Everything I respect in a man, I am not. This really disturbs me, pretty much daily. I work with a bunch of guys that have their shit figured out, comfortable with themselves, and I respect them a lot. But all it does is remind me that I'm not like that.
I have a very traditional idea of a man worthy of respect. Assertive, strong, big, determined. But I'm a weak lanky tall dude who can't pull himself together enough to achieve his goals. These guys all like me and hang out with me, I think they see potential in me but I'm so unsure of myself. I'm just not really sure how to process these feelings and focus them into making change in my life so I can become more aligned with my own values.
>>18663490
Stop comparing yourself to other people. It's the number one reason people are miserable. Compare yourself to you. Then step by step become a better you by compeating against yourself. There will always be someone out there that is smarter than you, better than you, healthier, better looking and so on. It's just how it is, I accepted that fact and am now the person I have always wanted to be.