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>>18683635
You have been living with her since you were 16, I think that's half of the problem, you were not prepared for that, way too immature to take that step.
Look, weirdly as it sounds I had a friend with a REALLLY similar situation as you, but her girlfriend did kill herself.

She needs help, professional help. If she is blackmailing you to keep you close, staying too much time won't change a shit. Tell her you need time and that it hurts you see her like that.
Take her to a good doc and little by little stay far from her. You could also ask the psychologist/psychiatrist if there is any risk in breaking up with her now. He will probably tell you to do it, but ask anyway

>>18683635
bpd detected
abandon ship immediately
repeat
abort mission and abandon ship immediately
dont waste any more of your life, anon. she cannot be helped by anyone but herself

First off, involve as many medical professionals as possible. Seek therapy sessions together if you're worried about your conscience..

Second, start thinking about how you're going to break up with her. My advice to you would be to tell her that for both of your health, you guys have to wind down your relationship and eventually you'll have to separate. You don't have to do it cold turkey, but you both have to start taking steps to letting the relationship die.

I got a feeling that breaking up with her won't be easy for you either, and that you're probably more codependent than you let on. You're probably more stable, so you have to take charge of the situation. You have to keep these facts, that your relationship isn't good for either of you, in mind at all times. And be prepared to take several years to feel fully healed, even when you guys aren't together anymore.

And if she does kill herself, it's not on you brother, you're too young to have been able to stopped it. In ten years you'll be so fucking skilled at dealing with things like this, but it might've turned out that she in ten years would still be looking for this kind of toxic relationship.

>>18683635
OP, I want you to know that this girl is emotionally abusing you. Threats, accusing you of cheating, always making you feel bad for her, everything is always about her... Please leave as soon as you are able. Do it for you. I know you've probably been going through more than you've said and none of it is okay at all. She is supposed to love you, not destroy you mentally. But you are probably a really caring person, which is why you've stayed this long. But get out.
I know because my relationship was like this and then it ended with him trying to suffocate me. Care about yourself for once. I believe in you.

Thanks for the support, I'll try to have a talk with her when I'm able

I'm going to try and look more after myself, she needs to force herself to get better.
It will be better for both of us I guess, I just hope nothing happens to her.

Drop her off at the local psych ward.