How do I convince my husband to hurt me in bed? I want him to

First, him and you both have to be aware of the distinction between hurt and harm. Google it, read up on it, that's really important.
TL;DR: hurt is temporary, harm is (almost) permanent.

The other thing is... start slow. Let him leave a lovebite at first, then maybe let him inscribe you with a marker somewhere where it can't be seen in public. Let him get used to it as well, and also show him that you are comfortable wearing his mark.

Other than that, for me this conversation didn't work out at all with my ex, he was barely comfortable with leaving lovebites from time to time and didn't want to go even a small step further. Be prepared for that eventuality.

>>18690815
This is excellent advice... thank you.

The marker idea is good, and it's something I would have never thought of. I guess you're right about starting off slow. It would be unreasonable to request something hardcore without a slow buildup.

rape charge waiting to happen

>>18690841
Fuck off back to /pol/.