I had a moment of clarity today, I went around trying to talk to girls and failed as usual but I noticed very clearly it seems like i'm doing the same thing they are, afraid of rejection so putting up a wall, waiting for them to talk first, if I end up talking first, I keep expecting them to show interest first... it just felt like I was doing exactly what they were doing and I could tell in an instant thats why I'm not getting anywhere.
I haven't the slightest idea where to go from here though. Suggesties?