Yesterday was my 20th birthday

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If anybody here's been in my shoes but still managed to unfuck their shit then any help would be appreciated.

Honestly love all of you

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JjfClL6nogo

>One guy who was a friend drifted apart after he got engaged and we rarely talk anymore

nigga

you just became 20

please dont tell me he knocked some one up right out of highschool or is atleast a friend who was alot older than yopu

>>18664889
I am not a manchild

>>18664894
They've been together for 5 years

Best advice I can give: focus on things you can control right now like your education and career it will lead you too and being in shape and whatever hobbies you can enjoy.
Your fixation on the one piece of life you feel you are missing is preventing you from enjoying your youth and others pick up on that. Gain some confidence by working on yourself and at some point when you are doing well in life a relationship will develop and then u will feel life is complete. I must warn u tho the grass is always greener and in that first relationship you will most likely get your heart broken and resent the fact you don't have the freedom you used to. Good luck

>>18664685
Don't kill yourself just because you're not getting pussy man. Jesus Christ man. Sex is overrated af.

>>18664671
You can still have sex with teens at 20.

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>>18664902
I am a female who spent 10 years on 4chan- from age 12 to present. I was horrifically depressed most of my life, and now I'm well into the process of unfucking my shit. I used to be NEET, lonely, depressed, suicidal, never thought anyone would love me, and in a much worse position as you. Instead of giving up and resigning yourself to
>>I'm going to be an old man in my rocking chair at some nursing home playing cards with other old men. They'll be reminiscing about their past sexual escapades, great relationships and I'll have nothing but a wasted life.

You'll have to actually read about social psychology, learn to become a functional human being, and do some scary things in order to make progress. You are procrastinating on this by telling yourself it'll never happen, when the reality is that our population is 51% women and 49% men. If you better yourself even 25%, that'll put you leagues above hundreds of millions of other men and well into the dateable realm. If you want to build a life for yourself where you come home to a wonderful wife who loves and respects you, you'll have to actually do some work instead of wallowing.

This isn't about shitflinging, I'm trying to help you. Watch the video, and these as well.

>I was no more successful in University than I was in HS
>Here I am, never had sex never been in a relationship.
> I've seen guys I've grown up with get girlfriends and move on with their lives.
> It's not just looks either, I'm awkward, I have no confidence and just not masculine enough.


If you make different choices, choose to go out and repeatedly fall on your face, after a few times you'll get better at speaking to women. If you keep at it, you'll really surprise yourself. You've had negative experiences that have led you to believe that you can't change and you'll always be the same loser, but the reality is that personalities are just a collection of behaviors predicated by beliefs, and behaviors and beliefs can be learned.

>>18665092
2/2

look up jordan peterson's yt channel and go to selfauthoring.com after youve watched his pinned intro video 'for millennials' on his page

>>18665092
Where and who do I even go out with now? I have no friends that aren't on fb and certainly not in uni.

>>18665095
thanks

I'm 28, I didn't have problems with girls myself but had so many friends staying virgins for really long.

Many got their first gf around 25.
The most desperate guy I know (objectively ugly, manlet, beta) got his first at 29 and is extremely happy with her. He might be the first of us to have kids.

Men get more value as they get older. Stay clean, have a decent situation, try to keep any friend you have and look for a job with many coworkers.

Most of couples met each other in a work situation, myself included despite having a large social circle.

You're fucking young, stop pretending it's game over already.

>>18665262
>you're fucking young
Not OP but thank you, needed to get my head out my arse.

I lost my virginity about a week or so before I turned 21, I'm 23 now. Don't worry about it man, it'll happen, just keep improving yourself, put yourself out there, meet people, as many as you can, use tinder, but remember just because it's tinder doesn't automatically mean sex. I used tinder and managed to make female friends for the first time in my life (age19-20), leading to invites to random events and such, which led to meeting new girls, which led to sex and relationships. But mainly improve yourself in anyway possible. I'm a skinny weeb, but I've slowly been gaining weight the last few years, use your major to your advantage, people loving hearing about the harder ones, I'm only in my first year of uni and people I meet ask me all the time about mechanical engineering despite the fact I've one done one engineering class so far. You really sound like you have a similar mindset to myself back then, you can do it. My only advantage is that I joined the marine corps out of high school and now can use that as a big talking point in uni. Good luck, anon

>>18665262
>j-just wait bro!
>spend five more years in inceldom humiliation and maybe you can be lucky enough to get some used up roastie to settle for you!
You're an idiot.

OP welcome in the loserfag club

My situation is very similar, I'm 19, M, no friends, no gf, nobody to talk to, spending most of my life in school / on my computer lurking 4chan & playing vidya. A few guys told me that I have my parents so I'm not really alone but that's simply not how shit works. Talking to them is like speaking in court - everything you say can and will be used against you. Situation has been like this since I was 13 and I feel like a destroyed human. .. I've read somewhere that nostalgia is supposed to cheer you up by showing you the "good ol' times". Right now, I can't even remember the last time I had "good times" lol.

And yet I'm alive and not planning to kms or some shit because I realize that I'm still young, decent looks, in shape and not retarded yet.

sorry for my faggotry, couldn't help myself

My point in this is that neither mine or your life is wasted just because we are having some shitty times atm. Unless you're on your death bed then there's still hope.

hang in there buddy

>>18665293
I wasn't telling him to wait but I guess I wrote it poorly.

I mean life as a man gets easier with time, so instead of thinking it's too late, he has to understand he's now in the best position than ever to get his life on a good track.

>>18664685
I'd like to say I knew how. I'm basically you but 6 years older so I'm in an even shittier situation.

If I ever manage to unfuck myself it means anyone can.

>>18666266

It's never too late to unfuck yourself pal.

Start simply: write down things you don't like about yourself and potential causes of bigger problems, then start removing them one by one. Socialize, even if it means raiding your local pubs at 2am and if you ever fuck something up then you'll come out of it a bit wiser. There's no easy way to become a normie, it's trial and error. Besides it's not like you have anything to lose, right ?

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>>18664671

I think you're looking at all this the wrong way OP. You seem to think that having a significant other will improve the overall quality of your life. Sure it may be great to have someone to talk to about your every day life but you also can't depend on someone else or something external to you to bring you fulfillment.

Who am I to preach though? Im not a virgin but haven't done anything in a while. Only been with 4 girls.
>One legit HS relationship, tinder hookup, massage parlor sex, and an escort.

Idk man, life really has no meaning so just do whatever the fuck. Try your best to get life flowing in your favor. If after all that it still doesn't get better than.... well fuck.
Life sucks and then you die. Try your best to make it not suck.