Ghosting / blocking

Never again

>>18667091
ya, I just stopped talking to him on Christmas actually.

between us as friends I was always the punching bag and stepping stool to make him seem much more interesting. anyone who'd hang around with us would have this shared joke that everyone no matter how shit they were, was always better than me.

I kind of played a role since I never stood up for myself and played the part all the time until one day I got so distracted and never signed back in.

not sure if this is ghosting OP but now even though I am no longer the butt of jokes and no longer being used as an esteem booster, I now have no friends.

>>18667091
I cut contact from my abusive parents and it was one of the best decisions I'd ever made. You don't owe anybody anything, it's ok to be selfish.

>>18667091
My past life was cringe, I don't want to go back with that. Another reason is that they never matured.

>>18667104
that sounds healthy. I hope you find better friends, cause those are not friends for sure

>>18667091
Yeah, a girl that was into me. I got bored of her and cut contacts. I cared so little that I don't even remember how exactly it all went. I think we got back in touch later, but then I ghosted her again. Super shitty behaviour, I know.

OP, if you're being ghosted right now, just give it up and move one.

>>18667124
i got blocked by my ex, so i guess that's why i made the thread. But I'm more interested in listening to stories relative to blocking and ghosting in general

>>18667091
I ghost my ex boyfriend because we attempted to be friends around the age of 20, as our relationship wasn't serious (only a couple of months when we were 15). I'm 25 now. I started ghosting him a couple of years ago after we hung out a couple of times with other mutual friends, but he started talking to me like I was "the one that got away" and started acting crazy jealous of my ltr, frequently asking if he treats me right, asked a few times if we would ever work again. I politely and clearly turned him down and he thought it was because I was trying to mask my true feelings because I am in a relationship. He got delusional real quick.

I deleted him off Facebook and now he "checks in on me" every couple of months via text but I ignore it.

It just got weird because I just don't like him anymore but it seems he wants something else, completely ignored my clear "no." And it just got to the point where I didn't want to keep talking to him because he takes it as leading him on

>>18667091
Someone ghosted me once and I think it's an incredibly shitty thing to do. It's the nuclear missile of passive aggressiveness.

The most irritating part of the whole experience was I was literally just about to change my behaviour. I had been teasing/testing the waters.

>>18667195
I hope my ex doesn't feel the same :(
But maybe she does, sigh. i truly loved her

>>18667107
It is absolutely not ok to be selfish. Wtf kind of moral code is that.

Abusive parents is quite a valid excuse. But there are still better ways to deal with your problems than hide.

>>18667214
>I was literally just about to change my behaviour. I had been teasing/testing the waters.
Tough shit. When you do inappropriate things you get blocked, period. We assume you're unstable when you do/say crazy shit.

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I have.

After years of politely telling people I wasn't interested in being friends or talking, and then experiencing the NUCLEAR fallout that ensued every single time, I decided the block function was pretty cool. I used to think it was cowardly and messed up to ghost people, which is why I went to great lengths to explain to people that we just wouldn't be good friends or ever date, and not a single one of them took it well.

When you are dealing with someone who has behavioral issues and isn't someone you want to be friends with, do you REALLY think that they will respond well to you breaking off the friendship? Of course not, they become irate, incensed, or personally offended. At best they flounder for a few minutes before accepting it, and at worst they hate you eternally or continually harass you.

Ghosting isn't 'saying nothing', it's a very clear message. 'I don't want to fucking talk to you'. That is usually easier on the person who's been subjected to the inappropriate behavior, and prevents further harassment/inappropriate interactions. I don't mean inappropriate sexually (though that's often the case). There is a huge range of things that are uncool to say and do, and will result in you being blocked.

So if you have an issue with being ghosted, instead of lashing out at the person who did it or decrying the practice, instead wonder why your behavior led them to believe that you aren't someone they can or want to be in contact with.

>>18667247
i assumed you are talking about guys (or girls) hitting on you?
Seems strange that you would have encountered many people with "behavioural issues" desu, maybe the kind of people around you also says something about you

I have.

I had a long distance relationship with a girl I truly loved, I traveled across the continent, spent all I had to go see her, we had the time of our life, truly truly loved each other. After I came back to my country things changed, she got a job started to be more independent, I also changed my routine, we became a little bit distant. I decided to end the relationship since we were always sad that we weren't able to be together. Some months later we got back together, we got a plan for her to come to my country, she saved the money everything was ready, then she cheated on me, in a very shitty way, repeatedly.

Obviously ended the relationship, shitty thing is I did a shit ton for her, I felt like the stupidest person in the planet. We talked, I told her upfront it was the last time we were going to talk to each other, I blocked her from everything except google hangouts, just to let her know when I sent everything I had from her and so forth.

She started texting me weekly, asking how I was, I couldn't stand it, it made me feel horrible and I ended up blocking her without saying anything.

I still think about her everyday, it hurts like hell but I don't think she deserves a single word from me.

>>18667282
Sad story, really sucks that she ended up cheating after you two were so serious with each other.
How long ago did you block her? And do you think you could ever forgive her?

>>18667091
I got ghosted by someone who close to me. They blocked me because they have a fall out with another people who's connected to me

I think it's an incredibly shitty behavior on their part, since what's happened to them didn't involve me at all, I was only know after all of that shit happened. The thing that happened was entirely their own fault for cheating and lying, then when they caught red-handed they just go ballistic like shit bomb. It's kind of baffling when I checked and found out I was suddenly blocked when I haven't even talked to them that week due to work.

Then the one time I blocked someone was when one of my friend from high school who keep forcing to borrow money from me via facebook.

>>18667303

It was around the beginning of July this year I think, or maybe mid June.

The worst part is that, I want to talk to her again, se if she is ok.. she worries me.

I know she cheated on me, but she really loved me, and I'm not delusional, she was always childish, didn't have a set path in life and really really easy to be manipulated, her family always did as they pleased with her and all her morals were fucked up from the shitty way she was raised.

I'm not taking guilt off of what she did, she is completely guilty and it was her own decision.

I guess someday I will forgive, not for her but for myself, so I can carry on, it's a healthy thing to do. But If I do I don't think I'll let her know.

As someone who is being ghosted right now, I hope some of you can help me out then.

This girl and I had a rocky history, but this summer we hung out all the time past my bday. We got ramen together, she came over twice, sat real close, she had recently broken up with her bf, two months ago, she seemed distraught at first, but was ok minus the occasional sadness. The last day she came over, it was great, and asked when we would hangout again, and she said she would text me. She ghosted me, disappeared for the week, havent heard from her since. I just wish I knew what I did wrong, I didnt touch her or anything, so whyd she disappear. I wasnt a dick, I never called her names, tried to complement her often, I really dont get why she left with no explanation.

>>18667317
When it happened it felt like the end of the world really, I felt like shit.

I also think that part of what happened was that she was always afraid of change, all her family always told her it was wrong to be with me, and manipulated her to extents you wouldn't even imagine.

I did a lot for her, heard her cry for hours and hours, tried to set her head straight countless times, I really tried to make her life better, and I did. She did too she made me really happy and confident.

If I would go back in time I wouldn't change a thing really, I suffered, I'm still suffering, a lot, but I enjoyed my time with her, and I know that at least I took her shitty life and made it a little better, at least for a couple years.

Miss her like shit

>>18667091

I've totally blocked a couple people. Most recently was a hyper-obsessive girl I met online years ago. Had to delete 2 email addresses because she would send upwards of a dozen emails per day for about a month until I deleted them. Just got sick of the toxicity, constant negative projection and lies for things that didn't have any reason to lie for.

>>18667323
Sadly nothing could be done on your part. You didn't do anything wrong, or at least didn't mean to do harm to her. Yet she leave without saying anything and that's just how it is with shitty passive-aggressive people/damaged people.

If she's not blocking you then the way to her still open, but if she;s already blocking your number, facebook, etc.... then you have to move on since there's no helping them.

It's the worst. I felt really close to this person and we spoke everyday. It hurt so much because I didn't know why. We're friends again and now I'm so scared he'll do it again. I never asked why he did it. I can be clingy so I figured that might be why and adjusted my behavior accordingly. To make matters worse, I'm in love with him.

>>18667091
Ghosted one of my female friends. We became too close, spent too much time with each other, but I knew a relationship would not work and she didn't think of me that way. Since I was feeling too vulnerable in this situation I ghosted her. We just started talking again about normal stuff on FB. I think things will return to normal, some time off was good.

>>18667344
she didnt block me on fb/SC but I cant see her story on SC anymore, i can still see her score. I really fell for her, but god damn it hurts. Its hard to move on, felt too perfect, but guess thats how I viewed it, not her..

>>18667350
Maybe being friends and being in love with someone that is ok with ignoring you completely is a sign that you are not ok.

You need to learn to be happy by yourself and not to cling onto others. Chasing after someone who is ready to block you and not talk to you again is not healthy.

I never text or call anyone unless they call me. Must be why I have no friends. I don't do it to hurt anyone I just don't think I'm that important.

>>18667397
If you can't see heer story anymore doesn't that mean she at least changed her privacy settings to not include you? Think of it like soft-blocking.

Yeah I know how it could hurt really much since we often left in dark what the fuck we did wrong. But here's the catch, nobody's perfect, especially you, what I mean is we will have moments when we unintentionally offend or do wrong things to another's.

If the other chose to 'ghost' rather than expressing their feeling into you, then iit's usually them who have rotten personalities. Those kind of people need to be just left alone, no helping them and it'll end up as headache for you.

>>18667422
youre a good person, thank you for this. While the lack of closure hurts the most, atleast I'll be ok. The future is full of possibilites, im just down on my luck at the moment. Thank you for that tho

>>18667350
I'm in the exact same situation. I fell in love with the girl, we hang out, everything was great until all of a sudden it wasn't. She stopped responding, I asked what was wrong, she gave a completely over the top response. I kept trying to talk to her but she ignored me for a couple of months. Today she blocked me on a couple of social networks. The strangest thing is that she had deleted her Instagram before we had our "fight", today she reactivated it and... blocked me.

I don't really understand it.

Anyway, it's the shittiest behavior I've ever seen. Don't do it. It hurts like hell.

>>18667399
Not who you replied to but this is exactly what I need. Thanks.

>>18667473
No problem, I've kind of been there, on my past relationship I was always there for the person I loved, and that person wasn't there always for me, and I kept coming back, is a self destructive behaviour that you need to change.

Don't worry, it Is possible, just value yourself more, work on whatever you have that doesn't make you confidence, excercise do things that make you happy and feel better about yourself, slowly it will change.

I'm the one from this shitty story:
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>>18667091
Two times. First with my then-best friend between the final years of Middle School and junior years of High School. He was very abusive psychologically and always used our friendship as blackmail to make me do stuff I didn't want to. It ended when he took a porno mag to my house, hid it and then told my mom it was mine. My mom eventually figured out that it wasn't and I stopped talking to him and blocked him from everywhere (this was during the Myspace/beginning of Facebook years).
The second one was with the first girl I ever had feelings for, at the beginning of college. She constantly filled my hopes up but nothing ever happened, until I accidentally found out that she was just toying with me to prove that she could make anyone fall in love with her if she so wanted to. Around this time I ran out of money and lived on the streets for a while, so I stopped going to College and eventually moved to another city to start anew. A year later, the girl had the nerve to text me again in hopes of being friends again, and that's when I completely blocked her from everywhere.

>>18667091
felt relieved, felt stupid as fuck for unblocking

>>18667513
Re-block...

>>18667525
reebok

>>18667585
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Ghoster here

After things got too hot and heavy she begin obsessing about marriage. Now I was a 17 yr old /V/irgin who just took her 15 year old virginity we talked another week or so she sent me a ton of wedding dresses, what our kids would look like pics and adorable 8K$ diamond rings and I blocked her on everything deleted her number and pics (Except her nudes) and haven't spoken to her since. That was 5 years ago

>>18667663
r-rude

>tfw no waifu
send her my way you unappreciative chad

I ghost people who don't get the message. Went drinking with a dude one time, he kept asking me every week when we were drinking again. When I kept telling him I was busy with work he started liking and commenting on all my FB posts.

>>18667685
>>18667663
>you will never be hot enough that you have to block all your suitors

>>18667091
I once got ghosted by a girl and, after realizing that it was going nowhere, I decided to stop trying. She got pissed because I stopped messaging her even though she ignored me for 2 weeks straight. I'll never get thots

>>18667261
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>>18667247
> I don't mean inappropriate sexually (though that's often the case). There is a huge range of things that are uncool to say and do, and will result in you being blocked.

Just talking to random people online/on facebook over the past 10 years, you often meet people who seem very normal and nice at first and later reveal themselves to be psychos. Examples include a woman who I was friends with who told me she was cheating on her husband (who wants to be friends with someone who brags about deceiving the father of their children), clingy people, people who freak out if you don't respond right away and go on a 10 message tirade about how they knew you didn't care anyway... there are so many things that would disqualify a person from being a good friend, or emotionally stable.

>>18667738
mm, you must be popular. I only ever facebook chat with one or two friends who are irl friends, and most of my fb friends are irl friends

>>18667685
Why didn't you tell him you didn't want to go out with him instead of doing that?

>>18667479
I honestly think you shouldn't ghost the girl.

>>18667104
I was in a relationship like this but between female friends and she's the one that ghosted me, despite me being her punching bag. Now I also have no friends.

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>>18667195

>be me
>blissfully unaware
>unsubscribed
>sorry n shit

>>18667915
my life is so much happier thanks to the unfollow button

I don't feel anyway after blocking people who treated me like shit and called me their friend in the past. I was using 4chan before I made any social media accounts so it isn't really a big deal when I do it

Just once.

I went out with this guy and he acted creepy as hell even though he seemed okay on the internet. I don't mean creepy as "unattractive," I was legitimately afraid. For example, I came slightly late because my train was delayed and he was like "haha, good thing you came, because I would have gotten mad if you didn't and I can't control myself when I'm mad :))))))" He spend the rest of the day putting up red flags, such as badmouthing his previous gfs. I blocked him immediately once I got home. I have zero regrets.

>>18667091
When I left highschool I ghosted everyone. I never had any kind of social media so it has been perfect. I went to college in the same town and treated everyone I knew like a stranger. I kept 3 friends who I'm really close to but fuck the rest. Who cares.

i hate people who ghost. it's so mean. i've blocked all contact with and rejected people, and i am always up front about it.

if you tell somebody clearly that you don't want to talk to them anymore, they may get upset bit they'll get over it more quickly. if you ghost them, they'll get upset and stay upset for a much longer time. it's more mature and better for both parties to just say what you're thinking

>>18667091
>Have you ever ghosted or blocked someone?
Yeah.
>How did you feel afterwards?
A little sorry for them, but I didn't really care.
>Did you end up getting back in touch?
No.

I've done it more than I would like to admit, never intentionally malicious about it but I am pretty sure i have really hurt people by doing it.
The reasons i've done it vary, but usually it is either the other person is moving too fast for me and getting attached which scares me off or I come to the conclusion I don't like them anymore and am too pussy to tell them i'm no longer interested so I run.

I also came out of an abusive relationship and had to ghost my entire circle of shared friends as well as my ex, one day I just set all social media to private or deleted everyone they knew and stopped answering calls or messages.. I went full hermit for over a year with very little social contact, to this day I still have very few friends because it's hard to rebuild from scratch and I really fear running into them.

I feel like shit when i do it.

One of the people I've ghosted found me on another dating site, arranged to meet fast without revealing we spoke previously (>1 year prior) then confronted me about it at the cafe we met at... was not a good experience.

>>18668391
> if you ghost them, they'll get upset and stay upset for a much longer time.

that's the whole point. you do it to stay desired while cutting off contact in a way that shows you're not interested enough to even reply anymore. it's machiavellian.

you don't owe anybody shit and if you feel like not replying anymore then just don't reply

nobody's obligated to reply to your messages either. take a hint.

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>>18668430
But it's important to be nice and just blocking people isn't nice, just immature.

>>18668441
Telling them they're boring and you don't want to talk to them anymore is nice?

>>18668450
Nice in the way that you're being up front with them. Just leaving them in the dark doesn't help anyone.

>>18668452
How does being told they're boring or annoying help? You're just being mean.
You can simply stop talking to people and move on.

>>18668456
Treat other as you want to be treated.
If you told someone something they don't like would you rather get blocked or have a short discussion to figure things out?

You can always just ignore people but blocking must be a last resort to spammers and the sorts.

>>18668419
>was not a good experience

you deserved it. would have taken you two minutes to just cut contact

>>18668462
I'd rather just get ignored.
I don't see the point of blocking or talking about it, unless we are in some sort of committed/very close relationship.

>>18668456
>You can simply stop talking to people and move on

yes, but you're keeping THEM from moving on

also

>How does being told they're boring or annoying help? You're just being mean.

you just said here >>18668430
"you don't owe anybody shit" so why are you suddenly worried about being mean? sounds pretty hypocritical

>>18668452
>Just leaving them in the dark doesn't help anyone.
It does. It helps the ghoster. Let's say you tell someone you will not talk to them anymore for X and Y reason. What will they do in response?

>apologize or beg and plead they'll change
Nothing gets solved, delays the inevitable separation. Person might passive aggressively ghost on you in revenge down the line.

>shifting the blame, telling you that you do Y and Z
Since you want to separate from them, it doesn't matter what they think since you're going either way. Potential aggression/revenge.

>they'll pretend they don't care and you're a dummy for thinking they would
They want that upper hand so badly. Why give it to them?

I've been ghosted by my ex when I was 18. Cried my eyes out for a month. Now that I'm nearly 30 and have been ghosted quite a few times, I realize it is the only solution. I have nothing to gain by being "nice" to someone that is pissing me off or emotionally damaging me in any way whatsoever. I ghost people whenever needed.

>>18668473
>yes, but you're keeping THEM from moving on
How? I've been ghosted a couple of times before and it was never a big deal. I just moved on with my life and took the hint. They didn't like me or didn't want to spend time with me. It's fine.

>"you don't owe anybody shit" so why are you suddenly worried about being mean? sounds pretty hypocritical
It wasn't me.
I don't see the point of being mean if it isn't necessary. Unless they text me asking me why I stopped talking to them, I don't see the point of telling them. They can just assume I am ignoring them because I disliked them.
Most adults don't take ghosting in early stages that bad.

>>18668466
I agree, I probably did deserve it.. I'm not sure what they were hoping to achieve by doing that but it assured me I made the right choice.
This time I did actually message afterwards and say I'd rather not meet again followed by them asking "why I am not interested?", "what's wrong with me?", "I just want feedback on how I can improve" etc over a 4 hour span of messages.. I think i made the right choice the first time in this instance.

>>18668479
your personal opinions are not facts.

you also make no sense. you "don't want to be mean" by telling someone straight up that you don't want to talk to them. you'd rather they "take the hint". but you don't realize that ghosting is just as mean or meaner than being upfront. the only difference is that you don't have to face the consequences. you're not sparing someone's feelings, you're being a selfish, cowardly person.

>>18668483
no, you didn't make the "right" choice. you made the choice that spared you an awkward situation.

>>18668486
>you "don't want to be mean" by telling someone straight up that you don't want to talk to them. you'd rather they "take the hint". but you don't realize that ghosting is just as mean or meaner than being upfront.
I'm not that anon, but wrong. When you ghost, you give the other person the chance to save face. They are not being told that they're a person unworthy of love.

>>18668486
Yes. You're talking about personal opinions, too - not facts.

I don't see the point of having a conversation that is uncomfortable for everyone involved and brings no benefit.
The end result is the same - we stop talking. The process isn't more or less painful, and I don't have to go through the effort of having an unpleasant conversation.
Unless we have some kind of obligation towards each other, thanks but no thanks.

>>18668492
ok, but my opinion is that i'd rather be told straight up instead of wondering what happened. i'd rather have the unpleasant conversation and move on. you don't get to decide how someone else feels in that situation. once again, you're only thinking about yourself

I'm the type of person that prefers being told to fuck off rather than guessing what or if I did something wrong. Ghosting makes you look like a dick in my book. Especially if you know the person quite well, they deserve an explanation don't you think?

>>18667091
Friendly reminder that "ghosting" is rather childish passive aggressive behaviour. It basically boils down to not knowing how to handle the situation so you stick your head in the sand hoping the problem leaves you alone.

Also friendly reminder that ghosting someone is not the equivalent of cutting of all contact with someone as a last ditch effort to keep them out of your life after he/she deliberately ignores you and continues to stalk you.

I have ghosted people in the past, I just reached a point in the relationship in which I got bored and instead of telling them this up front, or trying to fix it by putting in time and effort, I would simply block them of everything more or less out of the blue from their POV. I feel extremely shit for doing it looking back now years down the line.

It is endemic in our western society and its consumerist centric mentality, as soon as something becomes inconvenient or undesirable you can just delete it, opt out or replace it, there is never a need to put work into something to "make it work".

It is telling that this ghosting shit is a phenomena that only really started becoming prevalent in post internet western societies.

This thread's opinions come from only 2 parties:

People who ghost, people who've been ghosted.

In a way it's like you're both confronting each other after the ghosting kek

I ghosted someone who I was friends with for years after he sent me a literal gay "coming out" love letter. A four page long handwritten love letter.
I ditched that can of crazy and have never regretted doing so for even a second.

>>18668489
Just that they're not worthy of basic decency. You seem like a very decent human being.

>>18668488
I don't expect to change your opinion, you're obviously set in your mind but trying to not hurt someone's feelings while they awkwardly ask me why I don't like them 10 different ways is not something I wanted to spend an afternoon doing.

>>18668515
I am and I deserve to be able to stop communicating with a toxic/unhealthy person on my own whim without having to endure their wrath.

>>18668501
Of course I'm only thinking about myself, like you are.
I don't see the point, you do. Don't ghost, I will.

Good advice threads died for this drama queen high school cringe fest

>>18668533
>good advice threads
I come here twice a week in the hope of finding some, and 90% is GF issues featured in every sitcom ever, with the remaining 10% being teen angst blogging.

Yes.

A female friend I had for many years, developed feelings for her but didn't say anything. Saw her get together with other dudes which made me furiously jealous inside. When her ex's treated her like shit, that made me furious. Then, one day she got back together with a horrible ex and that tipped me over. Wrote a huge long email about how I felt and how I couldn't take it anymore, I was cutting all contact with her.
Unfriended, blocked, deleted etc etc.

For close to 2 years I ignored her attempts to get close to me again, thought I had gotten over it and was on the straight and narrow. Didn't need no drama in my life I was done.

Then, annoyingly, she kept appearing in my dreams. Usually with some profoundly emotional thing to say to me. That shook me up a few times but I could take it, wasn't going to talk to her again.

Then one night, had a dream where she was moving across the planet and for some reason I had chosen the day she was leaving to try and make amends and say I was sorry (in the dream) I tried to explain myself but she didn't look at me and just said "goodbye"

Woke up nearly vomitting, shaking to my core and severely disturbed mentally. The following day wrote her in real life, apologized and said I wanted to be friends again. She was happy to have me back after 2 years.

That was about 6 years ago now, we're still friends but go through phases of not seeing each other for a year or so. Then out of nowhere start meeting up every week for about 6 weeks or so. Then my feelings take over again and I stuff it up somehow and we go back to not talking for a year or so. This has happened about 3 or 4 times so far.

This time though not sure if she's coming back.

>>18667091
Every girl I have dated or in a relationship with, I've ghosted.

One funny time, I helped a girl move to her sisters in another city that I had been seeing for 9 months. Had dinner with them, fucked her, and left out around 3 am. She didn't wake but her sister was sleeping on the couch and saw me go out he door. Never spoke to the girl again though a girl at a restaurant we used to go said she called and wondered how I was. I never went back to that restaurant.

Had another break in my house and wait for me. Oh, the memories.

>>18667091
I've never ghosted anyone. I've blocked a couple people in a fit of anger but I always unblocked soon after. I just don't like the idea of leaving people hanging and I've never met someone so "toxic" that I felt I had to cut them off. I usually just drift away from people naturally as I fall into the role of the one who puts in the effort to maintain relationships.

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I kind of have trouble with the term "ghosting".

Isn't it natural that friendships and relationships fade out over time or have their ups and downs? Sometimes we cut contact with people for various reasons, but it just feels unnatural that announce that. Instead we let the contact bleed to death in a natural way.

Don't get me wrong, I have been ghosted myself by my ex, she was too afraid to break up with me and just started ignoring me. But she was my partner back then, which kind of made her responsible for our level of contact too.

But when friends or acquaintances do it, is it really "ghosting"? Isn't this process as ancient as humanity itself, as most forms of human contact including friendships and relationships, are temporary in nature?
Or am I rambling?

>>18668704
I'm with you as well. Relationships fade in and out then ended naturally. We can't be all jolly ol' neighbour who'll always sing together, sometimes we just stopped hanging with the certain person naturally without problem/drama.

Blocking is more like a problem to me, since I think it's akin to declare you're forcibly cutting off contact and in general being passive-aggressive. Which would make things awkward and could seem manipulative for everyone to see.

>>18667219
Boy you have no idea how absuive parents can be. I'm currently 21 and living under parent's roof now just because I go to an expensive college. Going to a job seems like a not-good option because the time I have is less. They literally had me treated like a piece of shit from 1st grade.

I'm just waiting for this semesster to get over because the next semester will give me enough time to spend at a job and after I make enough bank, I'm fucking off from these shit heads.

>>18667247
Naw, you're just a spineless cunt.

>be faggot
>have faggot FWB
>after six months of our faggotry we agree we're exclusive to each other
>stop using condoms
>two weeks later he gives me an STD
>tell him. he admits he fooled around on a recent trip
>block him on everything
>10 years later see his profile
>have been desperately lonely for years
>contact him and ask if he wants to get together
>he does
>we meet and start fooling around again
>always insist on condoms now

I hate myself every time I leave his place. If I wasn't so fucking lonely I'd have some self-respect and dump him (again).

Recently.

As always, being an idiot I got myself involved in LDR but I honestly though I met the one and was truly and honestly happy and in love I believe.

Literally wanted my future to have her in it and was willing to cater it around her and I believed, as she said she would to me. It seemed so magical, despite our differences and such it seemed so real and like it was the one.

Sadly, long story short, she ended up liking someone else and basically cheating on me and being a liar, made me feel like I was at fault while hiding everything. Honestly destroyed me, I just blocked on every platform, deleted pics and everything and now she probably thinks I'm dead.

Probably will be soon, my life has been nothing but misfortune and let downs.

>>18668542

>cancur

>>18667931

Scott was right, you are a cunt. To bad i didn listen.

>>18667663
Why didn't you delete the nudes?

Anyone saying that ghosting someone is childish or passive aggressive, or a cop out, has obviously never encountered someone with the emotional capacity of a toddler. There are many people who cannot handle not having things go their way and become incredibly manipulative, and when faced with this the sole option is often to hit the block button and not look back. Save yourself the hassle. You don't owe anyone an explanation, and if taking the time to grant them one would only cause harm then fuck it. Be selfish.

>>18670376
You sound paranoid

>>18670416
How?

I'm a grill, so I ghost guys all the time when using dating sites or whatever.

At first I tried being honest but no matter what reason you give, guys always try to convince you like they are shitty telemarketers or they get angry and rude.


The worst was this guy on Skype who got angry and obsessive and kept making new accounts whenever I blocked him for like a year til I made a new account. All I wanted was to not fucking cam with him because I don't like camming. He would tell me he was obsessed with me and couldn't eat, couldn't sleep, couldn't work, I was ruining his life. Total BS.

>>18667323
Maybe she liked you but then got a BF, maybe she moved. Maybe she's depressed and doesn't feel like hanging out. You might not have done anything wrong.

>Phone-Sex FWB
>Makes it clear we are never going to be serious
>Talk a lot last summer
>Kinda both admit we might catch feels for each other but still nothing is going to happen.
>He lives very far away anyway
>Start dating other dude
>Really like dude I'm dating
>He's all "No, seriously... We can still talk he won't know."
>Always trying to get me to keep having phone sex
>Blocked text notifications

>>18668908
Everyone leaves their parents home. It's not the same as abandoning them and cutting all contact (ghosting).

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This is semi-related to the thread. This has all happened very suddenly and is pushing me over the tipping point.

>Try talking to some girls online at the start of the new year
>Nothing really clicks
>O Well
>A couple weeks before my birthday, start texting a girl from texas
>We really hit it off. We have many common interests, fetishes, and musical tastes.
>Feel really good talking to her
>2 months later we decide to date and make plans to visit
>fast forward to the start of August
>Suddenly stops hanging out over the weekends (We played PC games together)
>Stops skyping with me/ stops texting me around 3 weeks ago
> Each day that passes without a text is making my blood boil
>Yesterday, get a visit from my sister when I was at work
>She tells me our dad has colon cancer and had an emergency surgery done
>I'm feeling incredibly worried and depressed. Everything is just falling out of my control
>Get sent home
>Go on steam after talking to my dad (His surgery was successful, thank god) and see she was online recently
>Go fucking NUCLEAR
>Proceed to tell everything I've been thinking, including the news that my dad has colon cancer
>Still waiting on a response that might never be said

I just wish everything was okay, /adv/.

>>18667247
If they were real friends, you would make the effort to work things out with them. You simply didnt care enough.

Case in point : I had a friend who started acting weird all of a sudden. He just started acting like a hip hop gangster out of the blue and would rap random shit whenever I tried to talk to him seriously. I thought he was just trying to be funny at first, but then he started saying weird shit like "i know you hate me" and went on long rants about how i was allegedly gay. And when I tried to figure out what he was saying, he just kept going "omg why are you so dumb" and start rapping again.

After trying to work things out with him multiple times, even with his childhood friend present as a third party, and everytime it went nowhere because he would get hysterical and start screaming abuse and start rapping, i just stopped bothering.

Thats when you cut off contact with someone, not at the first sign of inconvenience.

I've been blocked many times, every time, i stop and ask myself what went wrong. Most of the time i am forced to conclude that the friend i thought was my friend, wasnt really my friend at all. Most of the time they were just using me or had changed into a completely different person.

I have had people block me simply because a friend told them to cut off all contact with me and they complied because they wanted to keep hanging out with him. Just sad how petty some people can be.

I usually only ignore trolls or people who are otherwise abusive towards me. A near exception was when someone i thought my friend kept blowing me off because he had moved out elsewhere for a few months...everytime i would try to talk to him, he would give me lame one or two word responses and didnt give a fuck anymore. When he moved back because things didnt work out, suddenly he was pretending to be buddy buddy again like nothing had happened. Not hard to guess why, he saw that i was useful again so wanted to be "friends".

>>18667091
feels weird at first but you just gotta power through it and realize it's much better like this.

>>18667219
Someone has never had psychopathic parents.

There are parents that make mistakes, but are still relatively healthy emotionally mature individuals. Those are the ones you want to try to forgive and move forward with.

Then, there are parents that are emotionally stunted and so hard-wired in their abusive ways that continuing any kind of relationship with them is detrimental to your physical and mental health. There's no shame in leaving them behind. You're not obligated to stay in contact with people who abuse you, even family. It's not hiding or being selfish, it's withdrawing from an unhealthy relationship for your own sake.

Would you suggest someone keep in contact with an abusive ex? "Family" means nothing, it's just a label and blood ties aren't worth your sanity.

>>18667091
I might do it today or tomorrow when the results are in that my boyfriend cheated on me.

>friends try and hook me up with fatty
>i didn't even consent to it
>all of a sudden this bitch is texting me
>adds me on FB
>i didn't even know it was her, 'cause she goes by a different name than what she told me on FB
>i'm slow to respond, she'll send me 3-4 texts in a row before I get back to her
>eventually just stop texting her

Like damn girl, when you invited me out the first time and I turned you down, don't keep it up.

>>18672143
how do you know?

>>18671361
This so much.

I dont care about people I ghost therefore I feel nothing

>>18672246
I'm going to straight up ask the girl I think he might be cheating on me with.