Infatuation

Well first of all why can't you have her? If she has a boyfriend then you could probably just make do with finding another girl that you like on the same level. Don't act like not having the girl you want right now is the end of the world my man, it won't turn out nicely.

>>18719432

she lives across the ocean. It's not common to find really cute girls who share the same passion as me. She's totally the type of girl I would want, and since I've only ever met one other like her. It kind of makes my infatuation worse

>>18719426
This happens to me all the time. I'll be really into a girl but they're either taken or not interested. I'm starting to think maybe I'm the problem. What's up with you though?

>>18719453
Does she like you back? You could start a long distance relationship. Although it's a lot of hard work, the pay off is magnificent. Not trying to sound gay, but one of my past relationships was LD and I've never been more in love. At the end, she cheated on me and we broke up, but I would do it again.

One-itis is cancer OP.
However you can cure from it when you accept that she was nothing unique here are the three general rules:


-You are in love only with an image of her not her actual persona.

-That girl may have been a good girl, however there are tons of others just like her.

-No girl is worth getting depressed over, unless you were deeply involved you lost nothing, stop putting her above you and the other girls.

>>18719459

Lol. We've only been messaging for 2 days. As I said, I'm infatuated. I'm not sure if she likes me, but she does like talking to me at least.

Honestly I don't see how an LDR could really work. This exact scenario happened to me in the past, I got really attached (she had told me she liked me and all of that stuff) but things didn't work and she got a local boyfriend. I got hurt as fuck. I don't really think I could handle that again, trust wise. Although an LDR would be ideal with my life situation

>>18719469

>however there are tons of others just like her.

That's not true with certain qualities. She has a quality not many girls have

>>18719477
Honestly, you're probably getting cstfished by some dude. I wouldn't get too attached so quickly.

>>18719477
No.
That is what you assume to be true.
Many other girls share the same quality.

Last is she doesn't like you, just let it go it was never meant to be.

>>18719487

I know how to avoid catfish, so I'm not worried about that.

>>18719487
That's the problem with most one-itis.
They think they are in love with the girl when they are just in love with a picture their brain fabricated.
It's funny, knowing it could just be a man scamming them on the other side

>>18719492
Fuck an escort, it will fix you.

>>18719473
Don't shoot yourself down before it even happens. If you try and it doesn't work, that sucks. But if you don't try, you will always wonder what could have happened, and possibly regret it your whole life.

>>18719489

>many girls share the same quality

Wrong.

I'm a pilot. Aviation is my life. Its something I'm extremely passionate about and spend all of my free time reading, watching, and flying airplanes. That is NOT common amongst women. Infact there are very very few women in the industry. Even fewer of ones that are decent looking. So, it really made my heart rate go up since I started talking with a cute girl who is passionate about it as me.

>>18719494

>Fuck an escort, it will fix you.

I'd never waste my money on a literal whore

>>18719495
That sounded very cliche but it is true.

>>18719495

The hurt I went through last time tho makes me hesitant

>>18719497
Qualities have nothing to do with center of interests anon.

That's even a mistake you are making, basically you focus yourself on a comfort zone by thinking that she likes the same as you = she is a good match for you.

>>18719498
Suit yourself.

>>18719502

Why wouldn't you want someone who shares the same passions?

>slut yourself

Never have, never will

>>18719502

>suit

shit, I read slut

>>18719501
Of course it does, that's totally natural.

However, she had nothing to do with that. Long distance relationships can and have worked. Might as well give it a chance.

People quote this a lot: "The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results." This is thrown around a lot. However, it is not the same situation, because it is a different person. Things could be entirely different, and maybe actually work out.

>>18719504

No your misunderstand.
If she shares the same passions, it's cool.
But just don't think that you lost something big like " gosh I will never find a girl who likes planes like do :'^( "

That's wrong, it's just like /v/irgins who think they need a gamer girl to be their gf and only a girl who likes video games could be a potential date...


Sharing cultural ideas and practices for instance is far more important.

Last, I am sorry bro but you never met the girl in real life right? Get real, these relationships are a joke.

>never have, never will

Every man does sooner or later, you just need to evolve from your deluded ideals.

>>18719510

I guess so.

Still tho, I'm infatuated and I don't even know if she likes me. I just hate this feeling of excitement for it to just die out.

>>18719513

That's a trait in a girl I want. For us to be passionate about the same things. I'm not going to settle with a girl just because I need to settle. That's stupid.

>implying every man because a slut

No

>>18719522
How old are you?

>>18719522
You don't know, but it's worth a shot. At the very least, spend more time talking and see how it pans out.

>>18719529

28

>>18719530

I will

>>18719522
That's good.
However go out of your comfort zone.
Go and try to know girls who have not a lot in common with you.

Trust me, what you are doing is a big mistake.

Could you imagine if every man had to date a girl with the same passion?
That's the most boring thing ever.

>>18719532

Not when your passion is something that is always growing and something that's very real in the world.

>>18719532
Married anon here. Not necessarily. It's not a magic relationship-maker but the best relationships are also friendships. We game together every night, and while that didn't make our relationship, the shared interests certainly help.

>>18719539
It is good.
However anon should not fixate his thought on it.
He obviously thinks this girl was unique or more than the others because she shares the same interest.


Friendship also doesn't necessarily mean same interest.

I have yet to date a girl who is a Sonic fan...

>>18719522
>>18719532
>>18719539
I'd say it's important to have a balance of shared and differing interests. I've been in a relationship for over 6+ years now. We have some shared interests, like music and video games, but we also have differences that gives us something to talk about. It's cool telling them stuff they don't know much about, and vice versa

>>18719545
Good point. I agree.

>>18719545

Nobody is going to 100% share all of the same interests.

But it would be very special to me if we both shared the same main passion

>>18719558
What about the possibility that she isn't currently passionate about it, but might become interested once you introduce it to her? And if she still isn't interested, then that doesn't mean you won't be able to relate to her. You'll both find plenty of things you have in common. Enjoying someone's company doesn't require being super similar to them

>>18719564

It's just extremely attractive to me. Hence the reason why I'm infatuated with this girl

>>18719572
Sharing unusual hobbies can be very attractive.

>>18719774

It is!

These strong feels you have are an illusion crafted by neurons in your brain. Just ignore them.

>>18719797

I know they are. It's just frustrating