Hoo boy this is awkward to type out but I need some advice. I

Also sorry for the giant wall o text. Should have broken it up into smaller paragraphs or something.

Trying to turn your traumatic sexual abuse into a sexual fetish is going to fuck you up. I applaud your effort to satisfy him or at least come to a compromise, but a taboo sexual fantasy can just remain a taboo sexual fantasy. It does not need to be explored or come to fruition to have a healthy relationship.

>>18651141
I'm sorry, OP. This is a difficult situation, and I think it's one of these rare cases when one partner's fetish is an issue so big that it can slowly destroy the relationship. It's up to you whether you give it a chance or not, but I would walk away.

>I feel like our relationship is doomed

Sounds about right (but not necessraily certain). Seems like you two just happen to be into shit that is conflicting. can't blame him, his brain is his fucking brain. Can't blame you, I'm sure you didn't choose to get molested/raped.

My advice in a situation like this is to open up and tell him about your experience and make sure you open up with "I still want to be with you". He may jump the gun and think you're about to attack him for his desires. Might want to at the same time ask him if he really is into kids and he can tell you if he is because if you don't accept it and he IS into kids then he's going to hide that and you may find that shit out later down the road. Might as well hear it from him now.

>>18651141
I'd say this is bait but it's such an irrational rant that the only logic is that it's legit.

A guy's porn collection is meaningless unless it is *ALL* like that. I can tell you right now guys will find a fetish/niche and watch that type for maybe a few weeks or a month and move on. More likely he thought the girls were pretty and liked the camera angles.

That being said, why the fuck is he watching porn still. And also whatever your problems are they sound serious and I hope you can get over it but you are reading way too much into it.

>>18651159

>but you are reading way too much into it.

If she didn't go through what she went through then I'd agree but considering she's all fucked up about the kind of shit he's into I'd say she's not reading into it enough.

btw I also feel like this is bait but fuck it.

>>18651151
I feel like he is already secretly trying to fulfill it by making me wear similar things in the stories he reads. I have to at least find a way with being okay with what I know he's thinking. Even if I just let be unexplored he's still exploring it. Idk if that even makes sense.

Actually came to /adv/ to start a "How to introduce incest RP into a relationship?" and stumbled across this thread.

As a dude who enjoys incest taboo stuff and can probably relate to your bf, I wouldn't necessarily worry about it especially if you've had a traumatic experience with that in the past. If you explain your side of things, as uncomfortable as that may be, I'm positive he'd understand and cease any sort of forward action on the subject. As an anon mentioned earlier, you don't -have- to do some of the kinks your bf/gf/whatever enjoys. Would he like it? Probably, but I'd feel shitty if my kinks brought up horrible memories and made my gf/bf/whatever feel shitty.

>>18651141
Most people with an incest kink don't have interest in their actual siblings/parents but it's probably for the best

>>18651171
He keeps trying to convince me to wear outfits described in these incest stories he reads so I can only think that he already pictures me as his sister all the time. He doesn't know I've actually read any of the links to the stories he has saved. But even if I don't do these things too he's still doing them. So I have to at least accept that. Idk if there's a way to do it without mindfucking myself.

>>18651166
You have every right to tell him his actions are making you uncomfortable

>>18651162
Not bait. Sorry for ranting it's just messing with my head.

It sounds like you need to have a real serious talk about your past with him, and how your past affects you. I'm getting the impression that when you first told him about it, you only skimmed the surface and he doesn't quite understand the impact it has on you.

At the same time, you need to hear him out and figure out if he really is trying to force an incest fantasy on you. Instead, you're snooping through his shit and assuming what's going on in his head.

If this relationship is worth it to you, then it will be worth it to open up about this uncomfortable situation and come to a real understanding together.

>>18651201
I told him I wouldn't wear any of those kinds of lingerie just because I personally don't like them. If I explain everything and tell him it makes me uncomfortable that he pictures me as his sister I'm sure that conversation won't end very great. And he's still just going to do whatever he wants in his head no matter how much I tell him it makes me uncomfortable. I mean it's in his head so he can do what he wants. I need to find some way to get used to the idea of him thinking that, but Idk how.

>>18651141
There are lists of most searched keywords on pornsides per state or country and "mother & son" or something along the lines appears up there in some parts of the worlds or states of america. So incest themed porn is more common than you might think. I've jerked it to this stuff too because it can be pretty hot, but on the other hand I feel absolutely repulsed of ever becoming intimate with my sister or mother. I don't know how far this kink of your bf goes, I'm just here to tell that it's a common theme in porn and the consumers enjoy it

>>18651214
Sounds like you're mind is already made up. You naturally assume he's going to see you as his sister every time you have sex, regardless of whether he does or not. Maybe you should just break up with him if you can't get over it.

>>18651207
Ive tried to talk to him about it a couple different times and I feel like every talk just makes things worse. We get distant and the sex becomes non existent. Things have finally gotten a little better. I'm not sure how to bring it up in a way that doesn't make him feel like a disgusting person.

>>18651226
So if you had the chance you would never actually have sex with someone you were related to?

>>18651230
I don't feel like the problem is with him though, it's me. I'm overthinking and I don't know how to stop. I don't want to just assume these things.

>>18651233
When you talk to him, do you bring up his porn and alleged fetishes? Don't do that. In his mind, he might feel like a villain.

Remind him that you trust him, and that is why you're telling him this. Let him understand that you want this to work and that you want a healthy sex life with him, and that is why you're telling him this. Express how this was a very sensitive and traumatizing time in your life and how important it is for you to be able to talk to him about it and be supported, just as you want to support him.

Don't accuse him of trying to get you to dress like you're his sister. You don't know that for sure, even though the clothing might be similar to the fiction, he might also just get turned on by that type in general.

>>18651247
>I'm overthinking and I don't know how to stop.
In any normal circumstance, I'd agree that you're overthinking it, period. But your trauma is what won't let you stop until it's resolved.

Your assumptions will continue to feed your paranoia. I'm confident that once you and your boyfriend resolve this and come to an understanding together about all of this, you'll be able to relax. On occasion, you might still question it again for a second, but at least you will be more mentally and emotionally armed to reason with yourself and relax again

>>18651253
Thankyou. This is good advice. I will probably wait a little while before trying to talk about it again just because too many talks makes us so distant. I feel like some day I won't be enough for him because I can't indulge him on his fetish, and that hurts too. I wish I wasn't so fucked up by my past or this wouldn't be so hard for me.

>>18651268
>I feel like some day I won't be enough
That's nonsense.

A lot of people have crazy fucked up fetishes they keep to themselves and still have great relationships with great people. You can too.

But if HE decides that his fetish is more important than your well being, then he isn't the one for you.

>>18651261
Thankyou this helps me feel a little better. I hope once we talk about things again I'll be less paranoid all the time. I just can't go to him every time I feel paranoid or I'll probably scare him off lol.

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>>18651291
Well that's good to hear. I guess if I had a fetish like that myself I would be pretty sad if I couldn't fulfill it in some way. But that's just me. There I go assuming things again lol.

>>18651238
Just like I said, the thought of actually touching my mom or sister in a sexual way is so repulsive it doesn't even come up