How not to have your life go bananas by job-related relocation

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Hey /adv/,

I'm a 30 year old male just short of finishing my education. Then, I'll have to apply for my first "ordinary" job, and probably move away over a large distance the first time in my life.

That means I'm probably going to lose all my friends, and also my gf.

I struggle greatly with meeting people and making new friends. Finding a romantic partner is harder still, and I have _never once_ succeeded in proactively trying to meet girls. I expect finding a new gf to once again be a damaging and painful process.

Straightforward denial worked for some time, but now I have realized that any relationship I mamage to obtain could break apart _any moment_ due to a plethora of factors *I literally can't control*. How do other people deal with this, and even make families under such uncertain circumstances? It seems impossible to me.

I find myself much less able to enjoy or to take relationships seriously anymore. Why continue to work hard on relationship problems with my gf, when even a simple job-related move can already render any effort moot?

What do I do? The life I thought I wanted is slipping through my fingers. I'm becoming bitter, jaded and uncaring. I feel like I'm still not really a part of society, and my mind is racing all day erryday with negative thought patterns. I almost certainly won't start a family. The entire situation is driving me mad.

Are an ambivalent, careless outlook on relationships, and refusal to commit, a necessity for maintaining functional sanity in todays' world, given the fact that stable, committed relationships no longer seem reliably attain- or maintainable through conscious personal effort?

"Disregard females, acquire currency" doesn't sound like my currently preferred meaning of life, but I feel like I don't really have much of a choice. What do? Give up and just resort to fucking whores until they all walk bow-legged and jingling?