"best friend"

Do you still talk to this guy/girl in person? Through the phone at least?People go through shit and it changes them. I know I have. Because some people are just that complicated. They live lives you might not ever know about, and the worst part of it is thay god forbid they grew up with toxic people. Because if that person has ever experienced some form of traumatic experience then it would make sense. If hes actively trying to make things right with himself and others while bolstering an immunity of said toxicity, you would be surprised. I grew up with toxic people and have met incredibly nice people during my time. I know that when something bad happens here, I have to take it in. Is he or she poor? You have to consider these things in all honesty.

forgot to mention in the first part about the loser. I thought it maybe a good idea to explain him a bit more.

He goes to work nightly. He talks to his co-workers. He tells me all the time how they don't listen to him and see him as a child/teenager joking around and don't take him seriously. That's because he doesn't know how to.

He goes to a place down the road to play board games but doesn't get to know anyone because he thinks they are instantly judging him for no reason. I explain that he's a nerd, they notice that. They see how he is and is cool with it. I told him likely, they are sweaty ass nerds creepy nerds that don't care what he looks like and so on.

Then gets on POF and wants to talk their heads off and I explain to him that just saying hi is all you need to do. I do it. I just say "what's up?" or comment on their shit they have in their bio. He thinks women are complicated.

I want to help him but I don't know what to do anymore. I'm running out of ideas /adv/

How old is he?

>>18646253
Yeah, he explained that his childhood wasn't so great but it was manageable. He blames everyone else for his problems and not himself.

>>18646263
23

>>18646275
Hes regretting his life decisions as of today albeit a young adult male who still clings to the happy moments as a child. Id say... road trip! Go travelling and he might just see life and change. I read that leaving hometown and experiencing nature is better than staying stuck.

>>18646280
You will see how this connects:
I want to say in a way that this last week was interesting for me. I got the opportunity to live on my own away from my mom for a week. I was only at home with my step-brother and it was, to say the least, it was interesting for me to feel independent but I also had responsibilities and I felt more like an adult (I'm 25). This weekend, I was living on my own.

How does this tie-in?
Well, when I thought about what you asked, is the whole idea that he's not grown up and so. I got distracted and I forgot my point

>>18646308
This confirms on what I was guessing. You were able to make decisions for yourself and it benefitted you emotionally, in reality. Perhaps the same will work foe your buddy.

>>18646328
I want to say so too. He tells me all the time how he has to take care of his family and support most of the shit by himself. Like taking care of his grandfather's bed bugs and I told him that's not his responsibility and he wont do otherwise. And when I do, he gets all offended that I even bring it up.

>>18646334
I would lend a hand or maybe get someone else to do it but it pretty much sums up. Try to get him to lead his own life for once and help him on his way if you can. Happy trails!

>>18646375
yeah that's what I've been doing