Any other mid/late 20s virgins here? any gender.

is abstinence until marriage a virtue anymore?

>>18705968
>anime
>virgin
Checks out.

>>18705968
I've seen a couple of threads like this in /soc/

F 24,5 kissless virgin here.

>>18705971

It is a virtue that for most people is outweighed by how odd it is.

Does mutual masturbation without penetration counts as losing virginity?

>>18705968
23, only had sex twice. Still feel like virgin though. Because of the lack of experience.

>>18705968
26yo virgin guy

25, female, more virgin than Saint Mary

26, M, was one till last year, now I'm engaged.

>>18706044
Same basically. M, mid 20ish

>>18706035
No, I've done that over Skype before with someone over 3,000 miles away. That doesn't count but just like with me it probably laid the ground work for actual sex. I should be losing my virginity when we see each other at the end of the year. Before I turn 25.

20 M

Get out of here nonvirgins
>>18706044
>>18706050

>>18706057
Wrong board. You're thinking of /r9k/.

>>18706048
Are you fat, mentally ill, and/or a shut-in NEET?

>>18706073
I'm fat and introverted, and too picky to agree on random sex with random people.

>>18706055
Well I mean we did everything but penetration because I had no condoms

>>18706147
So you're only worried about pregnancy then and not STDs?

>>18705968
23, female khv

I worry about it sometimes, but man I have to finish uni and AFTER that I have to get in shape, finish reading all the comics I want to read, all the animus I want to watch, all the videogames I want to play, get better at sum hobbies that will give me income and then when I've done all this I will worry about not being alone forever and having no friends! Yeya, I just hope loneliness doesn't come crawling back at me when I finish uni

All in all, life is good

For the moment

>>18705971
I still consider it as such.
Even more valuable in women these days.
>>18705996
>>18706048
Props. Remember to tell any dates that you won't have sex until marriage--those looking for a quick fuck will bail, leaving the ones who actually care about you.
>>18706035
>>18706147
That's not virginity, for all intents and purposes. I hope you're still with the guy you lost it to.
>>18706079
I'd recommend exercising. Not to be rude, but I could say more if I knew your weight. I'm 5'10, 170 lbs skinnyfat.

>>18706242
>I worry about it sometimes
It's a sad state of society when a virtue such as chastity is a source of shame. Don't let anyone pressure you into giving it up. Refer to my other advice for weeding people out.

What's your ideal type of guy (not making a pass, to be clear)?

>>18706245
I mean I'm worried about literally having one friend since I was 10, not about losing the big V
I think virgins are proobably much more common than you think

I've tried making friends but I always come out as grumpy/autistic and people don't like that, it's a shame I like caring guys that are a little more outgoing, I'm the opposite so I can't meet people like this much, I also have a thing for outgoing big chuby guys, plus 10 if they are nerdy and have glasses and are kind. But I've never had a bf so I couldn't actually know

If the guy likes conventions and videogames and likes to read then that's a 20plus plus because I'm also into that type of culture

I should strip my fear of social gatherings and all will be alright
But now I want peace to finish uni and do all the things I've said

I lost it a couple of weeks ago at 24, it was not even proper sex since i came super fast after a shitton of foreplay. She dumped me later(not straight after the sex lol) i don't know her reasons probably found somebody she liked more.

I liked that it was with a girl i sort of HAD feelings for but it might have just been some random slag and i would probably feel the same way. The whole thing about saving your virginity for that special person feels strange to me now. Since that 'special' person might turn out not to be so special after all.

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>>18705968
25
Never even so much as talked to a girl. Never had friends or social circles of any kind.
Fat, shut-in, with no job or education.
Look forward to my school shooting senpaitachi~!

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>>18705968 (OP)

24 m
Reasons:
>1. I was raised in a very conservative religious household
>2. I was homeschooled
>3. I was asocial growing up
Left home and religion at 21; started socializing/learning social skills
>4. Was hung up on losing virginity to another virgin for 2 years
Given up on this prospect; at this point:
>5. Am insecure about lack of experience
>6. Slightly insecure about body
>7. Would like to lose virginity to someone that I at least know and like
>8. Religious indoctrination still active; feel guilty for pursuing sex
Turned down 5 opportunities, and messed up 4 more so far. Now I think I'll just force myself to go for it at the next opportunity. I fear I'm missing out on what should be the [sexually] best decade of my life.

Just turned 24. Feels bad man.

Where do I meet people?

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>>18705968
I wish I lived in a society that didn't move so god-damn fast.

17 is a fucked-up age to lose your virginity.

>>18706267
> I like caring guys that are a little more outgoing
Hmm, yeah, you picked the rarest type of the modern world.
Now, you can probably guess my political leanings, so I will say that it will be much easier to find someone closer to me in their views. Not an actual Nazi, mind you, as the only ones who would make it known in public are antisocial wrecks. I try to be polite, but I'm very introverted.
Your best bet would be looking among grand-strategy fans, especially the older games. Maybe you could drop a hint by downloading something like Darkest Hour, it could start a conversation. I want to emphasize two things: first, it will be very difficult to find somebody who meets your ideal, because most of them learn quickly not to hit on people and there aren't many to begin with, and secondly, not to be too picky about waiting to finish a degree. If you find someone, you can put it on hold and say you'll get together with them after uni, while hanging out occasionally.
>>18706278
This is why you make marriage the mark of a special person, not sex. Because sex will only matter if that person is special.

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>>18706303
You don't.
If you don't have friends from school/college already at that age, the ship has sailed for you.
Embrace wizardy anon!

>>18706314
I literally see no reason to wait that long for sex(obviously i would not like a future gf to put out after 1 date but wait until marriage no). If only this past experience made me wonder more about just trying the hook up thing for now.

saving yourself for the special type of person is a preference but i don't share that sentiment about it

>>18706331
It filters out all the people who just want your body, and it saves yourself even if a relationship doesn't work out.
It's quite selfish to expect sex from a gf--because if you won't marry her, she'll be harder-pressed to pair bond.

>>18706316
I don't believe that meme. I've moved several times over the years and managed to make friends. I honestly don't think I'll be a wizard, mainly because my self-esteem issues are dealt with (totally would have gotten laid in the last 4 years if I didn't have those problems).

I moved again and my coworkers are cunts so that takes that away. There has to be some place I can go regularly.

I'm probably not the virgin you're look for. I live for interesting things but never really bothered with the sex scene between 16-22. Before that period I had a bunch of things but not sex, and since the end of that period I've fucked a Muslim girl in the ass. Nobody quite agrees whether that counts. I'll finish her off later.

>>18706338
I'm in my 20's and in uni. Do you really think marriage is on my mind?

> saves yourself
from what?

Male virginity is not even a physical thing more a mental step to overcome

>>18706348
Would you consider a girl a virgin if she took it up the pooper?

Probably not. I'd say you've turned in the V card.

>>18706351
I'm in uni, too.
>Do you really think marriage is on my mind?
Seeing as it's the logical culmination of a relationship, it should be. You might be a Euro where they don't value it, in which case just be sure that it's with your lifelong partner.
>Male virginity is not even a physical thing more a mental step to overcome
Sort of. There are somewhat mitigated psychological effects when compared to the changes it does to women, but the main reason to wait until marriage is to not adversely affect your gf. If you break up, she's left with the damage while you walk away. So it's more a matter of consideration for the girl than for practicality.

>>18706339
I think you can meet people from meetup groups quite easily. It's probably best you pick one that's based around an actual thing of interest instead of a general group full of old people. It might involve spending 10mins on a train to get to some other city, but it'll probably be interesting.

You could also just do normal activities (working, volunteering, city stuff) that means you will come to know more people.

Both have a good chance of wanting to go out for drinks. Just remember that it's not normal for adults to be going out every day, so whatever social stuff you do will probably be plenty.

>>18706359
I'm a euro yeah. but i respect your values, i would not shame a person for it desu

>>18706359
You must be a Burger. No other education system produces people this dumb.

>>18706338
It's selfish to expect your bf/gf to be okay with a sexless relationship.

turning 25 at the end of next month
fit, 6'0, net worth of a quarter million

>>18706366
Thanks, mate. Good luck finding someone.
>>18706377
Explain to me what I said that implies lack of intelligence.
>>18706382
>It's selfish to expect your bf/gf to be okay with a sexless relationship.
How so? A relationship is far more than sex.
If a girl told me to have sex, I'd start ranting about it. It would be crushing, seeing someone I care about WANT to defile themselves in such a way.
Each partner needs to have self-respect and show respect to the other. That means avoiding any harm that you can.
I would be perfectly willing to have sex within marriage, because that shows we've fully committed to one another. Doing it beforehand is impulsive and leaves the girl even worse off if you break up--I would never do something so cruel to get my dick wet, not worth it.

>>18706303
>>18706316
>If you don't have friends from school/college already at that age, the ship has sailed for you.

Bullshit.

>>18706297 here. What I did was:
1. Use meetup.com for specific drinks/socializing events
2. Look around at work for fun/social people, and try to go along
3. Do the same at uni, which i enrolled in later

With all scenarios, you tactically attach yourself with more social people than you. Then it's easy to go along with them to things as they naturally plan/attend events. From there it's a matter of interacting with people. You will find some that resonate with your personality. You form contacts with those and form more direct relationships.

>>18706394
Just because you're an angry virgin manchild doesn't mean other men are. You don't want sex, fine. But don't try to imply it's bad that everyone else wants sex just because they are not brain damaged like you.

>>18706402
Slut detected.
I said sex should never be the goal of a relationship, not that I don't want it. It is something that should occur within a late stage of a relationship.
Or are you suggesting that I should treat women like objects and just use them for fucking?

>>18706314
>>18706314
why would I guess your political leanings? what?, I didn't understand half of what you said but thank you I guess, and I am not picky about finishing a degree I just don't want to be that person who happened to end uni in 10 years, which is pretty common around here. I'm the kind of person who prefers to cut the weed by the roots

21 year old male, virgin, never even had a GF.

120lbs 5'3 scrawny weak piece of shit.

>>18706415
embrace your inner manlet

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>>18706399
That advice is only for normies who learned how to socialise during their teens.
For actual introverts that have never had friends, if you didn't learn social skills early on, it's over.

>>18706424
That's /r9k/ tier whining. Do you want to improve your life? Stop whining. Do you want to continue being a loser piece of shit? Go to /r9k/.

>>18706409
You have never been on a date, why do you think you are an expert about relationships? Sex is part of a relationship. Just like going out on dates. You're just as ridiculous as someone who would say eating dinner together before marriage is wrong, and only true relationships do not have the couple eating dinner together.

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>>18706428
Ok, tell me then, how is it possible for someone with no social experience whatsoever to function around people?

>>18706414
>why would I guess your political leanings? what?
The name, anon. I am literally Hitler.
>I just don't want to be that person who happened to end uni in 10 years, which is pretty common around here.
This is fair, of course. It depends on what kind of personality you have. For me, I'd be motivated to get work done faster if I had a gf, but maybe it's the opposite if you feel like you would be provided for.

The sticking point is that, regardless, you should be wary of how predatory men have become on the dating scene. You have to have some filter in place to weed out, and saying you will wait until marriage is a great one. You don't even have to wait that long, because most of the thirsty guys will leave in a few weeks or maybe months after. I'd still recommend waiting, but it's obviously your call.

One last thing to keep in mind is that your youth won't last forever, so if you see a great opportunity, see where it leads. Be careful and very selective about who you end up with, of course.
>>18706436
I don't need experience in relationships to know things aren't a good idea. I have statistics over the past 50 years and thousands of years of tradition to guide me.
>eating dinner together before marriage is wrong
Except it's not. You should get to know someone before you marry them, and dinner is a good way to do that. Stop strawmanning my beliefs.
There is a reason why things are called "traditional." They work. You might not like how, because of liberal political leanings, but they do. I don't have the energy to get into a protrazacted argument about this, but the """sexual revolution""" has been an unmitigated disaster for both men and women. Men because they become scared of commitment, and women because they can't find a man to commit. So there's a lot of fucking, and far less love.

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>>18706424

Did you read my original post? I was homeschooled shut in introvert. I was a massive sperg when I started, but I pushed myself to keep learning.

As far as I've learned, doing life is no harder than a video game. You analyze scenarios, think through strategies, implement tactics, grind for skills, and bloody fight actually difficult scenarios to get experience.
For example I realized I didn't want to socialize because I was scared of making mistakes and being remembered for them. So, I developed a tactic of using one-off events where no one would see me again (eg, party in a different city) to learn, which mitigated the fear of reputation. It worked.

Apart from that, you just have to balls up and fight through the discomfort.


If you can play something like Dark Souls, you can learn to do real life.

>>18706450
Practice. What everyone else did.

>>18706243

29, m, never kissed or slept with a girl.

i guess that when i told the girl that i never dated, i got bailed on. You're right, hoping I find someone that will care about me.

>>18706454
The degenerate culture in Germany that is strong nudism and legal prostitution came strong during Hitler's rule. Bet you didn't know that.

25m kv here. Life is good.

>Turned 34, 2 days ago.
>Had girlfriends no sex
>Moved to middle of nowhere
>10+ years with no one within 50 miles of me
>Why am I green texting? Cause 4chan

I'm cool with it. I mean, I can't be salty or kys or meme feels over something I can't fully control.

I moved where I am for the work I do and it pays well. The cost is few around, thankless work that pays well.

Got into anime for like 4 or 5 years but lost interest in it. I lived in Japan for 10 years wasn't into back then.

I sometimes wonder if I'm missing out, but honestly. No. I'm not missing out on nothing. Sex is over-hyped and despite what people say on here. They talk big but most are virgins on 4chan. You honestly think people who "get laid" would waste there time getting on 4chan and talking about how many girls / boys they fucked?

That's what facebook and other shitty casual websites are for.

You can live without sex. You are never going to step foot on the moon or fly like superman. You upset and jealous of those things?

Of course not.

Cheers.

>>18706465
>strong nudism
No, although there was an emphasis on the Aryan physique. It wasn't sexual, no more than classical statues.
>legal prostitution
An unfortunate necessity in wartime. Better that than having scumbag soldiers raping civilians.
I don't agree with everything Nazi, of course, but my basic beliefs get me called one anyway. Like, the Lebensborn program was disgusting, and I would've shut it down and shot everyone participating.

>>18706496
You're only an armchair nazi.

>>18706480
I am upset and jealous that I'll never step on the moon though.

>>18706605
OK. I believe in my own set of values, and there are certain ideologies I agree with more because of overlap, but I won't autistically defend everything represented by the label.
If you're a registered democrat, I doubt you would agree with every position on the party platform But you would identify as a democrat nonetheless.

>>18706624
The only "values" you have shown are bitter virgin manchildren memes.

>hurr sex is bad
>durr everything was better in the old days

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>>18706637
That's a gross misrepresentation of my beliefs. I don't see how I have to be a " bitter virgin manchild" for holding beliefs that were considered the absolute norm for almost all of Western civilization.
Promiscuity is bad.
>inb4correlation=causation meme
True, but you can still use a correlation as a predictor, even if you don't know the cause.

>>18706648
>posting a compilation of meme graphs that is literally every day on /r9k/

>>18706654
It's still true. Hypersexuality and women focusing on dead-end "careers" instead of family have done nothing but harm.
https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/may/18/womens-rights-happiness-wellbeing-gender-gap
IF you object to anything from outside your own echo chamber, look at this. Go ahead and twist this into some sort of patriarchal oppression if you want, but you must concede that my viewpoint is hardly a conspiracy theory. It is perfectly plausible that sexual promiscuity causes a decline in quality of life.

>>18706399
Did you use meetup.com frequently to meet people? Also if I may ask, what city you live in?

The reason I'm asking because I don't really live in a large city (the nearest 6 digit population city is over 3 hours away), and ive used Meetup websites in the past but I've never found anyone from my city planning or doing anything. Wasn't sure if I was using the wrong site or if my city just sucks in that regard, lol

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>>18706833

>Did you use meetup.com frequently to meet people?
Yes. At the beginning it was my main source for social events

>what city you live in?
Wellington, New Zealand. I lived an hour away in a small town, but later decided to move to the city to support my quest to learn social skills.

Wellington has a population of about 200,000. I certainly think a city of at least 100,000 would be required to make make meetup sites viable.

Failing that, I think your best bet is university, school, or work - in that order.

25M. I don't really have any good reasons, like those who were in abusive situations or lived with religious family. During highschool some friendships soured and I went full retard, actively closing myself off to people who in hindsight were trying to be friendly. My social skills were never good, and they atrophied even further. Around 21, 22 I decided to try to get my life back on track and I've made some progress. I'm actually working towards some life goals of mine and I made a couple of friends. I went back to college to get that engineering degree I always flirted with. But now I've transferred to a new college and I know no one. Joined a relevant club but naturally it's dominated by men.

People often suggest meetup, and maybe its better in their locations. But in my position, there isnt a lot going on if you're not trying to join one of the LGBT or racial minority groups. So yeah, trying to figure out how to be normal and actually do things where I might actually meet a woman.

>>18706909
Are you from the Hutt Valley, the Kapiti Coast, or the Wairarapa?

>>18706460
>Caring about your reputation

I don't understand this.
It's like there's a tangible fear that everyone in your hometown will have a negative perspective of you, but it's totally unfounded in reality.

People don't care about you, and if someone does care, just go to a different place to make friends.

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26M, not kissless/handholdless/gropeless

I used to never have much of a chance as i always looked 5 years younger and my teens were really shitty, but now i'm looking like a man with a good enough appearance and personality to pull clam.

It's kinda weird, i can talk with everyone about everything, and i've had dates.
And i take an interest in my date for sure, but when my dates start taking a more specific interest in me out of small talk, i slowly start ghosting until the interaction dilutes into nothing over time. Seeing as i'm nerd AF and i expect no one around me to be on near that same level, my interest plummets down quickly automatically, and i return to my old habits, maybe it has to do with trust.

It seems i'm fond of looking for corners in a circular room, and i'm never sure i'll break out of it. It's really hard to figure out what gives me true happiness, because it all comes down to the life changing choices you make.

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22 M

I'm very glad I lost my first kiss at age 17, gives me some hope and means I'm not undersirable

I have a really qt neighbor who I've only seen a few times, last time she passed me by on the street and built up the courage to asked her name, I could tell she's shy but she was really cool, asked mine back while smiling. Then she gave me a physical thumbs up, we stared for some time and then kept walking opposite directions. The thing is I'm an atheist and I know her family is hardcore christian. Should I even bother trying to encounter her again? This happened early this year but lately I'm remembering that scene more and more.

25F
I have some kind of goldilocks syndrome, maybe I just put way too much value on sex and virginity but I have never found a guy I felt okay giving my first time to. When I told a friend about this she asked me to picture the kind of guy I would want I drew a blank. The answer isn't girls either, I tried dating them but I still couldn't do it.

>>18705968
25m

Wizard soon, haven't even kissed a girl. I just want to feel loved

>>18706937

Hutt Valley

...you can see why I chose to move to Welly, hah

>>18706949
>Caring about your reputation
I once sperged out at a workplace which caused some people to avoid me for the next year

I'm 25 and I lost my virginity at 23, I had only met her that night and couldn't cum while we did it, I'm not sure if she did either.

I'm just beyond hope at this point, I no longer feel the shame of not being able to be social which helps people learn what they're doing wrong and my family are all turning on me for being the way I am.

I want to end it

Am I still a virgin if I've given a guy head? Never had anything in me, probably waiting for marriage.

>>18707002
>Hutt Valley
I live in Upper Hutt and it's honestly not as bad as people say it is. Not much to do as a youth, but once you're an adult, you can appreciate it for what it is.

>>18707015
>I've given a guy head
>Never had anything in me

>>18707019
Yes. I don't understand. I put my mouth on a guy's PP but I've never even put a finger inside of me. However some people would see any sort of sexual activity as the loss of virginity.

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>>18707016
>>18707002

"Yang chas Solo chone Wookiee!"
"Tung ko ro yay ha yaba hahs gee."
"Ha mongo/Bargon wan chee kospah ol Jedi"
"Chone manya weesh asha beecho."

>>18707015
>waiting for marriage so I just gave him head lmao :)
Reminds me of those arab virgins who just do anal to stay pure for future their husbands. Always worth a laugh.

>>18707030
So what you're telling me is that I've lost my purity, right? I knew waiting for marriage is stupid DESU, just thought I'd see how long I can go.

>>18707035
Yes. If you really valued such a thing you would do you best to stick to the actual intention behind the concept rather than simply taking it at face value. The value of virginity is a kind of moral idea and by giving a guy head you're trying to skirt around the real meaning while still staying true to it superficially. However you sound like you were doing it "just because" so it's not like it matters anyway.

>>18707045
Honestly, yeah I guess. I turned 18 and sort of got freaked out that even the goodie two shoes kids I knew were getting down in the sheets. So I did do it just to do it. You're right though, I've never valued virginity or seen it as a way to gauge between the moral and immoral people of the world. I just followed along my family's Christian values in our small town. If it were up to me though, I'd much rather have someone who is a kind soul than someone who treats people like shit but holds onto things like whether someone's already done the deed or not. I never want to let a guy know he's taken my virginity though. So when I do engage in coitus, I'll for sure already have had popped my own cherry and will tell the guy that I'm not a Virgin. Because I never want a guy to think I saved myself for him. Just how I personally see it, as foolish as it may be.

Good luck though, I hope you meet a 25 year old qt virgin.

>>18707016

>you can appreciate it for what it is.

And what is it? I can't figure out what the hell else is there to do than go to the goddamn 'mall' for a wander. Maybe the cinema?
Beers at The Tote with some middle aged dudes?
I'm seriously drawing a blank.

Or are you meaning the great outdoors? I've heard the Greater Wellington region has great walking tracks and stuff, but I've never been into that.

>>18707027
Yes, I generally like to think that I basically live in Nal Hutta.

21 female virgin. Kissed 2 times. Happy to keep it that way, so far my hand is satisfying enough.

>>18707070
Do you get lonely?

>>18707078

Only 1 day per month, and that's just because of hormones influencing my perspective.

>>18707058
Of course, I'd rather date a decent girl who may have had a few boyfriends before than someone who's a virgin but absolutely terrible otherwise. That's sensible I think. I don't see anything wrong with telling the guy he was your first. If you waited a while until you'd established a good relationship before telling him then it would be quite sweet, he'd certainly be happy to find out.
>I hope you meet a 25 year old qt virgin.
kek I get to meet him every day when I wake up and remember who I am.

>>18707067
>And what is it?
Much more affordable, for starters. It's also much quieter and from what I've seen of the houses in Wellington, the condition of houses are much better outside of Wellington. Most things you need are right here, to the point where there are lots of people who don't even leave the Hutt Valley to go to Wellington except once in a blue moon. At the same time, Wellington is close enough that you can go into Wellington for a day or for an evening if you want to, or alternatively you can go to the Wairarapa if that's your thing. I can't really see much benefit to living in town unless you live and work in the CBD; if you live out in the suburbs it's really no different to living out in the Hutt Valley or Kapiti Coast and travelling in. There really isn't that much to do in Wellington either, you can only go up Mount Vic or visit Te Papa or the Botanical Gardens so often before it's no longer a novelty, and even then, you can always just drive or train in if you want to see them.

I get it, there was a time where I thought about moving into town but the only thing stopping me was money. Now, I honestly have no desire to live in Wellington.

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25 M
Got 3 handjobs in high school, but haven't touched a girl since I was 17.
Never really made it a priority, or found anyone who made me as happy as she did.

>>18707085
Of course it would be sweet, and in a perfect world, I absolutely would love to be able to do that and have it be lovey dovey. However, having met guys who I thought were great, who were also coincidentally virgins, and fallen for them, I've learned a few lessons. The one and only guy who I gave head to who was just as pure as I was when I met him, ended up making fun of me for doing it after we broke up. I could only imagine the horrible things he'd say if I had let him get inside me. And this is a guy who seemed really nice and moral. Obviously I know not every guy is like that. I just would rather not give anyone that power again. I doubt he would've seen it as something to make fun of too, if he weren't a virgin and had some experience. I just don't want a guy to be happy to find out I'm a virgin. For some reason, the idea rubs me the wrong way. Are you personally waiting for marriage or just the right one? I know a lot of guys who said that when they were virgins, it was really important for the girls they were with to be virgins too. But after that, it never mattered much to them as long as the girl obviously respected herself and wasn't going having one night stands with everyone.

26 M, gf is 22. Both were forever alone khv until we were 24 and 20, now we're engaged

>>18705968
Turn 30 in a few days. (male)
Never even been on a proper date, let alone kissing.

>>18705971
I think abstinence until marriage a virtue.

Main reason is before I join someones life I need to fix my own. (A man I have had a F#@& up life (but not in the way most think), almost there just need a slightly better job so I came move out of my Parents house.)

>>18707118
It sounds like you've developed an issue due to an asshole, but I honestly can't understand why he'd make fun of you for that. Must've been a pretty shitty breakup. Not that it really matters, it's not as though such an issue will affect your future relationships in any major manner.
>Are you personally waiting for marriage or just the right one?
Neither, I'm not waiting at all. I wasn't brought up religious and it would be very rare for me to meet a devout girl waiting for marriage around here. I've feel like I've never managed to developed a connection with a woman, or a man for that matter. So I have no real friends and a romantic connection is totally foreign concept to me. I wish I knew why, even autistic people can find romance.

>>18707102

Ah right, well, if your general lifestyle consists of coming home and turning on the telly/browsing the net etc, then yes, I agree with you. In fact, I can appreciate that because that's my default mode of operation.

But Wellington has dynamic events - comedy shows, small music gigs, festivals, etc. And of course, bars and clubs etc. Not to mention the gazillion cafes and restaurants.
And of course, if socializing is a priority, the Hutt is a dead zone. Wellington has more and different people to meet normally, and also enough for socializing apps to work. There's always something happening, and if there isn't, it's easy to make it happen.

How old are you?

>>18705968
23/F. >>18706242 Is my clone...okay just kidding. Partially, I'm into the same things including outgoing kind guys.

Had a lot of friends till age 13, then only one afterwards. It's a shame that a lot of the guys that value virginity are also misogynists who think most women are sluts (even the ones who've only had 1-3 partners)...so, yeah, so much for that. Being a virgin seems okay, but I guess it's the...hhem, "Spectrum" of traits associated with it that gives it a bad rap.

>>18707149
Yeah, it was a shitty breakup. I just wish the whole thing never happened. But you're right, it won't affect my future relationships. So, would you lose it to anyone if you had the chance? Even if the girl you fell for was slightly more experienced?
I gotta be honest, from your first reply to me, I kind of thought you were one of those guys who unironically had the same thought process as r9k. Which isn't a bad thing, it's just that I don't see it as a healthy way of thinking. However, from this little conversation I can see that you're quite rational. You really should have no problem finding yourself a suitable gal. As for developing a connection, I think you just have to get to know people and get close to them. Most everyone thinks they can't develop a connection with someone. Until it actually happens. And that's when you start to understand yourself and the world around you a little better. So yeah, if you can, whether in school, work, events, etc, just try to put yourself out there and meet new people. You won't click with everyone, and it'll take a bit of time and weeding, but you just have to put the effort in and stick to it. It'll pay off.

>>18707155
I'm 25. Like I said, it's close enough that is I do want to go out to an event or something, I can. I have friends who live in town who have a place for me to crash if I want to. I just don't see any good reason to live in Wellington if I don't have to. I don't need to meet people either, I have enough trouble keeping in touch with my social circle as it is because schedule clashes and whatnot

>>18707180
>So, would you lose it to anyone if you had the chance? Even if the girl you fell for was slightly more experienced?
Of course, I do have some standards but if a girl has some long term relationships in her past I don't view it as a bad thing. I don't want sex on it's own though a proper relationship with someone I like would be ideal. I suspect sex on it's own would make me feel worse.

I don't know if I'll ever manage to connect with someone but I do try. Maybe one day. It does suck being an introverted and bland guy, nobody's interested in that stuff. Thanks for the words though, hopefully you can find someone decent too.

>>18705968
19, virgin. I'm too introverted for any of that stuff.

>>18707182

Fair enough.
I maintain that if you're trying to obtain social circles from scratch, then moving to town is the way to go.

Say, do you want to grab a burger or something? Never met anyone off 4chan, let alone in NZ; am curious. Just a once-off, no need to keep contact

>>18705968
Well, I was raped when I was 8 but I consider myself a Virgin

>>18705974
pretty original joke my man

>>18706415
you're fucked dude

>sometimes I think I have it bad but then I think, thank fuck I'm not people like you

>>18706415
might as well become a trap

>>18706480
Wise words anon, stay woke

>Visiting threads like these because every now and then there's anons that talk real shit

>>18706972
Idk mang. Im just some anon hiding behind a screen that could easily say that you should go through with it, but If I was in a similar situation such as your's where I'm hesitant to ask out a girl if I were to ask other anons and they gave me words of encouragement I prob still wouldn't do.
All I'm saying is you do you anon, why not go through with it? and even if you spaghetti and turns out you guys don't click then at least you tryed. That more than anyone here could say.

Rise above. DGAF and do you

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>>18706954
>26M, not kissless/handholdless/gropeless
>slowly start ghosting until the interaction dilutes into nothing over time
>interest plummets down quickly automatically, and i return to my old habits
You just perfectly described me and my issues with romantic relationships. You're definitely not alone with these anon.