What is the key to conversation with other people ?

>>18716162
That contrast between "the easily approachable guy" funny and outgoing person and the loner is mentally uncomfortable. Doesn't it bother you ?

Like one day you're a star, if not THE star, then just a pleasant memory.

People are primarily concerned with themselves. Talk to them about their interests and consolidate their opinions and they'll enjoy talking to you - even if you say very little.

Also, use humour when you can, but don't force it. Don't insult the other person, or make jokes at the expense of your mutual friends/colleagues for cheap laughs. This will reflect badly on you. Speak ill of no man and no man shall speak ill of you.

Find common ground with the person and focus upon those things that draw you closer together, rather than differences that may hinder your ability to bond.

Avoid conflict and argument at all cost, always bite your tongue, always let the other person save face. Even if you think they're wrong, turn the other cheek.

Simple things over time can lead to more meaningful friendships; Call them by their first name, remember their favourite music or food and develop your own knowledge of these things. People will not only be flattered by the attention, but will reciprocate such advances and soon you'll have friends with whom you can share all your favourite experiences, hobbies and so forth.

>>18716188
Finding common ground hits the spot. I just realized I seldom find something that startles me enough ro stay engaged. Is this a hinr has to havinf a forseeable furure with this person ?
Does common ground has to be "deep" as in deeper than watching game of thrones ? or should I build on watching Game Of Thrones ?