Should I start doing hook ups or wait

bump before bed

There's no harm in getting out there now and trying to find someone to be happy with. Everyone deserves at least that much. But you need to be up-front right away. Lay your situation bare, and let the other person know that you struggle with physical contact. If they're worth keeping and making those memories with, they'll not only understand, but they'll reciprocate your feelings in a way that is comfortable for both of you.

>>18665125
Any tips on bringing it up? I haven't told anyone, ever and I don't want to make them uncomfortable.

>>18665164
No need to worry about making anyone uncomfortable. The dating scene isnt so shallow as that, trust me. Put simply, just be honest, with yourself same as with them. If things look like they're going good with someone and a relationship can form from it, take a minute to let them know what they're getting into. The only reason I can see them getting uncomfortable about it is if you were to bring it up continuously and use your past circumstances as a crutch in the present. But based on what you've said so far, you don't seem the type to do that.

>>18665172
Thanks for the advice. Bringing it up may be the hardest part next to meeting someone I'm willing to share it with.
>bring it up continuously and use your past circumstances as a crutch in the present.
I actually knew a person like this. She was very forward with me and I thought that that combined with the similar experience would help. Over time she was just manipulative

>>18665180
It may be hard, but I'm sure you can do it. You've come this far having suffered, and a little anxiety toward intimacy doesn't seem to have impaired your desire to move your life forward. Nothing worthwhile was ever received easily, but if you've come as far as you have, I'm confident you can make this work.

>>18665190
Thanks again, and I hope you're right