>>717175644 >>717175859 Was in a relationship with someone around 2 years younger than me. A couple months after I turned 18 and graduated highschool her parents decided to press charges out of the blue, and to this day I don't know why due to several no-contact orders. This almost six years ago now.
Plus the county DA was running for a higher office so there was almost no leniency.
>>717177283 Badly. Every day I worry about coming home to find someone threw a brick through my window and skinned my cat cause they clicked on a "Are sexual predators in YOUR neighborhood?" ad and saw my face and address. Fortunately nothing has happened yet..
First and foremost anything involving a background check is pretty well fucked. When everything happened I was going to school for an IT degree but that flew out the window. The school itself didn't kick me out but both the career counselor and my probation agent said that I'd pretty much never get hired for a network technician/administrator/information security job. Speaking of jobs I had a great job doing commissioned sales for a major retailer - I started there as a stockboy at about 16 and worked my way up, I was even looking at leading the department I was in - but they shitcanned me without a second thought. I've been bouncing back and forth between temp agencies ever since. The current one bedroom house I'm renting was a godsend but its a shithole and the landlord cares about absolutely nothing but the rent check.
All of this did a serious number on my mental health. I was diagnosed with moderate to severe anxiety disorder and generalized depressive disorder but no combination of counselors or medications have yet worked. Its hard to get up in the morning when you know your future is absolute crap and anyone with the internet can see that you're worse than a lepper and deserve to have your balls cut off and locked in prison till you die.
I haven't even touched on probation, registry requirements, or the 'treatment' I have to go to. If there's interest I'll share more.
Sex offender probation is a nightmare. Yeah sure being on paper for anything is a massive pain in the dick but its a cakewalk compared to SO supervision.
If you want to live somewhere, it needs to be approved by 3 levels of red tape. Your probation agent, their unit supervisor, and the regional supervisor. The official rules are not to be within 2 blocks of a school/park/playground/etc, but its never that simple - at one point I was told a rental I was interested in was "on the main bus route for XYZ highschool and we're not comfortable with that." After I got out of jail I spent about 2 months living in an extended stay motel (which in itself was hard to get approved).
You have to be as careful about work, too. A month ago I was laid off and was having a hell of a time finding work. I have a fair amount of warehouse, automotive/diesel repair, customer service, and production experience but the 'Convicted of a felony? If so, describe...' portion of an application might as well say 'throw this app in the garbage.' After a few weeks of searching I found my current job and was really excited about it. Good pay, good hours, enjoyable work, and only a few minutes drive from my house. I told my PO about it and she was happy that I finally found work. I went in for a tour of the factory and a few days later orientation/safety training and told I start the following Tuesday. On Monday my PO called, saying that I might have to abandon the job because it was on the same block as a daycare. The same fucking block as a day care. It didn't matter that two large industrial buildings separated the daycare in question and where I work but they don't care about that. Fortune smiled on me and the supervisor OK'd it but it was a close call.
I hope you don't like holidays either. Family gatherings are a nightmare (assuming your family hasn't shunned you). To legally be around children there needs to be a sober adult chaperone that has been interviewed and approved by the PO, during which they're told what to watch out for. You're pretty much described as Earl Bradley's evil brother. Also, just going to a family get-together where there could maybe be someone under 18 requires both agent and supervisor approval far in advance.
I can't go to a movie by myself. I can't go to a mall by myself. Even McDonald's was off limits at one point but that restriction as lifted. Generally anywhere 'children may gather' is off limits without approval and oversight.
>>717179794 This isn't Florida or Texas so they don't chemically castrate you, here its more psychological.
Sex offender treatment. Imagine group AODA or anger management treatment but instead of potheads and some guy with his 3rd DUI, you're in a group with about a dozen other sex offenders. Keep in mind, very little of the underage relationship or public urination types, but the ones who showed their 50-something year old dick to their daughter or niece or something. The ones who molested over a dozen boys younger than 15. The ones who held a woman down, choked them and raped them. The ones who have GBs of child porn.
What do we do in this group? Assignments. Some are simple, like describing your offense or your life in as much detail as you can. Others ask you to identify different parts of your 'offense cycle' or list some red flags that could point to sexual deviancy. You share these assignments with the group, discussing many different things - What made you decide to offend? Were your sexual needs being met at the time? What was going on in your life? and so on. As the listener, you're supposed to try to make connections between what they say and not only your offense but your life. I'm sorry, but I can't relate to someone who kidnapped a 2nd grader and did god knows what to them.
Best of all its mandatory. If the 'evaluation' from the facilitator determines you need to do it then you need to do it - for the rest of your probation or until they're satisfied you made 'progress.' I doubt they'll turn anyone away though, since the meetings are weekly and there's a fee every time.
>>717182217 >describing your offense or your life in as much detail as you can The person running this might just have a rape/pedo/etc fetish, just saying.
>John, tell me about how you raped that kid >I held her down and forced myself on her, and then I got arrested for- >No, John. I'm going to need more details. >I mean, I abducted her from the mall parking lot... >No, John. I'm going to need. More. Details.
>>717181221 What I meant was I don't know why they decided to go after me. As far as I could tell the parents weren't against the relationship - I had even met them a few times. One day two police officers knocked on my door and said they wanted to ask me some questions. Being the naive idiot that I was, I followed them to the station and was completely honest. At the time I as worried that something bad happened to my then-girlfriend and wanted to help. When they were done, they thanked me for my cooperation then proceeded to handcuff me and inform me I'm being charged with felony sexual assault of a child.
>>717182051 Midwest USA. My state has an age of consent of 18 and there aren't any laws like Michigan's Romeo and Juliet statute. That would have saved my ass.
(for those who don't know, Romeo and Juliet laws are where an adult being with a consenting minor aren't criminal as long as they're less than like 4 years apart)
>>717182468 Actually, one of them is like that. Describing the offense(s) is its own assignment, I'll call it the offense synopsis.
In the offense synopsis you recount everything before, during, and after the offense. What did you do to your victim(s)? How would you describe your emotions before and leading up to the offense? What made you decide to commit the offense? Did you plan it? Did you try to hide the offense when you were done? and so on.
Each detail is usually picked apart too. Like you said, they want to know where it happened. when it happened. What you said, how you touched the victim, and just about every detail you can remember.
>>717182846 Girlfriend might have been lying the whole time. "We're not having sex", "It's not that serious", etc. to get them to support it. Then she has a gynecologist appointment, vaguely remembers something about the hymen in school, and claims rape so her parents won't get upset she didn't remain a virgin, thinking the gynecologist is going to say something in front of her parents.
My cousin did it to another cousin of ours, completely destroyed his reputation because she would rather her mother think she was raped by family than the truth that she had sex with a stoner college kid when she was in middle school.
Honestly I don't know what evidence they even had against me - if any at all. The lawyer my parents paid obscene money for recommended that I just take the plea deal instead of fighting it. At the time I knew less than nothing about the legal system, I just knew that the maximum sentence was. Up to 40 years prison, lifetime supervision and lifetime GPS monitoring were hanging over my head so I jumped at the plea deal.
>>717183958 They had nothing on you but a confession and an accusation, most likely. Statutory rape isn't like rape-rape. They don't have to prove it wasn't consensual, just that it occurred, which is easy to prove when both sides admit to it.
And yeah, things were rough for him, even though he was never charged with anything. He almost an heroed until she came clean in private to him and I, but she was right about her mother. Her mother can't handle the reality and tried to punish her for trying to come clean to the rest of the family. Now she has two kids and is in and out of rehab. Turns out her parents were abusive as fuck and that's why she was sleeping around in the first place, trying to find someone who would love her back. She does less drugs now, but still sleeps around.
>>717184233 6 months jail, 7 years probation. DA first asked for 18 months jail/20 years supervision, then 12 months/15 years. Eventually it got it down to 6mo/7yr but between the initial offer from prosecution and my lawyer making a lost trial look like fire and brimstone I decided to go with it.
In my state 18 months is the maximum cutoff for jail and not prison.
>>717184596 Exactly. Too bad my lawyer was in the state's back pocket and I didn't know any better. Had some other legal issues 2 years ago, and the lawyer I hired for that said that I could have confidently taken this case to trial.
I know what your cousin is going through. Thankfully I haven't tried to make myself a Clorox milkshake but the thought has crossed my mind. Supportive friends and family really help.
>>717184691 The name of the game is relapse prevention, which I can understand. Most of the later assignments are aimed at what makes you offend. One has you think about red flags, thoughts/feelings/actions that could indicate risk of offending or otherwise unhealthy or illegal behavior. Another makes you figure out your 'offense cycle', from when you first get the idea to after the act when you're trying to be normal. This approach works wonders for seriously perverted and repeat offenders, but for someone like me its detrimental. I don't have urges to molest children, rape women, or send dick pics to middle schoolers but I need to think like I do. Claiming that treatment doesn't help is only seen as minimizing, denial, and avoidance.
>>717185568 DV? I'm not familiar with what that stands for :s
>>717185907 Bro everything u said here I went through I was 18 and my go was 16 and she was reported as a run away the fucked up part was I did a 5 yr sentence in Texas behind this and I lost my kids my wife my house my job everything I caught the case when I was 18 I didn't go in till I was 20 I'm 26 now and life is a constant struggle behind the blue card I've done the extended stay as well
>>717188300 Depends. Defense lawyers and prosecutors frequently work together, trading a harsh sentence on one case for a good deal on another one. Be sure to ask around and look for reviews and whatnot.
>>717188816 >and my go was 16 and she was reported as a run away the fucked up part was I did a 5 yr sentence in Texas behind this and I lost my kids my wife my house my job everything I caught the case when I was 18 I didn't go in till I was 20 I'm 26 now and life is a constant struggle behind
>>717188816 Living the dream, eh? Thankfully I didn't have to go to prison but having to be a model citizen while the world treats you like the scum of the earth is punishment in itself.
Also, I'm probably gonna go to bed pretty soon. Thanks for the thread, talking about it helps surprisingly. I'll lurk till the thread 404s so if anyone else wants moar just speak up.
Please support this website by donating Bitcoins to 16mKtbZiwW52BLkibtCr8jUg2KVUMTxVQ5 If a post contains copyrighted or illegal content, please click on that post's [Report] button and fill out a post removal request
All trademarks and copyrights on this page are owned by their respective parties. Images uploaded are the responsibility of the Poster. Comments are owned by the Poster.
This is a 4chan archive - all of the content originated from that site. This means that 4Archive shows an archive of their content. If you need information for a Poster - contact them.