Am I fucked?

>>18691733
u need to start going out and getting hobbies, mma, boxing, rock climbing. You need to set up a social media. You need to visit local and outside attractions and photograph it. You need to start going out to bars and clubs, you need to get into fashion. there u go problem solved

>>18691738
>getting hobbies
I already have hobbies.
>social media
For what purpose? I hate that shit and it's not like I have friends to share things with on the Internet.
>visit local and outside attractions and photograph it
Why the fuck would I do that?
>going out to bars and clubs
I get triggered by loud music and crowds.
>you need to get into fashion
I don't dress like shit.
>problem solved
It's not that simple. This stuff would only work if I had no real problems to begin with and just moved to a new area or something.

>>18691747
>I already have hobbies.
I doubt they are normie friendly. please tell me exactly what they are

>For what purpose? I hate that shit and it's not like I have friends to share things with on the Internet.
when u meet people in the 21st century you add them on Instagram, snapchat and facebook you need to look good or atleast have it if u want to stand a chance.

>Why the fuck would I do that?
to post on your social media to show you have a life that's interesting enough for normies to talk about

>I get triggered by loud music and crowds
learn to get untriggered

>I don't dress like shit.
(x) doubt

>It's not that simple. This stuff would only work if I had no real problems to begin with and just moved to a new area or something.
what did you rape someone or something? no its not that hard to rebrand yourself. stop not trying

>>18691747
Nice bait

>>18691756
Are you saying I should force myself to do stuff that doesn't interest me just because it's normie friendly?
>atleast have it if u want to stand a chance
No, fuck that. If not being an outcast requires I do that shit I'd rather give up.
>you have a life that's interesting enough
Posting crap on the Internet shows you have an interesting life?
>learn to get untriggered
Are you just fucking with me?
>(x) doubt
I buy fitting clothes in colors that go well together. I don't care if you doubt it, I dress properly precisely because I don't like standing out.
>its not that hard to rebrand yourself
Did you even read the OP? It's not a matter of rebranding myself, you're telling me to do a bunch of shit I have no interest in and that won't help me at all because in the end it won't improve how I see myself and how others see me. I'll just be the same loser, only with a social media account.
>>18691758
How is it bait?

>>18691733
>diagnosed social anxiety,

A diagnosis is a description, not a death sentence. It says you tend to be anxious in social situations. It does NOT say that you HAVE TO be anxious in social situations.

Almost every little kid in the world is afraid of the water until he learns to swim. But most push through the fear and learn to swim.
It is entirely up to you to push through the anxiety, as scary as that is, until you learn to swim in the social pool.

>>18691761
>this entire reply
you don't understand, you don't see yourself differently and others do. you change yourself to others in a way that they can accept

but uve already said you don't want to do it and would rather be a social outcast then spending at least a little bit of energy to sort yourself out

/thread

>>18691766
sorry for reddit spacing before someone sperges out btw

>>18691765
>It says you tend to be anxious in social situations
Which in turn affects the way I behave. I could just take Xanax every time I go outside, but it's not viable in the long term, and it doesn't actually fix anything.
>It does NOT say that you HAVE TO be anxious
What's your point? The reality is that I am anyway.
>It is entirely up to you to push through the anxiety
I've tried, it made things worse every time. Now I don't have anyone to try it with but I know I'd just fuck up again.
Why is that shit so easy and natural for others and not for me?
>>18691766
>/threading your own post
Just fuck off with your shitty platitudes man. If it were as easy as taking pictures of fucking monuments and posting them on Instagram I wouldn't be here asking for advice.

>>18691733
>never had any meaningful interaction with a girl and it’s like they can smell the virginity when I talk to them, I probably give off a loser vibe
You'll have meaningful interactions with girls as soon as you manage to have meaningful interactions with other people. It's not the virgin vibe, it's the social outcast vibe

>>18691774
>Just fuck off with your shitty platitudes man. If it were as easy as taking pictures of fucking monuments and posting them on Instagram I wouldn't be here asking for advice.

honestly your a lost cause if you cant make the simplest attempt. if you are so socially inept let me as a non autist tell you to listen to me and others advice and stop trying to get out of it

>>18691777
>as soon as you manage to have meaningful interactions with other people
Even when I did, I didn't have any success with women. I wasn't always an outcast, it's just because of circumstances that I am now.
>>18691778
I have enough self-awareness to know that social media isn't going to help. Especially if I have no friends in the first place.
That's why I said you were just posting empty platitudes. What the fuck is a facebook account going to do for me? Let's say I create one, what then?
What is taking up a hobby I don't give two shits about going to accomplish? Make me look retarded and feel unfulfilled?
You're just regurgitating a bucket list of stuff that has nothing to do with what I'm asking and telling me it's going to fix everything. This is barely a step above the be yourself meme.

>>18691787
Women didn't start looking at me that way till I was 19/20, just because you didn't get any interest as a teen doesn't mean it's over

>>18691855
>Women didn't start looking at me that way till I was 19/20
So now do you just catch them looking or something?
I'm not very attractive so I don't get that.

>>18691733
Start working on your resume

>>18691959
I'm going to be starting college next year, so how should I work on it?

Hire a hooker, realize women aren't extraordinary or even worth it for the most part, focus on more interesting things than vagina.
>b-but muh special first time
You're 20 and have no friends or social skills, there won't be a special first time unless by special you mean awkward and disappointing.

>>18692388
Isn't it kinda pathetic to have to resort to prostitutes? Normal people don't do that.

>>18692399
Yes they do. You're falling for memes. Most men who go to prostitutes are the ones who are pretty successful in life and with women. Not beta neckbeard virgins. Nobody "resorts" to prostitutes. They go to them for reasons of convenience.

I can guarantee you that many, many more men than you think have been with a prostitute, including several you know personally and would never guess.

>>18692498
>Not beta neckbeard virgins. Nobody "resorts" to prostitutes.
So why should I go see one?

>>18692506
For therapeutical reasons. She is your sex therapist and trainer. Once you get the hang of sex you'll be able to get it much easier.

>>18692518
>Once you get the hang of sex you'll be able to get it much easier.
What's the reasoning behind that

>>18692529
Because your inability to get sex from girls comes from you treating it as a mystical thing, being nervous about it, and generally thinking it's really hard. When in fact it's quite easy. Once you start knowing how to have sex you'll notice how it's easy to get it.

>>18692543
I might think about it then.
>your inability to get sex
Eh I've never gotten that far, the best I ever did was get to the "talk to a girl" phase. Flirting was never a thing.

>>18692559
The thing is you have never tried. Most likely because you have mental blocks in place. Sex seems something completely alien and farfetched to you. That's why you need a shortcut to having sex. Once you have it and are used to it, your mental blocks will go away and things like flirting come naturally.

>>18692576
I sure hope so. How do I make sure I don't get scammed or get a shitty hooker if I decide to go for it?

>>18692583
You're in Europe, so most likely it's legal where you are. If you have brothels, just go to one. Or look at escort ads, get a higher class one that has good reviews, tell her beforehand you're a virgin so she will know and help you out with the anxiety.

>>18692593
Thanks.

Nah i was like you at age 20 but also recovering from massive obesity and agoraphobia. Its actually not that hard to turn around.

>>18692689
How did you turn your life around?

I can't speak for the virginity and girl trouble, but i used to be just like you socially. The one thing that really helped me: sucking it up and getting a job. I was fucking mortified of the prospect of finding a job because I had to deal with people all day. But my job has taught me important skills that I can use to be more personable. Plus, if you stay wherever you're employed for long enough, it's pretty much impossible not to build some type of relationship with the people there.

>>18692713
What kind of job did you get? The problem with entry level jobs that you keep for a few months is that they're usually some flavor of customer service or retail

>>18692696
Lost weight at home with a diet
Got a retail job and talked to people and girls
-saved all money
-have low expectations and be happy any time you interact with anyone even if you just stammer weird shit and walk away. But try to improve
-met angry jew who taught me how to lift weights
Started college at low cost community college
-made all as
-socialized more and made friends
-got transfer scholarship to state school
Went to state school
-got more as
-holed up in my room first year and was really overwhelmed
-second year made friends and got gf etc.
-got fat unfortunately
-made fat stacks from a summer internship and graduated into job
-traveled around with angry jewish friend

Year after graduation my shit got fucked up (lost gf, health got worse, job went to shit) but it's all massively improving now

Imo go to church as well + read the bible if ur Christian

>>18692738
How stressful is it to work retail?

>>18692763
Well if you have bad social anxiety like i did you'll be sweating bullets from being around people. But as for the job if you live with your parents and plan to go to uni anyway you won't give a fuck since it doesnt matter if you get fired

To get a girl you must get more confident first.
What helps to get confident is having some sort of success to your name. It's relative, you don't have to get a great job or do something amazing, just do something that makes your life a bit better and that's a success already.
I'd spend that year learning some useful skills & use them to do freelance job. You know, like graphic design, drawing, programming, that kind of stuff.

>>18691766
>you change yourself to others in a way that they can accept
my god i fucking hate mediocre people like you who do what most people do and like what most people like just to fit in

>>18693046
no the difference is I don't have to try to be accepted by society, what I said sounds bad but what I was asking for was, was for him to actually try to be connectable to others. face it, everyone has facebook, Instagram, snapchat. your probably a fucking weirdo if you don't and people will think you are if you don't. honestly its not hard to do.

>my god i fucking hate mediocre people like you who do what most people do and like what most people like just to fit in
I'm not the socially inept retard on 4chan, and this isn't fucking highschool anymore where u have to do exactly what everyone else does to "fit in" but u do have to do some things atleast

>>18693079
>your probably a fucking weirdo if you don't and people will think you are
You're pathetic.

>>18693083
>I spend around like 20 mins of my day posting and talking to friends online and showing I have a life, why cant this 4chan guy do that?
>your pathetic
am I pathetic because of who you think I am or because of the advice I'm giving to you/OP

>>18693097
You're pathetic because social media is so important to you that you assume anyone who doesn't have it is a weirdo.
Not to mention, creating a facebook account in this day and age if you don't already have one is useless. You'd be hopping on the (dead) bandwagon ten years too late. What are you gonna do, send 400 friend requests to people you barely know to make it look like you're not a loser?
>showing I have a life
Fucking hell you're such a tool

>>18693079
Not OP but similar situation, going into final year of uni and I really want to make some friends. I have no social media and I want to make a facebook, Snapchat but I'm just worried that it'll look fucking weird to everyone how I have no friends, blank wall, no interesting photos of myself etc. Feels like a hole I can't get out of. Any advice?

>>18693114
>Any advice?
Don't create a social media account just because you want to fit in for fuck's sake.
You're right, it'll look even weirder to have accounts that you'd obviously have created not long ago than to not have any at all.

>>18693079
>your probably a fucking weirdo if you don't and people will think you are if you don't.

you and your """"friends"""" are vapid to say the least, why would anyone want to surround themselves with people like that? What kind of conversation would this even lead to? I can't imagine having such shit people as friends

>>18693116
Not having social media feels really limiting in terms of getting to know people better though..

>>18693124
Aren't you supposed to get to know people better while physically interacting with them?

>>18693126
I don't fucking know man, I'm fine in class making small talk and having acquaintances but it never turns into having actual friends outside of class

>>18693108
>>18693123
fucking hell its attack of the betas tonight
sorry but this is how it is. People think you are weird if you don't have any social media accounts

>>18693129
You can just text them if you want to hang out.
I don't see why you would need social media for that.

>>18693129
that's why you gotta display your interests on social media and maybe like 1 out of 10 people will find something in common with you and then you talk and maybe you become friends from there

>>18693132
shit people do, I agree, if I wanted garbage tier friends I'd do exactly as you say

>>18693132
>not having facebook means you're beta
>but trying so hard to not be "weird" is completely ok haha right guys
You're unironically a fucking retard.
People like you are literally the NPCs of life.

>>18693140
Or maybe you bring up your interests in actual conversations with the people you interact with in college. wew lad

>>18693145
most of my friends don't care now that I'm friends with them but it would be a lot harder if I didn't have my social media accounts
>>18693148
>but trying so hard to not be "weird" is completely ok haha right guys
not even hard to do
>People like you are literally the NPCs of life.
fuck off back to r9k

>>18693157
of course you do that, jesus Christ I'm not saying only make a few accounts and that's it. You still have to talk to people

>>18693132
kys normie scum. social media is cancer.

>>18693190
>kys normie scum. social media is cancer.
your cool

>>18693193
ty anon. i mean by r9k standards i'd probably be "normie" too but friends that you make just because you have social media probably are fucking retards that are not worth your time anyways.

>>18693189
>not even hard to do
Yeah right like you're not a fucking tryhard. All your posts since the very start of this thread make it obvious you're a vapid and boring piece of shit.
>fuck off back to r9k
I don't even go there, nice boogeyman faggot. You are an NPC though, going through life constantly worried about fitting into social norms and god forbid people think you're weird because you don't subscribe to the newest shitty trend

>>18692731
That's exactly what I'm saying. You need a job in retail. It's going to bes completely nerve racking and soul crushing for the first few weeks-- months. Eventually, though, you will realize that the more that you handle people and talk to customers on a day-to-day basis, the easier it gets. You desperately need to start building some kind of ego, and exposing yourself to people in a controlled setting like that can really help you do that.

>>18691761
I can't read all the shit other people are telling you cause it's boring me to death. But, first and foremost you always always be yourself. However, that does mean you should follow some protocols when chatting with people. In opinion girls do not like filthy talking, a lot of weeabo retards do this stuff they dont like it. Sexual jokes, do not do them. Try not to curse to much but depending on where you're at culturally it may not be seen as being that bad.

As someone else remarked. Try doing things that you think you might like. Not necessarily that you do like, but it's always best to try things.

Lastly, about women. Yeah all you can do is try your best. Trying to be anything other than yourself definitely doesn't work. I don't think the tips really work except for some simple etiquette.

>>18692388
real shit anon