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How to fix identity problem 2017-09-08 11:59:22 Post No. 18703999
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I've always had this problem where I obsess over something for about a year or two and it becomes my personality. The more it happens the more I feel like I don't know how to be myself and I still can't tell if it's a phase.
I'm 19 and it's happening with a band/singer. So if he says there's a movie he likes in an interview I'll watch it. If he says he could have been a chef I'll think being a chef is the coolest thing and he's my soulmate and only want to date a guy exactly like him.
This makes me anxious because I like to plan my life ahead but when I invest so much time into specific things it ends up being a waste when I tire of it even though right now I think I never will. Will I grow out of this behavior when I'm in my 20s?
How do I stop this cycle?
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>>18703999
Your brain is developing and experience changes you.
Youre 19, thats extremely young and you shouldnt know who or what you are yet. You are exploring and having fun. Whatever. In my opinion and experience (im 30) people remain pretty confused until around 25. And i cant count how many people i know (myself included) who were downright out of control morons at 22-23.
>waste
Nothing is a waste. You live day to day and what you do with that time doesnt matter, as long as youre learning. So what if you get bored of something or want to try something new out.
Youre doing just fine. Just go though the motions. There is no handbook on life, and no specific thing you should be doing.
On that note if you really do continue to try new things and adopt new personas every few years, you will be an extremely distinguished and diversified individual.
Tl;dr
Youre worrying about fuckin nothing. Just enjoy and make sure you can provide for yourself. If youre making money and learning and growing, youre doing everything right.
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