My girlfriend's lack of trust

That's what you get for cheating you fucking cunt. She should be doing worse

>>18650622
Set a password on your phone. 8 numbers long. No fucking way she will break that.
Set a password on your PC. 15 signs long, letters and numbers. She's Jesus if she breaks that one.
Always lock your phone or PC when you're done using it.
Learn to type your passwords fast as fuck.
Don't make the passwords related to anything. Especially not to something she might know.
Use incognito on your phone when you want to do some weird shit.

There, you're safe.
If she has a problem with it, tell her to quite literally fuck off.

>>18650622
it sounds like you guys should have broken up when this happened. has this been going on for the entire three years? you need to have a conversation about it and ask her if she thinks she can ever trust you (do you deserve to be trusted? has anything happened to cause her to question your trustworthiness between three years ago and now?), because you can't carry on in life with no privacy at all. it can't be good for her either since it seems like she still seems to actively thinks you might cheat on her.

>>18650622
You already broke her trust man, it makes complete sense that if she's gonna stay with you, she's gonna snoop. You're just gonna have to deal with that if you want to stay together

>>18650642
I'm in it for the long run and i've accepted it. guess this thread was more of a rant

>>18650636
fuck off you idiotic tripfag. this will cover up the surface issue while leaving the issue unsolved.

>>18650642
>>18650648
just ''dealing with things'' in relationships that make you unhappy will absolutely build up over time. it generates mutual resentment. OP needs to talk to his girlfriend and figure out if this can be resolved.

>>18650649
>>>18650642
Can you pull up a scenario for how we would resolve this issue? The only way I would imagine would be to just build up trust little by little over time. Nothing could ever be solved through just talking it out in my opinion. I'm OP btw.

>>18650639
I deserve to be trusted. Nothing has happened to cause her to question my trustworthiness between three years ago and now. She definitely thinks i might cheat on her. And we should have broken up, but I love her and want to work things out.

>>18650653
>Nothing could ever be solved through just talking it out
I don't know what kind of relationship you have if this is the case. Do you trust her? Are you open and honest with her on how you feel about things in general? Does she even realize that it might hurt you or bother you to have her go through your things?

If she doesn't care how what she does impacts you, then maybe you're letting yourself be a doormat out of guilt. It's more likely that you just haven't been communicating though. Three years has been plenty of time for trust to build up at least some. You make it sound like she goes through your shit constantly. At this point it might just be habit for her. You really need to talk about it.

>>18650653
>>18650679
And to tack on to that- I think the main thing is going to be that you need to express to her that this is something that makes you unhappy. A partner that cares about you doesn't want you to be unhappy and will attempt to resolve it. She could maybe have some conditions, and YOU can have conditions too. You can bring up how you haven't done anything to breach her trust- have you done this yet? I don't know, it doesn't really sound like you two have been trying to change anything in terms of mutual trust.

>>18650658
>I deserve to be trusted
Did she ever cheat on you? If the answet is no then you dont deserve to be trusted.
You could merely not have the opportunity to cheat or you are smart about hiding your cheating after you were caught.
Thats how life is my man. If your father used your credit card to make a purchase without asking you then you are not going to give him your card again and you are going to check your statement often just to make sure.

When you're cheated on, of course it's hard to trust that person. There are so many things you'll never know. It brings into question the entire relationship. I was cheated on. She never admitted it to me, and lied about it to the bitter end, changing her story to match the tidbits of evidence I fed her, things I procured from her personal accounts.

Now imagine that same person that brought your entire relationship up until that point into question claims they'll never do it again. In my case, we were together for 4 years. At what point do I start trusting them again? In 5 years? Time makes little difference. You've driven a wedge in your relationship. It's a scar that's going to remain there until the end of time, and not just within the confines of your relationship. In the confines of her entire life.

You say it's been resolved. It's never resolved. In the mind of the victim, they're now at a disadvantage. They know you cared little enough of their feelings to cheat in the first place, and now they know that you know how they procured that information in the first place, which would spur tighter restriction on the potential cheaters part of their information. Given that a lot of people won't outright admit it to their partner, that's a fairly large disadvantage. Nobody wants to find out that the past 10 years of their life have been a lie. It's a shitty feeling.

It takes a long time, man. Saying sorry comes nowhere close to making everything okay. If things aren't gradually improving, and you can't handle this, then I think it'd be wise for you to just break up with her, and move on. Having a fresh start will definitely be easier for you.

>>18650649
>surface issue
>issue unsolved
Well, you fucking retard, might as well buy a gun and put a bullet through your head, because your cheating ass is the issue.

>Yes, I have cheated

Stopped reading there
you deserve it
she will NEVER trust you again

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>>18650658
>I deserve to be trusted
Nah.

>>18650622
Why even, just end this unhealthy relationship, she will never trust you again and she has a reason to not trust you.

>>18650769
Then OP wouldn't be able to keep harvesting (you)s

>>18650712
Yes she cheated on me too

>>18650744
That wasn't even me (OP) speaking.. wtf are you so angry about? Did I cheat on you or something?

Alright I'm highjacking this thread instead of posting my own.

A few months ago I posted about how my bf was watching way too much porn and that it was interfering with our sex life in a number of ways... I knew he watched porn, but I found out the extent of it when my phone broke and I got locked out of facebook, so I had to use his computer and FB account to contact family. So long story short, since he made no attempt to hide any of it, I found hundreds of videos downloaded, his pornhub account and all the comments he left on videos there, after I accidentally drag and dropped the last link he copied.

I confronted him about this. We had an awesome mature conversation, I apologized for invading his privacy and he apologized for neglecting me, and finally faced what a drain porn is on his life in general.

Well, I think he's doing it again. Should I check his computer? I fell into a self-destructive trap when I was checking his computer, it really fucked with me, but not as much as him waking up early to go watch porn in the bathroom.

>Admit to cheating
>My girlfriend's lack of trust

it writes itself
she's wasting her time with you as you are with her. Break it off and move on you absolute fag

>i cheated on my lady
>her trust in me is drivng me nuts!

leave her so she won't have to feel like she's in an unfaithful relationship. you're lucky she didn't dump yo ass after the fact, why are you bitching about it lol

>>18650803
Sorry mate then that means your relationship is fucked. Unrecoverable. She either knows that sometimes cheating happens and she purely just doesnt trust you or she still has thoughts about cheating and she is projecting on you because in her mind you should have those thoughts too.

>>18650825
He didn't cheat on you, and maybe he has a porn addiction. You going through his shit isn't going to help anybody and it's only going to make things worse. Stop snooping you dumb bitch

>>18650849
Oh hey thanks dipshit.

But if he's addicted to porn, and it's effecting our relationship, that shit ain't going to stand. It's not like I enjoyed finding all that shit.

Plus, he's TERRIFIED of my cheating, because so many of his exes cheated on him in the past. So if situations were reversed and I was the one masturbating in the shower for an hour while he needed to take a shit, or waiting to watch BBC porn while he's at work, he probably wouldn't feel to secure in the relationship, either.

>>18650873
So what the fuck are you asking for? Advice? I just gave you it. Stop snooping bitch. It doesn't help anybody.

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>>18650804
Oh, I'm sorry, I didn't know you were there in OP's life to know what is an issue and what can be solved.

>>18650910
WTF are you delirious????? YOU'RE TALKING TO SOMEONE ELSE NOT OP HOLY SHIT

>>18650911
Learn how to read, you mumbling baboon.

>>18650916
crossfitjesus you can suck my enlarged clit

>>18650622
You have no privacy in a relationship.

If you want privacy it's because you are hiding something or keeping secrets and you shouldn't have secrets for your partner. End of. Anyone who thinks the opposite is deluded.

>>18650622
>you cheated
Thats the problem

>>18650649
i guess you could ask her if she'll ever truly trust you again, and ask what you could do to earn her trust. not "make her trust you", "earn her trust"

sounds emo or whatever, but it's a last ditch effort. other than that you're fucked, learn to secure your cyber shit

Your relationship sounds fucked, what with you cheating on each other and shit. You've got issues you need to work out and it's more than I can advise you on.

About the privacy shit though, find whatever google page it is that allows you to sign out of all devices remotely. If you don't actually use your google activity, stop recording it and delete it: https://myactivity.google.com/myactivity

>>18650622

> Yes, I have cheated

Some people say you can find the answer within the question.

They are correct.

>"lack of trust"
>"Yes. I have cheated on her in the past"

FUNNY THAT

You fucked up by cheating. But no matter, if the issue was "resolved" then she would not be going on as she is. If this is annoying you then the pair of you should have broken up a while back. She can't trust you and you are clearly bothered by her lack of trust. Do the both of you a favor and end the fucking relationship.

>>18650825
You had a mature conversation right? Cant you just discuss your worries?

>>18650622
Next relationship, don't stick your dick in any warm hole that invites you to.

>>18650622
Other anons already said it - the relationship should've ended 3 years ago. She'll never trust you, she'd be stupid if she did.