I'm in my first relationship at 22 with a guy I recently lost my virginity to. We've been dating 4 months. He was really enthusiastic about making me his girlfriend the last 4 months and I was a bit standoffish due to being rather afraid of relationships and men in general..anyway I eventually caved to making it "official" and I finally let him have sex with me last week..but now he just seems mostly indifferent about it like it was no big deal.. do men sometimes lose interest in a girl once they've had sex? Why did letting him have me seem to make him bored ?
>>18724065
yes they do.
don't put value on something that has no value. thats all i can say
>>18724065
He just wanted sex and you gave it to him.
Better luck next time.
>>18724067
I don't think it's inherently valuable but it was rather emotionally tramatic to lose it. And while he wasn't unkind about it he really didn't seem to understand why I was upset at all. I've been taken for a ride haven't I? He's still "with me" but i sense he's lost the need to..woo me at all...
>>18724068
It's not over yet but I can feel it. And now I'm just a slut for choosing the wrong dude.. fml
>>18724073
He'll most likely break up with you when he finds his next big catch.
He's getting distant because he doesn't really care and never did.
Welcome to relationships 101, you just learned your first lesson, some men just want your puss, and will be very patient to get it.
Find someone who cares more about you and less about sex if this experience is painful for you.
>>18724079
This doesn't make you slut tier unless you repeat the mistake a few more times.
>>18724083
What gets me is that you probably think this is true. 8/10 bait would reply again
Guys can lose interest after sex but it's usually for a reason.
Think of it like this, up until you put out you're a mystery, they're figuring you out. Once sex has been had once or a few times they know.
Personal theory: you made him wait a long time for boring sex.
>>18724087
Just think, your shitpost will have value if OP ends up in a happy relationship with this fellow.
>>18724085
How am I to avoid it though? VERY few men are willing to date a girl for even 2 months without sex and he did it for 3 so how the fuck am I supposed to tell who is and isn't serious ? He seemed pretty serious these last few months so why am I the bad guy for just doing what I can to find love? God men make me sick lately
give him a break it took 4 months, thats quite a task
you cant expect anyone prying over you with the same intensity for a lifetime
>>18724092
That could be but he seemed impressed with my blow job skills. He didn't even believe I was a virgin because if it ..(I hadn't even touched a dick prior but I watched tons of porn as a teen)
>>18724101
It kind of annoys me.
He was all into me when I wasnt fully his and now that I am he's bored? If anything having sex made me MORE attached to him even if I didn't like the sex itself.
>>18724110
sounds like you are looking for an excuse to dump him in the future so someone can chase you again, just calm your tits, enjoy the relationship
>>18724113
Nah I caught feelings so I want it to work. I just think he's lost interest and it's really disenheartening
>>18724121
It wouldn't hurt to ask him about it, if he's really interested I think he'd listen to your feelings at least. Try not to sound like you need him to be interested in you back just ask where you guys are at.