prick) or a huge red flag that she wasn't poly to begin with, in which case refer to all the other posts about leaving her
Youre just another fucking plagued cuck, nothing more than a scum chocaroach spreading your cuck sickness, a real man would beat her ass and dump her, find the gay shes trying to fuck and beat his ass to the fucking hospital, set his house on fire and kick his dog!
Thats what a man would do.
But your a cuck so piss youreself and hide.
>What would you do lads?
Not be a cuck.
But if you're insistent on this, let her visit for a kiss and cuddle and fuck her anyway. She's obviously some dumb slut so treat her like one.
How could you even agree to this you stupid cuck? "Wanna be poly?" " Yeah sure i don't mind other people fucking my girlfriend"
Stop being that fucking beta dude, i would fucking dump my gf just for bringing the shit up
Only a meme?
What kind of ignorant fuck are you?
Were fighting in the trenches in the fog of feminazi queefs and cuck scum against this feminazicuckplague like theres no tommorrow and you think its just a meme.
obviously this girl means a lot to you OP and you want to keep her in your life. just accept your new role in the relationship and find new ways to love her without sex.
she's told the other guy look, I am poly, I might be able to be exclusively with you for a year or so, but don;t be under any illusions that I'll be your life long monogamous partner. if a guy I like asks me out in 2 years time I will say yes. he said: OK, I think I can work with that.
I think he thinks he can convince her to be monogamous
The only thing you should think about is wether your a cuck or a man! If your a cuck for sure then kys instead of being another fucking cog in the feminazi queef system infecting /b/ or man the fuck up. At the least tell the whore to kys and fuck off and cut off all ties and ignore her whore ass.
Ignore these e-macho anons. Relationships are fluid and can take all sorts of forms. You don't need sex to love and be with each other. Show her how much you love her by being patient with her and she'll probably end up getting bored of him and breaking up anyway.
but if you look at the situation pragmatically I have 2 choices: 1) Be alone with the possibility of new relationships, 2) Be alone with the possibility of new relationships, and have a girl who will come and snuggle with me every so often.
Taking all emotion out of the equation, isn't option 2 better?
>then he's a cowboy, and toxic to her and your relationship. tell her to research poly cowboys.
Why are you trying to salvage an irreconcilable relationship? Are you trying to convince him a sexless relationship is okay? Because it's not. Him pining for her is an emotion that is meant for elderly people, and he needs to find something more emotionally rewarding. I personally like monogamy not just because of the sex, but the emotional stability. If they want to act like they're dating, fine, but there should be some intimacy and something more meaningful on the horizon. Otherwise they're just fuck buddies, with no fuck. And thats just stupid.
The fuck? You've been soft dumped because she doesn't want to fully drop you and be "the bad guy" in the relationship.
Drop her ass cold and never speak to her again. Move on, your relationship is over. It sucks she dumped you in this manipulative way, but face reality: it's fucking over
then here is the bottom line: drop this bitch before she mentally fucks you up even more
other decent women will likely be put off by it, so end the relationship fully before going out to date normal people
>you'd have more self respect getting a hooker every once in awhile
I'm going out to Vegas in the fall for this very reason. I'd rather spend a couple grand on an amazing porn star fuck on my birthday than a couple grand on failed dates and weird bullshit over the year. Then I don't have the drive to keep putting myself in shit that takes a year to play out badly.
Maybe she thinks you're the only one who's open-minded enough to understand what she needs in a relationship and that you're willing to try new dynamics out without letting your ego get in the way. The whole sexless thing will go one of two ways. Either you find that you and her actually enjoy it and get into tease and denial. Or you or her don't end up liking it and so shift the relationship dynamic again either by her breaking up with other guy or him coming to accept you two having sex.
>she'll still be there for me, my girl, if I do become single again
She's not your girl, Anon. You are being Friendzoned by your Ex. You just don't get it yet. The rules are being established by her current boyfriend, who is "letting her" snuggle with other people- but she is obeying and therefore enforcing the new rules of your failed attempt of an "open relationship".
I just want to fucking kill this guy tbh. he got into the relationship on tinder, and my gf's profile specifically said she was polyamorous. oh and now you have a problem with that you cunt, well fucking deal with it or fuck off
go with the flow OP
the whole no-sex thing will work itself out
if you love that girl and she loves you then nothing will stand between you for long
>It's possible the other guy will eventually be ok with us sexing, and the more time we spend together, the more likely that will become
Let me fix this for ya - you are waiting for his permission, and her willingness. You are waiting for him to dump her, and hoping you can white knight the situation, IF she doesn't have a new target in her sights. She will keep doing this, you will get older and miss opportunities while you hold a torch for her. If she eventually can't find a "good guy", you are the fallback position - not the first choice. This will not play well in your mid-age years. Resentment will fester, as you know she spent years searching for better men and not finding someone, she eventually fails and comes back covered in invisible jizz.
the only thing you can do is treat he the same way.
when she comes over pretend that you are in a relationship with her, act like nothing has changed,still fuck her. But in the meantime sleep with 100's of sluts.
Sorry OP that asshole is her boyfriend's now. Best you can hope for as far as sex goes is her agreeing to watch you jerk yourself off onto yourself before she rolls over to sleep.
Has she asked you to pay for her ankle tattoo yet?
No because you will be emotionally drained and most likely damaged, OR you will start going emotionally numb to protect yourself because rage and hurt is the normal physiological response to this shit, man. This will get you all out of balance, cause distress, and probably have long lasting interpersonal concequences even outside of this one cuck relationship.
You're facing a sunk cost issue. You need to be able to respect and value what you had AND admit to yourself that THIS NOW AIN'T IT.
cool your jets rahiid
OP just end it. she didnt move in with that other guy, she moved away from you.
trying to mend whatever fuckin crapshoot relationship is going on here will only cost you time, money, and your dignity.
she'll realize in six months this european cuck is a smelly, jobless hippy and run back to you, at which point you can fuck her blind then dump her ass back on the dirty streets whence she came
Maybe you could find out if her boyfriend is bi-leaning at all and you could get your fucking from him.
So your gf wants to bamg other dudes and them dudes be pissed off at ya cus u be datin yo girl?
You obviously don't respect yourself
And This is coming from a guy who melts his brain every weekend
Actually, I agree.
Kill her but get life insurance on her first.
Then I can see it on law and order SVU
*spelled it that way on purpose. Love it or leave it"
I don't get high because It's cool
I get High to get High dumbass
Don't be a pussy OP, fuck her anyways. Pic unrelated.
And how about be a man OP, i know it's hard since there's very few role models on 4chan, but you are are being cucked by some US fag, you need to demand your right. right of pussy.
I'll never understand that. Isn't it just saying
> i love everyone i love
I mean, it makes no statement about why you love multiple people or think it's applicable. It just states that you can. Funny considering that love is usually understood as a unique relationship.
So how can you have said unique relationship with multiple people, unless, it's not truly love, but some other form of relationship, strong friendship e.g.
Seems like people can't grasp that you can care about a friend like you care about a loved one, without being in love and having sex.
> this must mean that said person loves me, for he doesn't actively bring me down like all the others.
>have 4 wives
>any of them cheat they'll be gangraped and murdered by her family
>be faithfully monogamous for 8 years
>GF wants other dick but still wants your money
How the fuck are you ok with being such a fucking embarrassment?
Close your wallet and walk away
Damn the Jews are really trying to push this cuck shit on us goyem
You are a cuck OP, why did you agree to an open relationship? It's obvious she's doing it to make it look like she's not cheating on you but she's probably bored of you and wants to fuck other peiple. Either you put your foot down and disallow this bullshit or enjoy cucking yourself because she'll go off with the new guy. You should split up.
>mwf i realize this might actually be real