Why does he still watch porn

All dudes look at porn.
You will not change this, if he tells you he doesn't look at porn he is lying.

I could be married to motherfucking lucy liu back in her prime with a harem of playboy bunnies at call, and at night i'd still go home and have a quick crank at some cheap porn.

Learn to live with it because unless you're dating some new wave perma-whipped nu-male, he's looking at porn.

Learn to accept that someone can love you, sexually and emotionally, but you'll never meet every need and desire they have. or live a life alone.

>>18644349
But he met every desire I had. I don't like this. Should I just live my life alone? I'm pretty dependant.

>>18644359
And on top of that what do you think it is that im not fulfilling that those sluts have but I don't?

>>18644359
>But he met every desire I had.

You mean apart from the giant crazy one where you expect him to never find anyone sexually attractive or emotionally fulfilling except for you?

I guess I'll bump this with pointing out the guys I see that claim to have oneitis for some girl. They claim that they can't even think about anyone else etc. I don't think all of them are numale/low test.
My bf isn't conventionally attractive so it's not like a lot of girls want him. I feel like he should feel lucky to have me? I mean he says he is but clearly he's exhaggerating.

>>18644374
Yes. Is true monogamy too much to ask for? We are in a serious relationship I wouldn't want to be wasting my time.

>>18644337
I stop watching porn when my girlfriend stays over, do you live together?

I'd never stop looking at sexual art though.

>>18644397
No we don't

>>18644379
>true monogamy
It's fucking porn. Let go.

>>18644377
Yeah i've been out of my mind crazy for a girl before, and at the end of the day it's time for a fap to clear my head. You're putting too much value and thought into porn. You're posting on a chinese porn message board.

>>18644379
> Is true monogamy too much to ask for?

As in your partner will never find anyone else sexually exciting? Are you for real? How old are you?

>>18644379
Hi femanon, from a fellow femanon if my bf acted the way you're doing with my fanfiction and my yaoi, I would dump his his ass on the street right away. Take that as you will.

>>18644379
Yes, yes it is. Do you not find other people attractive? Be happy he just looks at porn and stays faithful and isn't banging random people.

>>18644416
I literally don't. Like it's rare that I get a crush on anyone I just got lucky with him. Maybe but what's the difference if he's thinking about doing that with someone else anyway?

>>18644337
>Obviously I'm not the only one he wants.
DESU for guys it's more like flipping through a catalog of stuff. Looking doesn't mean wanting to buy it.

>>18644337
how old are you?

>>18644451
21

You know those dumb people who try to justify cheating by saying things like "males are designed to instinctively impregnate as many females as possible"?

Well, males are designed to instinctively impregnate as many females as possible. The instinct just isn't strong enough to ever justify cheating. Masturbating to porn on the other hand, is literally maintenance guys perform on themselves to keep from going crazy. Take a look at the actual porn he's watching. I'll bet you anything he's never jerked it to the same porn star twice in a row.

>>18644456
is he abstaining from sex or intimate things?
have you met in those two weeks that you mention?

>>18644337
You are insecure and accusing him of being a thoughtcriminal

>>18644465
Never

>>18644568
so where's the problem?
there would be a problem if he preferred porn over you, something that he doesn't do.

he still values you as much as he did, porn isn't going to change a thing. overthinking about stupid things like these is only going to bring trouble to your relationship.

>The more I think about him watching it, I have been trying to think of other guys and not him.

stop this immediately, you can't speak about true monogamy if you are thinking about fucking guys irl while he's just jacking off to females he won't even met irl, let alone fuck them.

fight your insecurities, else face the consequences.

>>18644337
how do you know you're not one of many girls he is tricking into sending him sexual videos/pictures? You don't live together and I bet you've never met in real life and I'd be surprised if you are more than 18.

the guy is a predator, break it off.

>>18644416
What a stupid argument

There is always gonna be something worse than someone can do. Doesn't make porn good because he could be doing worse things.

It's a minus habens way of thinking and why humanity can't progress.

This way of thinking that porn usage is natural and has to be accepted as normal. Just because it's more convenient for men to have women think it's some necessary thing in their life than change their ways.
Sure you can find other people attractive. Masturbating to them is getting sexual pleasure with someone else if you're in a relationship.

Men will always come up with bullshit justifications for porn.

>>18644603
t. 30 y.o. single roastie

Your favorite ice cream might be chocolate chip mint, but it doesn't mean that there aren't ever going to be any other appealing flavors.

You can easily still be his favorite and the one he always loves. Stop freaking out because he occasionally thinks of what it might be like to have cookie dough flavor.

>>18644459
He can masturbate and have his maintenance with his girlfriend's videos. He doesn't need videos of other girls to do that.

Jeez. Always the same bullshit excuses.

There is no rational reason justifying that for a guy or girl in a relationship.

If the guy still obeys to the instinct of having as many women as possible then he should stay single. Once you commit to another person, you can't have that instinct coexist with a girlfriend. Instinct that for attached guys translates into porn usage.

>>18644607
T. Idiot who posts a personal attack at random because they can't argue.

>>18644631
why are you so triggered bc men watch porn?

>>18644625
thankyou!

>>18644610
Stupid comparison. Your partner isn't an ice cream flavor.

I've never seen ice creams have feelings. Of course with ice creams you can try new ones. No emotional consequences to the ice creams involved.

>>18644625
>having as many women as possible
this isn't what he's doing

>>18644636
Because it's backward behavior and not necessary in any way.
I'm more triggered by the usual trite excuses as to why it's supposedly a wonderful thing.

Everyone has their own boundaries. Some people aren't okay with dating people who watch porn, just like some people aren't okay with dating people who aren't virgins. Even within the realm of porn, some people have different thresholds of what they are and aren't comfortable with. I don't care if my bf watches porn unless it's camgirl or something where there's more interaction, and the thought of him only watching videos of a specific pornstar also bothers me. I also watch porn, mostly for things my bf would never be able to do as well as fetishes I like the idea of but would never act out irl. For all you know he's got a thing for midget porn, and you can't exactly be a midget for him

>>18644650
I said that because one of the justifications for porn is that men have naturally the instinct of wanting many different women.

"having" was meant in that sense

You need to realize that porn is not about sex, and certainly not about love. It's an addictive habit, very similar to cigarettes. If you want him to stop, help him. But if it's making you jealous, you need to grow up.

This phenomenon has baffled scientists for centuries.

>>18644337
you do not have a male sexuality so you dont understand.

women think sex is a "little fun thing", men on ther other hand actively crave it all the time in all forms as possible.

>>18644643

Regardless, you can't shut off the fact that you find other people attractive. And you said you're 21. You're going to grow up and find other people attractive when your boyfriend puts on a couple of pounds or something like that.

You're lucky he's just rubbing one out to the occasional video instead of fucking a side chick.

Solution: help him masturbate? I mean he might just be a nympho and needs to get off extra steam. That or he has a fetish that he doesn't wanna do to someone he likes. Like rape, or choking. Seriously, don't try those unless you are SUPER careful, and he probably just wants something quick to tak off the edge.

Seriously tho look on the upsides, not the downsides. If he can masturbate AND have sex with you he has a lot of damn energy. And if he has more than you than masturbation is his way of not exhausting you

>>18644359
You want a surefire way to get him to stop looking at porn? Keep him drained. Men have a refractory period. Make sure his cum goes inside you and not in a fistful of kleenex.

Lowest effort way to do this is to get really good at giving head. Aggressive sloppy BJs several times a day. If you get your technique down it should only take you a couple of minutes to drain him, after which he won't be able to get it up for a while. Obviously his refractory period is going to depend on his age and testosterone levels, but if it's so damned important to you that you be the only sexual outlet in his life then you had best deliver.

tl;dr - suk cawk moar

>>18644925
But it's more about his wants. If he even has to consider porn (that's not me) I have a problem with that.
The point is it should take me no effort for him to be about only me.

>>18644942
It may surprise you to learn that men are not women and have entirely different sexual needs.

>>18644964
Then how come he even wants me to be loyal? I could be out fucking other guys and then it would be fair. Maybe I should.

>>18645023
You're just trolling now. Given how much of a bitch you're being he's better off with porn to be honest.

>>18645027
No I'm genuinely curious on why he wants me to be loyal to him so bad. Why not just have casual sex then

>>18645023
>watching porn while in a relationship is equivalent to going out and having sex with other guys behind your bf's back

wew lad

>>18644337
>Why does he still watch porn
Because naked good looking women and pussy? Stupid question is that.

>>18645033
Not that other poster but seriously woman. Stop listening to a bunch of people on the internet tell you how to deal with it. You're better off talking to your bf about all this. Bottom line is you get to decide what kind of relationship you want to be in. It's your choice- you decide the criteria and standards of your relationship, same as anything in life. If you want to drink seawater and fall asleep with the sounds of clowns laughing then that's also your prerogative, you dictate how you want to live. So if you feel that him looking at open is the same as him sleeping with other women then tell him that and you can both decide where to go from there. Honestly from this view it sounds like you're pretty solid in your belief and if you hold it so strongly I don't see this relationsjio lasting much longer. You should know though that the pool of men to choose from drastically decreases with that criteria so it might be a while of you indeed ever find a man who does not look at porn on occasion.

>>18645023
>>18645033
How old is he? How often do you have sex?

>>18645073
He's 33 and initiates it about twice a week

>>18645165
You should be getting him off at least one a day. Twice if you want to make sure he never looks at porn.

>>18644337
Guys watch porn. This is universal. It does not mean he doesnt love you. It means literally nothing.

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>>18644337

>Why does he have to watch porn when he has me?

If your favorite food is lasagna then why do you have to eat any other food?

If your favorite color is blue then why do you have to own clothes of any other color?

If your favorite movie is Godfather then why do you have to watch any other movies?

See how silly you sound? As a side note, studies have shown that men in relationships who have consistent sex on average actually masturbate more frequently than single men. In some men a healthy sex life turns their sex drive onto overdrive and they masturbate more. Stop making his masturbation about you. For christ sake he's just watching strangers fuck on a computer screen. Just because he plays a military video game doesn't mean he actually wants to join the Navy Seals and fight terrorists. Its called fantasy ya fuckin' digus.

>>18644643

Actually bodies and body types are literally like ice cream flavors for guys. That's why porn sites have categories like milf, ebony, Asian, teen, etc. It's literally just satisfying a lrimal urge that for guys happens to be on the same level as something like hunger. Girls don't have something like this, well maybe they do, I think it's the desire to feel special, which is why girls will chest at the drop of a hat if their SO isn't making them feel special and some other fuck is. Men and women are different and have their own sets of needs and problems, and you have to treat them as such and not subject them to the same expectations, otherwise you're just asking for pain, guy or girl.

Source: 25 yo guy.

Married femanon here.

OP, he's using it as a masturbatory tool. Sometimes you just need to get off and need a way to do it. Porn is there to provide a method to getting off quickly and easily when you just need to rub one out.

People are always going to find others attractive. Men and women both. That side of you doesn't just turn off when you're in a relationship. Some people are attracted to more people than others, but being attracted to someone does not equal cheating.

Porn doesn't, either. Now if the guy was collecting tons of stuff about a single porn star, stalking their private lives, keeping secret contact and/or lying to you about it, that's a problem and major red flags. And if he's using porn constantly and refusing to have sex with you, that's another major issue.

But this is an occasional thing that he does to get off. That's normal and natural.You both have every right to masturbate, and you both also have every right to not be in the mood one night. If one of you needs to get off and the other isn't available or doesn't want it right then for whatever reason, masturbating and using a masturbatory tool is fine.

If you don't want to use porn, that's fine. It's totally up to you. But you have every right to use it or find other people attractive, just as he does. Any attraction he has to other women does not negate his attraction to you. It also does not negate your support, your influence on his life, and every single other reason why he is choosing to be with you. He is with -you-. Not them.

A good point was brought up earlier in this thread. There are some fetishes of mine that I sure enjoy jerking off to, but would NEVER want my girlfriend involved in, or might even be too much work to get her into for the minor reward of cumming.

Like, I like bondage (the most vanilla of my fetishes, but we'll use it for an example). Do I want to spend an hour tying my girlfriend up and suspending her from the ceiling in my house, or just maybe jerk off to a video of it, and at some later point, handcuff my girlfriend to the bed to get a close enough experience?

It really has nothing to do with who I'm seeing, just the quick runthrough.

>>18644942
u are a fucking crazy bitch and he should totally dump u

its not even remotely his fault, youre dangerously insecure and need to come to terms with the fact that while he might be the only person in your life, he doesnt have to reciprocate that

get some fucking friends or something, quit thinking about him doing something as simple as masturbating or else its gonna kill you, or maybe him

>>18644942
After skimming through these posts, making it to this one really just drove the nail in the coffin.

You're fucking delusional, and I dont know who your boyfriend is but he deserves much better. Youre coming on a board to advice only to bitch and complain at people because theyre not agreeing with you. It's obvious that youre mind is made up, your boyfriend won't stop looking at pork and you're a selfish shrewd cunt for thinking that anyone should give you their undivided attention in every aspect of their life.

He should drop your ass, doesnt matter if he was the ugliest fucker ever. Any woman would have a more attractive personality than you, you insecure, close minded, shrill, harpy.

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>>18646607
>your boyfriend won't stop looking at pork

OP I want to personally thank you, I dated a girl who had the same issue as you, except I was the boyfriend who watched porn. You made me open my eyes and realize she was just a crazy bitch.