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Why do girls get weird when you stop dating them?
I went out with a girl recently and we broke up after a few months. Breakup was mutual and while we didn't get on badly we had a lot of different tastes so I think it was a good time to end it.
But basically, Girl has made me find the whole situation quite awkward. I accidentally bumped into her a about two months ago and tried to make some small-talk rather than pretending I didn't see her. She seemed really awkward even talking for 5 minutes so I left it there. I text her a few weeks later to ask how she was doing but she didn't respond.
I'm a bit annoyed because it makes me think she thinks I was pestering her because I still want to be with her. I don't. It was more me trying to keep things calm as I would rather not have things end with both us disliking one another.
I won't bother contacting her again but back to my question: what makes girls get really weird when you stop dating them? Pretty much all the girls I've dated have done something similar.
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Answer honestly, do you have the autism
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It's awkward when you've had an intimate relationship like that and are no longer in that intimate relationship. Even if it's not like you hate the person, it's still weird.
This is why relationships usually kill friendships, and it's naive to think you can still be friends just the same as you were before after. That's not to say its impossible to be friends, but it's extremely difficult and unless you had a particularly lengthy/strong friendship before the romantic feelings developed, it's usually not worth the effort to maintain.
If you really want to maintain the friendship, your best bet is to give space for now. Immediately after is the hardest time, it's at peak awkwardness. After some time/space they might come back around after cooling off. Or they might have decided it's not worth trying to work through and not come back around at all.
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>>18728353
i'm not op but yeah I have autism why?
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>>18728367
Thanks. Perhaps I'm being idealistic because unlike a few previous relationships, I don't have any lasting romantic feelings for this girl. I've lost a few friendships by dating and in most instances I've been okay with it. It's really tricky to get back to the starting point, as you say.
I'll chalk this up to us not being on the same wavelength.
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