She's "not sure if there's a future"

If she wants to break up with you, she's going to break up with you. It doesn't matter how much you think "I'll always wonder what it's like to date other people" is a meme, if she feels that way, there's nothing you can do about it.

>Should I just break up?
What, just so you can say you were the dumper instead of the dumpee? Because after all that waffle you just spewed about how well you work together, that seems to be the only reason you'd want to break up with her.

If a job is the only thing keeping the future secure with her, and she doesn't like your family (and you felt the need to mention that because it obviously matters) then it's probably fucked. You sound young so I doubt you'll commit to going to therapy so there's no use in telling that. Just suck it up and see what happens at the interview, she sounds like she's gonna put her foot down and you're going to let her.

>>18651254
I'm asking because it is her doing the majority of the waffling. I'm not going to bullshit you and say I don't have mixed feelings as well. I just know I'd like to give it a shot. When I try and get a more direct answer it's always "I don't know what to do. I love you but what if it won't work?"

Let me try and condense. If someone says things like "I feel like I could have regrets or I'm not sure I see a future" is this a normal sort of "dark midnight of the soul" or just a precursor to breaking up?

I don't know what else to tell her. I;ve already said "people always wonder what the other grass is like, I do to, but I feel I can choose to be happy with you. I have no way of telling you what dating other people is like. Please, just make a choice here because I'm not going to be your stand by back up plan."

>>18651265
I just what a straight answer. I wish she would do something so certain, it would be a relief.

>>18651278
Here's something to think about. If you're living in constant reaction to someone you care about, why the fuck should you be suprised at all when they do some shit you don't like? You can't control them. You're acting like you have this fairy tale relationship and from all that I've read so far it's not. Stop being so idealistic about everything, wipe the milk from your eyes and wake up. This is real life and you're going to be one broken motherfucker if you let this consume you and you live the rest of your life constantly looking in the rearview mirror. There's no certainty in anything and she's taking a calculated risk and she THINKS she knows the outcome so she's gonna go with that. She sound like she has a backup/escape plan, why don't you?

>>18651248
OP she has met someone. She has to be totally honest with you, she owes you that much so you don't take a job in another city for her.

She's over you man, and to be honest if she's not laying things out and discussing them like a grown up girl it's not worth changing your fucking life to be with this chick.

>>18651248
Call it quits. Anyone having these retard thoughts is never going to feel secure in their decision and sometime 10 years from now, she'll want a divorce for some other retard reason.

I've had girls swear we were soulmates after a year of dating and a year later break up because they weren't sure it could last. This is much worse than the signs I got.

End it and move on.

She doesn't give a shit if she even suggested that. Move on, you'll thank yourself later.