>be me, 29, living in Miami >walking in park coming off anti-depressants >see people on dates, holding hands >families, together with kids >they make it look so easy; connecting with people >mfw i'll forever be alone
>>591845548 Not really feels, but I'm gonna use this thread to vent.
>be 24 >have a ok girlfriend, dedicated and nice but not the hottest and a bit overweight. been together for ~4 years >she talks about marriage and kids all the time, I explicitly say I am not ready, and it will be a few years before I am >She is good as a girlfriend but I have doubts I want to spend the rest of my life with her >Have a cute friend, we hit it off great whenever together. >Get drunk with her and my friends. We are having a great time as usual. >get very drunk, don't remember much but I do remember holding her and telling her I like her on ride home. >don't remember the rest of what I said or did, if we kissed or not. >her bf was driving our group home, he is a fucking beta as I am sure he saw me all over her and didn't do shit. Although they spend pretty much all their time together she refuses to say that he is anything more than a fuckbuddy she is using to me and my friends. I really don't want to fuck things up as friends because while we aren't the closest friends I want to spend more time with her. I want to try to pursue her, and drop my current gf who I have a life together with right now, we share a room in a house etc. Even if it doesn't work out I feel this as a way out of my current situation.
But I just feel so bad for my current girlfriend, she clearly loves me more than anything. Haven't been able to seriously even try to break up with her
Sounds stupid and childish when I put it down but there it is anyways
>IQ 150 >Mechanical Engineer >Everyone tells me I'm a genius >Though I am proud their praise doesn't mean anything to me.
every evening I find myself sitting by the open window in my apartment with a glass of gin, smoking cigarettes, filled with a crippling longing for my childhood sweetheart who I left behind to pursue my career. We no longer keep in touch.
>>591849348 Think of yourself, not just your gf. Honestly if i were in your shoes, I would drop my gf and pursue the friend.
Try to imagine yourself ten years later. You know your not going to marry your current gf, and you've lost contact with your friend. By now you're gonna be regretting staying with your gf just to make her feel better for a while.
You're 24. You're still young. Use this to your advantage. You're smart by not wanting to get married for a while. When you find the girl you want to spend the rest of your life with, you'll know. Until then, fuck bitches get money.
I feel like im at this point where Ive partied my ass off after high school, had some great times, but now all those people I met are gone. Theyre just memories and Im looking forward and thinking like.. Wtf do I do now? 9-5 jobs suck, school sucks, so what now? Anyone else get this?
I have a descent family who loves me but I never wanted to die more in my life
Basically I got held back socially as a child and now I'm in college with no actual friends (the only friends I have are drug abusing fuckheads and people I talk to at school). I'm friends with this 10/10 perfect women but she has a boyfriend and its killing me cause I cant have her. I have never had a gf and have never met anyone as fucking awesome as her. Her bf is too perfect and I cant even compete at all
I have no talents and no job and can't kill myself because of what it would do to my family
Can someone tell me what to do, or maybe just give me advice
>>591850871 Move on. Yes, most likely you will never see those people again, but that's not always a bad thing.
Set goals. Meet goals. If you want to meet people, go to places that interest you.
Clubs, sports bars, concerts. If you want to meet new people, you're gonna have to put yourself out there.
As for the job, strive to find a career that suits you. It could be military, aviation, whatever. find a job you love and you'll never work a day in your life. Sounds cheesy, but think about that when you're busting your ass to land that job at NASA or the CIA.
>>591851674 I have been in your position, trust me and take these words literally:
>avoid all people who do drugs >shit gets better after college >get a job and always be working >the mind degrades alone, you feel shit because you have no support group of friends >work helps distract you, make friends at work >hindsight is a bitch, don't worry about the past ever >get the fuck over your bitch, she doesn't matter, girls aren't unique, they're all the same, find one that is just as attractive and your good
>>591851674 I feel you, bro. Basically the same thing happened to me. I've had friends, except that I couldn't really feel connected with them. Felt like a loner for some massive time, got into uni and stuff. I'm currently seeing a solid 8/10 redhead, and beginning to come out of my shell, and things are improving. My advice to you: Find something you love doing and do it. Don't carry the world on your shoulders (I know for a fact that this is almost killing you - it almost got me too) And since you will carry the world in your shoulder anyway, don't take shit from anybody. They don't know you, and they certainly don't care about you. So why are you gonna let a bunch of fuckers tell you how to live your life? And I know, too, that it will feel lonely. Very, very lonely. And in the end, even loneliness will leave you, and you will feel hollow. But hang in there. You hang in there. It gets better. I promise.
Sincerely, a fellow anon who's been to hell and back
>>591856732 I know that nothing hurts more than knowing the person you just magically met then fell for is unattainable. But hang in there anon, shit will get better. You're young and in college, you WILL meet other girls, just act on it when it happens
A life of loneliness is worse than a life cut short, just hold on
Losing your shit over a girl is understandable but stupid. Welcome to humanity where everything is irrational.
Stop hoping and do.
Making friends is only as hard as you make it to be. Making friends at school is super hard and I get that. I have like only 2 friends I keep in contact with from post secondary.
My experience... Make work friends. Even if you work part time just get a job with people around your age. Don't push to be friends immediately but just like be friendly and nice and maybe hang out outside of work.
You're not even 20 man. You literally have 3/4 of your life ahead of you still. Give yourself 4 more years. Every year will change you. You will mature and change and the people around you will change. My dad always told me to keep in contact with anyone you want to stay in your life. Just message them on facebook or some shit. Go catch up over a couple beers.
You feel for this girl, what makes her so different? think about that. I've almost fallen for girls and I realized the only reason was literally because they gave me some attention when I needed it most.
Just do it. Give yourself a mission and go fucking do it.
It's literally that easy.
Appreciate your wife she sounds awesome. Cherish her. Be happy you have someone so supportive. It sounds like she is willing to stick it out to the bitter end with you. She does see you for who you are and knows you are more and better than that. That puts you ahead in so much.
>gained 36 kilos in two years despite 4 soccer training sessions a week and game on weekends for last 9 years >had to stop playing soccer because I became too fat >I've been winning math contests and use to be top of the class student back in middle and high school, now failing at math in college >literally became dummer >losing sight, 90% in left eye, 70% in right >chronic tiredness, waking up more tired than when going to bed, can't run more than 15 meters
Finaly after two MRIs, three hoispital stays, litres of tested blood and four stress tests diagnosed with extreme hypothyroidism and insuline resistance, and Hashimoto's is still a possibility.
After few months of taking the meds, I started to feel worse. I couldn't move my little fingers at all, my legs didn't feel completly under control, started to miss keys on keyboard, drop objects etc. Now I'm also diagnosed with multiple sclerosis.
>>591849348 If you're not happy with the gf, break it off. Stop lugging her on; you'll make it harder for both of you to part each other. In regards to the other girl, I'd be a bit iffy about considering a long-term relationship with her... What if you were the bf's shoes? Would she do the same to you--that is, get into a relationship with you, and once she's bored of you, tell everyone that you're just some fuckbuddy? Girls like that just don't stop being sluts, sorry /b/ro.
To who ever is feeling like there really isn't an end, after college/univeristy, working or not working:
>Spent the last 6 months loathing everyday >Up at 6Pm, back in my parents house at 8Pm >Left college (brit) and got a job in the city - 2 hour commute each way >Hadn't seen any of the 'friends' I had at college since I left >They are all too busy or just don't want to make the effort >Finally new years eve came around and some people I knew invited me out >Got fucked up on a fair amount of drugs and alcohol >Realized something >Expectations are bull shit >There is a time and a place to figure the rest of your life out >And it's not now >Start to plan a trip >Going to have to work another 6 months to make it a full year of employment so I have something on my CV >In 6 months time I'm going to travel the world, by myself - You don't need friends to go anywhere. >Start in England, work my way through Europe, Asia, down to Nz, Australia >Hopefully find some answers to questions I haven't asked yet.
She's alot like me, her tastes, interests, not to mention she is my ideal women (tall, blonde, fucking drop dead gorgeous, blue eyes ect). I have never, fucking ever met someone like her. So the fact that she is beyond reach is literally the worst feeling that I have ever had.
I can barely go through my day without thinking fo her in some way. The worst part is shes my friend, so I see her all day at school and a lot of the time in-between classes its just us 2.
I understand your advice and thank you for it, but shes just too hard to get over, shes like cooking oil
Anon, you're 29. You have a job, you have savings. Just go man. Leave wherever you are and go somewhere you've never been. The next city over? Fuck that, go to Papa New Guinea - Why? Why the fuck - you think whatever you'll learn, find, discover and love will be worse that this?
No friends to go with? All that means is that you do want to do, go where you want to go, and no fuckers to stop you going back to that cute girl's place.
You're too overweight? You think living on a shoestring budget travelling from place to place won't turn you into some kind of hippie-ripped god? Maybe not, but it'll do fucking wonders regardless.
it's up to you man - either sit there unhappy, or venture into the unknown. And just fucking remember, the adventure starts when things go wrong.
>>591859533 That's tough. I'm sorry that it's that difficult for you. I can't tell you to stop loving? her so much.
I have a friend like that. All it took for me to get over my shit was honestly ask her if she would consider dating me but tell her you understand that she is in a committed relationship and just need to get it off your chest.
You're options are pretty simple. Tell her, don't be a dick and expect her to drop her boyfriend and run off with you, but if she is a mature reasonable human (you make that call) she can just politely explain her situation. Otherwise cut loose and cut ties. Either by letting her know you need to just do your own thing for a little while or cut ties entirely and ignore her.
>>591860570 I have no job, some savings I've already travelled, problem with travel is that I'm still with me. Still lonely. I have no social skills, never had a gf, so, doubt I'll be "picking up a cute girl" .. I wouldn't even know how.
I just bought a gun. Bought myself 1 bullet at the gun store. Was cheap. My life has been fucking harsh on me. This is my last time, after the past 9 years, on /b/. Thanks for the fun, guys. See you in the basement in the sky.
>>591847060 >about 3AM >Man on the phone is piss drunk, slurring his words like a fucking idiot >"SOME FUKIN DOG JUS FUKIN BIT MY LEG" >"Sir, is the dog currently near your location?" >"NO BUT HE'S ABOUT TO BE" >I can literally hear the guy running >"I'MMA FIND THAT DOG AND I'MMA PISS ON IT" >"We have just dispatched an ambulance toward your location. Stay away from the dog." >"I'MMA FUKIN PISS ON THE DOG" >I'm losing my shit at this point >"Sir, I really need you to stay away from the dog" >Hear a dog growling >Hear the distinct sound of piss >Hear the man screaming in pain as the dog bites him >He hung up
I fucking died laughing at this. Top motherfucking kek m8.
No job? Fucking happy days, you have no commitments.
Enough for a plain ticket is all you need. And anon, the cute girl is not the point. The point is that there are things out there that you don't know will make you happy. And until you see and experience those things - you will never know.
It's a big step admittedly and will take a lot of balls, but you're also forgetting that everyone you meet from the get go has no fucking idea who you are. And don't tell me that you're socially awkward because I'm just a guy who you've met in a bar who happens to know a lot of cool places and people.
You can't close doors on yourself - there's just no reason for it.
like a month ago, I was going to ask a girl to be my girlfriend, we used to hold hands and hug a lot, but a friend of her, told me that she was in a little party and met a guy, like 2 hours after meeting him, they fucked in the bathroom. I am so disappointed of her, we were like bread and butter, our relation would have been perfect, but nope, she was a whore.
>Having this girl I crush on, been on a couple of dates before, she's been nice and all. >Getting her on a date again, to a gig of a band I know she really likes >Going to tell her I like her, if she rejects me I'll be okay with it. >Getting mentally ready on my way to the gig. >She texts me "Sorry anon, I'm not feeling ok tonight. See you later." >A week later she's on a relationship with a random anon. >muh feelings
>>591849348 Do you love your girlfriend? If you do, stay; i you don't, staying will only hurt her more in the end.
Unfortunately, English is a terrible language to make this distinction, but I'll use the Swedish terms: you can be "förälskad", which is basically "crushing", on someone, but to actually "älska", that's a different story. Are you "förälskad" in this cute girl, or do you actually "älska" her?
>>591862091 The problem is eventually you have to settle down someplace, and when you have depression and chronic anxiety, it is hard to ever really be comfortable. No matter where you are. Running away doesn't solve it, I've actually tried (I've been through most of the world).
I also have family, and, as long as I'm alive I seem to be somehow attached to them. I don't know how to escape that, and when I leave them they make me feel so guilty it is terrible. When I'm with them, they make me feel miserable. So, it's obviously me, not them.
I need to get a job and quit with this "mental disorder" shit, quit getting fucked up on jew drugs they say will help me, and fucking not being a pussy...but, its hard. Might be harder than I can handle. Sometimes suicide is the best option.
>>591851674 dude you may not have talents now but you are a person and people are different from robots in that they can learn and grow and get better.
every day do something new. read a fucking book and you will know something new. get off your ass and go outside. take a hike, literally.
you will feel like shit, anon.
then one day you will realize something. "wow, I can run to <someplace> without breaking a sweat" if you've been going to the gym, then you might say that. or if you've been going to school or studying you might realize that you know a lot about something others don't. put yourself in tough situations and you will become tough and all the other situations will be fucking easy.
and, there's always the military, but if you're not into that, don't do it.
> have a nice family > have a nice boyfriend > have friends to hang out with > have good grades, lucky enough to be able to study at university > kinda pretty > still feels sad > feels bad for feeling sad > stupid cycle
Well Anons. Heading out. I know this will 404. Maybe I'll see you guys in another feels thread at some point in the future. Stay happy. You'll get over your stuff.
PS >>591862996 English is a fucking shitty language. It's shit at everything. I hate how hard it is to actually word stuff in a manner that explains what I want to say. It borrows from so many languages but not well.
>meet a shy, quiet girl with self esteem issues >talk to her cause i figure she's an easy lay > 6/10 nothing special, not pretty, but cute >ends up being an amazing girl, we become close friends >she always remembered my birthday, she was always there for me when i felt like shit, she listened to me rant and bitch. >she was nicer than i deserved >after a while it becomes obvious she likes me as more than a friend >being a stupid faggot i turn her down when she confesses to me because i think that i can find someone better (hotter) >by some miracle i do, get it in with an 8/10 >my friend was devastated, but said nothing >"I'm happy for you, Anon." >my gf hates her for some reason, not even out of fear of stealing me or anything. >pretty cruel to her on a regular basis >there are times when it got pretty intense >im too ashamed even now, even here to admit to what we did to that poor girl. >i side with my gf cause i dont want her to break up with me, so i start bullying her too. >soon, everyone starts treating her like shit >after a while it got easier to ignore my guilty conscience. >my friend tries to back off, so we just ignore her for a while. >halloween comes, my gf and some of her friends think of a prank to invite her to come to a party with us and then instead pelt her with piss balloons or something. >"haha yeah lol thats gonna be so funny" >we invite her, she's reluctant, but i insist and promise her it'll be fun. >she believes me, puts on a gandalf costume and comes >we're all riding in my car, stop in front of a random house in some faraway neighborhood we scouted out earlier >it's pretty ghetto and kind of scary >we end up just driving off after she gets out of the car and leave her >tfw i remember she doesn't have a phone >gf thinks thats hilarious >i feel horrible, but i dont turn back >she doesn't come back to school >turns out she tried to kill herself when she finally got home. her parents pulled her out of school.
Everyday I wonder why I bother people with my existence. I'm to cowardly to kill myself, but I deserve it. I feel happy when others are miserable. But I am highly empathetic until they leave because I just want to feel something besides sadness, besides the horrible happiness I get from hurting others.
>>591863670 Yeah, I don't know. For sure, I'm an anxious person and I'm really scared for the future but I don't really know why. I don't want to grow up, to become an adult, to have responsabilities... I feel the whole world's weight on my shoulder already, I don't need any other pressure. And I'm still complaining for absolutely nothing.
>>591864292 Year is just starting man, you have eleven and a half months ahead of you. Start changing things tomorrow. I remember when my last gf left me for some other anon I went for some months of grief and heavy drinking alone at home. After that I decided it was enough of being a sissy and started to do things I wanted to do but was too busy to do before. I went back to college and started to learn homebrewing and cooking, now I got a group of friends who love coming home to dinner and drinking my brews (still no gf tho, but it will come sooner or later)
>playing volleyball with friends at my school's gym >finish up, everyone heads out and I start walking toward the gym >phone starts buzzing >"Call from Dad" >fuck >"Hey buddy, I just wanted to let you know..." >fuck, fuck not in public >eyes start welling up >"Grandpa Buddy died today." >my dad just lost his dad >he's sobbing on the other side >"I'm calling everyone now... We'll fly you out for the funeral. I love you." >"I love you too dad, I'm sorry." >he can barely talk between the sobs >"Me too, bud."
>>591863199 It seems to me like you're just going by what your family tells you. Ditch the meds and get a job you love if you've done the travelling bit, even if it means going to night classes. Smoke a bit of weed here to take the edge off (watch David Attenborough documentaries, fuck anxiety) and there but none of that prescription shite.
Build up enough for a deposit on a flat, socialize with your new work colleagues.
'Harder than I can handle so kill myself'.
Are you fucking with me?
You could be Jesus reincarnated as a fucking dragon, mate. If you want to be happy. Just be happy - it's just in your head. At any rate, I'm off to bed - good luck pal, I really hope you don't kill yourself. Just smile, man. Even if you don't want to.
>>591865027 I was the same way in college. You're not complaining over nothing, some of us are just programmed that way. You likely have an anxiety disorder, but, hang in there and avoid drugs (really bad for us, because we are the most likely to get addicted through self medication) and careful with psychiatrists (they'll drug you).
Make sure you are studying what you love and not what you think you "SHOULD" be doing. Big difference between want and should. I did so many shoulds I ended up miserable after school, so, I speak from experience.
Life is scary, but, it's important to learn to be comfortable with yourself. That means being independent.
Side note: I tell my sister if she gets married, she still has to be independent that way if she ever wants to leave or something happens, she can and will never feel stuck.
> be almost 20 > recently ended 1.5y relationship with my only gf > studying CS on university > not in hometown > not know anyone besides guys from my group in uni > know like 3 girls from group, all ugly > tfw i have no idea how to find gf > tfw kinda lonely > tfw i don't enjoy clubs
What do, life? Go to malls, randomly starting conversations with girls? I have no idea how to find any gf, other than I shouldn't look for gf but just rather make female friends. Still don't know how to achieve that.
>>591866056 I lied, i seek the answer to a question i don't know
I'm so very broken, everything is hard my three surgeries bring nothing but eternal pain i have to block out but can't they make it hard to breath, hard for my heart to beat, the center of my ribs is held together by cartilage so thin my heartbeat moves my chest, which is painful
want to know the worst bit, i'm poor and haven't found work in 8 months, it gets worse every day and i can't afford to do ANYTHING, my only vice and way away from it all, sleep and 4chan
i wish i didn't have health issues or wasn't born poor or could get a job and god knows i'v tried, fuck i have nothing left to say
>>591867879 Free Software Organization? :) I'd rather need some place where there are some young people, and preferably more female. It's not like I'm some faggot sitting in the cellar. I am comfortable with people who I know, but it's hard for me to get to know someone. I guess that means I'm shy.
It's a weird feeling to just sit back and watch the time just go by. It's almost numbing in a way, yet there is this feeling of fear, dread and regret always looming in the background. Because of it, relationships with friends and those who may have been close at one time drift off into the sea of grey. And it all just leaves a want to go to sleep one night, and just not wake up...
Let me tell you something you already know. The world ain't all sunshine and rainbows. It's a very mean and nasty place and I don't care how tough you are it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard ya hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That's how winning is done!”
>best friend halfway across the world >only person i can talk to is friend >only time i feel happy is when im drunk and alone w/o him >"family" all thinks im okay >pokerface.jpg >havent heard from my mother in almost a year >father is too busy with his new family >only talks to me when he needs help with labor work >work as much as possible to try to hide my depression and suicidal thoughts from myself >thats not enough >my daily life in a nutshell
>Be 19 >father died of cancer in November >11 year old sisters bday two weeks after he passed >her birthday >Mom gives her a card >says it was from dad >he actually bought it for her >Wrote a small note >says I love you and happy bday >Died a little bit inside that day.
>>591852294 >be me, 31 >still sleep with a stuffed tiger I got when I was 5 from my dad >dad fell into a coma two weeks later, then died >tfw I have nothing left of him but this tiger >tfw I have no face I miss my dad
>With a girl for five years >She's amazing. She's everything I wanted in a woman, and more. She's quirky, she rides motorcycles, loves math and engineering, and volunteers at homeless shelters. >Met her at the end of college. We move in together. Have good careers. Neither of us are ready to marry, but I love her every moment. I look forward to my life. >I decide it's time. I ask her to marry me, at Christmas, surrounded by her family. >She dies three days later in a motorcycle accident. Drunk driver in a van, hit and run, he's never found. >Spend a year miserable. Her friends and I grieve regularly, and spend time together, but after three months her friends have mostly moved on. I haven't. >After a year I'm still hurting everyday. Run into her best friend randomly. We start spending time together. >It's been three years since then, and I'm engaged to her best friend. I grieve less and less for the love of my life. I try to look forward. >I find out she's pregnant three weeks ago. >All I feel is depressed, knowing the baby isn't a part of her, that this isn't love with her best friend, that life isn't anything I want to live anymore... >I've cried everyday since.
>>591876238 Maybe you should try to care less about what other people say and think and realize that only you can live your life for you, nobody else is going to so why does it matter what their opinion on it is?
>>591876258 Sloppy seconds. I'm not exactly a catch anyway and at 24 the only virgins I'm gonna find are either Jesus freaks, real nasty looking unfuckables or a walking invitation to be on a sex offenders register.
>>591876625 She was less socially awkward than me. Actually only met her because she and a friend insisted on driving 5 hours across the country to come meet me. And she wasn't a hardcore gamer & neither am I. Just filthy casuals who played dead island way back and added each other then sent a few messages every once in a while which led on to meeting up and having a relationship.
>>591879069 You spend your spare time baiting and insulting faceless strangers anonymously over the internet.
Nobody here shares your delusion that you're better than any of us and in a position to look down on and judge. You clearly don't lead a fulfilling life and we're here for you when you're ready to start dealing with that instead of projecting your insecurities.
I stopped for gas today. Across from me was this lady arguing with her son, because her son wanted to join the marines and she wouldn't let him.
I put the nozzle on the pump and said to them, "Being a Marine is the second hardest job of all time."
Both of them looked at me, confused.
I said, "To foster a pride, to be forged in boot camp. To fear and respect those around you, to be feared and respected yourself. To nurture a friendship, a bond of loyalty to your comrades, to know them as you know yourself. Sometimes better." I paused a moment, taking my receipt.
"I'm not a Marine. I'm just an IT guy that works in a comfortable office. But my best friend...
He sits in the cold every night valiantly, so that I don't have to...
He stands guard, so I don't have to...
And he may die, so I don't have to.
And I'll miss him.
>God, I'll miss him.
As a result, a Marine is the second hardest job in the world... Because the hardest is being that Marine's friend."
The young man looked at his mom, silently.
"Ma'am, be proud that your son wants to be a Marine. Just make sure he knows how to get home."
"The second hardest job in the world is being the one to foster a pride, spend your every waking hour forging them to who they will become, to teach them fear and respect, to nurture a friendship, a bond of loyalty, to know them as you know yourselves, and then to let them go off to war and risk their life when you've spent every moment since giving birth to them just trying to keep them safe."
Or something to that affect. Then your message would have probably given them both some perspective rather than just sounding like "Oh man my life is so hard :("
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