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Is it time to say goodbye to my troubled bf? 2017-09-09 02:59:50 Post No. 18705847
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Is it time to say goodbye to my troubled bf?
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2017-09-09 02:59:50
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I've known him for 4 years and he's really the person with whom I can really be myself and we have fun together. But he also is a very troubled person. We still with our parents because we're both college students (the norm here) and he's about to graduate in October. It's been a hell of a few months but in summation :
>his family is fucked up and weird, he told me his mom sexually assaulted him when he was 8
>he had an abusive childhood and oftentimes when he's drunk he becomes that scared boy again
>he has no motivation to get a job or work hard and thinks his dad should invest in his business (he's very weak mentally)
>on top of being emotionally weak, he has a terrible temper that he never unleashes on me but i saw him break things in anger in his house
>I've begun to feel like people like him will never change
Advise me fellow anons. Is it worth it to work on him? I really love him but is love enough?
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>>18705847
I was somewhat similar to him and the best advice I can give you is to get him to see a therapist. Results will be slow, but over time, as long as he takes his sessions seriously, he will get better at coping with his past and his feelings. Medication may also help him temporarily.
In short, yes, it is worth it to put in some effort as long as he is willing to.
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>>18705847
Offer to take him to therapy and try and help him, if that doesn't work, leave. If he loves you he'll understand.
People like that really don't change most of the time depending on how old they are. It may not seem abusive now but it can fester into more abusive tendencies towards you and even your children if you plan on having any. Breaking shit as a result of not being able to control your anger properly is a big red flag.
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>>18705847
I 100% agree with the other posters, but.
>I really love him but is love enough?
No, you can't save someone.
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>>18706030
wish I could though. He's been suicidal lately and I can't fathom life without him.
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