Confused about sadistic feelings?

>>18720232
Do you watch lesbian bdsm porn? Or would you like to?

Internalized misogyny mixing with the sexualization and glorification of violence in Western media. Grow some self-awareness and get help if it bothers you.

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>>18720247
I have tried to watch some out of curiosity but I couldn't get into it. If I fantasize myself being in those situations it excites me, but watching others do it wasn't interesting to me. And I'm not 100% sure if that excited feeling is arousal either, it is different from what I feel with my boyfriend, it is more like an insane endorphin rush, it makes me feel powerful and alive.

>>18720232
>Strong urges to hurt other women
Isn't that just part of being female? And I don't see why it would necessarily have to involve sex. If it's not sexual, it's not sexual.

>>18720314
Then you just violent, girl.

>>18720324
>Isn't that just part of being female?
For what it's worth I'm not talking about jealousy or pettiness, it isn't exactly something as calculated as that. I'm talking like when I'm hugging my friends, I feel really close to them and I feel their bones and I just get this urge to put pressure on them so I squeeze really hard. Then it passes after a second but it just comes out of nowhere.

>>18720232
You are confusing anger with erotic sadism. The latter is really not about pain or violence but about role-playing. Couples doing S&M usually don't really cause physical damage - it is the playing at being so helpless and submissive that you MIGHT get hurt while knowing it's safe to play because you WON'T get hurt that turns subs on. And it's playing at having the power to hurt while knowing you won't go beyond agreed-on limits that excites the dom.

Anger at others that leads to imagining hurting them is all about anger, not sex

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>>18720232
This is a power thing, not really to do with sex. Sadists use sex to feel powerful. It's not about sex, it's about the control and domination of another. So the answer is no, it's not always about sex. You could be depressed or feel like u don't have much control in your life, this can materialize into feelings of domination and control. Hurting others not only means that you're in control but that you're not the one being hurt. Predator/prey mentality.

>>18720668
When you talk about wanting to feel powerful I relate to that. And it is true I don't really have a lot of control in my life. I had these feelings even back when my life was still pretty free, like when I was in middle school I asked my friend to let me choke her, and let her choke me too (this was before I knew people did this as a sexual act, I probably wouldn't have asked if I knew). But I have been feeling them more and more ever since I entered the adult world. I fantasize about hurting women I work with who I like and get along with and it makes me feel guilty. But in a weird way I feel like it would get me closer to them? I feel like I want to get closer to these people and if I put my hands on them and hurt them then I'm connecting with them.

>>18721234
>But in a weird way I feel like it would get me closer to them? I feel like I want to get closer to these people and if I put my hands on them and hurt them then I'm connecting with them.
See this to me makes it sound sexual. Maybe you are attracted to these women but since you don't want to have sex with them your mind accepts physical violence as a sex substitute, another way for you to bond with them physically. Or maybe you are attracted them but feel like you shouldn't be, so your desire is manifested as a need to hurt or destroy the thing that is making you feel confused. This is armchair shit though, you might wanna talk to a psychiatrist.

>>18720232
if a woman offered herself to you as a pet, how would you respond? Would you enjoy that or do you have to abuse her in order to enjoy it?

>>18721593
It depends, if it was someone who I really admired then that would make me feel amazing, it would be such an ego boost. I never really thought about that before but your post made me think of how excited that would make me feel.

>>18721580
>Maybe you are attracted to these women but since you don't want to have sex with them your mind accepts physical violence as a sex substitute, another way for you to bond with them physically.
I think you have a point here, reading this kind of resonated with me somehow. Maybe I should see a psychiatrist.

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>is this called sadism?
Why do you care? Don't label yourself