I want to preface this by saying that I'm aware this question

>>18698038
Just cut contact with girls to the bare minimum. I don't see how you have a problem like this. If you don't want to date them, then tell them or ignore them.

>>18698038
If you're actually so unwilling to stand up for yourself that you can't turn down sex then you need to be less avoidant. you should probably see a therapist.

>>18698038
"i have a girlfriend"
doesnt have to be true

>>18698065
But some women are into that. Better to just say you are gay.

>>18698061
You're probably right on the therapist front.

If backstory helps, I was kissless until my freshman year of college. Since that time I've been unable to avoid relationships, mostly due to what feels like a lack of agency. I try to tell myself I'm compensating for lost years, but in actuality I don't look back at those times as wasted opportunity.

>>18698065
That's true. I think my parents take some solace in my seeming stability of always being in a relationship, fleeting or not. My sister had a failed engagement and has otherwise dated people who aren't looked upon so fondly by family.

>>18698056
Sorry, I didn't notice this post before.
I generally meet women around college campus (I'm a graduate student and can't really avoid contact) and places that I rock climb.

Now that I type it out, I think I might be placating when I agree to a date in the hopes that they dislike me as much as I dislike myself. I also have a hard time just ignoring somebody unless I've explicitly cut contact with my phone. It's 2017 and I feel I have no reasonable excuse to not have answered.