ED at 20 years old

>>18630852
Stop jerking off completely and take cold showers. Not jerking off should be self explanatory and cold showers boost testosterone production in males.

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>>18630852
Death grip syndrome combined with excessive porn consumption and anxiety.

>death grip
Fap once per week by GENTLY slow up and down movements while laying on bed with eyes closed. If it isnt enough for you to cum, you lose your right for orgasm until the next fap session.

>porn
The more you watch, you the bigger kinks you need to get off. Sooner or later average girl wont be enough stimulantion for your brain to even get boner.
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>anxiety
Practice makes perfect. Sex is like playing with your toys for adults. Only this time she is your toy. If it is fun for both of parties, nobody cares about performance. Experiment and dont be afraid to fail. Also you dont need boner to make her cum. What is foreplay, cuddling and tongue?

Bonus advice: never go to /b/ ever again. Your brain will thank you later.

>>18630864
Cold showers? I haven't heard about that one, nice. I shower at night, does it still work or should I shower in the morning?

>>18630881
Different poster but there's definitely something to what this anon is telling you. I do both and it's honestly changed my life.

>>18630881
Taking it in the morning is a great jump start to your day but there are also benefits to taking one before you go to sleep. It lowers your body temp which helps with getting you to sleep.

Just a heads up, the first week of cold showers suck. The water will feel miserable and you will be freezing. Some people build up to cold showers (at the end of a how shower they turn it to cold for 1 min and build up from there). If you have the willpower and can do it I advise just doing what I did and jumping straight into cold showers. Don't look back and leave hot showers in the past. It's better for you hair and skin along with the testosterone production I mentioned earlier. Can't say enough good things about it.

>>18630965
Seems like it's the most sensible option. I tried to stop jacking off but I've only been able to keep my hand outta my pants for about two months the longest.
I haven't really heard about cold showers until now, I will try it.

But how much time do you think will pass until I see changes?

>>18631001
Give it 3 weeks

>>18630965
By the way I think I might shower and clean up at night, and in the morning I could just take a 1 minute shower with water only.

>>18631003
Awesome, just the right time until I see my girlfriend. I can't thank you enough!

>>18631009
Whatever you do, don't stray from the path. Wish you the best, OP.

>>18630873
I'll take this advice as well, it seems pretty good. But I'm concerned about fapping once per week, would that help me more than not fapping at all? Since I would be exposed to a lighter stimuli?

>>18631106
Your penis is kinda like muscle. Dont use it and it will arthrophy. Also you dont want to be horny 24/7 aka frustrated. And night emmisions aka wet dreams are bothersome.

>>18631144
Alright, so I'll try the advice. I'll do it lightly, but is it a good idea to do it instead every two weeks?

Over all I'll see how I do one month with cold showers and without fapping. I'll see the results, then try fapping lightly once a week, I'll see what gives me the best results, then I'll keep with whatever I've got. Thanks to all!
I'm also staying away from /b/ ever since it started to get spammed with porn (It's annoying).

>>18630852

Well, don't masturbate, you're preparing for that already, also, more teasing and foreplay.

>>18631196
The teasing and foreplay is pretty important for me I guess. I'll try to focus on that more the next time I see her.

holy fuck I think I know you

>>18630852
how did you get a gf im 20 too but I don't know any girls

>>18631284
First step is to ask girls on dates. Gf wont spawn in your basement herself, you need to activelly talking to girls whenever possible and asking for their phone numbers and later on dates.

http://www.improveyoursocialskills.com/conversation

I had a problem with fapping and to get hard i had to completely stop fapping. Do it no exceptions

>>18631269
oh fuck

>>18631284
I met her because of an old friend. She was awesome, and for a while I wasn't really interested in getting to know her until we became best friends. She was really awesome, and for a year I didn't know that she liked me. I wasn't much into relationships so that's one reason that I didn't get a girlfriend, but also because I was pretty fucking weird. Not because of my interests (Science and technology), but because I was obsessed with it and I just kept talking about black holes and relativity. This girl was the first person who actually listened to my stuff and I considered her my best friend for a year. So basically it was me who put her in the friendzone, which I regret nowadays. Although during those times we had a lot of chances to get to know each other very intimately, which was the groundwork for an amazing relationship.
Don't strive to just get a girlfriend, think about enjoying her company not just as a partner, but as a friend.
My advice would be to just do the hobbies that you love, especially ones that are done outside. If you ever meet a good person you could have some interesting things to say, I know I did when I talked about Jupiter in the night sky. Just don't be like me and be obsessed with your interests without taking into consideration what other people want to talk about. If you do what you like, eventually you'll find someone you're compatible with. You won't know it right away, it may take years before you turn it into a relationship, but once it's done it's the best feeling in the world.

>>18630852
Anxiety will do that.

You could have had anxiety on your first time and now you have anxiety your dick wont perform.

Tell me, are you able to masturbate? If yes, its definitely stage fright.

If no a doctor could help. Get your testosterone levels checked.

>>18631549
I can come when I masturbate, although I don't do it often anymore out of respect for her. But sometimes the temptation is just too fucking difficult to overcome.
I don't think it's stage fright since I'm really comfortable with her, I think I've conditioned my brain to get off on stuff you see on porn movies so as a result I won't get an erection whenever I'm with an actual girl.

>>18631553

Still. If you can do it without her its not ed. And like i said it doesnt have to be fear or discomfort with her. Could just be the fear or expectation you wont get hard.
Just the strong desire to please her and worrying it wont happen.

>>18631567
I'm quite relieved to hear that I don't actually have ED, thank you. I agree with you on the part that there may be a fear or a strong desire to please her. I think that if I do have anxiety it's most likely due to our first time and how I wasn't able to finish.
If so, what steps should I take to fix that problem?

>>18631269
In which country did we meet?
Please don't dox me btw.

>>18631583
Im no doctor friend.

But with my small amount of psych knowledge, id say patience, practice, much calm support from your gf (sounds like you get that), maybe involve a bit of alcohol to chill out.

But mostly id say consult a doctor for a referral to a sex therapist. They be way more useful than me.

>>18630852
>Pic related, it's us. Please don't dox me if you find me.
It was completely unnecessary to post a picture of yourselves.

>>18630852
Don't smoke, don't drink, don't eat shitty processed foods, all for at least two weeks. Fap every three days, no more no less. You're also probably treating fap sessions like a test to see how hard/fast you can yank your dick, rather than actually building the sensitivity.

>>18631631
they're cute though :3

>>18631847
I agree

>>18630852
Op just try to focus on breathing, I know it sounds dumb but it gets your mind off the stagefright.

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>>18631547
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