How can you start over again after your gf broke up with you

>>719318030
I have to add I work as a freelance, so its so horrible to wake up and try to work on your computer alone in your appartment. Honestly, as my work is 90% creative, I cant work anymore.

Learn to suck dick.

>>719318030
Kill yourself

block them on all social media accounts, grow some balls and try and meet some other people. time heals all, but you won't get better if you don't stop creeping on them

>>719318376
This anon speaks the truth. Same thing happened to me. I moved abroad, now have a hot younger girl and a much more interesting life.

Its not like suffering a rupture in your 20s, with 32yo you are planning a wedding and creating a family.
Should I start talking to random girls even if they are far away? I cant find any in my home town as its so small

>>719318030
It sucks for now and it will suck for a few months but YOU WILL GET OVER IT. Cry for now. Keep heading out but learn to keep yourself from talking about it to others. Huge turn off.

>>719318376
this, your grief + memories will only start to fade if you have detachment.

If you're a mathy person, the grief as a function of time goes like e^(-t) cos(t), where t is the time since you last saw her. There are times where it comes back, but as long as you don't renew your memories, it will get suppressed down with time.

that being said, 1 month is pretty short for a 6 year thing. Stop lurkin on them and it'll get better in a while. You can do something time consuming like playing skyrim with immersion mods, or reading and shit to keep you occupied.

stop following her on social media. get in contact with your friends. also, hang in there man

try forgetting about her. Block her on all social media accounts even if it hurts, and spend more time with friends and have a laugh. You'll find someone better

>>719318030
The main part where you fucked up wasn't letting someone else becoming important in your life, it was letting a GIRL become important in your life
they will not fix your life, they do not actually care about anything besides themselves, it is unhealthy and actually self-destructive to enjoy women
IF a woman looked like a man, but still acted like a woman? you would toss that shit to the curb and disregard him the way you're supposed to. but because it's "cute", you let it ruin your fucking life
get a grip, be happy with yourself FIRST and maybe, once in a great while, visit a prostitute.

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>>719318757
Thanks, videogames actually help, they remind me a lot of her but at least its something. Finished a few days ago FFXV even I stopped playing some time ago.

>>719318758
I already deleted her on my cellphone and everything, at least she is living in another place now. But there are moments where you cant help typing her name on fb and there she is with her new profile picture and that damn guy. I try to not searching that but its really hard. Days are so long.

>>719318942
Bad thing is I only have 1 friend atm, it was my fault. I left everyone because I thought I was ready for the adult life, buying a house and everything.

Im even thinking in start a new life in a different country.

Same thing happened to me though wasn't nearly as long as 6 years. I just started to focus on everything I didn't like about her and now I hate her guts and am glad she's gone

>>719319283
Honestly, I think its was for the best this happened. At the end, it was going to happen yes or yes, so its better now than married or with kids. But its still a very hard hit on your soul.

Im the kind of guy who thinks its better to forget someone starting a new relationship with another girl, even if you dont like the new one a lot. At least you can talk and a hug/kiss/sex from time to time gives you strenght.

>>719318651
>Im even thinking in start a new life in a different country.
>>719319254
Do it! I traveled a little after my ex did the same to me. New places new people - you'll soon stop thinking about her all the time.

>>719318030
I can relate to you anon.

Fuck that shit, forget about women for a while.
Unfriend block and start a new internet social life, get a new number and everything. Start over and do new exciting things.

You'll miss her for sure, and it will never go away. So start doing shit and fill the rest of your brain with positive things.

Same exact story and yes I remember the pain being unbearable, especially since your mind becomes your worst enemy. I picked up my old friend marijuana after many years without it and man did it help everything.. Helped being alone and watching TV, helped develope an appetite, helped getting sleep, it goes on and on. Time goes by, you meet someone when you finally stop looking and here I am 11 years later with two daughters I couldn't imagine being without. If she never left me this wouldn't have been my future and I really couldn't imagine it any other way. Oh and I still smoke pot, daily after work and before bed. In the shed, far away from my beautiful daughters.

Smoke some weed bro you'll be happy and sleep like a baby

OP again, I created another thread this morning and most of you /b/ros told me about travelling or even start to live in another place. At this moment I have a normal job, so I just need to get out home.
Im kinda the geek type so its always difficult to move on when you have all your books/games/film collection here and you have to leave everything behind

>>719318376
This, it helped me a lot

>>719319719
Thats a nice story dude, at the bottom of my soul I think about her leaving me it was for the best. Everyone told me that, if she had the courage to do something like this to the person she loved, I wouldnt imagine what she could do if we were married or something worse.

Fucking delete everything. Phone number, her facebook account. This is always the biggest thing holding back your life. Do it faggot and do it now

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>>719320447
I deleted everything, logs, whatsapp messages, blocked her in facebook and instagram, but damn chrome insists on telling me to complete her name everytime.
Specially late at night.

I started working out, nothing fancy, just a couple of weights and trying to get myself like I was in my 20s before starting going out with her.

Sadly, Im not 25 anymore, and even my hair is starting to show a little baldness.

What afraids me the most is I wont be able to get any decent girl anymore, only those who nobody wanted. Then you see all these /b/ threads about 10/10 girls, alpha males and so, and its a lot more depressing.

Just one more question /b/

I never should write her, isnt it? I already crawled enough for her and she didnt even want to reply me, I know the answer but maybe is there a way out.

Even if she asks me to come back in the future? who knows

Quit being a fucking pussy and get out there and get laid. This girl wanted you for 6 years so there's at least some proof that you're not a hideous piece of shit. Someone with a few beers in them could handle you for the 5 minutes it would take you to feel better about yourself. Failing that rejoice in the fact that you have no kids, no woman and you can put porn on your walls again like the prepubescent horny fucktard you are

>>719318030
You gotta forgive yourself and her and move on. It sucks but look at it as a new beginning. Sitting around crying will get you no where expect I to a deeper pit of depression, go for a hike in the woods..
If you really want to get over it fast. Take some mushrooms and listen to Rush, Pink Floyd, YES.


Stop being a bitch. You got this.

>>719321708
Bad idea. Never go back. Always go forward. Do you really want someone else immediately? Don't be so co-dependent, be your own man. Just go do things that are fun for you but do it for you and fuck everyone else

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>>719322034
Its more like "she is with another dude and Im all alone"
Christmas, new years eve, playing vidya all again like a teenager, having to come back to my parents house..

So I always relate having a relationship = future and moving on

>>719322459
there you go (not my ex)

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>>719322700

thicc

post more of that slut

>>719322880
got a name?

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>>719322880
I fucked her a 2-3 times, but nothing special. Dont have any nudes, just a couple of pictures

>>719322700

> So I always relate having a relationship = future and moving on

Well, big surprise, that's wrong. It's impossible you don't have any other aspirations than having a life time fuckbuddy that happens to live in the same house as you and pretends to like the same things you like.

Just put your mind towards something different. Take Roy off the fucking grid man.

>>719323487
Its mainly because the age
>About to be 33yo
>Most of the girls and buddies around my age already have a family or kids
>Taking a look to single girls is so depressive
>Getting old, even balding, not being able to get a decent girl anymore.
>Having to aim to fatty/divorced/women with children

>Sadness

>>719324093
not going to happen
try a cuckold thread or something like that, I still love her and I cant share anything even she was a demon to me.

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>>719318376
godliest advice possible, had to do this myself

>>719318030
start lifting brah.

>>719324793
not me in any of these pictures, just random people I know and I know I cant get anymore

>>719323730

Look, it's not like I don't get what you're saying, and it's not like what I'm proposing is as straightforward as taking your morning shit. But stop comparing yourself to all the other douchemonkeys running around on this pathetic excuse for a planet. Most people are miserable in some way or another.

Stop trying to find ways to be happy. Life's inevitably gonna find a way to kick you in the nards and fuck something up anyways. Just try to find ways to keep things interesting. Maybe you'll run into a girl along the way and hit it off. Maybe you'll be alone for a really long time. But there's absolutely no point in just sitting there, waiting around for either of those things to happen.

>>719323086
FUCKING LOSER

>>719324992
I get the point anon, its just the hole Im in right now. I expect to leave it and stand up again soon. I thought I was half ready last week but these 3 last days have been horrible, I barely slept 4 hours. I even started to take meds.

But yes, I hope everything leads to an end and karma or some other force puts the things where they have to be. Im thinking in making a long trip or even moving to another country.
I have a very good friend living in Stockholm, maybe it would be a nice idea to leave everything behind.

>>719318030
Try and get active, read books...idk man really there is only the cliche to tell you. there must be something you value more and equal to in life than your relationship with her? You need to move on, obviously, so stop torturing yourself by following her and her new SO.

>>719325485
running away doesn't help. you need a network, not a lifeline

>>719318030
I'm in the same situation buddy. Just don't listen to sad music.

>>719323730
33 is fine. I left my wife when I was 30, hooked up with a worderful girl, she dumped me just before 40. Being alone, no kids at 40 is much worse.

All the usual advices apply - meet people, have some drugs, get drunk, try to insert penis into females. It will fade away. Half a year ago I met an old female friend, also 40. Romance, lots of sex again, etc. Life's fine.

It will be fine for you too.

>>719325772
Sad music is an instakill. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DoU8Mb_5u70 , went to a concert of her with my ex and now everytime I hear something like that Im about to throw myself through the window.

And all that without counting endless films we watched together and now they are cursed forever. I cant watch any Kubrick film anymore just because my ex.

Take a good care of yourself. That's all I have to say, because there are no good advices for this sort of situation.

>>719325485

Good luck with that. Honestly, I mean it. I hope it works out for you

>>719319628
This.

>>719318030
I know how you feel, mid thirties and went through something similar last year.

Cutting all contact, blocking everything and never looking her up is the way to go.
Give yourself massive distance.

32 isn't much, but if you waste your time thinking about her instead of doing stuff, years might pass.

Build some new constructive habits. Force them at first and keep at them.
If you have savings, go on a long, aimless trip.
Or the contrary, focus on something for a few months. Work hard.

If you need creativity, maybe move to the beach for a few months, or a place with forests or mountains.
Nature is a cure for mind and body.

The more interesting stuff you do, the more you challenge yourself, the more memories you'll build between then and the future, and the past will fade into the background.

>>719326051
So how can we get over it? I can't delete my entire discography, or cancel my Netflix.

Thank you anons, honestly I didnt think /b/ have these kind of comments. I only lurked around in the past, looking for porn from time to time, but at least reading these kind of replies help.

>>719318030
The same happend to me. I just fuck a prostitute the first day crying and all. The second day pay a ramdom girl to fake my gf and i fuck her too. The next week contact whit an marry ex 8 year ago was my ex. And... Yeah fuck whit her. 3 week later my ex back to me. Why? Dont fucking know she just come back. I fuck 3 hotter young and beautifull womans. And my wife come back. Girl dont need u if u need her. Went u dont need her she want you. Nature a slut but work that way

>>719320963
Move dude,
Do something that challenges you, go somewhere really new.

32 isn't old, and makes no difference between 255 and 32. It is in your head.
You slowed down while you were with her, became safe and comfortable.
Picked up a few fears.

Now it is time to be yourself again. Face your fears and do exciting and scary things.

Work out a bit harder, push yourself without straining or injuring yourself.
Within a few months you'll feel strong, and new energy.
Conquer your body and conquer the world.

Where would you like to live first?

Also, just delete chrome.
Use a different browser.

>>719318030
post nudes and I will tell you the solution to your ails

>>719322700
No. Now you are free.

This is a lull, a changeover moment.
Sell the shit you don't need, use your savings and either move to a new country, go volunteering abroad for six months, or go on a long trip to see new places.

It will clear your mind, you'll be dependent on yourself and you'll enjoy your own company.

>>719323730
Go to another country, work out, do new stuff.
You'll have plenty of 25 year olds on you when you realise you are you again and your confidence flies up.

>>719326439
My work is very creative indeed, it requires a massive concentration, a mixture of architecture, design and 3d.
Bad thing is I always end up working alone at home and thats like being in a prison with your worst fears. I had to come back to my parents house after packing all my things and leaving my other home. Its always hard.

>>719326965
Thanks for the advice. I still dont know where to go, thinking about northern Europe, maybe London instead -I was there for 2 years in the past, but now it has changed too much for me-.

I also started working out (badly, I cant lift weight as I could in the past, so I hurt myself in the neck, my bad)

But yes, I think I have to think I have the freedom I didnt have before. I remember in these past 6 years, some nights telling me "man, I gotta leave her, I want to live again" but regreting about that feeling immediatly because the fear of being alone again.

I have to admit it, it was really hard for me to get a gf, a real gf I mean. That one who when night comes and you turn off the light you think "she is THE one, she really is".

>>719326608
I whit my wife now. I 28 and she 31

>>719318030
I was with my ex from highschool for ten years. She cheated etc etc.

You can move on im 29 and got a new gf who is 25 and she is far more successful and treats me better than the last.

You need to cut any contact and your stalking, If you start to stalk you need to find something to replace that behavior like exercise.
If you really need to get it out.. give tinder or dating apps a try just to get conversation and stuff back. Other women aren't your therapists so don't bring up or compare them to your ex

OP again, thanks guys. It helped me talking with you.
I gotta leave internet and start seeing the daylight again. And of course, I hope my ex suffers all this pain or worse after doing this to me. I didnt tell you how it was, but we were about to celebrate our 6 anniversary.
I booked a great dinner in one of the top restaurants secretly. She disappeared 3 weeks before that day. The few moments she wanted to speak with me she only repeated the same things :
>Im the same, I didnt change? Why are you saying that? We can keep seeing us

The next thing she did was changing her profile picture in whatsapp, hugging with another guy at her home.

Thats it, out of the blue. Without even telling me what happened or having a drink in person.

>>719327457
Forget the weights for a while, or use very light weights just for tone and endurance.

Focus on your core strength, research good quality pushups. Charles atlas dips are good too.
After a few months of those you'll feel a lot stronger, and you will have strengthened your ligaments and tendons too.

Be positive as much as possible.
Say out loud you can do it.

Find a way to achieve peace in your mind every day.
Walking in a wood, listening to classical music, walking for an hour in the sunshine, building something satisfying with your hands, drawing doodles, learning a musical instrument.

For your 3d stuff, change things around a bit, put the computer somewhere different, change your hours that you work, earlier in the morning so you are upbeat and have natural light coming in.
Work for a couple of hours, then do something totally different, go outside, grow some flowers or vegetables and water them regularly.
Learn some new stuff that you've never done before.

Change the pattern and go through every obstacle no matter what.

Pick a country and go there.
Somewhere totally new,
If you don't like it, you can pick a new place.
Use this as an opportunity to do what you really want to do.

She isn't the one, for one reason or another.
In time you'll realise that, and have a calm mind about it all. Don't worry about that for now.

Focus on yourself.

>>719327949
Thats true, Ive been using tinder and the latest girl I met there got "scared" just because she noticed what happened with me. Even if I didnt tell her anything about an exgf.

I have another girl around but I dont really like her, Im just talking with her and it somehow helped me. I know she cant be a replacement but at least it works for those days I feel so miserable.

Just hang in there buddy

>>719328299
Sounds too familiar.

I was with her for 3 years. She went away for a month, then kept going. Kept saying things are fine and I have nothing to worry about.
I lost trust totally, gut instinct massively flashing warnings signs at me, so in the end I cut off all contact.
Still think about her every day, but it became easier after a while.

Keep moving forward and don't look back unless it can teach you something.
Doing new stuff and being in new places can help.

should constantly text her and ask if she will let you listen to her fuck her new bf

>>719328337
Ok anon, Im saving that text in a notepad. Those are really nice advices.

Im happy to see this kind of behaviour between men, its too positive. Thanks again.

Kill yourself in her front lawn.

>>719328299
Also, don't wish anything for her - no revenge, no karma, no nothing, neither positive or negative.
Just push it from your mind and say it is time to focus on yourself.

She isn't relevant, and should have no further impact on your life in any way.

You are in control of your life, and you are going to make it kick ass.

Im taking screenshots of your replies for moments of doubt and weakness.

I should start working again, I left a project I promised to send to one big company in another city, so that could be a possible way out.

>>719328895
It is my pleasure to help a dude out.
Keep doing constructive things and you'll always find your way to the sunlight.

You can put yourself on your feet again, take a deep breath and realise you are going to do some cool things.
Every step is towards those things that you want to do.

Watch "Arnold's six rules of success" for some motivation.
They apply to a lot of things, and the more you listen the more you will be able to apply them.

>>719318030
Pretty fucking easy.

However avoiding the marriage trap was a
failure.

>gf dumps me
>feel sick for one evening
>then look at myself and say wtf man!
>immediately start dating
>start getting laid regularly
>have three women on the line, two for fucking, one possible
>get serious with one DANGER WILL ROBINSON!
>move into her place RED ALERT
>get engaged HOLY SHIT CAPTAIN SHE CAN'T TAKE MUCH MORE
>married a year later THERE'S TOO MUCH DAMAGE SHE'S GOING DOWN
>regret getting married

To add insult to injury

After the wedding vows and before the ink was dry I now have women calling me up asking "What's going on?"

It's like they just want to fucking let you know you fucked up.

>>719329011
In fact Im not that kind of guy, even when my parents insulted her product of their rage, I prefer to keep silent. I dont even wanted to take revenge, call her, publish pictures or make anything stupid.

The moment I saw my messages didnt work for anything and she wasnt even reading them, I silently went away and disappeared. I dont want to waste my energy in that person.

>>719329243
That's it man.

Channel yourself into that project and just finish and send it.
No obstacles, no excuses, no hesitation or delay.

Just do it and keep doing it until it is finished.

Then the next project.

You are thinking positively and constructively, that's the right way.

>>719318030
Maybe try to recall all the things you couldn't do while you were in the relationship and see if you can do them now.

> I cant help lurking their facebooks and watching all the pictures they are posting.
Goddamn what a pathetic little bitch. Do the planet a favor. kys

>>719329512
Exactly right.

Neutral and distant.

A guy on here said to me once some years ago.

"Don't let women work you up mate, they really really aren't worth it"

All you have to do is focus on yourself and being positive.

Block them both on every channel possible.

After you have done that, that's your first and biggest step done.

Secondly, keep your friends close by.

Thirdly, find a hobby. I joined the gym (as I was pretty lonely in my apartment most of the time. I met some great people and after a few months I was in the shape of my life!

Lastly, learn to have fun. Go drinking with friends, go on a few non-serious dates.

Most importantly, throughout all of this, don't deny how you feel. You will get down, you will feel like your world is imploding or has already. It's ok to admit you're not ok and spend some time reflecting and understanding.

Eventually, you will stumble across some old stuff that you had, remember the good times together, then let go of that item like you let go of her.

You will make it I promise

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I dont want to get emotional but, thanks with all my heart guys.

>>719318030
1` realize she traded up
2 realize like all women she is a dirty fucking whore
3 realize you dodged the biggest bullet of your life by her dumping you
4 fuck whores it will be cheaper and they will do really kinky shit

>>719330106
Anytime man.

Always feel free to post, post positive stories too. Might not be the same guys watching, but someone will appreciate it.

>>719318030
I feel ya.

I got out of a 5 year relationship 2 years ago.
Occupied myself hardcore and it worked quite well.

Today I went to my favorite restaurant.
They were closed for some time because they rebuilt the whole place.
Well there was a waitress that I unfortunately liked too much.
So about two hours ago all the shit that I was running from came back.

I feel like shit. And I mean I literaly feel like I could crawl up a wall.
The pain is killing me.

At the same time I know it will pass.
My methods of coping work quite well except for the occational pitfall.

I have learned to convert the pain into action, so I compose music most of my time.

I wish I could just share that ability but how would one do that, right?

All I can say is, that you're not alone. As if you haven't heard that one a million times by now.

>>719318030
Fuck her new bf. Show dominance.

>>719330796
Converting the pain of the misery is really good.
Redirecting the energy.

Turn it into anger, then turn that anger into power and force, and turn that force into creativity and effort.
It will calm the storm and you'll build something at the same time and become more positive.

>>719318030
Sorry /b/ro, I know it hurts like fuck right now, but being single is awesome. Nobody to drain you emotionally or financially, no obligation to waste your time doing shit you dont choose, and the freedom to flirt and fuck any and everyone you want. Hang in there, it gets much much better once you've weathered a few shitty relationships and breakups. Don't cry over a blessing.

>>719330796
Anything counts. Really helps. Even if I didnt reply every positive reply on the thread I saved them in a screenshot. Just for remember me I need to be strong and forget about that.

I like to think >>719330427 this way. It could have been a lot worse, she disappeared with no reason. So who knows what would happen if we were married..

But I cant help thinking if I did something wrong, I didnt give her enough attention or I dont know, anything. After 6 years you have to get comfy and you cant working the relationship every single day like the first month.

I know and I want to believe better times will come.

>>719331433
Fuck it dude. Stop blaming yourself.
She is the one who fucked up and went elsewhere.
She didn't even tell you anything, she lied to you, she went behind your back, she led you on, she acted like a cunt.

Now forget her. You aren't going to change anything in the past and you really wouldn't want her back in reality.
After 6 years she went off with some scumbag, and a few weeks later was posting with him in public on facebook.
She never once explained herself to you, or apologised or did anything right.

She fucked up, not you.
You are lucky to be away from her man.
What you are feeling now is just your body and brain recovering, it needs some time far away from her.
After that, you'll be strong, fit, working hard and living in a new cool place learning new stuff and experiencing awesome things.

Like the other dude said, you aren't alone. You are free, not to fuck around, but to pursue those things that you want to accomplish in your life.

Which country sounds cool to live in. Go there.
Which sport have you wanted to become good at. Do it.
Which language do you want to speak. Speak it.

Fighting mode now man.

Feel sad when you feel sad, but don't let anything stop you, even if something slows you down momentarily. You just keep going.

Threads like this terrify me, man. Why are relationships so fragile? Why do women never try to fix anything?

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>>719318030
Get into shape.
Get on tinder.
Get in her pants.
Get a new girl.

Life goes on.

>>719332363
10/10. Big motivation. Thanks a lot.

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>>719318376

This this this this this fucking this!!

>>719318376
I cant stres enought THIS!!! It probably is really hard at first but delete all her numbers unfriend her basicly just let go of everything that has to do with you&her.

When my ex fiancèe left me I amlost killed myself forgeting her and our time but in the long run it helps you to start over again

>>719332737
Dunno, but the thing is to pick yourself up and keep going.
Go into each relationship without fear, taking the risk and knowing that you can always pick yourself up again.

Sometimes it works out, and it is really worth it.
Until then, you have to keep trying.

Not all girls are the same, there are some loving ones out there.

More important than any of that, is making yourself who you want to be.
When you have that, no one can take you down.

>>719333105
You're welcome dude.

Now finish that project and send it off.

>>719318664

What kind of freelance work do you do? If it's all remote, try to find a place in another town or city where there are more ppl. It's like that country song about breaking up in a small town.
Live elsewhere. And again, like many an anon before me said, shut her out. You should literally spend like 3 years with ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT with her. And if she gets tired of the new cock and comes crawling back, do NOT accept her.
She should now be dead to you.
You CANNOT be friends with her between now and 2020.
I am dead fucking serious about this.
Meanwhile, you must force yourself to accept that three two of you were wrong for each other and that the future is unfuckingwritten.
I'm not saying go out and bang as many sluts as possible. I am saying you need a change of venue.
And again, your ex is dead for the next three years. Resist the urge to check up on her.
You are worth more than that.

Wooh whats that 4chan being actually helpfull. Thx guys. Some of you gave me pretty good motivation.

>>719319080

Bad advice.

>>719319830

Where do you live, OP?
US? If so, where abouts?